Monthly Archives: February 2018

Don’t Quit…Change Your Vocabulary!

As I wrap up my first book for Livelove’s ‘Happy’ Curriculum, I have moments where I want to quit. The questions run through my head like a hamster trapped on an exercise wheel. Is this worth my time? What makes you think YOU can accomplish your goals? What are your objectives? Maybe I should quit and get a J-O-B. As you can tell it is mostly negative vocabulary.
During my twelve and fourteen hour days of writing, I am amazed at how I do not want to stop, Eric usually has to insist I close my computer down.

If I am super happy while writing then why do I question my ability? Last night the answer to this question and all the other ‘stinkin thinkin’ thoughts or questions came to me like a shooting star. I needed to change my vocabulary! (Zig Ziglar)

I am super excited to share this bit of information with you. This post will be different than most. Today we practice!

Instructions:

Begin to listen to what you say…
About yourself
Your dreams
Goals
Life
Health
Anytime you say something that is not positive or good, stop yourself and change ONE Vocabulary word you used…For example:
Quit—Break
Hardship–Hurdle
Struggles–Moments
Next, begin to create your ideal situation in your mind…
I am a terrific author.
I help a lot of people.
I feel amazing!

Dwell on things that create a feeling of AWE! I am okay. As you continue to divert the words that come out of your mouth and negative thoughts, you will begin to feel like a rose bud about to open her petals to create a beautiful flower.
Next, try this experiment:

Write down words that make you feel good, they do not have to be connected to your work or goals, simply write words. My list:
Pink
bubbles
love
hearts
water
writing
exploring
traveling
ocean breeze

Now read one word at a time, then close your eyes and FEEL the word. If you have a partner have them read the words aloud while you sit and feel each word.
When you have completed this activity the happy emotions will continue until YOU decide to add in resistance.

Don’t take my word for it, Try it!

It doesn’t always take an entire self-help book to reroute the trajectory of your life, sometimes you only need to change your vocabulary!

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Carryon

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GPS, take me to _____?

Do you know what GPS stands for? I didn’t until I began to research for this post. However, I do know what this fabulous tool does! I can tell you how to navigate it, its many choices of routes and its main objective. But I could not share with you the actual meaning behind the acronym, until now.

For a directionally challenged person, a GPS is a lifesaver. Take me to the nearest grocery store, shopping, or restaurants. Maybe you know the specific address. Type it in and several possible routes will appear. Allowing you to have an entire plethora of choices.

Would you prefer the more scenic route? It may be 6 minutes longer, but it has more twists and turns. Or are you a straight to the point person? Then the freeway route is predicted to be a shorter time and more direct route.

One of the best parts of the GPS is its sense of determination. Although it provides you with a wide variety of routes to choose from, based on your needs. It has a determination to reach the destination regardless of any detours thrown in its path.

Have you ever used your GPS while trying to maneuver out of a subdivision? Then once you knew your way home you attempted to turn it off? It is crazy! The statement, “rerouting,” appears continuously.

What if we practiced this type of determination in our lives? We set the goal and every time a detour appears, we do not falter. Instead, we keep on ‘rerouting’ until our destination is complete. Then on to the next great adventure!

Don’t let the detours stop your journey. Find the delicious sweetness within the pit-stop and allow the detours to be a blessing. Cherish the opportunity to choose your preferred route and keep on moving towards the destination.

(Global Positioning Service is the meaning behind GPS)

May you be blessed on your journey, each and every day!

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Cross-Country, Track and Life?

Do you have a desire? Any desire? Determination to accomplish a task, earn large amounts of money, or win a race?

I can remember assisting my daughter as she first began to run cross-country. We would attempt to walk the courses before the race, to ensure she knew what to expect. However, there were always places we couldn’t reach. Usually those were the spots with an unexpected log, slick spot, or mud hole, you could drown in if you weren’t careful.

Darion would always worry about those detours, I would explain how to slow down and be more cautious, when approaching an unknown portion of the trail.

Although she is an adult and those days are long gone. She continues to push forward and not worry so much about the unknown. But rather enjoy the journey, at her own pace.

When Ashby began to run hurdles I thought, with track the visibility would be easier, creating less stress because they knew what to expect. I was proven wrong, time and time again. Sometimes the clear, concise path was more intimidating because the runners, knew the hurdle was there.

Why was this an issue? Because sometimes knowing what to expect, you continually worry about the hurdles, instead of the finish line.

While coaching runners to cross over to become a hurdler, I learned that many chose the 100 meters race over the 300. For example: one meter hurdles, Ashby was confident because she knew it was for just a short stint. It was not the entire track and was quick and easy (for the most part). As well as, many other athletes, who were more confident in the 100 meter, over the 300 meter. I always questioned why? It appeared both would be challenging, but simple enough to train for.

As I observed runners at practice, I watched them anticipate the hurdles, strategically placed around the track, they would fret to the point of physching themselves out.

Three hundred meter hurdles were more intimidating. They took more planning, time, and provided a wider view of the course, to run.

What if you had a family vacation planned, but the map came alive and demonstrated every possible hurdle on your trip? Would you still take the holiday? Probably not, especially if you were expected be far from home.

The athletes would do this very same thing. They would look at the long course, plan all the what ifs in their mind, and sometimes they didn’t run the 300 meter, due to fear.

In life, you already know there will be hurdles, along your journey of fulfilling your desires. But many choose to not continue, especially if they already know how many times they could possibly fall down, skin their knees or have a group of hurdles to jump.

As I assist people from all over the world. I realize life can be compared to a cross-country race, 100 meter hurdles, as well as the 300 meter.

Return to the opening questions. Do you have a desire? What is it? Once you have identified it, look at the end result. What pushes you to obtain your goals?

Now tell yourself…If I were running a cross-country race, I know there are spots that will be rough, unexpected terrain. However, all I need to do is slow down and look a few steps ahead. Glance up to see the dark spots on the path, but then return to directly in front of me and keep on running.

What if your journey is more visible and you can actually see the path? Remember, there will continue to be hurdles. Some will be bunched up together, similar to the one-hundred meter. Yet, others will be spread apart and all come up at once. Regardless of how far apart they are, they will appear.

Your job is to jump! JUMP one at a time and keep on dreaming. Keep on pushing and know that once at the finish line, you may relax. But only until the next race begins. Get ready? Get set? Gooooooo…….

God Bless

My greatest desire is to provide you with hope, determination and ways for you to find your personal pathway to happiness.

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Carryon

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Do you wake up happy?

How do you wake up every morning? Are you constantly sleeping through the alarm, yelling at your children to get ready? By the time you arrive at work, are you ready for a break? You might be sufferering from a simple issue Livelove likes to call, the what-if-itis.

You are probably not sleeping well, if all the what ifs or whatifitis is filling your mind. However, this is not conducive to a good nights sleep or a ‘happy’ morning. Not to mention the rest of your life.

The suffix itis is defined as a disease characterized by inflammation. Such as arthritis, tendinitis, bronchitis and of course whatifitis. (www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary) Affects of this disease or inflammation of creating whatif scenarios are swelling of the brain, which leads to inflammation of the heart, stomache and anything else you feel a bit of pain from, upon waking up.

If the above paragraphs resonate with you, we have some quick and easy tips to help. These tricks will assist you with sleeping peacefully and learn to wake up ‘happy’.

Let us begin with the evening before. Thirty minutes before you lay your head down,,,

  • Turn off or put away all electronics.
  • Write down anything you are worrying about. (children, ballgames, work, anything that is weighing heavy on youd mind)
  • Fold the paper in half, on the back write– Whatever will be, will be best for me.
  • Next leave all your worries on the kitchen table, written down. I promise they will still be there in the morning. However, after a goodnights sleep, they will not be as prominent, as they would be if you contemplated them all night.
  • As you lay down begin to list everything you are grateful for.
    • I love my bed
    • Grateful to be laying down in a home with controlled temperatures
    • Grateful for food
    • Grateful for my health
  • Make this fun…you can be grateful for silly items, sleep, your hair, ect…it doesn’t matter what you are grateful for, keep listing.
  • Last but definetly not least…As you lay your head to rest and close your eyes take a few minutes to congratulate and compliment yourself. (This step comes easier with time, you will eventually find reasons to pat yourself on the back, but at first it feels a little uncomfortable)

I have even congratulated myself for not losing my temper. Or for gritting my teeth and holding my toungue, when someone said something that ticked me off. Be light hearted, no matter what, YOU, have accomplished something terrific today! Even if it was getting out of bed and feeding your pets.

As for the waking up part, this procedure is much simplier when healing from whatifitis. Before you climbed out of bed, begin the same procedure of listing all the simple pleasures, you are grateful for. This doesn’t need to be as lengthy as your night time list.

While you are preparing for the day find a saying to uplift and create a happy emotion. This sets your day with a vibration of, YES I CAN.

Here are some I have utilized throughout my time of whatifitis, everyone suffers from this inflammation, at times in their lives. The most important part is it doesn’t last for weeks on end.

  • Whatever will be, is best for me.
  • I think I can, I think I can…I know I can, I know I can. (Yes, it is from the Little Engine that Could)
  • Mirror talks…You are amazing, You are worthy, You, my friend, are awesome!
  • My favorite saying is, “I feel terrific!” This is a quote I learned from Brian Tracy, personal development guru. When faced with adversity, even in the midst of it, I will say, “I feel Terrific!” It feels wonderful. Resets your entire demeanor.
  • Try it, right now…while reading this say, “I feel Terrific!” Do again and again, until you feel better. It works everytime.

Do you wake up happy? If you are waking up stressed and miserable, maybe it is time for you to shut down, unplug and have an attitude with gratitude! Life can be fun, expect the best and the rest will take care of itself.

God Bless! Do you wake up happy?

Livelove

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Carryon

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How would you participate in the Olympics, if you had the choice?

As the meeting began at promptly seven in the morning, we quickly scurried to our seats and the ‘Toastmaster’ began our weekly meeting. I can’t tell you how elated I am, each time I attend a meeting. I know our Earlybird Toastmaster group thinks I am lying, at times, when I boldly announce how happy I am to have this wonderful experience with such a wonderful group of people and for a good cause. (Yes, I become all mushy and sentimental sometimes, because I am so darn grateful for this experience). However, they always find a way to uplift, educate and inspire me to keep on keeping on.

This week was no different. I was so ecstatic to be there I had goosebumps. Then they announced the topic or subject of the week! Omg, each and every cell was bouncing up and down when he said, “Olympics.”

I don’t remember anything else, but that word! I don’t know if it is about specific athletes, awards, or #trends on #twitter. I simply heard OLYMPICS! I thought oh yes! This is my topic! I can remember when the torch was to be running through our small town of Bedford Kentucky over twenty-two years ago!

It was a cold, dreary day and Darion was at least two years old, which she is now 25. I had all the details. When the athlete would be passing our driveway, approximate time of arrival at the Courthouse and the time of the torch lighting. I talked about it for weeks and weeks before the actual day! LOL I remember friends of mine laughing at me for my obsession surrounding this event. It was finally here!

I wrapped Darion up and we quickly walked to the end of our mile long driveway. The rain poured, it felt like God was pouring buckets of water on top of us! It didn’t matter, we stood firm and cheered as the drenched and cold athlete ran by. Tears streamed down my face as Darion looked up and asked, “What’s wrong mommy? Why are you sad?”

I chuckled, swooped her up to rush and catch the lighting of the torch. The inspiring event continues to hold a special place in my heart. However, after reading this heartfelt series of events you would probably create an image of a sports crazed person. Watching sports event after event, having great celebrations around the sports world to be able to cheer on my team. Truth is I could care less. I can take it or leave it, but the Olympics inspires me, creates emotions of exhilaration, I can, achievement and unity.

While multitasking by reflecting and enjoying my emotions, I am quickly brought back to reality, when the acquainting session had begun and I was off in la la land. “I am sorry, can you restate the question?”

“If you could participate in the Olympics what would you want your role to be?”

(I am not even sure if that was the question, but that is what I heard).

I stated my name and what I ‘do’ then said, “If I could be anything I would be a coach! And now that I think about it, that’s what I love to do anyways.”

What? What kind of answer was that? My Stinking Thinking (Zig Ziglar) was creeping in! Michael one of my fellow toastmasters, reminded me to stop Stinkin Thinkin and I immediately brought myself back to the meeting! He is correct. I am fine, I continued to ‘coach’ myself through each portion and stayed focused on the speeches.

Then it happened. One of those AHA moments, hit me! Sam (another fellow Toastmaster) said, “Teena, When you said that about being a coach, I laughed and told Michael, if Teena Drake told me I could do it, I would believe it and do it.”

I laughed it off, yet allowed his kind and motivational words to sink in.

Sam hit the bullseye! I always knew I was labeled a cheerleader. However, after a certain age the title cheerleader, isn’t how I would describe myself. Because it is isolated to one team or age group. However, over the years some of my greatest emotional accomplishments were during my times of coaching. And yes, I mean original types of sports coaching- Tee ball, flag football, middleschool volleyball, cheerleading, track…as well as talent, beauty, pageants and academics!

In the sports world, I struggled with insecurities. I never felt ‘good’ enough to uphold the title Coach. I don’t know if it was my lack of ability in those skill sets or my lack of knowledge. But I rarely placed my ‘coaching’ experience on a resume or LinkedIn, until now.

However, my teams were always successful. I have a great deal to celebrate over the multitude of wins and improvements in my athletes. But I didn’t have faith in my own ability.

Although my style of coaching is much different than the past, the main purpose/goal, is invariably the same. I love it! As coach… you are their cheerleader, small tiny voice in their heads that says, “Yes, you can!” Mentor, guide and most of all motivator.

Along with so many people who assist, motivate, hold me accountable and uplift my gifts, I must express my deepest gratitude to all of them and to my fellow Toastmaster friends.

You see, you do not know when your words could change someone’s life forever! If you see something terrific in someone tell them. They may need a little boost to fullfill their own dreams and ambitions. We are all in this together.

I am grateful to know I am on the right path.

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Carryon

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Inspiring minds want to know!

How does success feel? If you don’t know how it feels, how do you know if you want it?

I hear you! Everyday people explain to me their opinions of success measurement. For example, when I am married, earn X amount of dollars or have ten thousand followers, then I will be successful. Or any other stipulation, we all place in the category of success. My question is how does the ‘when’ feel?

“If you do not know before you have it, how will you know when you have achieved it?” asked me.

Read it again! The last statement says you must feel, how you will feel, once you have achieved any goal, before you have achieved it. Think about it…peek back into your past and think of an accomplishment, that throughout the journey, you had days of hopelessness and fears, beyond belief. However, you persevered sometimes out of neccessity and other times out of desire to improve. Yet once you reached the goal, you were quickly on to the next one.

Now fast forward to YOU, today. Are you standing or sitting up a little taller now? Is your head held high, go ahead pause to pat yourself on the back, after all you deserve it! You have jumped hurdles and finished the race, in one format or another. Even if it was not your best race, you finished it and went on to achieve even more. Thats why it is time to feature your accomplishments. Take the time to applaud yourself, at this very moment for the goals you have already achieved.

I don’t care who you are, your age, income, race, background or location does not set us apart from the truth…we have all been faced with adversity, while striving to accomplish a goal or desired outcome. Then once the goal is accomplished, we are glad to move on to the next delicious adventure. Do we think it will be perfect? Not at all, but we know deep down in our souls, we will accomplish the next one and the next one. Because it is who we are.

During one of my happy coaching sessions my friend wept on the other end of the phone and pleaded for me to tell her she was not crazy. “Crazy?” I questioned.

Through her tears and sniffles, attempting to regain her composure, she replies with, “Yes, I feel crazy at times. Because I am happy in the midst of madness. My ex-husband continuously reminds me of who I once was and I always cringe and think, I don’t want to be that person anymore. I was unhappy, lonely, and bored. Please tell me I am not crazy!”

After discussing back and forth what she was fearing, I repeated back to her, what she said. What happened next was like opening the gates of acceptance, for her. She realized how amazing her life was and she didn’t feel crazy anymore, but rather happy with her ‘successful’ outcome. After such a difficult time in her life, her vision of success was feeling threatened. Therefore, she was facing her adversity. She felt guilty for feeling happy and for knowing what happiness felt like. If you are like me, you must know the outcome of a story. “Yes, she is extremely happy and is taking time to feel how great success feels!”

How does your vision feel? Your dreams? Goals? If you don’t know then take time to pause…and feel. What do they smell, taste, touch, sound, and look like? Not specific, just feel them…are they sweet or a bit more spicy? Do you crave it even more when the sweet smell wafts across your nostrils? Are there articles raving about you? Or sweet lovers notes on your pillow at night?

Share with us either something you are struggling with now or something you accomplished. We would love to celebrate with you.

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After all how do we all want to feel? Good, Happy, Better, or Inspired.

As I inhale slowly and exhale even slower…I send you feelings of love, hopefulness, clarity and sweet, sweet success. Until we meet again!

Livelove

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Carryon

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(I always request permission to share a happy coaching session with the public. I choose not to use names, to demonstrate how most of us can relate to each other’s situations, in one way or another. You could relate, couldn’t you?)

Happy Coaching 101 continues, even when I don’t feel inspirational…thank goodness!

This next message I am sharing with you is for one of the sweetest young ladies I know. She is an inspiration to me on a daily basis!

As I was meditating, I continued to ask for much needed personal guidance. Because the past few days I felt a bit sad and stuck. My fears (false evidence appearing real, Jack Cannefiled) continued to show up. I was worried about money, my business, my goals and dreams.

The more I focused on my own issues, the more this sweet little message for Ashley, persisted! I finally gave up! “Okay, what does Ashley need to hear?” I asked in an irritable manner.

Once I wrote it down, tears filled my eyes. One by one streamed down my face, as I read word for word.

I told her I was sending it on, but I read it one more time. And Poof, out of no where, I received my own messages! They were amazing.

One of my messages: Sometimes, the road ahead appears to be difficult. Therfore, take one step at a time. Then if you slip a little off the path, you will have the strength to carry on with the other foot.

So even when you dont feel up for the challenges, life throws at you, it’s okay! Take time to be still, inhale/exhale and listen. You have the answers at your finger tips, you only need to allow yourself to receive them.

Ashley’s message, sent with love…

If you don’t feel stuck how will you celebrate or know what freedom feels like?
If you don’t feel a little hopeless, how will you know how it feels to be filled with hope?
I am with you and guiding you!

It is okay to feel down, it is all a part of the process. However, the best part is when in the valley (or the trough of a frequency) the next wave is up, up ,up so allow the frequency to move you.

Your next portion is going to move into your life so swiftly and peacefully, it will feel like a swift, warm, refreshing breeze zooming up to the crest or top of the wave! Ride high my dear friend and enjoy.

You have asked and now you shall receive!

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