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And then 8 more are taken from us! I wept and wept as I read the headlines of May 18, 2018

I must admit around 7:00 A.M. this morning I was being quite a brat! Complaining about the ‘lack’ of money to do some things I want to do. Then my flight arrangements became more hassle than it was worth. The low budget airplane company wouldn’t let me cancel my flight even with trip insurance, I bought from them! I was on a rampage! I was about to lose money and that makes me mad! I proceeded to my ‘complimentary’ breakfast in our hotel and continued to express my bitchy attitude with one of my favorite servers.

She was just as upset as me, that I was losing two hundred dollars! She said, “I would fight that girl. You know that is wrong!!!”

I shook my head in agreement and as I began to add the gooshy details to my sob story, a lady asked her for some more muffins. I bit a piece of bacon off and with a half-full mouth, nodded my head, and mouthed, “I will talk to you later.” 

The outside eating area was a bit chilly so I nestled in a corner seat, with a big cushion to prop behind my lumbar. As I ate my delightful breakfast full of all the ‘fixins’ I glanced up at the television to see what Trump or some other politician had to say today. I read 8 DEAD, School Shooting…again and again, it scrolled across the bottom of the screen. There were people all around me talking and laughing, some were even telling, what they were reading on the television, out loud to someone on a cell phone!

The room began to spin. Was I having a sugar attack? Was I being silly? My next emotion overwhelmed me as one tear fell on my plate, another, and then yet another. Within minutes it seemed to be a flood of tears. Drip, Drip, Drop, Drop, they bounced off my plate. 

I know it is wrong to judge others, but as I sobbed and sobbed, for a fleeting moment, I wondered why I was the only one who was sobbing over the report of Eight Dead, School Shooting. But in reality, this has become American’s reality. Are we becoming cold to the Headlines? It would be simple to do…as much negativity is reported on a daily basis. 

I rapidly began to read the sub-titles to ensure they had captured the shooter. No report! Come on at least let us know it is stopped. Still nothing! 

It didn’t matter anyway…we lost 8 more and at least 1 shooter which makes it nine too many. Where do we go from here? People around the world, citizens of the U.S. all citizens…Where do we go from here? We must find a way to begin focusing on the good in others and ourselves. Why can’t you be celebrated for your goodness? We all have it, we just don’t all recognize it. 

My heart hurts for the entire student body, faculty, and families who have had to endure such a terrible tragedy. Please know that my mission is to spread the awesome possibilities of mental healthy vs. mental filthy. 

I am unsure of the entire big picture of how I or my company can accomplish what we have set forth before us. However, each time I feel like giving up, throwing in the towel, and getting what others say is a ‘real’ job…something drastic such as this happens.

AND at that very MOMENT…I am reminded! Why I started this company, what were my thoughts and visions? What was at least 1 end in mind that I might have had? 

Oh yeah! LiveLove LLC plans to “Change the World, with ONE HAPPY THOUGHT at a TIME!” 

How? Hmmmm posting more blogs to make you think? Publish a book will be out soon, Professionally Motivational Speak at events, Life ‘Happy’ Coaching, and tell everyone I meet, “You deserve to be happy!”

If you do nothing else to assist us in our mission do me one favor…find a child of any age and tell him or her something good you see in them. Anything! 

If you are a parent struggling with an out of control child…listen to your vocabulary. Have you said anything nice to this child who continues to cause you grief? Or are your words always referring back to the many yesterdays of negative emotions he or she created? If you are so hurt that you find yourself going back down the dirt road of despair…pause and appreciate that you still have your child to be frustrated with. Recognize how much you do appreciate and admire about them and tell them. 

Please, we all need each other. We need to know that taking someone else’s life isn’t going to make them feel better. Nor is hurting someone else. We must educate our youth how precious they each mean to our future. How important their opinion, creative ideas, and sense of improvement is to our future societies? 

“I beg of our country to stop this nonsense and begin to focus on the good in all people. The world is your mirror your life is its reflection. It is up to you and me to do WHATEVER it takes to educate our world, ‘life is meant to be lived as Happy as Can BE’!” 

My theory is if I am happy, you, you, you, and EVEN YOU…are happy we have a bright little corner when we stand together. Then you add ten more happy ones with your infectious HAPPY thoughts then we now have forty or more Happies…standing together. Can you see how illuminated this becomes? 

Come Along with me on the Happy Trail! Tell ONE Person today a happy thought. Then try it again but add two more tomorrow. It becomes fun and before long our silly issues like…our son not continuing with college or our daughter didn’t get the highest honorary award. Or your teenager gets pregnant, fails a class, is disrespectful whatever may be going on today will not feel as painful tomorrow. 

We are sending you great love! All of you! To our Texas friends, we are sending the greatest love filled with as many happy thoughts as we can find. Through our struggles we find determination…Teena Drake. 

God Bless Each of You! 

If you need a little extra help coping with those ‘valleys’ in life email us Livelove.teena@gmail.com  Our promise is to find you the best life coach to assist you in finding a better you. 

As always…at LiveLove LLC we encourage you to-

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Carry On! 

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If I DIED TODAY, What would you say?

If I died today what would you say? 

Would you be so Cliche as to ramble on about the would should and coulds?

Or would you remember all my mistakes and blunders?

If I died today what would you say?

Would you be so Romantic as to buy me flowers, kiss my head and only be saddened due to the lack of hugging, kissing and reminiscing?

Or would you remember all my outburst of laughter that rolls like the thunder?

As of yet, I have not died today! But if I am the other half of you, I ask, “If I died today, what would you say? I simply, WONDER…”

Please always know that YOU ARE LOVED! I don’t know who needed this today, but I have a great deal of ‘work’ related items to complete today and this WOULD NOT STOP, until I shared with you!

Therefore, to whomever you are, I send you great love. I send you my gift. My only pay, I request, is for you to embrace and pass it on!

Livelove

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Carry On

Need a little extra help in your life? Livelove.teena@gmail.com is where to find us.

How we can help you?

I don’t know, e-mail us and we will see if we can! If we can’t, You might be able to help us, help others!

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Delete It!

Do you ever look at e-mails, social media, cell phones or anything else exposing your name and think…What if I deleted EVERYTHING! I never think of that either!

As I chuckle to myself about that last statement, I wonder if this is what our children think. Not deleting everything, but about life. For example, “Mommy, Have you ever felt like life was overwhelming? Have you ever felt like ‘giving up’?”

As the child, who is struggling with what may seem silly to an adult, ponders asking this question to their mommy or daddy.  I can only imagine what they think an adult would respond with. For example, “Of COURSE, I feel like giving up. Have you not seen all the crud going on? Ball practice, work, birthdays. But what do you have to worry about? You are being cared for.”

PARENTS! I am not saying you are doing anything wrong. I promise life is overwhelming at times and young parents today, have a great deal of pressure. Which is why I am writing this post.

If you have times of glaring at your connections to the world and you feel overwhelmed, then your child is probably feeling the same way.

Therefore, I am suggesting take time and DELETE IT! I know it sounds crazy, but when you are feeling overwhelmed with LIFE, make up a game with your family and have a delete it night.

Example:

  1. Explain to your children or partner, we are going to have a delete it night.
  2. Have everyone
    1. write their issues
    2. speak it
    3. sing it   Example: Child- I made an F, my friend was mean to me, Work was awful today. Everyone is allowed to share what they are feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, or depressed about.
  3. Take time to listen to everyone’s sharing of their feelings.
  4. BUT! After each complaint EVERYONE says, “Delete It!”
  5. Or you can sing “DELETE IT!”

The point is to reverse the trajectory of your thoughts on what is and has been. Because you can’t change the past…no matter what!

Deleting it allows:

  1. Acceptance that everyone has down times and feels like giving up.
  2. A switch in vibrations.
  3. Allows everyone to see how life carrys on even when it feels cruddy at this moment…IT will get better!

As always…God Bless and KNOW you are LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY!

Livelove

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Carry On

If you would like a little help with ‘Life’ let us know. Livelove.teena@gmail.com and we will begin your Happy Coaching as soon as possible.

Life is meant to be experienced.

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There is no greater or less than, when it comes to you…

As ‘life’ seems to happen around us, many people like to compare stories or talk about the issues. However, there is no comparisons between your story and theirs.

Of course we are all connected and as humans, we can all FEEL empathy or sympathy depending on our similar incidents.

But…everyone has moments of being depressed, sad, hurt, lost and disappointed. I can remember the day, my son explained that pointing out all the reasons someone should be grateful, isn’t always the best feeling emotion for someone suffering. I questioned why or why not, it always seemed to work for me. Highlighting all the reasons I should be grateful, how blessed I am and so on.

Nick explained how sometimes those comments are more detrimental to the person.

That was several years ago and to be completely honest, I didn’t truly understand.

Now, I do!

You see we ALL have moments where life feels overwhelming, too much and disappointing. Those who their stories, are well known and inspire others, but also you and me.

As I wrote and rewrote my speech for the area contest @Earlybirdstoastmasterskc, the days seemed to be zooming by. Closer and closer, my excitement was building and the anticipation of all the exciting opportunities, this club has to offer, was assisting me in working up the best message, I had ever written! Ohhh, if you could only feel my radiating excitement.

Yet, day by day in LA we had to jump one hurdle and then twenty five more or maybe a hundred more! (Okay I am being a bit over dramatic, as Ashby says).

But it is true. I could whine and cry about every little speed bump thrown in front of us, but where would we be then? Instead let me share what I have learned.

This week I had to let go of my first speech competition. It was to be on Monday February 5th. There were no guarantees I would move on to the next level, because our club has intense competition, but I wanted to attempt it, in the worst kind of way!

I had prepared and practiced the entire road trip from Kansas to LA.

As the hurdles popped up, some one at a time, others it seemed like fifty at a time, I began to realize my excitement was about to he turned into disappointment! With all the issues about having Princeton, I quickly realized my trip would be delayed, forcing me to step down from the competition.

Now this may seem silly to anyone else, but I cried and cried! I was disappointed, sad, overwhelmed and a little bit selfish. Most of all I was torn! This was my baby girl and very dear to me granddog. But I also wanted to attempt this competition!

Then my lessons began!!! Everytime I would express my disappointing emotions someone would share on Facebook or tell me about a horrific event. For example in the past month we have lost loved ones to accidents, cancer, flu and suicides. I would cry for them or add to my prayer list.

Yes, my silly little issues seemed trivial after all of that. I have so much to be grateful for, I know that.

Then I realized Nick was correct. Pointing out or minimizing our own disappointments, by comparison, is not fair, to you.

My epiphany was EVERYONE, experiences their own depression and disappointments. And YOURS is just as important as the next one. Because we are all on our own journey and life happens whether we are striving to improve or not.

And MAYBE, JUST MAYBE…this is a key to helping others choose to feel all the emotions, yet not give up.

The key is to allow yourself to feel the negative emotion. Express your feelings of disappointment. (Allow this moment). Do not worry about feeling trivial compared to other people’s issues. I am Not saying dwell on it and/or illuminate the situation, but rather, ALLOW yourself to have a moment of tears.

It is okay!!! There is no greater and less than, when it comes to you and how you feel. Maybe if we begin to allow kids and adults to say, “I feel like giving up.”

We will have less severely depressed or suicides. When I was having a moment of ‘selfish disappointments’ it felt good to allow the sadness, for a moment. It forced me to find solutions, it allowed me to be human, and it reminded me how quickly ANYONE can give up.

It is time we begin to allow our younger generations to know we have all been there. We have all had struggles and let it out. All of it! Say it if you feel it. It’s okay.

No matter how trivial it may be to others. Your disappointments, moments of sadness or maybe your losses are not comparable to others! You are allowed to say it because believe it or not… EVERYONE experiences negative emotions.

My greatest hope is…this post will help one person to choose life. If you are not feeling so well about something, say it! And quit worrying about comparing apples, arangatans, and kale spinach. This is YOUR EXPERIENCE! No one elses!

Livelove

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Carryon

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Need your help!

Here it goes, Lights, Camera and Action! Livelove’s YouTube channel is about to go Crazy! I get so excited every time I think about it. However, I have a few issues, that I could honestly, use your help with. As a new on-line business, with a mission, that contains a great deal of LOVE, for YOU…I am struggling with a few decisions. Therefore, I wondered if you would like to be a part of the ‘decision’ making process. If so, continue to read and participate, if not we will catch you later (you might want to skip over reading the rest of this one). If you already know about Livelove and are interested in having an input, as our family (business) grows and brands themselves, then skip down to number five.

 

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  1. We have the business registered and services in place.
  2. Trademark for Freddy the Pink Flamingo, is all completed (those of you who helped choose him, Thank you).
  3.  Slogan is being registered as we speak.
  4. Services: One on one coaching, professional motivational workshops, for those companies who need extra help with company moral and team work. A new e-book and audible book with the Happy Curriculum embedded into the series, to allow you to learn and enjoy, at your own pace, is almost completed. Educational Seminar for school districts to educate the children, on choosing life/living, rather than suicide. Some exciting new items will be available shortly :).
  5. So what am I missing? Your input on all of this! To be exact…
    • Where would you like to attend a ‘How to’ ‘Be Happy’ seminar/workshop? Is there a preferable location for example? Would you sign up to attend a Livelove seminar in Kauai, Outer Banks North Carolina, Los Angeles? Texas? Or Kansas City? Or in another country? Maybe Italy? or Mexico? You tell me, list it in the comments on Facebook, WordPress, messenger or email us… Livelove.teena@gmail.com I want to know where you would like for our event planning specialist to begin focusing?
    • Last but not least…Do you like our newest member to Livelove LLC? The only problem is she is nameless, for now. Therefore, I did a mini photo shoot for you! She will be creating educational videos for our ‘kiddos’ who are watching Livelove!
    • This is your chance to give a thumbs up or down to _______________, our newest member. Again you can comment on WordPress, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, messenger, email us at http://www.Livelove.teena@gmail.com, or check into our website http://Www.Livelovellc.org/home and leave us a message.
    • Questions to answer:
      • What should her name be? I have Momma Teena, Pinky, Pinkalicious (this one scares me a bit, sounds a little umm, IDK), or my middle name is Gay after my aunt, I could use her name which means ‘happy’. Or, you provide suggestions.
      • Do you like the pink hair? For educational videos?
      • Glasses? or no glasses?
      • Type of outfit she should have made? (If you didn’t know Physical Fit Flower the Clown was me, but I had to move away from being a white face clown, too many horror films 😦 .
      • How long of videos do you prefer? Five minutes, fifteen or twenty-five…we realize when guest are on the show, they may be over twenty-five, but regularly? (Educational Videos, songs, how to’s, interesting journeys, and much more)
      • Do you think we should post once a day, week bi-weekly or monthly?
  6. Anything else you can think of or suggest for us to help you, let us know!

Livelove is super excited to share with you in 2018! Looking forward to meeting you in person! I will announce her name as soon as we know the final decision.

God Bless!

Livelove

&

Carryon

 

Happy Coaching 101 (Day three)

I felt like Wednesday was the day to share this particular coaching session. Honestly, I could write a book on what this lady taught me. Her messages, her thoughts, sometimes silence and her perspective. You see, this special lady taught me how to understand my messages, to accept them and most definetly share them. I have been strictly instructed to only tell her circumstances and an extremely vague description at that.

This lady had suffered great loss in her life. She has buried a child and her husband. That is all you are allowed to know. The saddest part is I was not allowed to save the majority of her coaching messages. Only those that were extra special, such as this one. However, those were her wishes.

Message: First…create a map,  a map of your life include pebbles, big rocks, water, whatever terrain that best describes you and your life. Including pathways, roads, highways, speed limits, marriage, births, special events, whatever it may be that you can remember, about your life up until this point. It is your creation. You may share with me if you so desire or not, either way it is up to you.

Second…I am givng you an eraser. A gigantic eraser and your instructions are simple, ERASE ALL THE BAD! I mean erase every tear, painful moment, trial or tribulation, everytime you felt less than, worthless, fearful, hopeless, destroyed. Erase them all.

Her response was priceless! But guess what? You are going to have to wait to see, what her response was and my come back message, until tomorrow. Why? Because I want you to create the design of this woman, her age, feelings, appearance and create this ‘hero’ in your head. And maybe you can go ahead and begin to create your life map. Who knows, we might be on to something, psst, I think we are.

To Be Continued…

Livelove

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Carryon

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God Bless Everyone!

Hey, if you are just now reading this post, skip back through Monday and Tuesday’s post Happy Coaching 101- 1 & 2. These are samples of actual coaching messages some people have received.

suicide? Suicide? SUICIDE?

This picture is on a house boat with Darion Drake and Matt Reed, when they were little. Although his memory will always live on, his physical form was taken from us. Why? Because he couldn’t see a better way! Isn’t it time we show others, there is always a choice. A choice to live. If life feels ‘too much’, pause, breathe and hold on…THIS TOO WILL PASS!

I will never ever forget the moment, I received this crazy phone call! “Teena, Matt has killed himself!”

I rubbed my eyes, cleared my throat and asked,”What? Did you say Suicide?”

“Yes, he is gone!”

(This is not a posting to upset anyone, but it needs to be written!)

I woke Eric up and we both broke down and began to sob. Heart broken, angry, hurt and deeply saddened were just a few emotions, we were experiencing.

You see this was extremely unexpected, because Mathew had been through this exact same horrific experience, with his older brother. He was a teenager and it happened right before his birthday. So you can imagine why we never thought Matt was capable of repeating the event.

However, sadly he did! Leaving his sister, mother and nephew with voids, never to be filled.

Let me tell you about Mathew Reed!

He had a spirit of LIVING! He loved cars, helping others, his family (especially his wonderful nephew). He was a ball of energy. Always willing to lend a helping hand and he could make you laugh until you peed your pants!

At his visitation, I heard the same thing over and over again. “Why? He was such a great person. Why?”

I wish I could answer such a simple question, as to why? But I can’t. Instead, I want to illuminate his life and hopefully help someone else. As I write, in almost ALL of my postings, NO ONE CAN CHANGE THE PAST! I, nor you can reverse what has been done. Yes, you can receive strength to carry on, but once any act or deed is done, it is done.

However, I do believe, my loving Mathew Reed and I can help someone. Someone who is hurting, contemplating and feels stuck.

You see IF we could have stopped this, Matt would probably be preparing for a fun filled night of hanging with his friends. Texting me at midnight to just wish me Happy New Years and laughing about all the crud he has been through. However, none of those events can or will happen.

Sad? Yes! Change it? No 😔!

Learn from him? Definitely 😎!!

If Matt could speak to you right now he would say, “Hold on. Pause. Breathe Deeply. And LIVE ON!”

It’s okay to feel…anyway you want to feel. But please continue to remember, ‘This too will pass.’

I love you Mathew Reed and will continue to send out your message.

God Bless

Please, I beg of you, help me to help others. Tell someone today, that no matter what, it’s going to be okay. It will work out and this to will PASS!

Livelove

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Carryon

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