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What if your paradigm was wiped clean???

Good Morning!! This is my favorite day of the week!! Yes, believe it or not Monday mornings are my favorites, actually the entire day is!!! Isn’t that funny? I wish I could explain, one thing is for sure…it’s my FAVORITE DAY! As I was plugging in to my morning a Teena moment came to me! What if your paradigm or past was obsolete? Suddenly, out of no where…no one knew you and you had no recollection of anyone? What would you do differently?

Let me tell you about a little boy who challenged me everyday, yet said to me one day, “Do you know why I love you Mrs. Drake? Because you always accept me as a new me, the next morning.”

What???!!!! I think he must be talking about another teacher. Because everyday I prayed he would be a new him in the morning. And you can’t imagine how many days I thought, “I love you, but I don’t know if I can make it another day!”

I don’t care who you are, we all have people in our lives like this. Whether it be a student in your classroom or a Co worker, it doesn’t matter who they are it’s who or what you know about them.

After this thought about, your past being erased, I thought of that little boy, who believed in me because he felt like I believed in him! And I did!!!

This thought took me on a fun journey of emotions. Because I now know why that little boy said that!

I had him in 3rd grade and five years later I had him in 8th grade. Before 3rd grade began, I was handed 18 files to read and learn about my students. Their strengths, weaknesses and behavior issues. I read one!!!! (Which coincidentally he transferred out and I never had him). I closed the first folder and quietly walked to the office with all files in arms. I remember the look on our secretaries face (who I adore) when I said, “Can I have a copy of their medical files only? And any IEP’s?”

You know she wanted to say, “Are you stupid? You are holding them.”

However, I think the color still fading from my face and the weakness in my knees, explained it all!”

When I explained how I couldn’t educate effectively if I knew all the other opinions and data from their past. She was speechless. But it never did work with me!!!! My feelings were a great deal can change in one summer. There are so many factors that play into a person/students learning abilities, maturity, behavior ect… Yes this carries on with good or bad signals.

For example: That little boy was a day by day case, EVERYDAY. However, the first three weeks of school, I never knew this child had any trouble at all. He read at a 5th or higher grade level, he was loving, kind and amazing. (And still is to this day).

Then one day he didn’t come to school, then another. When he did return it was like a switch had turned on. His peers were constantly irritated with him, he would poke them, write on their papers…I mean I was in a state of grrrr!

What did I do? Funny thing is I didn’t realize it then, but now I see I did what came natural. I went with what I knew. I had built my own perspective of this child. Therefore, his paradigm to me was an intelligent, sweet, funny and kind child. I knew nothing about his past teachers opinions, his home life or his, let’s call it persistent personality, to ensure his life was as he wanted it. His paradigm was wiped clean as for me. That is why we had the discussion, EVERYDAY, “Tomorrow is a new day! You, my intelligent, well behaved, studious young man will begin again and tomorrow will be even better!”

Yes, we had that same conversation hundreds or maybe even thousands of times from 3rd grade, then 6th through 8th!

Did I change him? Nooo I do know I loved him, as a student. I do believe I helped him see a better him. And if you knew his real life paradigm, you like me, would be tempted to provide him with excuses. However, how would that help him? Or me or anyone else who might struggle with his quirky, nontraditional ways.

Ask yourself, “If my paradigm was wiped clean right now (and I was healthy bla bla bla), what would I want my new one to be?”

It is not to scare you, but just think…if you didn’t worry about the past, if no one had something to hold against you from 30 years ago (yes, people still claim to know someone even if they haven’t spoken to them in 30 years, that’s crazy to me). Not that you live your life based on other people’s opinions, just a fun little thought.

Next time you begin to become irritated with someone or something stop and ensure this is a reaction towards this particular incident and not a reaction based on the past. When you begin to live for or to feel good, life is paradise with a twist.

The twist being those small, quiet irritating moments to remind you of how you want your memories/paradigm, to be in one day, a month, a year or even years.

The pages are unwritten and you my friend are holding the pen!

God Bless

Livelove

&

Carryon

Word of the day, Cultivate

While listening to the phenomenal speakers @earlybird toastmasters Overland Park Kansas, the word of the day was, Cultivate! As I chose the word carefully it was not because I had planned on learning such a vast amount from its very existance, but rather out of need. The main title was Embracing Change. I felt like with harvest season upon our farmers and as sales reps run around to meet the fourth quarter’s quota it ‘fit’ the theme of the day.

However, it has become much more over the past twenty four hours. Think about it if you do not cultivate your plants, you will be empty handed, and have nothing at harvest time. Same pertains to businesses, relationships, families and friends. It is an essential to living a wonderful life, yet probably the most missed step in development.

Think about it! Have you or your company, grown by leaps and bounds because you didnt cultivate your environment? Maybe, but it won’t last long. If you do not cultivate your relationships/environment/yourself, you will quickly find yourself without. Without your lively hood and your dreams will swirl out of sight.

That was super sad! Now you can understand why the one word I chose for the day has become a game changer. The more I thought about the word, the more powerful it became!

Yes, you must plant the seed to be able to cultivate it. However, we wouldn’t be discussing this topic if you hadn’t planted the seed. Why? Because if you haven’t found the initiative to get up and plant the seed then you will have nothing in the end, NO MATTER WHAT!!!

Did you follow that? If not it is worth reading it again (I don’t want to type it twice, so go ahead and scroll back up and read it again).

Anywhoooo, here is your new and improved thought of the day, have fun cultivating your life! Don’t struggle with this! It’s time to enjoy going to your career or place of employment. It’s time to feel accomplished and appreciated. You do deserve it and the more you expect it the more you will receive it.

Cultivate with love this week above all else!

God Bless

LiveloveLLC

Just Do It…

Don’t you hate chnage? Do you wish all your dreams could come true, over night? As the days go by and you plan one more step, to achieving your dreams and goals, as well as having that lavish lifestyle; do you find yourself feeling anxiety and fear of the unknown?

Here is the best advice I have to give…Find A BETTER THOUGHT! Is this an easy task? Not at first it is not, but if you keep trying each day, focusing on the rich abundance, you already have and that which is quickly on its way, you will begin to see those controlled visions appear. Yes, it will happen one by one!

I look for the good in each moment however, just like you, I slip back into the more easy habit of observing what is. Therefore, how do I JUMP on another frequency of thought? Every morning, of everyday, before I crawl out if bed I say, “Thank you, for everything in my life working out for the best for me. I love you Teena Drake and I am happy you woke up!”

Now, if you felt a little cringe or sadness when you read what I say, then find your own positive statement. It doesn’t have to be mine. And yes, I have mornings where my brain, vibration and entire being will say back to me (in my head), “Shutup!” I am afraid, what if I never make it? Why couldn’t I choose a career that I just do my job and receive a pay check? Why do you always have to be focusing on something bigger and why do you care if you help others? They don’t care?”

See I probably just demonstrated more doubt than you have ever felt. You are probably thinking wow, Teena I don’t think that much about myself. Lol!! Those days for me are far and few between however, I do have them. Usually when I allow anyone to project their own fears on me. Because listen up!!!! (This is the most important part I am about to write today!!!!!) Other people ONLY FIND FAULT in OTHERS, when they hate their OWN FAULTS or FEARS!

Most people, especially your close friends and family, never want to see you hurt or disappointed. That’s why they appear to be negative towards some of your new ideas, not because they ‘hate’ you, but rather they do not understand you. They also fear you will be let down or hurt! I know I am guilty of this, everyone is. For example, one of my kids called and asked about a job opportunity. Instead of just being excited at that moment my concious mind, then my mouth, began thinking and saying, what if? Oh don’t forget to say or do this!

The entire time my mouth is moving and my ears are listening to my stupid advice, I am thinking, What the hell are you doing or saying? However, it’s my own fear for them that began this chaotic conversation.

Now, I try not to react or if I feel myself doing this I stop and say, “You know mom loves you no matter what! Please attempt to erase those what ifs, please. I only want to always protect you. However, me trying to discourage or hender you is not my intention.”

Then the next time they will want to share with me.

Okay, let’s get back to you, yourself and you! If you feel it do it!!! If you are on a magical, whimsical adventure and you know in your heart you are on the right track, do it! Yes, fear will creep in. You will have moments of doubt, but remember everything is working out best for YOU TO ENJOY THIS GIFT OF LIFE!

For example, most of you know I am opening a new company, actually it is evolving by leaps and bounds. As I attempt one approach and then another. As I begin each day with, “I accept and expect everything to work out in perfect harmony for me today.”

I see events, people and opportunities appearing on a daily basis. Some days I think, okay this can go a little faster. Then I will switch my thought and someone will call, message me or have a wonderful conversation that will lead me into, ” I am the new proud CEO of Livelove LLC.”

The rest is history. Everyone wants to be happy, find peace and love. Therefore, once they ask, “What does your company do?

I respond with, “I share with you my life’s work, studying people and their perspectives of happiness. Next, together we will find the necessary tools for YOU to Be Happy!”

Now when I say that statement at first everyone stares at me for just a moment in, what I think is, a contemplation mode then they say, “When do we begin?”

You can begin today! I will be estatic to meet you if you FEEL the desire to sign up for one of our ‘Happy Classes.’ However, if you can’t make it to one, or can’t wait, you aren’t lost! Wakeup each day and find a desirable and believable to you statement. Say it then take the leap of faith and DO what you are led to do that day! I promise living like this is more fun than having doubt, worry or fear!

One more thing before I go!!! Look everyone I am scared to death to share this information with you, but I FEEL someone needs it. If you don’t need it please just skip over this part of my blog!!!

I have a special gift/service that someone may need. I can read Angel Cards and help you through some issues you might be hanging on to! (This is not anything creepy or weird and you do not have to be religous to believe).

Why am I scared to share, I just do not want to offend anyone. However, this is fun, easy and provides you with a little boost, when making a tough or not clear decision.

Anywhoooo..

I will be at several destinations for now Kansas, Tennessee, Kentucky, Indiana, and Ohio to name the ones that are for sure! And for all my friends and family in Kauai I will be there and can be available a couple of days in November. (If Mamaw doesn’t mind)

If you would rather be incognito or don’t have time to wait for me to announce the pop up destination, you can email me, @Livelove.Teena@gmail.com or message me Teena Drake.

This is fun and extremely helpful. I have a long long list of friends who will edify my work, if you are one of those who needs to check out references!

Back to the topic!!! (Sorry I kept getting the message someone needs that information and no worries everyone, this is JUST as effective over the internet).

Just Do It! Is your message today! You are wonderful and terrific!

God Loves You No Matter What!

Livelove LLC

I Found It, By Golly I Found It!

If you are just now following my blog, no worries, I can catch you up in a split second. I have become BBQ crazy, lately. I have stopped at BBQ spots from Kentucky to Kansas not to mention, our quick trip to Alabama. I must admit all have been terrific in their own way. In other words I have enjoyed this delicious journey. If I didn’t like them I never bash, I simply do not blog. That’s why when I so boldly post I FOUND IT! It is worth checking out.

IF YOU GET BORED JUMP TO THE LAST PARAGRAPH SO YOU CAN EXPERIENCE AND KNOW HOW TO FIND, THIS AMAZING ‘SWEET D’S famous BBQ SAUCE!!!! (I hope they come up with another variety of flavors and entitle one Miss D’s famous BBQ SAUCE)

Picture this…I am enjoying a beautiful afternoon with my mom and Darion, my daughter, @Swisswinefestival 2017. We have finished off the wine tasting tent and we are feeling happy! (Which we feel pretty happy no matter when or where we are, but add a little okay alot of wine and cheese and we become the three amigos!!!! Of happy 😉😉)

Anywhooo they were hungry! Corndog? Nope. Oh my favorite, Ben the Pretzel man? (best pretzels in the world) Nope, still I am not feeling it! Darion mentions BBQ! I said, “No, I have given up on my BBQ quest. Everyone uses someone else’s BBQ and the one I did find, that was amazing, didn’t promote or was not proud of it. So, I don’t want BBQ either.”

I sat and watched them eat. The entire time I watched people line up for BBQ. I took pictures of their advertisements. Cute little Miss Piggy sitting in the corner. Then I had to know. I went and asked the guy cooking the thick BBQ pork chops and ribs. “Sir, Sir…(he looked up with a smile), Do you make your own BBQ?”

His response was quick and proud, ” Yes, it is my family recipe.” (Actually I think he said it’s my brother and father and me, but please excuse me becuase I had stopped listening at YES!)

I stood at the back of the line and tore it apart! I bet it isn’t good although it is a terrific color, I bet it is spicy even though it’s name is Sweet D’s. I bantered back and forth waiting in line. I would hear, in my head, what people told me that made good BBQ. I didn’t even ask him if it was smoked. That’s it! That is what is going to make Sweet D’s BBQ fail in my book. They will have disgusting meat and it will not be good!

Do not sit there and read this and judge me! Everyone has done this before! Found something you loved and continued to search for more of that kind of love (no matter what it is) and you continue to return to what went sour with the first love, therefore you failed to enjoy the possibility of feeling love again, right? (Maybe you better read that again!)

Finally! No more thinking I am up!

“Is it smoked pork?” I asked with a sense of determination that she would say no.

She looked at me puzzled and said, ” I do not know, let me ask!”

Aha! I got you now Sweet D’s. You are a fraud and you, like so many others have poor customer service ha and you, in my book will be just regular, old, BBQ. I guess you can tell I haven’t been pleased with very many of the BBQ’S, lately.

Nope, still didn’t happen. She looks at the same sweet man who is proudly basting the ribs and pork chops over an open flame. He looks at me, smiles and proudly says, “Yes!”

Here it goes, “I will try one, pulled pork sandwich.”

Okay, well priced, friendly, kind, beautiful display and…..

I pulled the bread away, sunk my fork into the perfectly shredded pork and delved into the majority of the BBQ sauce. Ummmmm wait a minute I don’t know if I want to share the amazing feeling, I had when this savory, most precious, beautiful and fabulous flavor hit my taste buds!

Hmmmm, waiting for a brain response pause, go get coffee.

Yes, I will share.

It was….magical, sweet, beautiful, deep, red, bold, but not with a harsh bite. In my book, it was created, stirred, designed and redesigned to perfection. It is the most absolute perfect sauce I have ever tasted!

I have one suggestion and it is not by any means a negative, nor do I know if they do this due to serving so many people at festivals. However, because the sauce was super amazing, I would have loved to have had the option of naked pulled smoked pork. Not because my sandwich was not phenomenal, because it was! However, this morning I tasted just the sauce (to ensure I stilled loved it when I am sober) and it was AMAZING!!!! Phenomenal, Terrific, Superb and awarded by me, Teena Drake, the best BBQ of 2017!!

As we gathered up to leave, the line became longer and longer. I almost walked away without telling the man behind the flames. Then I stopped, turned around, walked back and said, “I have to tell you I have been searching for the best BBQ and you have it! I am going to blog about you, so look for it. Thank you, it was amazing BBQ.

He proudly, once again, looked up and smiled, but then said, “Hold on!”

He took off running around the corner. I thought he was grabbing a card, which was terrific! Nope, he brought me a bottle of BBQ sauce!!!

I offered to pay him, that was not needed. He told me it was their own recipe and when I asked him his name, although he told me, his priority was not to be known by name but by their BBQ sauce! The pride and kindness, illuminated the ‘Sweet D’s famous BBQ SAUCE.

If you need something fun to do this weekend and you are near Vevay Indiana today or tomorrow August 26-27, go to the Swiss Wine Festival and have some terrific wines, but don’t miss out on some Original Sweet D’s BBQ SAUCE. If you are all the way across the country you can order it

@Walmart.com Original Sweet D’s BBQ SAUCE.

I may be wrong but I think this sauce can even be used as a Vegan topping, it says gluten fee, MSG free, All natural No Added preservatives. Yayayayayaya ya!!!!! (Obviously I am not)

As the eclipse of August 21, 2017 approaches…

I had to find a reason to write about the eclipse because this topic has been so popular. At first I was a little bit against the ‘hype’ around the eclipse. I was like hmmm, why is this so prominent.

Of course I know why, Scientifically. However, this has been over the top. Hold on!!! Don’t get mad because of my last statement, I have changed my toon, DRASTICALLY. This eclipse has boosted the economy for many who would probably never see such a spike/increase again in their careers. It has also and continues to bring people together in a more positive perspective which is better than the most recent horrific reports about politics in general. I mean even the comedians forgot how to be funny because they have been so focused on the frustrations of politics. However, this eclipse has created a bridge of united we stand, come together, hold my hand and let us be one. Not the divided, sickening, negative emotions separating brothers and sisters, but a sense of belonging, caring, sharing and uniting in awe of a magnificent phenomena!

For that Solar Eclipse of 2017, I thank you, for a short time frame our nation will be in awe of togetherness and Historical Science in the making.

On Solar Eclipse Eve bring on the night!

Livelove

I always thought ‘Being Happy’ meant…

As I reflect back over the years I recognize how being happy doesn’t mean to make everyone else happy. Nor does it mean you will love all people and/or situations. Actually it is the complete opposite.

For example: I was working out in the pool. It was extremely peaceful. Sever al couples were enjoying the cool, crisp water and peace. Then this guy comes over introduces himself and proceeds to talk, excessively. I kept shutting my eyes , breathing deep and sending him positive vibes, although I must admit my vibes were followed up with me saying, “Shutup! No one cares what your dad did for a living, what your dogs name was when you were a kid, or how all your patients were whiney and needy today!!”

Gotcha! Did you really think I said that? I didn’t say anything, out loud. I only thought it. I do not need to tell you how much this man talked, but I can use it as a lesson.

Using the tools to find your own happiness will be an advantage. However, do not mistake the fact that making other people happy is the same thing. In fact it is impossible.

Life is meant to be fun, but remember there will always be that stranger who might rub you the wrong way. Or you may be put in a situation you feel irritated with everyone involved. It is the quickest way for you to recognize what you Do Not want so you can redirect quickly and go back to having fun! That guy reminded me of how happy I am that Eric doesn’t talk too much or that I don’t have to live or work with that man. Don’t you see being happy with you doesn’t mean making everyone else happy, but it’s okay. Because what’s BEST for ME is BEST for YOU!

Instead of living a hurried, scurried, on fire all the time, making other people happy and attempting to be perfect all at the same time mentality; It is about coming together with actual peace, love and least resistance. Okay, I will admit that was a little deep! Please, bare with me.

Again, what is BEST for ME, Is BEST for YOU! When and only when you understand that statement will all your amazing happy feelings come to you like a tidal wave. I know that statement is difficult to understand, but it is absolutely, 100% the truth.

Once you allow everyone else to find their own feel good or happy feeling and you are operating your very existence in this manner, you will feel, have, do and be anything you want to be. Any experience YOU want! Trust that it is all going to be what’s best for you and allow it to be that way. The annoying people will still pop in from time to time. However, you will even find the good in them or the good in your encounter with them.

Life is meant to live by having fun. Don’t waste another day or moment trying to MAKE everyone else happy. Begin with you and the rest will fall into place.

God Loves You No Matter What!

Livelove: Changing the world with one happy tool after another!

(Hey all my readers, Livelove is launching very soon, psst a secret it is launching before the end of 2017, and we need a slogan. So if you can think of one let me know it might be the next famous slogan for our fabulous company)

Movie Kind of Weekend

As I curl up to watch one of my all time favorite movies Bruce Almighty! It becomes clear it is a perfect analogy of you get what you ask for. Think about it there are only two rules 1. You can’t tell anyone you are God and trust me you don’t want that attention. 2. Can’t mess with Free Will And he responds with can I ask Why? God responds with, yes you can ask why, that’s the beauty of it!

The next few scenes are exact demonstrations of the law of attraction, everything he asked or anything anyone else asked for, they received. If they were not goal setting they could be aimlessly controlled. Jim Carrey in his character Bruce Almighty, shows us how simplistic life can be and joyous. But just like we can not truly control all the choices our children will make neither can God (was one of their messages). Therefore, our only choice is to set goals that make us happy and create the emotional attachment we desire. They even utilize funny, blaten symbolism to show how silly we are because we constantly have signs showing us the BEST path for us. Yet, we choose to say, “Oh no, I don’t need any help or I couldn’t deserve that good of a life or to be that happy.”

How many times can you remember making a choice you didn’t feel good about and it turned out to be a disaster? Or a decision that felt so right for you and even though some people questioned you, you knew like you knew. No matter what when you made that decision you knew it was right for you. Guess what? It turned out perfect or even better than you expected, didn’t it?

It’s because you made a decision on how you feel, it made you feel happy.

I have written it before and I will write it again and again and again….

Life is meant to live to feel good, be happy, enjoy, experience, fulfillment and much more. Set your goals and then enjoy the journey. The events along your road to success are fun and extraordinary.

Livelove

‘Be Happy’