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taking time to breathe reflect and reset.

When the world has you busy, but you continue to find time to write…

Lately my life has been extremely busyI can’t remember the last day I didn’t have anything to do. I have been traveling, building my business, enjoying whoever I am with at that moment or simply enjoying a new adventure, like a BBQ run!

However, It does feel like I have been a little too busy. I might need to take a break for a day. I don’t mean hold up on writing just maybe everything else. Even if I do not post everyday I always find time to write!!! It is my passion. I love all my God given gifts, I have been given, but writing is my all time favorite. It provides me with freedom to feel each emotion and all possible solutions or outcomes.

When I am writing the world seems to stand atill. Almost as if I am frozen in time. I hear the outside sounds however, when I am writing they become extraordinary background music. Motor running in the distance to the North East. Birds tweeting with a different pitch on each chord, crickets chirping an old S-10 speeds down the road accelerating almost like he hopes to arrive at his home before it breaks down and a talking Tom cat named Tommy prances the perimeter of my front yard meowing every step. Yes I have distractions, but I am content if the words are flowing.

Know what makes your world stand still and do more of that! If it is walking, take time to walk everyday. If you love live performances, find more to attend. Enjoy your life by doing more that fills your heart with happiness.

God Loves You$

Livelove

So many items to write about…

I hope you have enjoyed reading my writings, as much as I have enjoyed blogging. I have been extremely blessed with amazing people and events. The unfolding of daily living, when you expect the best for you, is simply described as awesome!

For example: I felt like the last few days I was running a marathon, even in my sleep. However, each day was filled from early morning to late at night, with precious moments. Some have been reflections and yet others have been divine intervention to assist me or someone else.

Each morning I would begin with a quick meditation, consisting of clearing my mind similar to a blank canvas. Next, focus on my breath for about two minutes, finally I would look for fun filled events scheduled for the day. What? You want to know if I schedule a fun event everyday? Yes, yes, yes, yes I do and I won’t stop!

Of course, I am like everyone else in the world, where sometimes you have tasks that are not as pleasurable as others. However, if you do not schedule something fun in each day; the days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months. Before long you are a shell of a human, who might schedule a 1 or 2 week of vacation to ‘have fun’ and enjoy the people you love! The scariest factor is if this is the case, by the time you arrive at the glorious vacation, to have fun, you are exhausted and probably forgot how to have fun. This makes me sad!

Begin each morning with gratefulness, good feelings, and schedule something fun/happy each day! If something henders your ‘feeling good’ vibration focus on what you want or a solution. Life is meant to be glorious, therefore live like it!

Enjoy the journey! Smell the flowers! Listen to the beautiful music all around you! Tell yourself in the mirror how special, beautiful, fabulous, healthy, happy and anything else you are!

When the day is done, lay your head down and take a few minutes to review the great feelings of the day! If there were some bumps in the road remember, you can’t change anything in the past therefore, only focus on the good parts and the rest will take care of itself.

You truly are amazing!

Livelove

It’s okay no matter what…

I don’t care if you cheated on your diet, smoked a cig or fell off the wagon of your 12 step program. You are okay. No one is perfect and please stop thinking about what is in the past and begin to create your reality. 

Did you know your reality can only include the present or future. Meaning what is or will be is all you truly need to worry about. Even if you just took a bite of the yummy nothing bundt cake, two minutes ago and your concious mind is reminding you of how fat you are. Tell it to shut up. 

Paradigms are people, places and events from the past. They are our best way to create connections. No they are not all positive, some of our paradigms are negative. Almost like your brains defense mechanism to protect and serve you. For example: In the wonderful Disney movie Lion King the monkey or chimp (not sure the species) doctor hits Simba on top of his head, when he went to swing the staff and bang Simba’s head again, he moved. He learned from his mistake! 

Therefore, learn from your paradigm, but do not live by it. If you are struggling with something that creates feelings of anger, insecurity and despair my best advice to you is abort abort abort out of the situation. The meaning of life is to live the happiest you possible can. Expect to live in abundance of experiences, wealth, health and longevity. Enjoy. 

If you are constantly saying oh I can’t lose weight, or I can’t just feel happy or whatever your excuse is it is YOUR CHOICE. You get to decide to feel good, be happy and live in bliss. I tell people all the time this is my pink bubble of fun around me and if you make my pink bubble feel full of fun and laughter, I will grow stron ger and more beautiful. However, if you continue to criticize me (even when you are talking to or about yourself, just like if I were to say ugly things how I would really feel!) I will need to excuse myself from your gloom, doom, dark, disgusting bubble. Sorry, it’s your choice to live that way and my choice to live happy. 

Change your vibration. Enjoy, begin laughing at nothing almost similar to a fake, forced laugh. Before long, after everyone around you, begins to laugh, you will have the place rolling and anticipating in what your next move might be. 

Life is to be happy and have fun. 

Leave the past in the past! Learn from it and move forward.

Livelove

Momma said, “There will be days like this!”

Have you ever began your morning with full intentions of waking up and enjoying each moment of the day? Woke up bright eyed and bushy tailed? Only to walk out the door, slam your ankle in the screen door, have multiple phone calls with someone needing something from you, your special dinner is a disaster and you realize the bills are piling up? 

Of course you have! Everyone could make a list of what IS happening at that moment. If you are reading this right now you can probably create a long list of daily events or circumstances that irritate you. 

The truth is your momma or a loved one told you there would be days like this. However, you can reset, not necessarily redo. I know I would not want to redo those days or moments. Therefore, a reset is important. 

How? Most of the time it is simple. At the moment the irritating thoughts or events begin to say, “I am grateful for….” 

Keep saying and listing all the items, people, places and experiences (outloud) in which you are grateful for. 

Yesterday, I had one of those days. Where it seemed like each time I tried, someone or something would irritate the crap out of me. I would have mini blow ups of emotion. At one point in the day I was expressing my opinion and the next I was crying. I continually attempted to reset. It didn’t ‘appear’ to be working. My mind would run from thought to thought trying to recover my feel good, happy, understanding enthusiastic state. I began to fear everything I had been writing or studying was not real. 

Then it happened! You know when it happens you just know like you know!?

I know that seems silly to type, but it is true. Once you have experienced it you simply know! 

In between my mini melt downs of emotios (which were random) I would talk outloud throughout the house. “I am grateful for my farm, the sunshine, my health, my happiness,” sometimes yelling each statement.

My vibration would get a little better. I pushed and pushed the reset button multiple times. “I am grateful for…”

After a few hours and multiple irritating events it finally broke thru! Around 4 o’clock I had one of my adopted kiddos bring her dog to meet me. I was super excited to meet him. We chatted (yes the dog and I were instant friends), played with his ball, showed off a bit and then he decided to walk in my kitchen and hike his leg, only to mark his territory, of course. When I looked down it appeared to be a river of urine. Next he went to another spot, where he chose to proceed with what he only feels natural to do. As Jordan was running around trying to help me clean up pee it happened. That thing that I do, when my vibrational reset finally kicks in. I began laughing, I hugged my new friend and relaxed. 

You see, yesterday was a day of celebration and it was a struggle to enjoy the happy vibration. I began with 630 AM wake up call, went to grocery (had several events occur), came home to attempt to cook my dad’s 60th birthday dinner. His favorites: Lasagna, garlic toast, coconut cream pie and wine.

It appeared to be falling apart. I kept forgetting what I needed for the meal, Ashby and her friend were here (which made me feel torn because I wanted to hang with them), Nick needed college stuff, you understand! 

That’s when it happened. Directly before Dad and Susan showed up I felt my vibrations reset. I felt more light hearted, I was grateful, and it turned into an evening I will cherish forever! 

Reset as many times as needed. Sometimes it takes a little bit of persistance, but you are worth it. If you are feeling down or see the world as gloom and doom, begin right now! Say it outloud…I am grateful for…say it again…I am grateful for…and again and again. Until the vibration shifts. It will, it has to, it is the law. 

Please if this blog helps you share it, tell people about it. My happiest desire is to help you and others to find YOUR HAPPINESS. Not what I think would make you happy. Rather, what creates that ‘feel good’ emotion for YOU. 

This picture is of my daddy with his birthday pie! His smile warms my heart and was the greatest contributing factor for my reset! I love you and I am grateful for you.
Feel Good Today! 

God Loves You No Matter What; Love is there for you.

Livelove

I did it!!! I practiced what I preached!!!! 

I know how you feel!!! When you curl up to read my blog, sometimes the emotions are overwhelming!! Because our innate nature is to be happy!! Therefore, when we are attempting to find those ‘feel good’ emotions, yet we are continuing to tell the same old stories; we stop the feel good vibrations. The spectacular events that are right there, outside of our bubble, don’t disappear, but rather they stay suspended outside of you, until you are ready to accept and receive.

Here is my example. Picture this: I do Physical therapy and mental, spiritual, and emotional healing/therapy EVERYDAY, in the pool. However, last week I found myself alone, in the pool at our apartment. Yes, I should have been ecstatic!!! However, I cried and cried. (You see I love myself, but I love to be with people a great deal too). Anyways, do not focus on the sad! 

Living the life I lead today is amazing!!! Therefore, after last Thursday I decided to attend water aerobics at 930 this Thursday. I was so excited, I walked up and there were 5 women and two men over 65. Of course that didn’t bother me, but they were dying to know more!!! I could feel each of them watching me walk into the pool. One step then the next!! They all introduced themselves and ask questions. I felt extremely welcomed.

Ready? Here is the lesson or example…when they asked me about my life or why I was there, I said nothing about my leg. Ohhhh they wanted to know. (If they would have asked, I think I would have responded with, oh I was just privileged to have been given a second chance to live in a happy state, until my trip is over). I have no idea what I would have said, I can only tell you what happened. 

I described how wonderful my children, family, friends, river farm and of course my amazing husband are. I continued by telling them how grateful I was to have met each of them and politely excused myself. 

I could feel their eyes carefully watch as I crawled out of the swimming pool. I proudly walked off and smiled. As I approached the apartment, I began to laugh hysterically, to myself. I thought wow that was fun!!! 

Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t easy, at first. However, it has to be done. You see, everyone receives a great deal of attention if they have a story to tell, that others can sympathize or empathize with. But in return you will receive more of that energy. Start telling your good feeling story. It’s not lieing, it’s just changing focus. Becuase everyone has a good story and a bad story. 

Even the lowest you can get if you begin right now, wandering thru the place you are and saying I am grateful for and keep saying it over and over. If you are homeless even then, you can begin to change your life. Try it. Practice it! I am grateful for YOU! READING THIS MESSAGE!

How do you introduce yourself? Hello I am ______. They respond with oh what do you do? Instead of telling them where you work (which doesn’t define you) say I live life to be happy. Then ask would you like to come along this journey? If they choose yes then hurray if not oh well life is good anyways! 

Livelove

You are loved and worthy! 

What do Snow White and Cinderella have in common? 

As we study a new way to habitually live, it only seems appropriate to analyze some childhood memories. You see in today’s world our queens and princesses are more dominant or independent. However, the original princesses such as Snow White and Cinderella were considered damsels in distress, helpless and in need of a hero. I can remember when I would point out many negatives about the two characters and think how sexist the shows truly were. However, it never failed, if the girls were watching either of these shows, I would become mesmerized and stop whatever I was doing to complete the movie. (I even played the role of Snow White in a school play at one time.)

Today, I am asking you to take a different perspective on our damsel’s in distress! What if we simply accepted their stories based on the time frame they were written and first watched. Would we see their lives in a different light? Let’s see if these two princesses (later to become queen) can impact our lives and strategically place us on a path of least resistance.

Snow White…abandoned by her stepmother (the queen), sent out to be killed, life was spared because? She was super nice and beautiful. You see that Huntsman couldn’t do it! Even if he was going against orders of the Queen. Snow White emitted kindness, caring, understanding and positive vibrations. Now let us think…hmmm how would you or I feel if we were taken into the woods, only to realize it was our last walk from home, the beautiful castle and home are, no more. Although the man who was supposed to take our life, didn’t go thru with the deed, he did leave you or me in the dark and say run for your life! Never return or the queen will kill you! After writing all of that I realize how brave she really was! I would have probably fallen apart.

Cinderella…abused by her step-mother and sisters, expected to clean, cook and take care of her cruddy step family. Only to be locked away in her room when the prince came looking for her. Yet, she continued to stay positive! She would clean, feed the animals, sing and from the stories point of view, she was a blissful human being. Again put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel? Would you refuse to meet all the demands of these horrific people? Or would you leave never to return? I must admit I would have probably been killed on the spot for my smart mouth! However, Cinderella continued to find a good feeling and stayed in that vibration. She would sing, dance, whistle or speak to the animals.

In comparison, both stories have a great deal in common. However, the one common attribute for each princess is their positive attitude. They both saw a better life. Snow White ended up finding seven dwarfs who loved ‘whistling while they worked.’ They didn’t mind their jobs and were ecstatic as well as appreciative of Snow White’s talents. Cinderella found her way to the ball. (Which was an amazing opportunity for anyone in the land). Her prince didn’t only recognize her beauty, but he saw the positive, kind, fun loving Cinderella, for who she really is.

Do you think those are all coincidences? Do you think it was by chance they received what they wanted out of life? Why didn’t they continue in the same old rut and continue to be abused? After a great deal of analyzing these two stories, it is pretty simple to observe how these ladies found their path to least resistance. They had a vision and what their life was, at the time, was not their vision. However, neither princess ever gave up!!!!

I do realize we live in a world full of despair and depression. Is it the president’s fault? Is it your spouse’s? Oh, I understand it is your children’s fault? I also realize these are fairy tale characters we are discussing…does it really matter? No! It is a great comparison!

Begin today, to tell your fairytale. Even if you are a damsel in distress, flat broke, feeling like crap and wishing you could just receive a simple break, in life. The GREAT NEWS is YOU CAN!!!!!!!! What is your story? Yes, everyone has a negative story, but if you listen closely, they only receive a great outcome if they are looking for it. Tell the story you want. It is okay if it is sometimes a struggle, do it anyway. In my home, we entitle this, “Fake it till you make it!”

Isn’t it time to feel GREAT! Feel it, visualize it and receive. Ask for what you want and believe you deserve it. Then receive it!!! Just like these two princesses, yes they had to go thru some crap to receive the life they both desired. However, they continued to feel good and eventually both received a life of joy, wealth, happiness, partnership and much more. You can do this too! How? Change your story it is as simple as that!

Livelove,

Your Pinkologist! (That makes me laugh every time I write it because? It just does!)

 

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…

Several years ago a small ‘pocket book’ was published illuminating this topic ‘Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff!’ The author gave scenarios and demonstrated how silly it is to worry and fret over the silly annoyances in life. I have each one of these books, to remind me to take life with a grain of salt. To seek the adventure life has to offer! Take the challenge allow your inner being to sing thru you.

Once you have decided and began this journey of being in the moment and making decisions based on your inner feelings; you will always want to feel this way.

However, in life we all have moments of sadness, irritation, aggravation anger that we must deal with from time to time. Recently I have found that freezing it in my mind, walking away and them come back to discuss or determine a solution is best for me. You see, in the past I would resist, argue, return ugly insults, ect. Now, I choose to not even utilize the negative vocabulary. Oh yes it creeps in at times. However, for the most part I choose a better reaction or to not react at all. It depends on the situation. 
For example: I had a conversation with a friend and she was in a bad moode. Everything was wrong in her life. Her kid was a brat, didn’t have enough money, felt trapped. Listening to her talk was almost unbearable. I just kept thinking, stay calm, listen there is a reason for this conversation. After a little while and multiple attempts to change the conversation I feared I would say something to offend her. (Remember I lost my filter at the first break in my leg lol). Anyways, she was finally called away. I love this person and she needed to vent! I allowed her to do that for a small portion of time. The only problem is I was carrying this yuk, negative, irritated weight of emotion for her. I cried for her, the pain was real. 

What do I do? Hmmmm I decided to plug in my phone and leave it home. I went to the pool and immediatly put my entire body under water. As I came up after a few seconds, I realized I had taken my own advice. I froze the situation and went to my fun happy place, water!!! (Yes, water of any kind takes me to a calm loving state). As I began my physical therapy I would search my paradigm for a good feeling thought. A vision of the future or a memory from the past. It was similar to the characters of Inside Out, running around plugging in emotions. Finally, I found a few to distract my negative emotion. 

Later, that night I called my friend and said, “I love you and I want everything to be okay for you. If I can help in any way let me know.” 

At that moment I realized I should take my own advice!!! She was laughing and continued to tell me about her little boy and how cute he was being. Her husband had cooked supper and bought flowers. She basically was a changed woman from four hours earlier. I hung up the phone, looked at my husband and said, “Yes, I have more writting material.” 

Therefore, when I refer to Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, I mean don’t sweat other people’s small stuff either. My mom would tell me in the past…you call me and compla in or discuss your relationships  then you are off in an hour back to honeymoon phase. Isn’t that true? We all have that loved one who listens no matter what. Who loves us unconditionally who listens and cares so deeply that they will take on those emotions for us. My mommy does that for me. I try now to call or go see her after the fact and explain it’s all good. I don’t always remember, but most of the time I make the effort. 

Take time to enjoy. Remember the small stuff is not worth it. I would not have changed listening to my friend, she was having a legitimate melt down for a moment. However, next time I will send her the energy I did this time, I will see her feeling better, but I will not allow myself to sweat it or hang on to it!! 

I promise parents!!!! Most of the crazy, mixed up, emotions that follow parenting just means you need to keep following and reading my blogg. Because you can feel blissful even in the midst of chaos. Once you have incorporated a few simple techniques, you will be able to look back and say shew, we made it!!! And had fun while we were doing it!!!

No matter what ‘Be Happy’!!!!!!! If it makes you happy do more of it. Find time to laugh, enjoy. Yes, sometimes you will be presented with a not so good feeling situation. But do not sweat it!!! 

God Bless

Livelove!!!!!!