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And then 8 more are taken from us! I wept and wept as I read the headlines of May 18, 2018

I must admit around 7:00 A.M. this morning I was being quite a brat! Complaining about the ‘lack’ of money to do some things I want to do. Then my flight arrangements became more hassle than it was worth. The low budget airplane company wouldn’t let me cancel my flight even with trip insurance, I bought from them! I was on a rampage! I was about to lose money and that makes me mad! I proceeded to my ‘complimentary’ breakfast in our hotel and continued to express my bitchy attitude with one of my favorite servers.

She was just as upset as me, that I was losing two hundred dollars! She said, “I would fight that girl. You know that is wrong!!!”

I shook my head in agreement and as I began to add the gooshy details to my sob story, a lady asked her for some more muffins. I bit a piece of bacon off and with a half-full mouth, nodded my head, and mouthed, “I will talk to you later.” 

The outside eating area was a bit chilly so I nestled in a corner seat, with a big cushion to prop behind my lumbar. As I ate my delightful breakfast full of all the ‘fixins’ I glanced up at the television to see what Trump or some other politician had to say today. I read 8 DEAD, School Shooting…again and again, it scrolled across the bottom of the screen. There were people all around me talking and laughing, some were even telling, what they were reading on the television, out loud to someone on a cell phone!

The room began to spin. Was I having a sugar attack? Was I being silly? My next emotion overwhelmed me as one tear fell on my plate, another, and then yet another. Within minutes it seemed to be a flood of tears. Drip, Drip, Drop, Drop, they bounced off my plate. 

I know it is wrong to judge others, but as I sobbed and sobbed, for a fleeting moment, I wondered why I was the only one who was sobbing over the report of Eight Dead, School Shooting. But in reality, this has become American’s reality. Are we becoming cold to the Headlines? It would be simple to do…as much negativity is reported on a daily basis. 

I rapidly began to read the sub-titles to ensure they had captured the shooter. No report! Come on at least let us know it is stopped. Still nothing! 

It didn’t matter anyway…we lost 8 more and at least 1 shooter which makes it nine too many. Where do we go from here? People around the world, citizens of the U.S. all citizens…Where do we go from here? We must find a way to begin focusing on the good in others and ourselves. Why can’t you be celebrated for your goodness? We all have it, we just don’t all recognize it. 

My heart hurts for the entire student body, faculty, and families who have had to endure such a terrible tragedy. Please know that my mission is to spread the awesome possibilities of mental healthy vs. mental filthy. 

I am unsure of the entire big picture of how I or my company can accomplish what we have set forth before us. However, each time I feel like giving up, throwing in the towel, and getting what others say is a ‘real’ job…something drastic such as this happens.

AND at that very MOMENT…I am reminded! Why I started this company, what were my thoughts and visions? What was at least 1 end in mind that I might have had? 

Oh yeah! LiveLove LLC plans to “Change the World, with ONE HAPPY THOUGHT at a TIME!” 

How? Hmmmm posting more blogs to make you think? Publish a book will be out soon, Professionally Motivational Speak at events, Life ‘Happy’ Coaching, and tell everyone I meet, “You deserve to be happy!”

If you do nothing else to assist us in our mission do me one favor…find a child of any age and tell him or her something good you see in them. Anything! 

If you are a parent struggling with an out of control child…listen to your vocabulary. Have you said anything nice to this child who continues to cause you grief? Or are your words always referring back to the many yesterdays of negative emotions he or she created? If you are so hurt that you find yourself going back down the dirt road of despair…pause and appreciate that you still have your child to be frustrated with. Recognize how much you do appreciate and admire about them and tell them. 

Please, we all need each other. We need to know that taking someone else’s life isn’t going to make them feel better. Nor is hurting someone else. We must educate our youth how precious they each mean to our future. How important their opinion, creative ideas, and sense of improvement is to our future societies? 

“I beg of our country to stop this nonsense and begin to focus on the good in all people. The world is your mirror your life is its reflection. It is up to you and me to do WHATEVER it takes to educate our world, ‘life is meant to be lived as Happy as Can BE’!” 

My theory is if I am happy, you, you, you, and EVEN YOU…are happy we have a bright little corner when we stand together. Then you add ten more happy ones with your infectious HAPPY thoughts then we now have forty or more Happies…standing together. Can you see how illuminated this becomes? 

Come Along with me on the Happy Trail! Tell ONE Person today a happy thought. Then try it again but add two more tomorrow. It becomes fun and before long our silly issues like…our son not continuing with college or our daughter didn’t get the highest honorary award. Or your teenager gets pregnant, fails a class, is disrespectful whatever may be going on today will not feel as painful tomorrow. 

We are sending you great love! All of you! To our Texas friends, we are sending the greatest love filled with as many happy thoughts as we can find. Through our struggles we find determination…Teena Drake. 

God Bless Each of You! 

If you need a little extra help coping with those ‘valleys’ in life email us Livelove.teena@gmail.com  Our promise is to find you the best life coach to assist you in finding a better you. 

As always…at LiveLove LLC we encourage you to-

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What does ‘feeling resistance’ mean?

Feeling resistance is when a situation, someone, or something makes you not FEEL very good. Maybe it is a toxic environment at work or home. Sometimes it is a silly comment or question and it rubs us the wrong way. Regardless of ‘what’ the resistance is, if you take time to allow it to serve you, then life will be much more fun. 

For example: I received a phone call about a situation back home in Kentucky. Actually a couple of situations have created resistance for me to explore. But this particular situation truly irritated my spirit! I spent an entire day coaching and continued to help others find their path. However, the call would not get out of my head! I would replay the scenario, comments made, and the situation like a day full of reruns on MeTV. 

Then I woke up this morning…feeling resistance, basically I was angry. Why did she ask me what she did? Why did I bring her family situation into myself? I am traveling, living the life I always wanted, in California and I have spent the past twenty-four hours feeling GRRRRRRRRR. Towards someone who I haven’t seen or heard of in years! 

Have you ever felt like this? Felt the resistance you didn’t ask for? I think we all have. My question is, WHY? Why does this happen and better yet how?

After my meditation I received the most beautiful message which answered my question…what does feeling resistance mean and why does it happen?

When resistance appears…pause and breathe deeply. Ask yourself, “How can this emotion assist me in recognizing the lesson?”

How can you be happy, joyful, appreciative, grateful, if someone is always rubbing you the wrong way or standing in front of you, throwing all the negative they have? Or bringing you into a situation that you didn’t ask for? 

Message: How can you feel blissful if you don’t feel resistance. How will you learn a lesson without resistance? If you constantly complain about something and then it is gone and you mourn, does that make sense? Resistance is a part of life. Not to dwell upon, but rather to learn from and either find a solution or to learn a lesson that does not need to be repeated. 

Reflect back to a time that this situation wouldn’t have affected you. Then ask yourself, “Why do I feel angry, sad, unhappy or resistant to this circumstance?”

Next, decide do you want to hang on to this emotion or have you learned the necessary lesson to let it go? 

For example: My expectations for the lady who contacted me where crazy. My anger stemmed from what we call ‘Mother Bear’ syndrome. Even though it had little to do with me or my family, my subconscious began to work overtime. Why did she say this or that? GRRRRR I felt like growling all day. Then I STOPPED! I meditated and requested clarity. (I also always include the Hawaiian Prayer to help me). 

After the message came to me…I realized this person was struggling with her own personal resistance. She trusted me to listen and understand. She needed a friendly voice to say, “It is going to be okay!” Although I did all of that, my question continued to be, “Why do I feel so irritated with this situation?”

My conclusion was I needed a little resistance to appreciate the here and now. To appreciate how things are always working out for me. To be reminded of how successful I already am and that one person’s opinion is just like a butthole, we all have one. 

However, she wasn’t even giving me her opinion, being hateful, or critical. I was the one who created the resistance. I was the one who allowed my brain to work overtime. 

Resistance does serve you. Sometimes it is a simple reminder that you are okay and other times it is for a lesson to be learned. Once that lesson is learned it is your job to move on and let it go. Remember, NO ONE can change the past, we can learn from it, but not change it.

If you are confronted with a feeling of resistance, take time to pause and provide it with enough attention, to ensure it doesn’t return for a little while. Allow your emotions to be indicators to determine what needs to be changed. 

Livelove LLC is in full swing. We are so excited about the Happy Coaching 101 and we have some ‘NEW’ adventures on their way. 

Facebook, email, instagram, tweet, snap, or message on here to find out how we can assist you in those moments of resistance. 

Life situations that you might need a coach for: Weight loss, depression, anger, irritation, mind-set, earning more money, successfully living to its fullest, parenting, divorce, school, and the list continues on. No need to struggle, we are here to help! 

Live Love

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Carry On

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Geez, Even God is not as hard on you…as YOU ARE!

As Livelove LLC evolves and grows by leaps and bounds my circle of people continues to grow like wild flowers! Yesterday, I left the house at 1:00 in the afternoon and returned around 9:30 in the evening. My day was filled with beautfiul people, some I was collaborating with, others coaching and wrapped up the day with learning more about my Earylybird Toastmasters family. To say the least it was magnificent! I felt blessed beyond belief.

As I laid my head down to relax, my mind raced as if I were in the Indy 500. Comments, conversations, scenarios, and questions raced around and around chasing one another.

Then it suddenly stopped! Similar to a dime spinning and wobbling, only to have a hand smack it…SPLAT! The dime lays still, waiting for someone to pick it up and begin again.

My STOP! Was the moment I realized, “GEEZ, even God is not as hard on us, as WE ARE!”

As my mind was suspended in space, merely observing the comments made throughout the day, by others and even me. Thats when I questioned, “Why? Why do we beat up on ourselves? Why do we feel so compelled to be perfect?”

Why do we continually beat the same old drum? With the same repeat pattern?

What can you change about yesterday? My friend, you can change nothing about yesterday! The only thing you can do with yesterday is regurgitate it over and over in your mind or with others. However, it can never be ‘fixed’ or altered. The past is where it is for a reason.

Instead, try implementing these little thoughts to help you adjust, readjust, and begin focusing on creating tomorrow’s memories by making today magnificent.

For the past has already come and went. Tomorrow may never come. Leaving TODAY, is all you have to play. Enjoy!

Need a little extra help jumping some hurdles in your life? We have a multitude of resources and would love to help you find your ‘Happy’ Spot today and beyond!

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Also don’t forget to send me a message, Facebook post or email if you are ready for your copy of Happy Coaching 101! I plan to have it published asap. Completing the finishing touches this weekend and my goal is May to have it ready!

(The first edition will be e-book, second Audio, and third will be paperback, but if someone insist on a paper back I will see if my friend Dave is up for the task, LOL)

Livelove

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Carry On

Written by: Teena Drake Nickname- Sunshine!

 

 

How dare you share your flatulence!!!

As I swam lap after lap, three men…one, two, & three, rotated in and out of the lanes, next to me.

I swam and swam with a sense of applausable luxury!

Until…Oh my! Oh me!

How can it be????

All three men… one, two, & three, are suffering from gas…where they must let their flatulence free!

Oh my! Oh me…why must you share with me?

Stay home if your belly is full and need a release…

Frrrrrt…Frrrrrt….. (Pause for one, two and three) yet another is free! FRRRRRRRRRRRRRT!

I jump up, lifting my head from under the water, starteled as can be…

Scanning the surface for, which of these three…one, two, & three, had bubbles illuminating, it was he?

Much to my surprise those peculiar three…one, two, & three, had disappeared!

Oh my! Oh me…what does this mean?

As I peeled my new earplugs, out of my ears… the sounds were almost deafening!

And then I realized…the only sounds for me, while swimming with one, two, and three, were ME! 

Could it be? It had to be! It was not they, who I was blaming, Not one, two, and three…sharing their flatulence with me…

Oh, How DARE you share your flatulence with thee!

So the next time you are BLAMING… he, her and me…

Look within , to see, if it is THEE! Who is letting the flatulence FREE!

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Carry On

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Changing the world one happy thought at a time!

God Bless You!

 

K.I.S.S. Life

Keep, it, simple, silly! What? Yes, keep your life simple.

At this very moment I deleted an entire blog posting, explaining K.I.S.S. and how important it is. Then I realized you don’t have time to read all my lengthy explainations! Therefore…I am going to show you how to K.I.S.S. you life!

Scenario: You are experiencing sadness, a loss, a focus on what is. Basically, life to you, at this moment FEELS UGH! Whatever the circumstances are, you just can’t quit thinking about all the crud, going on right at this time.

Change your thoughts! 

Thank you, We are done here! 

Okay, I am joking. I realize how difficult life can seem, at times. I also realize it doesn’t work to continuously think about the ‘it’ you are concerned about.

(Definition of the IT- lover, kids, step-children, ex-partner, cars, jobs. In adult worlds the three hot topics are MONEY, WEIGHT or Body appearance, and LOVE.  A Kid’s world is similar, but they seem to change their perspective, much quicker)

How then do we fight this feeling of depression, sadness and/or Ughness?

Try this:

Without doing anything else…

Right at this moment…

Think of TEN of the silliest words, nonrelated to your It, and be as crazy and random as you want! Have FUN!!!!!

Let’s try this together…

You begin to tell me all your ‘stuff’ or how frustrated, sad, irritated, lonely, depressed, broke, unhappy or however else you feel.

Bubble Butt, pink poop, grasshopper slime, slurpy, hairy balloons (hahahah you thought I would say b_lls), frolicking, freaky, green burps, blurple!

Example: You as of this moment, “I cried all night because he said… (I am abruptly intterupting, hypothetically)

Pink Poop!” (Pause) You giggle…

You, “I just can’t believe someone would do this to me…”

Bubble Butt

Come on you are LAUGHING! Admit it!

Go ahead… Read or say the list out loud. Yes, out loud! Yes, while discussing all your crud or your IT! Do IT.

After you have stopped laughing. Do you feel better? Did your problem go away? NO, but it will. Because we know, “This too shall pass.”

It may seem to simple, but if you were to truly step back and analyze your life from this age and back, do you remember the difficult times? Of course you do. Do you remember feeling like you would NEVER GET THROUGH THIS? Of course you do! But you did!

You made it, You aren’t sure how, but you DID IT. Now reflect back…did worrying, crying and feeling UGH for a long period of time assist you in any way? Of course it didn’t. It only caused you more harm and you probably became sick, if you prolonged the worrying!

I realize LIFE can be tough at times. However, I have learned the more you K.I.S.S It the much easier, even the tough times, can be!

You are LOVED!

Livelove

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Carry On

Need a little extra help, but not sure you need a psych evaluation? 

Or is it your child? Who needs a little extra help or tutoring?

Whatever your circumstances are we can help! 

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Both of my granddogs are featured here to remind us to enjoy the simple pleasures of life…Mmmmmm sure does smell good!

 

If I DIED TODAY, What would you say?

If I died today what would you say? 

Would you be so Cliche as to ramble on about the would should and coulds?

Or would you remember all my mistakes and blunders?

If I died today what would you say?

Would you be so Romantic as to buy me flowers, kiss my head and only be saddened due to the lack of hugging, kissing and reminiscing?

Or would you remember all my outburst of laughter that rolls like the thunder?

As of yet, I have not died today! But if I am the other half of you, I ask, “If I died today, what would you say? I simply, WONDER…”

Please always know that YOU ARE LOVED! I don’t know who needed this today, but I have a great deal of ‘work’ related items to complete today and this WOULD NOT STOP, until I shared with you!

Therefore, to whomever you are, I send you great love. I send you my gift. My only pay, I request, is for you to embrace and pass it on!

Livelove

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Carry On

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How we can help you?

I don’t know, e-mail us and we will see if we can! If we can’t, You might be able to help us, help others!

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Toastmasters? Who is that and who cares?

When you go to the closet and pick up a pair of pants, that do not fit any longer, do you continue to wear them? If you do attempt to ‘make do’ does it become disastrous?

At one time, I worried about being too fat, not good enough and was terribly unsatisfied with the way my clothes fit. I decided to become dedicated to the cause. I worked out and felt terrific. I reached my goals and felt pretty good about myself.

However, I had this one pair of pants! They were my favorite pair. Black silky material, elastic waist, balloon pant legs which created an illusion, I was wearing a long evening gown, but they were functional. I would tell the kids they were my ‘Fancy Pants.’ I truly did love this pair of pants.

Therefore I continued to wear them. Who cared, if they were five sizes too big. No one else knew, just me. As I daydream back to the day I remember my honey bunny saying, “When are you going to get rid of those pants?! They are hanging off of you and if you aren’t careful they will fall down in front of your class!”

What did he know about fashion? I didn’t pay any attention to his nonsense. I arrived at work early and whistled as I walked into the front door. “Good Morning, Ms. Connie,” I cheerfully said as I scooted past her office, in my flowy pants.

The day went wonderful. All of my lessons were going as planned and life couldn’t be better. My planning time came and it was time for lunch. As I nonchalantly danced by the office I heard a deep, male voice call out my name, “Mrs. Drake?”

I jumped a bit and then I heard, “We need your help in the office.”

As much as I wanted to play sick and run back to my classroom, I didn’t. I never wanted to upset Ms. Connie, she is the best.

Turns out she had left due to a family emergency and I was the only ‘warm body’ who could fill in, at least until after my planning period. Which might I add, it was always a short planning time, until today! This day seemed like forty-five minutes was forty-five days.

Of course I quickly found myself sitting in ‘THE CHAIR’ the one where all the phone calls come in, the parents, grandparents, step parents, sick kids, medicated students, vomiting teachers, and last but not freaking least the INTERCOM SYSTEM! I may seem a bit dramatic, but the office manager, in my opinion, has the most difficult job of any in the school system.

The first parent arrived within five minutes of me sitting down. She said in a meek little voice and shaky hands, “Yes, my daughter is in 6th grade and she left her book bag at home. Soooo I wanted to bring it to her…”

I quickly interrupted in a flustered voice, “What? Who did you say? You are going to have to speak up and what class is she in?”

Oh for goodness sakes that one took me fifteen minutes. Including that ordeal, I had four teachers, one cafeteria assistant calling me and the outside calls, were rolling over to an email, faster than I could answer.

It was my last five minutes and a dad buzzes at the door. I let him in, he requested to pick up his son in 6th grade. Most organized human I had dealt with in the past forty minutes. He knew which class at the correct time and spoke up. Pleased with my survival skills through the past few events…I smile really big and I politely say, “Thank you for being so organized and I will call your son up at this time.” (I almost sounded like a robot).

I call the classroom, no he is not in there. Hmmm maybe this dad made a mistake. This continues on for a couple of times. I am now using the intercom and telephone when he yells out, “OH I am so sorry, I forgot he is in seventh grade, he is in math!”

He yelled so loud I fell back into the roller chair, that I had been attempting to spin back and forth in, to accomplish more, in a shorter amount of time. When I fell I zoomed backwards towards Ms. Connie’s desk and quickly spun around, placing my elbows on the desk and hands under my chin. “I am sorry, I didn’t quite catch that?”

He repeated it in a much calmer and embarrassed voice, “My son is in the seventh grade, I am so sorry…”

As he continued to apologize I had become a little smirky and to be blunt I was ticked off. I spun around to turn my back to this man, whom I was upset with. Placed both feet firmly on the ground…pushed my behind up using both hands and my body.

AND…as fast as I stood up, my pants came plummeting down. Yes, down to my knees! My bare behind was there for this man and whoever else wanted to see! I quickly plopped back down, as I gasped for air! Not only were they down, the bottom of my right pant leg was tightly wound around the wheel. I wasn’t going anywhere.

I remember I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry and the man, he turned around and walked out in the hall. Probably to laugh so hard he had to pee his pants! Mr. Genton heard me laughing hysterically, as I grabbed my stomach and bent over to attempt and free my pants leg! Of course he helped the father find his son and all he could say between his tears of hysterical laughing, was, “Why do you wear pants that are clearly to big?”

I hope you are now laughing too! This is absolutely a true story. I guess now most of you know why, when someone suggests me working in an office, I laugh and politely decline.

You see, not only were my pants too big, but I was attempting to fill even greater shoes.

Are you doing the same thing in life? Are you continuing to wear the old YOU, who doesn’t fit anymore? It isn’t about the size, it’s about the fit. Isn’t it time you find your own shoes to fill? And if you are hanging on to those old clothes, ask yourself, “Do I want to return to this person or am I okay with brand new and a better fit?”

If the world is continually rotating that means there is never a stagnant moment. Meaning CHANGE is inevitable.

Sometimes we hold ourselves to ‘way back then’ so long, we forget to experience the now and forever more. When you fit in your own skin, life feels pretty TERRIFIC!

God Loves YOU NO MATTER WHAT!

Livelove

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Carry on!

I am so excited about this great adventure. I would love for you to come along and see all the beautiful stops we are making along the way! If you need a little umf in your life e-mail me at Livelove.teena@gmail.com

A New Service for you: Angel Card Readings they are fun and always enlightening. Of course we continue to offer workshops and Happy Coaching.

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