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Geez, Even God is not as hard on you…as YOU ARE!

As Livelove LLC evolves and grows by leaps and bounds my circle of people continues to grow like wild flowers! Yesterday, I left the house at 1:00 in the afternoon and returned around 9:30 in the evening. My day was filled with beautfiul people, some I was collaborating with, others coaching and wrapped up the day with learning more about my Earylybird Toastmasters family. To say the least it was magnificent! I felt blessed beyond belief.

As I laid my head down to relax, my mind raced as if I were in the Indy 500. Comments, conversations, scenarios, and questions raced around and around chasing one another.

Then it suddenly stopped! Similar to a dime spinning and wobbling, only to have a hand smack it…SPLAT! The dime lays still, waiting for someone to pick it up and begin again.

My STOP! Was the moment I realized, “GEEZ, even God is not as hard on us, as WE ARE!”

As my mind was suspended in space, merely observing the comments made throughout the day, by others and even me. Thats when I questioned, “Why? Why do we beat up on ourselves? Why do we feel so compelled to be perfect?”

Why do we continually beat the same old drum? With the same repeat pattern?

What can you change about yesterday? My friend, you can change nothing about yesterday! The only thing you can do with yesterday is regurgitate it over and over in your mind or with others. However, it can never be ‘fixed’ or altered. The past is where it is for a reason.

Instead, try implementing these little thoughts to help you adjust, readjust, and begin focusing on creating tomorrow’s memories by making today magnificent.

For the past has already come and went. Tomorrow may never come. Leaving TODAY, is all you have to play. Enjoy!

Need a little extra help jumping some hurdles in your life? We have a multitude of resources and would love to help you find your ‘Happy’ Spot today and beyond!

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Also don’t forget to send me a message, Facebook post or email if you are ready for your copy of Happy Coaching 101! I plan to have it published asap. Completing the finishing touches this weekend and my goal is May to have it ready!

(The first edition will be e-book, second Audio, and third will be paperback, but if someone insist on a paper back I will see if my friend Dave is up for the task, LOL)

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Carry On

Written by: Teena Drake Nickname- Sunshine!

 

 

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If I DIED TODAY, What would you say?

If I died today what would you say? 

Would you be so Cliche as to ramble on about the would should and coulds?

Or would you remember all my mistakes and blunders?

If I died today what would you say?

Would you be so Romantic as to buy me flowers, kiss my head and only be saddened due to the lack of hugging, kissing and reminiscing?

Or would you remember all my outburst of laughter that rolls like the thunder?

As of yet, I have not died today! But if I am the other half of you, I ask, “If I died today, what would you say? I simply, WONDER…”

Please always know that YOU ARE LOVED! I don’t know who needed this today, but I have a great deal of ‘work’ related items to complete today and this WOULD NOT STOP, until I shared with you!

Therefore, to whomever you are, I send you great love. I send you my gift. My only pay, I request, is for you to embrace and pass it on!

Livelove

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Carry On

Need a little extra help in your life? Livelove.teena@gmail.com is where to find us.

How we can help you?

I don’t know, e-mail us and we will see if we can! If we can’t, You might be able to help us, help others!

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Please, place the blinders over your eyes and proceed forward

When our paths cross, I would like to ask you, to do me a favor, human to human, look at me with blinded eyes.

Blinded to my beliefs that were embedded in my brain through my surroundings.

Blinded by the color of my skin that I did not choose, but rather it was bestowed upon me by the DNA of my mother and father.

Blinded by the land I was born, by my judgement, your judgement and our diversities that separate us.

Rather enjoy my smile, a hug or a moment of peace. Because although we are all differentiated by a beautiful array of backgrounds, our similarities stitch us together.

Drawing us closer, regardless of our differences. We are people and people are in pursuit of happiness, betterment, improvement and/or comfort while experiencing this journey.

Isn’t it time we find solutions in each other? The solutions to allow you, to live the life you desire?

United we stand and divided we fall! Come on my human friends. Close your eyes and instead of continuously highlighting the problems in others; feel our similarities. And…

Live like you have never lived before.

Love with your entire being…yourself, others and all experiences.

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Carry On! Carry on with your pursuit to improve and feel good.

Love will always win!

God Loves You no matter what!

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Happy Coaching 101 (Day five)

Last day of my sneak peek of Happy Coaching 101. Don’t forget to catch up and read Monday’s post about this service. It will be time for you to tell me how you think this service would be best utilized. Yes, I need your help on deciding several items in January of 2018. Therefore, if you find yourself feeling the need to comment, provide advice or just want to voice your opinion, Livelove is giving you that opportunity!

Today’s posting is very dear to my heart. This middle age man has battled with drugs, is not allowed to see his family and has been on a multitude of  street and prescription drugs, longer than not. I provided this service for free, for him. I will honestly say, his messages are some of my favorites.

Message:

It’s time to come out and be the person you are to be! It’s time for you to shine like a brand new coin and give back to society, what you were meant to bring. Your kids need their daddy, the one who adores and cherishes them. A man! A man to be looked up to, who is honest and cares for himself as well as others. You are now to be grateful for your own family who has upheld you, bailed you out numersous times and cried themselves to sleep when you were locked up because they miss and love you.

I am jumping up and down in excitement to watch you grow and evolve to the man you know you already are! You are loved no matter what, unconditionally! Just remember you are also creating a pattern for your children to follow, where do you want them to go? Down your present road or a happier one? You choose.

God Bless

Livelove

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Carryon

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Email us is you are interested in beginning Happy Coaching 101 as personal messages.

Monday January 14th we will have only five spots open for that week, but will be adding more asap.

Written by: Momma Teena and her Happy Coaching Messages!

 

Happy Coaching 101 (Day 2, free trial)

This segment was for a beautiful woman, who was struggling with depression, divorce, and detoxing from a toxic relationship. She has been through a great deal this past year. However, I know, her messages assisted her in more ways than one.

My friend, you are worthy of being happy and you deserve it. At this time it is time for you to let go of a lot of crud!! It is the time for you to begin allowing, receiving, and let go!! Life is meant to be happy!!!! Nothing else matters!! Oh sure you will have down times, but they are simple reminders of what you do not want!!! The difference is now you know the reason for these paths of least resistance (Abraham-Hicks) therefore, any negativity or hurtful times will only last a short amount of time! Once you recognize why you are feeling this resistance, then you change it.

You are amazing and I know how difficult it can be to let go and accept that life is so simple but it is!!!! The meaning of life is….hmmm think it’s time to figure that out for yourself.

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Carryon

suicide? Suicide? SUICIDE?

This picture is on a house boat with Darion Drake and Matt Reed, when they were little. Although his memory will always live on, his physical form was taken from us. Why? Because he couldn’t see a better way! Isn’t it time we show others, there is always a choice. A choice to live. If life feels ‘too much’, pause, breathe and hold on…THIS TOO WILL PASS!

I will never ever forget the moment, I received this crazy phone call! “Teena, Matt has killed himself!”

I rubbed my eyes, cleared my throat and asked,”What? Did you say Suicide?”

“Yes, he is gone!”

(This is not a posting to upset anyone, but it needs to be written!)

I woke Eric up and we both broke down and began to sob. Heart broken, angry, hurt and deeply saddened were just a few emotions, we were experiencing.

You see this was extremely unexpected, because Mathew had been through this exact same horrific experience, with his older brother. He was a teenager and it happened right before his birthday. So you can imagine why we never thought Matt was capable of repeating the event.

However, sadly he did! Leaving his sister, mother and nephew with voids, never to be filled.

Let me tell you about Mathew Reed!

He had a spirit of LIVING! He loved cars, helping others, his family (especially his wonderful nephew). He was a ball of energy. Always willing to lend a helping hand and he could make you laugh until you peed your pants!

At his visitation, I heard the same thing over and over again. “Why? He was such a great person. Why?”

I wish I could answer such a simple question, as to why? But I can’t. Instead, I want to illuminate his life and hopefully help someone else. As I write, in almost ALL of my postings, NO ONE CAN CHANGE THE PAST! I, nor you can reverse what has been done. Yes, you can receive strength to carry on, but once any act or deed is done, it is done.

However, I do believe, my loving Mathew Reed and I can help someone. Someone who is hurting, contemplating and feels stuck.

You see IF we could have stopped this, Matt would probably be preparing for a fun filled night of hanging with his friends. Texting me at midnight to just wish me Happy New Years and laughing about all the crud he has been through. However, none of those events can or will happen.

Sad? Yes! Change it? No 😔!

Learn from him? Definitely 😎!!

If Matt could speak to you right now he would say, “Hold on. Pause. Breathe Deeply. And LIVE ON!”

It’s okay to feel…anyway you want to feel. But please continue to remember, ‘This too will pass.’

I love you Mathew Reed and will continue to send out your message.

God Bless

Please, I beg of you, help me to help others. Tell someone today, that no matter what, it’s going to be okay. It will work out and this to will PASS!

Livelove

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Carryon

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More recent Thanksgiving Past…

As most of you know Eric and I went to Hawaii to see mom and dad as well as, celebrate our twenty fifth anniversary. What you may not know is it was their forty ninth Wedding Anniversary on November 2nd! It was awesome. Therefore, Eric and I, took them out to eat for a special dining experience, on the ocean to celebrate.

Betty and I got all dressed up in our aloha dresses, adorned our beautiful outfits with Jewlry, by none other than Beautiful Bling by Betty. We were the cats meow!

As we drove up to the restaurant the torches were lit and the dancing fire illuminated the walk way, to a ambiance for love and romance. Ocean breeze, family and friends. Both our heads were spinning. Stop! Selfie time. I took a group photo with my handy dandy selfie stick. I really think we were floating on a cloud of happy emotions, to the extreme that we began reminiscing about times past, that we were all together and how wonderful it was.

Now let me stop right here! Don’t take me the wrong way, we all had a wonderful, fabulous, delicious dinner that night on November 2nd, 2017. But read on and see if you can see why I blame the ‘ambiance’ of this romantic evening on the stupidity, Betty and myself were about to begin and continue.

As we told our friends, who were joining us, about the different family gathering memories, we had. Everyone could feel the flucuations of happiness then the wave of, just a smidge, of sadness. (Not because we were unhappy now, but sometimes it is sad when so many traditions have changed).

That’s when it happened. I had one martini and I don’t know which one of us spoke up first, but one of, Betty or I, said, “We should have an old fashion Thanksgiving dinner. Mmmm all that good food, Uncle Ben’s Wild Rice, gravy, broccoli casserole. That is it.! Let’s do it!”

We both so eagerly shook our heads in an accepting manner of how ‘good’ of girls and wives, as we truly are! Almost as if all of the grand things we have done for our families, came down to the most memorable times.

The guys attempted to talk us out of this grandious, hair brain scheme of ours. But no, no they weren’t talking us out of it! We were sure this would be a fun time and we were jumping in with both feet first!

As the days and nights went by, we were busy, busy. Hoola class, beach hoping and bike riding. Shopping and enjoying each other’s company. Until, Dum Diddy dum!!!! (Drum roll please) The day for Thanksgiving Dinner had arrived! Gosh has it already been two weeks? Naaaaa surely not!

The best way I can explain the affects of Hawaii is; every inch of your body is JELLO. Worries cross your mind, but flee as quick as they enter. If one thing I know, for sure, is going backwards to ‘The Good Ole Days’ isn’t as much fun as soaking up the sun in our ‘BEST’ days!

At least I felt like that. I was unsure if Betty felt like this so, I rolled out of bed and began to create a list. The entire time I was writing I would write a dish and then write beside it a label…difficult or simple. Which meant I was already back pedaling from all of this ‘traditional’ crud. Yes, it was fun, but it was a great deal of work, especially for Betty and I because we had always been the two who seemed to expect ourselves, to work alot, to please as many as possible.

Now don’t get me wrong, we have always enjoyed our families and have both taken pride in our efforts to open our homes and demonstrate loving hospitality. (Of course she is better at being more hospitable than me, but she is a better cook too, so who cares, I love and accept myself lol).

However, at this point I was pretty sure we were both over the ‘Old Fashion’ Thanksgiving dinner. When she saw my list she began to laugh and laugh. She was like this is alot of work isn’t it?

Many funny epiphanies came to me, during my process, of getting ready and I shared them with Ray and Eric. Both men quickly reminded me,”We tried to talk you both out of this! But nooooo you insisted!”

I stood there similar to a statue, listening to everyone’s chatter. How true were their claims? In all actuality , extremely true! Brutally, honestly, TRUE!

We had done this to ourselves!

Now let me wrap up the story part, before I bring it to full circle!

We had the best visit with mom and dad than ever before. We both truly enjoyed being in their presence and in paradise. Betty and I cooked a Thanksgiving meal ‘traditional’ Drake’s style!

Of course, I assisted, but my dishes fell under the simple or some even bought category. However, we pulled it off! It was the most mouth watering, delicious, fabulous, exquisite meal I have had in quite sometime.

I am grateful for the entire vacation and will cherish the sweet memories throughout our visit.

However, I learned some valuable lessons from the entire dinner ordeal. I feel it’s best to bullet them…

  • You don’t always have to relive a tradition to enjoy the memory.
  • When you are feeling stressed about something almost like a regret, talk to that person, be honest. You never know they may feel the same way.
  • Sometimes what we think makes other people happy, is not real, ask them if it is something they feel emotional about. For example: our husbands could have cared less, what we cooked, they were grateful we cooked at all.
  • When looking back at a memory and it feels all warm and fuzzy enjoy it, but ensure before you say you want to relive it, you remember the entire story.
  • For example: I love my children so much and I must say I enjoyed raising them, but to say I would want to relive it would be ludicrous.
  • Although we were resistant the day of, we readjusted and shopped one day and cooked the next. Allow yourself readjustment time. If it is a bad time in your life pause and allow yourself to rethink and readjust, how you feel. (No this wasn’t a bad time in our life. It was actually funny how great of a time it truly was, but this works if you are having a worse time, than we were).
  • Feel it? Feel just how you feel right now. If you don’t like this feeling, then ask yourself, how do I want to feel?
  • What will bring you closer to that?

Thank you for reading this posting.

I am truly grateful for you! Wish you the best.

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Livelove

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Carryon

Written by: Momma Teena