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Change is inevitable; Self Doubt is a reminder

As we all know change occurs second by second, whether you control the change or simply allow it, now that ‘changes’ EVERYTHING! However, what about self-doubt? What part of self-doubt can assist us in dealing with or controlling the change in our lives?

Could it be that self-doubt is a reminder that you can control how the, inevitable changes, occur in your life.

If we know changes are going to happen, we know everything in our lives, is not going to stick to the plan, why not utilize those ‘not so good’ self doubting, moments to empower you?

How? Simple, recognize that self- doubt is that friend that forces you to think about the worse case scenario. No, I am not an advocate for ‘what ifs’ however, what if, this doubt serves a vital purpose in accomplishing great things or taking the simpler, more paved road and enjoying the ride.

Either or the opportunity to recognize this moment of wallowing in what has been or could be, can be (if you choose) a great asset to your ‘happiness’ tool box.

Next time you experience that moment of OMG! What am I doing? How will I find my path? I can’t do this, I am not good enough! Moments, choose a time to let it go.

For example: You are stepping out on a limb, the limb feels wobbly and you are contemplating what can, will or might happen. You would weigh all the outcomes/options and either set a limit of how far you can go or keep walking and see what happens. Either or you will have change. You will have an outcome. You also chose all of those outcomes!

Set a time frame to poop or get off the pot. If you want to control or learn to enjoy all changes, when self-doubt appears, allow it for a set time or space.

Next, be grateful for the opportunity to weigh all options and MOVE ON. Allow the short-lived negative emotion to propel you into the wonderful, terrific, fabulous life you have always wanted.

I am so excited for us! As I am allowing my life to be utilized as a messenger. A messenger for you and I to live for the best in and of you & me.

I know life has hit you upside the head several times! I know when just arriving in the valley, you struggle with seeing a way to begin climbing to the top, again.

This change has been since the day you were born. When you took that first breath you began adjusting with the changes in environment, how you ate and how you slept.

You have what it takes to live the life you have always wanted. It’s up to you, how long you allow the changes to hit you, like a ton of bricks. Or how you utilize self-doubt. Either or you will have change, you will experience down & out times and only you can decide how to allow self doubt to assist you or hender you.

Livelove

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Carryon

http://www.livelovellc.org/home

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As the sun shines bright I ask myself…

Work, work, work! Here it is almost December 1st, 2017 and the sun’s vibrant heat beams down on me, as I work away. I love what I am doing, but somewhere in the back of my mind, I continue to search for excuses to gather Freddy the Pink Flamingo and ride on Pinky the Princess, over the hills and through the woods (not really, just on the nicely paved bike path that almost taunts me, everyday, because I can see just a glimpse of it from my balcony).

Pause, sigh, inhale and exhale! I think I will take a break and write outside. Maybe then I can see if the air is that warm or if the window portrait is deceiving.

Of course NOT! OHHH what to do?

Go ride or Work?

What do you think? I will let you know what I decided, later on.

Do what you love and love what you do! The only reason I am struggling with my decision today is because I love everything I do! Whether it is work, play or even making a decision. I feel my way to joy and happiness.

If you continually go to bed worrying about tomorrow or wake up dreading your day, it is time to reevaluate your life! Life is too short to be miserable. I realize earning an income is important, but one thing I have learned is the income will double, triple and quadruple, if you love what you do and ALWAYS, do what you love!!!

God Loves You NO MATTER WHAT!

Livelove

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Carryon

Check out our event coming December 8th in Madison Indiana.

A Mammogram?

As I was talking to Eric about my post about legacies, he began asking me about my own. It was a short lived conversation because he really does know what I want people to remember, lol. Why? because when I am practicing a speech or workshop I constantly stop and ask him to, “Repeat back to me what he heard.”

Only to ensure I am sending the message that is directed in the right way!

So he quickly diverts my attention by telling me about something funny or a great comedian he heard on Sirus. Today was Ms. Pat! He began chuckling then began laughing as he was telling me about her description of Mammograms! He was laughing so hard and then he said it! He said, “Teena, I thought of you and your ‘funny’ story about mammograms. I couldn’t quit laughing!”

First of all, if you have been reading my blog for very long, you know that my husband, best friend and better half does not think I am funny! Lol we tease about it all the time. So there is the first YAY for me!

Second, MAMMOGRAM! Oh my goodness! Are you ready to laugh?? If you don’t have time to relax and read this, STOP, and come back to it later because you will probably get a terrific laugh out of this story!!!

I remember the day like it was today I had just returned home from the doctor. It was a simple Biometric testing so no worries, I thought!

My doctor asked how old are you? I told her. She said, “When was your last mammogram?”

I stopped and said, “Duh, never!”

I thought she was not going to let me come home without scheduling and that day! I finally convinced her I would, just so I could go home 😉.

Of course I am not a good liar and she knows that, so I had a scheduled appointment before I left.

As the day approached I think I called that gigantic, overwhelming office building three times. Oh no big deal! I thought I might have the flu, the next call I wanted to ensure I was on the schedule and who was that doctor again, my final call is I needed the address. (As I laugh to myself while writing my thoughts and fears from the past). I know that if I had so much as broken a finger nail, I would go back to bed and cancel!

I did not cancel and I was proud of myself. (I know this admits that I am a huge baby, but you must know I didn’t even take my mommy and I always take my mommy to the doctor with me, always, even after 40!) I drove directly to the beautifully adorned hospital with its gorgeous chandelier that does nothing except make my premiums go up, and… (pause, inhale/exhale) went up three floors, opened the door to the correct number (hold your breath for just a second so when you laugh you will be able to catch your breath) I had entered a male enhancement office. No! No one reads the sign on the door!!!! The lady looked at me a bit funny, but I guess this kind of thing happens all the time, right? I continue on, to sign in. My delicate signature that is swoopy, curved and yet big enough to be bold, Teena Drake,

The secretary had disappeared, so I sat down! I remember thinking it must be guys days to get mammograms! They must need to be checked regularly, right? (I truly don’t know anything about men receiving them or not). A few minutes passed, maybe more like fifteen or twenty! The lady calls my name up to the window and I promptly jump up with insurance card in hand, slide it through the window and she leans back as though I had cooties or something, snootily pushed the card back towards me and says, “Where are you suppose to be?”

Still confused I reply with, “What do you mean? I am here for a Mammogram and I am wondering how long this is going to take?”

She says Ms. Drake, with a southern draw, you are in a male enhancement clinic. That’s why I am asking you where you are suppose to be!”

At that moment I stopped and was as still as a statue! Don’t turn around, Teena, just say thank you, step backwards keep walking towards the door! I kept thinking, how am I going to get out of here, without looking at these men. I am surely not judging, at all. I have heard some stories that would say go baby go! However, this is entirely a different story!

Okay, maybe I should turn around say real loud and very Clown like, “You guys ROCK!!! NO LIKE REALLY YOU ROCK!!!!

Nope because truly I have no idea what I am talking about. I turned on my heals, politely bowed my head thanked her (for nothing) and exited the building.

Needless to say I missed my mammogram, had to reschedule and will include that story in my next segment of Mammogram??

Actually I should have entitled this entire post Fake News!!!

However, then you might not have read it and I wouldn’t have had this teachable moment!!!!!

Please continue to read, hold your attention five more minutes! This is important!!!!!!

If you enjoyed this reading and you laughed then my mission was accomplished!!!

However, my next mission is to assist you in life! As a teacher I must explain why this next message is super important to millennials, adults, students it doesn’t matter who you are!!!!

The majority of the last story I wrote was fiction. No I am not giving you an English project, but rather an important life lesson!!!!!!

You see when I was a child and searched for something to read it was in a library, where everything was clear and definite! Fiction/children/nonfiction/news/documentaries! The rows were marked, the books were genre labeled, there were no muddy waters or lines to cross.

Then I heard someone recently, in the grocery store, “Are you sure, I think I read on Facebook…”

The rest of the conversation was not worth repeating. However, the statement reminded me of the multiple research papers I had scored, that were filled with ‘fake news.’ Yet, those students would stand behind their research no matter what! Others would look at me puzzled as to why I would question Google!

Your message is, when fact checking, do it again and again and maybe even again. Also if you are fact checking someone said or did something to you, call them and ask. Because it’s merely fiction or gossip unless you hear it for yourself!

In such a fast paced world with all information, thoughts, and advertising swarming us, twenty four- seven, it becomes difficult to decipher facts from fiction. In all cases check and check again before you speak!

Don’t forget Dec. 8th is upcoming! It’s open to the public, begins at 7!

Educators, please use my writings and or several others, for examples of ‘unmarked’ genres. Even if they have a PhD, check your facts about his or ger credibility. (Not necessarily this one unless you enjoy answering questions about male enhancements). But have them follow my blog or you and allow the students to edify my writings.

Thank you for reading as always I cherish you for supporting me! My main mission is to share with you my life lessons, to allow you to enhance your own life, by being the happiest, best YOU!

Livelove

Carryon

http://www.livelovellc.org/home

What will they say about you?

Mom, Jamie and I participated in the Madison tour of homes last night. It was a spectacular evening! We viewed some of the most beautiful homes, museums and this year we were allowed to view a new portion of the Lanier Mansion! (If you have toured it before, go back the new addition is simply fantastic).

Anywhooooo, as we read note cards under pictures in the Historical Society, I began to think, (Yes, again).

Actually, I was appalled at several and I wondered, how will others describe me, when I am gone. Will I be remembered and if so for what?

Let me give you a quick example. This ladies picture hung on the wall (not her best either) and the short paragraph explained how she had been married four times and it was said she had a relationship with a famous writer, who was from this area.

Wait a minute!!! The only reason she was recognized is because she apparently was a tramp and slept with a famous person? Not married to him nor has done anything exceptional.

Remember, I am not saying ‘bad’ things about anyone it’s what her ‘legacy’ was.

Hmmmm…Stop and think what would people say about you? Next year, or one hundred years from now?

In Leader in Me training, #FranklinConvey said, “What would people say to or about you on your 80th birthday.”

Please don’t mistaken living to leave a legacy for living to please others or worry what others think! Not the same thing!!!!!

It’s not that any of us needs to be PERFECT! Or continually worry what others think or say about you or your beliefs.

The difference is a Legacy is big enough to drown out any cruddy down falls you may have. Everyone has them, but people that choose to have big legacies seem to have limited downfalls, after death, okay if it is a positive one. In other words if you are following that strong tug that pulls at your heart to do, be or have anything; or maybe you have committed your entire life to educating others, healing those in need, or whatever it is you choose, as long as you are following how good it feels, you are fine.

However, if you look over the past week and think if I was gone tomorrow, what would (whoever is important to you) say about me? And you don’t like the note card that might hang below your name…It is time to change!

It is time to rewrite your story. Begin setting those wrongs right and following your heart.

I was asked last night, “How do I?”

It doesn’t matter how!! Once again no one has ever known how they were to accomplish anything. They did know what they wanted to accomplish and they did have a why! However, how is left up to you and the universe.

Let me ask you something? If you pray a little or a lot, do you tell God or ask God to show you how? Or do you tell him how to answer your prayers?

Probably not! If we all knew how we were going to accomplish something don’t you think we would skip the journey? Or maybe even the prayer?

(I can honestly say that after December 8th, 2016, I will never question how again. Even when I slip backwards into that old stinking thinking, I won’t question how!)

Begin this moment to think what you want the important people in your life to remember you as! Then begin the journey to develop that spectacular you and note card under your name!

It may be only your family, you care about what they speak of you after you have departed or maybe you want more. Employees, friends or hey if you are Donald Trump, the entire world. I don’t care who it is. I know some of the things I want to be said about me and some I have accomplished, yet others I am continuing to explore. But one thing is for sure, I always want to be thought of as ‘sunshine’ and ‘laughter’.

I don’t care if someone reports how many college degrees I have had or speaks of how many careers I explored. However, I do care how I made them feel, when they encountered my spirit here on Earth. Do you?

What is your legacy? Do you have one? What footprint have you left, if today was your last?

God Loves You No Matter What!!!!!

Don’t forget to email us at Livelove.teena@gmail.com if you want to come celebrate with us! It will be the one year mark for my life changing event and I am super excited to share with you some of the life lessons I have gained.

We are only charging twenty dollars per person, now!!! Not because we had to, but because we are only accepting cash or check for this (technical difficulties with accepting credit cards, so this is easier lol. I keep reminding myself this is all apart of the journey!!).

It begins at 7 and continues until you are tired lol.

I WOULD LOVE TO SEE YOU!

Ohhh and come as you would like to be in 2020! I will explain in a later posting!

Livelove

&

Carryon

Really? Are you joking?

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I know I have posted two already, but just one more and I will be done, for today! Okay? Sounds good to me!

This is a little heartfelt story that most of you could not imagine.

I have a confession to make. Me, Teena Drake, has video fright. I don’t know why this is the craziest thing! I am working on it, but I know I am struggling because of my actions from today.

In the beginning of the day, once I realized my trip of ten hours had been delayed, I planned to write a little bit. I might create one post, but it is time to ramp up my game. Ugh! The truth hurts sometimes. However, as I was researching for a post from my mother, it became more and more clear as to why my ‘traffic’ is limited on my website. I mean, I almost drowned in the sea of postings, rhymes, words, images. Then the thought to follow more bloggers came to mind and I decided to search. I felt like Mr. Wiggles and Mr. Waggles walking up the hill and down the hill, up the hill and down the hill.Until I reach the top to find it was not as clear as what my final destination, really was.

Anywhooooo, I continued to search for The Mind of Kitty blog and for new ones I would enjoy. (Pause, big deep breath in and now exhale), Nothing! I found nothing. By the time I was finished I couldn’t even find my own blog. This is not to blame any of the websites. Heck, I am amazed at all of your potentials…( I am saying that to the website developers). However, tell that to the ninety percent of social media readers/watchers; what is it called? It is not television viewers, not really texters, millennials? Noooo because they were all ages and all walks of life. I guess ‘societers’. Yes, I made that word up. They do not care nor have time to search for one person, let alone have time to read it all. That’s when I realized it is not that people don’t read blogs and enjoy them, but rather they really don’t have time. I mean once I read 7 different bloggers my day was half over. Hence, another reason I  know I am struggling with making videos.

Why? Because like I said before, once I realized the trip was off, I took my shower and dressed for work. Then I continued to find one excuse after another. I set up the tri-pod- that is all I did, I put on makeup, fixed my hair ten times… then it was time for a snack, shew I was starved. Excuse after excuse. Well, it is getting dark so Eric may be home soon. Darn, I missed my chance again.

I have literally cleaned the house, washed all dishes, started the laundry, packed and unpacked again. Finally, I realized it and couldn’t risk blogging about it! Someone asked me, “What about speaking to large groups?”

I have no problem and the larger the group the better, but that video camera and I (pause, big inhale and exhale) we are going to come to an agreement. Until then I want to apologize if I become too wordy and you just wanted to know the message or if there was one. Therefore, I am completing this post with a promise!!!!! (I am smiling really big and so excited to type my promise…), “Oh, are you still waiting for me?”

I Promise, from now on I will no longer waste your time! I will incorporate a Highlighted words somewhere at the top of the post and in the excerpt that says, “This contains a message for you to improve your life for the best.”

Okay, it might just say this is important in bold letters! However, I promise if it is me, Teena Drake, just writing funny thoughts in my head, I will let you know! 

Shew! I hope that helped you, it made me feel a great deal better. One more thing, once I see my friend at Kentuckiana News and she shakes the fears away from me, I will keep my video blogs short and sweet, yet uplifting and educational. We have so many great things to share with you. I am excited to be living and of course, writing.

I know life gets messy and that is okay. We would be bored without a couple or more messes in our lives.

If you are still reading this blog until the end, pssst I have something to tell you…

Follow me, if you want.

THANK YOU!!!!!! From the bottom of my heart, I wish nothing more than for something I write, helps another. If only in laughter or illuminating a thought. Whether you agree with me or disagree, it is still stimulating you to take action and quit sitting and waiting for life to happen to or for you! Wow, that was refreshing! 

 

Livelove

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Carryon

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The Lopsided Cake…

I could have never been a baker because they would have to throw a delicious lopsided cake away, based on principal. However, the truth is I am enjoying serving more and more lopsided, imperfect, delicious, ooey, gooey, cakes. It may seem odd for me to create this comparison to life, but if you stop and think about it, maybe you will see.

In the past I would become so upset over the smallest things. Oh my if someone didn’t like me or worst yet, thought bad of me! I mean someone told me the other day they didn’t appreciate or agree with one of my blogs. I batted my eyes, truly listened to their concern and apologized. No, I wasn’t angry, hurt or frustrated! I kind of understood where they were coming from. (I will come back to this conversation later in the post).

No, I have never been a baker and I am pretty sure most of my cakes have always been losided, similar to a volcano drooping down on one side, unevenly. However, in other ways I was a perfectionist! I expected everything to be perfect. Actually that’s not quite true, I expected, for everyone else, to have expectations, of me, to be perfect! That makes so much more sense, to me.

You see Ms. Debbie’s words of wisdom rings, throughout my head, when someone misunderstands something I have written or stated, “Teena, you need to finish that thought; not everyone knows you well enough to follow the many thoughts rolling through your head. That means you could be easily misunderstood.”

It is true. My thoughts are swirling by the millions and when I become excited or extremely emitting energy in one way or another, the outcome of my words are not always self explainatory!

Back to the point! In the past I always thought I had to be perfect. Although it is unrealisitic nor possible, I placed those restraints on myself. I always wished I could blame this on someone else, but I can’t. It isn’t because of the expectations my mother had, husband or children. Not what the school system placed on me nor the parents or students. It was me! I lived in a perfect world and if anyone messed it up, I would almost fall apart just like a baker would if he/she had to serve one of my slippery sloping cakes.

However, now I just don’t have it in me. Not really that I have slowed down or my thoughts have become less and less. That is far from the truth! I rarely have any particular expectations anymore. I feel myself evolving to one of the richest parts of my life, yet. It is amazing! The feeling of butterflies fluttering in my stomach, when I know Eric is on his way home. The excitement that overwhelmes me when I get to see all my children, family and friends. I am truly grateful and blessed.

I can remember (which I will only remember this for a moment then I am letting it go forever) coming home and being filled with anxiety, stress and aggitation. I worried about how everyone, I do mean everyone in my life chidren, husband, mom, dad, grandma, teachers, peers, students, principals…I worried about! I can’t tell you how many tears I have shed over someone being ‘mad at me.’ If you have ever felt this way or continue to live this way, read on I am about to spill the beans of how it is ‘fake news.’

Come in closer, get real quiet while reading this…IT IS NOT IMPORTANT! Yes, you heard it here first! Perfectionism is not important nor will it add to your life. It is true. Being ‘Perfect’ is ‘Fake News.’ I have meditated this entire year, almost everyday, to gather information or muddle through some theories, so I could share with you! Guess what? I have even tried to Remember why I hated someone (never really experienced HATRED, nor do I want to, so let’s call it disliked their actions). Could remember very little. Almost like when you soak an aspirin to give to an elderly, attempting to swallow. The memory still had a little substance, but not enough to recognize what it was and the end result was no more pain or suffereing from that situation! Wow!!!! In other words, “This too will pass.”

Yes, some memories carry a powerful impact both negative or positive, but the strongest impact is how you felt and how you feel. Instead of struggling or wrestling with the past, go bake a cake! Make it lopsided, oozing with melted icing and enjoy the laughter about your blunders.

It is time to come out of the closet, perfectionist. You are worthy of being terrific without being perfect. Just do it! Drop your rules and regulations for yourself and let us see the beautiful YOU! The VIBRANT YOU! It makes me so excited, I just want to break into song! You know a random song that says, “You are wonderful, be happy, enjoy, mess up and laugh along the way!!!”

Hmmmm I might have something!

Back to the blog posting that might have not been a complete or self explanatory concept, I admit I have imperfections! Thank you for noticing and better yet thanks for reading my blog! As always I hope you are inspired and motivated to live a Happy Life!

God Bless

Livelove

&

Carryon

Had to use this picture because all the lopsided cakes I look up were, what? PERFECT!!! Go ahead and try it, type in Google search, ‘Lopsided Cakes’ grrrrrr they were adorable!!!! Lol oh well be happy!

Don’t I wish, I could give up!!

As my beautiful, peaceful paradise vacation winds down to a aloha, I begin to plan and prepare for the next steps I must take. Mom, asked me yesterday,”Teena don’t you think we should advertise for December 8th?”

(Just because I act like this Hawaiian Monk Seal sometimes, I am just resting to soak up the sun and build strength, Mom and Debbie lol)

As I listened to her ask questions, I paused to feel her emotional attachment. I could hear her worried undertone. Moms know the sound! The sound of worry or fear your child is going to be disappointed or hurt. That sound of not disappointment, but rather a sense of urgency.

Therefore, let me rest your mind at ease (mom) and everyone else who is worried. December 8th is kind of like a pre-celebration! Yes it is a real Livelove celebration. Anyone who attends will receive gifts and be a member/a part of the evovlment of Livelove.org. you will receive emails from time to time requesting your opinion or choice for the company.

Plus, its for you! You will have fun and have a multitude of opportunities to learn something new about living ‘happy.’ However, I don’t care if 10, 20 or 70 show up December 8th. Of course I would LOVE to have the place packed, but not for me, for you.

Why did you write this, Teena? Because my family (who cares so dearly about me), business partners (who continue to try to promote me and I may be easy to work with, but a bit frustrating at times, as well), and for those who really want to come, but aren’t sure quite why, need to know something…

Shew…yes, I sometimes contemplate giving up, walking away and never looking back. No my depressed friends, I am not depressed, so you don’t have to read on for words of wisdom, today.

YES, I consider giving up on my ‘mission.’ But I can not!!!

Nooooo! If December 8th doesn’t go as well as planned, I am not giving up. To be honest, I can’t and as I write I realize I wouldn’t want to!

You might ask why I can’t? Of course my hands are not tied or I am not forced, but I love my life now! I love my inner peace, happiness, joy and continual growth. And…I truly believe that during my accident I was given a message for all to hear. Similar to a preacher, but I would not want that responsibility. You see, I feel that if I don’t share it I will not be allowed to keep this feel good life. Maybe I would forget, maybe I would go backwards. I don’t care I just know I want to continue on, enjoying my life.

Therefore, I am not giving up, quitting or any of the above. Some days might be better than others and I might choose a NAP over a stressful situation, but moving forward I will continue to do.

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Be happy, enjoy, and…

Livelove & Carryon!