Category Archives: healing

I always thought ‘Being Happy’ meant…

As I reflect back over the years I recognize how being happy doesn’t mean to make everyone else happy. Nor does it mean you will love all people and/or situations. Actually it is the complete opposite.

For example: I was working out in the pool. It was extremely peaceful. Sever al couples were enjoying the cool, crisp water and peace. Then this guy comes over introduces himself and proceeds to talk, excessively. I kept shutting my eyes , breathing deep and sending him positive vibes, although I must admit my vibes were followed up with me saying, “Shutup! No one cares what your dad did for a living, what your dogs name was when you were a kid, or how all your patients were whiney and needy today!!”

Gotcha! Did you really think I said that? I didn’t say anything, out loud. I only thought it. I do not need to tell you how much this man talked, but I can use it as a lesson.

Using the tools to find your own happiness will be an advantage. However, do not mistake the fact that making other people happy is the same thing. In fact it is impossible.

Life is meant to be fun, but remember there will always be that stranger who might rub you the wrong way. Or you may be put in a situation you feel irritated with everyone involved. It is the quickest way for you to recognize what you Do Not want so you can redirect quickly and go back to having fun! That guy reminded me of how happy I am that Eric doesn’t talk too much or that I don’t have to live or work with that man. Don’t you see being happy with you doesn’t mean making everyone else happy, but it’s okay. Because what’s BEST for ME is BEST for YOU!

Instead of living a hurried, scurried, on fire all the time, making other people happy and attempting to be perfect all at the same time mentality; It is about coming together with actual peace, love and least resistance. Okay, I will admit that was a little deep! Please, bare with me.

Again, what is BEST for ME, Is BEST for YOU! When and only when you understand that statement will all your amazing happy feelings come to you like a tidal wave. I know that statement is difficult to understand, but it is absolutely, 100% the truth.

Once you allow everyone else to find their own feel good or happy feeling and you are operating your very existence in this manner, you will feel, have, do and be anything you want to be. Any experience YOU want! Trust that it is all going to be what’s best for you and allow it to be that way. The annoying people will still pop in from time to time. However, you will even find the good in them or the good in your encounter with them.

Life is meant to live by having fun. Don’t waste another day or moment trying to MAKE everyone else happy. Begin with you and the rest will fall into place.

God Loves You No Matter What!

Livelove: Changing the world with one happy tool after another!

(Hey all my readers, Livelove is launching very soon, psst a secret it is launching before the end of 2017, and we need a slogan. So if you can think of one let me know it might be the next famous slogan for our fabulous company)

If you stir poop with a stick does it smell worse?

The answer to my question is pretty obvious. Yes, a pile of resting cow manure, if stirred even the slightest, can smell up an entire area! Why does it matter? It really doesn’t however, it is good to know.

Life is similar to this. I realize sometimes, open discussion is the only way to heal. However, to stand and stir the pile to say you enjoy the aroma is ludicrous. When in a healing mode, get in patch the wound to allow it to heal on its own, then get out! Try not to stay in the smelly area and continue to stir and dig deeper, the outcome will not smell like roses, I promise.

When you are living in the midst of a pile of manure, you do not want to stay there do you? Also, haven’t we established that learning from the past is all you can do? You can not alter or change what has already been done, can you?

If you agreed with the above questions then put your stick down, right now! Change your conversations to exciting upcoming events, planning new adventures and creating a happier paradigm. Let the healing continue in the background.

To wrap it up! The more you stir poop the worse it smells. Let the decomposers do their job and you go ahead and create a better smelling future.

I did it!!! I practiced what I preached!!!! 

I know how you feel!!! When you curl up to read my blog, sometimes the emotions are overwhelming!! Because our innate nature is to be happy!! Therefore, when we are attempting to find those ‘feel good’ emotions, yet we are continuing to tell the same old stories; we stop the feel good vibrations. The spectacular events that are right there, outside of our bubble, don’t disappear, but rather they stay suspended outside of you, until you are ready to accept and receive.

Here is my example. Picture this: I do Physical therapy and mental, spiritual, and emotional healing/therapy EVERYDAY, in the pool. However, last week I found myself alone, in the pool at our apartment. Yes, I should have been ecstatic!!! However, I cried and cried. (You see I love myself, but I love to be with people a great deal too). Anyways, do not focus on the sad! 

Living the life I lead today is amazing!!! Therefore, after last Thursday I decided to attend water aerobics at 930 this Thursday. I was so excited, I walked up and there were 5 women and two men over 65. Of course that didn’t bother me, but they were dying to know more!!! I could feel each of them watching me walk into the pool. One step then the next!! They all introduced themselves and ask questions. I felt extremely welcomed.

Ready? Here is the lesson or example…when they asked me about my life or why I was there, I said nothing about my leg. Ohhhh they wanted to know. (If they would have asked, I think I would have responded with, oh I was just privileged to have been given a second chance to live in a happy state, until my trip is over). I have no idea what I would have said, I can only tell you what happened. 

I described how wonderful my children, family, friends, river farm and of course my amazing husband are. I continued by telling them how grateful I was to have met each of them and politely excused myself. 

I could feel their eyes carefully watch as I crawled out of the swimming pool. I proudly walked off and smiled. As I approached the apartment, I began to laugh hysterically, to myself. I thought wow that was fun!!! 

Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t easy, at first. However, it has to be done. You see, everyone receives a great deal of attention if they have a story to tell, that others can sympathize or empathize with. But in return you will receive more of that energy. Start telling your good feeling story. It’s not lieing, it’s just changing focus. Becuase everyone has a good story and a bad story. 

Even the lowest you can get if you begin right now, wandering thru the place you are and saying I am grateful for and keep saying it over and over. If you are homeless even then, you can begin to change your life. Try it. Practice it! I am grateful for YOU! READING THIS MESSAGE!

How do you introduce yourself? Hello I am ______. They respond with oh what do you do? Instead of telling them where you work (which doesn’t define you) say I live life to be happy. Then ask would you like to come along this journey? If they choose yes then hurray if not oh well life is good anyways! 

Livelove

You are loved and worthy! 

What do Snow White and Cinderella have in common? 

As we study a new way to habitually live, it only seems appropriate to analyze some childhood memories. You see in today’s world our queens and princesses are more dominant or independent. However, the original princesses such as Snow White and Cinderella were considered damsels in distress, helpless and in need of a hero. I can remember when I would point out many negatives about the two characters and think how sexist the shows truly were. However, it never failed, if the girls were watching either of these shows, I would become mesmerized and stop whatever I was doing to complete the movie. (I even played the role of Snow White in a school play at one time.)

Today, I am asking you to take a different perspective on our damsel’s in distress! What if we simply accepted their stories based on the time frame they were written and first watched. Would we see their lives in a different light? Let’s see if these two princesses (later to become queen) can impact our lives and strategically place us on a path of least resistance.

Snow White…abandoned by her stepmother (the queen), sent out to be killed, life was spared because? She was super nice and beautiful. You see that Huntsman couldn’t do it! Even if he was going against orders of the Queen. Snow White emitted kindness, caring, understanding and positive vibrations. Now let us think…hmmm how would you or I feel if we were taken into the woods, only to realize it was our last walk from home, the beautiful castle and home are, no more. Although the man who was supposed to take our life, didn’t go thru with the deed, he did leave you or me in the dark and say run for your life! Never return or the queen will kill you! After writing all of that I realize how brave she really was! I would have probably fallen apart.

Cinderella…abused by her step-mother and sisters, expected to clean, cook and take care of her cruddy step family. Only to be locked away in her room when the prince came looking for her. Yet, she continued to stay positive! She would clean, feed the animals, sing and from the stories point of view, she was a blissful human being. Again put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel? Would you refuse to meet all the demands of these horrific people? Or would you leave never to return? I must admit I would have probably been killed on the spot for my smart mouth! However, Cinderella continued to find a good feeling and stayed in that vibration. She would sing, dance, whistle or speak to the animals.

In comparison, both stories have a great deal in common. However, the one common attribute for each princess is their positive attitude. They both saw a better life. Snow White ended up finding seven dwarfs who loved ‘whistling while they worked.’ They didn’t mind their jobs and were ecstatic as well as appreciative of Snow White’s talents. Cinderella found her way to the ball. (Which was an amazing opportunity for anyone in the land). Her prince didn’t only recognize her beauty, but he saw the positive, kind, fun loving Cinderella, for who she really is.

Do you think those are all coincidences? Do you think it was by chance they received what they wanted out of life? Why didn’t they continue in the same old rut and continue to be abused? After a great deal of analyzing these two stories, it is pretty simple to observe how these ladies found their path to least resistance. They had a vision and what their life was, at the time, was not their vision. However, neither princess ever gave up!!!!

I do realize we live in a world full of despair and depression. Is it the president’s fault? Is it your spouse’s? Oh, I understand it is your children’s fault? I also realize these are fairy tale characters we are discussing…does it really matter? No! It is a great comparison!

Begin today, to tell your fairytale. Even if you are a damsel in distress, flat broke, feeling like crap and wishing you could just receive a simple break, in life. The GREAT NEWS is YOU CAN!!!!!!!! What is your story? Yes, everyone has a negative story, but if you listen closely, they only receive a great outcome if they are looking for it. Tell the story you want. It is okay if it is sometimes a struggle, do it anyway. In my home, we entitle this, “Fake it till you make it!”

Isn’t it time to feel GREAT! Feel it, visualize it and receive. Ask for what you want and believe you deserve it. Then receive it!!! Just like these two princesses, yes they had to go thru some crap to receive the life they both desired. However, they continued to feel good and eventually both received a life of joy, wealth, happiness, partnership and much more. You can do this too! How? Change your story it is as simple as that!

Livelove,

Your Pinkologist! (That makes me laugh every time I write it because? It just does!)

 

You, he she– they all irritate me!!!

Do you find yourself disliking everyone? Is there something wrong with everyone? Do you continually look around and see how bad you are treated by others. Gosh, I know how you feel! It seems like everytime I turn around some one is doing something to me. The only difference in my life now is the people I am constantly attracted to love me for me. I see the beauty in me therefore, I see the beauty in others as well.

Don’t worry if you are agreeing with the first portion of the above paragraph, it’s okay I have felt the same way! There are days I still struggle with what I call, awkward moments. Where someone might rub me the wrong way or I find fault in others. However, to return to those conversations or feelings on a daily basis would be devastating. I can remember feeling competitive, compared, hurt, not good enough, irritable with others and continually finding fault. Again, Yuk even typing those words create a sick feeling in my stomach. 

Then how do I change it? It’s not difficult, but it does take effort on your part. The first few weeks of practicing this new way of thinking you may feel a colorful array of emotions. For example: when you recognize why someone is not being nice to you it may create an angry or sad emotion at first. However, keep working at it and you will be surprised at how amazing each individual, who is already in your life or comes into your life, truly is. I am in awe of my loved ones! I always use the words ‘loved ones’ because I love each individual in my life! I can not discriminate between family and friends I feel fortunate to have them all!!!

Have you ever heard of Universal Laws? Of course if you have read my past writings you have heard me speak of them. The most common laws we learn about in elementary school are Newton’s Laws. Universal Laws follow the same guidlines. The one I am speaking of today is Like Begets Like. You can easily put this into other wording yet it’s definition is the same. This one says whatever you like about other people is what you like about yourself. This law (like all laws) is nonbiased or not prejudice. In other words it doesn’t care if you like or hate-the law goes both ways. Therefore, everything you don’t like about another person you don’t like about yourself. My mother always told me if you are pointing one finger at your neighbor three are pointing back. If you are not sure about this law due to religious beliefs,; the World English Bible translates the passage as: You hypocrite! First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye.Mathew 7-5

Universal Laws are laws. They are universal. They do not discriminate against religion, ethnicity, shape, size, political party or anything else that separates us from each other. They are the same for everyone. 

How does this work? Let’s begin with a simple example. The song, I Like Big Butts and I cannot lie, is the first scenario that comes to mind. In the beginning of the song several women are talking about another girls butt! If I remember correctly they are bashing her for having such a nice, big butt. Then the song proceeds to defend and praise a big butt! Glorifying the one part the women were complaining about. I know this is a funny comparison or way to explain the law Like Begets Like, but it is fun to do and keeps it light hearted. If you were in the circle of ferocious haters of big butts, you need to step back and ask yourself why? Why does a big oh juicy booty bother you enough to complain about it? Or talk about it? In reality those women in the song didn’t like their behinds (big or small) or they lacked in that area and were just hating on the beautiful big butt. 

Okay, maybe I took that description of butts a little too far! But I guarantee I created a thought for you to begin recognizing the effects of Like Begets Like in your life. You probably know of someone that irritates you, now you can begin to identify why and how to change it.

I know I haven’t told you how to correct these awkward moments in your life. The reason is just like quitting smoking you have to want to quit. Same with changing your habitual view of yourself and the world around you only YOU CAN CHANGE IT! How? How? How?

Steps: 

  1. Learn the Universal Law
  2. Accept it! It’s true I promise as you see others is how you see yourself.
  3. If you catch yourself joining a conversation about someone else and it is not creating a great emotion, walk away or say, “I know but she has worked her love handles off to get that butt!” Anything to change the direction of the comments and converaation.
  4. If you are faced with a negative situation where you feel like the victim- take time to be alone, only to analyze why you felt sad and how you could have handled that differently.
  5. Change what you say to yourself and or about yourself. For example: I always gain weight when _________ . (Fill in the blank). Instead begin saying I love my body and I am happy to be healthy and wealthy. (I use the term Wealthy because some how America decided weight is a sign of poverty. Although carrying weight was a sign of wealth in the past!) I don’t care what you say to yourself just remember the law continues to be active no matter who you are talking about.
  6. Be cautious before you react. For many years I reacted to everything! Now I stop, think and may respond or may not. In other words it’s not about your opinion, rather your vibration. My two cents isn’t always necessary and neither is yours. Therefore, stay cautious before you react. (My grandma always said, “If you can’t say anything nice do not say it at all)
  7. Last trust yourself. Remember all good energy is flowing towards you. The more ‘likes’ you put out and the less “criticism’ the more great vibrations will migrate towards you. When you catch yourself being even silently judgemental, stop yourself, look within, and observe an area of your life you would like to improve. Then find something good to think or say about that person, redirecting the thought process.
  8. Like begets like: if you see good you will feel good more and more. (What you see in others is how you feel about yourself good or bad)

    Have fun!!! 

    Livelove 

    Always remember God loves you no matter what!!!!

    How do you know? 

    One of the funniest questions I have asked people has been what makes you happy? Why? I have had the funniest answers from– you Teena,  make me happy.  Yet, others looked at me with a puzzled look and said I have no idea. Like they were waiting and anticipating to be told WRONG ANSWER YOU ARE WRONG! In reality, there is no wrong answer. Being asked that question isn’t truly a fair question. It’s actually a trick question. A question that begins at the concious mind and filters through to the subconscious, only to throw your mind into a blank stare.

    In other words sometimes we can’t list what makes us happy, but when we are in the moment we can tell you one hundred or more things that make or create happiness for us. It’s a feeling AWE it’s a great feeling. 

    Here we go, one of the first steps to feeling your way to happiness-

    1. Get a piece of paper 
    2. Draw a shape in the middle that you can write your name in, like a circle or square, it doesn’t matter what kind of shape.
    3. Write your name in the middle
    4. Next draw lines coming out from your name. 
    5. Write activities, music, thoughts, colors. 
    6. It can be as messy as you would like or as neat. This is ONLY YOURS you may share it or you may keep it to yourself.
    7. Now lay it down, pick it back up and read your name in the middle and create a sentence with one of your likes. Example: Teena LOVES Pink! Sometimes I will say I, Teena, love pink. 
    8. After you have said a wonderful positive statement that you love or makes you happy…close your eyes inhale, then exhale, see or visualize what you said and smile.
    9. Now you can understand what it means by feeling your way to happiness! 
    10. Repeat 7, 8, 9 throughout this Web you have created. Individually do each thing you wrote. Take time to feel the emotional attachment to each item you listed.

      You can do this daily, weekly, or when you need it. We will return to this activity several times. I may even repost it intermittently during our blogs. 

      This is a quick and easy way to begin setting and re-setting your vibration. It is also a simple way to begin gravitating towards adding the happy activities you love to do, towards you. Maybe you love to canoe and you complete the activity. Before long someone will mention, hey let’s go canoeing. 

      Take time to find what creates a happy feel good emotion for you and do more of that! I promise even through difficult times life is meant to be happy the majority of the time.

      Let’s Clear One Thing UP……..

      First, if you recently followed my blog or if you have always followed I want to say THANK YOU! If you are reading for the first time, this blog is a little catch up on who I am, where I am going and how grateful I am for where I have been.

      Recently, I began a journey and decided to share it with you by blogging, here on my blog. My journey has been magnificent with ups, downs and all arounds, thus far. I wake up each morning excited about what the universe has to offer today. I smile, run to the mirror say, GOOD MORNING BEAUTIFUL WHAT A WONDERFUL DAY IT IS TO ENJOY THIS JOURNEY. I AM READY AND EXCITED ABOUT MY JOURNEY TODAY!!!!!!!!

      Okay, to be honest, I don’t jump up and scream that every morning (but after reading it, I might try it because it feels really good) nor do I wake up in a perfect mood everyday. However, I do wake up every morning anticipating what is going to be Terrific in my day. I also will admit I have a few rituals of ‘Pump Me Up’ that I perform. Sometimes it is lay there until I catch the beautiful vision I want or I will talk to myself in the mirror for a brief moment. The most important part, you understand, is my journey is to live in a vibration of feeling happy the majority of the time. The most exciting part of this journey is I am sharing it with you!

      Here is what we needed to clear up! I did have a life changing experience that reminded me of who I am. I have felt some (in my opinion very little) despair over this experience. The truth is me shattering my leg, laying in a ditch, and seven months later still trying to heal changed my life, by reminding me of my life purpose. You see I have had very few catastrophes in my life. I have suffered the loss of loved ones, but always felt the love I had for them will always keep them alive. I am sure my mother and father would tell you otherwise, but according to me my life was perfect from day one! I mean my mother didn’t name me for a couple of days and when she did come up with a name it was- Teena (unique spelling) and Gay for the middle!! What? Yes, I am telling you the only thing my accident did for me, which I am super grateful for, was to remind me of my life purpose. I was born to spread, be and teach others to be happy. To find their bliss.

      That may sound crazy, but it’s true. I can’t tell you, of anytime in my life, that I havent found something good or positive out of a situation. Not one. Therefore, if I write about despair, depression, loss please note I am in no way shape or form comparing my measly little issues with some of your horrific situations. Lately, I have read some blogs that I feel so sorry for some people. That is why I felt like you needed to know I understand everyone has issues in their life. The best I can do is offer you new tools to assist you in enjoying your time here on earth; because they are my gifts I am sharing with you.

      I am grateful for my life. I have lived a life most could only dream of. I had a strong circle of love from my family from parents to aunts/uncles, grandparents, step-parents, friends the list and circle becomes larger all the time. I married my best friend, have four beautiful children, and much more. Who am I? I don’t know, but I do know what I love and what creates a feeling of overwhelming happiness. I also know my ‘job’ ‘mission’ ‘life purpose’ ‘whatever’ you want to call it…it is to ‘be happy’ and teach you how to ‘be happy.’ Remember, what makes me happy doesn’t necessarily make you happy, but you will know when you FEEL IT!

      God Bless You! God Loves You No Matter What!