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Parents tell me how awesome your child is…

Your children conform to your expectations! As I spend hour after hour working with children of all walks of life and across the globe, I have learned, probably the MOST IMPORTANT, parenting skill…that ALL PARENTS NEED TO KNOW!

Are you ready for this?

The words that come out of your mouth as a parent, form and transform YOUR CHILDREN!

I realize this seems obvious and simplistic, especially when discussing as complex of a role as, PARENTING!However, my research is complete and it is 100 percent true!

For example:

Scenario 1: I had not met this young man before. His father & my honey have worked together for many years, since the boy was 2 yrs. old.

But all I ever heard was how much he bragged on his baby boy. All throughout the years I would here how ‘good’ he was. How talented, amazing and terrific.

Never once did I hear or even imagine… he had any disabilities OR was abandoned by his mother…who actually told him once, “The drugs are better than being a mommy to you!” (This was told to me as an example of the positivity, one parent, can utilize and redirect their child’s life).

Thirteen years later, I had the privilege to meet Nikolas, for the first time. You, as the reader of this post, now know as much as I knew about Nik, until this past summer.

As the gangly, long hair (Peter Frampton style), sweet, soft spoken and might I add, DYNAMIC, young man approached the swimming pool deck he introduced himself.

At that moment my mom & I were ecstatic to meet him. We did the regular introductions and he began a conversation about swimming. Nothing out of the ordinary.

Then I mentioned (off handed) I am so excited to finally meet the awesome Nikolas, I have heard about for so long.

He replied with, “Thank you! Everywhere we go someone tells me how my dad brags on me. He is one amazing dad!”

He has lived in several states and told us of all the people he had met. And yes they all told him the same thing.

Let me ask you something? If someone were to repeat what or how you describe your kids…what would they say? How would they describe/repeat YOUR WORDS?

I knew this young man had some difficult challenges throughout his life, but I promise his dad had genuinely talked his son up soooo much that those possible ‘issues’ didn’t even appear.

I never even questioned his learning difficulties nor thought of them. I only included the two known hurdles that this young man had, to demonstrate how influential his dad’s description was…EVEN WHEN THEY WERE SEPERATED for work.

You see…we already know our downfalls, even as children. So why not illuminate the good in our children & ourselves? And watch the GOODNESS shine?

Parents! Perfection is impossible. Even in you!

Begin at this very moment to write all the GOOD about your child. Leave out the other and watch the GOODNESS GROW LIKE A BOUNTIFUL GARDEN!

This works with adult children as well! It almost seems as though by highlighting their terrific qualities the irritating ones disappear. Same with yourself!

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Everyone has down times, our mission is to ensure you know that no matter what…This Too Shall Pass & We urge you to…

Livelove

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Carry On

Written by: Teena Drake

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When you wake up feeling sad…It is usually because you are focusing on yesterday, instead of what you CAN change…today

What the heck are you? Are you a writer? Speaker? Coach, Author, Educator, or Entertainer? What the heck are you? 

After my last speech at Toastmasters in KC, these and many more questions filled my brain. After someone asked the above questions and, “What are your plans, next?” 

I spent the last 24 hours with a sense of sadness as I allowed myself to reminisce through the past. Did I say something wrong? Maybe I am too much? What am I? Who am I?  What if I can’t make it? What if? Why? Maybe I am not good enough?

NEXT…I woke up this morning allowing the same questions to pound through my head like a bull in a china shop! WHAT AM I DOING? You see I was focusing on what had already been done. 

Finally, I found my manuscript from a coaching session of an elementary student! In the very beginning, I taught her how to find and use a ‘Happy Word’. Then I explained that as long as she was focusing on what she CAN CHANGE and not the past, everything would be fine. For example: She had failed a spelling test and was extremely upset with herself for not studying. I redirected her attention to the fact that the only thing she can change is the next spelling test. Unless of course the teacher would let her re-take the last exam. 

Day after day we would discuss why she was sad or angry. Each time it was something she had already done and couldn’t take back. 

Do you do this? I do! If I allow myself to become engrossed in the past. I become sick to my stomach, don’t eat, and wallow in self pitty. But the truth is you or myself, cannot redo yesterday, we can only improve today. 

My answer to all the questions are YES! I am a writer, speaker, coach, published author, educator, entertainer and…much more.

Just like you, I must feel down on occasion to enjoy the up moments. 

If you are feeling sad, depressed, frustrated or angry today…allow your brain to feel the emotions long enough to remind you, this is NOT THE WAY YOU WANT TO FEEL! 

Now, take your smile back. Find your many titles and wear them with pride. I know it isn’t always easy to let go of the past. Or to forgive those who irritated you. However, I promise if you will hold on…one more minute…find a happy thought and reset your vibration. 

Some ideas on how to quickly reset:

  1. Find your happy word
  2. Play uplifting music
  3. Do the twist in your living room
  4. Jump up and down
  5. Cry, but only for a little while
  6. Ask one friend to remind you of something you have done GOOD! 
  7. Write your life resume
  8. Excercise
  9. Kiss your lover like it could be your last
  10. Or just say happy words until you reset your vibration

Last time I checked no one is perfect. I know I am not, but our imperfections mold us and allow our talents to be illuminated! 

Sometimes giving up feels like it would be easier. But I promise even that phase or process of giving up hurts worse than a reset. So I beg of you if you are reading this post…right now…please know:

YOU ARE WONDERFUL JUST THE WAY YOU ARE! YOU HAVE GIFTS TO SHARE WITH THE WORLD! YOU ARE WORTHY OF BEING LOVED! YOU ARE WORTHY OF BEING HAPPY. FEEL HOW AWESOME YOU ALREADY ARE AND KEEP ON ADDING TITLES TO YOUR LIFE WITH PRIDE. 

Happy Coaching- Livelove.teena@gmail.com

Livelove

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Carry On

Written by: Teena Drake

 

Why do you do what you do, Boo Boo?

As I listen to this beautiful musical arrangement @Music Choice the questions roll through my head. Who is this musician and why does she do what she does? Why does she create beautiful music, with no vocals? For the sole purpose of acquiring fame and fortune?

Why are you angry with your adult child? What did he/she do or say to provoke your anger? He dropped out of college? How silly would you feel if you lost him/her and they weren’t there for you to be angry with?

Why do you get up and go to work each day? Just because you are paid? Or is there more to it, than that?

As I bounced from person to person in pursuit of this ever so demanding question, I finally received a small light of hope. When I asked this beautiful lady she replied with my first answer…

“Teena, why would you ask such a terrible question? Have you ever thought, many do not know why they do what they do?”

Let me ask you, “Why do you do what you do, Boo Boo? Do you know? Have you analyzed your emotions to answer this simple yet complex question? Isn’t it important for you to understand WHY?”

So if:

Work=Pay, Pay+Pd bills=Comfort, Comfort=Shelter+Nourishment

Anger=Fear, Fear+Resistance= Anger, Anger=Fear+Fear

The answer to: Why do you do what you do, Boo Boo? Is…

To accomplish the universal goal! What is the Universal Goal? To Better!

Think about that until next time…

Why do you do what you do, Boo Boo? to feel better, do better, to BETTER!

Next Topic is The Universal Goal! I can’t wait for you to read it. It will ignite your life! But if until then or anytime you need a little extra help email me…Livelove.teena@gmail.com

It might be time for you to receive the coaching necessary to LIVE the life you always wanted. To feel the best you have ever felt and most importantly…

Livelove

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Carry On

Written by: Teena Drake

God Bless Each Of You!!! Sending you great love!

 

 

Why change the world?

As I carefully plan each step, press of a button, text, and message my mind races with questions! Mostly why?

I must be attracting this question to myself…because almost everyday I seem to answer Why?

For example, I have become more and more engrossed in my message and vision, behind the concepts of my book. Not saying this is bad, but difficult to explain.

Therefore, when someone meets me in Walmart and asks, “Hey, Teena, what are you ‘doing’ these days?”

I awkwardly begin to stutter and stammer until I finally blurt out, “Oh, you know…I own this company entitled Livelove LLC and we have this great slogan, logo, offer all kinds of helpful services, including motivational speaking, books…(INHALE & EXHALE) truthfully we are over here with a vision to CHANGE THE WORLD WITH ONE HAPPY THOUGHT AT A TIME!”

Now you can imagine how people react! They are either sprinting away, like we all do, from the people shouting at us on the pier saying, “Who is your saviour?”

Or they always pause, drop their mouth and blurt out either, “Okay” or “Why?”

Now is when I look at them and begin…

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To explain?

NO! NOT ANYMORE! I simply ask Why not?

Hmmm mmmmm I scratch my head, wipe my behind (of course lay down phone), and I ask myself, Why? (after I leave Walmart and relax in the jacuzzi, the questions flood my brain!)

Here is the best answer I know, besides why not!

“Why change the world?”

“Why can’t you just keep teaching or do something just for fun? Why Teena do you care about the rest of the world? You can’t make a difference…because you are just you. So why try?”

Because every boy and girl, who gets up and goes to a school, despite all the terrible incidents lately. They deserve for me to at least try!

Because the mother who is crying for a smidge of relief, deserves to know, “This Too Shall Pass!”

Because my dear friends who believed in me enough to allow me to coach them, to a happier state, deserve to share their story and help another.

Because the homeless, weak, sick and sad people deserve to feel good. Even if for a moment, long enough for one ‘happy’ thought.

Becuase WE HAVE ALL HAD THOSE TIMES WE FELT LIKE GIVING UP! But because we didn’t, we can rejoice about living each day to the fullest!

Because you, YES YOU, are important to this world. We need your story! We, the world need you to live on!

If you just read this message please help me, ‘Change the World One Happy Thought at a Time!’

How? Send me happy thoughts, smile at someone today, give a hug away, share this post, @Jimmy Fallon have me as a guest, be aware of your life…ENJOY!

Email me…Livelove.teena@gmail.com maybe you want to share your story, maybe you need a little message for the day, maybe you are ready for a Life (Happy) Coach. Or just send me a Happy Thought!

Our name is Livelove LLC

Our slogan…

Live Love

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Carry On

Sending you great love!

Written by: Teena Drake (CEO LiveloveLLC.org)

Delete It!

Do you ever look at e-mails, social media, cell phones or anything else exposing your name and think…What if I deleted EVERYTHING! I never think of that either!

As I chuckle to myself about that last statement, I wonder if this is what our children think. Not deleting everything, but about life. For example, “Mommy, Have you ever felt like life was overwhelming? Have you ever felt like ‘giving up’?”

As the child, who is struggling with what may seem silly to an adult, ponders asking this question to their mommy or daddy.  I can only imagine what they think an adult would respond with. For example, “Of COURSE, I feel like giving up. Have you not seen all the crud going on? Ball practice, work, birthdays. But what do you have to worry about? You are being cared for.”

PARENTS! I am not saying you are doing anything wrong. I promise life is overwhelming at times and young parents today, have a great deal of pressure. Which is why I am writing this post.

If you have times of glaring at your connections to the world and you feel overwhelmed, then your child is probably feeling the same way.

Therefore, I am suggesting take time and DELETE IT! I know it sounds crazy, but when you are feeling overwhelmed with LIFE, make up a game with your family and have a delete it night.

Example:

  1. Explain to your children or partner, we are going to have a delete it night.
  2. Have everyone
    1. write their issues
    2. speak it
    3. sing it   Example: Child- I made an F, my friend was mean to me, Work was awful today. Everyone is allowed to share what they are feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, or depressed about.
  3. Take time to listen to everyone’s sharing of their feelings.
  4. BUT! After each complaint EVERYONE says, “Delete It!”
  5. Or you can sing “DELETE IT!”

The point is to reverse the trajectory of your thoughts on what is and has been. Because you can’t change the past…no matter what!

Deleting it allows:

  1. Acceptance that everyone has down times and feels like giving up.
  2. A switch in vibrations.
  3. Allows everyone to see how life carrys on even when it feels cruddy at this moment…IT will get better!

As always…God Bless and KNOW you are LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY!

Livelove

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Carry On

If you would like a little help with ‘Life’ let us know. Livelove.teena@gmail.com and we will begin your Happy Coaching as soon as possible.

Life is meant to be experienced.

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When it doesn’t fit, do you continue to wear it?

When you go to the closet and pick up a pair of pants, that do not fit any longer, do you continue to wear them? If you do attempt to ‘make do’ does it become disastrous?

At one time, I worried about being too fat, not good enough and was terribly unsatisfied with the way my clothes fit. I decided to become dedicated to the cause. I worked out and felt terrific. I reached my goals and felt pretty good about myself.

However, I had this one pair of pants! They were my favorite pair. Black silky material, elastic waist, balloon pant legs which created an illusion, I was wearing a long evening gown, but they were functional. I would tell the kids they were my ‘Fancy Pants.’ I truly did love this pair of pants.

Therefore I continued to wear them. Who cared, if they were five sizes too big. No one else knew, just me. As I daydream back to the day I remember my honey bunny saying, “When are you going to get rid of those pants?! They are hanging off of you and if you aren’t careful they will fall down in front of your class!”

What did he know about fashion? I didn’t pay any attention to his nonsense. I arrived at work early and whistled as I walked into the front door. “Good Morning, Ms. Connie,” I cheerfully said as I scooted past her office, in my flowy pants.

The day went wonderful. All of my lessons were going as planned and life couldn’t be better. My planning time came and it was time for lunch. As I nonchalantly danced by the office I heard a deep, male voice call out my name, “Mrs. Drake?”

I jumped a bit and then I heard, “We need your help in the office.”

As much as I wanted to play sick and run back to my classroom, I didn’t. I never wanted to upset Ms. Connie, she is the best.

Turns out she had left due to a family emergency and I was the only ‘warm body’ who could fill in, at least until after my planning period. Which might I add, it was always a short planning time, until today! This day seemed like forty-five minutes was forty-five days.

Of course I quickly found myself sitting in ‘THE CHAIR’ the one where all the phone calls come in, the parents, grandparents, step parents, sick kids, medicated students, vomiting teachers, and last but not freaking least the INTERCOM SYSTEM! I may seem a bit dramatic, but the office manager, in my opinion, has the most difficult job of any in the school system.

The first parent arrived within five minutes of me sitting down. She said in a meek little voice and shaky hands, “Yes, my daughter is in 6th grade and she left her book bag at home. Soooo I wanted to bring it to her…”

I quickly interrupted in a flustered voice, “What? Who did you say? You are going to have to speak up and what class is she in?”

Oh for goodness sakes that one took me fifteen minutes. Including that ordeal, I had four teachers, one cafeteria assistant calling me and the outside calls, were rolling over to an email, faster than I could answer.

It was my last five minutes and a dad buzzes at the door. I let him in, he requested to pick up his son in 6th grade. Most organized human I had dealt with in the past forty minutes. He knew which class at the correct time and spoke up. Pleased with my survival skills through the past few events…I smile really big and I politely say, “Thank you for being so organized and I will call your son up at this time.” (I almost sounded like a robot).

I call the classroom, no he is not in there. Hmmm maybe this dad made a mistake. This continues on for a couple of times. I am now using the intercom and telephone when he yells out, “OH I am so sorry, I forgot he is in seventh grade, he is in math!”

He yelled so loud I fell back into the roller chair, that I had been attempting to spin back and forth in, to accomplish more, in a shorter amount of time. When I fell I zoomed backwards towards Ms. Connie’s desk and quickly spun around, placing my elbows on the desk and hands under my chin. “I am sorry, I didn’t quite catch that?”

He repeated it in a much calmer and embarrassed voice, “My son is in the seventh grade, I am so sorry…”

As he continued to apologize I had become a little smirky and to be blunt I was ticked off. I spun around to turn my back to this man, whom I was upset with. Placed both feet firmly on the ground…pushed my behind up using both hands and my body.

AND…as fast as I stood up, my pants came plummeting down. Yes, down to my knees! My bare behind was there for this man and whoever else wanted to see! I quickly plopped back down, as I gasped for air! Not only were they down, the bottom of my right pant leg was tightly wound around the wheel. I wasn’t going anywhere.

I remember I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry and the man, he turned around and walked out in the hall. Probably to laugh so hard he had to pee his pants! Mr. Genton heard me laughing hysterically, as I grabbed my stomach and bent over to attempt and free my pants leg! Of course he helped the father find his son and all he could say between his tears of hysterical laughing, was, “Why do you wear pants that are clearly to big?”

I hope you are now laughing too! This is absolutely a true story. I guess now most of you know why, when someone suggests me working in an office, I laugh and politely decline.

You see, not only were my pants too big, but I was attempting to fill even greater shoes.

Are you doing the same thing in life? Are you continuing to wear the old YOU, who doesn’t fit anymore? It isn’t about the size, it’s about the fit. Isn’t it time you find your own shoes to fill? And if you are hanging on to those old clothes, ask yourself, “Do I want to return to this person or am I okay with brand new and a better fit?”

If the world is continually rotating that means there is never a stagnant moment. Meaning CHANGE is inevitable.

Sometimes we hold ourselves to ‘way back then’ so long, we forget to experience the now and forever more. When you fit in your own skin, life feels pretty TERRIFIC!

God Loves YOU NO MATTER WHAT!

Livelove

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Carry on!

I am so excited about this great adventure. I would love for you to come along and see all the beautiful stops we are making along the way! If you need a little umf in your life e-mail me at Livelove.teena@gmail.com

A New Service for you: Angel Card Readings they are fun and always enlightening. Of course we continue to offer workshops and Happy Coaching.

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California? Again?

As I begin to unpack my daughter in California, once again, I reflect on my past experiences. A time when I questioned everything. Was I making the ‘right’ decision? What if…? The questions would race through my head. My fears were overwhelming. Should I allow her to follow her dreams at such a young age? What about her safety? What about my other daughter, who willingly volunteered, to be her guardian? Could she handle this gigantic move and undertaking? You see, my daughter had been signed by an agent and was asked to move to Los Angeles California, at the age of 17. We were estatic! The hometown circumstances, let’s just say, weren’t the best for Ashby, at the time. However, could my girls survive in LA??? They were raised in a small little Kentucky town and Ashby was still in high school. Darion had moved to Nashville at the age of 18, but I could drive there in four hours. And I spent almost 6 months of weekends in Nashville! Once the decision was made we took off driving across the country. That was four years ago and here I am again! She is now 21 and although I knew this day would come, it doesn’t make it any easier!!! After her last adventures, I knew she would return home. Back to California. It hasn’t been any easier, but it is rewarding to know she is where she wants to be. My brain will continue to race and question, “Am I making the correct decisions, as a parent.” However, all I want for my children is for them to follow their bliss. And that is what she is doing. You know I can remember thinking I wouldn’t survive, the last time. Yet, here I am four years later. If you are struggling with anything in your life, right now. Please, remember you are loved and if you can pause briefly…I promise, “This too shall pass!” God Bless Livelove & Carryon Www.livelovellc.org/home Livelove.teena@gmail.com Need some help with a situation in your life? Email me, I would love to hear from you!