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How do you know what you want? & how to receive it…

How do you know what you want? By understanding what you love.

Begin with a quick list of what you KNOW, without question, that you love.

For example: Start saying what you love right now…GO

Name your children, family, friends, animated objects, activities, sports, travel, places, ect.

Please do not think about it too much, but rather enjoy and begin to shine brighter the more you list.

(The first time I did this I couldn’t stop. Throughout the day, I would remember more and my list kept growing. It is a fun activity.)

This beginning process is not a task to begin and end, but rather a continual process which grows and grows for you. Similar to a beautiful garden in Hawaii. Although there are specific growing seasons just like everywhere else, the abundance of vegetation growth is amazing and never ending. Therefore, you don’t focus on the lack of. Instead, the beauty of the over abundance & diversity, continues to fill the land of paradise. Same with LOVE.

Next, add to your questioning and list creating. Ask yourself, What do I want?

For example, I want a new car, a baby, a lover, a lifetime partner, joy, happiness, more abundance, more money, a new home, a new career, more friends, to be…

This list is the same as your love one, all you need to do is ramble it off. State your desires and as you continue to add new ones, allow yourself to ask.

Once you have began these two separate, but combined evolving lists, it’s now time to recognize what you have already accomplished with little to no effort.

By asking those two questions & allowing yourself to answer, freely…you have already accomplished:

1. Changing your mindset.

2. Redirected YOUR FOCUS from everyone else to just YOU!

3. Rediscovered many blessings you already have by creating your love list.

4. Recognized that asking for what you desire is due to creating your love list…which in turn creates,’Your Why!’

How do you know what you want?

A. Find what you love.

B. Find your desires.

C. Discover your, Why?

D. Allow your joy to over take you, as you combine the two lists…to understand Your Why.

For example: If you want to be a New York’s Best Seller, that is your desire. Why?

Because in your ‘love list’ you probably said, “I Love to help others.”

And you realize the NY’s Best Seller list will ensure that your writings will reach a wide variety of people.

You see, your why becomes unnecessary, after awhile. Almost like a silent step that you must take, but due to knowing your love & desires, the why step becomes automatic. Therefore, this process evolves into a FEELING activity.

The universe doesn’t care what your desires are. That’s why it is up to you to know what you love & desire. This way YOU are in control of YOUR LIFE and not tending to someone elses.

Have you already began your lists?

Do what you love & love what you do…isn’t this what we all ‘desire’? To be better?

Go for it, make your day, & begin to focus on what you really want! Leave the worries behind you. Focus on your own desires.

You have got this!

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Frankie & Freddy Decide to Let it go? Not quite…

To be Continued:

Last we heard from Freddy he was continuing to mope around. He wouldn’t talk to anyone and when Frankie attempted to explain, he rejected her attempts…multiple times!

What else can Frankie do besides move on? Many of Freddy’s friend group had tried to talk to both of them and assist in this terrible misunderstanding.

Would these two, BEST FRIENDS, ever be friends, once again?

Two weeks, had passed and for two more weeks, Freddy was not on the ‘family’ bus, laughing and giggling, with all the beautiful, multi-colored Flamingos and his favorite one…Frankie!

His mommy was extremely concerned about her son. She attempted to discuss the situation with Freddy, but he would always reply with, “Mommy, you wouldn’t understand!”

The Ekard home atmosphere was very gloomy. When Mr. Ekard, Freddy’s daddy, arrived, after his business trip, he had a long discussion with Freddy.

He explained how his mom and himself were concerned about Feddy’s behavior.

His daddy continued to teach Freddy a ‘life lesson’ about mistakes, perspectives, forgiveness, and the value of A Good FRIENDSHIP!

Freddy was overwhelmed with joy and ambitiously ready to FORGIVE. He begged his daddy to drive him to the movie theater to find Frankie.

He could barely sit in his seat while Freddy’s dad drove 55 mph. “Couldn’t you break the law a little bit, I want to get there before she leaves?”

Mr. Ekard doesn’t hurry for anyone! Freddy knew that. But one strong belief he did have was ABIDING by the law. And if you questioned his integrity…ohhhh he had a way to make you feel guilty!

He continues to stare at the road, in silence, hands on the wheel and he squawks before he speaks, “Son (clears his throat) Son, I have always told you Freedom is a choice. I choose to never have a guilty conscious.”

“If I rushed over to the movies to allow you to do something terrific, but…I hit a little puppy or something worse, would I continue to be upholding my end of the deal to take you to the theater safely?”

Freddy sank down in his chair, allowing the seatbelts to slip up…to demonstrate his feelings of rebellion. Quietly he replied with,”I know and no, I wouldn’t want your integrity to ever be questioned.” Rolling his eyes to redirect his focus to the outside.

FINALLY, THEY HAD ARRIVED! Freddy was so excited he tried jumping out with his seatbelt on. His father helped pushed the button to release the latch…out tumbled Freddy. As he recovered himself and checked for any injuries, he looked up and his dad was attempting to hold a contagious laugh..when their eyes met, his dad immediately burst into laughter.

Spewing a mouthful of Cola all over Freddy!

They both froze for a split second…then burst into laughter.

Freddy almost forgot what he was doing they laughed so much! After quite some time they regained their composure. Freddy turned around and fast paced walked into the movie theater.

He asked Larry the ticket sales guy which movie they were watching. It is not difficult to remember ten diverse flamingos and their two beautiful mommies. Who shine so bright they always take a blanket to the movies to cover their brightness, lol.

Larry pointed Freddy in the correct direction and the hunt was on. He weaved in and out of the rows.

Until he heard a precious voice, “Freddy? Freddy is that you?”

He turned around, grinned from ear to ear, and said, “No, its Ralph! Of course, it is me. Is that you Frankie?”

“Yes, come here…he saw a slight glimpse of his best friends beautiful green shimmering feathers waving in the camera’s light.

He made his way back to her and she had a seat saved for him. She had a RIGHT SIDED seat…which is important to remember, because Freddy is predominantly left winged. Which means if you want him to share his popcorn with you, he must be on your right side! Only Frankie knew these little quirks about Freddy.

He snuggled his behind into the cushiony seat, looked over at Frankie smiled real big and said, “I am sorry for being a jerk and I love you. Please do not ever go that long again without being my friend. I was miserable!”

Frankie leaned in and whispered, “I was always your friend, you chose not to be mine.”

The two overlapped wings, in the popcorn bowl and contently starred at the wide movie screen.

You might think that is the Happy Ending and all is well in the neighborhood, but let’s take a gander back to the aftermath of Freddy’s request.

He asked for this dispute to be over. For his friend to never ‘leave’ him again. He also apologized for something he is unsure of because he wanted it to be complete.

Let’s see what happens next and pay attention to how your feelings might change, throughout the story.

As the two newly, reunited, Best Friends walked out… it sounded like squawking to everyone around them. First one would say, “I have so much to tell you.”

Then the other would interrupt to ask,”Did you see the new episode?” (As they caught up on their daily conversations about school, television, and life).

All of the sisters climbed on the bus, Frankie hugged Freddy goodbye and as Freddy opened his eyes to end the long desired hug…he saw Ralph sneaking on the bus.

Freddy pulled away from Frankie, jerked his head to the side (snapping his neck a bit and it hurt), and screetched in a questioning tone, “RALPH?”

“Why are you getting on the bus? Since when did you receive a seat on the Fabulous Flamingo Family Bus?” Freddy continued to spout out questions, to Ralph, himself, Frankie and Mabel, who was attempting to pull Ralph on the bus…who was now FROZEN on the second step wondering if he should be fearful, mad, sad, embarrassed or confused.

Freddy was obviously preparing to throw a ‘baby’ fit. In attempt to diffuse the situation Frankie, nonchalantly, says, “You know what Freddy the best thing for us to do is go home. For now. We will resume this conversation later. I promise. Instead, of you throwing a fit, getting me into trouble with me mums, and all my sisters becoming mad at you again, let’s pause and resume tomorrow. Okay, my friend?” (Frankie always knows how to diffuse Freddy. She begins to speak with her English accent. No one knows if it is truly an accent from her birth place or not, but when it appears in her speaking, it is understood she means business!).

Freddy dropped his wings to his side and began to mope. “I guess, if that’s the way it has to be?”

“Yes, it is a fact. I will speak with you on our walk to school”

Freddy and Frankie hugged one last time and with a little less energy, he climbed into the passengers side of his Farher’s automobile. He didn’t say a word the entire trip home. His dad allowed him to ride in silence and they rode off into the sunset…with the top on the Corvette back & wind blowing through their feathers! If nothing else it was a terrific father/son trip.

To be continued…

Stay tuned, up next…Freddy discovers the entire evening, two weeks ago, was a set up. Frankie knew all day, Freddy was not aloud to go. But she chose not to tell him!

Go ahead and follow us to ensure you do not miss out on the next Adventure of Freddy & Frankie.

How would you feel if you were Frankie? Freddy? Mabel? Ralph? The 8 other siblings? Moms? Dad?

Do you think they will resolve the past, move on, and return to Best Friend status?

If you were Freddy would you NEED to know what happened?

Or could you let it go?

Thank you for reading and please remember everyone has down times. Everyone feels like ‘giving up’ at times, but we are singing a different tune!

We want you to Live, Live, Live & Love with all your HEART! And when you are kicked down (emotionally, physically, spiritually, economically) pick yourself back up & CARRY ON!

Written and Copyrights owned by: Teena Drake

Parents tell me how awesome your child is…

Your children conform to your expectations! As I spend hour after hour working with children of all walks of life and across the globe, I have learned, probably the MOST IMPORTANT, parenting skill…that ALL PARENTS NEED TO KNOW!

Are you ready for this?

The words that come out of your mouth as a parent, form and transform YOUR CHILDREN!

I realize this seems obvious and simplistic, especially when discussing as complex of a role as, PARENTING!However, my research is complete and it is 100 percent true!

For example:

Scenario 1: I had not met this young man before. His father & my honey have worked together for many years, since the boy was 2 yrs. old.

But all I ever heard was how much he bragged on his baby boy. All throughout the years I would here how ‘good’ he was. How talented, amazing and terrific.

Never once did I hear or even imagine… he had any disabilities OR was abandoned by his mother…who actually told him once, “The drugs are better than being a mommy to you!” (This was told to me as an example of the positivity, one parent, can utilize and redirect their child’s life).

Thirteen years later, I had the privilege to meet Nikolas, for the first time. You, as the reader of this post, now know as much as I knew about Nik, until this past summer.

As the gangly, long hair (Peter Frampton style), sweet, soft spoken and might I add, DYNAMIC, young man approached the swimming pool deck he introduced himself.

At that moment my mom & I were ecstatic to meet him. We did the regular introductions and he began a conversation about swimming. Nothing out of the ordinary.

Then I mentioned (off handed) I am so excited to finally meet the awesome Nikolas, I have heard about for so long.

He replied with, “Thank you! Everywhere we go someone tells me how my dad brags on me. He is one amazing dad!”

He has lived in several states and told us of all the people he had met. And yes they all told him the same thing.

Let me ask you something? If someone were to repeat what or how you describe your kids…what would they say? How would they describe/repeat YOUR WORDS?

I knew this young man had some difficult challenges throughout his life, but I promise his dad had genuinely talked his son up soooo much that those possible ‘issues’ didn’t even appear.

I never even questioned his learning difficulties nor thought of them. I only included the two known hurdles that this young man had, to demonstrate how influential his dad’s description was…EVEN WHEN THEY WERE SEPERATED for work.

You see…we already know our downfalls, even as children. So why not illuminate the good in our children & ourselves? And watch the GOODNESS shine?

Parents! Perfection is impossible. Even in you!

Begin at this very moment to write all the GOOD about your child. Leave out the other and watch the GOODNESS GROW LIKE A BOUNTIFUL GARDEN!

This works with adult children as well! It almost seems as though by highlighting their terrific qualities the irritating ones disappear. Same with yourself!

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Everyone has down times, our mission is to ensure you know that no matter what…This Too Shall Pass & We urge you to…

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Carry On

Written by: Teena Drake

The ripples intrigue me…

As I sit and ponder my next great adventure, I quickly notice the abrupt change in the flow of the Ohio River.

When I first arrived at the studio it looked like glass with out a peep of ripples to be noticed. Within seconds I looked out and half of the river continued to hold steady, allowing the trees to reflect their natural beauty. The other half had began to dance in a sweet melodious manner. Swaying back and forth as if the life under the water was just waking up.

Peaceful, intriguing, fabulous, calm, breezy, not quiet but rather sound waves surrounding the area. Filling this beautiful environment with sweet singing of birds, jets zooming by high in the sky, a breeze rustling the leaves, AND what did I just catch a glimpse of? An EAGLE soaring in all her glory!

Have you ever stopped and thought what are my intentions? How do I want to feel? How do I want others to feel?

The sweet whisper escapes my lips- For my part in YOUR reality & mine…I Love you, I am so sorry, please forgive me, and thank you!

We all have moments of doubt, anger, sadness, and depression…however, it’s all about your perspective that will either hold you to all the yesterday’s (which you cannot change) or you can change what you are focusing on. Leave the past back with all the would, shoulds, coulds, and can’ts.

If I were to hand you a new life…what would you change?

As always we are here for you. Life (coaching) can help with divorce, weight, breaking nasty habits, building healthy relationships, depression, parenting, tutoring (for all ages) and much more. But most importantly we want you to…

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Carry On

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We don’t like you!! One Flamingo said to the other…

Freddy the Pink Flamingo was hanging out with his friends. They played games, cooked out, and laughed, all day long.

As Freddy was retrieving the hoola hoop from ring the neck of a Flamingo, he saw a gigantic moving truck pull in.

He ran back to his friends with great excitement screeching, “A new Flamingo is moving in! Hey! Hey! I just saw a moving truck and a new Flamingo is moving in!”

Frank, Fillip, Frances, and some of the other Flamingos gathered around Freddy to hear what he was so excited about! “Aren’t you all excited? I wonder if they like to cook out, play games…” Freddy questioned.

“Of course they will like everything we like, they are Pink Flamingos!” Frank commented, acting as if Freddy was silly for being so excited. “Come on let’s finish this game I am winning!” he continued.

But Freddy was too excited to meet his new neighbors!

He peeked through the small hole of the joining privacy fence, which was created by his best friend Flipper, before he moved out of town.

His right eye ball made a complete circle as he scanned the backyard. But not one sign of a new Flamingo, yet.

Until…as he began to turn around and sadly report I can’t see anyth…he was abruptly interupted by a gigantic gasp from his friends. He looked puzzled as to why they were all starring at him with a horrible look plastered on their beaks!

Freddy froze and felt like he was turning white.

Before he could sputter any words from his beak…he felt a shadow towering over him. He quickly rolled his eyes up, up, up and over his head.

“Aaaaaaaaaaa,” he began to scream and scream.

The different colored, too tall, odd shaped thingy, simply pulled her head back and slowly walked into the back door of her new home.

“What was that?” He asked.

Freddy’s friends surrounded him and everyone began to talk at once. In a chaotic Flamingo chatter.

Until…they heard a light tap, tap, tap on the gate of Freddy’s back yard.

All of the Pink Flamingos held their breath and became silent. As if the tap, tap, tap on the other side of the gate would ‘think’ no one was home.

Tap, tap, tap once again.

Finally, Freddy slowly unlocked the gate, peeked through the tiny crack and…

What did he find?

A neon green, beautiful, bright Flamingo just his size.

“Hello, I am Franky. May I come over to play, while my mommies unpack.”

Freddy was so excited that she was not the tall blue looking bird, he encountered on the other side of the fence that he replied with, “Of course come in and meet all my friends!”

Franky timidly walked through the gate, looked around, smiled and quietly introduced herself, “Hello, I am Freddy’s new neighbor, Franky.”

As Freddy danced back and forth, he grabbed a hot dog off the table and created a delicious plate of food for his new friend, he saw something happen, that was not too pleasing. 😔😢😢😔

Many of his friends were now in a group snickering and being quite rude to Franky.

Frank looked at Franky in a disgusting manner and asked,”Why is your skin Green? Yuk! And why is your name Franky if you are a GIRL?”😬😬😲😲

Several others chimed in as if they were in agreement with Frank. They all starred at poor little Franky anticipating her answer, as if she could come up with a decent answer, as to why she looks different.👽

But before Franky could answer the big, blue, thingy…peeking over the fence from earlier, yelled out, “Franky, Franky where are you?”

Franky with a sigh dropped her head and vanished behind the gate as fast as she had entered.

Freddy was mad! He ruffled his feathers and stomped his flimsy legs over to his other Pink Flamingo friends. “Why? Why were you mean to our new friend?”😠

Everyone acted like he was silly. Fillip stepped up and explained to Freddy. “We don’t like Franky.”

“Why?”

“Because, she is green!!!! And a girl.”

All of Freddy’s friends agreed this new neighbor, was not their friend.

Their squawks, filled with complaints, were quickly drowned out by music echoing from Franky’s yard.

All the boys rushed over to the peep hole in the privacy fence. Pink feathers were flying as they pushed and shoved to attempt to see where the music was coming from.

The big, blue, Flamingo who towered over the six foot privacy fence, hung her head over to calmly ask,”Would you like to come over?”

With their beaks pointing up really high, towards the sky, they shook their heads in perfect unison, Yes!

With their feathers ruffled as if they were taking flight, the boys took off running towards Franky’s back yard.

Freddy decided not to go because he was so mad at how rude his friends were. 😠😳

When the boys entered the gate their eyes almost popped out of their heads! Toys, a sand box, outside games, a swing set and at least ten other Flamingos. All GIRLS! And All different colors!💖💚💙💜💛

At first Ralph, Freddy’s best friend felt sad that Freddy didn’t come and began to turn around to beg him to join them.

Until, he spotted Franky slipping out the gate to go ask Freddy. Before she disappeared she paused, turned around and winked at Ralph. He smiled real big and went off to play in the sand box with Mabel the purple Flamingo.😉

To be continued…

What do you think Freddy said to Franky? Do you think he joined them or did he tell Franky all about how terrible his friends were?

What would you do? Have you ever judged someone by their outside appearance? I am sure we all have.

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As always

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Carry On

Written by and Copyrights owned by- Teena Drake

Do you wake up happy?

How do you wake up every morning? Are you constantly sleeping through the alarm, yelling at your children to get ready? By the time you arrive at work, are you ready for a break? You might be sufferering from a simple issue Livelove likes to call, the what-if-itis.

You are probably not sleeping well, if all the what ifs or whatifitis is filling your mind. However, this is not conducive to a good nights sleep or a ‘happy’ morning. Not to mention the rest of your life.

The suffix itis is defined as a disease characterized by inflammation. Such as arthritis, tendinitis, bronchitis and of course whatifitis. (www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary) Affects of this disease or inflammation of creating whatif scenarios are swelling of the brain, which leads to inflammation of the heart, stomache and anything else you feel a bit of pain from, upon waking up.

If the above paragraphs resonate with you, we have some quick and easy tips to help. These tricks will assist you with sleeping peacefully and learn to wake up ‘happy’.

Let us begin with the evening before. Thirty minutes before you lay your head down,,,

  • Turn off or put away all electronics.
  • Write down anything you are worrying about. (children, ballgames, work, anything that is weighing heavy on youd mind)
  • Fold the paper in half, on the back write– Whatever will be, will be best for me.
  • Next leave all your worries on the kitchen table, written down. I promise they will still be there in the morning. However, after a goodnights sleep, they will not be as prominent, as they would be if you contemplated them all night.
  • As you lay down begin to list everything you are grateful for.
    • I love my bed
    • Grateful to be laying down in a home with controlled temperatures
    • Grateful for food
    • Grateful for my health
  • Make this fun…you can be grateful for silly items, sleep, your hair, ect…it doesn’t matter what you are grateful for, keep listing.
  • Last but definetly not least…As you lay your head to rest and close your eyes take a few minutes to congratulate and compliment yourself. (This step comes easier with time, you will eventually find reasons to pat yourself on the back, but at first it feels a little uncomfortable)

I have even congratulated myself for not losing my temper. Or for gritting my teeth and holding my toungue, when someone said something that ticked me off. Be light hearted, no matter what, YOU, have accomplished something terrific today! Even if it was getting out of bed and feeding your pets.

As for the waking up part, this procedure is much simplier when healing from whatifitis. Before you climbed out of bed, begin the same procedure of listing all the simple pleasures, you are grateful for. This doesn’t need to be as lengthy as your night time list.

While you are preparing for the day find a saying to uplift and create a happy emotion. This sets your day with a vibration of, YES I CAN.

Here are some I have utilized throughout my time of whatifitis, everyone suffers from this inflammation, at times in their lives. The most important part is it doesn’t last for weeks on end.

  • Whatever will be, is best for me.
  • I think I can, I think I can…I know I can, I know I can. (Yes, it is from the Little Engine that Could)
  • Mirror talks…You are amazing, You are worthy, You, my friend, are awesome!
  • My favorite saying is, “I feel terrific!” This is a quote I learned from Brian Tracy, personal development guru. When faced with adversity, even in the midst of it, I will say, “I feel Terrific!” It feels wonderful. Resets your entire demeanor.
  • Try it, right now…while reading this say, “I feel Terrific!” Do again and again, until you feel better. It works everytime.

Do you wake up happy? If you are waking up stressed and miserable, maybe it is time for you to shut down, unplug and have an attitude with gratitude! Life can be fun, expect the best and the rest will take care of itself.

God Bless! Do you wake up happy?

Livelove

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Carryon

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