Monthly Archives: June 2017

Let’s Clear One Thing UP……..

First, if you recently followed my blog or if you have always followed I want to say THANK YOU! If you are reading for the first time, this blog is a little catch up on who I am, where I am going and how grateful I am for where I have been.

Recently, I began a journey and decided to share it with you by blogging, here on my blog. My journey has been magnificent with ups, downs and all arounds, thus far. I wake up each morning excited about what the universe has to offer today. I smile, run to the mirror say, GOOD MORNING BEAUTIFUL WHAT A WONDERFUL DAY IT IS TO ENJOY THIS JOURNEY. I AM READY AND EXCITED ABOUT MY JOURNEY TODAY!!!!!!!!

Okay, to be honest, I don’t jump up and scream that every morning (but after reading it, I might try it because it feels really good) nor do I wake up in a perfect mood everyday. However, I do wake up every morning anticipating what is going to be Terrific in my day. I also will admit I have a few rituals of ‘Pump Me Up’ that I perform. Sometimes it is lay there until I catch the beautiful vision I want or I will talk to myself in the mirror for a brief moment. The most important part, you understand, is my journey is to live in a vibration of feeling happy the majority of the time. The most exciting part of this journey is I am sharing it with you!

Here is what we needed to clear up! I did have a life changing experience that reminded me of who I am. I have felt some (in my opinion very little) despair over this experience. The truth is me shattering my leg, laying in a ditch, and seven months later still trying to heal changed my life, by reminding me of my life purpose. You see I have had very few catastrophes in my life. I have suffered the loss of loved ones, but always felt the love I had for them will always keep them alive. I am sure my mother and father would tell you otherwise, but according to me my life was perfect from day one! I mean my mother didn’t name me for a couple of days and when she did come up with a name it was- Teena (unique spelling) and Gay for the middle!! What? Yes, I am telling you the only thing my accident did for me, which I am super grateful for, was to remind me of my life purpose. I was born to spread, be and teach others to be happy. To find their bliss.

That may sound crazy, but it’s true. I can’t tell you, of anytime in my life, that I havent found something good or positive out of a situation. Not one. Therefore, if I write about despair, depression, loss please note I am in no way shape or form comparing my measly little issues with some of your horrific situations. Lately, I have read some blogs that I feel so sorry for some people. That is why I felt like you needed to know I understand everyone has issues in their life. The best I can do is offer you new tools to assist you in enjoying your time here on earth; because they are my gifts I am sharing with you.

I am grateful for my life. I have lived a life most could only dream of. I had a strong circle of love from my family from parents to aunts/uncles, grandparents, step-parents, friends the list and circle becomes larger all the time. I married my best friend, have four beautiful children, and much more. Who am I? I don’t know, but I do know what I love and what creates a feeling of overwhelming happiness. I also know my ‘job’ ‘mission’ ‘life purpose’ ‘whatever’ you want to call it…it is to ‘be happy’ and teach you how to ‘be happy.’ Remember, what makes me happy doesn’t necessarily make you happy, but you will know when you FEEL IT!

God Bless You! God Loves You No Matter What!

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Guilty? Never!!!

Have you ever felt guilty for something feeling so right? After analyzing the emotion of guilt, I realized many may feel the way I do. When my husband comes home and I am in shorts, t-shirt, messy bun and never attempted to put my makeup on for the day, I have feelings of guilt (self imposed), but I feel a bit guilty. I always attempt to explain my accomplishments from the day, but the feeling tends to persist. Therefore, I took time to meditate and my answers were clear. Hope you enjoy today’s thoughts or message, it has been an amazing realization!!!

Have you ever wondered what our lives would be like if Thomas Edison, Abe Lincoln, Henry Ford, Galileo, Albert Einstein, had followed the rules? Or basically been of the norm? In other words they and many others followed their own path. Thank Goodness!!! Anyone who has accomplished great things, to improve life for future generations, has followed their own path. They have not worked 8 to 5, but rather based on inspiration. Time was a component, but only for their benefit. 

Just think if one of the greats decided, what am I doing? Maybe I should go get a J.O.B. like everyone else! Or why am I questioning this common way of thinking? I should take everything society has to tell me and accept it!! Wouldn’t that be a catastrophe?  What if they felt guilty for standing out or working on a path others did not understand? However, we know now they didn’t bow to the harsh demands and judgement of society and we are thankful today!!! 

Believe it or not when you are on the right path, for you, when you are creating it doesn’t feel like work. There will be times you will stop and question yourself. However, when those not so feel good emotions creep up think what if? What if I stopped this creative process and followed in everyone else’s footsteps? What if great people, who left a legacy for us all to reap what they sewed, had decided they shouldnt be so happy. What if they stopped in midstream and said, “I feel too wonderful to continue. I shouldn’t feel this great about my work! I feel GUILTY for following my own path!”

Doesn’t that sound ludicrous? However, it happens on a minute to minute basis. If you are creating and on a different path than everyone else around you, guilt creeps in and it becomes simple to stop and jump into the stream of ‘main.’ 

If you relate to this message…PLEASE DO NOT ALLOW GUILT TO DENY THE REST OF US YOUR WONDERFUL TALENTS AND LEGACY. 

Let it go! Continue to follow your path of least resistance. Find your bliss that never feels like work and focus on how you can implement your happiness into every situation. 

You have a great deal to create, share and pass on!!!! Just leave the emotion guilt out in the rain and welcome in freedom, kindness, love, and creativity. Who knows your legacy could change the world to a better place! 

God Bless! 

Color me Pink?

Color me pink, what color best describes you? Underneath my signature on Gmail I have an entire list of titles. Included in those, probably my favorite is ‘Pinkologist.’ What? Why would you entitle yourself such a bizarre ologist? 

This began a couple of years ago, when my wonderful step mom, began describing a man who was a happyologist! She continually repeated I have found your next career. At first I was skeptical, what did it entail? The questions piled up until I had to begin researching who, what, when and where can I study a happyologist? Amazingly enough, it is an awesome career. Companys hire happyologist for a multitude of reasons. These people have job titles which are combined with a broad spectrum of responsibilities. 

After a great deal of research, I can say I study happiness on a day by day basis. Therefore, one of my titles can be-a happyologist. The only difference between the two is my title includes colors. 

What is the difference? My new program incorporates color and happiness intertwined as one. For example: colors are a big part of the brain. Marketing companies have studied and refined which colors to utilize in the commercial campaigns, to ensure buyers are attracted to the product, based on its background or signature colors.

Therefore, as a Pinkologist I began to study the relationship between people and their favorite colors. For me it’s PINK! anytime I purchase something pink it makes me happy. I smile when I see bright colors, but my smile takes over my entire face when Pink is involved! I have written down almost every compliment received on my pink. Pink sparkly nails, dresses, sandals, rain boots and much more. When I am feeling my best and adorned in a pink outfit, I feel terrific. Inevitaby those ‘feel good’ emotions spill over into my daily routines. A pep in my step, smile on my face and life is pinkalicious to me.

However, don’t take my word for it! Try it yourself. This can be your first step on your journey to being blissfully happy! It is a simple task. 

First, continue your day as normal. As colors enter you daily routine, take a minute to feel the emotional attachment to each color. Some you may not feel anything, others you may cringe, but when you see YOUR COLOR! Then you know. The color will provide you with a sense of awe. A pleasing almost natural feeling will come over you. As you continue this process you will feel the fascinating change in your brain and emotional state. 

Colors will change me? Yes!!! If you have read my recent post, you will know my mission is to research, study, and gather information to pass on to you. About? Happiness!!! Living YOUR LIFE to the highest state of happiness, you have ever imagined. 

If and when you attend one of our shows (coming to you in the Fall of 2017 and 2018) colors will be a portion of the demonstrations. 

Begin today to find your color. You don’t have to become an ologist of your color (or you can). The only thing you need to do is find the color which brings a smile to your face. 

Does it have to be one color? No, one of my dear friends loves different colors for different reasons. For example she loves to decorate with one scheme of colors and yet wears another. It’s not about being right or wrong it’s about seeing the beautiful array of colors and find one or a combination of colors, so when your brain absorbs the color it creates a warm- fuzzy feeling inside and puts a big smile on your face. 

For me Pink creates those feel good emotions inside of me and in turn- projects it to my outside demeanor. 

Take time to try it!!! Do not allow outside campaign ads or awareness groups to take your color. When I first began this adventure many people said,”Oh do you work for Susan G Komen with Breast Cancer Awareness.” 

Don’t let those attachments ruin it for your color. Those ‘full of colors’ campaigns are for marketing purposes only, they serve a good purpose, but they do not own the colors. Therefore, when you are shopping, hiking, painting or working see the colors that privide a great emotional feeling inside of you. Next surround yourself with it. I want you to take time this week to find your feel good color or colors.

God Bless and remember YOU ARE AMAZING AND YOUR COLOR ADORNS YOU WELL!!!!!

Sad, sad, sad…

Just like the lyrics of John Denver,”Some days are diamonds and some days are stone, sometimes the hard times won’t leave me alone.” 

Have you ever had moments of sadness that sometimes are difficult to shake. Some people may suffer with depression. Yet others may become sad or have anxiety due to an illness or a loss of a loved one. I understand how you feel. However, once you have discovered how to live a habitual life of happiness, joy and YOUR BLISS, those feelings will not linger. I promise those, what I like to refer to as valleys or troughs, can and will become short lived, if you want them to. 

You see according Napoleon Hill, Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy, and countless others they all refer to changing your mind first!!! Then the outcome you desire will begin to change, creating what’s in your mind. I questioned many of these techniques for years. However, each time I receive a message to write about, I attract a short lived situation to FEEL those emotions. (Almost like a test run for you). 

Before I continue on, I want you to know, I had not experienced depression until my accident. However, I am a better person and much more understanding because of it. So am I admitting to being the person who would say, “You have food in your belly, a roof over your head and a life full of adventure and luxuries. Why or how could you be depressed?” 

Almost creating a scene for those who were suffering, to feel worse about themselves. Yes, unfortunately I was the person who said those misunderstood statements and thoughts. I admit it! Now, my eyes have been opened, my heart softened and my spirit is open and accepting. 

I admitted to those feelings or emotions to help you understand, I get it! The only difference for me is I truly choose and desire to live a happy, free spirited, blissful life. The greatest hurdle I have now is to continually reset, when I am not feeling those ‘feel good emotions.’

Yesterday, was one of those moments. I woke up in pain, felt exhausted and wanted to cry about everytjing. As the day progressed I searched for a feel good moment or wave to jump on. I complimented many people, attended a Just for Her Event, attempted to do my PT, nothing seemed to work. It was my day to feel down to remember…ummmmm nooo this is not what I choose. Then I did it! I jumped waves/frequency to a better or higher feeling. 

How? I said, “Shutup!!!!!!!!!”

Yes, I told my memory holding, silly acting, paradigm-stored in my subconscious and relaying messages to my concious mind; who continually made me question everything to–SHUT-UP!!!! SHUT-UP!!!! SHUT-UP. 

Yes, I began with a negative, but sometimes it’s needed to reset. Afterwards I laid down for just a short time, meditated, and began the evening in a much better ‘feeling’ state. I can not say it was as simple as turning on a faucet and turning it off, but I can tell you once you have lived in the now! Feeling the emotion of joy, happiness, and bliss you will change courses, reset, scream shutup to negative thoughts or emotions to ensure you experience the ‘feel good’ emotion more and more, leaving the sad moments behind. 

My advice to you is find a saying, picture, piece of art, or some other inanimated object to grab and feel the emotion as you look or hold it. I have a silly picture of my kids printed. I will look at that or search my inspirational quotes folder to redirect my focus and reset my emotional vibration. 

Other techniques I have used to reset or raise your vibration are take a short nap, meditate, listen to Abraham-Hicks, yoga, take Folic Acid and Vitamin D. I am sure there are a large variety of remedies and I am not suggesting you practice any of these, but you can ask your doctor if you choose. 

God Bless and never forget you are special and wonderful! 

Inspire me??

Inspire me, love me, caress me, give me adventure, give me a life, make me happy, I need you, I need…I, me, myself, oh there is a you? 

I know the beginning of this entry is a bit bizarre, but it wouldn’t be me writing if it was ‘normal’. 

As I search for inspiration on this beautiful Friday, I almost become overwhelmed with topics to write about. Then it happened, I realized my topic today is ME or should I say YOU! 

KEEP READING IT’S NOT REALLY JUST ABOUT ME!

As you have probably figured out by now my soul purpose in life is to research, create an atmosphere and educate you on how to be happy! Yes, that is my mission and vision. My belief is that my new knowledge combined with my past learning (critical thinking past students) I believe I can teach the entire world how to find their own happiness!!! 

Therefore, here is the first idea you must understand before anything you learn, from me, can help you. 

Ready? Anticipation building? You feel your very special spirit and all your cells jumping up and down, to hear what your first step is? Okayyyyy….

ONLY YOU, ONLY YOU, ONLY YOU, ONLY YOU CAN CREATE YOUR HAPPINESS. Now that I shouted that statement let me do my little educator trick… (I am whispering like the tiny voice in your head does all the time called you concious) you and only you can create your own happiness no matter what no, if, ands or butts! 

After reading that you are probably saying…”Wow!! Teena that was a big fat let down. I already knew that, but if I knew how, I would do it. That’s why I expect everyone else to make me happy. I am trying to be what they want me to be. I do for them to make them happy why can’t I have the same in return?” 

Please don’t give up on my lessons for you yet!!!! I do understand everything you are saying. To validate my last statement, let me attempt to give YOU some of YOUR THOUGHTS. (If you don’t need validation from me, skip the next paragraph).

“Butt (no I am not misspelling but I believe the word should almost always have the definition of ass) Teena he did this to me. He beat me, he cheated on me, he didn’t give me enough attention. Or she bitches all the time, she is boring, she gives too much to the kids. Or you don’t understand I am sick and no one understands how much I have suffered. My mom is mean. My family is abusive.”

I could literally go on for pages and pages with the statements I have heard why they aren’t happy, due to an outside incident. 

“So how could it be true? How if I have all this baggage or what I entitle- paradigm, could it be possible that only I can make me happy?”

That above question is for both you and I. I always asked the same question. Idk how I just know the answer is YES! It is true you and only you can make or create your own happiness.

Think about a time when you were entering a situation and something didn’t Feel right, butt you shoved your questioning or not good feeling aside. The person in the situation even convinced you to not listen to your own intuition.  Therefore, you, proceeded only to result in a moment of misery or worse depression. That situation or that person didn’t make you miserable nor did he or she make you happy! You had the feeling of, hmmm I am not sure I feel good about this. Yet you continued to persist almost begging for the outside people or event to MAKE or CREATE your happiness. 

It is you who creates your happiness or sadness. Why do you think religions teach “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” 

Or Scientist teach for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. 

Because how you feel is from you and if you feel happy, you will be happy. You will see happiness in others. It is extremely difficult to feel happy and bubbly around someone who is gloom and doom. 

Please do not misunderstand I have had my fair share of low points in my life. I have felt the outside forces pulling me down. However, after several months of sitting in silence mostly by myself or at least in my own brain, I promise you and I create our own happiness! 

I do not know how many more times I will write this message, because it keeps coming up. However, I promise it is the first and only first step you must take or concept you must accept before you can be successful at finding your own happiness. 

To me myself and I- I love you!! Try it…look in the mirror and say I LOVE YOU. Next begin to feel the happy feeling. Even if it is for a fleeting moment you will begin to desire that feeling and search for more ways to create your happiness.

Best Sister-n-law

I wish for each of you to have great family member, that just knows you or get’s you. This past Christmas I was suffering a great deal and remember very little about the festivities. However, that didn’t stop Aunt Jenny from planning a head and giving me yet another amazing Christmas gift! 

This picture is the beginning of my brand new studio! Strategically planned and placed are the pieces she gave me for my new business. The sign is Live, pillow says love and it is pink! I love it so much the entire company has formed it’s name around her idea!! 

Before long you will be able to sign up and either attend an amazing event, coming to a city near you or purchase materials and unique gifts/books from my company entitled…Live, Love, pink! Of course it won’t mostly be about the color pink, but once it is completed you will understand the concept 😎😙.

However, I don’t want to tell you anymore about the company because today is about my sister-n-law, who is amazingly in tune with me. Thank you Aunt Jenny for inspiring and understanding me!! You rock!!!

Strippers? 

I titled this writing for a very specific reason. I have been studying marketing strategies for my new business and my discoveries have been astonishing. As I have said before, good advertising and marketing experts are fearless. I unfortunately did not receive this particular talent. I am bubbly and great at one on one sells, if and only if someone seeks me out. Which poses a dilemma for my company. Therefore, I have spent a multitude of hours searching, observing and studying people’s reactions to post, how many likes, comments ect.

I have watched politics on a federal, state and even a county level become illuminated on social media. I have observed how the news grabs our attention and place mostly fear into our paradigms. (They also replay the same old horrific stories over and over again.) However, this last topic really freaked me out, how much attention it received. Strippers Celebrate by Counting Their trashbags full of Money! 

Why did this freak me out? Honestly, it wasn’t the post, my Ashby posted, it was the OVER 300 OR MORE responses. I was tagged in it and finally watched it. I thought well they are happy and that’s a good thing. Then as I began to respond to my daughter in a funny way, (because if you know her she is not an advocate for taking off her clothes in front of men, to please them. She could do it, because she is beautiful, but one bikini contest and she was like nope nope nope not for me). 

What happened next is where I became freaked out. She had 100s of comments. Each time I attempted to type a comment it would say more comments are loading. I read maybe three or four. Those, in particular, ranged from a positive shout out to say hell yea you go ladies to a lengthy response of how bad this profession is or these women are ect…

Now I am not disputing anyone’s comment and nor did I read who posted what. However, I am wondering about the marketing strategy here. Wonderful people places and events are presented or posted each day yet strippers ‘Being Happy’ caught a wide variety of peoples attention, and not very many supportive ones. 

I do have a quick story to share with you to take up for my friends, who chose their career path that was unconventional. I was 18 years old working at a little restaurant in Po Folks. A group of ladies came in at least ten of them. They were laughing and chit chatting amongst each other. None of the other waitress wanted to wait on them, so I said I would take them. What happened next was FABULOUS! They stayed an hour past my shift, ate and were  simply a blast to wait on. Their entire bill was probably 120 dollars (Po FolKS was not known for their expensive meals just good home cooked food and sweet tea.) When they left we all hugged and they assured me they would be back and only ask for me! Guess what? When I went home that day, I realized the hour in a half was well worth the extra time. Above and beyond the other tips, those ladies tipped me 150 dollars! Guess what? They were strippers!!! Did I know that at first? No! I just treated them like anyone else. Were they beneath me? No just a group of women who were comfortable with themselves and they laughed more than any other customers I had ever had. 

I told you that story to end with this message!!! I don’t care what you choose to be when you grow up. However, be careful what you choose to read or respond to. Before you click on a post or read an article think how it is going to directly affect your thoughts and attention. The goal is to be happy, but if you only feel the need to read about negative or horrific stories, then that is what you will have to talk about. Before you know it you will be living in that judgmental, concerned with others, hateful, critical life. Is that a fun frequency? Not for me.

As for marketing I guess I will just need to keep sending out positive vibes. As for those people who  continue to desire a better life they will seek me out. 

Your real message here is…BE HAPPY WITH YOU! if you don’t like where you are at this point change it. Don’t pass judgement on others, just find your laughter and the rest will take care of itself.

God loves you no matter what!! Yes, even strippers!!! God Bless You and have a great day!!!