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Word of the day, Cultivate

While listening to the phenomenal speakers @earlybird toastmasters Overland Park Kansas, the word of the day was, Cultivate! As I chose the word carefully it was not because I had planned on learning such a vast amount from its very existance, but rather out of need. The main title was Embracing Change. I felt like with harvest season upon our farmers and as sales reps run around to meet the fourth quarter’s quota it ‘fit’ the theme of the day.

However, it has become much more over the past twenty four hours. Think about it if you do not cultivate your plants, you will be empty handed, and have nothing at harvest time. Same pertains to businesses, relationships, families and friends. It is an essential to living a wonderful life, yet probably the most missed step in development.

Think about it! Have you or your company, grown by leaps and bounds because you didnt cultivate your environment? Maybe, but it won’t last long. If you do not cultivate your relationships/environment/yourself, you will quickly find yourself without. Without your lively hood and your dreams will swirl out of sight.

That was super sad! Now you can understand why the one word I chose for the day has become a game changer. The more I thought about the word, the more powerful it became!

Yes, you must plant the seed to be able to cultivate it. However, we wouldn’t be discussing this topic if you hadn’t planted the seed. Why? Because if you haven’t found the initiative to get up and plant the seed then you will have nothing in the end, NO MATTER WHAT!!!

Did you follow that? If not it is worth reading it again (I don’t want to type it twice, so go ahead and scroll back up and read it again).

Anywhoooo, here is your new and improved thought of the day, have fun cultivating your life! Don’t struggle with this! It’s time to enjoy going to your career or place of employment. It’s time to feel accomplished and appreciated. You do deserve it and the more you expect it the more you will receive it.

Cultivate with love this week above all else!

God Bless

LiveloveLLC

Just Do It…

Don’t you hate chnage? Do you wish all your dreams could come true, over night? As the days go by and you plan one more step, to achieving your dreams and goals, as well as having that lavish lifestyle; do you find yourself feeling anxiety and fear of the unknown?

Here is the best advice I have to give…Find A BETTER THOUGHT! Is this an easy task? Not at first it is not, but if you keep trying each day, focusing on the rich abundance, you already have and that which is quickly on its way, you will begin to see those controlled visions appear. Yes, it will happen one by one!

I look for the good in each moment however, just like you, I slip back into the more easy habit of observing what is. Therefore, how do I JUMP on another frequency of thought? Every morning, of everyday, before I crawl out if bed I say, “Thank you, for everything in my life working out for the best for me. I love you Teena Drake and I am happy you woke up!”

Now, if you felt a little cringe or sadness when you read what I say, then find your own positive statement. It doesn’t have to be mine. And yes, I have mornings where my brain, vibration and entire being will say back to me (in my head), “Shutup!” I am afraid, what if I never make it? Why couldn’t I choose a career that I just do my job and receive a pay check? Why do you always have to be focusing on something bigger and why do you care if you help others? They don’t care?”

See I probably just demonstrated more doubt than you have ever felt. You are probably thinking wow, Teena I don’t think that much about myself. Lol!! Those days for me are far and few between however, I do have them. Usually when I allow anyone to project their own fears on me. Because listen up!!!! (This is the most important part I am about to write today!!!!!) Other people ONLY FIND FAULT in OTHERS, when they hate their OWN FAULTS or FEARS!

Most people, especially your close friends and family, never want to see you hurt or disappointed. That’s why they appear to be negative towards some of your new ideas, not because they ‘hate’ you, but rather they do not understand you. They also fear you will be let down or hurt! I know I am guilty of this, everyone is. For example, one of my kids called and asked about a job opportunity. Instead of just being excited at that moment my concious mind, then my mouth, began thinking and saying, what if? Oh don’t forget to say or do this!

The entire time my mouth is moving and my ears are listening to my stupid advice, I am thinking, What the hell are you doing or saying? However, it’s my own fear for them that began this chaotic conversation.

Now, I try not to react or if I feel myself doing this I stop and say, “You know mom loves you no matter what! Please attempt to erase those what ifs, please. I only want to always protect you. However, me trying to discourage or hender you is not my intention.”

Then the next time they will want to share with me.

Okay, let’s get back to you, yourself and you! If you feel it do it!!! If you are on a magical, whimsical adventure and you know in your heart you are on the right track, do it! Yes, fear will creep in. You will have moments of doubt, but remember everything is working out best for YOU TO ENJOY THIS GIFT OF LIFE!

For example, most of you know I am opening a new company, actually it is evolving by leaps and bounds. As I attempt one approach and then another. As I begin each day with, “I accept and expect everything to work out in perfect harmony for me today.”

I see events, people and opportunities appearing on a daily basis. Some days I think, okay this can go a little faster. Then I will switch my thought and someone will call, message me or have a wonderful conversation that will lead me into, ” I am the new proud CEO of Livelove LLC.”

The rest is history. Everyone wants to be happy, find peace and love. Therefore, once they ask, “What does your company do?

I respond with, “I share with you my life’s work, studying people and their perspectives of happiness. Next, together we will find the necessary tools for YOU to Be Happy!”

Now when I say that statement at first everyone stares at me for just a moment in, what I think is, a contemplation mode then they say, “When do we begin?”

You can begin today! I will be estatic to meet you if you FEEL the desire to sign up for one of our ‘Happy Classes.’ However, if you can’t make it to one, or can’t wait, you aren’t lost! Wakeup each day and find a desirable and believable to you statement. Say it then take the leap of faith and DO what you are led to do that day! I promise living like this is more fun than having doubt, worry or fear!

One more thing before I go!!! Look everyone I am scared to death to share this information with you, but I FEEL someone needs it. If you don’t need it please just skip over this part of my blog!!!

I have a special gift/service that someone may need. I can read Angel Cards and help you through some issues you might be hanging on to! (This is not anything creepy or weird and you do not have to be religous to believe).

Why am I scared to share, I just do not want to offend anyone. However, this is fun, easy and provides you with a little boost, when making a tough or not clear decision.

Anywhoooo..

I will be at several destinations for now Kansas, Tennessee, Kentucky, Indiana, and Ohio to name the ones that are for sure! And for all my friends and family in Kauai I will be there and can be available a couple of days in November. (If Mamaw doesn’t mind)

If you would rather be incognito or don’t have time to wait for me to announce the pop up destination, you can email me, @Livelove.Teena@gmail.com or message me Teena Drake.

This is fun and extremely helpful. I have a long long list of friends who will edify my work, if you are one of those who needs to check out references!

Back to the topic!!! (Sorry I kept getting the message someone needs that information and no worries everyone, this is JUST as effective over the internet).

Just Do It! Is your message today! You are wonderful and terrific!

God Loves You No Matter What!

Livelove LLC

A family that plays together stays together…

As my creative juices begin to flow I sit on my front, covered patio and listen to the birds chirp, speaking in ‘bird’ fluttering from one tree branch to the other. Some are pleasant to hear and yet others always rudely interrupt with a shrilling screech. Yet others consistently echo themselves similar to a warning or a nagging Aunt Zelda. (No, I do not have a nagging aunt zelda! Lol).

What does that description have to do with the title? I thought you might want to enjoy my preparation for writing…NOOOO NOT REALLY!

Anywhoo…Just like the birds playing, working, arguing and snuggling families are extremely similar. Just think about it, can you identify the family member who is always organized? Super focused? Spirit driven? Aloof? Silly? Always known to ensure you have a good time when in their presence? (Hahaha I always want that to be me and hopefully it is most of the time). Families are the true melting pot. Everyone has their roles, quirks, habits and their opinion.

I question with all the diversity in families like different opinions, lifestyles, social economic statuses what creates a good family bond? What stops the negativity from the outside world from tearing apart families.

Of course I had to begin researching this queation. What creates a happy family bond? Who stays together, no matter how cruddy it gets, why do some families survive and others not so much?

As I asked people about their families and once I gathered responses, I then decide to proceed or not with my next question. For example, if they respond with how many people they dislike in their family I move on. If they tell me about one or two members, in a positive way, I will proceed with, why do you love being with your family? What do you do when you are together?

Everytime, not once or most of the time, everytime the response is we play ______________. Fill in the blank. It could be cards, board games, sports or anything else including the descriptive verbs like play, laugh and/or have fun.

After I read several of the responses I had received, from all different backgrounds, I recognized a common thread in life.

We stay with those who like to play the same as us. Yes, it is similar to birds of a feather flock together. However, that statement almost sounds like we have no choices and that’s not true. I love all kinds of activities which is why I have a gigantic family and friend (sorry I believe they are one of the same so sometimes I forget to separate them) group. I choose to surround myself with all types of people.

Therefore, I love and am keeping the statement…we stay with those who like to play the same as us.

As I rewind then pause the movie in my head, I observe how true this statement is throughout life.

My Aunt T could be one of the best examples to demonstrate how playing equals staying! She has always been happy, full of life and illuminates the room when she begins to laugh. However, I have never been to a family function that we didn’t end up playing cards. She has always been a member of a bridge club and rook. She always incorporates playing in her life and her life shows it. Does that mean everything has always been perfect? No! However, through her Christian faith and her continuing the motto a family that plays together stays together, she is truly one of the happiest people I know. To edify this just a little more, we went to a family reunion and later on that night was hanging out with her oldest grandson, who is in his 20’s. About 8 o’clock he said, “Hey, I love hanging out with you guys, but I have to go we are playing cards tonight.”

Gosh I love this woman! (Sorry, Trina I still love my candid pictures, this is perfect to me)

I remember thinking WOW! He was in a hurry to go play cards with his grandma, dad, grandpa and whoever else shows up. That is AMAZING!

Take time to play today. Turn off the television, put down your phone- I promise Facebook will still be there! And play, play, play with those whom you want to stay!

(We were killing zombies @DaveandBusters see the word to the right of my head? What is it?)

I could have continued writing for hours, but once again Ms. Debbie is waiting on me lol! However, I am ready to go record because we have so much fun. Also, hopefully this will post soon enough for you to plan something fun for tonight. Or now…go on quit reading this and have fun!!! God Bless!!!!

Livelove

Oh if you didn’t know my family loves to swim, thank you Meemaw for always ensuring we have ways to have fun in the sun!

More Determined than EVER!!!!

Today we say goodbye to our sweet God son Matt Reed. Although my heart is hurting for our loss, it hurts even more that I couldn’t help. Suicide is a difficult act to understand, what were they thinking, how could I have helped, was I not paying attention? The questions race through everyone’s minds when this kind of tragedy occurs.

For me, losing Matt in this fashion creates even more determination. I am determined to provide anyone who wants to live a life full of happiness, laughter, love and understanding, I will share all I know and learn.  

My promise to you is to provide you with the proper tools to create a journey filled with whatever you choose. Yes, all of us have tragedy, sadness, negative energy, or incidents beyond our control. However, YOU decide how you live life. Begin today!!!

Each time you feel terrific today write it down. Not necessarily in sentence form. Title it feel good or happy moments, then write them down as they occur. For example: 

MY HAPPY PLACES: 

  • Camping
  • Listening to oldies music on river with loved ones
  • Salon
  • Driving
  • Making love
  • My front porch
  • Writing

As you can see the list is to help you be aware of the ‘happy’ people, places, or events. These do not stop all negativity, but they definitely detour those events. 

If I were to line all the people I know or who I am associated with, who committed suicide, I know without a doubt each one would say, “I wish I could take it back. I didn’t mean to hurt the ones I love!!! I simply did not see any alternative.” 

You see anyone who chooses to take their own life was not thinking how will or do my loved ones feel. Many entitle it selfish, but I can’t. Instead, I choose to use misinformed. Not enough information on who, what, when, where, why, and how to seek, find and enjoy their own happiness!!! 

Life is meant to live!!! Why not choose to enjoy the journey? Will every moment be perfect? No! However, keep allowing, visualizing, accomplishing, setting goals and focus on feeling TERRIFIC!!! As long as you create a habitual way of living in the vibration of ‘being happy’ you will always stop, think, feel the bad feeling then quickly switch your emotions to a better vibration. It can be as quick as a snap of your fingers. Each time I feel down and out I quickly find a pen and paper. Writing is my quick way to change emotions. You will find yours! 

Take time out of your busy schedule today to pause…pause for suicide victims, pause for the loved ones who have lost someone to suicide. Next find a happy thought for you and share it with the world! Post it, photograph it whatever it takes find the feel good vibration. You can actually help all who have been affected by this empty feeling by teaching others there is an easier way and it is much more fun. Teach yourself and loved ones how to find their own happiness, share what you have learned.

Sadly, I can’t bring back the ones we have already lost! However, I am determined to teach others how to carry on. You can help!!! Glorify your loved ones who have taken their own lives by helping others to make a happier choice!!! 

; until we meet again Matthew Reed I will continue to pray, smile and share the knowledge of enjoying life. God Bless You!!!

Carry On and Have Fun!!! 

Livelove 💖💖💖💖💖

Let’s Clear One Thing UP……..

First, if you recently followed my blog or if you have always followed I want to say THANK YOU! If you are reading for the first time, this blog is a little catch up on who I am, where I am going and how grateful I am for where I have been.

Recently, I began a journey and decided to share it with you by blogging, here on my blog. My journey has been magnificent with ups, downs and all arounds, thus far. I wake up each morning excited about what the universe has to offer today. I smile, run to the mirror say, GOOD MORNING BEAUTIFUL WHAT A WONDERFUL DAY IT IS TO ENJOY THIS JOURNEY. I AM READY AND EXCITED ABOUT MY JOURNEY TODAY!!!!!!!!

Okay, to be honest, I don’t jump up and scream that every morning (but after reading it, I might try it because it feels really good) nor do I wake up in a perfect mood everyday. However, I do wake up every morning anticipating what is going to be Terrific in my day. I also will admit I have a few rituals of ‘Pump Me Up’ that I perform. Sometimes it is lay there until I catch the beautiful vision I want or I will talk to myself in the mirror for a brief moment. The most important part, you understand, is my journey is to live in a vibration of feeling happy the majority of the time. The most exciting part of this journey is I am sharing it with you!

Here is what we needed to clear up! I did have a life changing experience that reminded me of who I am. I have felt some (in my opinion very little) despair over this experience. The truth is me shattering my leg, laying in a ditch, and seven months later still trying to heal changed my life, by reminding me of my life purpose. You see I have had very few catastrophes in my life. I have suffered the loss of loved ones, but always felt the love I had for them will always keep them alive. I am sure my mother and father would tell you otherwise, but according to me my life was perfect from day one! I mean my mother didn’t name me for a couple of days and when she did come up with a name it was- Teena (unique spelling) and Gay for the middle!! What? Yes, I am telling you the only thing my accident did for me, which I am super grateful for, was to remind me of my life purpose. I was born to spread, be and teach others to be happy. To find their bliss.

That may sound crazy, but it’s true. I can’t tell you, of anytime in my life, that I havent found something good or positive out of a situation. Not one. Therefore, if I write about despair, depression, loss please note I am in no way shape or form comparing my measly little issues with some of your horrific situations. Lately, I have read some blogs that I feel so sorry for some people. That is why I felt like you needed to know I understand everyone has issues in their life. The best I can do is offer you new tools to assist you in enjoying your time here on earth; because they are my gifts I am sharing with you.

I am grateful for my life. I have lived a life most could only dream of. I had a strong circle of love from my family from parents to aunts/uncles, grandparents, step-parents, friends the list and circle becomes larger all the time. I married my best friend, have four beautiful children, and much more. Who am I? I don’t know, but I do know what I love and what creates a feeling of overwhelming happiness. I also know my ‘job’ ‘mission’ ‘life purpose’ ‘whatever’ you want to call it…it is to ‘be happy’ and teach you how to ‘be happy.’ Remember, what makes me happy doesn’t necessarily make you happy, but you will know when you FEEL IT!

God Bless You! God Loves You No Matter What!

I Love You…Because you make me happy….

How many times have you heard or said the statement above? A million or more? Many people call this cupcake phase or honeymoon syndrome. However, the theory behind this is you are a half and out there somewhere there is another half that is perrrffffeeecctt for me and when we hook up life is going to be great. That’s all I need is someone else to make me happy. 

At this point you are probably agreeing with me in one way or another, yet another part of you is waiting for the bashing. Okay what am I doing wrong? Why are you insinuating my mystical fantasy of an equal or better half being out there and coming to me, is nothing more than a dream?

Let’s squash the past event where anyone told you that it is silly to exp ect a healthy loving relationship. I am not insinuating anything I want you to read it again? Yes, pause now and read it again. Okay did you read it? How did you feel after each sentence? Were those loaded statements or questions? Yes and No.

 After each sentence how did you feel? After cupcake or honeymoon phase, at first, did you feel excited and all warm and fuzzy inside? Most do, however, the emotion following the statement ( meaning it has two sides to it) didn’t feel so good? Why? Because if it is true what goes up must come down then directly after that, is going to be bad. Right? So we begin by expecting the worst after an alloted amount of time.

Yes, life is easily compared to a frequency…yes there are waves up/ down of emotions. However, you can change the roller coaster to feel good the majority of the time. It takes a little practice and a bit of mind tricks, but once you feel the amazing emotions that follow, you will enjoy trying these simple little steps because it begins to be fun.

The truth is when attending therapy you will find that each individual must develop themselves, sometimes before working on the couple as a unit. The answer is not waiting on the right person to make you whole but rather know what you LIKE ABOUT YOU, so you can attract someone who enhances the real you. 

I realize that’s a great deal to take in. So let me show you what I mean. I don’t care if you are in a relationship or you are looking for that perfect someone take a min. try this then come back to it later and try again.

1. Write down words that bring you joy. No not about someone else’s likes or dislikes just about you! Mine would begin with: swimming, water, sex, bicycling, sunshine, writing, music. (You get the idea).

2. Next write words you like in either who you are dating, married or searching for. Make sure it has a feel good emotional attachment. Example: music, partying, socializing, working out ect…anything that makes you smile. 

I understand that he or she has hurt you and they should have to pay for your broken heart.  It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship this is siblings, lovers, parents, if you continually focus on their negativity, you will continue to receive negative and unpleasant results. What you RESIST PERSIST. They will continue to find fault in you and you will do the same.

Instead of focusing  on what you don’t  like about them transfer those thoughts to something you like about them. It can be physical  or emotioal. Once you get started you won’t want to quit! 

Have fun, be happy and expect only the best for all situation concerning you. You are worthy of being loved, loving others, and having a life full of Sunshine and Lollipops. Enjoy! 

If you know of someone struggling….

Hello let me introduce myself my name is love, pink, joyful, laughter, fun, accepting, free-spirited, sensual, kind, caring, understanding, insightful, focused, millionaire, educator, magnificent, dynamic, sparkly, diamond lover, debater, healthy, swimmer, who loves others and wants them to come along and take this ‘HAPPY’ adventure with me! My name is Teena Drake, my game is living life as HAPPY as possible.

Wow! Brag much Teena? Nope I don’t have to brag this is how people have described me and the adjectives I have chosen to identify my life with. You see my entire life has been altered for the better of me, but the most exciting part is for the betterment of you too!

You might be puzzled, but allow me to take a couple of pieces of this puzzle and show you a glimpse of the possibilities. I am so excited right now I can barely type! I keep walking away saying don’t do this! It’s to scary to tell the world what you have learned! But if I keep it a secret well I can’t keep this feeling or life! Which puts me in a pickle! Therefore, I am busting out!!!! So if you are ready to see who you are and find that ‘HAPPY’ place you have been longing for follow me on this adventure…as I reveal a lifetime of learning, but let’s begin with what I have learned since December 8th, 2016. The event, the blessing, that had to happen for me to have received such a wonderful gift for the world – that can seem gloomy and sad. It’s a gift full of joy, happiness, adventure or just a hike in solitude the world is a beautiful place as long as you are happy!

First Assignment:  1, Write your name  2. Write all the adjectives or activities, that make up you (NOT OTHER PEOPLE) 3. Now ask by text or email so they can think about it, how some of your friends, family members, or acquaintances would describe you. (The third step came from Jack Cannefield’s writing). 4. Read all of them and delete any you do not like and own the ones you love. 5. Anything you would like to share about this first step to ‘Being’ ‘Happy’ tag me so I can read it and share! I look forward to reading about the amazing YOU!

When I began this process I was unsure how other people would describe me, but some of the things I said about myself were not nice. If you come up with a similar scenario and you are saying negative things about yourself, even if you won’t write it you are thinking it continuously, STOP! I know it’s not that easy trust me, but I promise I can help you. Mmmm I take that back I can’t help you, but I can provide you with the tools to help yourself.

I hope you have a beautiful weekend and remember God Loves You No Matter What!

Please! Please!Please, Share all of my post if you are struggling or know of someone else struggling with this game of ‘Life!’ Why? You ask? Because I have been given a gift that if, I want to keep, I must share it with as many people possible. Therefore, I am asking that you tell your friends and family to follow me on WordPress, Facebook-Teena Drake, Twitter-Livelove pinkologist@TeenaDrake, Instagram- live_love_pinkologist and you tube. When I begin to video this series I will let you know so you can subscribe to Livelove Pinkologist. (Or you can subscribe anyways). Thank you and God Bless Each of You and may you BE HAPPY!