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One two buckle my shoe…

Three four shut the door, five six pick up sticks…you know the rest of the nursery rhyme. I know it sounds silly, but all my mind has let me do, for several days, is repeat nursery rhymes over and over. Jack be Nimble, Mary had a Little Lamb and so on. Why?

One reason, is my baby boy is off to college and I continually reflect back to the simple times of nursery rhymes. Each time I feel a little sad I think of another one, say it, then become a little relieved with a smile and a giggle. The cycle repeats itself each time we dig through an old box or give away some old action figures.

I am excited about the next adventures in our lives. I am estatic while watching Nicholas grow into a beautiful young man, who is following his heart. He has a plan and is sticking to it.

When I become teary eyed he wraps his big arms around me and says, Mom, I love you and it’s gonna be okay!”

I KNOW, I KNOW! I wouldn’t want to have children who weren’t thriving and following their bliss! I know I can’t fix up the house enough to entice them to stay with me and nor would I want that. However, at this moment at 6 AM, I feel like gathering them all up and saying,”Okay, change of plans! Today, we are all going to curl up on the couch and read Dr. Suess. Or hey let’s go to McDonald’s play land!”

Back to the nursery rhymes…Little Miss Muffett, Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall…yes, I know it’s a bit creepy. All I can say it is my brains way of coping with the ‘adulting.’ When I become fearful of the changes, I search for something from their childhood that is simple.

Aren’t these emotions normal? As I read my sister-n-law’s blog “When the kids grow up” or @Jennifer Reynolds Drake on Facebook, I feel comforted and realize, I am not alone. Her last paragraph (which I will share her post after I complete this writing) sums it up best: “And now we can settle in the fact that we’ve raised our kids to the best of our ability, we’ve entrusted them into His hands, and that the biggest growth comes from change.”

I realize change is inevitable. I am evolving to a level I have only dreamed of, in the past. Why now? Because for the past twenty six years I have been in my bliss being a mommy. And YES, Jenny, you are correct they still need me and will continue to call, I know that, but it is a little scary.

As for today, I am continuing to reflect on the funny memories and looking ahead to the next chapter. Most importantly I am enjoying each moment in the present! All we have is Right now! Take time to find your moment or nursery rhyme to bring you to a moment of sweetness and enjoy where you are right now.

One-two buckle my shoe, three-four shut the door, five- six pick up sticks, seven- eight lay them straight, Nine-ten let’s do it again, PLEASE!

God Bless!

Livelove

When you hear_____: Do you think______?

I remember studying psychology in my freshman year of college and being intrigued with the way the human mind thinks and functuons. I love its complexity yet simplicity almost appearing to be twins. Then I began to study fun topics like life, living, law of attraction and the brain, which I now know, has been one of my greatest competitors! 

What? My brain is a competitor? Yes, when I began to practice happy thoughts and emotional attachments, I realized my brain was being a big bully! I know this seems a bit bizarre. However, keep following me and you too may need to do what Zig Ziglar says, “A check up from the neck up!”

Each time I would begin to look up, dream big, or advance, my brain would compare past incidents. For example: I would visualize about being a great motivational speaker, well known by all, as a ray of sunshine. (Similar to mother Teresa but much louder and out spoken.) Yet my brain would reflect and scramble for a memory to relate it to. Don’t get me wrong if I had a good memory of a business, that I was extremely successful at, then she would insert that feel good emotion or memory. However, because of my lack of positive background knowledge or past experiences that brought me wealth, my brain reflects on a negative experience. Why? To protect and serve me ( and you). In other words, if we are continuously trying to stay in a feel good vibration, enjoying life at its greatest lengths, then our brain will challenge any idea that might create us harm. Becoming our greatest competitors when changing our lives. 

My messages have been loud and clear, lately. It is human nature to seek a happy, feel good vibration. Thrill seekers seek thrilling events, lovers seek out a partner to have fun with, drug users either seek out an escape, almost a thrill yet others use to fit in, because their brains do not function like everyone elses. No matter what; human nature is to live to be happy and have fun!!! Instead many of us are living against our feel good emotions; we are living against our life purpose. It’s time to evolve and find pure happiness. 

How do you know what your life purpose is? I am not positive on the how, but I know that we are to live to be happy. We all choose the way we live. We choose our careers, activities, friends, our salary, and anything else related to our lives. Yes, we will experience difficult times, but we still choose how we react and how we feel. 

If everytime you begin a conversation and the other person says something you connect with negatively. Try it again…and again until you find a feel good conversation. In other words your main objectives is to be happy and if your daily activities or conversations are not happy then change them. Yes all of them. 

If everytime  you hear something you reflect on a negative connatation or situation or you pass judgement on someone because of how they were twenty five years ago, change it! This process may take a bit of effort. However, I promise it’s worth it!!! Life is meant to live, enjoy, laugh, and have fun. Feel the feel good emotion, feel your way to happiness. Will you have small moments of sadness? Yes, but once you have decided to live in a constant state of happiness, fun and joy, you will not ever want to continue in that state of yuk! Or aadness, negativity. You will quickly win over your competitor the brain and provide him/her with a new ‘feel good’ emotion!! 

Livelove

God Loves You No Matter What!

Love you!!!! 

Why Grow Up?

Someone made the comment to me, “Teena will you ever grow up?” 

I remember thinking, hmmmm no I do not plan on it. Truly, I have already been there and done that. I can remember teaching with my friends and me telling them, I love kids because they haven’t accepted all the judgements, concerns, and hypocrisy of adulthood, yet.

When I say I have already done that, I have. You see as parents we are forced to ‘grow up’ or as I entitle it, conforming to society’s demands. However, I always searched for a way to spice life up a bit, by creating a fun yet safe environment to just be free.

While discussing parenting with some friends we all agreed, we should call and thank our parents for keeping us alive becausee we were fearless at one time. No barriers or connection to fear.

I am not saying you should become frivolous and not care about anything. However, if you take time to create a list of your daily activities and it consist of work, eating, cooking, cleaning and sleeping, IT IS TIME!!! Time for you to grow down a bit. Begin searching for something fun to do once a week. After you begin this journey you will search for more and more. It will become your quest. 

If you are a parent with children at home, my advice to you, is create a family fun time and an individual one as well. When my kids were little I would take a ‘Me’ day. (Probably Eric thinks I live in a me day, now lol). When we didn’t have money to go out, I created family fun days, For example: we had Wacky Wednesdays. 

Wacky Wednesdays or Terrific Tuesdays, Freaky Fridays, it doesn’t matter about the day or title. I knew we had to eat anyways. Therefore, I would make it fun!! Sometimes it was our attire: we all had to wear a hat, a tie, our clothes inside out, or maybe even pajamas. I would light candles, play music, allow the kids to help cook and set the ambiance. There were very few limitations (safety first). Sometimes it was a disaster, but I continually remember even the disasters were beautiful. 

We did everything from desert first, colored our food, and/or special music by the Drake kids. One of my favorite memories is – the evening we had saved to purchase some nice steaks, ice cream and toppings for the ice cream. We began with allowing the kids to create a ‘snow ball’ out of ice cream and roll them in the toppings, of their choice. They ate them first because life is too short to not eat dessert first!!! 

The next portion of the evening was our delicious steaks! However, (remember I only chose to grow up for those parenting moments necessary to assist my kids to stay alive and be accepted) I thought it would be fun to food color all of our food. Therefore, I colored the mashed potatoes blue and for some reason I colored the meat with GREEN. As the evening was wrapping up we were all sitting at the table, in the dark, with at least five candles. It was beautiful. Music playing in the background all the kids were excited and then…Darion needed some ketchup. I flipped on the light, Eric had eaten half of his steak and when I shined some light on his plate, he looked at his steak and immediatly yelled!!!! “Kids don’t eat the steak!!!! It is bad meat!! Teena throw this meat away.”

I turned and looked at my wonderful husband with a puzzled look. “What are you talking about?” 

At that point I realized what was happening and I began to laugh hysterically. The kids were sitting paralyzed, appearing to be in a trance, as well as holding their breath. They all three fixed their eyes on daddy to see if he was mad. Therefore, a ten second period of silence felt like an eternity. Next we all begin to let out a little giggle and one by one each of us began laughing until our cheeks hurt.

Regardless of anything negative happening the end result was all we needed. To laugh, giggle, and let go. 

It’s time for you to choose to enjoy!!! If you have five wonderful events fall into place which creates happiness for you, yet one not so happy slips into your realm, similar to our meat incident; focus on the other five! If you can laugh at your one negative situation and quickly switch it around, then do that. No matter what take time be grateful for the good moments and guess what? More and more good moments will occur.

There is a time and a place for everything!! I agree growing up isn’t so bad! As long as you promise to return to the bliss, honesty, and freedom of being a child occasionally, you will have a great life and happiness will fill your soul.

Livelove 

God loves you no matter what!!!! 

Remember to be happy even if it requires returning to a time when your life was much more simplictic. 

You, he she– they all irritate me!!!

Do you find yourself disliking everyone? Is there something wrong with everyone? Do you continually look around and see how bad you are treated by others. Gosh, I know how you feel! It seems like everytime I turn around some one is doing something to me. The only difference in my life now is the people I am constantly attracted to love me for me. I see the beauty in me therefore, I see the beauty in others as well.

Don’t worry if you are agreeing with the first portion of the above paragraph, it’s okay I have felt the same way! There are days I still struggle with what I call, awkward moments. Where someone might rub me the wrong way or I find fault in others. However, to return to those conversations or feelings on a daily basis would be devastating. I can remember feeling competitive, compared, hurt, not good enough, irritable with others and continually finding fault. Again, Yuk even typing those words create a sick feeling in my stomach. 

Then how do I change it? It’s not difficult, but it does take effort on your part. The first few weeks of practicing this new way of thinking you may feel a colorful array of emotions. For example: when you recognize why someone is not being nice to you it may create an angry or sad emotion at first. However, keep working at it and you will be surprised at how amazing each individual, who is already in your life or comes into your life, truly is. I am in awe of my loved ones! I always use the words ‘loved ones’ because I love each individual in my life! I can not discriminate between family and friends I feel fortunate to have them all!!!

Have you ever heard of Universal Laws? Of course if you have read my past writings you have heard me speak of them. The most common laws we learn about in elementary school are Newton’s Laws. Universal Laws follow the same guidlines. The one I am speaking of today is Like Begets Like. You can easily put this into other wording yet it’s definition is the same. This one says whatever you like about other people is what you like about yourself. This law (like all laws) is nonbiased or not prejudice. In other words it doesn’t care if you like or hate-the law goes both ways. Therefore, everything you don’t like about another person you don’t like about yourself. My mother always told me if you are pointing one finger at your neighbor three are pointing back. If you are not sure about this law due to religious beliefs,; the World English Bible translates the passage as: You hypocrite! First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye.Mathew 7-5

Universal Laws are laws. They are universal. They do not discriminate against religion, ethnicity, shape, size, political party or anything else that separates us from each other. They are the same for everyone. 

How does this work? Let’s begin with a simple example. The song, I Like Big Butts and I cannot lie, is the first scenario that comes to mind. In the beginning of the song several women are talking about another girls butt! If I remember correctly they are bashing her for having such a nice, big butt. Then the song proceeds to defend and praise a big butt! Glorifying the one part the women were complaining about. I know this is a funny comparison or way to explain the law Like Begets Like, but it is fun to do and keeps it light hearted. If you were in the circle of ferocious haters of big butts, you need to step back and ask yourself why? Why does a big oh juicy booty bother you enough to complain about it? Or talk about it? In reality those women in the song didn’t like their behinds (big or small) or they lacked in that area and were just hating on the beautiful big butt. 

Okay, maybe I took that description of butts a little too far! But I guarantee I created a thought for you to begin recognizing the effects of Like Begets Like in your life. You probably know of someone that irritates you, now you can begin to identify why and how to change it.

I know I haven’t told you how to correct these awkward moments in your life. The reason is just like quitting smoking you have to want to quit. Same with changing your habitual view of yourself and the world around you only YOU CAN CHANGE IT! How? How? How?

Steps: 

  1. Learn the Universal Law
  2. Accept it! It’s true I promise as you see others is how you see yourself.
  3. If you catch yourself joining a conversation about someone else and it is not creating a great emotion, walk away or say, “I know but she has worked her love handles off to get that butt!” Anything to change the direction of the comments and converaation.
  4. If you are faced with a negative situation where you feel like the victim- take time to be alone, only to analyze why you felt sad and how you could have handled that differently.
  5. Change what you say to yourself and or about yourself. For example: I always gain weight when _________ . (Fill in the blank). Instead begin saying I love my body and I am happy to be healthy and wealthy. (I use the term Wealthy because some how America decided weight is a sign of poverty. Although carrying weight was a sign of wealth in the past!) I don’t care what you say to yourself just remember the law continues to be active no matter who you are talking about.
  6. Be cautious before you react. For many years I reacted to everything! Now I stop, think and may respond or may not. In other words it’s not about your opinion, rather your vibration. My two cents isn’t always necessary and neither is yours. Therefore, stay cautious before you react. (My grandma always said, “If you can’t say anything nice do not say it at all)
  7. Last trust yourself. Remember all good energy is flowing towards you. The more ‘likes’ you put out and the less “criticism’ the more great vibrations will migrate towards you. When you catch yourself being even silently judgemental, stop yourself, look within, and observe an area of your life you would like to improve. Then find something good to think or say about that person, redirecting the thought process.
  8. Like begets like: if you see good you will feel good more and more. (What you see in others is how you feel about yourself good or bad)

    Have fun!!! 

    Livelove 

    Always remember God loves you no matter what!!!!

    Let’s Clear One Thing UP……..

    First, if you recently followed my blog or if you have always followed I want to say THANK YOU! If you are reading for the first time, this blog is a little catch up on who I am, where I am going and how grateful I am for where I have been.

    Recently, I began a journey and decided to share it with you by blogging, here on my blog. My journey has been magnificent with ups, downs and all arounds, thus far. I wake up each morning excited about what the universe has to offer today. I smile, run to the mirror say, GOOD MORNING BEAUTIFUL WHAT A WONDERFUL DAY IT IS TO ENJOY THIS JOURNEY. I AM READY AND EXCITED ABOUT MY JOURNEY TODAY!!!!!!!!

    Okay, to be honest, I don’t jump up and scream that every morning (but after reading it, I might try it because it feels really good) nor do I wake up in a perfect mood everyday. However, I do wake up every morning anticipating what is going to be Terrific in my day. I also will admit I have a few rituals of ‘Pump Me Up’ that I perform. Sometimes it is lay there until I catch the beautiful vision I want or I will talk to myself in the mirror for a brief moment. The most important part, you understand, is my journey is to live in a vibration of feeling happy the majority of the time. The most exciting part of this journey is I am sharing it with you!

    Here is what we needed to clear up! I did have a life changing experience that reminded me of who I am. I have felt some (in my opinion very little) despair over this experience. The truth is me shattering my leg, laying in a ditch, and seven months later still trying to heal changed my life, by reminding me of my life purpose. You see I have had very few catastrophes in my life. I have suffered the loss of loved ones, but always felt the love I had for them will always keep them alive. I am sure my mother and father would tell you otherwise, but according to me my life was perfect from day one! I mean my mother didn’t name me for a couple of days and when she did come up with a name it was- Teena (unique spelling) and Gay for the middle!! What? Yes, I am telling you the only thing my accident did for me, which I am super grateful for, was to remind me of my life purpose. I was born to spread, be and teach others to be happy. To find their bliss.

    That may sound crazy, but it’s true. I can’t tell you, of anytime in my life, that I havent found something good or positive out of a situation. Not one. Therefore, if I write about despair, depression, loss please note I am in no way shape or form comparing my measly little issues with some of your horrific situations. Lately, I have read some blogs that I feel so sorry for some people. That is why I felt like you needed to know I understand everyone has issues in their life. The best I can do is offer you new tools to assist you in enjoying your time here on earth; because they are my gifts I am sharing with you.

    I am grateful for my life. I have lived a life most could only dream of. I had a strong circle of love from my family from parents to aunts/uncles, grandparents, step-parents, friends the list and circle becomes larger all the time. I married my best friend, have four beautiful children, and much more. Who am I? I don’t know, but I do know what I love and what creates a feeling of overwhelming happiness. I also know my ‘job’ ‘mission’ ‘life purpose’ ‘whatever’ you want to call it…it is to ‘be happy’ and teach you how to ‘be happy.’ Remember, what makes me happy doesn’t necessarily make you happy, but you will know when you FEEL IT!

    God Bless You! God Loves You No Matter What!

    Best Sister-n-law

    I wish for each of you to have great family member, that just knows you or get’s you. This past Christmas I was suffering a great deal and remember very little about the festivities. However, that didn’t stop Aunt Jenny from planning a head and giving me yet another amazing Christmas gift! 

    This picture is the beginning of my brand new studio! Strategically planned and placed are the pieces she gave me for my new business. The sign is Live, pillow says love and it is pink! I love it so much the entire company has formed it’s name around her idea!! 

    Before long you will be able to sign up and either attend an amazing event, coming to a city near you or purchase materials and unique gifts/books from my company entitled…Live, Love, pink! Of course it won’t mostly be about the color pink, but once it is completed you will understand the concept 😎😙.

    However, I don’t want to tell you anymore about the company because today is about my sister-n-law, who is amazingly in tune with me. Thank you Aunt Jenny for inspiring and understanding me!! You rock!!!

    Make New Memories.  

    Happy Magnificent Monday!! Everyone, that works with me or has worked with me in the past, has a Monday image of me. What is that? I love, love, love, Mondays!!!! I am not sure why but I love them, always have. This Magnificent Monday is no different. I want to share a valuable lesson I learned recently and my goal is to help you create a magnificent day too!! 

    Make new memories is the topic for today. Begin with a memory you already have. Hopefully, your brain is on auto pilot and you immediatly think of a great memory. However, it is up to you what memory you choose. This doesn’t take long to see, feel, and smell the past place does it? Awe…for me it’s magically delicious. Sometimes it’s a childhood memory, where I ride my bike so fast that my long, beautiful, brown hair flys in the wind, attempting to keep up with the rest of my body. I remember feeling no stress, no worries or fears. Other times its an adult memory where we have laughed so hard our cheeks hurt the next morning. Find a great memory and enjoy!!! 

    Why did I entitle this make new memories because after that terrific experience take time to notice something. When sitting in a group carrying on a conversation stop and listen to what people are saying. In the past I did this with my students in a visualization setting. The funny part is I found if the students didn’t have a good memory or any memory of a particular message then the experiment didn’t work. 

    For example: I love to travel and any kind of waterway is normally my destination. Therefore, when we were prepping for a new Science topic I would begin with a visualization, for them to see, feel, or touch in their mind, about the ocean or a mountain I have hiked, anything to help set the lesson into action. However, what I found is if they didn’t have a connection I had to create it for them. (This is why so many people argue or disagree with standardized testing because the system test all children the same.) However, if they do not have a memory or a paradigm to reflect on and make new connections or memories. then it becomes a guessing game. 

    So next time you are talking with a group of friends listen to the conversation and yourself talking. Do you have a memory to connect with? If not make new ones. Begin today to plan the GREAT memories. I always say on Magnificent Monday, “Good morning world!!! This is the greatest day ever, help me make great memories today and be a blessing to others!”

    Never forget God Loves You No Matter What!!! God Bless!!!!!