As my creative juices begin to flow I sit on my front, covered patio and listen to the birds chirp, speaking in ‘bird’ fluttering from one tree branch to the other. Some are pleasant to hear and yet others always rudely interrupt with a shrilling screech. Yet others consistently echo themselves similar to a warning or a nagging Aunt Zelda. (No, I do not have a nagging aunt zelda! Lol).
What does that description have to do with the title? I thought you might want to enjoy my preparation for writing…NOOOO NOT REALLY!
Anywhoo…Just like the birds playing, working, arguing and snuggling families are extremely similar. Just think about it, can you identify the family member who is always organized? Super focused? Spirit driven? Aloof? Silly? Always known to ensure you have a good time when in their presence? (Hahaha I always want that to be me and hopefully it is most of the time). Families are the true melting pot. Everyone has their roles, quirks, habits and their opinion.
I question with all the diversity in families like different opinions, lifestyles, social economic statuses what creates a good family bond? What stops the negativity from the outside world from tearing apart families.
Of course I had to begin researching this queation. What creates a happy family bond? Who stays together, no matter how cruddy it gets, why do some families survive and others not so much?
As I asked people about their families and once I gathered responses, I then decide to proceed or not with my next question. For example, if they respond with how many people they dislike in their family I move on. If they tell me about one or two members, in a positive way, I will proceed with, why do you love being with your family? What do you do when you are together?
Everytime, not once or most of the time, everytime the response is we play ______________. Fill in the blank. It could be cards, board games, sports or anything else including the descriptive verbs like play, laugh and/or have fun.
After I read several of the responses I had received, from all different backgrounds, I recognized a common thread in life.
We stay with those who like to play the same as us. Yes, it is similar to birds of a feather flock together. However, that statement almost sounds like we have no choices and that’s not true. I love all kinds of activities which is why I have a gigantic family and friend (sorry I believe they are one of the same so sometimes I forget to separate them) group. I choose to surround myself with all types of people.
Therefore, I love and am keeping the statement…we stay with those who like to play the same as us.
As I rewind then pause the movie in my head, I observe how true this statement is throughout life.
My Aunt T could be one of the best examples to demonstrate how playing equals staying! She has always been happy, full of life and illuminates the room when she begins to laugh. However, I have never been to a family function that we didn’t end up playing cards. She has always been a member of a bridge club and rook. She always incorporates playing in her life and her life shows it. Does that mean everything has always been perfect? No! However, through her Christian faith and her continuing the motto a family that plays together stays together, she is truly one of the happiest people I know. To edify this just a little more, we went to a family reunion and later on that night was hanging out with her oldest grandson, who is in his 20’s. About 8 o’clock he said, “Hey, I love hanging out with you guys, but I have to go we are playing cards tonight.”
Gosh I love this woman! (Sorry, Trina I still love my candid pictures, this is perfect to me)
I remember thinking WOW! He was in a hurry to go play cards with his grandma, dad, grandpa and whoever else shows up. That is AMAZING!
Take time to play today. Turn off the television, put down your phone- I promise Facebook will still be there! And play, play, play with those whom you want to stay!
(We were killing zombies @DaveandBusters see the word to the right of my head? What is it?)
I could have continued writing for hours, but once again Ms. Debbie is waiting on me lol! However, I am ready to go record because we have so much fun. Also, hopefully this will post soon enough for you to plan something fun for tonight. Or now…go on quit reading this and have fun!!! God Bless!!!!
Oh if you didn’t know my family loves to swim, thank you Meemaw for always ensuring we have ways to have fun in the sun!