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Cat Litter & Relationships

How can cat litter and relationships be compared? If you are having trouble in your relationship, at this time, you do not want to miss this message.

Is your partner driving you crazy? Do you wonder why you even try? One thing is for certain if you are struggling…You are living in the Cat Litter Box with generic litter. You know the kind that does not cover up any of the smell and generic toilet paper is more absorbent than this bunch of rocks, you attempted to save a dollar bill on. (Pause…Take a big whiff, inhale, and smell the nasty litter you are using that is ineffective).

Living in the cat litter box with your partner is disgusting. It means that you take a poo, half way cover it up, allow them to do the same, and your smelly dance is never-ending. 

For example: If you are struggling in your relationship say out loud ‘why’ you feel the way you do.

Did you hear your fears from the past come out? Do you realize most of what you said is no different from cat poo in the box? It happens, it will stay there until it is cleaned up, and it smells to high heaven, until it is bagged and disposed of.

Most arguments involve words like: should, could, would, wish, why did you, what if (which is asked due to their or your paradigm= past), how could you and the past continues to take over the future. 

“You are living in the past or holding your significant other to yesterday. Yet expecting them to not return the favor.”

That’s just like standing in a cat litter box taking a poop, your partner doing the same, although it is covered, you keep digging it up, and smelling the disgusting aroma. 

When in reality once the poop is there the choices are inevitable 1. Enjoy the aroma. Or 2. Clean it out by bagging it, tying the top to seal it and disposing of the evidence.

Does this mean it never happened? Come on we all know sh*t happens. But do we want to continue to dig it back up? Is a better question. 

Are you and your partner living in the cat litter together? Worse yet, have you decided to be cheap and using the kind that never gets rid of the smell? 

Recognize what you are doing, decide what or how the significant other could fix your emotions (not that they can, this is only to recognize why you are feeling so irritable with them), and make a good decision for you both.

It is not about the solution, it is about getting out of the disgusting cat liter box!

My greatest hope is you get a little laugh and a lot of relief. You are awesome and worthy of feeling good! 

Sending you LOTS of LOVE!

God loves you.

Living in the past can always be compared to poo. The past happens, but do you want to continue to live then? When you can decide today to feel and smell better? 

Livelove.teena@gmail.com a message for you if you need it. 

Thank you for reading.

As always:

Livelove

&

Carry On!

Written by: Teena Drake

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Why do you do what you do, Boo Boo?

As I listen to this beautiful musical arrangement @Music Choice the questions roll through my head. Who is this musician and why does she do what she does? Why does she create beautiful music, with no vocals? For the sole purpose of acquiring fame and fortune?

Why are you angry with your adult child? What did he/she do or say to provoke your anger? He dropped out of college? How silly would you feel if you lost him/her and they weren’t there for you to be angry with?

Why do you get up and go to work each day? Just because you are paid? Or is there more to it, than that?

As I bounced from person to person in pursuit of this ever so demanding question, I finally received a small light of hope. When I asked this beautiful lady she replied with my first answer…

“Teena, why would you ask such a terrible question? Have you ever thought, many do not know why they do what they do?”

Let me ask you, “Why do you do what you do, Boo Boo? Do you know? Have you analyzed your emotions to answer this simple yet complex question? Isn’t it important for you to understand WHY?”

So if:

Work=Pay, Pay+Pd bills=Comfort, Comfort=Shelter+Nourishment

Anger=Fear, Fear+Resistance= Anger, Anger=Fear+Fear

The answer to: Why do you do what you do, Boo Boo? Is…

To accomplish the universal goal! What is the Universal Goal? To Better!

Think about that until next time…

Why do you do what you do, Boo Boo? to feel better, do better, to BETTER!

Next Topic is The Universal Goal! I can’t wait for you to read it. It will ignite your life! But if until then or anytime you need a little extra help email me…Livelove.teena@gmail.com

It might be time for you to receive the coaching necessary to LIVE the life you always wanted. To feel the best you have ever felt and most importantly…

Livelove

&

Carry On

Written by: Teena Drake

God Bless Each Of You!!! Sending you great love!

 

 

K.I.S.S. Life

Keep, it, simple, silly! What? Yes, keep your life simple.

At this very moment I deleted an entire blog posting, explaining K.I.S.S. and how important it is. Then I realized you don’t have time to read all my lengthy explainations! Therefore…I am going to show you how to K.I.S.S. you life!

Scenario: You are experiencing sadness, a loss, a focus on what is. Basically, life to you, at this moment FEELS UGH! Whatever the circumstances are, you just can’t quit thinking about all the crud, going on right at this time.

Change your thoughts! 

Thank you, We are done here! 

Okay, I am joking. I realize how difficult life can seem, at times. I also realize it doesn’t work to continuously think about the ‘it’ you are concerned about.

(Definition of the IT- lover, kids, step-children, ex-partner, cars, jobs. In adult worlds the three hot topics are MONEY, WEIGHT or Body appearance, and LOVE.  A Kid’s world is similar, but they seem to change their perspective, much quicker)

How then do we fight this feeling of depression, sadness and/or Ughness?

Try this:

Without doing anything else…

Right at this moment…

Think of TEN of the silliest words, nonrelated to your It, and be as crazy and random as you want! Have FUN!!!!!

Let’s try this together…

You begin to tell me all your ‘stuff’ or how frustrated, sad, irritated, lonely, depressed, broke, unhappy or however else you feel.

Bubble Butt, pink poop, grasshopper slime, slurpy, hairy balloons (hahahah you thought I would say b_lls), frolicking, freaky, green burps, blurple!

Example: You as of this moment, “I cried all night because he said… (I am abruptly intterupting, hypothetically)

Pink Poop!” (Pause) You giggle…

You, “I just can’t believe someone would do this to me…”

Bubble Butt

Come on you are LAUGHING! Admit it!

Go ahead… Read or say the list out loud. Yes, out loud! Yes, while discussing all your crud or your IT! Do IT.

After you have stopped laughing. Do you feel better? Did your problem go away? NO, but it will. Because we know, “This too shall pass.”

It may seem to simple, but if you were to truly step back and analyze your life from this age and back, do you remember the difficult times? Of course you do. Do you remember feeling like you would NEVER GET THROUGH THIS? Of course you do! But you did!

You made it, You aren’t sure how, but you DID IT. Now reflect back…did worrying, crying and feeling UGH for a long period of time assist you in any way? Of course it didn’t. It only caused you more harm and you probably became sick, if you prolonged the worrying!

I realize LIFE can be tough at times. However, I have learned the more you K.I.S.S It the much easier, even the tough times, can be!

You are LOVED!

Livelove

&

Carry On

Need a little extra help, but not sure you need a psych evaluation? 

Or is it your child? Who needs a little extra help or tutoring?

Whatever your circumstances are we can help! 

Livelove.teena@gmail.com for more information on finding the BEST Life Coach for you!

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Both of my granddogs are featured here to remind us to enjoy the simple pleasures of life…Mmmmmm sure does smell good!

 

California? Again?

As I begin to unpack my daughter in California, once again, I reflect on my past experiences. A time when I questioned everything. Was I making the ‘right’ decision? What if…? The questions would race through my head. My fears were overwhelming. Should I allow her to follow her dreams at such a young age? What about her safety? What about my other daughter, who willingly volunteered, to be her guardian? Could she handle this gigantic move and undertaking? You see, my daughter had been signed by an agent and was asked to move to Los Angeles California, at the age of 17. We were estatic! The hometown circumstances, let’s just say, weren’t the best for Ashby, at the time. However, could my girls survive in LA??? They were raised in a small little Kentucky town and Ashby was still in high school. Darion had moved to Nashville at the age of 18, but I could drive there in four hours. And I spent almost 6 months of weekends in Nashville! Once the decision was made we took off driving across the country. That was four years ago and here I am again! She is now 21 and although I knew this day would come, it doesn’t make it any easier!!! After her last adventures, I knew she would return home. Back to California. It hasn’t been any easier, but it is rewarding to know she is where she wants to be. My brain will continue to race and question, “Am I making the correct decisions, as a parent.” However, all I want for my children is for them to follow their bliss. And that is what she is doing. You know I can remember thinking I wouldn’t survive, the last time. Yet, here I am four years later. If you are struggling with anything in your life, right now. Please, remember you are loved and if you can pause briefly…I promise, “This too shall pass!” God Bless Livelove & Carryon Www.livelovellc.org/home Livelove.teena@gmail.com Need some help with a situation in your life? Email me, I would love to hear from you!