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What if your paradigm was wiped clean???

Good Morning!! This is my favorite day of the week!! Yes, believe it or not Monday mornings are my favorites, actually the entire day is!!! Isn’t that funny? I wish I could explain, one thing is for sure…it’s my FAVORITE DAY! As I was plugging in to my morning a Teena moment came to me! What if your paradigm or past was obsolete? Suddenly, out of no where…no one knew you and you had no recollection of anyone? What would you do differently?

Let me tell you about a little boy who challenged me everyday, yet said to me one day, “Do you know why I love you Mrs. Drake? Because you always accept me as a new me, the next morning.”

What???!!!! I think he must be talking about another teacher. Because everyday I prayed he would be a new him in the morning. And you can’t imagine how many days I thought, “I love you, but I don’t know if I can make it another day!”

I don’t care who you are, we all have people in our lives like this. Whether it be a student in your classroom or a Co worker, it doesn’t matter who they are it’s who or what you know about them.

After this thought about, your past being erased, I thought of that little boy, who believed in me because he felt like I believed in him! And I did!!!

This thought took me on a fun journey of emotions. Because I now know why that little boy said that!

I had him in 3rd grade and five years later I had him in 8th grade. Before 3rd grade began, I was handed 18 files to read and learn about my students. Their strengths, weaknesses and behavior issues. I read one!!!! (Which coincidentally he transferred out and I never had him). I closed the first folder and quietly walked to the office with all files in arms. I remember the look on our secretaries face (who I adore) when I said, “Can I have a copy of their medical files only? And any IEP’s?”

You know she wanted to say, “Are you stupid? You are holding them.”

However, I think the color still fading from my face and the weakness in my knees, explained it all!”

When I explained how I couldn’t educate effectively if I knew all the other opinions and data from their past. She was speechless. But it never did work with me!!!! My feelings were a great deal can change in one summer. There are so many factors that play into a person/students learning abilities, maturity, behavior ect… Yes this carries on with good or bad signals.

For example: That little boy was a day by day case, EVERYDAY. However, the first three weeks of school, I never knew this child had any trouble at all. He read at a 5th or higher grade level, he was loving, kind and amazing. (And still is to this day).

Then one day he didn’t come to school, then another. When he did return it was like a switch had turned on. His peers were constantly irritated with him, he would poke them, write on their papers…I mean I was in a state of grrrr!

What did I do? Funny thing is I didn’t realize it then, but now I see I did what came natural. I went with what I knew. I had built my own perspective of this child. Therefore, his paradigm to me was an intelligent, sweet, funny and kind child. I knew nothing about his past teachers opinions, his home life or his, let’s call it persistent personality, to ensure his life was as he wanted it. His paradigm was wiped clean as for me. That is why we had the discussion, EVERYDAY, “Tomorrow is a new day! You, my intelligent, well behaved, studious young man will begin again and tomorrow will be even better!”

Yes, we had that same conversation hundreds or maybe even thousands of times from 3rd grade, then 6th through 8th!

Did I change him? Nooo I do know I loved him, as a student. I do believe I helped him see a better him. And if you knew his real life paradigm, you like me, would be tempted to provide him with excuses. However, how would that help him? Or me or anyone else who might struggle with his quirky, nontraditional ways.

Ask yourself, “If my paradigm was wiped clean right now (and I was healthy bla bla bla), what would I want my new one to be?”

It is not to scare you, but just think…if you didn’t worry about the past, if no one had something to hold against you from 30 years ago (yes, people still claim to know someone even if they haven’t spoken to them in 30 years, that’s crazy to me). Not that you live your life based on other people’s opinions, just a fun little thought.

Next time you begin to become irritated with someone or something stop and ensure this is a reaction towards this particular incident and not a reaction based on the past. When you begin to live for or to feel good, life is paradise with a twist.

The twist being those small, quiet irritating moments to remind you of how you want your memories/paradigm, to be in one day, a month, a year or even years.

The pages are unwritten and you my friend are holding the pen!

God Bless

Livelove

&

Carryon

Livelove is…

As we work on going live and worldwide, with Livelove, I have become enamored with what it is, what our company will bring to you and all of my lifelong dreams, becoming reality, I am speechless. It has been a long time coming and hopefully this little blog will provide you with some insight on the how’s, why’s and whatever else you need/want to know.

What is Livelove? Livelove is a company that began as a vision in my head, many years ago. I am talking YEARS! However, the organization, LLC and legal aspects have been this year and we plan to have our first public launch the first of December 2017!!! “Okay, Teena, what is it?”

Livelove is a company that has the soul purpose of helping others find their own happiness! In a nut shell! Yes, it is true I now realize from the first let down in my life, to the beginning of a lifetime of triumphs, my life has brought me to this fantastic point.

My lifetime partner continues to ask me, “What are you offering companies or what does your company have to offer in business expertise?”

Although, I appear to become aggitated with his million questions, I do realize he is only trying to make me think! Also, he is almost always right, but please do not tell him I said that!

What does Livelove offer? I have written the intro at least fifty times. I, being a passionate writer, I struggle with being too wordy or descriptive. Therefore, here I go again! Our company has what YOU, YOUR ORGANIZATION, YOU-as an employer, employee, YOU-AS religious/faith based, YOU- as an entrepreneur, YOU- as a lover, mother/father and friend; the much needed tools to find, keep and live your own happiness for the rest of your days!!! http://www.Livelovllc.org

What?!?!?! Yes, it is true! In actuality anyone and anywhere in the world can and will benefit, if you choose, from Livelove!

We are creating a 2018 calendar, right now, on where we will be throughout the country. Our workshops…will improve your skills in personal and business relationships, increase your sales, help you grow your business and have fun while you are doing it. You know what that means? Help you increase your income!!!! That would be nice, wouldn’t it?

I do not want this to sound like an advertisement, remember I love my readers and only want to share with you because I do love you!

HOWEVER, the vibration of complete and total excitement could almost make these words jump off this blog and come to life.

Sooo, Livelove has workshops to offer that are fun, exciting and life changing. Still doesn’t help my husband, hee hee! Or does it? You see, this began way back when I was Physical Fit Flower the Clown! Or did it begin with my years of being top sales representative? Or was it? It doesn’t matter!!!

Livelove is what your company wants to improve the lives of your co-workers, lead managers, sales reps., business managers and even investors! Once they have had a glimpse of living in this manner life at work will never be the same! (Much better).

Okay, now you know, kind of what our company is about! You might ask, “But, is that it? You offer workshops? You do realize as businesses, we have a plethora of speakers and services to choose from, that have the same claim?” (Yes, this is true, which is fine! Let me know about them, we might hire them very soon!)

Livelove is evolving to much more than my tiny little thoughts, visions, or dreams. We are a company that is here to help you, “Livelove & Carry On!” With an adorable logo, letterhead, and soon to be Live website (by RDT services), our company is almost complete! But trust me it hasnt been snap and all this business is open, but that topi. Is another blog.

In addition to our own workshops in 2018, your company hiring us to provide you with a workshop; we offer happy coaching, advertising (for you) and products for you to purchase.

Happy Coaching, may sound cliche, but It stuck! No matter how many times my associates and I discussed it, the title ‘Happy Coaching’ kept coming up!

This type of coaching is just what the name is! It is a more personalized, extension of our workshops. It has improved the lives of many, already!!! Our plan is to continually expand and improve this program. My only negative about this section is the space will be limited, until I can train and hire more coaches. However, I never fear those downfalls because I know those people will appear on a need by need bases!

The benefits of this coaching is not to relive all the crud you have been through and investigate why! Rather it is to find your inner peace, love, joy and happiness! Best of all it is individually created to work with your thoughts and emotions, not a cookie cutter mentality of what works best for one is for all.

As for shopping…at this moment, you can purchase my book however, all of our products we offer will be carefully chosen to ensure it enhances your life in one way or another. For example: (before Christmas) we will have pink (especially made for us) foam/soap balls. We also have several authors/new books or information to feature and much much more.

The most important information you need to know about our Livelove shop, is it will vary all the time and it is products for You ( to enrich your life).

As you know when I am writing all time stands still. However, life does not.

Therefore, as we evolve and grow, keep following so you can help us help you very soon!

Thank you to my family, friends, Bridging the Gap Productions, RDT Business Solutions and you the special most dear to my heart READER! Thank you for allowing me to spill my inner thoughts, for your much needed support and for all your love!!! God bless!

Livelove & Carry On (it’s our new slogan, like it?)

I know, I have been talking, instead of doing…

Hey everyone sitting at the doctor, waiting like everyone else. However, my brain is running like a marathon runner about to win a race and to be first out of thousands of runners!

Teena Drake, they call out! I waddle back, “Mrs. Drake your BP is high for you. Is there anything going on?”

“Ummm, noo, but you would not question me if you knew what was running through my brain! It’s crazy, gigantic and important. I don’t have time to catch you up, but I promise I am okay!”

I simply replied with, “No, I am fine.”

Anywhoooo, it’s all good!

Here is why my BP was up! I had a CRAZY THOUGHT!!! Driving down here!

Ever since I have been watching OperationBBQrelief.com I have had the strongest desire to jump in my car and drive South. However, if you don’t know, at this point of my life, I don’t think I would be much help at all!!!! I still waddle or wobble, a bit and I have to be very careful, not to get an infection, until it is healed. Ugh!!! What to do, what to do? Think, think, think, Teena!

That’s when it hit me!!! (It seemed to really hit me hard) As I was driving over an hour to my doctors appointment and listening to music at the highest level possible, with the sunroof open, wind blowing through my hair, and singing- Whoomp, there it is, I thought hmmm, what can I do to help others, who are suffering, bored, and misplaced from their home, stuff and comfort zone?

I got it!!!! I will begin to video and post. Problem is the little brain in my head continues to criticize me. Saying things like, “You know your ADHD will kick in and you will flutter off! You can’t sing! And you want to sing! What are you thinking?”

Then, like everything else, it hit me!!!! (I can’t ever get ideas quietly in my sleep). I remembered this funny statement from Kendal (you will meet her on one of my videos) she looked at me while we were standing in the longest, boring line at the airport in Mexico and said, “I would never mind standing in line with you. If I had to be stranded on an island, I would want it to be with you!”

WHAT? ME? I thought to myself! (As Eric shifted his weight back and forth and seemed more agitated than ever.) It might have had something to do with us singing in line and doing our hand clap…this, that…this this…that that! Or the eductional rhymes I was teaching everyone in line! One lady stopped me (as we attempted to move four steps ahead) and said, “Lady, I agree with your little girl (she isnt mine, but I will claim her). If I was stranded on an island I would want it to be with you! You are one of the most entertaining people, I have ever seen.”

In my mind I thought, as we approached the security/ passport lady, “Tell that to my husband! Giggling in my head, due to his aggravation!”

Then what happened next is HILARIOUS TO ME! NOT to Eric! We had been standing in line for two or three hours and I think it was my fault, but we- only Eric and I- were sent to security!!!! “What? You are kidding, why?”

We never found out the reason why, but Eric has and will always blame me! He swears, they were scared of ME! Lolololol, I still laugh hysterically, everytime he tells that story.

I don’t believe that, but I do believe my inspiration has hit. With all the crud going on in the world, with many children missing school for an indefinite amount of time, I am going to do it! I am scared to death. I criticize myself constantly, when I watch my videos, but for the sake of YOU, I am doing it!

My vision, heading into the doctor’s office, was clear and concise. They won’t be perfect, but they will be educational and entertaining. I am not sure if anyone on the islands will be able to read or watch this, but when you can, check it out. I realize electricity being super scarce, You Tube will not be easily available 😔.

Please note, I am sending all those affected by natural disasters a BIG

heart full of love and I want you to realize, we are all in this together. I Love you all and want you to Livelove On! You can do this, you can and will rebuild!!!

God Loves you no matter what!

Livelove

Some people are like their own love…

Think of car guys/girls, they love cars and understanding them can be easy, if you understand a little bit about cars.

As I watched my friend in toastmasters speak about his new truck, I had an epiphany! People act like what they love! For example: I love pink! I love to live free spirited…so I definetly act like a pink poodle!!! Bahahahahaha

Or maybe a pink flamingo!

And a car guy or gal acts like an automobile. You can’t push them if you want them to run. If you try to push them they will sit there (looking at you) like your a complete idiot and continually holding their brakes on.

If you attempt negative motivation they respond in the same manner. Even if you try to set fire to their tale -end they will either step aside to avoid any more attention from you OR explode like dynamite. The only way to encourage or understand a car person is to remember they will go at a steady flow based on shear mechanical engineering from the Science of: every action has an equal and opposite reaction, it is always consistent. Now that is the only way to encourage or understand ‘Car’ girls and guys; is remember they act like what they love!!!

I love you Nicholas Ryan and am super proud of you! Keep on being the great car guy, you are!

Why is it difficult to…

As I explore different options with several people, I realize how difficult it is to brag or describe yourself!!!

A company contacted me and said, “Mrs. Drake can you send us your credentials for speaking to a group of sales representatives? Especially since you have been in education for the past several years.”

My response is, “How large do you want that list and how descriptive? Define credentials and/or expertise.”

Because listen up you probably have more ‘credentials’ or ‘expertise’ than you know about. One of my happy coaching sessions is: describe yourself in a positive happy manner and it will always come to a task they have completed and feel good about. Or a great accomplishment in life will show up in the descriptions. Which is perfect!!

Here is the sad part…many people will automatically revert back to saying, ” Yes, but Teena that was when I was in middle school or high school.” Or, “That was a silly class I took from Homemakers of America, it was just a free class about personality testing.”

Please stop!!! I actually had a 22 year old man say to me, ” Mrs. Drake I can’t do that don’t you remember how bad I was in middle school?”

Insinuating or may believe, his life dream will need to shelved or a positive description of him, isn’t possible, because of something from middle school!!! You might read that and think, she is crazy! However, time and time again someone says something to brand them from a much younger life and different time.

If I were to be honest I haven’t had anyone in my program that has not reacted in this manner, when it comes to describing themselves. That means a full description including ALL COMPLETED TASKS, ALL VOLUNTEER PROGRAMS, SALES EXPERIENCE (even if you were like me and began selling hand made pot holders in the fifth grade.)

After writing this and remembering all the times I cut myself short, I think it’s time we enjoy us!!! Enjoy you! And yes go ahead and create a list of the wonderful, experienced, fun and loving YOU!

Next time you receive a phone call asking for a list of expertise respond with, “How would you like to receive that document? E-mail or Mail Service?”

Try it! Begin creating a list of the good in you. Start with what feels best. No matter what, when you have completed (which it truly will never be complete, as long as you are living you are continually evolving) you will be super happy and proud of yourself! You will probably want to kiss yourself! Instead kiss your dog, lover, friend! Celebrate you!!!!

God Bless

LiveloveLLC

Just Do It…

Don’t you hate chnage? Do you wish all your dreams could come true, over night? As the days go by and you plan one more step, to achieving your dreams and goals, as well as having that lavish lifestyle; do you find yourself feeling anxiety and fear of the unknown?

Here is the best advice I have to give…Find A BETTER THOUGHT! Is this an easy task? Not at first it is not, but if you keep trying each day, focusing on the rich abundance, you already have and that which is quickly on its way, you will begin to see those controlled visions appear. Yes, it will happen one by one!

I look for the good in each moment however, just like you, I slip back into the more easy habit of observing what is. Therefore, how do I JUMP on another frequency of thought? Every morning, of everyday, before I crawl out if bed I say, “Thank you, for everything in my life working out for the best for me. I love you Teena Drake and I am happy you woke up!”

Now, if you felt a little cringe or sadness when you read what I say, then find your own positive statement. It doesn’t have to be mine. And yes, I have mornings where my brain, vibration and entire being will say back to me (in my head), “Shutup!” I am afraid, what if I never make it? Why couldn’t I choose a career that I just do my job and receive a pay check? Why do you always have to be focusing on something bigger and why do you care if you help others? They don’t care?”

See I probably just demonstrated more doubt than you have ever felt. You are probably thinking wow, Teena I don’t think that much about myself. Lol!! Those days for me are far and few between however, I do have them. Usually when I allow anyone to project their own fears on me. Because listen up!!!! (This is the most important part I am about to write today!!!!!) Other people ONLY FIND FAULT in OTHERS, when they hate their OWN FAULTS or FEARS!

Most people, especially your close friends and family, never want to see you hurt or disappointed. That’s why they appear to be negative towards some of your new ideas, not because they ‘hate’ you, but rather they do not understand you. They also fear you will be let down or hurt! I know I am guilty of this, everyone is. For example, one of my kids called and asked about a job opportunity. Instead of just being excited at that moment my concious mind, then my mouth, began thinking and saying, what if? Oh don’t forget to say or do this!

The entire time my mouth is moving and my ears are listening to my stupid advice, I am thinking, What the hell are you doing or saying? However, it’s my own fear for them that began this chaotic conversation.

Now, I try not to react or if I feel myself doing this I stop and say, “You know mom loves you no matter what! Please attempt to erase those what ifs, please. I only want to always protect you. However, me trying to discourage or hender you is not my intention.”

Then the next time they will want to share with me.

Okay, let’s get back to you, yourself and you! If you feel it do it!!! If you are on a magical, whimsical adventure and you know in your heart you are on the right track, do it! Yes, fear will creep in. You will have moments of doubt, but remember everything is working out best for YOU TO ENJOY THIS GIFT OF LIFE!

For example, most of you know I am opening a new company, actually it is evolving by leaps and bounds. As I attempt one approach and then another. As I begin each day with, “I accept and expect everything to work out in perfect harmony for me today.”

I see events, people and opportunities appearing on a daily basis. Some days I think, okay this can go a little faster. Then I will switch my thought and someone will call, message me or have a wonderful conversation that will lead me into, ” I am the new proud CEO of Livelove LLC.”

The rest is history. Everyone wants to be happy, find peace and love. Therefore, once they ask, “What does your company do?

I respond with, “I share with you my life’s work, studying people and their perspectives of happiness. Next, together we will find the necessary tools for YOU to Be Happy!”

Now when I say that statement at first everyone stares at me for just a moment in, what I think is, a contemplation mode then they say, “When do we begin?”

You can begin today! I will be estatic to meet you if you FEEL the desire to sign up for one of our ‘Happy Classes.’ However, if you can’t make it to one, or can’t wait, you aren’t lost! Wakeup each day and find a desirable and believable to you statement. Say it then take the leap of faith and DO what you are led to do that day! I promise living like this is more fun than having doubt, worry or fear!

One more thing before I go!!! Look everyone I am scared to death to share this information with you, but I FEEL someone needs it. If you don’t need it please just skip over this part of my blog!!!

I have a special gift/service that someone may need. I can read Angel Cards and help you through some issues you might be hanging on to! (This is not anything creepy or weird and you do not have to be religous to believe).

Why am I scared to share, I just do not want to offend anyone. However, this is fun, easy and provides you with a little boost, when making a tough or not clear decision.

Anywhoooo..

I will be at several destinations for now Kansas, Tennessee, Kentucky, Indiana, and Ohio to name the ones that are for sure! And for all my friends and family in Kauai I will be there and can be available a couple of days in November. (If Mamaw doesn’t mind)

If you would rather be incognito or don’t have time to wait for me to announce the pop up destination, you can email me, @Livelove.Teena@gmail.com or message me Teena Drake.

This is fun and extremely helpful. I have a long long list of friends who will edify my work, if you are one of those who needs to check out references!

Back to the topic!!! (Sorry I kept getting the message someone needs that information and no worries everyone, this is JUST as effective over the internet).

Just Do It! Is your message today! You are wonderful and terrific!

God Loves You No Matter What!

Livelove LLC

Wow! What day is it? September 6, 2017…

As I plan my day and decide which is the most important task I look back over my website, that’s when it hit me! What? I haven’t blogged since August something? According to the last post it was August 28th! Oh my!!!! Can I explain my loss of time?

Dogs to vet, kid loses keys to car (all of them), kid goes to college, moved into dorm, moved out of dorm in 8 days (by himself), daughter comes in we enjoy wine festival, dogs back to vet, child has a wreck (totals her car, but thankfully is okay), other children whom have went off to college came to visit, cleaned out one closet/two rooms, continue to sell books, take classes, record coffee talk, became an ordained marriage minister, register as well as define, my new amazing company-Livelove hmmmm….I wonder why I continue to think negatively about my progress. Maybe after writing this I will feel better!

Please, please do not take any of that as complaining because I am not! Instead that list and this moment creates a feeling for me that is so amazing, it’s undescribable! Why? Because I have honestly become an evolving, feeling, understanding, attracting abundance in all avenues of my life human being. Meaning I am enjoying my journey and all that is best for me is here and continues to flow.

Has every day and each moment been butterflies and frolicking in the sunshine? Nope! However, has it been ‘fun’ the majority of the time? Yep!! Yes!! Si!! (I am unsure how many possible ways there are to say yes, but if I could I would type them all!!!) I have had days full of blissful moments, one right after another, yet some days have been filled with ups and downs almost like I was jumping rope, the fluctuations were that rapid.

However, as I sit and write to you, today, I realize how much fun I have had since August 28th. Of course I then continue on a reminiscing spree, but only fun or funny events. The next thing you know I am blogging and sharing with you the answer to our questions about life.

I feel like a broken record, however it’s true! I have spent my entire life searching for the ‘right’ things to do or say to help someone else have a richer, fuller, fun filled life. Some years we entitled these techniques as goal setting. Visualization, soul cleansing, religion, counseling, co-dependency and so on. I would study leadership material, listen to motivational speeches, read books to help me and of course my intentions were to help me help others.

Yet now I ask myself and you, is there anything wrong with that? If you said, “Yes.” You are 100 percent correct! However, if you said, “No.” You are 100 percent correct, as well!

You see I only did the research, helped others, chose my multiple career paths, wrote my book (Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby by Teena Drake), created a company, Livelove, and began sharing with you all these wonderful techniques because that’s what felt TERRIFIC TO ME!!!! Shew…that was a mouth full.

It’s true!!! Did I and continue to inspire, educate, love, live and enrich the lives of those who chose to read my material? Yes, of course I did! And I plan to grow and share with you until we are all living in sweet harmony, to the best of our ability!

Why do I choose this path? Because it feels good, terrific, happy, fun, loving and free to me! And EVERYONE, even politicians (Actually especially politicians, U.S. leaders and world leaders need to attend my upcoming ‘Happy Class’), your domestic engineers, preachers, teachers, entraprueners, millionaires, but most important and especially YOU can live a life full of those happy moments or feeling good choices.

Does fear creep in? Do I become scared and hopeless (no not much lol)? The answer to both of these questions are yes!!! However, let those emotions go! If you want to change your life, if not then embrace those emotions and decide why they are super prominent.

It doesn’t matter which route you take, the meaning to life is to ‘Be Happy.’ To enjoy the glorious gifts you were so delicately born with.

Go with those interupting, narrow trails that take you the long way around. It is okay because trust me when I say, “Achieving the tasks or goals throughout life was amazing, thrilling, exhilarating, phenomenal and truly undescribable. However, the journey has been times a million more fun than the end result. The seemingly minute downfalls, curve balls and pit stops along the way are the ones I cherish the most.

Yes, the journey of raising my children, vacations, financial triumphs, financial disaater, careers beginning, evolving, losing, loving, laughter, tears and happiness has filled in the details of each memory. Because it’s not the details of the memory you have, but rather the details of the feelings, emotions ect.

Find it, if you want, the ‘feeling good’ emotion and enjoy it.

If you responded with, “How? I don’t feel like it today or Teena, you don’t understand?”

That’s fine, you are probably right. Notice, I said, “If you want to.”

That’s because no matter what happiness is YOUR CHOICE!

If you choose (and you are having a down day), lay in the bed or go to the bathroom and begin saying, “I LOVE _________! I LOVE To _________.”

Yes, sometimes it can be a little negative just don’t dwell on that it’s more of a way to let it go. For example: Lady at work is being super mean to you and has been for days, you are over it. Excuse yourself and say I love to go to the bathroom so I can’t hear her. (Gritting your teeth).

No really just focus on you and what makes you feel good not the other person, that provides their meaness with more energy. Remember your circle of influence is ONLY YOU! (@Stephencovey @leaderinme).

Okay, I have written enough! If you received nothing else know this…HAVE FUN!

Livelove