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More recent Thanksgiving Past…

As most of you know Eric and I went to Hawaii to see mom and dad as well as, celebrate our twenty fifth anniversary. What you may not know is it was their forty ninth Wedding Anniversary on November 2nd! It was awesome. Therefore, Eric and I, took them out to eat for a special dining experience, on the ocean to celebrate.

Betty and I got all dressed up in our aloha dresses, adorned our beautiful outfits with Jewlry, by none other than Beautiful Bling by Betty. We were the cats meow!

As we drove up to the restaurant the torches were lit and the dancing fire illuminated the walk way, to a ambiance for love and romance. Ocean breeze, family and friends. Both our heads were spinning. Stop! Selfie time. I took a group photo with my handy dandy selfie stick. I really think we were floating on a cloud of happy emotions, to the extreme that we began reminiscing about times past, that we were all together and how wonderful it was.

Now let me stop right here! Don’t take me the wrong way, we all had a wonderful, fabulous, delicious dinner that night on November 2nd, 2017. But read on and see if you can see why I blame the ‘ambiance’ of this romantic evening on the stupidity, Betty and myself were about to begin and continue.

As we told our friends, who were joining us, about the different family gathering memories, we had. Everyone could feel the flucuations of happiness then the wave of, just a smidge, of sadness. (Not because we were unhappy now, but sometimes it is sad when so many traditions have changed).

That’s when it happened. I had one martini and I don’t know which one of us spoke up first, but one of, Betty or I, said, “We should have an old fashion Thanksgiving dinner. Mmmm all that good food, Uncle Ben’s Wild Rice, gravy, broccoli casserole. That is it.! Let’s do it!”

We both so eagerly shook our heads in an accepting manner of how ‘good’ of girls and wives, as we truly are! Almost as if all of the grand things we have done for our families, came down to the most memorable times.

The guys attempted to talk us out of this grandious, hair brain scheme of ours. But no, no they weren’t talking us out of it! We were sure this would be a fun time and we were jumping in with both feet first!

As the days and nights went by, we were busy, busy. Hoola class, beach hoping and bike riding. Shopping and enjoying each other’s company. Until, Dum Diddy dum!!!! (Drum roll please) The day for Thanksgiving Dinner had arrived! Gosh has it already been two weeks? Naaaaa surely not!

The best way I can explain the affects of Hawaii is; every inch of your body is JELLO. Worries cross your mind, but flee as quick as they enter. If one thing I know, for sure, is going backwards to ‘The Good Ole Days’ isn’t as much fun as soaking up the sun in our ‘BEST’ days!

At least I felt like that. I was unsure if Betty felt like this so, I rolled out of bed and began to create a list. The entire time I was writing I would write a dish and then write beside it a label…difficult or simple. Which meant I was already back pedaling from all of this ‘traditional’ crud. Yes, it was fun, but it was a great deal of work, especially for Betty and I because we had always been the two who seemed to expect ourselves, to work alot, to please as many as possible.

Now don’t get me wrong, we have always enjoyed our families and have both taken pride in our efforts to open our homes and demonstrate loving hospitality. (Of course she is better at being more hospitable than me, but she is a better cook too, so who cares, I love and accept myself lol).

However, at this point I was pretty sure we were both over the ‘Old Fashion’ Thanksgiving dinner. When she saw my list she began to laugh and laugh. She was like this is alot of work isn’t it?

Many funny epiphanies came to me, during my process, of getting ready and I shared them with Ray and Eric. Both men quickly reminded me,”We tried to talk you both out of this! But nooooo you insisted!”

I stood there similar to a statue, listening to everyone’s chatter. How true were their claims? In all actuality , extremely true! Brutally, honestly, TRUE!

We had done this to ourselves!

Now let me wrap up the story part, before I bring it to full circle!

We had the best visit with mom and dad than ever before. We both truly enjoyed being in their presence and in paradise. Betty and I cooked a Thanksgiving meal ‘traditional’ Drake’s style!

Of course, I assisted, but my dishes fell under the simple or some even bought category. However, we pulled it off! It was the most mouth watering, delicious, fabulous, exquisite meal I have had in quite sometime.

I am grateful for the entire vacation and will cherish the sweet memories throughout our visit.

However, I learned some valuable lessons from the entire dinner ordeal. I feel it’s best to bullet them…

  • You don’t always have to relive a tradition to enjoy the memory.
  • When you are feeling stressed about something almost like a regret, talk to that person, be honest. You never know they may feel the same way.
  • Sometimes what we think makes other people happy, is not real, ask them if it is something they feel emotional about. For example: our husbands could have cared less, what we cooked, they were grateful we cooked at all.
  • When looking back at a memory and it feels all warm and fuzzy enjoy it, but ensure before you say you want to relive it, you remember the entire story.
  • For example: I love my children so much and I must say I enjoyed raising them, but to say I would want to relive it would be ludicrous.
  • Although we were resistant the day of, we readjusted and shopped one day and cooked the next. Allow yourself readjustment time. If it is a bad time in your life pause and allow yourself to rethink and readjust, how you feel. (No this wasn’t a bad time in our life. It was actually funny how great of a time it truly was, but this works if you are having a worse time, than we were).
  • Feel it? Feel just how you feel right now. If you don’t like this feeling, then ask yourself, how do I want to feel?
  • What will bring you closer to that?

Thank you for reading this posting.

I am truly grateful for you! Wish you the best.

Want to host a Happy Coaching Session for your friends? Or maybe a Happy Celebration for your employees…email us

Livelove.teena@gmail.com

Livelove

&

Carryon

Written by: Momma Teena

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As the sun shines bright I ask myself…

Work, work, work! Here it is almost December 1st, 2017 and the sun’s vibrant heat beams down on me, as I work away. I love what I am doing, but somewhere in the back of my mind, I continue to search for excuses to gather Freddy the Pink Flamingo and ride on Pinky the Princess, over the hills and through the woods (not really, just on the nicely paved bike path that almost taunts me, everyday, because I can see just a glimpse of it from my balcony).

Pause, sigh, inhale and exhale! I think I will take a break and write outside. Maybe then I can see if the air is that warm or if the window portrait is deceiving.

Of course NOT! OHHH what to do?

Go ride or Work?

What do you think? I will let you know what I decided, later on.

Do what you love and love what you do! The only reason I am struggling with my decision today is because I love everything I do! Whether it is work, play or even making a decision. I feel my way to joy and happiness.

If you continually go to bed worrying about tomorrow or wake up dreading your day, it is time to reevaluate your life! Life is too short to be miserable. I realize earning an income is important, but one thing I have learned is the income will double, triple and quadruple, if you love what you do and ALWAYS, do what you love!!!

God Loves You NO MATTER WHAT!

Livelove

&

Carryon

Check out our event coming December 8th in Madison Indiana.

Be Careful! What You Ask for or don’t you will get it either way…

20171113_1711251607508436.jpgThe funniest thing happened to me today! Totally unexpected! Before Eric left for work he was kind of sad and so was I! We had been together so much lately, we didn’t want to be separated for long periods of time and that long drive was not near as much fun, alone. As soon as the garage door shut, I opened my computer. As I searched for flights home, I became quickly discouraged. Three and four hundred dollars, ONE WAY!

I closed my computer and went on packing the car. I shrugged my shoulders and thought that was silly. As I began to pour my first cup of coffee, I said to myself, “I seriously would wait to go home, if I could ride with my honey, but my ticket would have to be between one hundred and twenty, no more than 150.”

As I began to rest a moment before leaving, I decided to open my computer and look up some black Friday sales. After being logged in about five minutes, a message showed up stating, “Kentucky to Kansas one fifty-five.”

I will admit, at first the twilight zone began to play, in my head. I thought about all the new marketing techniques, but then my attention was quickly diverted back to more information on this flight. As I read it, I text mom to ask her opinion, text Eric and danced around in front of the computer like a butterfly. Oh, what do I do? I felt a little bit anxious. I know I don’t need to spend the money. I read detail for detail again! Then it happened! I received yet another incentive taking it down below one hundred dollars! My excitement and freakiness were growing. I hadn’t heard from mom or Eric, tried to call Nick to ensure he wouldn’t be mad at me, no answer. Finally, I pushed that tiny little button to purchase. Then itinerary wouldn’t show until I selected the day. It was bizarre! It turns out everyone was fine with my decision. No one was upset and I was able to ride home with Eric.

However, this situation created a unique thought process. I continually study the law of attraction, the teachings of a wide variety of religions and how it all relates to each of us. This one event is among many. Ask and it shall be given. What about you? Haven’t you had an experience similar to this one?

The reason for the title? Because isn’t it true? Have you ever said, “I want? Or I fear? Or whatever you have said, you watched it come to fruition. Not necessarily about someone else, but you,

As I scribed story after story about my husband’s beautiful family, it was difficult to stay on task. Not because they were dull, but due to the fact everything they spoke came to fruition. “We are going to get married. We are moving out of this trailer, into a new home. We are moving to the country. We are moving to Hawaii!”

(Just to provide you with a small synopsis so you can follow along.)

But truly these two teenagers were destined for failure if they based their future on the past. They didn’t come from a great deal of money and they were young and dumb.

I can add to their list from above, ten times or more. They may have had some rough times, but both of them would refer back to, “How good they had it and how fabulous their lives are now.”

They spoke it and it evolved. I am not so powerful as to snap my fingers or say abracadabra, however, it is true- speak it and speak it enough and it will appear.

I know I seem to say it over and over again, I can’t help it, “Live life, ask for what you want, enjoy each other and Be Happy!!!!”

 

God Bless

 

Livelove

&

Carryon

 

Bring it on…

As the questions of: How am I going to pull all this together? Will people want to come to our workshops? How? What? When? Why am I super nervous? I keep responding with, “Bring it on!!!!!”

You know the right path or the least resistance path (Abraham-Hicks) is the one you are on when you feel it! You feel the fear, but it doesn’t overwhelm you. You feel the terrifying what ifs? However, they disappear quickly. Do I continue to step back a couple of steps, tilt my head, view the steps and think OMG, maybe I am wrong? OF COURSE!

Yesterday, I told one of my executives, who I wouldn’t make it with out, maybe I should go back to a J.O.B. As I wallowed in my silly fears. (Jack Cannefield- False, Evidence, Appearing, Real).

Then it happens! I will schedule several steps to accomplish, bringing us one step closer to providing the world happy thoughts, happy life, happy feelings. (Now that is a great deal of happy). Once, I begin my process each morning, someone essential to our growth will call, email or I meet someone while I am out! This doesn’t happen every now and then, it happens each time. It is amazing how that happens.

As I read and study some portions of my favorite authors, the messages are clear. Brian Tracy explains if you don’t set a goal you wont achieve it. Jack Cannefield discusses leaving blame out of the equation and look forward. Zig Ziglar talks about being careful to not get cooked in the squat, like his mother’s biscuits. Dale Carnegie focuses on how to be the best in the business, I love all of his teachings, but I prefer to say, your best not the best (with the switch of wording we can focus on our own growth, which will leave anyone else’s growth out of the equation).  What about one of my favorites, Wallace D. Waddles his book- The Science of Getting Rich. Waddles discusses the thinking stuff, if and when you think it and visualize it, things form from thoughts. Just to name a few of my favorites.

Life is amazing! When you begin to take care of you, everyone and everything else will fall into place. Will you have doubt and fear? YES, but only you can decide what fear and doubt you choose to keep! ONLY YOU! Isn’t that crazy it all boils down to you? In this fact, me.

I say, “FEAR and DOUBT step aside. I have a message to share. It is a lifetime of studying, gathering and depicting what you need to hear. Therefore, BRING IT ON!!!!!!!! I am excited for the new adventures and although I have fleeting moments of doubt they disappear almost as soon as they appear!”

You are wonderful. Decide today to feel your way throughout the day! If you want to take a nap, find a way to take a nap. Look for the good feeling path and although the more resistant path will appear, choose the one that is more fun! They will both take you to your end result, one just hurts a great deal more.

God Bless

I can’t wait to see you at one of our ‘Happy Workshops’ We are going to have So much FUN, FUN, FUN!!!!!!!!

Livelove

&

Carryon

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Livelove is…

As we work on going live and worldwide, with Livelove, I have become enamored with what it is, what our company will bring to you and all of my lifelong dreams, becoming reality, I am speechless. It has been a long time coming and hopefully this little blog will provide you with some insight on the how’s, why’s and whatever else you need/want to know.

What is Livelove? Livelove is a company that began as a vision in my head, many years ago. I am talking YEARS! However, the organization, LLC and legal aspects have been this year and we plan to have our first public launch the first of December 2017!!! “Okay, Teena, what is it?”

Livelove is a company that has the soul purpose of helping others find their own happiness! In a nut shell! Yes, it is true I now realize from the first let down in my life, to the beginning of a lifetime of triumphs, my life has brought me to this fantastic point.

My lifetime partner continues to ask me, “What are you offering companies or what does your company have to offer in business expertise?”

Although, I appear to become aggitated with his million questions, I do realize he is only trying to make me think! Also, he is almost always right, but please do not tell him I said that!

What does Livelove offer? I have written the intro at least fifty times. I, being a passionate writer, I struggle with being too wordy or descriptive. Therefore, here I go again! Our company has what YOU, YOUR ORGANIZATION, YOU-as an employer, employee, YOU-AS religious/faith based, YOU- as an entrepreneur, YOU- as a lover, mother/father and friend; the much needed tools to find, keep and live your own happiness for the rest of your days!!! http://www.Livelovllc.org

What?!?!?! Yes, it is true! In actuality anyone and anywhere in the world can and will benefit, if you choose, from Livelove!

We are creating a 2018 calendar, right now, on where we will be throughout the country. Our workshops…will improve your skills in personal and business relationships, increase your sales, help you grow your business and have fun while you are doing it. You know what that means? Help you increase your income!!!! That would be nice, wouldn’t it?

I do not want this to sound like an advertisement, remember I love my readers and only want to share with you because I do love you!

HOWEVER, the vibration of complete and total excitement could almost make these words jump off this blog and come to life.

Sooo, Livelove has workshops to offer that are fun, exciting and life changing. Still doesn’t help my husband, hee hee! Or does it? You see, this began way back when I was Physical Fit Flower the Clown! Or did it begin with my years of being top sales representative? Or was it? It doesn’t matter!!!

Livelove is what your company wants to improve the lives of your co-workers, lead managers, sales reps., business managers and even investors! Once they have had a glimpse of living in this manner life at work will never be the same! (Much better).

Okay, now you know, kind of what our company is about! You might ask, “But, is that it? You offer workshops? You do realize as businesses, we have a plethora of speakers and services to choose from, that have the same claim?” (Yes, this is true, which is fine! Let me know about them, we might hire them very soon!)

Livelove is evolving to much more than my tiny little thoughts, visions, or dreams. We are a company that is here to help you, “Livelove & Carry On!” With an adorable logo, letterhead, and soon to be Live website (by RDT services), our company is almost complete! But trust me it hasnt been snap and all this business is open, but that topi. Is another blog.

In addition to our own workshops in 2018, your company hiring us to provide you with a workshop; we offer happy coaching, advertising (for you) and products for you to purchase.

Happy Coaching, may sound cliche, but It stuck! No matter how many times my associates and I discussed it, the title ‘Happy Coaching’ kept coming up!

This type of coaching is just what the name is! It is a more personalized, extension of our workshops. It has improved the lives of many, already!!! Our plan is to continually expand and improve this program. My only negative about this section is the space will be limited, until I can train and hire more coaches. However, I never fear those downfalls because I know those people will appear on a need by need bases!

The benefits of this coaching is not to relive all the crud you have been through and investigate why! Rather it is to find your inner peace, love, joy and happiness! Best of all it is individually created to work with your thoughts and emotions, not a cookie cutter mentality of what works best for one is for all.

As for shopping…at this moment, you can purchase my book however, all of our products we offer will be carefully chosen to ensure it enhances your life in one way or another. For example: (before Christmas) we will have pink (especially made for us) foam/soap balls. We also have several authors/new books or information to feature and much much more.

The most important information you need to know about our Livelove shop, is it will vary all the time and it is products for You ( to enrich your life).

As you know when I am writing all time stands still. However, life does not.

Therefore, as we evolve and grow, keep following so you can help us help you very soon!

Thank you to my family, friends, Bridging the Gap Productions, RDT Business Solutions and you the special most dear to my heart READER! Thank you for allowing me to spill my inner thoughts, for your much needed support and for all your love!!! God bless!

Livelove & Carry On (it’s our new slogan, like it?)

Sad moments will pass too

As moments or fun times come to an end everyone feels a little bit of a let down. At least I do. After vacation I always have a few moments of- I want to return to no stress, dancing and relaxing. However, I have learned that the closing of one chapter, means an opening to a brand new chapter.

New adventures, new destinations, fun times and the creation of new memories!

I sometimes feel like a broken record when I write over and over again. However, my statements are true. If you will wait just a few moments, this too will pass. When you are sad, take time to ask yourself, “Why am I sad?”

Next, allow yourself to be just that, sad. Not to a level of depression, where all you focus on is the sad state of mind you are in, but rather just a little cry, maybe a snack and a popcorn night. The point is allow yourself to feel the emotional attachment to whatever you are feeling down about.

Buttttttt.. set a time for when you are going to be over it. For example: When my daughter, son and Mark left today, I will admit I cried and felt a little lost for a moment. I have just felt a little bla all day. However, tomorrow morning is a new day!

I have set my time to begin a new day tomorrow. I found something to be excited about. In one week we will be heading to Nashville for a bash for Ashby’s 21. My website is in ffw because Rhian is amazing and many other events are evolving.

Could I continue to be sad and think of what is? Absolutely! I could take this small emotion and let it carry over into multiple days and even weeks or months.

Why? Why would I do that? Why? Why would you do that? I am sure some of you reading this could provide me with a long list of whys, how’s, shoulds, could and woulds.

Please read this carefully! It’s okay how long you choose to grieve, be depressed and focus in what is! However, it’s your responsibility to understand the entire world will not stop for a long time to help you pull yourself back together.

As one of my dear friends, who has buried two of their children, explained, “When you suffer a loss so great, which any loss is great, it’s only you who can decide what to do with your life. If I wanted to remember theirs deaths I would/could. But I chose to focus on their lives and create a life surrounded around doing good for others, in their names.”

Life is short. We all have, days and moments where we feel irritable, angry or simply sad. As Jack Cannefield explains, “Event + Reaction = Outcome.”

Please, as our country appears to have so many negatives and the world seems to have taken a nightmare pill, I beg of you to find the good in all situations and focus your energy on just that. Yes, there is always a time for everything! A time to mourn, a time to laugh, a time to pray and a time for cry. But if you want to be part of the solution and not yet another meaningless contribution to more fear being instilled in us, then begin today! Find the happiness in your heart, in your home, in your world! There is goodness all around you, how? Take time to focus in on the good in all situations. Listen to what you speak, does it illuminate the ‘bad’? Does it provide goodness to anyone? Does it create a happy feeling in your soul? If your last two answers were no, please take this message and utilize it.

Not trying to sound preachy or even demanding, I simply want you to understand how much you really do make a difference. You choose is your impact or legacy involving a positive and happy change in your life as well as those around you? If yes, then hooray, keep up the good vibrations. If not, then if not now? When? You choose!

If you are struggling with anything right now, I want you to know I just sent you a great amount of ‘Happy energy’ , it may feel a bit strange at first, but take the feeling and enjoy! That energy was attached yo this reading, just for you. Feel the cool breeze, feel the refreshing thoughts of feeling terrific. Smile really big and now accept your gift!

The song Ooooooo child things are gonna get easier… continues to play in my head as I read, edit and reread this post. It’s true hang on just a little longer it’s going to get better!!!

God Bless!

Livelove

I think I can; I know I can…

Most people have read the Little Engine that could. I know, I would even refer to it while educating eighth graders or teaching sales associates, how to reach their personal quota. However, this past weekend, my experience, cleared the muddy waters or concepts behind this fabulous story!

You see, anytime I was coaching I would say look at the end result and go for that finish line. Which is one hundred percent normal for a coach. As we timed each runner in their event we would refer to their ending time and ask, can you beat that? After all, Track is all about who crosses that finish line first. I would run as fast as I could and cheer, “I think you can, I think you can…Come On You can do it, just look at that finish line, it is right there!!! (Ending with) I know you can! I know you can!”

Exasperated, I would check with John or Dad, for time and let them know where they were and where they needed to be! Does this sound normal to you? Of course it does as a coach you are to bring them up to their best potential and motivate them to complete the task, improve upon the last one and visualize the positive results is your job. However, if I chose to do that type of coaching again I would reverse their thoughts and my technique.

Why? You ask? Becuase although we had several qualify and attend state, once we arrived the goal or end result became overwhelming and several of them struggled.

Back to My lesson and then you will understand. As Eric and I rode bicycles, we would come upon some steep hills. He would shift down to second or even first gear and ride like the wind. (Of course he was demonstrating how necessary it is for me to have gears) Me, on the other hand, would begin pushing, panting, standing up and usually stop mid hill, exhausted. Though, I will say, I never walked and pushed my bike. Instead, I would look right in front of me about two feet and begin pedaling.

Pedaling, pedaling, pedaling slowly sometimes almost coming to a complete stop! Wobbling back and forth…hang on! I would say you can do this, you can do this.

My pep talk or phrase to myself became almost like a cheer/chant/song I would say out loud.

“You already know the end, all you have to see is, two feet & your free!”

I know that seems weird, but in the midst of the struggle it became, “2 feet in front of me is all you gotta see.”

Over and over again I would chant/cheer, “Two feet in front of me is all I gotta see… (push the pedals with all my might) Two feet in front of me is all I gotta see… (again, but a little louder)…Two feet in front of me is all I gotta see!”

I tested it time and time again. We would approach a hill and if I would ride, starring at the top; I NEVER MADE IT, without stopping! However, if I glanced at the top (or end result) I would take a snap shot of the path, quickly glance where others could be, ensure I could avoid any Big surprises and proceed. (All of that preparing was not a strict plan it was just a glance. So if I had to veer off the path, I would still arrive at my final deatination)

Next, I would look two feet ahead of me, glance behind me and take off!!! Push with the right, then the left. Breathe…inhale, exhale, inhale exhale. Focus on your breathing, Teena. And when I thought I couldn’t go anymore, I wasn’t strong enough, I would push even harder and cheer, “Two feet in front of me is all I gotta see!”(again)

“Two feet in front of me is all I gotta see…two feet in front of me is all I gotta see!”

Sometimes I would throw in the full mantra, but mostly I just concentrated on turning the wheels two times and moving two feet.

Isn’t this true in everything we do! I never understood why @The Little Engine that Could, began with, “I think I can.”

I do now! If he had looked at the end result the entire time he might not have made it to the the toys, on the other side of the mountain. Instead he began with just right then, right where he was at that time. He didn’t transition to, I know I can, until he had reached at least one major hurdle and enjoyed the journey along the way.

Anything you want to do big or small! Know the end result or goal, feel it for a split second. Then begin to take one step, then the next. You do not want to miss the delicious journey along the way, so you can bask in the glorious warmth and good feeling at the top.

Back to track. I love track as a sport! Because it focuses your brain to improve you for your own personal record. If you are a coach try not to focus on the end quite as much, but rather visualize the end and improve by only seeing two feet ahead, two days, two hours, or even two seconds!

You can get thru, accomplish or achieve anything you want! If you are depressed, struggling with addiction or just wanting to pedal to the top of a hill, you can do it! The key is to see it and break it down into smaller, manageable pieces!

God Bless!

Livelove