Category Archives: Hate

There is no greater or less than, when it comes to you…

As ‘life’ seems to happen around us, many people like to compare stories or talk about the issues. However, there is no comparisons between your story and theirs.

Of course we are all connected and as humans, we can all FEEL empathy or sympathy depending on our similar incidents.

But…everyone has moments of being depressed, sad, hurt, lost and disappointed. I can remember the day, my son explained that pointing out all the reasons someone should be grateful, isn’t always the best feeling emotion for someone suffering. I questioned why or why not, it always seemed to work for me. Highlighting all the reasons I should be grateful, how blessed I am and so on.

Nick explained how sometimes those comments are more detrimental to the person.

That was several years ago and to be completely honest, I didn’t truly understand.

Now, I do!

You see we ALL have moments where life feels overwhelming, too much and disappointing. Those who their stories, are well known and inspire others, but also you and me.

As I wrote and rewrote my speech for the area contest @Earlybirdstoastmasterskc, the days seemed to be zooming by. Closer and closer, my excitement was building and the anticipation of all the exciting opportunities, this club has to offer, was assisting me in working up the best message, I had ever written! Ohhh, if you could only feel my radiating excitement.

Yet, day by day in LA we had to jump one hurdle and then twenty five more or maybe a hundred more! (Okay I am being a bit over dramatic, as Ashby says).

But it is true. I could whine and cry about every little speed bump thrown in front of us, but where would we be then? Instead let me share what I have learned.

This week I had to let go of my first speech competition. It was to be on Monday February 5th. There were no guarantees I would move on to the next level, because our club has intense competition, but I wanted to attempt it, in the worst kind of way!

I had prepared and practiced the entire road trip from Kansas to LA.

As the hurdles popped up, some one at a time, others it seemed like fifty at a time, I began to realize my excitement was about to he turned into disappointment! With all the issues about having Princeton, I quickly realized my trip would be delayed, forcing me to step down from the competition.

Now this may seem silly to anyone else, but I cried and cried! I was disappointed, sad, overwhelmed and a little bit selfish. Most of all I was torn! This was my baby girl and very dear to me granddog. But I also wanted to attempt this competition!

Then my lessons began!!! Everytime I would express my disappointing emotions someone would share on Facebook or tell me about a horrific event. For example in the past month we have lost loved ones to accidents, cancer, flu and suicides. I would cry for them or add to my prayer list.

Yes, my silly little issues seemed trivial after all of that. I have so much to be grateful for, I know that.

Then I realized Nick was correct. Pointing out or minimizing our own disappointments, by comparison, is not fair, to you.

My epiphany was EVERYONE, experiences their own depression and disappointments. And YOURS is just as important as the next one. Because we are all on our own journey and life happens whether we are striving to improve or not.

And MAYBE, JUST MAYBE…this is a key to helping others choose to feel all the emotions, yet not give up.

The key is to allow yourself to feel the negative emotion. Express your feelings of disappointment. (Allow this moment). Do not worry about feeling trivial compared to other people’s issues. I am Not saying dwell on it and/or illuminate the situation, but rather, ALLOW yourself to have a moment of tears.

It is okay!!! There is no greater and less than, when it comes to you and how you feel. Maybe if we begin to allow kids and adults to say, “I feel like giving up.”

We will have less severely depressed or suicides. When I was having a moment of ‘selfish disappointments’ it felt good to allow the sadness, for a moment. It forced me to find solutions, it allowed me to be human, and it reminded me how quickly ANYONE can give up.

It is time we begin to allow our younger generations to know we have all been there. We have all had struggles and let it out. All of it! Say it if you feel it. It’s okay.

No matter how trivial it may be to others. Your disappointments, moments of sadness or maybe your losses are not comparable to others! You are allowed to say it because believe it or not… EVERYONE experiences negative emotions.

My greatest hope is…this post will help one person to choose life. If you are not feeling so well about something, say it! And quit worrying about comparing apples, arangatans, and kale spinach. This is YOUR EXPERIENCE! No one elses!

Livelove

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Carryon

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Happy Coaching 101 (Day three)

I felt like Wednesday was the day to share this particular coaching session. Honestly, I could write a book on what this lady taught me. Her messages, her thoughts, sometimes silence and her perspective. You see, this special lady taught me how to understand my messages, to accept them and most definetly share them. I have been strictly instructed to only tell her circumstances and an extremely vague description at that.

This lady had suffered great loss in her life. She has buried a child and her husband. That is all you are allowed to know. The saddest part is I was not allowed to save the majority of her coaching messages. Only those that were extra special, such as this one. However, those were her wishes.

Message: First…create a map,  a map of your life include pebbles, big rocks, water, whatever terrain that best describes you and your life. Including pathways, roads, highways, speed limits, marriage, births, special events, whatever it may be that you can remember, about your life up until this point. It is your creation. You may share with me if you so desire or not, either way it is up to you.

Second…I am givng you an eraser. A gigantic eraser and your instructions are simple, ERASE ALL THE BAD! I mean erase every tear, painful moment, trial or tribulation, everytime you felt less than, worthless, fearful, hopeless, destroyed. Erase them all.

Her response was priceless! But guess what? You are going to have to wait to see, what her response was and my come back message, until tomorrow. Why? Because I want you to create the design of this woman, her age, feelings, appearance and create this ‘hero’ in your head. And maybe you can go ahead and begin to create your life map. Who knows, we might be on to something, psst, I think we are.

To Be Continued…

Livelove

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Carryon

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God Bless Everyone!

Hey, if you are just now reading this post, skip back through Monday and Tuesday’s post Happy Coaching 101- 1 & 2. These are samples of actual coaching messages some people have received.

Happy Coaching 101 (Day 2, free trial)

This segment was for a beautiful woman, who was struggling with depression, divorce, and detoxing from a toxic relationship. She has been through a great deal this past year. However, I know, her messages assisted her in more ways than one.

My friend, you are worthy of being happy and you deserve it. At this time it is time for you to let go of a lot of crud!! It is the time for you to begin allowing, receiving, and let go!! Life is meant to be happy!!!! Nothing else matters!! Oh sure you will have down times, but they are simple reminders of what you do not want!!! The difference is now you know the reason for these paths of least resistance (Abraham-Hicks) therefore, any negativity or hurtful times will only last a short amount of time! Once you recognize why you are feeling this resistance, then you change it.

You are amazing and I know how difficult it can be to let go and accept that life is so simple but it is!!!! The meaning of life is….hmmm think it’s time to figure that out for yourself.

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Carryon

Are you just complaining or is it time to change ?

As I listen to couples belt out what he or she did. I often wonder if I could record their conversation, take him or her out to lunch and tell them to listen closely. Next, I would say, “This is a test! You are no longer allowed to return home. Instead, I have arranged for you to stay at the Going Nowhere, motel off of third and main. Your instructions are quite clear. You may continue to go to work, but you may not return to your home, where your significant other resides. You may not contact them, nor question what is going on.”

I would then provide them with the recording of the awful things they said to or about their spouse/loved one. It would be up to the two of them if they join again or part for good. However, I often ponder, as I listen to people complain, if they simply don’t have enough in their lives to say something nice or if they truly hate the one they pretend to love.

Don’t you wonder? Wonder about the people you choose to have in your life. Those that sometimes you so vicariously discard, mistreat or take advantage of, if they were not in your life, how would you feel? If at the moment of your harsh words, you were told, “Okay, you can’t find any good in them, then move on.”

How would you feel? I don’t know about you, but I choose not to have people in my life that can’t say, be or feel nice about me.

When my hubby walks through that door my eyes light up! My world stops and I immediately hug him around the neck. And Slap a big sloppy kiss on him!

This writing is not to scold you. But it is to remind you…think before you speak, act and allow FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real, Jack Cannefield),  to ruin something beautiful. Remember, what you say sends that vibration. Whether they know it or not. Also try not to forget, how you would feel if they were gone? How would you feel then?

Last little Love tip of the day: If you close your eyes and feel better without that person in your life, it is time to make some changes. Life is meant to be filled with LOVE! You can only be treated as good as you feel about you. If you are feeling less than, you are probably being critical, not very nice and mean. If you are receiving some hateful, unpleasant emotions from someone, look in the mirror and ensure it is not how you are feeling about yourself.

Written by: Momma Teena

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Carryon

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As the sun shines bright I ask myself…

Work, work, work! Here it is almost December 1st, 2017 and the sun’s vibrant heat beams down on me, as I work away. I love what I am doing, but somewhere in the back of my mind, I continue to search for excuses to gather Freddy the Pink Flamingo and ride on Pinky the Princess, over the hills and through the woods (not really, just on the nicely paved bike path that almost taunts me, everyday, because I can see just a glimpse of it from my balcony).

Pause, sigh, inhale and exhale! I think I will take a break and write outside. Maybe then I can see if the air is that warm or if the window portrait is deceiving.

Of course NOT! OHHH what to do?

Go ride or Work?

What do you think? I will let you know what I decided, later on.

Do what you love and love what you do! The only reason I am struggling with my decision today is because I love everything I do! Whether it is work, play or even making a decision. I feel my way to joy and happiness.

If you continually go to bed worrying about tomorrow or wake up dreading your day, it is time to reevaluate your life! Life is too short to be miserable. I realize earning an income is important, but one thing I have learned is the income will double, triple and quadruple, if you love what you do and ALWAYS, do what you love!!!

God Loves You NO MATTER WHAT!

Livelove

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Carryon

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The Lopsided Cake…

I could have never been a baker because they would have to throw a delicious lopsided cake away, based on principal. However, the truth is I am enjoying serving more and more lopsided, imperfect, delicious, ooey, gooey, cakes. It may seem odd for me to create this comparison to life, but if you stop and think about it, maybe you will see.

In the past I would become so upset over the smallest things. Oh my if someone didn’t like me or worst yet, thought bad of me! I mean someone told me the other day they didn’t appreciate or agree with one of my blogs. I batted my eyes, truly listened to their concern and apologized. No, I wasn’t angry, hurt or frustrated! I kind of understood where they were coming from. (I will come back to this conversation later in the post).

No, I have never been a baker and I am pretty sure most of my cakes have always been losided, similar to a volcano drooping down on one side, unevenly. However, in other ways I was a perfectionist! I expected everything to be perfect. Actually that’s not quite true, I expected, for everyone else, to have expectations, of me, to be perfect! That makes so much more sense, to me.

You see Ms. Debbie’s words of wisdom rings, throughout my head, when someone misunderstands something I have written or stated, “Teena, you need to finish that thought; not everyone knows you well enough to follow the many thoughts rolling through your head. That means you could be easily misunderstood.”

It is true. My thoughts are swirling by the millions and when I become excited or extremely emitting energy in one way or another, the outcome of my words are not always self explainatory!

Back to the point! In the past I always thought I had to be perfect. Although it is unrealisitic nor possible, I placed those restraints on myself. I always wished I could blame this on someone else, but I can’t. It isn’t because of the expectations my mother had, husband or children. Not what the school system placed on me nor the parents or students. It was me! I lived in a perfect world and if anyone messed it up, I would almost fall apart just like a baker would if he/she had to serve one of my slippery sloping cakes.

However, now I just don’t have it in me. Not really that I have slowed down or my thoughts have become less and less. That is far from the truth! I rarely have any particular expectations anymore. I feel myself evolving to one of the richest parts of my life, yet. It is amazing! The feeling of butterflies fluttering in my stomach, when I know Eric is on his way home. The excitement that overwhelmes me when I get to see all my children, family and friends. I am truly grateful and blessed.

I can remember (which I will only remember this for a moment then I am letting it go forever) coming home and being filled with anxiety, stress and aggitation. I worried about how everyone, I do mean everyone in my life chidren, husband, mom, dad, grandma, teachers, peers, students, principals…I worried about! I can’t tell you how many tears I have shed over someone being ‘mad at me.’ If you have ever felt this way or continue to live this way, read on I am about to spill the beans of how it is ‘fake news.’

Come in closer, get real quiet while reading this…IT IS NOT IMPORTANT! Yes, you heard it here first! Perfectionism is not important nor will it add to your life. It is true. Being ‘Perfect’ is ‘Fake News.’ I have meditated this entire year, almost everyday, to gather information or muddle through some theories, so I could share with you! Guess what? I have even tried to Remember why I hated someone (never really experienced HATRED, nor do I want to, so let’s call it disliked their actions). Could remember very little. Almost like when you soak an aspirin to give to an elderly, attempting to swallow. The memory still had a little substance, but not enough to recognize what it was and the end result was no more pain or suffereing from that situation! Wow!!!! In other words, “This too will pass.”

Yes, some memories carry a powerful impact both negative or positive, but the strongest impact is how you felt and how you feel. Instead of struggling or wrestling with the past, go bake a cake! Make it lopsided, oozing with melted icing and enjoy the laughter about your blunders.

It is time to come out of the closet, perfectionist. You are worthy of being terrific without being perfect. Just do it! Drop your rules and regulations for yourself and let us see the beautiful YOU! The VIBRANT YOU! It makes me so excited, I just want to break into song! You know a random song that says, “You are wonderful, be happy, enjoy, mess up and laugh along the way!!!”

Hmmmm I might have something!

Back to the blog posting that might have not been a complete or self explanatory concept, I admit I have imperfections! Thank you for noticing and better yet thanks for reading my blog! As always I hope you are inspired and motivated to live a Happy Life!

God Bless

Livelove

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Carryon

Had to use this picture because all the lopsided cakes I look up were, what? PERFECT!!! Go ahead and try it, type in Google search, ‘Lopsided Cakes’ grrrrrr they were adorable!!!! Lol oh well be happy!

Shutup, I am tired of hearing it!

Do you ever get tired of hearing that small nasty voice in your head? You know the one that reminds you of all your past situations or your paradigm?

If you wake up with thoughts that are not uplifting, exciting, good for you and emcouraging, GO BACK TO BED AND FIND THEM.

Similar to this Seal, who is sun bathing. It appears he is dead, but instead he is taking a break without a care in the world!

I realize life is busy and you are probably in a rush however, if you will take the first few minutes of everyday to tell yourself nice and inspiring words you will be surprised how amazing life can and will be.

In other words if you hear nasty statements about you from you say, “SHUTUP! I AM TIRED OF HEARING IT!!!!”

Throw up a red light and STOP!

If going back to bed is not an option then stop rushing around and spewing hateful words out of your mouth about everyone, everything and especially yourself! Look in the mirror and say, “Damn you are good looking and I love you!”

(Listen up, I know saying stuff to yourself may feel awkward at first, but just think, the more you practice the better you will be at it).

Stop! Stop, doubting the power of your words. They do hurt you and although your subconscious is only trying to protect you from past events, coming back and repeating the pain, let it GOOOOOO!!!

Did you know, until we conquer time travel, you nor anyone else can repeat an exact event or correct anything in the past? However, you can enjoy the now, enjoy yourself, love yourself and share the love you found in you, with others.

We can create a brighter world together! We can enjoy the now! Begin with you, tell your subconscious to shutup and begin right now, by saying one nice thing to yourself! You deserve it!

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