How many times have you been sitting around with friends and family and hear the words did you hear about…? I have decided mine is daily. The stories are improving each day, but when I first began this journey it was almost too much. Why? Because it was either gossip, politics, or news! I thought, I am not sure I can do this, but I can and will. I am sure you are asking do what? I have been given an amazing glimpse of how life really is or can be for you to fulfill your wildest dreams/ journey. However, with this amazing new quest is a learning curve. Not in a bad way just an awareness way. For example: a new pair of underwear is always a bit confining in the beginning, The underwear might be uncomfortable the first few times you wear them, but after a few washings they eventually become your favorite pair. Same with this new way of living. It feels uncomfortable at first but the end result will be living the way you want and you will not want to ever go back or accept anything less than amazing!
How do you divert the negative of the world? How do you stop the negative statements that may follow, “Hey, did you hear….?”
You begin by listening. It’s not that you have to dispute everything that someone says or climb on your soap box and tell them everything they are doing wrong. (I know you are excited and you want to share it with the world, but hold on my friend). Stop and truly listen to their message to you. Then in your brain send positive thoughts and energy to them and the sad situation for a moment (if you pray then now is the time to implement those prayers for those people who are telling the story and who is the center of the story).
First you are listening to remind yourself that you are of the living/ physical world and second to acknowledge what you are allowing to enter your brain each day. If it is gossip about someone else that is harmful, think and you can even say, “I am not interested in hearing about other people. I only want to hear about you and how awesome you are.”
This stops it in its tracks! You never have to be mean or condescending. Your friends will begin to understand and adjust. I realize all the millionaire gurus say in order to be successful in money you must change your friend group. If you want be a millionaire look at the people around you because birds of a feather flock together. However, this is not the case in my message. I mean truly I want to be a millionaire, I want to travel, live the wildest adventure ever. But if I were to be honest without the people I love and care about my life wouldnt be better. Therefore, I choose to keep my friends and create the life I desire with them. No they may not have my same desires and they may or may not be the richest in monetary standards, but I love them and they love me. So when you watch your next webinar about ‘how to be a millionaire or be…. fill in the blank, omit that you must change all the people who are around you (yes, it’s in many motivational lessons).
All you need to do is add to!!!! Add to your circle of friends. Those who bring you the did you hear…? Question and have for many years, will adjust to your new life if they so choose. I promise it’s contagious and fun.
If someone begins to tell you about the news, practice the same technique. Listen once then take a split second and feel the fear, sadness, or whatever emotion then say, to yourself and or the messenger,”I am so sorry for them or I am sorry that happened.”
Send the positive vibes, energy or prayer whichever you choose and change the subject. Then move on, tell them something hilarious you saw or heard. It’s okay to be happy!!! This doesn’t need to be an entire ritual where you light candles, begin to hum and go into solitude for a week to adjust. It’s quick, easy and pain free. Take the time to listen, divert and bring on the laughter.
Remember if birds of a feather flock together it is only due to comfort zones and ego. Therefore, trust yourself. It’s kind of difficult to live a blissful life worrying about all the bad stuff around you. If something you hear really impacts you, seek out ways to help. Otherwise begin to eliminate the did you hear question from your life and live on.
Never forget you are loved! Sending you hugs, kisses, rainbows and lollipops. Enjoy!!!!!!!