Monthly Archives: October 2017

As I sit and weep…

As I sit and weep like a mother holding her sweet infant for the first time, I realize it is not because I am sad! In fact my tears that have melted the makeup off of my face, are out of pure happiness, joy, bliss and amazement!

Today, was my first photo shoot since BK! (Before Kids). It wasn’t fancy or for a glamorous modeling gig. However, I knew it had to be done.

I had tried to take some selfies, that was a disaster! So I did it.

You may still be wondering why I am crying. It surely was not because I had to have a photo shoot for my business/webpage.

Noo not at all! I am just grateful to be alive. I love this life and today as we scanned through the pictures, I laughed outloud! The photographer said, “You look beautiful! When you talk about your company, you glow! Then you smile and it becomes contagious.”

My thoughts were,”OMG I have so many things I could point out about this picture and they are not oh wow how amazing you look!”

Next, I came home began working on some loose ends, to ensure we are on target to begin advertising. Then I plopped down to take a glimpse of my photos. (You probably already know, but everything is electronic now. I wonder when pictures are going to become so digital/HD, they show when someone is letting off a big ole flatulent!)

What happened next was astonishing, to say the least. I opened up the first special she did, with Livelove underneath of me and I began to cry. First one tear, then another until it was a stream pouring down my face.

Why? You ask. To be honest…because I am ALIVE! I am alive I can feel pain, emotions, tears pouring down my face. Yes, I continue to struggle with criticizing myself, but I think that is an on going practice to improve our self image. It takes skill and stubbornness to argue with yourself. It also takes baby steps to achieve a complete understanding of just how special our lives are! I am in awe of life and living. I feel grateful for all the beautiful people that have been flowing into my life. Teaching, supporting, comforting and loving me. Who are you or what are you grateful for, right now? Feel how incredible it feels to remember those people, places or events that you feel grateful for! Doesn’t the very thought of it bring you relief and a sense of aweeeee?

Live for today, tomorrow may never come. As my grandma always said, “That is a dumb statement because tomorrow never comes, it’s always today.”

Once again if you are in a valley, right now. Hold on, breathe easy, look up the best is yet to come. This moment will pass, choose for the next moment to get a little better, easier to handle, easier to believe in living again.

Livelove

&

Carryon

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Peek a Boo…I see you

Have you ever had a clear vision of what you want? Maybe you want to be a millionaire, or debt free, or maybe neither, but something even bigger, than monetary value! However, everytime you stay super focused on your vision, peek a Boo I see you, out pops your paradigm?

This happens to everyone. The best thing is, you can recognize it as ‘fake forecasting,’ once you realize where it is coming from.

I entitle it, forecasting because that’s what it is, a forecast or prediction of the future. The negative feedback is just past events creeping up.

For example: If you wanted to be a millionaire and you came from a background that was no where near a wealthy financial background, the first emotion attached to millionaire goal is probably…’How are you going to do that?”

“You can’t do that and if you could well you should be grateful with what you have and shouldn’t want more!”

My all time favorite statement (not really, but I can laugh at it now), “You know there are people that have less than you, you are so blessed!”

SHUTUP! Is what I say! Sorry, not trying to offend anyone! But someone has to say it!!!! What is life about if you are not striving for the next great adventure? Whether it be monetary, spiritual, emotional, physical or mental.

We tell our students in education, learn all you can, education is power always be of a mindset to learn and evolve. Yet, the mixed signal comes into play when anyone dreams big! Whether it be their own past events creeping into a nonrelated existing event. Or it is the people they are surrounded by.

Instead of staying to long in the vision or goal. Set time aside to relish in it. Feel the emotions you desire to feel, the exhilaration of how awesome your vision/goal truly is! THEN…when one, peek a Boo I see you, negative thought enters, STOP, SAY (nicely) Shutup and move about your day in a terrific mood!

In step by step form:

1. Feel good

2. Visualize/feel what you desire or want before you have it.

3. Subconscious or other outside forces will raise their heads only to say, “Peek a Boo, I see You. Only to place doubt in your head.

4. DO NOT argue with it, or justify why you want what you want!

5. Slide left! Or move on to another thought or conversation to avoid any struggle. (After all you control you, they truly don’t have a say. As for your subconscious saying negative things, remember it is always trying to protect you from hurt that you have felt in the past. However, we don’t live in the past anymore).

6. Next enjoy the events of now. Find the happy spot that is in the present. Expect the best is always coming to you.

7. It’s not your job to know how it’s your job to know what!

You are amazing! The next time the peek a Boo emotions show up simply reply with, “I see you too, and now you are going back to where you belong…in the past.”

Remind yourself, YOU ARE CAPABLE!!!!

Livelove

&

Carryon

Bring it on…

As the questions of: How am I going to pull all this together? Will people want to come to our workshops? How? What? When? Why am I super nervous? I keep responding with, “Bring it on!!!!!”

You know the right path or the least resistance path (Abraham-Hicks) is the one you are on when you feel it! You feel the fear, but it doesn’t overwhelm you. You feel the terrifying what ifs? However, they disappear quickly. Do I continue to step back a couple of steps, tilt my head, view the steps and think OMG, maybe I am wrong? OF COURSE!

Yesterday, I told one of my executives, who I wouldn’t make it with out, maybe I should go back to a J.O.B. As I wallowed in my silly fears. (Jack Cannefield- False, Evidence, Appearing, Real).

Then it happens! I will schedule several steps to accomplish, bringing us one step closer to providing the world happy thoughts, happy life, happy feelings. (Now that is a great deal of happy). Once, I begin my process each morning, someone essential to our growth will call, email or I meet someone while I am out! This doesn’t happen every now and then, it happens each time. It is amazing how that happens.

As I read and study some portions of my favorite authors, the messages are clear. Brian Tracy explains if you don’t set a goal you wont achieve it. Jack Cannefield discusses leaving blame out of the equation and look forward. Zig Ziglar talks about being careful to not get cooked in the squat, like his mother’s biscuits. Dale Carnegie focuses on how to be the best in the business, I love all of his teachings, but I prefer to say, your best not the best (with the switch of wording we can focus on our own growth, which will leave anyone else’s growth out of the equation).  What about one of my favorites, Wallace D. Waddles his book- The Science of Getting Rich. Waddles discusses the thinking stuff, if and when you think it and visualize it, things form from thoughts. Just to name a few of my favorites.

Life is amazing! When you begin to take care of you, everyone and everything else will fall into place. Will you have doubt and fear? YES, but only you can decide what fear and doubt you choose to keep! ONLY YOU! Isn’t that crazy it all boils down to you? In this fact, me.

I say, “FEAR and DOUBT step aside. I have a message to share. It is a lifetime of studying, gathering and depicting what you need to hear. Therefore, BRING IT ON!!!!!!!! I am excited for the new adventures and although I have fleeting moments of doubt they disappear almost as soon as they appear!”

You are wonderful. Decide today to feel your way throughout the day! If you want to take a nap, find a way to take a nap. Look for the good feeling path and although the more resistant path will appear, choose the one that is more fun! They will both take you to your end result, one just hurts a great deal more.

God Bless

I can’t wait to see you at one of our ‘Happy Workshops’ We are going to have So much FUN, FUN, FUN!!!!!!!!

Livelove

&

Carryon

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Shew! I made it…

I wanted so badly to go for a bike ride today, before old man winter sets in for his long winters nap. I put on my coat, shoes and of course I packed Freddy the Flamingo. I peeked out of the patio door to ensure it was  perfect weather, like the weather man described. So beautiful!

I went down the steps and twisted the lock to open the door into the garage. Twist, pause. Twist again, pause…nothing! It appeared I was locked in. (Yes, there was the other door to go outside, but for some reason I began to allow my mind to go CRAZY!) I thought what if this is Gods way of telling me to NOT go for a bike ride! I sat on the steps feeling and listening to my emotions. Do I really want to go for a bike ride? What if this is a sign? What if I received a sign on December the 8th and I didn’t listen? Oh the questions were racing through my head! I should have known it was a lesson for me to learn, so I can share with you, but of course I didn’t.

I text Eric and told him about the door not opening. Then I asked if maybe I should take it as a sign. However, he didn’t respond. I came back upstairs…this is silly, I thought. I went back downstairs and twisted, locked, relocked and repeat until it finally opened! Next, I met my neighbor. We introduced ourselves, chit chatted a few minutes and he looked at me and said, “Are you sure you should ride that bike today?”

What? YES! I should ride this bike today! I am going for a ride! I hoped on and pedaled off. However, I will not lie to you and tell you I was feeling free, having fun and riding on. Nope! I kept thinking of those signs, what if? What if, I had another accident? What if I never returned? Just crazy questions raced through my head. I continued to pedal faster and faster! It almost seemed I was trying to out run my crazy, silly imagination. Is it true? Are we warned before an accident? I have no idea! But I can report those warnings were not real, today. Rather a connection to my paradigm.

If you had experienced the same accident, you might feel the same way. Anyways, I made it back. It was a beautiful ride, the leaves danced along the path and the breeze was crisp enough to keep me from becoming to hot. When I arrived at home, I was so excited I MADE IT SAFE AND SOUND!

Shew! My legs felt like jello and my bladder was full. As I ran up the stairs I felt like a child who had accomplished something wonderful and couldn’t wait to tell mom. As I reached for my phone, it didn’t take long to figure out, it was gone!!! I ran to my computer and messaged mom, Darion and Ashby in hopes one would check their Facebook.

As soon as I heard Eric come in, I told him what was going on. We retraced my steps and he knew immediately what had happened. We got a good laugh out of him looking at me, listening to my events leading up to the aha! moment of it was placed in the cell phone case on his bike. You see, I was riding his bike. (He is trying to convince me to buy another bike with gears and I am not convinced).

It was a funny lesson for me. What did I learn? I learned that we all react differently to scenarios or events that occur, in our lives. Why? Based on our paradigms or past experiences. If we can ever see why we feel the way we feel, negative emotions may not become obsolete, but they can be minimized. Take the time to know what your mindset is, why it is what it is and tweak it to make you feel better. It is not always and actually it is unlikely, you will have a repeat of exact circumstances, to be conducive to the same results, in your lifetime.

For example: I can assure you I will not repeat stepping off a curb without looking down first. My brain recalls the incident and says, “Hey silly look before you step!”

Another example: My friend said, “I don’t want to be greedy, ever.”

I responded with, “You are fine today! The reason you worry about being greedy is because in your past you remember not having enough. However, when you recognize that was then and you do not struggle with those same issues. Therefore, you can leave you greediness behind now, because you are okay!”

Next time you think you are receiving a message, ensure the emotions are not a defense mechanism from a past event. How? It takes a little push, from you. Many people call it perseverance, but I would rather call it taking one step at a time. It is okay to have a little fear, just try not to dwell on it. Feel the emotional attachment, recognize why you have it and only you can decide whether you want to keep that feeling or rather let it go! For me I let it go and it feels terrific.

God Bless

Livelove

&

Carryon

 

Writing a Speech…

As I work on my third project in Toastmasters I reflect back on my students practicing for Beta Speech project. I can hear me barking orders, “Stand up straight, Make eye contact, be bold, be courageous! You can do this!!!” I remember always writing down note to self, always begin speech project in the beginning of the year so we can practice the skills necessary instead of a month or six weeks. Why? You might ask? Let me give you my list: 1. It is not the topic, it’s the skill. 2. Also if I began in the beginning I wouldn’t have to hear the ‘Beta’ speech 1000 times in six weeks. Ugh dreadful! 3. I could use the skills to teach a topic or two in Science, hmmm my thoughts during reflection time are amazing. Anywhooooo back to project three: ‘Stick to the Point’ you know my point or message to ‘stick to’ never changes. Never! Yes, I can teach you how to learn anything. I can also motivate and inspire you (It’s what I do). However, my point is…Be Happy as much as possible. Take a moment to feel your way through life, through each day, each moment. I have many techniques and fun projects, to help you perfect this way of life. I have games, jingles, journal entries, projects, coaching, mantras, cheers, speeches and anything else necessary to help YOU KNOW YOU ARE WONDERFUL AND LOVED! My point is live your life intentional!!!! ‘Be Happy’ by choice. I would never be able to write a speech about finances or politics. It would even be difficult for me to give one about Scientific topics, which I know a great deal about. Because my message is loud and clear! Therefore, sticking to the point is not difficult, but… Frankly, condensing this message into a small time frame, that is my challenge. Becuase in a normal setting I wouldn’t agree to, 5 to 7 minute speech. Because those first few minutes are my moments to feel the crowd, feel the needed message. What do they need? To accomplish their goals, to fulfill their destiny of being happy, 99 percent of the time. And during that one percent of down time, you know how to use those frustrations to guide your way back. Back to feeling good, back to laughter and happiness. Back to knowing what makes YOU HAPPY and how you know. You see, I have no problem teaching you ‘how to’ give a speech or multiply and divide. I have no issue with writing a’Speech’ for 5 to 7 min. Nor do I struggle with what the point is. However, to prepare for you to hear this and receive the necessary message, now that is sometimes, a hurdle for me. Not a mountain, just a hurdle or two for me to jump. As the business evolves minute by minute, I feel the awesome pull or tug to take another step. I am now at the point I know when to pause… And wait for you to absorb. I no longer become nervous when telling you about our mission and/or vision, Because? Because I am allowing and receiving, but most of all I am listening. My speech ended up being mediocre at best. I won the ribbon, labeling me ‘Best Speaker.’ However, all I could think or hear were the loud screaming voices in my head shouting, “No, I don’t want a reward! No please, I am begging you don’t label me Best Speaker! This is not a contest for me! I am not here to win!!! I have done all that! I have almost died, literally, because I have been so competitive. I don’t need validation anymore. I am here to help you! Help you succeed at anything you want to succeed at. If it’s find your spiritual desires so be it, if it’s find your passion, that’s okay too! If it’s none of the above and really all you want is to feel good…got that too!” Yes, I felt overly dramatic about my third project. I wrote the speech, rehearsed it, planned out what I was working on and blew it (in my mind). Almost everyone was touched by my heart felt ending and my passion for…Wait for it…that craft that I know so well…TEACHING? Yes, you read it first here, I blew my ‘Sticking to the Point’ speech because I switched points. I am not sure what point I found nor what point they received but I can tell you I knew I blew it! (Yes, you may laugh hysterically at my flubbed up speech). Then what is my message? Ohhh, pst, (lean in so I can whisper in your ear), “Be happy. Enjoy your life the best you can! If something isn’t right, meditate and listen, you DO Know the best answer for you! Feel your way through all decisions. Some days just go back to bed!!!! But only every now and then! Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy, enjoy enjoy feel it!!” Point given. Livelove & Carryon

When a plan comes together…

As a plan comes together, remember to allow all the emotions. My business plan is unfolding, as if a veil has been lifted and each step I take flowers grow, as I lift my foot. It is a fantastic feeling of love, amazement, charasmatic and sweet freedom!

If all of this is super amazing and is in perfect timing, then why do I become so overwhelmed? I have asked this question over and over. I have asked, have allowed and I am receiving.

My answer is always in a question form, isn’t this fun, exuberant, thrilling, ecstatic and so on? And yes everytime, I step back and ask the question, and receive that answer, I first think NOOOOOO it is not! My chest hurts, I feel swollen, attempting to sleep is a mute point. However, when I stop and breathe/meditate whatever you want to call it, the answer is clear, as the beautiful clear river, on a cool crisp Autumn day. Yes this journey or plan is fun, adventurous, exuberant, breath taking and much more.

I have now decided the overwhelming emotions might be the same, but just a different perspective. Therefore, when a plan comes together or your business/dreams form, as a puzzle mysterically putting itself together, watch in awe. Let it flow and if it doesn’t flow, while you are doing something, don’t resist just flow around it!

Think of a rushing wall of water. The more power it has behind its rush, the less resistance it has. Does the water have any resistance? Yes, but if it has cohesively bound its water molecules together, it feels very little of the resistance. The same goes for us.

We do not have to continuously know how a plan is coming together or how we are to accomplish, what we desire to accomplish. But we do need to know what our desires are. Then our next step is to enjoy all the fun twist and turns as we feel good along the journey.

For example: I had wrote about providing soap, bath bombs ect. On our Livelove store for you to purchase and enjoy. Then my friend/partner Debbie mentioned this new soap factory in Bedford Ky. and offered to have me write about them!

The Twilight Zone theme played in my head and I stood in amazement of these two families and their business adventure. Not only that, I was pretty sure I had found my soap!

My entire week has been like this. Blessings upon blessings. Fun adventures, a great deal of love and laughter.

Have I had any resistance this week? I wish I could say no, buttttttt in reality that’s not possible, However, it was all short lived. I practiced my new found tools to jump back on track, everytime! Sometimes, I told my son in a frantic frustrated voice, “I am frustrated, basically I am pissed off and I am trying to figure out why, it’s not you it’s just little irritating things.”

We would get a good laugh out of that, when my five minutes were over.

Just remember to enjoy the journey! Set the goals and forget it! If you want to be sitting on a balcony, looking over the ocean in five or less years, set the goal and begin to tell people about it. Describe it in as much full form as you want. Enjoy the vision. Until a How question creeps in, then stop the conversation and come back to it later. If the how question, comes up from, someone else, attempt to refrain from having that same conversation, with that person. (I promise you will do yourself a favor.)

The journey will begin as soon as you know where you are going. You see you wouldn’t go on vacation and not have a final destination in mind. Even if you just took off driving, you have a set final destination. However, if you never put the car in drive you will continue to stay in park.

I know I have ended a great deal of blogs with this next paragraph, but someone needs to read it.

If you are struggling right now, with anything in your life…look up, hold on, this too will pass!

Livelove

&

Carryon

21? No way!

Yes, it is true I have a baby girl who turns 21 today. I remember the day quite well. By early in the morning on the 17th we decided she wasn’t coming therefore, why bother returning to the hospital, lol.

I had been admitted on the 16th and when nothing happened, I came home to see my four year old, Darion. Only to return the next morning for more poking and prodding. She was determined to stay, nesting in the womb enjoying mommy singing and walking her around.

It was an amazing day! We were calm upon entering the labor and delivery, had created a plan for Darion to come to the hospital and went in to finally hold this bundle of joy.

I can remember when they held this beautiful child up and said, “Meet your baby girl, Ashby Mae Drake.”

Tears streamed down my face. Of course I was elated, but I was also like that three month old, came out of me? You see, my first child was five pounds ten ounces. However, Ashby broke that record of having teeny tiny babies…she was nine pounds five ounces! Shew!!! She was mad! It was cold and she couldn’t get those screams to form words fast enough, therefore she screamed louder and sometimes in different pitches almost like she was auditioning for the voice, as a two minute old!

Everyone in the labor and delivery were scattered and shattered once Ashby had arrived. I realize that it’s normal for a delivery staff to be chaotic, but it’s how extreme the chaos was. I remember one nurse, who was tending to me, turned and as politely as she could said, “Okay, who is in charge of making sure Miss Ashby is happy!”

Really? Her first few minutes of life and she begins with that? And guess what? They did just that. People were scrambling, passing her from person to person, swaddling her to keep her warm and finally between me, Darion and Meemaw some how she became satisfied.

It was like a snap of the fingers and we are spinning around and she is 21!

The essence of Ashby…she has always loved all animals from snakes & reptiles to kittens & rats and everything in between. There was not an animal she couldn’t tame with a flick of her wrist and pick it up. Spanky the iguana, no one handled except Ashby Mae. She has been a visual artist since I can remember. By the time she was able to hold a pen in her hand, she has been drawing, way before she was walking. Her favorite way to paint from a year old on was in her birthday suit.

One time Eric had unannounced work clients come in from out of town, he called and said, “Some friends are coming over after work can you ask Ashby to dress?”

Her free spirit will take you on a whirlwind, similar to a plethora of Fall leaves being scooped up and dancing along the waves of the breeze. Then other times her vast interest in making the world a better place, but also ensuring all is fair in the world of Ashby, she will be more like a gust of wind.

Her essence of believing you can do anything is magnificent. Her determination to succeed is phenomenal. I remember when she was 15 she told me SHE would be in California by the time she was a Jr. In highschool. Of course, silly me doubted her! Boy was I wrong.

She began that day looking for reputable agents, (not the horrific experience we had at Cosmo, don’t do that). She found Wings in Cincinnati and the whirlwind had just begun. With in months we were attending workshops, meeting with several agents and finally she had decided on Jake Lang, who told her, “I am not sure you can do this.” ( I now know he knew exactly what he was doing).

Next thing I know, we are booking flights to Texas for expo, making new friends and signing on! For what? Oh sorry, of course Ashby was signed and expected to be where? By when? Yes!! California by February.

Those are just a few examples of the essence of Ashby Mae Drake. She has bedazzled us all since the afternoon of October 17th, twenty one years ago.

Thank you for being a great daughter and I love you! You are beautiful. Looking forward to many more!

God Bless

Livelove