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21? No way!

Yes, it is true I have a baby girl who turns 21 today. I remember the day quite well. By early in the morning on the 17th we decided she wasn’t coming therefore, why bother returning to the hospital, lol.

I had been admitted on the 16th and when nothing happened, I came home to see my four year old, Darion. Only to return the next morning for more poking and prodding. She was determined to stay, nesting in the womb enjoying mommy singing and walking her around.

It was an amazing day! We were calm upon entering the labor and delivery, had created a plan for Darion to come to the hospital and went in to finally hold this bundle of joy.

I can remember when they held this beautiful child up and said, “Meet your baby girl, Ashby Mae Drake.”

Tears streamed down my face. Of course I was elated, but I was also like that three month old, came out of me? You see, my first child was five pounds ten ounces. However, Ashby broke that record of having teeny tiny babies…she was nine pounds five ounces! Shew!!! She was mad! It was cold and she couldn’t get those screams to form words fast enough, therefore she screamed louder and sometimes in different pitches almost like she was auditioning for the voice, as a two minute old!

Everyone in the labor and delivery were scattered and shattered once Ashby had arrived. I realize that it’s normal for a delivery staff to be chaotic, but it’s how extreme the chaos was. I remember one nurse, who was tending to me, turned and as politely as she could said, “Okay, who is in charge of making sure Miss Ashby is happy!”

Really? Her first few minutes of life and she begins with that? And guess what? They did just that. People were scrambling, passing her from person to person, swaddling her to keep her warm and finally between me, Darion and Meemaw some how she became satisfied.

It was like a snap of the fingers and we are spinning around and she is 21!

The essence of Ashby…she has always loved all animals from snakes & reptiles to kittens & rats and everything in between. There was not an animal she couldn’t tame with a flick of her wrist and pick it up. Spanky the iguana, no one handled except Ashby Mae. She has been a visual artist since I can remember. By the time she was able to hold a pen in her hand, she has been drawing, way before she was walking. Her favorite way to paint from a year old on was in her birthday suit.

One time Eric had unannounced work clients come in from out of town, he called and said, “Some friends are coming over after work can you ask Ashby to dress?”

Her free spirit will take you on a whirlwind, similar to a plethora of Fall leaves being scooped up and dancing along the waves of the breeze. Then other times her vast interest in making the world a better place, but also ensuring all is fair in the world of Ashby, she will be more like a gust of wind.

Her essence of believing you can do anything is magnificent. Her determination to succeed is phenomenal. I remember when she was 15 she told me SHE would be in California by the time she was a Jr. In highschool. Of course, silly me doubted her! Boy was I wrong.

She began that day looking for reputable agents, (not the horrific experience we had at Cosmo, don’t do that). She found Wings in Cincinnati and the whirlwind had just begun. With in months we were attending workshops, meeting with several agents and finally she had decided on Jake Lang, who told her, “I am not sure you can do this.” ( I now know he knew exactly what he was doing).

Next thing I know, we are booking flights to Texas for expo, making new friends and signing on! For what? Oh sorry, of course Ashby was signed and expected to be where? By when? Yes!! California by February.

Those are just a few examples of the essence of Ashby Mae Drake. She has bedazzled us all since the afternoon of October 17th, twenty one years ago.

Thank you for being a great daughter and I love you! You are beautiful. Looking forward to many more!

God Bless

Livelove

I love birthdays!!!!

Hey yall it was my birthday and I want you to know I loved it! Yes, I am super grateful for the hundreds of good wishes, it reminds me of how grateful and blessed I truly am! However, I love birthdays for another reason!

They provide me with a little more knowledge, peace of mind and illuminate newly developed expertise!!! This birthday has been amazing. We began with Darion’s bday, the first of this week and although she was sick, we recreated happy times as we reminisced from years ago or even moments ago. We giggled, cooked, tried to shop and napped when she needed some recover time. (She is much better). It was kind of like a blast from the past when my entire world revolved around her. Now it is my birthday!

Everyone is preparing to go out for a day of Renaissance Festival. And create new memories. Then in two weeks Ashby is turning 21! I have decided October will be a revamp month and vacation month for LiveloveLLC. Because our birthdays begin October 2 and extend thru the 17th. But if I included my aunts, uncles and cousins it is the entire Fall season.

Oh well it doesn’t matter I LOVE THE Month of October!! This is my time to reflect, reorganize and recreate who, what, when, where, why and how!! In my life! I glance backwards to celebrate my accomplishments as well as my down falls (or valleys). I write down what I need to remember and relish in the good feeling moments. After all I have an entire year of new skill sets to add to my list of experiences and expertsise.

This year has been the most diverse, when I discuss feelings. I went from estatic, to zombie, confused, fearful, grateful and now blessed emotions. Since my birthday October the 8th marks not only my years of living, but it also marks the tenth month anniversary of my accident.

I sometimes wish you could take a sneak peek into my mind. Oh that’s right, you do, if you are reading my blog.

Many people, becuase they don’t know what to say, will make funny comments like, “I bet you look before you step off a curb now. Or wow, Teena, the nail salon was that close and you had walked so far, you were just at the wrong place at the wrong time.”

My response is and always will be, “Nope! I wouldn’t change a thing!”

Why? You ask? Am I crazy?

Maybe, but I will say this, I didn’t think I could have ever been happier. I truly didn’t see how limited I chose to live my life. I now see how in the past I focused on what is and created many more mountains out of mole hills. How do I know this? Because now I have had the unique opportunity to feel through the past and recognize how those fears, worries and times of hatred are diluted…to a watered down memory.

Yes, I still remember a very few of the negative stressful events that if brought up can create a ‘ugh’ emotion. However, they are far and few between. Sometimes, I bring them to my concious attention to prove to my brain the unimportance of the event!

Take time to reflect on a feeling good time and then try to bring it down. It becomes and effort because your feelings are like, “Nope, you can’t mess with me right now, I am enjoying this replay.”

Darion cracked me up, as I asked her to practice this simple but mind provoking task. “Think, sweetie, of a time in you paradigm that you remember feeling pure joy.”

She replied with story after story about the event and the emotional attachment. Her concious mind would try to block her and remind her of a not so good feelings or time. But it didn’t matter she would redirect quickly and carry on about how awesome the great feelings were after a special memory was activated.

If you are celebrating an exciting event, anniversary or birthday take time to reflect and grab a good feeling emotion to hold on to. Then you will be ready to receive the next gift of living a happy, full and fun life!

God Bless

Livelove

Sad moments will pass too

As moments or fun times come to an end everyone feels a little bit of a let down. At least I do. After vacation I always have a few moments of- I want to return to no stress, dancing and relaxing. However, I have learned that the closing of one chapter, means an opening to a brand new chapter.

New adventures, new destinations, fun times and the creation of new memories!

I sometimes feel like a broken record when I write over and over again. However, my statements are true. If you will wait just a few moments, this too will pass. When you are sad, take time to ask yourself, “Why am I sad?”

Next, allow yourself to be just that, sad. Not to a level of depression, where all you focus on is the sad state of mind you are in, but rather just a little cry, maybe a snack and a popcorn night. The point is allow yourself to feel the emotional attachment to whatever you are feeling down about.

Buttttttt.. set a time for when you are going to be over it. For example: When my daughter, son and Mark left today, I will admit I cried and felt a little lost for a moment. I have just felt a little bla all day. However, tomorrow morning is a new day!

I have set my time to begin a new day tomorrow. I found something to be excited about. In one week we will be heading to Nashville for a bash for Ashby’s 21. My website is in ffw because Rhian is amazing and many other events are evolving.

Could I continue to be sad and think of what is? Absolutely! I could take this small emotion and let it carry over into multiple days and even weeks or months.

Why? Why would I do that? Why? Why would you do that? I am sure some of you reading this could provide me with a long list of whys, how’s, shoulds, could and woulds.

Please read this carefully! It’s okay how long you choose to grieve, be depressed and focus in what is! However, it’s your responsibility to understand the entire world will not stop for a long time to help you pull yourself back together.

As one of my dear friends, who has buried two of their children, explained, “When you suffer a loss so great, which any loss is great, it’s only you who can decide what to do with your life. If I wanted to remember theirs deaths I would/could. But I chose to focus on their lives and create a life surrounded around doing good for others, in their names.”

Life is short. We all have, days and moments where we feel irritable, angry or simply sad. As Jack Cannefield explains, “Event + Reaction = Outcome.”

Please, as our country appears to have so many negatives and the world seems to have taken a nightmare pill, I beg of you to find the good in all situations and focus your energy on just that. Yes, there is always a time for everything! A time to mourn, a time to laugh, a time to pray and a time for cry. But if you want to be part of the solution and not yet another meaningless contribution to more fear being instilled in us, then begin today! Find the happiness in your heart, in your home, in your world! There is goodness all around you, how? Take time to focus in on the good in all situations. Listen to what you speak, does it illuminate the ‘bad’? Does it provide goodness to anyone? Does it create a happy feeling in your soul? If your last two answers were no, please take this message and utilize it.

Not trying to sound preachy or even demanding, I simply want you to understand how much you really do make a difference. You choose is your impact or legacy involving a positive and happy change in your life as well as those around you? If yes, then hooray, keep up the good vibrations. If not, then if not now? When? You choose!

If you are struggling with anything right now, I want you to know I just sent you a great amount of ‘Happy energy’ , it may feel a bit strange at first, but take the feeling and enjoy! That energy was attached yo this reading, just for you. Feel the cool breeze, feel the refreshing thoughts of feeling terrific. Smile really big and now accept your gift!

The song Ooooooo child things are gonna get easier… continues to play in my head as I read, edit and reread this post. It’s true hang on just a little longer it’s going to get better!!!

God Bless!

Livelove

Twenty Five!

I can’t believe it! Twenty five years ago Eric Drake, mommy and I, at four in the morning were driving to Kings Daughters Hospital in Madison Indiana. It was a cool, crisp, October morning and I can remember thinking and praying, “Lord, help me thru this and Please Please let me be a good mommy! It was 1992, I was six days shy of my twenty first birthday, Eric was 22 and working his butt off to make ends meet. I remember thinking this pregnancy can’t be over! (I loved being pregnant). It was similar to a journey down a path with another spirit, yet you can’t see them. She was always with me. Responded to my every move, she helped choose what we ate each day, she continued to push me to take care of myself. When she began to force her way out, it almost felt like she was ripping my insides out with her, but she was ready to see this earthly life. She was ready to create her own experiences, live, love and enjoy her life. The afternoon before our trip, to the hospital was beautiful, although I was really aggitated. Mommy called and I demanded she come meet me at the house. I whined so much Eric took me for a ride, on the back roads. Tim Perkinson, Ricky White and Jarod Stark were at the house, when we returned. Oh mommy as well. One look at me and she knew! Mom watched me cook supper, work around the house (which didn’t need to be cleaned), and breathe heavy, occasionally. It didn’t take long for her to look at Eric and say, “We are having a baby tonight, you need to rest up!” Eric turned white as a ghost and almost immediatly went to bed. Poop (Tim’s nickname) stayed with mom and I, to watch the rest of Fried Green Tomatoes. Oh and we can’t forget, we ate marshmallow cream and peanut butter. I was now having contractions 10 to 15 minutes apart. (We all acted like it was no big deal) The next part was hilarious! I don’t know why, but I decided I would drive Tim home. Why, either of them let me drive I will never know. Probably, I was super stubborn and demanded to drive. (Hmmm that sounds about right). It wasn’t that far! I remember the sky was almost black, with a few cirrus clouds, glowing with the reflection of the gigantic full moon! As we slowly creeped up the hill, where the headlights beamed, straight ahead, I had one of the worst contractions, I had ever experienced. About that time I slammed the gas pedal down, forcing my car to almost ramp the hill, heading down to his house. Mom and Poop screamed, then immediately stopped themselves only to hold their breath, in hopes of survival of the small, but tedious road trip. I almost came to a stop, when yep, it hit again and a repeat event happened! When Poop jumped out of the car he was terrified, his face was almost transparent, and all he could say was, “Goodluck, I will see you tomorrow.” The next four hours were touch and go! Until I began hitting the wall and rocking back and forth. Mom went to get Eric and we were off to the hospital! The next morning we had a beautiful baby girl! She was our surprise gift! Our family and friends came to support us. And our lives changed forever! It was an amazing day. You know, as I reflect and visualize for the future, I always want to share with you. LIFE is… What you make it! Eric Drake and I has no idea what we were doing October 2nd 1992! We had very little money, little life experience and yet all we knew is we loved this little human/spirit/baby girl more than words could express. She had colic for her first six weeks of life. I can remember we would trade off sleeping one hour at a time. We had our electric shut off once and our water a couple of times! However, Listen up!!! We made it! Twenty-five years later all those struggles are now funny memories! If you are struggling, right now…Please remember take everything in twos. I know most people will tell you, “One step at a time!” I do agree, but for me it has always been twos. If you can take one step why not two! If you can make it thru two seconds, two minutes, two hours, two days, two weeks!!! You can make it! I know you have sad times and struggles, but you got this!!! I have looked back over my twenty five years with this beautiful young lady and all four of our children and realized the difficult times become diluted and almost more cherished, because they always illuminate a growth period of awesomeness! A time where we all came together, depended on each other and were grateful for the good times!

Life is meant to be lived. You will struggle, you will have losses, but no matter what if you will stop, wait and focus forward in whatever ‘two’ realm you need, at the time; you will be like me and look back over twenty five years in amazement and visualize the future as even better!!! Here’s to you kid! Thanks for the greatest journey from October 2nd 1992, until now! Looking forward to many more adventures and living! I love you Darion Alley Drake!! Thank you for being an amazing daughter!

Sunshine is all you need…

Wake up sleepy head!! Have you ever questioned why you don’t hear your alarm? Why you might struggle with rolling out of bed? Hmmm I might have the answer. Look for the sunshine or clean out your clutter so the sun can peak through. Many times we don’t hear our alarm because of the negative focus. Instead attempt to see and allow the sunshine to beam in.

My Baw Baw always said, “A little sunshine is all you need.”

I hear her singing, as she always did, 🎶You Are My Sunshine, My Only Sunshine, You make me happy when skys are gray, you will never know dear how much I love you!🎶 I wonder if a little sunshine can go a long way?

I watch the raging natural disasters, political controversy and human suffering, only to be reminded of the sun will rise again. Today is a new day.

Is there good in the world today? I will let you decide.

I watch as the rescuers silently listen for a small sound of life in the middle of what once seemed to be a sturdy building, but now is a pile of rubble. I instantly feel the warmth of the sun beaming through when a small cry is heard and as the little boy was pulled out, safe and sound, the entire crowd paused for a minute to celebrate, ANOTHER LIFE SAVED HOORAY! The crowd cheered. However, with in an instant the fist goes up and the crowd is silenced. In hopes to find yet another one.

Another group of people found a man stranded in his truck, with raging waters swiftly taking him away. Oh but wait, what is that? A human chain forming, each depending on one another’s strength to ensure another will live.

Animal lovers risk their lives to search, find and feed the beloved animals. Keep the sunshine coming!

As water pours into an arena where many had went to, for shelter, a group of people, formed a circle and prayed together. They didn’t ask what religion are you nor did they shun or judge. Keep the sunshine coming.

Listen up! Devastation happens. I can not explain why. However, I can change my focus and so can you. You see it does create a sad feeling, when you think of the devastating effects of a natural disaster. However, I promise the sun will rise again and the aftermath is super natural. One by one people come together and they are sunshine beaming-bright and strong.

God bless

Livelove

Word of the day, Cultivate

While listening to the phenomenal speakers @earlybird toastmasters Overland Park Kansas, the word of the day was, Cultivate! As I chose the word carefully it was not because I had planned on learning such a vast amount from its very existance, but rather out of need. The main title was Embracing Change. I felt like with harvest season upon our farmers and as sales reps run around to meet the fourth quarter’s quota it ‘fit’ the theme of the day.

However, it has become much more over the past twenty four hours. Think about it if you do not cultivate your plants, you will be empty handed, and have nothing at harvest time. Same pertains to businesses, relationships, families and friends. It is an essential to living a wonderful life, yet probably the most missed step in development.

Think about it! Have you or your company, grown by leaps and bounds because you didnt cultivate your environment? Maybe, but it won’t last long. If you do not cultivate your relationships/environment/yourself, you will quickly find yourself without. Without your lively hood and your dreams will swirl out of sight.

That was super sad! Now you can understand why the one word I chose for the day has become a game changer. The more I thought about the word, the more powerful it became!

Yes, you must plant the seed to be able to cultivate it. However, we wouldn’t be discussing this topic if you hadn’t planted the seed. Why? Because if you haven’t found the initiative to get up and plant the seed then you will have nothing in the end, NO MATTER WHAT!!!

Did you follow that? If not it is worth reading it again (I don’t want to type it twice, so go ahead and scroll back up and read it again).

Anywhoooo, here is your new and improved thought of the day, have fun cultivating your life! Don’t struggle with this! It’s time to enjoy going to your career or place of employment. It’s time to feel accomplished and appreciated. You do deserve it and the more you expect it the more you will receive it.

Cultivate with love this week above all else!

God Bless

LiveloveLLC

Just Do It…

Don’t you hate chnage? Do you wish all your dreams could come true, over night? As the days go by and you plan one more step, to achieving your dreams and goals, as well as having that lavish lifestyle; do you find yourself feeling anxiety and fear of the unknown?

Here is the best advice I have to give…Find A BETTER THOUGHT! Is this an easy task? Not at first it is not, but if you keep trying each day, focusing on the rich abundance, you already have and that which is quickly on its way, you will begin to see those controlled visions appear. Yes, it will happen one by one!

I look for the good in each moment however, just like you, I slip back into the more easy habit of observing what is. Therefore, how do I JUMP on another frequency of thought? Every morning, of everyday, before I crawl out if bed I say, “Thank you, for everything in my life working out for the best for me. I love you Teena Drake and I am happy you woke up!”

Now, if you felt a little cringe or sadness when you read what I say, then find your own positive statement. It doesn’t have to be mine. And yes, I have mornings where my brain, vibration and entire being will say back to me (in my head), “Shutup!” I am afraid, what if I never make it? Why couldn’t I choose a career that I just do my job and receive a pay check? Why do you always have to be focusing on something bigger and why do you care if you help others? They don’t care?”

See I probably just demonstrated more doubt than you have ever felt. You are probably thinking wow, Teena I don’t think that much about myself. Lol!! Those days for me are far and few between however, I do have them. Usually when I allow anyone to project their own fears on me. Because listen up!!!! (This is the most important part I am about to write today!!!!!) Other people ONLY FIND FAULT in OTHERS, when they hate their OWN FAULTS or FEARS!

Most people, especially your close friends and family, never want to see you hurt or disappointed. That’s why they appear to be negative towards some of your new ideas, not because they ‘hate’ you, but rather they do not understand you. They also fear you will be let down or hurt! I know I am guilty of this, everyone is. For example, one of my kids called and asked about a job opportunity. Instead of just being excited at that moment my concious mind, then my mouth, began thinking and saying, what if? Oh don’t forget to say or do this!

The entire time my mouth is moving and my ears are listening to my stupid advice, I am thinking, What the hell are you doing or saying? However, it’s my own fear for them that began this chaotic conversation.

Now, I try not to react or if I feel myself doing this I stop and say, “You know mom loves you no matter what! Please attempt to erase those what ifs, please. I only want to always protect you. However, me trying to discourage or hender you is not my intention.”

Then the next time they will want to share with me.

Okay, let’s get back to you, yourself and you! If you feel it do it!!! If you are on a magical, whimsical adventure and you know in your heart you are on the right track, do it! Yes, fear will creep in. You will have moments of doubt, but remember everything is working out best for YOU TO ENJOY THIS GIFT OF LIFE!

For example, most of you know I am opening a new company, actually it is evolving by leaps and bounds. As I attempt one approach and then another. As I begin each day with, “I accept and expect everything to work out in perfect harmony for me today.”

I see events, people and opportunities appearing on a daily basis. Some days I think, okay this can go a little faster. Then I will switch my thought and someone will call, message me or have a wonderful conversation that will lead me into, ” I am the new proud CEO of Livelove LLC.”

The rest is history. Everyone wants to be happy, find peace and love. Therefore, once they ask, “What does your company do?

I respond with, “I share with you my life’s work, studying people and their perspectives of happiness. Next, together we will find the necessary tools for YOU to Be Happy!”

Now when I say that statement at first everyone stares at me for just a moment in, what I think is, a contemplation mode then they say, “When do we begin?”

You can begin today! I will be estatic to meet you if you FEEL the desire to sign up for one of our ‘Happy Classes.’ However, if you can’t make it to one, or can’t wait, you aren’t lost! Wakeup each day and find a desirable and believable to you statement. Say it then take the leap of faith and DO what you are led to do that day! I promise living like this is more fun than having doubt, worry or fear!

One more thing before I go!!! Look everyone I am scared to death to share this information with you, but I FEEL someone needs it. If you don’t need it please just skip over this part of my blog!!!

I have a special gift/service that someone may need. I can read Angel Cards and help you through some issues you might be hanging on to! (This is not anything creepy or weird and you do not have to be religous to believe).

Why am I scared to share, I just do not want to offend anyone. However, this is fun, easy and provides you with a little boost, when making a tough or not clear decision.

Anywhoooo..

I will be at several destinations for now Kansas, Tennessee, Kentucky, Indiana, and Ohio to name the ones that are for sure! And for all my friends and family in Kauai I will be there and can be available a couple of days in November. (If Mamaw doesn’t mind)

If you would rather be incognito or don’t have time to wait for me to announce the pop up destination, you can email me, @Livelove.Teena@gmail.com or message me Teena Drake.

This is fun and extremely helpful. I have a long long list of friends who will edify my work, if you are one of those who needs to check out references!

Back to the topic!!! (Sorry I kept getting the message someone needs that information and no worries everyone, this is JUST as effective over the internet).

Just Do It! Is your message today! You are wonderful and terrific!

God Loves You No Matter What!

Livelove LLC