Sound familiar? How many of us say have you ever noticed when it rains it pours? This is very true it appears that deaths come in threes, I don’t know if it is multiples of 3, but you get the idea. Sometimes it feels like one financial tragedy leads to another or another or even another.
Wait a minute! I guess insufficient funds means insufficient funds across the board. Therefore, it would be a dominoe effect. Meaning yes the more you focus on negative or ‘unhappy’ thoughts the more negative and ‘unhappy’ thoughts will appear. The GREAT NEWS IS…THIS UNIVERSAL LAW GOES BOTH WAYS!
What? You mean I can begin to think a happy thought and it will go away? Yes, it can be that easy. However, I must admit if you go back and read my past few blogs you will see the ups and downs. Let me explain. I am on this great journey that began with a tragedy…Although I always knew my mission and passion I wasn’t fortunate enough to bring it all together until now 45 years later. However, I am grateful I am where I am now and want to share this journey with you. Okay if you were lost you are up to speed now, you may read on.
Anyways, after my lovely message of freezing negative events in your brain, walk away, bla bla bla. Yes if you read it, you understand. Anyways it is all very true and utilizing that technique is important and easy after you learn how!!! So after I wrote about ways to divert negative energy from punching you when you are down ,is to think happy thoughts and come back to it, I didn’t imagine I would have to test it. However, I did! I guess I should say I was privileged enough to try this technique. However, at the time I didn’t see it coming and shew I learned my lesson fast enough to move on.
Okay so I am traveling down interstate 70, sunroof open, stero blasting 80s music on satellite radio, blue skys, I had blogged and was feeling on top of the world. Then I get a phone call from a disgruntled daughter who I am happy to hear from, but she proceeds to complain and says something that made me mad. I mean I was really mad in like ten seconds flat. Psycho mom stuff!
I said, “Okay honey (gritting my teeth while forcing a smile like she could see me) I think we should hang up now. Mommy is driving and doesn’t want to have something bad happen, so I am gonna disconnect this phone call now.”
At that moment I began to think now I understand why people think when they are down life keeps punching them down even further.
Don’t get me wrong my emotions were real and I had legitimate reasons for being mad, I also explained all of my expectations and how I felt and why I reacted that way and she was all about herself and why was she like that? SHEWY! That was a great deal of typing when all you need to know is recognize…I was more concerned about me, myself, and I than I was about my baby girl. I will admit it. Don’t mistaken me I always put the kids first, but after reading the above writing I was still struggling with letting go of control, which benefits or appeases me! Anyone, who knows me, knows I love and adore my children. This was the dumbest argument we had ever had in our entire lives. That’s how I knew it was a quick trip to a negative environment to look for the correct tool to use when a situation like this arises.
We hung up and my phone went from 20 percent to zero percent in like five minutes flat. My charger won’t charge and I am getting ready to be riding solo for a few hours. I froze my anger as if it was a still frame from an old film, in my brain. Then I began to brag out loud about my daughter to the air and traffic, I probably appeared to be a lunatic. By the time I could use my phone I had teared up thinking about how amazing of a baby she was and all that she has accomplished in life, in just a short time.
Many people will agree, it appears life kicks you down when your at your lowest. ( Or something like that). But it goes both ways. I had talked myself into letting go of this argument based on false expectations that no one knew about, except me. I truly just let it go and yes I felt a bit argumentative. However, after I listened to myself and I got over being mad ; I began recalling all of her adorable, funny, looks, sayings or even her long three hour self written and orchastrared songs. No the situation didn’t vanish immediatly but as soon as I recognized it for what it is, it vanished.
That was my opportunity to test the tools and techniques. The argument didn’t become damaging to either of us, when it was over it was over. I even took time to thank her and explain what was going on. We kissed hugged and made up.
So yes you will have moments that life will knock you down. Work, family, kids, outside events…your job is to find the quickest and simplest way to divert the energy 😋! Find a happy image or thought to quickly change scenes in your mind. At first this will be a struggle but keep at it, keep practicing because your end result is phenomenal!
God Bless and remember to Have Fun!!!!