Category Archives: guilt

Watch “Abraham Hicks 2017 – Curing Mental Ilness” on YouTube

Wow! Fell asleep at 9 PM last night only to be awaken with nausea and frustration at 3 AM. I am unsure why however, I crawled out of bed, gathered some necessary items to calm my stomach and then laid down. Now it is 5 AM and I am still awake. 

I have meditated, blogged, tossed and turned, but nothing seemed to help. I finally decided to listen to an Abraham-Hicks on you tube. The message was so powerful I had to share with you. 

Listen to the lady recovering from mental illness! She is on a terrific path. However, can anyone identify a relatable message from one of my previous writings? Of course, it is her paradigm holding her back. She ‘worries’ about what people think. Why? Because of her past issues. This is what I was explaining…learn from the past, but do not live there.

This is a great recording! 

Life is waiting for you to enjoy. You create your own reality? Yes, therefore begin this day…this Monday morning to change your conversation about yourself. If you have struggled with mental illness in the past then leave it there. Who are you now? Not 15 years ago! Live for today! What do you have planned fun today? Anything? If not search for the fun moment throughout the day. Then right before you crawl in the bed write down at least fun or funny times you had, throughout the day. Can’t find many? Then begin planning for tomorrow. What will I do for fun tomorrow? Tuesday evening, write it down again. Repeat this until your conversations consist of how much ‘fun’ you are having. Before long all you will have to talk about is how much fun life is and how when you think it, it happens! 

  1. If others around you do not appear to be amused or as inspired, send them a pink bubble in your mind, full of laughing gas and it burst in their face. Only to force that person into a contagious laughter!
  2. Do not be afraid to tell the people you love and enjoy to be around, if their negativity or hateful words are hurting you. They may not understand at first but it won’t take long for them to catch on. 
  3. Most importantly enjoy! Be happy with the process or journey of life through finding your joy. 

Livelove

Fear? Worry? Anger and Resentment? 

I love you! Those three words can carry an emotional attachment that creates fear and worry depending on how you feel. Yes, I am continuing to discuss ways to feel your way to happiness.

What about finding the love of my life? I want to have love! I want to love and be loved! How can I have that? This may appear to be too simple. However, the few steps I am about to explain are simple and follow the same guidelines as the Universal Law Like Begets Like. 

Step one: stop wallowing with the pigs!!! Meaning we all know he or she hurt you and they are crazy and you are damaged and and and and!!! How many times have you told the story? Each time you tell the story it continues to create and recreate the negative emotion and feeling. All people have a toxic person float in and hopefully out of their lives. The difference is when you are living in the now and making decisions based on the emotional attachment of the outcome; you will choose the easiest, funnest, most peaceful route naturally. But, your so focused on what has been you continue to stay at that low frequency. Which is why I say stop wallowing with the pigs.

Step two: Take time to fall in love with you! I know most have heard you can only love someone as much as you love yourself. My daughter,Nancy, said, “It depends on how broken you are when entering the relationship. You must mend first before you can be in a healthy relationship!” 

Find what you love about you and focus on those items! The things you don’t like about yourself will begin to improve because you continue to focus on your strengths.

Step Three: Create the relationship you want in your mind. How does your partner treat you? See it, feel it visualize and believe it. I promise they will come into your life. If you will feel it. Also accept that you are worthy of love. You are loveable!!!! You deserve a kind, caring, loving partner because that is the KIND of partner you are.

Step Four: if you do not feel love for yourself re-evaluate take time to learn what you love about yourself and focus on that. Tell your concious mind to hush if it begins to throw negative what If’s at you. (Remember that is the job of the concious mind, it is to protect you by retrieving information from your paradigm. Therefore, understand you must continually tell it nooo this time is different because I am different. I am not that past lack of confidence sad disturbed hated life person anymore!! But I thank you for always trying to protect me) then proceed forward with your love for you and in a brief amount of time your partner will appear. They will compliment you and it will be exactly how you visualized it! 

Create your own reality!! Speak about the exciting events unfolding in your life. Choose to live and feel your way to happiness! 

God Bless You!! 

Livelove 

More Determined than EVER!!!!

Today we say goodbye to our sweet God son Matt Reed. Although my heart is hurting for our loss, it hurts even more that I couldn’t help. Suicide is a difficult act to understand, what were they thinking, how could I have helped, was I not paying attention? The questions race through everyone’s minds when this kind of tragedy occurs.

For me, losing Matt in this fashion creates even more determination. I am determined to provide anyone who wants to live a life full of happiness, laughter, love and understanding, I will share all I know and learn.  

My promise to you is to provide you with the proper tools to create a journey filled with whatever you choose. Yes, all of us have tragedy, sadness, negative energy, or incidents beyond our control. However, YOU decide how you live life. Begin today!!!

Each time you feel terrific today write it down. Not necessarily in sentence form. Title it feel good or happy moments, then write them down as they occur. For example: 

MY HAPPY PLACES: 

  • Camping
  • Listening to oldies music on river with loved ones
  • Salon
  • Driving
  • Making love
  • My front porch
  • Writing

As you can see the list is to help you be aware of the ‘happy’ people, places, or events. These do not stop all negativity, but they definitely detour those events. 

If I were to line all the people I know or who I am associated with, who committed suicide, I know without a doubt each one would say, “I wish I could take it back. I didn’t mean to hurt the ones I love!!! I simply did not see any alternative.” 

You see anyone who chooses to take their own life was not thinking how will or do my loved ones feel. Many entitle it selfish, but I can’t. Instead, I choose to use misinformed. Not enough information on who, what, when, where, why, and how to seek, find and enjoy their own happiness!!! 

Life is meant to live!!! Why not choose to enjoy the journey? Will every moment be perfect? No! However, keep allowing, visualizing, accomplishing, setting goals and focus on feeling TERRIFIC!!! As long as you create a habitual way of living in the vibration of ‘being happy’ you will always stop, think, feel the bad feeling then quickly switch your emotions to a better vibration. It can be as quick as a snap of your fingers. Each time I feel down and out I quickly find a pen and paper. Writing is my quick way to change emotions. You will find yours! 

Take time out of your busy schedule today to pause…pause for suicide victims, pause for the loved ones who have lost someone to suicide. Next find a happy thought for you and share it with the world! Post it, photograph it whatever it takes find the feel good vibration. You can actually help all who have been affected by this empty feeling by teaching others there is an easier way and it is much more fun. Teach yourself and loved ones how to find their own happiness, share what you have learned.

Sadly, I can’t bring back the ones we have already lost! However, I am determined to teach others how to carry on. You can help!!! Glorify your loved ones who have taken their own lives by helping others to make a happier choice!!! 

; until we meet again Matthew Reed I will continue to pray, smile and share the knowledge of enjoying life. God Bless You!!!

Carry On and Have Fun!!! 

Livelove 💖💖💖💖💖

You, he she– they all irritate me!!!

Do you find yourself disliking everyone? Is there something wrong with everyone? Do you continually look around and see how bad you are treated by others. Gosh, I know how you feel! It seems like everytime I turn around some one is doing something to me. The only difference in my life now is the people I am constantly attracted to love me for me. I see the beauty in me therefore, I see the beauty in others as well.

Don’t worry if you are agreeing with the first portion of the above paragraph, it’s okay I have felt the same way! There are days I still struggle with what I call, awkward moments. Where someone might rub me the wrong way or I find fault in others. However, to return to those conversations or feelings on a daily basis would be devastating. I can remember feeling competitive, compared, hurt, not good enough, irritable with others and continually finding fault. Again, Yuk even typing those words create a sick feeling in my stomach. 

Then how do I change it? It’s not difficult, but it does take effort on your part. The first few weeks of practicing this new way of thinking you may feel a colorful array of emotions. For example: when you recognize why someone is not being nice to you it may create an angry or sad emotion at first. However, keep working at it and you will be surprised at how amazing each individual, who is already in your life or comes into your life, truly is. I am in awe of my loved ones! I always use the words ‘loved ones’ because I love each individual in my life! I can not discriminate between family and friends I feel fortunate to have them all!!!

Have you ever heard of Universal Laws? Of course if you have read my past writings you have heard me speak of them. The most common laws we learn about in elementary school are Newton’s Laws. Universal Laws follow the same guidlines. The one I am speaking of today is Like Begets Like. You can easily put this into other wording yet it’s definition is the same. This one says whatever you like about other people is what you like about yourself. This law (like all laws) is nonbiased or not prejudice. In other words it doesn’t care if you like or hate-the law goes both ways. Therefore, everything you don’t like about another person you don’t like about yourself. My mother always told me if you are pointing one finger at your neighbor three are pointing back. If you are not sure about this law due to religious beliefs,; the World English Bible translates the passage as: You hypocrite! First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye.Mathew 7-5

Universal Laws are laws. They are universal. They do not discriminate against religion, ethnicity, shape, size, political party or anything else that separates us from each other. They are the same for everyone. 

How does this work? Let’s begin with a simple example. The song, I Like Big Butts and I cannot lie, is the first scenario that comes to mind. In the beginning of the song several women are talking about another girls butt! If I remember correctly they are bashing her for having such a nice, big butt. Then the song proceeds to defend and praise a big butt! Glorifying the one part the women were complaining about. I know this is a funny comparison or way to explain the law Like Begets Like, but it is fun to do and keeps it light hearted. If you were in the circle of ferocious haters of big butts, you need to step back and ask yourself why? Why does a big oh juicy booty bother you enough to complain about it? Or talk about it? In reality those women in the song didn’t like their behinds (big or small) or they lacked in that area and were just hating on the beautiful big butt. 

Okay, maybe I took that description of butts a little too far! But I guarantee I created a thought for you to begin recognizing the effects of Like Begets Like in your life. You probably know of someone that irritates you, now you can begin to identify why and how to change it.

I know I haven’t told you how to correct these awkward moments in your life. The reason is just like quitting smoking you have to want to quit. Same with changing your habitual view of yourself and the world around you only YOU CAN CHANGE IT! How? How? How?

Steps: 

  1. Learn the Universal Law
  2. Accept it! It’s true I promise as you see others is how you see yourself.
  3. If you catch yourself joining a conversation about someone else and it is not creating a great emotion, walk away or say, “I know but she has worked her love handles off to get that butt!” Anything to change the direction of the comments and converaation.
  4. If you are faced with a negative situation where you feel like the victim- take time to be alone, only to analyze why you felt sad and how you could have handled that differently.
  5. Change what you say to yourself and or about yourself. For example: I always gain weight when _________ . (Fill in the blank). Instead begin saying I love my body and I am happy to be healthy and wealthy. (I use the term Wealthy because some how America decided weight is a sign of poverty. Although carrying weight was a sign of wealth in the past!) I don’t care what you say to yourself just remember the law continues to be active no matter who you are talking about.
  6. Be cautious before you react. For many years I reacted to everything! Now I stop, think and may respond or may not. In other words it’s not about your opinion, rather your vibration. My two cents isn’t always necessary and neither is yours. Therefore, stay cautious before you react. (My grandma always said, “If you can’t say anything nice do not say it at all)
  7. Last trust yourself. Remember all good energy is flowing towards you. The more ‘likes’ you put out and the less “criticism’ the more great vibrations will migrate towards you. When you catch yourself being even silently judgemental, stop yourself, look within, and observe an area of your life you would like to improve. Then find something good to think or say about that person, redirecting the thought process.
  8. Like begets like: if you see good you will feel good more and more. (What you see in others is how you feel about yourself good or bad)

    Have fun!!! 

    Livelove 

    Always remember God loves you no matter what!!!!

    Guilty? Never!!!

    Have you ever felt guilty for something feeling so right? After analyzing the emotion of guilt, I realized many may feel the way I do. When my husband comes home and I am in shorts, t-shirt, messy bun and never attempted to put my makeup on for the day, I have feelings of guilt (self imposed), but I feel a bit guilty. I always attempt to explain my accomplishments from the day, but the feeling tends to persist. Therefore, I took time to meditate and my answers were clear. Hope you enjoy today’s thoughts or message, it has been an amazing realization!!!

    Have you ever wondered what our lives would be like if Thomas Edison, Abe Lincoln, Henry Ford, Galileo, Albert Einstein, had followed the rules? Or basically been of the norm? In other words they and many others followed their own path. Thank Goodness!!! Anyone who has accomplished great things, to improve life for future generations, has followed their own path. They have not worked 8 to 5, but rather based on inspiration. Time was a component, but only for their benefit. 

    Just think if one of the greats decided, what am I doing? Maybe I should go get a J.O.B. like everyone else! Or why am I questioning this common way of thinking? I should take everything society has to tell me and accept it!! Wouldn’t that be a catastrophe?  What if they felt guilty for standing out or working on a path others did not understand? However, we know now they didn’t bow to the harsh demands and judgement of society and we are thankful today!!! 

    Believe it or not when you are on the right path, for you, when you are creating it doesn’t feel like work. There will be times you will stop and question yourself. However, when those not so feel good emotions creep up think what if? What if I stopped this creative process and followed in everyone else’s footsteps? What if great people, who left a legacy for us all to reap what they sewed, had decided they shouldnt be so happy. What if they stopped in midstream and said, “I feel too wonderful to continue. I shouldn’t feel this great about my work! I feel GUILTY for following my own path!”

    Doesn’t that sound ludicrous? However, it happens on a minute to minute basis. If you are creating and on a different path than everyone else around you, guilt creeps in and it becomes simple to stop and jump into the stream of ‘main.’ 

    If you relate to this message…PLEASE DO NOT ALLOW GUILT TO DENY THE REST OF US YOUR WONDERFUL TALENTS AND LEGACY. 

    Let it go! Continue to follow your path of least resistance. Find your bliss that never feels like work and focus on how you can implement your happiness into every situation. 

    You have a great deal to create, share and pass on!!!! Just leave the emotion guilt out in the rain and welcome in freedom, kindness, love, and creativity. Who knows your legacy could change the world to a better place! 

    God Bless!