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Do you wake up happy?

How do you wake up every morning? Are you constantly sleeping through the alarm, yelling at your children to get ready? By the time you arrive at work, are you ready for a break? You might be sufferering from a simple issue Livelove likes to call, the what-if-itis.

You are probably not sleeping well, if all the what ifs or whatifitis is filling your mind. However, this is not conducive to a good nights sleep or a ‘happy’ morning. Not to mention the rest of your life.

The suffix itis is defined as a disease characterized by inflammation. Such as arthritis, tendinitis, bronchitis and of course whatifitis. (www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary) Affects of this disease or inflammation of creating whatif scenarios are swelling of the brain, which leads to inflammation of the heart, stomache and anything else you feel a bit of pain from, upon waking up.

If the above paragraphs resonate with you, we have some quick and easy tips to help. These tricks will assist you with sleeping peacefully and learn to wake up ‘happy’.

Let us begin with the evening before. Thirty minutes before you lay your head down,,,

  • Turn off or put away all electronics.
  • Write down anything you are worrying about. (children, ballgames, work, anything that is weighing heavy on youd mind)
  • Fold the paper in half, on the back write– Whatever will be, will be best for me.
  • Next leave all your worries on the kitchen table, written down. I promise they will still be there in the morning. However, after a goodnights sleep, they will not be as prominent, as they would be if you contemplated them all night.
  • As you lay down begin to list everything you are grateful for.
    • I love my bed
    • Grateful to be laying down in a home with controlled temperatures
    • Grateful for food
    • Grateful for my health
  • Make this fun…you can be grateful for silly items, sleep, your hair, ect…it doesn’t matter what you are grateful for, keep listing.
  • Last but definetly not least…As you lay your head to rest and close your eyes take a few minutes to congratulate and compliment yourself. (This step comes easier with time, you will eventually find reasons to pat yourself on the back, but at first it feels a little uncomfortable)

I have even congratulated myself for not losing my temper. Or for gritting my teeth and holding my toungue, when someone said something that ticked me off. Be light hearted, no matter what, YOU, have accomplished something terrific today! Even if it was getting out of bed and feeding your pets.

As for the waking up part, this procedure is much simplier when healing from whatifitis. Before you climbed out of bed, begin the same procedure of listing all the simple pleasures, you are grateful for. This doesn’t need to be as lengthy as your night time list.

While you are preparing for the day find a saying to uplift and create a happy emotion. This sets your day with a vibration of, YES I CAN.

Here are some I have utilized throughout my time of whatifitis, everyone suffers from this inflammation, at times in their lives. The most important part is it doesn’t last for weeks on end.

  • Whatever will be, is best for me.
  • I think I can, I think I can…I know I can, I know I can. (Yes, it is from the Little Engine that Could)
  • Mirror talks…You are amazing, You are worthy, You, my friend, are awesome!
  • My favorite saying is, “I feel terrific!” This is a quote I learned from Brian Tracy, personal development guru. When faced with adversity, even in the midst of it, I will say, “I feel Terrific!” It feels wonderful. Resets your entire demeanor.
  • Try it, right now…while reading this say, “I feel Terrific!” Do again and again, until you feel better. It works everytime.

Do you wake up happy? If you are waking up stressed and miserable, maybe it is time for you to shut down, unplug and have an attitude with gratitude! Life can be fun, expect the best and the rest will take care of itself.

God Bless! Do you wake up happy?




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Happy Coaching 101 continues, even when I don’t feel inspirational…thank goodness!

This next message I am sharing with you is for one of the sweetest young ladies I know. She is an inspiration to me on a daily basis!

As I was meditating, I continued to ask for much needed personal guidance. Because the past few days I felt a bit sad and stuck. My fears (false evidence appearing real, Jack Cannefiled) continued to show up. I was worried about money, my business, my goals and dreams.

The more I focused on my own issues, the more this sweet little message for Ashley, persisted! I finally gave up! “Okay, what does Ashley need to hear?” I asked in an irritable manner.

Once I wrote it down, tears filled my eyes. One by one streamed down my face, as I read word for word.

I told her I was sending it on, but I read it one more time. And Poof, out of no where, I received my own messages! They were amazing.

One of my messages: Sometimes, the road ahead appears to be difficult. Therfore, take one step at a time. Then if you slip a little off the path, you will have the strength to carry on with the other foot.

So even when you dont feel up for the challenges, life throws at you, it’s okay! Take time to be still, inhale/exhale and listen. You have the answers at your finger tips, you only need to allow yourself to receive them.

Ashley’s message, sent with love…

If you don’t feel stuck how will you celebrate or know what freedom feels like?
If you don’t feel a little hopeless, how will you know how it feels to be filled with hope?
I am with you and guiding you!

It is okay to feel down, it is all a part of the process. However, the best part is when in the valley (or the trough of a frequency) the next wave is up, up ,up so allow the frequency to move you.

Your next portion is going to move into your life so swiftly and peacefully, it will feel like a swift, warm, refreshing breeze zooming up to the crest or top of the wave! Ride high my dear friend and enjoy.

You have asked and now you shall receive!






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When adversity appears what do you do?

As I prepare for my first experience as Toastmaster, I feel nervous and a bit anxious. The speaking roles are not nearly as scary as being the Organized Leader of the meeting. Eek! ­čśę

I keep telling myself, Breathe…it will be okay.

That is why I am writing, is to ask your opinion. I have set the theme for this week as, “When faced with adversity, what do you do?”

Because everyone experiences adversity in life, it is not a popular discussion, but is a common thread throughout all of mankind.

In a world where leaders, political views, sexual harassment and diversity has a strong presence, overshadowing our similarities and love…What can we do?

What do you do when someone judges, threatens, or violates you? How do you handle these reoccurring ‘life’ events?

Let me know. How do you cope, when you come face to face with adversity?

Help us, learn from you. Leave a comment below or email me at Livelove.teena@gmail.com.


There is no greater or less than, when it comes to you…

As ‘life’ seems to happen around us, many people like to compare stories or talk about the issues. However, there is no comparisons between your story and theirs.

Of course we are all connected and as humans, we can all FEEL empathy or sympathy depending on our similar incidents.

But…everyone has moments of being depressed, sad, hurt, lost and disappointed. I can remember the day, my son explained that pointing out all the reasons someone should be grateful, isn’t always the best feeling emotion for someone suffering. I questioned why or why not, it always seemed to work for me. Highlighting all the reasons I should be grateful, how blessed I am and so on.

Nick explained how sometimes those comments are more detrimental to the person.

That was several years ago and to be completely honest, I didn’t truly understand.

Now, I do!

You see we ALL have moments where life feels overwhelming, too much and disappointing. Those who their stories, are well known and inspire others, but also you and me.

As I wrote and rewrote my speech for the area contest @Earlybirdstoastmasterskc, the days seemed to be zooming by. Closer and closer, my excitement was building and the anticipation of all the exciting opportunities, this club has to offer, was assisting me in working up the best message, I had ever written! Ohhh, if you could only feel my radiating excitement.

Yet, day by day in LA we had to jump one hurdle and then twenty five more or maybe a hundred more! (Okay I am being a bit over dramatic, as Ashby says).

But it is true. I could whine and cry about every little speed bump thrown in front of us, but where would we be then? Instead let me share what I have learned.

This week I had to let go of my first speech competition. It was to be on Monday February 5th. There were no guarantees I would move on to the next level, because our club has intense competition, but I wanted to attempt it, in the worst kind of way!

I had prepared and practiced the entire road trip from Kansas to LA.

As the hurdles popped up, some one at a time, others it seemed like fifty at a time, I began to realize my excitement was about to he turned into disappointment! With all the issues about having Princeton, I quickly realized my trip would be delayed, forcing me to step down from the competition.

Now this may seem silly to anyone else, but I cried and cried! I was disappointed, sad, overwhelmed and a little bit selfish. Most of all I was torn! This was my baby girl and very dear to me granddog. But I also wanted to attempt this competition!

Then my lessons began!!! Everytime I would express my disappointing emotions someone would share on Facebook or tell me about a horrific event. For example in the past month we have lost loved ones to accidents, cancer, flu and suicides. I would cry for them or add to my prayer list.

Yes, my silly little issues seemed trivial after all of that. I have so much to be grateful for, I know that.

Then I realized Nick was correct. Pointing out or minimizing our own disappointments, by comparison, is not fair, to you.

My epiphany was EVERYONE, experiences their own depression and disappointments. And YOURS is just as important as the next one. Because we are all on our own journey and life happens whether we are striving to improve or not.

And MAYBE, JUST MAYBE…this is a key to helping others choose to feel all the emotions, yet not give up.

The key is to allow yourself to feel the negative emotion. Express your feelings of disappointment. (Allow this moment). Do not worry about feeling trivial compared to other people’s issues. I am Not saying dwell on it and/or illuminate the situation, but rather, ALLOW yourself to have a moment of tears.

It is okay!!! There is no greater and less than, when it comes to you and how you feel. Maybe if we begin to allow kids and adults to say, “I feel like giving up.”

We will have less severely depressed or suicides. When I was having a moment of ‘selfish disappointments’ it felt good to allow the sadness, for a moment. It forced me to find solutions, it allowed me to be human, and it reminded me how quickly ANYONE can give up.

It is time we begin to allow our younger generations to know we have all been there. We have all had struggles and let it out. All of it! Say it if you feel it. It’s okay.

No matter how trivial it may be to others. Your disappointments, moments of sadness or maybe your losses are not comparable to others! You are allowed to say it because believe it or not… EVERYONE experiences negative emotions.

My greatest hope is…this post will help one person to choose life. If you are not feeling so well about something, say it! And quit worrying about comparing apples, arangatans, and kale spinach. This is YOUR EXPERIENCE! No one elses!






Happy Coaching 101 (Day five)

Last day of my sneak peek of Happy Coaching 101. Don’t forget to catch up and read Monday’s post about this service. It will be time for you to tell me how you think this service would be best utilized. Yes, I need your help on deciding several items in January of 2018. Therefore, if you find yourself feeling the need to comment, provide advice or just want to voice your opinion, Livelove is giving you that opportunity!

Today’s posting is very dear to my heart. This middle age man has battled with drugs, is not allowed to see his family and has been on a multitude of ┬ástreet and prescription drugs, longer than not. I provided this service for free, for him. I will honestly say, his messages are some of my favorites.


It’s time to come out and be the person you are to be! It’s time for you to shine like a brand new coin and give back to society, what you were meant to bring. Your kids need their daddy, the one who adores and cherishes them. A man! A man to be looked up to, who is honest and cares for himself as well as others. You are now to be grateful for your own family who has upheld you, bailed you out numersous times and cried themselves to sleep when you were locked up because they miss and love you.

I am jumping up and down in excitement to watch you grow and evolve to the man you know you already are! You are loved no matter what, unconditionally! Just remember you are also creating a pattern for your children to follow, where do you want them to go? Down your present road or a happier one? You choose.

God Bless






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Trust Yourself…

I am sooo excited to write for you today! I have curled up in the corner of Momma Teena’s Writing Palace, it is super peaceful, quiet and inspiring (at least most of time it is inspiring, sometimes it is so amazing, I stay in a meditative state for a little longer than normal LOL). ┬áSince the conception of Livelove, I have been Happy Coaching a wide variety of people and it has provided me with a multitude of unique perspectives.

One of the ‘messages’ that comes through on a regular basis is, “Trust Yourself!”

When asked, “Do you trust yourself?”

Many respond with a big, ‘N..O!’

To be quite honest this was disturbing to me. I questioned myself over and over again. “Teena, do you trust yourself?”

I truly thought I did! And for the majority of the time I am proud to say, “I trust myself.”

I may not always be perfect, but I know that if, I practice what I preach, trusting one self is a fantastic key factor to being happy- which includes plentiful of all you want.

Let me ask you…are you over weight? over stressed? too pooped to pop? Not feeling fullfilled on a daily basis?

If you were standing in front of me right now, (pause with anticipation) I would…SING to the top of my lungs, to you, “Let it Go! Let it Go! Let IT GOOOOOOOOO!”

You would probably, begin to see me open my mouth, take a huge inhale and just as I belted it out, YOU would RUN!

Therefore, be thankful, I choose to blog this portion, so you can be spared from my loud, off key, inspirational reindition of one my favorite Disney Songs.

However, it is true! Trusting yourself is a key factor to living the life you always wanted! You know–some of you have always battled weight, depression, anxiety, tierdness, financial status, relationships, disease, loss and the list could go on 7 on. Yes, I realize life can be a pain in the butt!

However, PLEASE trust me. Trusting yourself (you are trustworthy), is important.

Let me give you some fun and a quite funny experience to provide you with a clear perspective.

Over the past year, Eric and I had quite a few BIG CHANGES. One of them was he quit smoking (I never thought I would write that, but he did). We moved to a simplier lifestyle and well, to be hilariously honest, we became a bit sedentary. LOL. While in Hawaii we would giggle and tease each other about being a part of the rolly polly team. Yes, we had found ourselves in a bit of a predicament. Not bad, actually it is terrific! But we both like to be in decent shape and so we began to research some weightloss and workout programs. We have laughed and laughed at some of the scams we have come across. Eat this everyday, until it comes out of your nose and then you will do it!

Okay! It was time for us to begin to, ‘trust ourselves.’ We came up with a plan and are tweeking it to fit our needs. I have combined my many years of research, from Scarsdale Diet to Protein Power and now to trusting my brain. Not in punishement style, but rather in happy style.

When you are driving through and grabbing a snack do you ever stop and think, “Am I going to ENJOY this food? Is it going to be fantabulous going down?”

Whatever, it takes for you to TRUST YOURSELF. Not just about weight. Take time to pause in all situations and listen to your natural instinct. Does it feel terrific? Does it feel right, to you? If you have a question or concern, then do some more investigating. If not, then go for it!


You are trustworthy, therefore allow yourself to trust you!




Written by: Momma Teena

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Last day of 2017?

It’s that time of year to reflect, plan, and carry on. As I look back over this past year, I feel like the past 365 days have been 365 years. Have you ever had a year like that?

The first four months I focused on moment by moment and one step, literally, at a time. The next few months were filled with Senior Spring Break, graduation and more transformations.

Although this year has seemed long in some ways, it’s difficult to believe it is over. And yet, it is the last official day of 2017.

What do you do with special days like today? Hopefully, you take time to write all your past accomplishments, this year. Check off the accomplished goals and set some new journeys/goals for 2018.

When you focus on all the ‘good’ you have in your life, it illuminates you and lifts you up, to be in line for more good.

One of my favorite rituals is to scan through ALL of my pictures for the year. On my phone, Facebook or anywhere else I can find ‘snap shots’ of the year.

The most important action you can take today, is being grateful. Yes, as you review over the past, there will be some irritating conversations or events, but if you will tilt your head a different direction, a new perspective will appear.

In other words life isn’t meant to be perfect. However, those imperfections are what assist us in enjoying the Awesomeness of Living! So yes, skim over the low frequency times, remember them (for now), to learn, but don’t try to fix anything from then. IT CAN’T BE FIXED OR CHANGED.

When you stumble across an event that really hurts or bothers you, remind yourself, “I can not change the past. Therefore, I am only going to focus on today and my future.”

Listen up!! If you find yourself down and out…Pause, hold tight this too will pass. I promise, even if it hurts really bad today, tomorrow will be brighter. Look for the good in all situations.

God Bless!