Your children conform to your expectations! As I spend hour after hour working with children of all walks of life and across the globe, I have learned, probably the MOST IMPORTANT, parenting skill…that ALL PARENTS NEED TO KNOW!
Are you ready for this?
The words that come out of your mouth as a parent, form and transform YOUR CHILDREN!
I realize this seems obvious and simplistic, especially when discussing as complex of a role as, PARENTING!However, my research is complete and it is 100 percent true!
Scenario 1: I had not met this young man before. His father & my honey have worked together for many years, since the boy was 2 yrs. old.
But all I ever heard was how much he bragged on his baby boy. All throughout the years I would here how ‘good’ he was. How talented, amazing and terrific.
Never once did I hear or even imagine… he had any disabilities OR was abandoned by his mother…who actually told him once, “The drugs are better than being a mommy to you!” (This was told to me as an example of the positivity, one parent, can utilize and redirect their child’s life).
Thirteen years later, I had the privilege to meet Nikolas, for the first time. You, as the reader of this post, now know as much as I knew about Nik, until this past summer.
As the gangly, long hair (Peter Frampton style), sweet, soft spoken and might I add, DYNAMIC, young man approached the swimming pool deck he introduced himself.
At that moment my mom & I were ecstatic to meet him. We did the regular introductions and he began a conversation about swimming. Nothing out of the ordinary.
Then I mentioned (off handed) I am so excited to finally meet the awesome Nikolas, I have heard about for so long.
He replied with, “Thank you! Everywhere we go someone tells me how my dad brags on me. He is one amazing dad!”
He has lived in several states and told us of all the people he had met. And yes they all told him the same thing.
Let me ask you something? If someone were to repeat what or how you describe your kids…what would they say? How would they describe/repeat YOUR WORDS?
I knew this young man had some difficult challenges throughout his life, but I promise his dad had genuinely talked his son up soooo much that those possible ‘issues’ didn’t even appear.
I never even questioned his learning difficulties nor thought of them. I only included the two known hurdles that this young man had, to demonstrate how influential his dad’s description was…EVEN WHEN THEY WERE SEPERATED for work.
You see…we already know our downfalls, even as children. So why not illuminate the good in our children & ourselves? And watch the GOODNESS shine?
Parents! Perfection is impossible. Even in you!
Begin at this very moment to write all the GOOD about your child. Leave out the other and watch the GOODNESS GROW LIKE A BOUNTIFUL GARDEN!
This works with adult children as well! It almost seems as though by highlighting their terrific qualities the irritating ones disappear. Same with yourself!
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Everyone has down times, our mission is to ensure you know that no matter what…This Too Shall Pass & We urge you to…
Have you ever thought about shooting a bow & arrow? What does it take? Is it simple, can anyone pick it up and directly hit the bullseye? Maybe, 1 in 1,000,000!
The fact is launching an arrow from the bow, is a learned skill set within itself. Not to mention hitting a bullseye!
During the wee hours of the morning, I tossed and turned, as I observed myself and several others learning to shoot a bow and arrow. The unknown instructor would explain, demonstrate and repeat over and over again. Next, we would follow his every move until…LAUNCH!
Many arrows fell directly at our feet, some would wildly shoot into the darkness. Those of us that struggled over and over again would become frustrated and aggitated to the point of giving up!
Then it happened! Our instructor said, “Lay down your bows. Close your eyes. Listen to my words”…as they explained step by step just the same as before, they would pause after each instruction, to allow us to visualize the actions needed to be successful.
The last instruction was, “Pick up your bow, place your fingers in the correct position, pull back and launch…feel the arrow as it soars through the air and plunges directly in the middle, BULLSEYE!!!!
Do you celebrate the small accomplishments or are you constantly desiring more?
Begin to allow yourself to celebrate. Feel the sense of accomplishment! What would your action be?
Would you thrust your arms into the air to send a vibration of YES, HOORAY, HIP-HIP-HOORAY? Feel the emotions that accompany your moment of success!”
As each person in my dream picked up their bow and arrow, they seemed to become illuminated. Along with the target. The darkness filled the empty spaces. Step, by step…each person practiced feeling their way to a bullseye! Some cheered as success filled their being with tingly emotions of ACCOMPLISHMENT.
Yet, others never hit the bullseye. However, something was different this time around. Those who didn’t hit the bullseye weren’t upset…Instead, they were uplifted and full of determination. In other words they had been given a second and third chance.
What about you? Have you taken time to visualize ‘how you want to feel’ after you have accomplished the ultimate bullseye?
Have you learned of what your true desires are? Sometimes we are attracting nothing or living based on a default program called auto-pilot. Do this at 9, be here at 10, ballgames until 8, supper, bed, sleep, repeat.
It takes only a moment to visualize. Yet, it takes some of us a lifetime to understand how similar life is to archery.
1. Archery: You need a skilled educator to teach you and guide you.
Life: Loved ones, mentors, friends
2. Observe, gather, and learn.
Life: from the day you are born you are observing, gathering ideas, beliefs and developing the skills set you need to survive.
3. Visualize, feel the celebratory outcome and cheer!
Life: How many accomplishments have you made, that you have shuffled under the carpet? Instead of illuminating your own experiences and talents.
4. Do it! Pick it up and launch the arrow!
Life: Are your launched arrows dropping at your feet? Due to failure to see the end feeling or for lack of launching at all?
You will hit many more bullseyes the more arrows you launch. But if you do not allow yourself to know what your target is, your arrows will either fall at your feet with a dud. Or launch into the darkness never to reappear.
Take the time to know at least what you most desire right now and begin to take the necessary steps to learn how to ‘launch’ you arrow. Before long you will hit a bullseye like it is second nature because you ‘know’ where it is going and how to ensure it makes it SMACK DAB in the middle!!!! BULLSEYE!!!
Hello there! I am super happy to share with you.
Come along and follow me! I may be able to help you attract the life you have always desired!
Or you may have something to assist me in HITTING MY BULLSEYE.
So come follow me as we take this MILLIONAIRE by law of attraction journey! Who knows this could be FUN!
Okay, if you do not know me, let me reassure you this journey is gonna be the time of your life! So please come share with me!!!! Come cocreate, coexist and persist to be happy 99% of the time.
I love to travel, meet new people, and experience other cultures. One of the main reasons is to look at the wide variety of perspectives and how they make me feel.
Let me see if I can illuminate this topic with different ‘perspectives’.
Oh how I love California! The ocean views, beautiful hiking, fabulous people, it is truly the land of opportunity! Movie stars, Millionaires, Beverly Hills, Shopping, and diversity beyond belief!
Oh how I hate California! Poverty, traffic, heroine alleys, gangs, fires, mud slides, and earthquakes.
Both Perspectives are completely true. No one can deny you can find each item on my list in California.
It is about your perspective and how you see it. Yes, life has some hand in what your perspective is.
For example, there was a young boy in North Carolina (on @Wave 3 News last night) who was selling Lemonade on the corner. His lemonade stand was robbed and he was held at gun point to give all of his, under twenty dollars, over to this man!
Omg, the first thing that went through my mind was how this poor boy felt. He is probably going to be scared to death to ever sell anything again. I mean he might have been ten years old…this is terrible! I feel so bad!!!
Then the rest of the story was released…Lowe’s in his town heard of this terrible robbery and ask the boy what he was selling ‘Organic Lemonade’ for. When he explained he was raising money to purchase a riding lawn mower, they gave him one!!!
I am not sure of the details if you want to read more look it up on Wave 3 News August 6th.
But what a lesson for everyone! That young boy has been given an entirely different perspective.
Life gave him lemons, he tried making lemonade, life created turpin tine, to give him a life line.
I mean yes we have much to celebrate! As for this young boy receiving a gift, but what about another perspective…he also received a terrific most valuable gift…his life!
What didn’t stop that criminal from robbing a young boys lemonade stand, did stop him from taking the boys life. Somewhere in that ‘bad’ person there is Good.
I know there will always be bad things that happen. I also realize just tilting your head slightly to the right or left, may not be able to ‘fix’ all the wrongs in the world today.
However, I do know that there is One Universal Goal that we ALL SHARE! What might that be? To Better…to better your life, abundance, emotions, life, legacy, spiritual connection the world. It doesn’t matter what you do or have done…us as humans are all in this together. To create a betterment for each other and generations to come.
Sometimes achieving the betterment goal, is by simply adjusting your focus.
Guess what adjusting your perspective automatically resets your focus. Which in turn creates one giant step towards YOU FEELING BETTER! Yippee!! That makes me feel happy and fancy free!
Take time to Pause today to glance at what your perspective is. Do you see all angles? Now decide which feels better and choose that perspective.
I promise if I focused on all the bad that I have had, I can’t imagine where I would have ever found my good friend, Glad!
I wish for you to see the good in everything around you! The cup is half full or half empty, if it has anything in at all. You get to choose your own Perspective!
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Our mission: To Change the World with One Happy Thought at a Time!
Our Vision: Educating the World…
Because Living with every breath you breathe. Loving with your entire soul and recognizing that life will throw you some lemons and it’s your perspective which will assist you in Carrying On…is the way to accomplish the Universal Goal to be better!
It has come to my attention that enrollment has dropped which equals a reduction in funding. Some people are upset about this financial decision. First let me say, I am so sorry our beautiful community is having some struggles with a decline in population. However, to answer those questions posted on Facebook about why? why? why? The issue at hand must first be addressed.
Please take a look at this situation with a different perspective. Instead of pointing fingers at leaders and/or elected officials. Ask yourself, do you truly believe that the heart and spirit of this community can be destroyed by one small group of people? Your board of education do not have ill intentions. They are simply reacting to the circumstances.
What about you? What is your community vision? How do you want to see Trimble County in twenty years? Have you sat down and thought about it?
Over the past year, I have had the privilege to experience yet another beautiful place, Kansas City. However, my heart will always be deep-rooted in that little piece of heaven. No, I haven’t always felt or realized how precious my home is, but I do now!
Therefore, I ask of you to be the light. Be the solution. Create a vision of how you want to see Trimble County School District. What could our leaders and board of education ‘do’ to assist in the building up of our schools? Rather than pointing out the obvious, lower enrollment – money= one less position. Begin today to think and create.
Create a school you would be proud of! Create a vision of our community in twenty years. Will we continue to exist? That’s up to you.
I remember being on the board of education and listening to the complaints of this parent or that citizen. My thoughts were always, “How would you ‘fix’ this problem?”
Take a moment to try this simple activity…
Look at something you have been complaining about…
Now visualize what the other person or organization could do to help the image in your head look and feel better.
Trimble County you may be small. You may be frustrated at this time. But I promise you have POTENTIAL!
It will take all of us to illuminate the wonderful qualities of our piece of heaven. Please, begin today to create a beautiful vision and begin to share it with others. Before long these issues will be a thing of the past.
I must admit around 7:00 A.M. this morning I was being quite a brat! Complaining about the ‘lack’ of money to do some things I want to do. Then my flight arrangements became more hassle than it was worth. The low budget airplane company wouldn’t let me cancel my flight even with trip insurance, I bought from them! I was on a rampage! I was about to lose money and that makes me mad! I proceeded to my ‘complimentary’ breakfast in our hotel and continued to express my bitchy attitude with one of my favorite servers.
She was just as upset as me, that I was losing two hundred dollars! She said, “I would fight that girl. You know that is wrong!!!”
I shook my head in agreement and as I began to add the gooshy details to my sob story, a lady asked her for some more muffins. I bit a piece of bacon off and with a half-full mouth, nodded my head, and mouthed, “I will talk to you later.”
The outside eating area was a bit chilly so I nestled in a corner seat, with a big cushion to prop behind my lumbar. As I ate my delightful breakfast full of all the ‘fixins’ I glanced up at the television to see what Trump or some other politician had to say today. I read 8 DEAD, School Shooting…again and again, it scrolled across the bottom of the screen. There were people all around me talking and laughing, some were even telling, what they were reading on the television, out loud to someone on a cell phone!
The room began to spin. Was I having a sugar attack? Was I being silly? My next emotion overwhelmed me as one tear fell on my plate, another, and then yet another. Within minutes it seemed to be a flood of tears. Drip, Drip, Drop, Drop, they bounced off my plate.
I know it is wrong to judge others, but as I sobbed and sobbed, for a fleeting moment, I wondered why I was the only one who was sobbing over the report of Eight Dead, School Shooting. But in reality, this has become American’s reality. Are we becoming cold to the Headlines? It would be simple to do…as much negativity is reported on a daily basis.
I rapidly began to read the sub-titles to ensure they had captured the shooter. No report! Come on at least let us know it is stopped. Still nothing!
It didn’t matter anyway…we lost 8 more and at least 1 shooter which makes it nine too many. Where do we go from here? People around the world, citizens of the U.S. all citizens…Where do we go from here? We must find a way to begin focusing on the good in others and ourselves. Why can’t you be celebrated for your goodness? We all have it, we just don’t all recognize it.
My heart hurts for the entire student body, faculty, and families who have had to endure such a terrible tragedy. Please know that my mission is to spread the awesome possibilities of mental healthy vs. mental filthy.
I am unsure of the entire big picture of how I or my company can accomplish what we have set forth before us. However, each time I feel like giving up, throwing in the towel, and getting what others say is a ‘real’ job…something drastic such as this happens.
AND at that very MOMENT…I am reminded! Why I started this company, what were my thoughts and visions? What was at least 1 end in mind that I might have had?
Oh yeah! LiveLove LLC plans to “Change the World, with ONE HAPPY THOUGHT at a TIME!”
How? Hmmmm posting more blogs to make you think? Publish a book will be out soon, Professionally Motivational Speak at events, Life ‘Happy’ Coaching, and tell everyone I meet, “You deserve to be happy!”
If you do nothing else to assist us in our mission do me one favor…find a child of any age and tell him or her something good you see in them. Anything!
If you are a parent struggling with an out of control child…listen to your vocabulary. Have you said anything nice to this child who continues to cause you grief? Or are your words always referring back to the many yesterdays of negative emotions he or she created? If you are so hurt that you find yourself going back down the dirt road of despair…pause and appreciate that you still have your child to be frustrated with. Recognize how much you do appreciate and admire about them and tell them.
Please, we all need each other. We need to know that taking someone else’s life isn’t going to make them feel better. Nor is hurting someone else. We must educate our youth how precious they each mean to our future. How important their opinion, creative ideas, and sense of improvement is to our future societies?
“I beg of our country to stop this nonsense and begin to focus on the good in all people. The world is your mirror your life is its reflection. It is up to you and me to do WHATEVER it takes to educate our world, ‘life is meant to be lived as Happy as Can BE’!”
My theory is if I am happy, you, you, you, and EVEN YOU…are happy we have a bright little corner when we stand together. Then you add ten more happy ones with your infectious HAPPY thoughts then we now have forty or more Happies…standing together. Can you see how illuminated this becomes?
Come Along with me on the Happy Trail! Tell ONE Person today a happy thought. Then try it again but add two more tomorrow. It becomes fun and before long our silly issues like…our son not continuing with college or our daughter didn’t get the highest honorary award. Or your teenager gets pregnant, fails a class, is disrespectful whatever may be going on today will not feel as painful tomorrow.
We are sending you great love! All of you! To our Texas friends, we are sending the greatest love filled with as many happy thoughts as we can find. Through our struggles we find determination…Teena Drake.
God Bless Each of You!
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Keep, it, simple, silly! What? Yes, keep your life simple.
At this very moment I deleted an entire blog posting, explaining K.I.S.S. and how important it is. Then I realized you don’t have time to read all my lengthy explainations! Therefore…I am going to show you how to K.I.S.S. you life!
Scenario: You are experiencing sadness, a loss, a focus on what is. Basically, life to you, at this moment FEELS UGH! Whatever the circumstances are, you just can’t quit thinking about all the crud, going on right at this time.
Change your thoughts!
Thank you, We are done here!
Okay, I am joking. I realize how difficult life can seem, at times. I also realize it doesn’t work to continuously think about the ‘it’ you are concerned about.
(Definition of the IT- lover, kids, step-children, ex-partner, cars, jobs. In adult worlds the three hot topics are MONEY, WEIGHT or Body appearance, and LOVE. A Kid’s world is similar, but they seem to change their perspective, much quicker)
How then do we fight this feeling of depression, sadness and/or Ughness?
Without doing anything else…
Right at this moment…
Think of TEN of the silliest words, nonrelated to your It, and be as crazy and random as you want! Have FUN!!!!!
Let’s try this together…
You begin to tell me all your ‘stuff’ or how frustrated, sad, irritated, lonely, depressed, broke, unhappy or however else you feel.
Bubble Butt, pink poop, grasshopper slime, slurpy, hairy balloons (hahahah you thought I would say b_lls), frolicking, freaky, green burps, blurple!
Example:You as of this moment, “I cried all night because he said… (I am abruptly intterupting, hypothetically)
“Pink Poop!” (Pause) You giggle…
You, “I just can’t believe someone would do this to me…”
Come on you are LAUGHING! Admit it!
Go ahead… Read or say the list out loud. Yes, out loud! Yes, while discussing all your crud or your IT! Do IT.
After you have stopped laughing. Do you feel better? Did your problem go away? NO, but it will. Because we know, “This too shall pass.”
It may seem to simple, but if you were to truly step back and analyze your life from this age and back, do you remember the difficult times? Of course you do. Do you remember feeling like you would NEVER GET THROUGH THIS? Of course you do! But you did!
You made it, You aren’t sure how, but you DID IT. Now reflect back…did worrying, crying and feeling UGH for a long period of time assist you in any way? Of course it didn’t. It only caused you more harm and you probably became sick, if you prolonged the worrying!
I realize LIFE can be tough at times. However, I have learned the more you K.I.S.S It the much easier, even the tough times, can be!
You are LOVED!
Need a little extra help, but not sure you need a psych evaluation?
Or is it your child? Who needs a little extra help or tutoring?
Whatever your circumstances are we can help!
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Both of my granddogs are featured here to remind us to enjoy the simple pleasures of life…Mmmmmm sure does smell good!
When you go to the closet and pick up a pair of pants, that do not fit any longer, do you continue to wear them? If you do attempt to ‘make do’ does it become disastrous?
At one time, I worried about being too fat, not good enough and was terribly unsatisfied with the way my clothes fit. I decided to become dedicated to the cause. I worked out and felt terrific. I reached my goals and felt pretty good about myself.
However, I had this one pair of pants! They were my favorite pair. Black silky material, elastic waist, balloon pant legs which created an illusion, I was wearing a long evening gown, but they were functional. I would tell the kids they were my ‘Fancy Pants.’ I truly did love this pair of pants.
Therefore I continued to wear them. Who cared, if they were five sizes too big. No one else knew, just me. As I daydream back to the day I remember my honey bunny saying, “When are you going to get rid of those pants?! They are hanging off of you and if you aren’t careful they will fall down in front of your class!”
What did he know about fashion? I didn’t pay any attention to his nonsense. I arrived at work early and whistled as I walked into the front door. “Good Morning, Ms. Connie,” I cheerfully said as I scooted past her office, in my flowy pants.
The day went wonderful. All of my lessons were going as planned and life couldn’t be better. My planning time came and it was time for lunch. As I nonchalantly danced by the office I heard a deep, male voice call out my name, “Mrs. Drake?”
I jumped a bit and then I heard, “We need your help in the office.”
As much as I wanted to play sick and run back to my classroom, I didn’t. I never wanted to upset Ms. Connie, she is the best.
Turns out she had left due to a family emergency and I was the only ‘warm body’ who could fill in, at least until after my planning period. Which might I add, it was always a short planning time, until today! This day seemed like forty-five minutes was forty-five days.
Of course I quickly found myself sitting in ‘THE CHAIR’ the one where all the phone calls come in, the parents, grandparents, step parents, sick kids, medicated students, vomiting teachers, and last but not freaking least the INTERCOM SYSTEM! I may seem a bit dramatic, but the office manager, in my opinion, has the most difficult job of any in the school system.
The first parent arrived within five minutes of me sitting down. She said in a meek little voice and shaky hands, “Yes, my daughter is in 6th grade and she left her book bag at home. Soooo I wanted to bring it to her…”
I quickly interrupted in a flustered voice, “What? Who did you say? You are going to have to speak up and what class is she in?”
Oh for goodness sakes that one took me fifteen minutes. Including that ordeal, I had four teachers, one cafeteria assistant calling me and the outside calls, were rolling over to an email, faster than I could answer.
It was my last five minutes and a dad buzzes at the door. I let him in, he requested to pick up his son in 6th grade. Most organized human I had dealt with in the past forty minutes. He knew which class at the correct time and spoke up. Pleased with my survival skills through the past few events…I smile really big and I politely say, “Thank you for being so organized and I will call your son up at this time.” (I almost sounded like a robot).
I call the classroom, no he is not in there. Hmmm maybe this dad made a mistake. This continues on for a couple of times. I am now using the intercom and telephone when he yells out, “OH I am so sorry, I forgot he is in seventh grade, he is in math!”
He yelled so loud I fell back into the roller chair, that I had been attempting to spin back and forth in, to accomplish more, in a shorter amount of time. When I fell I zoomed backwards towards Ms. Connie’s desk and quickly spun around, placing my elbows on the desk and hands under my chin. “I am sorry, I didn’t quite catch that?”
He repeated it in a much calmer and embarrassed voice, “My son is in the seventh grade, I am so sorry…”
As he continued to apologize I had become a little smirky and to be blunt I was ticked off. I spun around to turn my back to this man, whom I was upset with. Placed both feet firmly on the ground…pushed my behind up using both hands and my body.
AND…as fast as I stood up, my pants came plummeting down. Yes, down to my knees! My bare behind was there for this man and whoever else wanted to see! I quickly plopped back down, as I gasped for air! Not only were they down, the bottom of my right pant leg was tightly wound around the wheel. I wasn’t going anywhere.
I remember I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry and the man, he turned around and walked out in the hall. Probably to laugh so hard he had to pee his pants! Mr. Genton heard me laughing hysterically, as I grabbed my stomach and bent over to attempt and free my pants leg! Of course he helped the father find his son and all he could say between his tears of hysterical laughing, was, “Why do you wear pants that are clearly to big?”
I hope you are now laughing too! This is absolutely a true story. I guess now most of you know why, when someone suggests me working in an office, I laugh and politely decline.
You see, not only were my pants too big, but I was attempting to fill even greater shoes.
Are you doing the same thing in life? Are you continuing to wear the old YOU, who doesn’t fit anymore? It isn’t about the size, it’s about the fit. Isn’t it time you find your own shoes to fill? And if you are hanging on to those old clothes, ask yourself, “Do I want to return to this person or am I okay with brand new and a better fit?”
If the world is continually rotating that means there is never a stagnant moment. Meaning CHANGE is inevitable.
Sometimes we hold ourselves to ‘way back then’ so long, we forget to experience the now and forever more. When you fit in your own skin, life feels pretty TERRIFIC!
God Loves YOU NO MATTER WHAT!
I am so excited about this great adventure. I would love for you to come along and see all the beautiful stops we are making along the way! If you need a little umf in your life e-mail me at Livelove.email@example.com
A New Service for you: Angel Card Readings they are fun and always enlightening. Of course we continue to offer workshops and Happy Coaching.
The most important part of our business is assisting you in finding your happiness!
Here it goes, Lights, Camera and Action! Livelove’s YouTube channel is about to go Crazy! I get so excited every time I think about it. However, I have a few issues, that I could honestly, use your help with. As a new on-line business, with a mission, that contains a great deal of LOVE, for YOU…I am struggling with a few decisions. Therefore, I wondered if you would like to be a part of the ‘decision’ making process. If so, continue to read and participate, if not we will catch you later (you might want to skip over reading the rest of this one). If you already know about Livelove and are interested in having an input, as our family (business) grows and brands themselves, then skip down to number five.
We have the business registered and services in place.
Trademark for Freddy the Pink Flamingo, is all completed (those of you who helped choose him, Thank you).
Slogan is being registered as we speak.
Services: One on one coaching, professional motivational workshops, for those companies who need extra help with company moral and team work. A new e-book and audible book with the Happy Curriculum embedded into the series, to allow you to learn and enjoy, at your own pace, is almost completed. Educational Seminar for school districts to educate the children, on choosing life/living, rather than suicide. Some exciting new items will be available shortly :).
So what am I missing? Your input on all of this! To be exact…
Where would you like to attend a ‘How to’ ‘Be Happy’ seminar/workshop? Is there a preferable location for example? Would you sign up to attend a Livelove seminar in Kauai, Outer Banks North Carolina, Los Angeles? Texas? Or Kansas City? Or in another country? Maybe Italy? or Mexico? You tell me, list it in the comments on Facebook, WordPress, messenger or email us… Livelove.firstname.lastname@example.org I want to know where you would like for our event planning specialist to begin focusing?
Last but not least…Do you like our newest member to Livelove LLC? The only problem is she is nameless, for now. Therefore, I did a mini photo shoot for you! She will be creating educational videos for our ‘kiddos’ who are watching Livelove!
What should her name be? I have Momma Teena, Pinky, Pinkalicious (this one scares me a bit, sounds a little umm, IDK), or my middle name is Gay after my aunt, I could use her name which means ‘happy’. Or, you provide suggestions.
Do you like the pink hair? For educational videos?
Glasses? or no glasses?
Type of outfit she should have made? (If you didn’t know Physical Fit Flower the Clown was me, but I had to move away from being a white face clown, too many horror films 🙁 .
How long of videos do you prefer? Five minutes, fifteen or twenty-five…we realize when guest are on the show, they may be over twenty-five, but regularly? (Educational Videos, songs, how to’s, interesting journeys, and much more)
Do you think we should post once a day, week bi-weekly or monthly?
Anything else you can think of or suggest for us to help you, let us know!
Livelove is super excited to share with you in 2018! Looking forward to meeting you in person! I will announce her name as soon as we know the final decision.
As I was talking to Eric about my post about legacies, he began asking me about my own. It was a short lived conversation because he really does know what I want people to remember, lol. Why? because when I am practicing a speech or workshop I constantly stop and ask him to, “Repeat back to me what he heard.”
Only to ensure I am sending the message that is directed in the right way!
So he quickly diverts my attention by telling me about something funny or a great comedian he heard on Sirus. Today was Ms. Pat! He began chuckling then began laughing as he was telling me about her description of Mammograms! He was laughing so hard and then he said it! He said, “Teena, I thought of you and your ‘funny’ story about mammograms. I couldn’t quit laughing!”
First of all, if you have been reading my blog for very long, you know that my husband, best friend and better half does not think I am funny! Lol we tease about it all the time. So there is the first YAY for me!
Second, MAMMOGRAM! Oh my goodness! Are you ready to laugh?? If you don’t have time to relax and read this, STOP, and come back to it later because you will probably get a terrific laugh out of this story!!!
I remember the day like it was today I had just returned home from the doctor. It was a simple Biometric testing so no worries, I thought!
My doctor asked how old are you? I told her. She said, “When was your last mammogram?”
I stopped and said, “Duh, never!”
I thought she was not going to let me come home without scheduling and that day! I finally convinced her I would, just so I could go home 😉.
Of course I am not a good liar and she knows that, so I had a scheduled appointment before I left.
As the day approached I think I called that gigantic, overwhelming office building three times. Oh no big deal! I thought I might have the flu, the next call I wanted to ensure I was on the schedule and who was that doctor again, my final call is I needed the address. (As I laugh to myself while writing my thoughts and fears from the past). I know that if I had so much as broken a finger nail, I would go back to bed and cancel!
I did not cancel and I was proud of myself. (I know this admits that I am a huge baby, but you must know I didn’t even take my mommy and I always take my mommy to the doctor with me, always, even after 40!) I drove directly to the beautifully adorned hospital with its gorgeous chandelier that does nothing except make my premiums go up, and… (pause, inhale/exhale) went up three floors, opened the door to the correct number (hold your breath for just a second so when you laugh you will be able to catch your breath) I had entered a male enhancement office. No! No one reads the sign on the door!!!! The lady looked at me a bit funny, but I guess this kind of thing happens all the time, right? I continue on, to sign in. My delicate signature that is swoopy, curved and yet big enough to be bold, Teena Drake,
The secretary had disappeared, so I sat down! I remember thinking it must be guys days to get mammograms! They must need to be checked regularly, right? (I truly don’t know anything about men receiving them or not). A few minutes passed, maybe more like fifteen or twenty! The lady calls my name up to the window and I promptly jump up with insurance card in hand, slide it through the window and she leans back as though I had cooties or something, snootily pushed the card back towards me and says, “Where are you suppose to be?”
Still confused I reply with, “What do you mean? I am here for a Mammogram and I am wondering how long this is going to take?”
She says Ms. Drake, with a southern draw, you are in a male enhancement clinic. That’s why I am asking you where you are suppose to be!”
At that moment I stopped and was as still as a statue! Don’t turn around, Teena, just say thank you, step backwards keep walking towards the door! I kept thinking, how am I going to get out of here, without looking at these men. I am surely not judging, at all. I have heard some stories that would say go baby go! However, this is entirely a different story!
Okay, maybe I should turn around say real loud and very Clown like, “You guys ROCK!!! NO LIKE REALLY YOU ROCK!!!!
Nope because truly I have no idea what I am talking about. I turned on my heals, politely bowed my head thanked her (for nothing) and exited the building.
Needless to say I missed my mammogram, had to reschedule and will include that story in my next segment of Mammogram??
Actually I should have entitled this entire post Fake News!!!
However, then you might not have read it and I wouldn’t have had this teachable moment!!!!!
Please continue to read, hold your attention five more minutes! This is important!!!!!!
If you enjoyed this reading and you laughed then my mission was accomplished!!!
However, my next mission is to assist you in life! As a teacher I must explain why this next message is super important to millennials, adults, students it doesn’t matter who you are!!!!
The majority of the last story I wrote was fiction. No I am not giving you an English project, but rather an important life lesson!!!!!!
You see when I was a child and searched for something to read it was in a library, where everything was clear and definite! Fiction/children/nonfiction/news/documentaries! The rows were marked, the books were genre labeled, there were no muddy waters or lines to cross.
Then I heard someone recently, in the grocery store, “Are you sure, I think I read on Facebook…”
The rest of the conversation was not worth repeating. However, the statement reminded me of the multiple research papers I had scored, that were filled with ‘fake news.’ Yet, those students would stand behind their research no matter what! Others would look at me puzzled as to why I would question Google!
Your message is, when fact checking, do it again and again and maybe even again. Also if you are fact checking someone said or did something to you, call them and ask. Because it’s merely fiction or gossip unless you hear it for yourself!
In such a fast paced world with all information, thoughts, and advertising swarming us, twenty four- seven, it becomes difficult to decipher facts from fiction. In all cases check and check again before you speak!
Don’t forget Dec. 8th is upcoming! It’s open to the public, begins at 7!
Educators, please use my writings and or several others, for examples of ‘unmarked’ genres. Even if they have a PhD, check your facts about his or ger credibility. (Not necessarily this one unless you enjoy answering questions about male enhancements). But have them follow my blog or you and allow the students to edify my writings.
Thank you for reading as always I cherish you for supporting me! My main mission is to share with you my life lessons, to allow you to enhance your own life, by being the happiest, best YOU!
Good Morning!! This is my favorite day of the week!! Yes, believe it or not Monday mornings are my favorites, actually the entire day is!!! Isn’t that funny? I wish I could explain, one thing is for sure…it’s my FAVORITE DAY! As I was plugging in to my morning a Teena moment came to me! What if your paradigm or past was obsolete? Suddenly, out of no where…no one knew you and you had no recollection of anyone? What would you do differently?
Let me tell you about a little boy who challenged me everyday, yet said to me one day, “Do you know why I love you Mrs. Drake? Because you always accept me as a new me, the next morning.”
What???!!!! I think he must be talking about another teacher. Because everyday I prayed he would be a new him in the morning. And you can’t imagine how many days I thought, “I love you, but I don’t know if I can make it another day!”
I don’t care who you are, we all have people in our lives like this. Whether it be a student in your classroom or a Co worker, it doesn’t matter who they are it’s who or what you know about them.
After this thought about, your past being erased, I thought of that little boy, who believed in me because he felt like I believed in him! And I did!!!
This thought took me on a fun journey of emotions. Because I now know why that little boy said that!
I had him in 3rd grade and five years later I had him in 8th grade. Before 3rd grade began, I was handed 18 files to read and learn about my students. Their strengths, weaknesses and behavior issues. I read one!!!! (Which coincidentally he transferred out and I never had him). I closed the first folder and quietly walked to the office with all files in arms. I remember the look on our secretaries face (who I adore) when I said, “Can I have a copy of their medical files only? And any IEP’s?”
You know she wanted to say, “Are you stupid? You are holding them.”
However, I think the color still fading from my face and the weakness in my knees, explained it all!”
When I explained how I couldn’t educate effectively if I knew all the other opinions and data from their past. She was speechless. But it never did work with me!!!! My feelings were a great deal can change in one summer. There are so many factors that play into a person/students learning abilities, maturity, behavior ect… Yes this carries on with good or bad signals.
For example: That little boy was a day by day case, EVERYDAY. However, the first three weeks of school, I never knew this child had any trouble at all. He read at a 5th or higher grade level, he was loving, kind and amazing. (And still is to this day).
Then one day he didn’t come to school, then another. When he did return it was like a switch had turned on. His peers were constantly irritated with him, he would poke them, write on their papers…I mean I was in a state of grrrr!
What did I do? Funny thing is I didn’t realize it then, but now I see I did what came natural. I went with what I knew. I had built my own perspective of this child. Therefore, his paradigm to me was an intelligent, sweet, funny and kind child. I knew nothing about his past teachers opinions, his home life or his, let’s call it persistent personality, to ensure his life was as he wanted it. His paradigm was wiped clean as for me. That is why we had the discussion, EVERYDAY, “Tomorrow is a new day! You, my intelligent, well behaved, studious young man will begin again and tomorrow will be even better!”
Yes, we had that same conversation hundreds or maybe even thousands of times from 3rd grade, then 6th through 8th!
Did I change him? Nooo I do know I loved him, as a student. I do believe I helped him see a better him. And if you knew his real life paradigm, you like me, would be tempted to provide him with excuses. However, how would that help him? Or me or anyone else who might struggle with his quirky, nontraditional ways.
Ask yourself, “If my paradigm was wiped clean right now (and I was healthy bla bla bla), what would I want my new one to be?”
It is not to scare you, but just think…if you didn’t worry about the past, if no one had something to hold against you from 30 years ago (yes, people still claim to know someone even if they haven’t spoken to them in 30 years, that’s crazy to me). Not that you live your life based on other people’s opinions, just a fun little thought.
Next time you begin to become irritated with someone or something stop and ensure this is a reaction towards this particular incident and not a reaction based on the past. When you begin to live for or to feel good, life is paradise with a twist.
The twist being those small, quiet irritating moments to remind you of how you want your memories/paradigm, to be in one day, a month, a year or even years.
The pages are unwritten and you my friend are holding the pen!