Category Archives: anxiety

I always thought ‘Being Happy’ meant…

As I reflect back over the years I recognize how being happy doesn’t mean to make everyone else happy. Nor does it mean you will love all people and/or situations. Actually it is the complete opposite.

For example: I was working out in the pool. It was extremely peaceful. Sever al couples were enjoying the cool, crisp water and peace. Then this guy comes over introduces himself and proceeds to talk, excessively. I kept shutting my eyes , breathing deep and sending him positive vibes, although I must admit my vibes were followed up with me saying, “Shutup! No one cares what your dad did for a living, what your dogs name was when you were a kid, or how all your patients were whiney and needy today!!”

Gotcha! Did you really think I said that? I didn’t say anything, out loud. I only thought it. I do not need to tell you how much this man talked, but I can use it as a lesson.

Using the tools to find your own happiness will be an advantage. However, do not mistake the fact that making other people happy is the same thing. In fact it is impossible.

Life is meant to be fun, but remember there will always be that stranger who might rub you the wrong way. Or you may be put in a situation you feel irritated with everyone involved. It is the quickest way for you to recognize what you Do Not want so you can redirect quickly and go back to having fun! That guy reminded me of how happy I am that Eric doesn’t talk too much or that I don’t have to live or work with that man. Don’t you see being happy with you doesn’t mean making everyone else happy, but it’s okay. Because what’s BEST for ME is BEST for YOU!

Instead of living a hurried, scurried, on fire all the time, making other people happy and attempting to be perfect all at the same time mentality; It is about coming together with actual peace, love and least resistance. Okay, I will admit that was a little deep! Please, bare with me.

Again, what is BEST for ME, Is BEST for YOU! When and only when you understand that statement will all your amazing happy feelings come to you like a tidal wave. I know that statement is difficult to understand, but it is absolutely, 100% the truth.

Once you allow everyone else to find their own feel good or happy feeling and you are operating your very existence in this manner, you will feel, have, do and be anything you want to be. Any experience YOU want! Trust that it is all going to be what’s best for you and allow it to be that way. The annoying people will still pop in from time to time. However, you will even find the good in them or the good in your encounter with them.

Life is meant to live by having fun. Don’t waste another day or moment trying to MAKE everyone else happy. Begin with you and the rest will fall into place.

God Loves You No Matter What!

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One two buckle my shoe…

Three four shut the door, five six pick up sticks…you know the rest of the nursery rhyme. I know it sounds silly, but all my mind has let me do, for several days, is repeat nursery rhymes over and over. Jack be Nimble, Mary had a Little Lamb and so on. Why?

One reason, is my baby boy is off to college and I continually reflect back to the simple times of nursery rhymes. Each time I feel a little sad I think of another one, say it, then become a little relieved with a smile and a giggle. The cycle repeats itself each time we dig through an old box or give away some old action figures.

I am excited about the next adventures in our lives. I am estatic while watching Nicholas grow into a beautiful young man, who is following his heart. He has a plan and is sticking to it.

When I become teary eyed he wraps his big arms around me and says, Mom, I love you and it’s gonna be okay!”

I KNOW, I KNOW! I wouldn’t want to have children who weren’t thriving and following their bliss! I know I can’t fix up the house enough to entice them to stay with me and nor would I want that. However, at this moment at 6 AM, I feel like gathering them all up and saying,”Okay, change of plans! Today, we are all going to curl up on the couch and read Dr. Suess. Or hey let’s go to McDonald’s play land!”

Back to the nursery rhymes…Little Miss Muffett, Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall…yes, I know it’s a bit creepy. All I can say it is my brains way of coping with the ‘adulting.’ When I become fearful of the changes, I search for something from their childhood that is simple.

Aren’t these emotions normal? As I read my sister-n-law’s blog “When the kids grow up” or @Jennifer Reynolds Drake on Facebook, I feel comforted and realize, I am not alone. Her last paragraph (which I will share her post after I complete this writing) sums it up best: “And now we can settle in the fact that we’ve raised our kids to the best of our ability, we’ve entrusted them into His hands, and that the biggest growth comes from change.”

I realize change is inevitable. I am evolving to a level I have only dreamed of, in the past. Why now? Because for the past twenty six years I have been in my bliss being a mommy. And YES, Jenny, you are correct they still need me and will continue to call, I know that, but it is a little scary.

As for today, I am continuing to reflect on the funny memories and looking ahead to the next chapter. Most importantly I am enjoying each moment in the present! All we have is Right now! Take time to find your moment or nursery rhyme to bring you to a moment of sweetness and enjoy where you are right now.

One-two buckle my shoe, three-four shut the door, five- six pick up sticks, seven- eight lay them straight, Nine-ten let’s do it again, PLEASE!

God Bless!

Livelove

When the world has you busy, but you continue to find time to write…

Lately my life has been extremely busyI can’t remember the last day I didn’t have anything to do. I have been traveling, building my business, enjoying whoever I am with at that moment or simply enjoying a new adventure, like a BBQ run!

However, It does feel like I have been a little too busy. I might need to take a break for a day. I don’t mean hold up on writing just maybe everything else. Even if I do not post everyday I always find time to write!!! It is my passion. I love all my God given gifts, I have been given, but writing is my all time favorite. It provides me with freedom to feel each emotion and all possible solutions or outcomes.

When I am writing the world seems to stand atill. Almost as if I am frozen in time. I hear the outside sounds however, when I am writing they become extraordinary background music. Motor running in the distance to the North East. Birds tweeting with a different pitch on each chord, crickets chirping an old S-10 speeds down the road accelerating almost like he hopes to arrive at his home before it breaks down and a talking Tom cat named Tommy prances the perimeter of my front yard meowing every step. Yes I have distractions, but I am content if the words are flowing.

Know what makes your world stand still and do more of that! If it is walking, take time to walk everyday. If you love live performances, find more to attend. Enjoy your life by doing more that fills your heart with happiness.

God Loves You$

Livelove

If you stir poop with a stick does it smell worse?

The answer to my question is pretty obvious. Yes, a pile of resting cow manure, if stirred even the slightest, can smell up an entire area! Why does it matter? It really doesn’t however, it is good to know.

Life is similar to this. I realize sometimes, open discussion is the only way to heal. However, to stand and stir the pile to say you enjoy the aroma is ludicrous. When in a healing mode, get in patch the wound to allow it to heal on its own, then get out! Try not to stay in the smelly area and continue to stir and dig deeper, the outcome will not smell like roses, I promise.

When you are living in the midst of a pile of manure, you do not want to stay there do you? Also, haven’t we established that learning from the past is all you can do? You can not alter or change what has already been done, can you?

If you agreed with the above questions then put your stick down, right now! Change your conversations to exciting upcoming events, planning new adventures and creating a happier paradigm. Let the healing continue in the background.

To wrap it up! The more you stir poop the worse it smells. Let the decomposers do their job and you go ahead and create a better smelling future.

Deez Butts Bar-B-Que

Along the side of interstate 65 South, there is a marvelous sign advertising one of the world’s most awesome flea markets! Not sure what exit, but I know it is in Shepherdsville Kentucky. As we traveled to Bowling Green for a family reunion, last Saturday a new sign caught my eye. Dee’s Butt BBQ. It was adorable.

Of course, I must provide you with a scene: I am driving down the interstate, on a time line, mom is in the passenger’s seat. We are chit chatting back and forth. She is making fun of me for being Ms. Social Butterfly in Dollar Store and appears to be fretting over the time frame because we are supposed to be at the reunion by 1 o’clock, their time. She hasn’t told me she is worried, but I know. However, I had planned accordingly and was confident we would arrive promptly at 1.

Then it happened once again! I saw the sign of the cute pig, with her back to us and it was advertising some of the best BBQ in the area. The first sign I ignored. Then the second sign appeared and I believe there was a third, but secretly I might have made that up! My body was screaming BBQ, my mind was saying, “Do it. Turn off. You have time. Enjoy the journey if BBQ is what you want, stop and pick it up.”

I decided to make myself almost nauseated so I had an excuse! Finally, the exit was coming up…what do I do? My palms are sweaty, my stomach is burning for fear of what mommy is going to do or say. I knew I was about to upset her. I Weave in and out of traffic, Oh know a trucker has pulled between me and the exit! Oh forget it, I will eat at the reunion. I dropped my head and just kept listening. It’s okay I know we need to arrive on time. Truthfully, I didn’t need any BBQ anyways. (Keep reading I will tell you about my infatuation with BBQ and why I think I have it!) I was sad, but it’s okay maybe next time!

PSYCHE! Are you kidding me? If you have read anything I have written lately, you will know I miss nothing that is fun and adventurous! Yes, a truck did pull between me and the glorious BBQ! However, I checked behind me, braked, zipped over and shew I made it!!! Now, where is that BBQ?

In her mind, my mother was freaking out, but I reassured her, we would arrive at the family reunion no later than 1 o’clock!

We drove down the road a bit, searching for Dee’s. I must admit I was becoming concerned! What if I don’t find it, I should have stuck to the course. Then the arrow appeared this way to BBQ! Oh no!!!!! It is at the Flea Market! We drove in the gigantic parking lot, booths everywhere, people shopping, signs of corn dogs, fresh veggies and lemon shake-ups, but no BBQ. Finally, someone pointed to the building and told me it was inside. Left mom in the car and I was on the hunt. Funniest thing ever! When I walked in and requested more specific directions, it was on the opposite end of the building. When I finally reached destination Dee’s Butts, a line of twenty people or more were standing there just as excited as me. I will admit I almost turned around, but my heart kept saying no you deserve this, you have come too far, a little wait will not hurt you.

The line moved pretty quickly and I was up to order. I picked it up and went as fast as I could to the car. We stopped at a gas station and gobbled it up. As for the BBQ, it was good. I would definitely recommend Deez Butts Bar-B-Que,  in Shepherdsville Kentucky.

You see, it wasn’t all about the BBQ. It was more about the feeling attached to wandering off the course. Yes, I will admit these BBQ cravings have become hilarious since I broke my leg. I don’t know if my body is craving the protein, for healing or if it is something else. However, I now love BBQ and I love to stop, chase down a stand and enjoy the feeling of hmmm…let’s call it Big Butts BBQ. I love the adventure, I love to taste it and savor it.

We arrived at ten till one and everyone was happy to see us. It turned out to be a magnificent day visiting with family, eating more food and being together. (The BBQ was a precursor to how amazing our trip was going to be!)

If it is BBQ or canoeing it doesn’t really matter what brings you joy, but if you want more joy then do more of whatever it is. There are many paths to take in life, the greatest part is you get to choose when to change paths or want to continue on. Live to be happy!!! You deserve it.

Livelove

Watch “Abraham Hicks 2017 – Curing Mental Ilness” on YouTube

Wow! Fell asleep at 9 PM last night only to be awaken with nausea and frustration at 3 AM. I am unsure why however, I crawled out of bed, gathered some necessary items to calm my stomach and then laid down. Now it is 5 AM and I am still awake. 

I have meditated, blogged, tossed and turned, but nothing seemed to help. I finally decided to listen to an Abraham-Hicks on you tube. The message was so powerful I had to share with you. 

Listen to the lady recovering from mental illness! She is on a terrific path. However, can anyone identify a relatable message from one of my previous writings? Of course, it is her paradigm holding her back. She ‘worries’ about what people think. Why? Because of her past issues. This is what I was explaining…learn from the past, but do not live there.

This is a great recording! 

Life is waiting for you to enjoy. You create your own reality? Yes, therefore begin this day…this Monday morning to change your conversation about yourself. If you have struggled with mental illness in the past then leave it there. Who are you now? Not 15 years ago! Live for today! What do you have planned fun today? Anything? If not search for the fun moment throughout the day. Then right before you crawl in the bed write down at least fun or funny times you had, throughout the day. Can’t find many? Then begin planning for tomorrow. What will I do for fun tomorrow? Tuesday evening, write it down again. Repeat this until your conversations consist of how much ‘fun’ you are having. Before long all you will have to talk about is how much fun life is and how when you think it, it happens! 

  1. If others around you do not appear to be amused or as inspired, send them a pink bubble in your mind, full of laughing gas and it burst in their face. Only to force that person into a contagious laughter!
  2. Do not be afraid to tell the people you love and enjoy to be around, if their negativity or hateful words are hurting you. They may not understand at first but it won’t take long for them to catch on. 
  3. Most importantly enjoy! Be happy with the process or journey of life through finding your joy. 

Livelove

Continue to hate it, but this was a little bit better, but there must be a better way!

Purchasing a car sucks! I have been here for 3 hours, I know right, this is crazy. I have a great sales representative,  but if I were to be super honest, I just think the entire automobile industry and the purchasing of a car, is as bad as going to the dentist and receiving a root canal. 

I mean let’s think about it! You spend a fortune buying a car, it takes damn near all day. Also you are continually being repremanded for driving too much and putting miles on your car. Why do we purchase a car? In reality you buy it to drive it. However, no matter what I walk away feeling like crap and need a nap. Similar to a root canal. I will continue to say it, “There must be a better way!” 

This time I wrote a letter stating what I wanted and moved forward. I am not excited about the past three hours. Instead I am wore out, my friendly disposition is swiftly changing. Just take my money and let me sign my life away. If you are reading this please allow me to apologize. I am trying to grab a feel good vibration. I guess I can share with you the letter I wrote to give to the dealer, so we were on the same playing field. (I will include the letter on my next post)

I must take a moment to shout out Rob Mac, at the Kia store in Louisville Kentucky. Although my sweet disposition was quickly diminshing because of the three hour wait; he did fill all my expectations from my letter. He was amazing! He was honest, kind, caring, provided me with options and he has many years of experience. Therefore, if you must proceed to purchase a vehicle in Kentucky, he is your man. He continually let me ramble, he answered any question and although the ‘paper work’ took forever for me to purchase my car from a lease, he was an amazing representative. (Please tell him I sent you, if you decide to search him out.

A little word of advice only lease a car if you live in a metropolitan area. If you live in a rural area look at your sales representative and say at the end of this lease (maybe before the lease up) I will have over 75000 miles on it and if and when they respond witb, “That is not a problem.”

Simply request, “Type it up and give it to me to have notarized.”

Next, file it with your paper work because unless you live  only 15 miles from work and you have one child, this is not the deal for you.

For example: You would drive 31200 miles in a four year time period, transporting yourself, to and from work, driving 30 miles a day, only 5 days a week. That provides you with approximately 16800 miles to ‘play with’ spread out over four years. Which leaves you with 4200 miles each year. Therefore, be careful how many sports events you allow your children to be in, don’t forget you need to purchase a rental car for those fast break get away weekends, but you couldn’t drive your car because it might add an extra 1000 miles to the mileage which will in turn create a great deal of turmoil later on. What? Did you guys read that last paragraph? That was crazy!! I still question why insurance companies allow this new insurance which is entitled Gap insurance.

The title Gap insurance, which I recently learned is required with a lease, should give us a clue as to how ridiculous, the leasing of an automobile, is for many consumers. But especially those who choose to live away from a metropolitan area. 

Okay I am done discussing this. It turned out terrific. Yes, I owe to much on my car now, yes I still have too many miles on my car, but I have enjoyed every mile and will continue to drive. Open the sun roof, turn up the radio and let it fly! The only difference is now ‘Fancy’ is now mine and I have less limitations. 

I am sorry if this was a bit on the negative side. I truly want this message to assist consumers. It is fine if you tool around town, for you to Lease an automobile, but if you live more than 15 miles from work or play, my advice to you is, buy your car!

Have a blessed day!!! 

Livelove