Monthly Archives: June 2018

To be Gay, Or not to be Gay…that is the question?

1976, the teacher begins his first roll call of the year, my full name is announced…Teena Gay Kelley. “Here,” I reply with the proudest of voice I had.
1978, same scenario, my full name is announced…Teena Gay Kelley. A few snickers from other children, a drop of my teacher’s face and a , “here,” I reply with the lowest of whisper in hopes no one would know who said it.
1980, same scenarios except this time, I hear a teacher talking to another teacher, “Can you believe her mother named her that? Poor child.”
1983, same scenarios except…I decided to make a joke of it. “Here it goes everyone, I am the new girl in school and inevitably, one of these teachers will call out my middle name…get ready for it…yep…(pause as if I knew exactly what was about to happen)”
“Teena Gay Drake.” Young, first year teacher of middle school, who could pass for being ‘considered’ to be a Gay Man or one whom everyone in the world, knew his sexual preference. (Which to be honest this still freaks me out that we label people based on their sexuality/preference/private stuff. IDK but does anyone else want to be labeled by how you like to feel pleasure? Okay…I don’t want to make anyone mad so this part will be omitted, maybe).
His faced turned blood-red as the snide remarks and poking fun at me had begun. He peered over his glasses in the most apologetic way. Between fake laughs, I glanced back at him as to say, “I knew it was coming…It is okay.”
I continued this phase of my life throughout my teaching career. I began with my introduction, “Hello! My name is Mrs. Teena Gay Drake, but you may call me Mrs. Drake.”
I would always reinforce how no one wants to be called names. Therefore, your slur usage of the word ‘Gay’ will not be permitted in my classroom, due to the fact of it being my middle name and all. I would allow the students to giggle if they so please, but the precedent was clearly set, this was an equal, kind, loving, nonjudgement classroom and it would stay that way.
As I reflect back to several of my students, I can remember feeling their pain as they would be made fun of because he or she was different. The boys who were considered to be feminine would come to me and say, “Mrs. Drake they say I am Gay? Why? What does that even mean?”
Many of the girls would embrace the label and act similar to myself. They would chime in to poking fun at themselves.
Yes, believe it or not it was only a few years ago that middle schoolers didn’t understand ‘why’ they were labeled. And, yes, many understand what the title means now, but they are unsure of why the heck people, especially adults, are so persistent and hateful about it!
Let’s be honest…if you have a 6th grader you are not sitting around pondering whether he or she is desiring to have sex with anyone, let alone the same-sex.
So the next time you are quick to judge, take time to pause and think…do I really care whether someone is Gay or not? Regardless of the definition.

If they are ‘Gay’ defined as happy or ‘Gay’ defined by sexual preference… Do you really want to know their sexual preference? How does this even directly affect you?
Do you know I was told not to write this because I might offend someone? If I am offending someone then good! I am tired of poking fun at my name because someone said it stands for a label! I am tired of hiding my beliefs because someone else might disagree.
Because resistance or a huge vibration will create change and change is inevitable. Gay by definition is happy & joyful. Gay has become by definition a choice of sexuality. Who provided the world with this label? You…whether you find the term offensive or celebratory you have defined it.
So my answer is clear…”To be Gay, or not to be Gay? I choose Gay! I am taking back my title, my mother gave me the day I smiled laying in my crib, when by the ‘textbook rules’ wasn’t possible.

I was named after my Great Aunt Gay. I was named to be happy and share love.
IDC what other people’s sexual preference is…but I do hope it brings you joy. (But I am still unconcerned, of your choice, as others might want to follow my lead, on this subject).

As we wrap up the month of June which is entitled ‘Pride Month’ whether you are apart of it or not, please remember…it truly does stand for…Celebrating being proud to be Happy, to be free, and to remember “Love will always win!”
YOU ARE LOVED! You are worthy to feel good. You are FREE to be GAY with me!
Instead of tearing people down and allowing misconceptions to blur your vision of the true meaning of the rainbow, attempt to allow love and the illumination of the vibrant colors melting one into the other, to AMAZE YOU!
You will quickly realize how fun and Gay life can be!
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Open to thoughts, comments and happy remarks. Snide remarks are accepted as well, if you feel the need. Although I am not very tough and I will probably cry I will respectfully read all of them and respond if so need be. LOL. No seriously, I do cry sometimes.
God Bless EACH OF YOU! Thank you for reading my thoughts. My greatest wish is for you to find your happy trail. That you will live- like today is your last, love- with every cell in your body, and when the road gets rough you will hold on tight and CARRY ON!
Written by: Teena Drake

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If you were trapped in a box what would you do to get out?

I shutter as I write this simple, but earth shattering message. It feels like the sound from a CRASH and then another CRASH, CRASH, with the last being the greatest vibration of them all CRASHHHH echoing through your bones from a vibrating Gong!!!!

Now imagine being trapped in a box still alive, but hearing someone a friendly voice, just steps away from this suffocating box. Tell me, say it out loud while reading this…what would you do? Let it out! What would you do?

I would scream and scream. If I didn’t get their attention I would find a way to…. (You fill in the blank).

The Gong is struck again with a firm hit and steady hold, Gonggggggggg the deep vibration echoes through you! And without a doubt you can answer, “If you were trapped in a box what would you do to get out?”

Are you creating enough vibrations to get out of your imaginary box? Or are you sitting and wishing to get out of the box and so you choose to die in the box.

We need you to vibrate with us in sweet harmony. Why? So you can feel how amazing it is to Livelove & Carry On.

We appreciate you!

Do Not Judge Me for You Know Not of What I’ve Suffered…

As the man shouts out for justice and answers, about his missing daughter…He screams he shouts I want to only know…

As the woman spouts racial slurs and utilizes offensive language towards the woman in blue…not because she is black or white but because she wears the same color as the man who shot her daddy.

As the young boy lashes out and kills another because all he knows is violence and rage.

As the young person writes their goodbye letters in shame for wanting to leave their loved ones behind and take their own life, in hopes to relieve the pain from the battle in their head.

Do not judge me for you know not of what I’ve suffered. You know not of my deep sorrow, pain, suffereing, and heartbreak.

Oh my friend, but I do. For all who have walked have first fallen. All who have gained have suffered loss. All who have lived must die.

Do not judge me for you know not of what I’ve suffered…

Instead join with me to celebrate that you have lived! Embrace your knowledge, share your gifts and leave the judgement and pain to the past lessons learned.

How does your vision compare to your living?

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Cat Litter & Relationships

How can cat litter and relationships be compared? If you are having trouble in your relationship, at this time, you do not want to miss this message.

Is your partner driving you crazy? Do you wonder why you even try? One thing is for certain if you are struggling…You are living in the Cat Litter Box with generic litter. You know the kind that does not cover up any of the smell and generic toilet paper is more absorbent than this bunch of rocks, you attempted to save a dollar bill on. (Pause…Take a big whiff, inhale, and smell the nasty litter you are using that is ineffective).

Living in the cat litter box with your partner is disgusting. It means that you take a poo, half way cover it up, allow them to do the same, and your smelly dance is never-ending. 

For example: If you are struggling in your relationship say out loud ‘why’ you feel the way you do.

Did you hear your fears from the past come out? Do you realize most of what you said is no different from cat poo in the box? It happens, it will stay there until it is cleaned up, and it smells to high heaven, until it is bagged and disposed of.

Most arguments involve words like: should, could, would, wish, why did you, what if (which is asked due to their or your paradigm= past), how could you and the past continues to take over the future. 

“You are living in the past or holding your significant other to yesterday. Yet expecting them to not return the favor.”

That’s just like standing in a cat litter box taking a poop, your partner doing the same, although it is covered, you keep digging it up, and smelling the disgusting aroma. 

When in reality once the poop is there the choices are inevitable 1. Enjoy the aroma. Or 2. Clean it out by bagging it, tying the top to seal it and disposing of the evidence.

Does this mean it never happened? Come on we all know sh*t happens. But do we want to continue to dig it back up? Is a better question. 

Are you and your partner living in the cat litter together? Worse yet, have you decided to be cheap and using the kind that never gets rid of the smell? 

Recognize what you are doing, decide what or how the significant other could fix your emotions (not that they can, this is only to recognize why you are feeling so irritable with them), and make a good decision for you both.

It is not about the solution, it is about getting out of the disgusting cat liter box!

My greatest hope is you get a little laugh and a lot of relief. You are awesome and worthy of feeling good! 

Sending you LOTS of LOVE!

God loves you.

Living in the past can always be compared to poo. The past happens, but do you want to continue to live then? When you can decide today to feel and smell better? 

Livelove.teena@gmail.com a message for you if you need it. 

Thank you for reading.

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Carry On!

Written by: Teena Drake

Good, Good, Good Vibrations…

Woke up this morning with the song Good Vibrations running through my head. Then I began to think about how important music and vibrations are to living a full life.

What does it mean to have good vibrations? Does what you are thinking about make a difference? I mean there are very few Avengers, who can read your mind in your everyday life, right? Why do you or anyone else care what you think or feel?

Guess what? Other people may not be able to read your mind or even understand what you are saying, but they CAN FEEL your vibrations.

Take a moment to read that last statement…one more time. Does what you are thinking make a difference? YES it does.

Instead of telling you let me show you!

Your emotions/thoughts– I am broke, have a bunch of bills. I cry all the time. I always say or do the wrong things. I don’t like my body. I don’t know how to feel better. I am afraid. I am fat and I know what I need to do, but ugh…I don’t want to.

A better emotion/thought in response to redirect you – Before you read the next few paragraphs, STOP reading and turn on some music or begin to hum or sing. You probably already feel better, but if  you don’t mind please, keep on reading.

Now feel how the next few statements FEEL to you...I am alive. I am breathing. I feel free. I don’t need sight to feel good. My tears are now filled with joy for I now see! What’s best for me will always be. Please forgive me, if I said something to offend you, but remember your vibration is only YOUR reflection. 

Ohhhh, how I love you fat cells, for all our fun times. I now know you were only protecting me by reminding me, I was always protected. Protected from others, starvation, survival, to never feel poor again and so much more. But I have learned that I am already protected. I know I am worthy, I will always have enough. I am loved, protected, happy, free and you can let me be. I feel good. I no longer need any extra protection. No, no…I understand you have been wonderful. I am good, I will keep what I need, but extra protection I don’t need any longer. (Wow! That felt good even typing, I hope it felt as good to you!).

How do you change or divert fear? This one is simple and yet not recognized well enough for us to feel’ how simple it truly is. Here it goes—To divert fear immediately is to create a comfortable and new vibration. How? Sing! Sing in silence! Sing out loud! Turn on music and sing! Create a vibration greater than the low, negative vibrations you were sending out.

As I searched for an older commercial with the Good Vibrations song, I could feel the advertisers objective. To ensure their audience feels good. Take this Sunkist Soda commercial, I actually envisioned being with a group of my friends, at the beach, singing the lyrics of a  catchy commercial. I honestly don’t think I have had a Sunkist in ten years, but I want one now! LOL

 

Do good vibrations make a difference? Can music change the world? It is not the questions of whether vibrations = difference or music = change, but rather if you choose to raise your frequency to feel better.

What you are thinking and feeling creates the vibration around you. Regardless of how many ‘Avengers’ you have in your life, who really can read your mind. Everyone can feel your vibrations. Choose to feel good and good will feel its way vibrating back to you! 

Written by: Teena Drake

Try it…email at Livelove.teena@gmail.com how you feel and see if the message you receive, doesn’t assist you in jumping a hurdle in your life. First message is free! So hey why not!

Changing the world with one Happy Thought at a time!

Don’t forget -YOU ARE LOVED, AMAZING, UNIQUE!

Everyone has times they feel like giving up! We are here to help with Life ‘Happy’ Coaching.  Or maybe it’s a quick fix email us, we are Happy to help!

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Trimble County School District…Parents, students, educators, Board of Education, and whoever else cares about this topic!

It has come to my attention that enrollment has dropped which equals a reduction in funding. Some people are upset about this financial decision. First let me say, I am so sorry our beautiful community is having some struggles with a decline in population. However, to answer those questions posted on Facebook about why? why? why? The issue at hand must first be addressed. 

Please take a look at this situation with a different perspective. Instead of pointing fingers at leaders and/or elected officials. Ask yourself, do you truly believe that the heart and spirit of this community can be destroyed by one small group of people? Your board of education do not have ill intentions. They are simply reacting to the circumstances. 

What about you? What is your community vision? How do you want to see Trimble County in twenty years? Have you sat down and thought about it? 

Over the past year, I have had the privilege to experience yet another beautiful place, Kansas City. However, my heart will always be deep-rooted in that little piece of heaven. No, I haven’t always felt or realized how precious my home is, but I do now! 

Therefore, I ask of you to be the light. Be the solution. Create a vision of how you want to see Trimble County School District. What could our leaders and board of education ‘do’ to assist in the building up of our schools? Rather than pointing out the obvious, lower enrollment – money= one less position. Begin today to think and create. 

Create a school you would be proud of! Create a vision of our community in twenty years. Will we continue to exist? That’s up to you. 

I remember being on the board of education and listening to the complaints of this parent or that citizen. My thoughts were always, “How would you ‘fix’ this problem?”

Take a moment to try this simple activity…

Look at something you have been complaining about…

Anyhing…

Now visualize what the other person or organization could do to help the image in your head look and feel better. 

Trimble County you may be small. You may be frustrated at this time. But I promise you have POTENTIAL!

It will take all of us to illuminate the wonderful qualities of our piece of heaven. Please, begin today to create a beautiful vision and begin to share it with others. Before long these issues will be a thing of the past.

You are wonderful.

Written by: Teena Drake

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When you wake up feeling sad…It is usually because you are focusing on yesterday, instead of what you CAN change…today

What the heck are you? Are you a writer? Speaker? Coach, Author, Educator, or Entertainer? What the heck are you? 

After my last speech at Toastmasters in KC, these and many more questions filled my brain. After someone asked the above questions and, “What are your plans, next?” 

I spent the last 24 hours with a sense of sadness as I allowed myself to reminisce through the past. Did I say something wrong? Maybe I am too much? What am I? Who am I?  What if I can’t make it? What if? Why? Maybe I am not good enough?

NEXT…I woke up this morning allowing the same questions to pound through my head like a bull in a china shop! WHAT AM I DOING? You see I was focusing on what had already been done. 

Finally, I found my manuscript from a coaching session of an elementary student! In the very beginning, I taught her how to find and use a ‘Happy Word’. Then I explained that as long as she was focusing on what she CAN CHANGE and not the past, everything would be fine. For example: She had failed a spelling test and was extremely upset with herself for not studying. I redirected her attention to the fact that the only thing she can change is the next spelling test. Unless of course the teacher would let her re-take the last exam. 

Day after day we would discuss why she was sad or angry. Each time it was something she had already done and couldn’t take back. 

Do you do this? I do! If I allow myself to become engrossed in the past. I become sick to my stomach, don’t eat, and wallow in self pitty. But the truth is you or myself, cannot redo yesterday, we can only improve today. 

My answer to all the questions are YES! I am a writer, speaker, coach, published author, educator, entertainer and…much more.

Just like you, I must feel down on occasion to enjoy the up moments. 

If you are feeling sad, depressed, frustrated or angry today…allow your brain to feel the emotions long enough to remind you, this is NOT THE WAY YOU WANT TO FEEL! 

Now, take your smile back. Find your many titles and wear them with pride. I know it isn’t always easy to let go of the past. Or to forgive those who irritated you. However, I promise if you will hold on…one more minute…find a happy thought and reset your vibration. 

Some ideas on how to quickly reset:

  1. Find your happy word
  2. Play uplifting music
  3. Do the twist in your living room
  4. Jump up and down
  5. Cry, but only for a little while
  6. Ask one friend to remind you of something you have done GOOD! 
  7. Write your life resume
  8. Excercise
  9. Kiss your lover like it could be your last
  10. Or just say happy words until you reset your vibration

Last time I checked no one is perfect. I know I am not, but our imperfections mold us and allow our talents to be illuminated! 

Sometimes giving up feels like it would be easier. But I promise even that phase or process of giving up hurts worse than a reset. So I beg of you if you are reading this post…right now…please know:

YOU ARE WONDERFUL JUST THE WAY YOU ARE! YOU HAVE GIFTS TO SHARE WITH THE WORLD! YOU ARE WORTHY OF BEING LOVED! YOU ARE WORTHY OF BEING HAPPY. FEEL HOW AWESOME YOU ALREADY ARE AND KEEP ON ADDING TITLES TO YOUR LIFE WITH PRIDE. 

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Written by: Teena Drake