Monthly Archives: July 2017

When you hear_____: Do you think______?

I remember studying psychology in my freshman year of college and being intrigued with the way the human mind thinks and functuons. I love its complexity yet simplicity almost appearing to be twins. Then I began to study fun topics like life, living, law of attraction and the brain, which I now know, has been one of my greatest competitors! 

What? My brain is a competitor? Yes, when I began to practice happy thoughts and emotional attachments, I realized my brain was being a big bully! I know this seems a bit bizarre. However, keep following me and you too may need to do what Zig Ziglar says, “A check up from the neck up!”

Each time I would begin to look up, dream big, or advance, my brain would compare past incidents. For example: I would visualize about being a great motivational speaker, well known by all, as a ray of sunshine. (Similar to mother Teresa but much louder and out spoken.) Yet my brain would reflect and scramble for a memory to relate it to. Don’t get me wrong if I had a good memory of a business, that I was extremely successful at, then she would insert that feel good emotion or memory. However, because of my lack of positive background knowledge or past experiences that brought me wealth, my brain reflects on a negative experience. Why? To protect and serve me ( and you). In other words, if we are continuously trying to stay in a feel good vibration, enjoying life at its greatest lengths, then our brain will challenge any idea that might create us harm. Becoming our greatest competitors when changing our lives. 

My messages have been loud and clear, lately. It is human nature to seek a happy, feel good vibration. Thrill seekers seek thrilling events, lovers seek out a partner to have fun with, drug users either seek out an escape, almost a thrill yet others use to fit in, because their brains do not function like everyone elses. No matter what; human nature is to live to be happy and have fun!!! Instead many of us are living against our feel good emotions; we are living against our life purpose. It’s time to evolve and find pure happiness. 

How do you know what your life purpose is? I am not positive on the how, but I know that we are to live to be happy. We all choose the way we live. We choose our careers, activities, friends, our salary, and anything else related to our lives. Yes, we will experience difficult times, but we still choose how we react and how we feel. 

If everytime you begin a conversation and the other person says something you connect with negatively. Try it again…and again until you find a feel good conversation. In other words your main objectives is to be happy and if your daily activities or conversations are not happy then change them. Yes all of them. 

If everytime  you hear something you reflect on a negative connatation or situation or you pass judgement on someone because of how they were twenty five years ago, change it! This process may take a bit of effort. However, I promise it’s worth it!!! Life is meant to live, enjoy, laugh, and have fun. Feel the feel good emotion, feel your way to happiness. Will you have small moments of sadness? Yes, but once you have decided to live in a constant state of happiness, fun and joy, you will not ever want to continue in that state of yuk! Or aadness, negativity. You will quickly win over your competitor the brain and provide him/her with a new ‘feel good’ emotion!! 

Livelove

God Loves You No Matter What!

Love you!!!! 

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…

Several years ago a small ‘pocket book’ was published illuminating this topic ‘Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff!’ The author gave scenarios and demonstrated how silly it is to worry and fret over the silly annoyances in life. I have each one of these books, to remind me to take life with a grain of salt. To seek the adventure life has to offer! Take the challenge allow your inner being to sing thru you.

Once you have decided and began this journey of being in the moment and making decisions based on your inner feelings; you will always want to feel this way.

However, in life we all have moments of sadness, irritation, aggravation anger that we must deal with from time to time. Recently I have found that freezing it in my mind, walking away and them come back to discuss or determine a solution is best for me. You see, in the past I would resist, argue, return ugly insults, ect. Now, I choose to not even utilize the negative vocabulary. Oh yes it creeps in at times. However, for the most part I choose a better reaction or to not react at all. It depends on the situation. 
For example: I had a conversation with a friend and she was in a bad moode. Everything was wrong in her life. Her kid was a brat, didn’t have enough money, felt trapped. Listening to her talk was almost unbearable. I just kept thinking, stay calm, listen there is a reason for this conversation. After a little while and multiple attempts to change the conversation I feared I would say something to offend her. (Remember I lost my filter at the first break in my leg lol). Anyways, she was finally called away. I love this person and she needed to vent! I allowed her to do that for a small portion of time. The only problem is I was carrying this yuk, negative, irritated weight of emotion for her. I cried for her, the pain was real. 

What do I do? Hmmmm I decided to plug in my phone and leave it home. I went to the pool and immediatly put my entire body under water. As I came up after a few seconds, I realized I had taken my own advice. I froze the situation and went to my fun happy place, water!!! (Yes, water of any kind takes me to a calm loving state). As I began my physical therapy I would search my paradigm for a good feeling thought. A vision of the future or a memory from the past. It was similar to the characters of Inside Out, running around plugging in emotions. Finally, I found a few to distract my negative emotion. 

Later, that night I called my friend and said, “I love you and I want everything to be okay for you. If I can help in any way let me know.” 

At that moment I realized I should take my own advice!!! She was laughing and continued to tell me about her little boy and how cute he was being. Her husband had cooked supper and bought flowers. She basically was a changed woman from four hours earlier. I hung up the phone, looked at my husband and said, “Yes, I have more writting material.” 

Therefore, when I refer to Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, I mean don’t sweat other people’s small stuff either. My mom would tell me in the past…you call me and compla in or discuss your relationships  then you are off in an hour back to honeymoon phase. Isn’t that true? We all have that loved one who listens no matter what. Who loves us unconditionally who listens and cares so deeply that they will take on those emotions for us. My mommy does that for me. I try now to call or go see her after the fact and explain it’s all good. I don’t always remember, but most of the time I make the effort. 

Take time to enjoy. Remember the small stuff is not worth it. I would not have changed listening to my friend, she was having a legitimate melt down for a moment. However, next time I will send her the energy I did this time, I will see her feeling better, but I will not allow myself to sweat it or hang on to it!! 

I promise parents!!!! Most of the crazy, mixed up, emotions that follow parenting just means you need to keep following and reading my blogg. Because you can feel blissful even in the midst of chaos. Once you have incorporated a few simple techniques, you will be able to look back and say shew, we made it!!! And had fun while we were doing it!!!

No matter what ‘Be Happy’!!!!!!! If it makes you happy do more of it. Find time to laugh, enjoy. Yes, sometimes you will be presented with a not so good feeling situation. But do not sweat it!!! 

God Bless

Livelove!!!!!!

Fear? Worry? Anger and Resentment? 

I love you! Those three words can carry an emotional attachment that creates fear and worry depending on how you feel. Yes, I am continuing to discuss ways to feel your way to happiness.

What about finding the love of my life? I want to have love! I want to love and be loved! How can I have that? This may appear to be too simple. However, the few steps I am about to explain are simple and follow the same guidelines as the Universal Law Like Begets Like. 

Step one: stop wallowing with the pigs!!! Meaning we all know he or she hurt you and they are crazy and you are damaged and and and and!!! How many times have you told the story? Each time you tell the story it continues to create and recreate the negative emotion and feeling. All people have a toxic person float in and hopefully out of their lives. The difference is when you are living in the now and making decisions based on the emotional attachment of the outcome; you will choose the easiest, funnest, most peaceful route naturally. But, your so focused on what has been you continue to stay at that low frequency. Which is why I say stop wallowing with the pigs.

Step two: Take time to fall in love with you! I know most have heard you can only love someone as much as you love yourself. My daughter,Nancy, said, “It depends on how broken you are when entering the relationship. You must mend first before you can be in a healthy relationship!” 

Find what you love about you and focus on those items! The things you don’t like about yourself will begin to improve because you continue to focus on your strengths.

Step Three: Create the relationship you want in your mind. How does your partner treat you? See it, feel it visualize and believe it. I promise they will come into your life. If you will feel it. Also accept that you are worthy of love. You are loveable!!!! You deserve a kind, caring, loving partner because that is the KIND of partner you are.

Step Four: if you do not feel love for yourself re-evaluate take time to learn what you love about yourself and focus on that. Tell your concious mind to hush if it begins to throw negative what If’s at you. (Remember that is the job of the concious mind, it is to protect you by retrieving information from your paradigm. Therefore, understand you must continually tell it nooo this time is different because I am different. I am not that past lack of confidence sad disturbed hated life person anymore!! But I thank you for always trying to protect me) then proceed forward with your love for you and in a brief amount of time your partner will appear. They will compliment you and it will be exactly how you visualized it! 

Create your own reality!! Speak about the exciting events unfolding in your life. Choose to live and feel your way to happiness! 

God Bless You!! 

Livelove 

Why Grow Up?

Someone made the comment to me, “Teena will you ever grow up?” 

I remember thinking, hmmmm no I do not plan on it. Truly, I have already been there and done that. I can remember teaching with my friends and me telling them, I love kids because they haven’t accepted all the judgements, concerns, and hypocrisy of adulthood, yet.

When I say I have already done that, I have. You see as parents we are forced to ‘grow up’ or as I entitle it, conforming to society’s demands. However, I always searched for a way to spice life up a bit, by creating a fun yet safe environment to just be free.

While discussing parenting with some friends we all agreed, we should call and thank our parents for keeping us alive becausee we were fearless at one time. No barriers or connection to fear.

I am not saying you should become frivolous and not care about anything. However, if you take time to create a list of your daily activities and it consist of work, eating, cooking, cleaning and sleeping, IT IS TIME!!! Time for you to grow down a bit. Begin searching for something fun to do once a week. After you begin this journey you will search for more and more. It will become your quest. 

If you are a parent with children at home, my advice to you, is create a family fun time and an individual one as well. When my kids were little I would take a ‘Me’ day. (Probably Eric thinks I live in a me day, now lol). When we didn’t have money to go out, I created family fun days, For example: we had Wacky Wednesdays. 

Wacky Wednesdays or Terrific Tuesdays, Freaky Fridays, it doesn’t matter about the day or title. I knew we had to eat anyways. Therefore, I would make it fun!! Sometimes it was our attire: we all had to wear a hat, a tie, our clothes inside out, or maybe even pajamas. I would light candles, play music, allow the kids to help cook and set the ambiance. There were very few limitations (safety first). Sometimes it was a disaster, but I continually remember even the disasters were beautiful. 

We did everything from desert first, colored our food, and/or special music by the Drake kids. One of my favorite memories is – the evening we had saved to purchase some nice steaks, ice cream and toppings for the ice cream. We began with allowing the kids to create a ‘snow ball’ out of ice cream and roll them in the toppings, of their choice. They ate them first because life is too short to not eat dessert first!!! 

The next portion of the evening was our delicious steaks! However, (remember I only chose to grow up for those parenting moments necessary to assist my kids to stay alive and be accepted) I thought it would be fun to food color all of our food. Therefore, I colored the mashed potatoes blue and for some reason I colored the meat with GREEN. As the evening was wrapping up we were all sitting at the table, in the dark, with at least five candles. It was beautiful. Music playing in the background all the kids were excited and then…Darion needed some ketchup. I flipped on the light, Eric had eaten half of his steak and when I shined some light on his plate, he looked at his steak and immediatly yelled!!!! “Kids don’t eat the steak!!!! It is bad meat!! Teena throw this meat away.”

I turned and looked at my wonderful husband with a puzzled look. “What are you talking about?” 

At that point I realized what was happening and I began to laugh hysterically. The kids were sitting paralyzed, appearing to be in a trance, as well as holding their breath. They all three fixed their eyes on daddy to see if he was mad. Therefore, a ten second period of silence felt like an eternity. Next we all begin to let out a little giggle and one by one each of us began laughing until our cheeks hurt.

Regardless of anything negative happening the end result was all we needed. To laugh, giggle, and let go. 

It’s time for you to choose to enjoy!!! If you have five wonderful events fall into place which creates happiness for you, yet one not so happy slips into your realm, similar to our meat incident; focus on the other five! If you can laugh at your one negative situation and quickly switch it around, then do that. No matter what take time be grateful for the good moments and guess what? More and more good moments will occur.

There is a time and a place for everything!! I agree growing up isn’t so bad! As long as you promise to return to the bliss, honesty, and freedom of being a child occasionally, you will have a great life and happiness will fill your soul.

Livelove 

God loves you no matter what!!!! 

Remember to be happy even if it requires returning to a time when your life was much more simplictic. 

More Determined than EVER!!!!

Today we say goodbye to our sweet God son Matt Reed. Although my heart is hurting for our loss, it hurts even more that I couldn’t help. Suicide is a difficult act to understand, what were they thinking, how could I have helped, was I not paying attention? The questions race through everyone’s minds when this kind of tragedy occurs.

For me, losing Matt in this fashion creates even more determination. I am determined to provide anyone who wants to live a life full of happiness, laughter, love and understanding, I will share all I know and learn.  

My promise to you is to provide you with the proper tools to create a journey filled with whatever you choose. Yes, all of us have tragedy, sadness, negative energy, or incidents beyond our control. However, YOU decide how you live life. Begin today!!!

Each time you feel terrific today write it down. Not necessarily in sentence form. Title it feel good or happy moments, then write them down as they occur. For example: 

MY HAPPY PLACES: 

  • Camping
  • Listening to oldies music on river with loved ones
  • Salon
  • Driving
  • Making love
  • My front porch
  • Writing

As you can see the list is to help you be aware of the ‘happy’ people, places, or events. These do not stop all negativity, but they definitely detour those events. 

If I were to line all the people I know or who I am associated with, who committed suicide, I know without a doubt each one would say, “I wish I could take it back. I didn’t mean to hurt the ones I love!!! I simply did not see any alternative.” 

You see anyone who chooses to take their own life was not thinking how will or do my loved ones feel. Many entitle it selfish, but I can’t. Instead, I choose to use misinformed. Not enough information on who, what, when, where, why, and how to seek, find and enjoy their own happiness!!! 

Life is meant to live!!! Why not choose to enjoy the journey? Will every moment be perfect? No! However, keep allowing, visualizing, accomplishing, setting goals and focus on feeling TERRIFIC!!! As long as you create a habitual way of living in the vibration of ‘being happy’ you will always stop, think, feel the bad feeling then quickly switch your emotions to a better vibration. It can be as quick as a snap of your fingers. Each time I feel down and out I quickly find a pen and paper. Writing is my quick way to change emotions. You will find yours! 

Take time out of your busy schedule today to pause…pause for suicide victims, pause for the loved ones who have lost someone to suicide. Next find a happy thought for you and share it with the world! Post it, photograph it whatever it takes find the feel good vibration. You can actually help all who have been affected by this empty feeling by teaching others there is an easier way and it is much more fun. Teach yourself and loved ones how to find their own happiness, share what you have learned.

Sadly, I can’t bring back the ones we have already lost! However, I am determined to teach others how to carry on. You can help!!! Glorify your loved ones who have taken their own lives by helping others to make a happier choice!!! 

; until we meet again Matthew Reed I will continue to pray, smile and share the knowledge of enjoying life. God Bless You!!!

Carry On and Have Fun!!! 

Livelove 💖💖💖💖💖

You, he she– they all irritate me!!!

Do you find yourself disliking everyone? Is there something wrong with everyone? Do you continually look around and see how bad you are treated by others. Gosh, I know how you feel! It seems like everytime I turn around some one is doing something to me. The only difference in my life now is the people I am constantly attracted to love me for me. I see the beauty in me therefore, I see the beauty in others as well.

Don’t worry if you are agreeing with the first portion of the above paragraph, it’s okay I have felt the same way! There are days I still struggle with what I call, awkward moments. Where someone might rub me the wrong way or I find fault in others. However, to return to those conversations or feelings on a daily basis would be devastating. I can remember feeling competitive, compared, hurt, not good enough, irritable with others and continually finding fault. Again, Yuk even typing those words create a sick feeling in my stomach. 

Then how do I change it? It’s not difficult, but it does take effort on your part. The first few weeks of practicing this new way of thinking you may feel a colorful array of emotions. For example: when you recognize why someone is not being nice to you it may create an angry or sad emotion at first. However, keep working at it and you will be surprised at how amazing each individual, who is already in your life or comes into your life, truly is. I am in awe of my loved ones! I always use the words ‘loved ones’ because I love each individual in my life! I can not discriminate between family and friends I feel fortunate to have them all!!!

Have you ever heard of Universal Laws? Of course if you have read my past writings you have heard me speak of them. The most common laws we learn about in elementary school are Newton’s Laws. Universal Laws follow the same guidlines. The one I am speaking of today is Like Begets Like. You can easily put this into other wording yet it’s definition is the same. This one says whatever you like about other people is what you like about yourself. This law (like all laws) is nonbiased or not prejudice. In other words it doesn’t care if you like or hate-the law goes both ways. Therefore, everything you don’t like about another person you don’t like about yourself. My mother always told me if you are pointing one finger at your neighbor three are pointing back. If you are not sure about this law due to religious beliefs,; the World English Bible translates the passage as: You hypocrite! First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye.Mathew 7-5

Universal Laws are laws. They are universal. They do not discriminate against religion, ethnicity, shape, size, political party or anything else that separates us from each other. They are the same for everyone. 

How does this work? Let’s begin with a simple example. The song, I Like Big Butts and I cannot lie, is the first scenario that comes to mind. In the beginning of the song several women are talking about another girls butt! If I remember correctly they are bashing her for having such a nice, big butt. Then the song proceeds to defend and praise a big butt! Glorifying the one part the women were complaining about. I know this is a funny comparison or way to explain the law Like Begets Like, but it is fun to do and keeps it light hearted. If you were in the circle of ferocious haters of big butts, you need to step back and ask yourself why? Why does a big oh juicy booty bother you enough to complain about it? Or talk about it? In reality those women in the song didn’t like their behinds (big or small) or they lacked in that area and were just hating on the beautiful big butt. 

Okay, maybe I took that description of butts a little too far! But I guarantee I created a thought for you to begin recognizing the effects of Like Begets Like in your life. You probably know of someone that irritates you, now you can begin to identify why and how to change it.

I know I haven’t told you how to correct these awkward moments in your life. The reason is just like quitting smoking you have to want to quit. Same with changing your habitual view of yourself and the world around you only YOU CAN CHANGE IT! How? How? How?

Steps: 

  1. Learn the Universal Law
  2. Accept it! It’s true I promise as you see others is how you see yourself.
  3. If you catch yourself joining a conversation about someone else and it is not creating a great emotion, walk away or say, “I know but she has worked her love handles off to get that butt!” Anything to change the direction of the comments and converaation.
  4. If you are faced with a negative situation where you feel like the victim- take time to be alone, only to analyze why you felt sad and how you could have handled that differently.
  5. Change what you say to yourself and or about yourself. For example: I always gain weight when _________ . (Fill in the blank). Instead begin saying I love my body and I am happy to be healthy and wealthy. (I use the term Wealthy because some how America decided weight is a sign of poverty. Although carrying weight was a sign of wealth in the past!) I don’t care what you say to yourself just remember the law continues to be active no matter who you are talking about.
  6. Be cautious before you react. For many years I reacted to everything! Now I stop, think and may respond or may not. In other words it’s not about your opinion, rather your vibration. My two cents isn’t always necessary and neither is yours. Therefore, stay cautious before you react. (My grandma always said, “If you can’t say anything nice do not say it at all)
  7. Last trust yourself. Remember all good energy is flowing towards you. The more ‘likes’ you put out and the less “criticism’ the more great vibrations will migrate towards you. When you catch yourself being even silently judgemental, stop yourself, look within, and observe an area of your life you would like to improve. Then find something good to think or say about that person, redirecting the thought process.
  8. Like begets like: if you see good you will feel good more and more. (What you see in others is how you feel about yourself good or bad)

    Have fun!!! 

    Livelove 

    Always remember God loves you no matter what!!!!

    Could It Be? That Easy?

    As I reflect back on our 4th of July Holiday I question the real meaning of life. Could it be the celebration of Independence Day is to be surrounded by people you love and that love you?

    It seems so simple, to be with loved ones creates the happiest feeling of all! Whether it is one, twenty, or twenty thousand it doesn’t matter. The laughter, food, hugs, games, and feel good vibrations. Even if you have a bump in the frequency to bring you down for a minute it’s right back up. 

    I am unsure if I should say,  ‘Meaning of Life’ or should I! Because as I reflect on the past July 4th Holidays I can remember it didn’t matter who I was with each year we laughed, played games, soaked up the sun and they have all been terrific!!! 

    For many years we spent an entire week celebrating the Regatta. Running from event to event, pageants, food, boat races ect. Last year we were in Mexico and I didn’t think it could ever get better than that! However, this year was just as fun!!! Playing on the river, swimming until we were burnt up, roasting marshmallows, learning to play corn hole, grilling out you name it if it was FUN we did it!! 

    I guess the best way for me to sum it up is Independence Day is a day of celebration of life. If you are fortunate to be with all of your family or you live away and surround yourself with friends. It’s about celebration, having fun, and laughter until you pee your pants!!! 😂😂😂 that my friends is the meaning of life!!! 

    Have Fun!

    LiveLovePink!! Never forget God Loves You No Matter What!!!!

    How do you know? 

    One of the funniest questions I have asked people has been what makes you happy? Why? I have had the funniest answers from– you Teena,  make me happy.  Yet, others looked at me with a puzzled look and said I have no idea. Like they were waiting and anticipating to be told WRONG ANSWER YOU ARE WRONG! In reality, there is no wrong answer. Being asked that question isn’t truly a fair question. It’s actually a trick question. A question that begins at the concious mind and filters through to the subconscious, only to throw your mind into a blank stare.

    In other words sometimes we can’t list what makes us happy, but when we are in the moment we can tell you one hundred or more things that make or create happiness for us. It’s a feeling AWE it’s a great feeling. 

    Here we go, one of the first steps to feeling your way to happiness-

    1. Get a piece of paper 
    2. Draw a shape in the middle that you can write your name in, like a circle or square, it doesn’t matter what kind of shape.
    3. Write your name in the middle
    4. Next draw lines coming out from your name. 
    5. Write activities, music, thoughts, colors. 
    6. It can be as messy as you would like or as neat. This is ONLY YOURS you may share it or you may keep it to yourself.
    7. Now lay it down, pick it back up and read your name in the middle and create a sentence with one of your likes. Example: Teena LOVES Pink! Sometimes I will say I, Teena, love pink. 
    8. After you have said a wonderful positive statement that you love or makes you happy…close your eyes inhale, then exhale, see or visualize what you said and smile.
    9. Now you can understand what it means by feeling your way to happiness! 
    10. Repeat 7, 8, 9 throughout this Web you have created. Individually do each thing you wrote. Take time to feel the emotional attachment to each item you listed.

      You can do this daily, weekly, or when you need it. We will return to this activity several times. I may even repost it intermittently during our blogs. 

      This is a quick and easy way to begin setting and re-setting your vibration. It is also a simple way to begin gravitating towards adding the happy activities you love to do, towards you. Maybe you love to canoe and you complete the activity. Before long someone will mention, hey let’s go canoeing. 

      Take time to find what creates a happy feel good emotion for you and do more of that! I promise even through difficult times life is meant to be happy the majority of the time.