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And then 8 more are taken from us! I wept and wept as I read the headlines of May 18, 2018

I must admit around 7:00 A.M. this morning I was being quite a brat! Complaining about the ‘lack’ of money to do some things I want to do. Then my flight arrangements became more hassle than it was worth. The low budget airplane company wouldn’t let me cancel my flight even with trip insurance, I bought from them! I was on a rampage! I was about to lose money and that makes me mad! I proceeded to my ‘complimentary’ breakfast in our hotel and continued to express my bitchy attitude with one of my favorite servers.

She was just as upset as me, that I was losing two hundred dollars! She said, “I would fight that girl. You know that is wrong!!!”

I shook my head in agreement and as I began to add the gooshy details to my sob story, a lady asked her for some more muffins. I bit a piece of bacon off and with a half-full mouth, nodded my head, and mouthed, “I will talk to you later.” 

The outside eating area was a bit chilly so I nestled in a corner seat, with a big cushion to prop behind my lumbar. As I ate my delightful breakfast full of all the ‘fixins’ I glanced up at the television to see what Trump or some other politician had to say today. I read 8 DEAD, School Shooting…again and again, it scrolled across the bottom of the screen. There were people all around me talking and laughing, some were even telling, what they were reading on the television, out loud to someone on a cell phone!

The room began to spin. Was I having a sugar attack? Was I being silly? My next emotion overwhelmed me as one tear fell on my plate, another, and then yet another. Within minutes it seemed to be a flood of tears. Drip, Drip, Drop, Drop, they bounced off my plate. 

I know it is wrong to judge others, but as I sobbed and sobbed, for a fleeting moment, I wondered why I was the only one who was sobbing over the report of Eight Dead, School Shooting. But in reality, this has become American’s reality. Are we becoming cold to the Headlines? It would be simple to do…as much negativity is reported on a daily basis. 

I rapidly began to read the sub-titles to ensure they had captured the shooter. No report! Come on at least let us know it is stopped. Still nothing! 

It didn’t matter anyway…we lost 8 more and at least 1 shooter which makes it nine too many. Where do we go from here? People around the world, citizens of the U.S. all citizens…Where do we go from here? We must find a way to begin focusing on the good in others and ourselves. Why can’t you be celebrated for your goodness? We all have it, we just don’t all recognize it. 

My heart hurts for the entire student body, faculty, and families who have had to endure such a terrible tragedy. Please know that my mission is to spread the awesome possibilities of mental healthy vs. mental filthy. 

I am unsure of the entire big picture of how I or my company can accomplish what we have set forth before us. However, each time I feel like giving up, throwing in the towel, and getting what others say is a ‘real’ job…something drastic such as this happens.

AND at that very MOMENT…I am reminded! Why I started this company, what were my thoughts and visions? What was at least 1 end in mind that I might have had? 

Oh yeah! LiveLove LLC plans to “Change the World, with ONE HAPPY THOUGHT at a TIME!” 

How? Hmmmm posting more blogs to make you think? Publish a book will be out soon, Professionally Motivational Speak at events, Life ‘Happy’ Coaching, and tell everyone I meet, “You deserve to be happy!”

If you do nothing else to assist us in our mission do me one favor…find a child of any age and tell him or her something good you see in them. Anything! 

If you are a parent struggling with an out of control child…listen to your vocabulary. Have you said anything nice to this child who continues to cause you grief? Or are your words always referring back to the many yesterdays of negative emotions he or she created? If you are so hurt that you find yourself going back down the dirt road of despair…pause and appreciate that you still have your child to be frustrated with. Recognize how much you do appreciate and admire about them and tell them. 

Please, we all need each other. We need to know that taking someone else’s life isn’t going to make them feel better. Nor is hurting someone else. We must educate our youth how precious they each mean to our future. How important their opinion, creative ideas, and sense of improvement is to our future societies? 

“I beg of our country to stop this nonsense and begin to focus on the good in all people. The world is your mirror your life is its reflection. It is up to you and me to do WHATEVER it takes to educate our world, ‘life is meant to be lived as Happy as Can BE’!” 

My theory is if I am happy, you, you, you, and EVEN YOU…are happy we have a bright little corner when we stand together. Then you add ten more happy ones with your infectious HAPPY thoughts then we now have forty or more Happies…standing together. Can you see how illuminated this becomes? 

Come Along with me on the Happy Trail! Tell ONE Person today a happy thought. Then try it again but add two more tomorrow. It becomes fun and before long our silly issues like…our son not continuing with college or our daughter didn’t get the highest honorary award. Or your teenager gets pregnant, fails a class, is disrespectful whatever may be going on today will not feel as painful tomorrow. 

We are sending you great love! All of you! To our Texas friends, we are sending the greatest love filled with as many happy thoughts as we can find. Through our struggles we find determination…Teena Drake. 

God Bless Each of You! 

If you need a little extra help coping with those ‘valleys’ in life email us Livelove.teena@gmail.com  Our promise is to find you the best life coach to assist you in finding a better you. 

As always…at LiveLove LLC we encourage you to-

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Carry On! 

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Happy Coaching 101 (day four) tbc…

Yesterday, I left you hanging because you received exactly the information, I received when I told this nice (strange, to me at the time) lady her first Happy message.

At first it was the usual, I send the message and no response. I messaged her the next day and said, “Are you okay? Do you want to continue your coaching?”

Normally, I do not feel the need to have a response, but for some reason my confidence was way down, due to the circumstances. You see, after she told me about her loss, I questioned, is their happiness after losing a child or your husband? I wasn’t sure and nor did I want to find out. Therefore, like many others I chose to not talk about those horrific events or possibilities. God had a different plan!

Please note that my first response, when she requested Happy Coaching, was No. I am not sure this is what you need! Why? Because after she told me her circumstances I was pretty sure a grieving counselor would be best. However, she sternly insisted and explained, “I have already done all of the counseling, I am going to do. I wish to receive your services.”

Now for her first response to the message. After sending it I heard nothing for about twenty four hours. The next day was rapidly ending when I receive a text that said, “NO.’

“No? What? No you do not want to continue? No you won’t create the map? No you won’t take the imaginary eraser and erase your pain? What is the No for,” I asked.

I received nothing for another twenty four hours. Then this is the explaination…”No, I will not erase anything! No, I do not want to discontinue the coaching! No, I do not want to share, but did create it.”

Okay? I thought. Then I sent the next message:

I am glad you chose to not erase all the tears, pain and hurt you have had in your life. Now it is time to create the next portion of your life map. What you want or desire? The past map was for you to recognize that you have had some fun life experiences and to see how many skills you have developed. The imaginary eraser was for you to delete the pain. However you quickly realized erasing those down times, you would be erasing the good as well because no matter what, there will always be ups and downs. But to erase the pain is to also erase the life with your child and husband and although losing them was terrible and hurt dearly, you would not have wanted to miss being with them on this journey. Enjoy, creating the life you want to lead. What does a typical day look like? Where do you want to live? Do NOT hold back allow the freedom of your imagination.

Please note, I know how difficult it must be, to focus on the future with all your loss, but this is one portion of our steps to finding your own happiness. That is to recognize the past has brought you to this point and no matter what you nor anyone else can change it. However, it is up to you to decide how you incorporate your paradigm, into your future. The main goal is to NOT live in the past, learn from it, enjoy the good parts and now only focus on the future (end of message).

I learned as much from this lady as she did me. We didn’t talk on the phone, she paid in money orders, and nor did I have her address. Even when I attempted to make excuses or bow out (due to being unsure I could help her) she would insist and deliver me a message.

From what I have learned is everyone suffers at one point in their life. Whether it be losing a child, divorce, death, drugs suicide, accidents, job loss, illness and much more. Everyone is on their own path and we all handle circumstances differently. However, one thing is for sure…Happiness is a choice. You can choose to mourn for the rest of your days and highlight the catastrophes. Or you can choose to live for the next great adventure and highlight the accomplishments.

On a personal note…I have had some of my dear friends suffer great losses and I am super sorry for that. My only hope is for you to remember and illuminate the GOOD in those loved ones you have burried. Try not to focus on their absence as much as their triumphs. My dear friend, who lost her son to a deadly illness always told me, I don’t want him to be known for his illness, death or his name to be emotionally attached to sadness or despair. Rather, she wants him to be known for his life, accomplishments, and his kindness he brought to the world. Wow! I must say that is a phenomenal desire and wouldn’t our loved ones be so happy to know, we are celebrating them?

God Bless!

Until we meet again my friends, your legacy will live on.

Livelove

&

Carryon

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