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Happy Coaching 101 continues, even when I don’t feel inspirational…thank goodness!

This next message I am sharing with you is for one of the sweetest young ladies I know. She is an inspiration to me on a daily basis!

As I was meditating, I continued to ask for much needed personal guidance. Because the past few days I felt a bit sad and stuck. My fears (false evidence appearing real, Jack Cannefiled) continued to show up. I was worried about money, my business, my goals and dreams.

The more I focused on my own issues, the more this sweet little message for Ashley, persisted! I finally gave up! “Okay, what does Ashley need to hear?” I asked in an irritable manner.

Once I wrote it down, tears filled my eyes. One by one streamed down my face, as I read word for word.

I told her I was sending it on, but I read it one more time. And Poof, out of no where, I received my own messages! They were amazing.

One of my messages: Sometimes, the road ahead appears to be difficult. Therfore, take one step at a time. Then if you slip a little off the path, you will have the strength to carry on with the other foot.

So even when you dont feel up for the challenges, life throws at you, it’s okay! Take time to be still, inhale/exhale and listen. You have the answers at your finger tips, you only need to allow yourself to receive them.

Ashley’s message, sent with love…

If you don’t feel stuck how will you celebrate or know what freedom feels like?
If you don’t feel a little hopeless, how will you know how it feels to be filled with hope?
I am with you and guiding you!

It is okay to feel down, it is all a part of the process. However, the best part is when in the valley (or the trough of a frequency) the next wave is up, up ,up so allow the frequency to move you.

Your next portion is going to move into your life so swiftly and peacefully, it will feel like a swift, warm, refreshing breeze zooming up to the crest or top of the wave! Ride high my dear friend and enjoy.

You have asked and now you shall receive!

Livelove

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Carryon

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There is no greater or less than, when it comes to you…

As ‘life’ seems to happen around us, many people like to compare stories or talk about the issues. However, there is no comparisons between your story and theirs.

Of course we are all connected and as humans, we can all FEEL empathy or sympathy depending on our similar incidents.

But…everyone has moments of being depressed, sad, hurt, lost and disappointed. I can remember the day, my son explained that pointing out all the reasons someone should be grateful, isn’t always the best feeling emotion for someone suffering. I questioned why or why not, it always seemed to work for me. Highlighting all the reasons I should be grateful, how blessed I am and so on.

Nick explained how sometimes those comments are more detrimental to the person.

That was several years ago and to be completely honest, I didn’t truly understand.

Now, I do!

You see we ALL have moments where life feels overwhelming, too much and disappointing. Those who their stories, are well known and inspire others, but also you and me.

As I wrote and rewrote my speech for the area contest @Earlybirdstoastmasterskc, the days seemed to be zooming by. Closer and closer, my excitement was building and the anticipation of all the exciting opportunities, this club has to offer, was assisting me in working up the best message, I had ever written! Ohhh, if you could only feel my radiating excitement.

Yet, day by day in LA we had to jump one hurdle and then twenty five more or maybe a hundred more! (Okay I am being a bit over dramatic, as Ashby says).

But it is true. I could whine and cry about every little speed bump thrown in front of us, but where would we be then? Instead let me share what I have learned.

This week I had to let go of my first speech competition. It was to be on Monday February 5th. There were no guarantees I would move on to the next level, because our club has intense competition, but I wanted to attempt it, in the worst kind of way!

I had prepared and practiced the entire road trip from Kansas to LA.

As the hurdles popped up, some one at a time, others it seemed like fifty at a time, I began to realize my excitement was about to he turned into disappointment! With all the issues about having Princeton, I quickly realized my trip would be delayed, forcing me to step down from the competition.

Now this may seem silly to anyone else, but I cried and cried! I was disappointed, sad, overwhelmed and a little bit selfish. Most of all I was torn! This was my baby girl and very dear to me granddog. But I also wanted to attempt this competition!

Then my lessons began!!! Everytime I would express my disappointing emotions someone would share on Facebook or tell me about a horrific event. For example in the past month we have lost loved ones to accidents, cancer, flu and suicides. I would cry for them or add to my prayer list.

Yes, my silly little issues seemed trivial after all of that. I have so much to be grateful for, I know that.

Then I realized Nick was correct. Pointing out or minimizing our own disappointments, by comparison, is not fair, to you.

My epiphany was EVERYONE, experiences their own depression and disappointments. And YOURS is just as important as the next one. Because we are all on our own journey and life happens whether we are striving to improve or not.

And MAYBE, JUST MAYBE…this is a key to helping others choose to feel all the emotions, yet not give up.

The key is to allow yourself to feel the negative emotion. Express your feelings of disappointment. (Allow this moment). Do not worry about feeling trivial compared to other people’s issues. I am Not saying dwell on it and/or illuminate the situation, but rather, ALLOW yourself to have a moment of tears.

It is okay!!! There is no greater and less than, when it comes to you and how you feel. Maybe if we begin to allow kids and adults to say, “I feel like giving up.”

We will have less severely depressed or suicides. When I was having a moment of ‘selfish disappointments’ it felt good to allow the sadness, for a moment. It forced me to find solutions, it allowed me to be human, and it reminded me how quickly ANYONE can give up.

It is time we begin to allow our younger generations to know we have all been there. We have all had struggles and let it out. All of it! Say it if you feel it. It’s okay.

No matter how trivial it may be to others. Your disappointments, moments of sadness or maybe your losses are not comparable to others! You are allowed to say it because believe it or not… EVERYONE experiences negative emotions.

My greatest hope is…this post will help one person to choose life. If you are not feeling so well about something, say it! And quit worrying about comparing apples, arangatans, and kale spinach. This is YOUR EXPERIENCE! No one elses!

Livelove

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Carryon

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Peek a Boo…I see you

Have you ever had a clear vision of what you want? Maybe you want to be a millionaire, or debt free, or maybe neither, but something even bigger, than monetary value! However, everytime you stay super focused on your vision, peek a Boo I see you, out pops your paradigm?

This happens to everyone. The best thing is, you can recognize it as ‘fake forecasting,’ once you realize where it is coming from.

I entitle it, forecasting because that’s what it is, a forecast or prediction of the future. The negative feedback is just past events creeping up.

For example: If you wanted to be a millionaire and you came from a background that was no where near a wealthy financial background, the first emotion attached to millionaire goal is probably…’How are you going to do that?”

“You can’t do that and if you could well you should be grateful with what you have and shouldn’t want more!”

My all time favorite statement (not really, but I can laugh at it now), “You know there are people that have less than you, you are so blessed!”

SHUTUP! Is what I say! Sorry, not trying to offend anyone! But someone has to say it!!!! What is life about if you are not striving for the next great adventure? Whether it be monetary, spiritual, emotional, physical or mental.

We tell our students in education, learn all you can, education is power always be of a mindset to learn and evolve. Yet, the mixed signal comes into play when anyone dreams big! Whether it be their own past events creeping into a nonrelated existing event. Or it is the people they are surrounded by.

Instead of staying to long in the vision or goal. Set time aside to relish in it. Feel the emotions you desire to feel, the exhilaration of how awesome your vision/goal truly is! THEN…when one, peek a Boo I see you, negative thought enters, STOP, SAY (nicely) Shutup and move about your day in a terrific mood!

In step by step form:

1. Feel good

2. Visualize/feel what you desire or want before you have it.

3. Subconscious or other outside forces will raise their heads only to say, “Peek a Boo, I see You. Only to place doubt in your head.

4. DO NOT argue with it, or justify why you want what you want!

5. Slide left! Or move on to another thought or conversation to avoid any struggle. (After all you control you, they truly don’t have a say. As for your subconscious saying negative things, remember it is always trying to protect you from hurt that you have felt in the past. However, we don’t live in the past anymore).

6. Next enjoy the events of now. Find the happy spot that is in the present. Expect the best is always coming to you.

7. It’s not your job to know how it’s your job to know what!

You are amazing! The next time the peek a Boo emotions show up simply reply with, “I see you too, and now you are going back to where you belong…in the past.”

Remind yourself, YOU ARE CAPABLE!!!!

Livelove

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Carryon

Lover’s Basics

Be! Be happy to see me, I love you! Be present when you are with me. Be with me, because you choose to me with me.

Appreciate! Appreciate my companionship and my talents. Please do not illuminate my faults, I already know what they are. I promise if you continue to focus on what you love about me, I will continue to do more of those things.

Stop! Before you react. Remember actions are louder than words, but truly they can also be one in the same. If you don’t agree with me, stop and think before you react, to ensure you are not basing it off your paradigm.

Interested! Interested in me and us! Stay interested, interactive, intriguing!!! Interested in what happened today, interactive in OUR choices of activity, and intriguing with your sweet little comments of how sexy I am and how grateful you are.

Cooperation! Please explain that again? (With patience). Could we mix it up a little tonight, I am bored. Or even, I am tired and want to veg. out! Thank you for being so darn cooperative.

Sensational! Come have a sensational journey with me. Now that we have established the BASICS of love we can Live and Love On!!!

Noooo to all of my friends this isn’t to Eric! However, this is our BASICS to a happy loving relationship. (Perfect? No, Happy? Yes!!!!)

God Bless!

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