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I think I can; I know I can…

Most people have read the Little Engine that could. I know, I would even refer to it while educating eighth graders or teaching sales associates, how to reach their personal quota. However, this past weekend, my experience, cleared the muddy waters or concepts behind this fabulous story!

You see, anytime I was coaching I would say look at the end result and go for that finish line. Which is one hundred percent normal for a coach. As we timed each runner in their event we would refer to their ending time and ask, can you beat that? After all, Track is all about who crosses that finish line first. I would run as fast as I could and cheer, “I think you can, I think you can…Come On You can do it, just look at that finish line, it is right there!!! (Ending with) I know you can! I know you can!”

Exasperated, I would check with John or Dad, for time and let them know where they were and where they needed to be! Does this sound normal to you? Of course it does as a coach you are to bring them up to their best potential and motivate them to complete the task, improve upon the last one and visualize the positive results is your job. However, if I chose to do that type of coaching again I would reverse their thoughts and my technique.

Why? You ask? Becuase although we had several qualify and attend state, once we arrived the goal or end result became overwhelming and several of them struggled.

Back to My lesson and then you will understand. As Eric and I rode bicycles, we would come upon some steep hills. He would shift down to second or even first gear and ride like the wind. (Of course he was demonstrating how necessary it is for me to have gears) Me, on the other hand, would begin pushing, panting, standing up and usually stop mid hill, exhausted. Though, I will say, I never walked and pushed my bike. Instead, I would look right in front of me about two feet and begin pedaling.

Pedaling, pedaling, pedaling slowly sometimes almost coming to a complete stop! Wobbling back and forth…hang on! I would say you can do this, you can do this.

My pep talk or phrase to myself became almost like a cheer/chant/song I would say out loud.

“You already know the end, all you have to see is, two feet & your free!”

I know that seems weird, but in the midst of the struggle it became, “2 feet in front of me is all you gotta see.”

Over and over again I would chant/cheer, “Two feet in front of me is all I gotta see… (push the pedals with all my might) Two feet in front of me is all I gotta see… (again, but a little louder)…Two feet in front of me is all I gotta see!”

I tested it time and time again. We would approach a hill and if I would ride, starring at the top; I NEVER MADE IT, without stopping! However, if I glanced at the top (or end result) I would take a snap shot of the path, quickly glance where others could be, ensure I could avoid any Big surprises and proceed. (All of that preparing was not a strict plan it was just a glance. So if I had to veer off the path, I would still arrive at my final deatination)

Next, I would look two feet ahead of me, glance behind me and take off!!! Push with the right, then the left. Breathe…inhale, exhale, inhale exhale. Focus on your breathing, Teena. And when I thought I couldn’t go anymore, I wasn’t strong enough, I would push even harder and cheer, “Two feet in front of me is all I gotta see!”(again)

“Two feet in front of me is all I gotta see…two feet in front of me is all I gotta see!”

Sometimes I would throw in the full mantra, but mostly I just concentrated on turning the wheels two times and moving two feet.

Isn’t this true in everything we do! I never understood why @The Little Engine that Could, began with, “I think I can.”

I do now! If he had looked at the end result the entire time he might not have made it to the the toys, on the other side of the mountain. Instead he began with just right then, right where he was at that time. He didn’t transition to, I know I can, until he had reached at least one major hurdle and enjoyed the journey along the way.

Anything you want to do big or small! Know the end result or goal, feel it for a split second. Then begin to take one step, then the next. You do not want to miss the delicious journey along the way, so you can bask in the glorious warmth and good feeling at the top.

Back to track. I love track as a sport! Because it focuses your brain to improve you for your own personal record. If you are a coach try not to focus on the end quite as much, but rather visualize the end and improve by only seeing two feet ahead, two days, two hours, or even two seconds!

You can get thru, accomplish or achieve anything you want! If you are depressed, struggling with addiction or just wanting to pedal to the top of a hill, you can do it! The key is to see it and break it down into smaller, manageable pieces!

God Bless!

Livelove

Livelovellc.org

As we gather more and more information, to provide you with a solid answer on what Livelove truly is and how you can benefit; I have to pause my thoughts/emotions/feelings! I know that sounds weird, but it’s true. The past two weeks actually, the more I meditate, I have to say the last 45 (Almost 46) years have been fabulous! However, since we are living in the now I will say the last two weeks have been out of this world!

You see Livelove was created many years ago and it has been building for many years. Therefore, to narrow it down to a website, that grabs your attention, can become quite difficult.

That is why this moment of knowing, feeling, caring what your opinion is, of our new/not really, company is daunting. It’s not bad nor good, it’s just like will my vision finally come to fruition? Will my message that was given to me by divine appointment and wraps my entire life’s experience into one title, be the right one? Will people understand me? Will I help the world learn how to be or find their own happiness in all situations?

Yet, many of my closest friends always say, “Yes, you can!”

Then I think Teena why do you care!!! You are happy, everything is going your way, let it go! You aren’t helping anyone anyways!

And the battle between strong belief in our new company and subconscious begins. It goes round and round. The what ifs take over, I place scenario after scenario in my mind. Right before I stop myself is when I realize I don’t want any of those negative feelings or thoughts. I am okay…you see I created a vision that was not real, added some negative thoughts from my paradigm, solidified it and ALMOST began to act it out or, in many people’s terms, brought it into my ‘reality.’

The truth is you have to see it in your mind to have it, both negative and/or positive.

Livelove… (I have to add LLC but the title without it is what our company is about, the extra three letters is becuase of silly legalities which I am not a fan of, but it is a must).

Livelove is what you want it to be! Yes, our business is legal, productive and can help anyone, business or organizations to find their happiness, YOUR WAY! You will be able to purchase a class, a motivational speaker, a few products and a program. However, Livelove is much more than a product or a service business!

It is a message! A message of LIFE! it is YOUR MESSAGE!!!!

It is a way for anyone to be happy for the rest of their days on earth! Don’t get me wrong I have down, distracting, contrasting (@Abraham-Hicks) days or moments.

For example:

Yesterday, I drove ten hours, beautiful day, nice ride, great people to talk to, music was fabulous! Butt, everything irritated me!!! I ‘normally’ feel uplifted on my rides. I write inspirational material, sing at the top of my lungs and dance like I am crazy!!!!

Not yesterday!!! I was mean and nasty. A lady tried to pass me in the right lane and I was like oh no you don’t, I don’t play those games, biotch!!!! It was like that off and on all day!

Then when I meditated this morning on my description of Livelove I realized…Do I have confidence in myself to boldly say You, can help change the world or at least those who want to ‘BE HAPPY’ for the rest of their days?

I mean really! Teena, you just cut off a probably, nice lady driving down the interstate! You talked to yourself, you prayed, you cried! Basically, you were a mess!! What makes you think anyone is going to listen or if you can help!!! (Like I said, I was in ‘what if’ mode, all day and negatively I might add). It’s the recognition and how I handled it, is what Livelove is all about.

Livelove is a gift! It’s a message and my vision is someday, it will carry on.

Therefore, as my business manager, media consultant and personal executive continue to be patient with me, as well as my family, all I ask of you is to do the same. I know it may seem silly to ask random readers, Business Executives (waiting eagerly to hire us), and others who are in need of ‘Happy Class’ or coaching please, send me positive vibes and much love and KNOW when this introductory is complete you will have access to a message that has been created to withstand time and will continue to evolve into the beautiful vision it was created from!

The end result will be a semi colon, not to steal that from suicide awareness, but rather to combine with it and do just that pause and carry on!

God Bless

Livelove

Livelove.teena@gmail.com

To my friend in a valley…

You are okay!

Yes! You are okay!

Look up, look up, LOOK UP!

My friend who is looking down…

Look up! Feel the warmth beaming in

The valley is for healing & nurturing

While here, look around & heal

Enjoy your nurturing friends

Bask in the sun like a sleepy cat

Heal, repair and rest

Be grateful for the valley & all it is

Now it is time to LOOK UP!

Your new journey is coming up

Now is your time to plan, heal gather

For the funfilled, scary (at times), road

The road – back up on the crest

Leave your worries in the valley

The nurterers will dispose of them

As you stand up to begin the journey

Inhale & exhale & smile

For it will be fun & as long as

You are following your bliss

Your next valley will not be so deep!

(Notice what punctuation sign is missing?)

Writing Zone

When in writing zone no one else exist. Today has already been a terrific day and it isn’t even noon yet! I had to stop everything I was doing to write on my blog. The topics continue to race through my head for example…”Did you know following instructions can improve your life? or How to know if you are pleasing your partner? or even When I write, I become lost?”

Therefore, you can see why I am sitting down moments before I am suppose to meet some friends for lunch, opening my computer and typing until I can not type anymore. I simply can not help myself. I want to share with you my silly thoughts and hopefully brighten your day.

It is September 12, 2017 and I am suppose to be getting dressed, having lunch with friends, going to the gym and probably working on my new business, “Livelove LLC.” (I will let you in on the Grand Opening as soon as I have a firm date set, I am so excited for this adventure). Anyways, I am now typing away in the ‘writing zone.’ Where no one or anything else exist. There are no worries, fears, anger or anxiety. Just shear freedom. Freedom of thought, Freedom of Speech and Freedom to Breathe! If you show choose you can title your blog as Fiction! Fiction! Fiction! and puctuation, rhyme or reason, shoulds, coulds and woulds are obsolete. Oh I know the English Majors want to control a portion of that statement, Punctuation. (However, it’s true if you so choose, you can use whatever punctuation you want! Or none at all! However, if you have someone read, your writing and they only express what they read, you might want to reconsider)

Anywhoo…As I find myself becoming extremely abundant with new partnerships, sponsorships, friendships, happy relationships, I some times slip off to this sweet spot, my blog and type.

I was asked the other day, “How much would you charge for people to read your blog?”

I shivered at the thought (because they are priceless to me)! Remember, when I started writing, after my accident, I told everyone I am sharing this information for selfish reasons. Why you ask? Because I was given several extremly special messages, on how to create a life full of blissfull happiness, during one of the seemingly worst times of my life. However, my one requirement or agreement was that I would share it with others.

Therefore, I will always continue to share my inner thoughts on here. Some topics are funny others are not, but all will benefit us all.

Back to ‘Writing Zone’ today my thoughts drift off into money = ? Hmmm this is a deep thought and I am not sure where I am going with it, just yet. However, I am in the writing zone so it doesn’t really matter! I can let it flow. I am free, blissful and happy while in this private, yet by choice public, writing zone. I can write negatively about money, I can write how to get more of it? or How it can be both beneficial or detrimental. Or I can continue on how amazing my writing zone is!!!!!!

Did you just feel what I did in that last paragraph? I provided you with a limited amount of emotions to follow along as you read. Some of you, at this point, are frustrated with my bouncing from topic to topic. While others love it and follow in perfect harmony. However, it doesn’t matter which emotion/feeling you had, it was ‘real’ to you.

I know one thing for sure, whatever else I decide to write about, I will be in my ‘Happy Spot.’ My dear friend reminded me, “Once you find your sweet spot you will do anything to stay in it!”

The truth is she is one hundred percent correct. And if you are like me, you probably have several sweet spots or happy spots. When I am with Eric time stands still. It always has! I love being with other people in fact my favorite thing to do is travel around meeting new people. That is two examples of other ‘Happy Spots’ , I have in my life. Being with my children, all ย of my family, working on my business the list continues on and on. The trick to this being negative or positve, happy or sad, is up to YOU!

You are the ‘sweet spot.’ You are perfect the way you are! Can you improve your life? Yes,. Can you become successful or find your ‘Sweet Spot’ after all that has happened? It is too late? No, no, no switch your focus right now and your happiness journey will begin.

Hmmmm… Have I gone way off track? Yes, I am bouncing around like a bouncy ball. However, don’t forget this is my blog and the should, could, woulds do not exist, by choice!

Therefore, lets return to the conversation of, YOU are the ‘Sweet Spot!’

Because it is your choice how you feel. Let me explain this in a different manner…Based on your paradigm, your choice of thoughts and how you handle YOUR Circle of Influence which guess who that is? YOU, is your happy/sweet/joyful/loving/best for YOU Spot! No you can not dispute it. The truth is its up to you and how you feel towards, about or through anything in life.

Probably the most annoying question I have been asked since my accident has been; How did you make it through that crazy of a break? Not that it made me mad or anything like that, but sometimes I do want to respond with something crazy like, “After surgery, I looked at those doctors and I said ‘I meant to do that guys, it was just a test from the Angels, to see if I was ready for the life I always wanted.”

Then I jumped up and ran out of the hospital, grabbed Eric on my way out, was healed and I saw the light!!!!

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Come on!!!! I have earned my Expert titles through the school of hard knocks. I didn’t see the signs that say slow down, you are not going in the right direction. Therefore, my healing process was not easy to endure, but beneficial for my life as well as yours. But what oher choice did I have? I had plenty of choices, I just chose to feel better, improve and live for today.

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Next time, you are faced with a negative or difficult situation. Stop, breathe and feel the right or correct decision, that brings you closer to your life long dreams, coming true. I was hard headed and had to take the long way around, but you don’t have to. Find your happy spot or spots and go to them more and more. The more you visit, the sooner they will become your reality.

Be Happy

Find Your Happy Zone

Writing Zone

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Just in! HOT HOT HOT off the press…

Inspired writing at its best. I have had a hell of a week! And rather than boring you with the details I am want to tell you an inspired thought I just had! Maybe someone else needs this as well. Also I have an appointment in like 30 minutes and I don’t want to make Ms. Debbie keep waiting on me.

Inspired thougjt: With so many questions rolling through my head. Which way is best? Is it best for me or for them or for God or Jesus, or Buddha, or another religous organizations, the government, my kids….is it best for all races? Is it best for human kind or our nation? Please someone tell me? Answer the questions. Do I pray or not pray do I believe or not believe, encourage or discourage?

Don’t all of those questions overwhelm you? And have you benefitted from any of those questions? Nor have I and don’t I wish I could give you a solid answer. The truth is I can not give you any ‘answer’ at all!!!! I can only offer you an emotion a flow that is in sync with you and then hopefully if you want you can find your ‘path of least resiatance” (@abraham-hicks).

You see for over a year now (way before my accident) I began a quest, let’s say it was a spiritual yet deep quest! I have been asking people from all around the world three questions

1. If you were to be told you had six months to live from today what would you do?

2. After you die what happens? Describe and explain.

3. What is the meaning of Life and why?

Now I am not letting you in on the secrets to life, that I learned through this quest, just yet. Because if I didn’t get to ask some of you or other new friends because the time was not right, therefore my data is not clear.

However, hold on I must share one theory that has come out of this, but it is not my final answer!!! Okay?

What I meant to say just then was…there is no final answer! Nope not one. Your answers to these questions and mine, will be always changing and evolving. It may change from one minute to the next or you may create a habitual thought process you hold onto for life.

I can remember when I was ‘born again’ and so new and improved I became a bit better than others. I can remember blaming God for my woes and when I felt the lowest I could go I was on my knees until they were wearing holes in my jeans. Then came the next phase…the nothing syndrome. I believe in nothing, I think we are worth nothing, life is meaningless nothing! I must admit even the phases of studying ‘religious beliefs’ around the world this one I can’t deal with. Therefore, that’s the last of the nothingness. Because no matter what the emotional attachment to that entire concept makes me wonder why to life! Sooooo we have now had a peak into my inspired thought. My phone is dying and I am already late. (Poor Ms. Debbie, she is constantly wondering what am I going to do with Teena)

To be continued…

Livelove

God loves you no matter what!!!!!

I did it!!! I practiced what I preached!!!!ย 

I know how you feel!!! When you curl up to read my blog, sometimes the emotions are overwhelming!! Because our innate nature is to be happy!! Therefore, when we are attempting to find those ‘feel good’ emotions, yet we are continuing to tell the same old stories; we stop the feel good vibrations. The spectacular events that are right there, outside of our bubble, don’t disappear, but rather they stay suspended outside of you, until you are ready to accept and receive.

Here is my example. Picture this: I do Physical therapy and mental, spiritual, and emotional healing/therapy EVERYDAY, in the pool. However, last week I found myself alone, in the pool at our apartment. Yes, I should have been ecstatic!!! However, I cried and cried. (You see I love myself, but I love to be with people a great deal too). Anyways, do not focus on the sad! 

Living the life I lead today is amazing!!! Therefore, after last Thursday I decided to attend water aerobics at 930 this Thursday. I was so excited, I walked up and there were 5 women and two men over 65. Of course that didn’t bother me, but they were dying to know more!!! I could feel each of them watching me walk into the pool. One step then the next!! They all introduced themselves and ask questions. I felt extremely welcomed.

Ready? Here is the lesson or example…when they asked me about my life or why I was there, I said nothing about my leg. Ohhhh they wanted to know. (If they would have asked, I think I would have responded with, oh I was just privileged to have been given a second chance to live in a happy state, until my trip is over). I have no idea what I would have said, I can only tell you what happened. 

I described how wonderful my children, family, friends, river farm and of course my amazing husband are. I continued by telling them how grateful I was to have met each of them and politely excused myself. 

I could feel their eyes carefully watch as I crawled out of the swimming pool. I proudly walked off and smiled. As I approached the apartment, I began to laugh hysterically, to myself. I thought wow that was fun!!! 

Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t easy, at first. However, it has to be done. You see, everyone receives a great deal of attention if they have a story to tell, that others can sympathize or empathize with. But in return you will receive more of that energy. Start telling your good feeling story. It’s not lieing, it’s just changing focus. Becuase everyone has a good story and a bad story. 

Even the lowest you can get if you begin right now, wandering thru the place you are and saying I am grateful for and keep saying it over and over. If you are homeless even then, you can begin to change your life. Try it. Practice it! I am grateful for YOU! READING THIS MESSAGE!

How do you introduce yourself? Hello I am ______. They respond with oh what do you do? Instead of telling them where you work (which doesn’t define you) say I live life to be happy. Then ask would you like to come along this journey? If they choose yes then hurray if not oh well life is good anyways! 

Livelove

You are loved and worthy! 

More Determined than EVER!!!!

Today we say goodbye to our sweet God son Matt Reed. Although my heart is hurting for our loss, it hurts even more that I couldn’t help. Suicide is a difficult act to understand, what were they thinking, how could I have helped, was I not paying attention? The questions race through everyone’s minds when this kind of tragedy occurs.

For me, losing Matt in this fashion creates even more determination. I am determined to provide anyone who wants to live a life full of happiness, laughter, love and understanding, I will share all I know and learn.  

My promise to you is to provide you with the proper tools to create a journey filled with whatever you choose. Yes, all of us have tragedy, sadness, negative energy, or incidents beyond our control. However, YOU decide how you live life. Begin today!!!

Each time you feel terrific today write it down. Not necessarily in sentence form. Title it feel good or happy moments, then write them down as they occur. For example: 

MY HAPPY PLACES: 

  • Camping
  • Listening to oldies music on river with loved ones
  • Salon
  • Driving
  • Making love
  • My front porch
  • Writing

As you can see the list is to help you be aware of the ‘happy’ people, places, or events. These do not stop all negativity, but they definitely detour those events. 

If I were to line all the people I know or who I am associated with, who committed suicide, I know without a doubt each one would say, “I wish I could take it back. I didn’t mean to hurt the ones I love!!! I simply did not see any alternative.” 

You see anyone who chooses to take their own life was not thinking how will or do my loved ones feel. Many entitle it selfish, but I can’t. Instead, I choose to use misinformed. Not enough information on who, what, when, where, why, and how to seek, find and enjoy their own happiness!!! 

Life is meant to live!!! Why not choose to enjoy the journey? Will every moment be perfect? No! However, keep allowing, visualizing, accomplishing, setting goals and focus on feeling TERRIFIC!!! As long as you create a habitual way of living in the vibration of ‘being happy’ you will always stop, think, feel the bad feeling then quickly switch your emotions to a better vibration. It can be as quick as a snap of your fingers. Each time I feel down and out I quickly find a pen and paper. Writing is my quick way to change emotions. You will find yours! 

Take time out of your busy schedule today to pause…pause for suicide victims, pause for the loved ones who have lost someone to suicide. Next find a happy thought for you and share it with the world! Post it, photograph it whatever it takes find the feel good vibration. You can actually help all who have been affected by this empty feeling by teaching others there is an easier way and it is much more fun. Teach yourself and loved ones how to find their own happiness, share what you have learned.

Sadly, I can’t bring back the ones we have already lost! However, I am determined to teach others how to carry on. You can help!!! Glorify your loved ones who have taken their own lives by helping others to make a happier choice!!! 

; until we meet again Matthew Reed I will continue to pray, smile and share the knowledge of enjoying life. God Bless You!!!

Carry On and Have Fun!!! 

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