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Sad moments will pass too

As moments or fun times come to an end everyone feels a little bit of a let down. At least I do. After vacation I always have a few moments of- I want to return to no stress, dancing and relaxing. However, I have learned that the closing of one chapter, means an opening to a brand new chapter.

New adventures, new destinations, fun times and the creation of new memories!

I sometimes feel like a broken record when I write over and over again. However, my statements are true. If you will wait just a few moments, this too will pass. When you are sad, take time to ask yourself, “Why am I sad?”

Next, allow yourself to be just that, sad. Not to a level of depression, where all you focus on is the sad state of mind you are in, but rather just a little cry, maybe a snack and a popcorn night. The point is allow yourself to feel the emotional attachment to whatever you are feeling down about.

Buttttttt.. set a time for when you are going to be over it. For example: When my daughter, son and Mark left today, I will admit I cried and felt a little lost for a moment. I have just felt a little bla all day. However, tomorrow morning is a new day!

I have set my time to begin a new day tomorrow. I found something to be excited about. In one week we will be heading to Nashville for a bash for Ashby’s 21. My website is in ffw because Rhian is amazing and many other events are evolving.

Could I continue to be sad and think of what is? Absolutely! I could take this small emotion and let it carry over into multiple days and even weeks or months.

Why? Why would I do that? Why? Why would you do that? I am sure some of you reading this could provide me with a long list of whys, how’s, shoulds, could and woulds.

Please read this carefully! It’s okay how long you choose to grieve, be depressed and focus in what is! However, it’s your responsibility to understand the entire world will not stop for a long time to help you pull yourself back together.

As one of my dear friends, who has buried two of their children, explained, “When you suffer a loss so great, which any loss is great, it’s only you who can decide what to do with your life. If I wanted to remember theirs deaths I would/could. But I chose to focus on their lives and create a life surrounded around doing good for others, in their names.”

Life is short. We all have, days and moments where we feel irritable, angry or simply sad. As Jack Cannefield explains, “Event + Reaction = Outcome.”

Please, as our country appears to have so many negatives and the world seems to have taken a nightmare pill, I beg of you to find the good in all situations and focus your energy on just that. Yes, there is always a time for everything! A time to mourn, a time to laugh, a time to pray and a time for cry. But if you want to be part of the solution and not yet another meaningless contribution to more fear being instilled in us, then begin today! Find the happiness in your heart, in your home, in your world! There is goodness all around you, how? Take time to focus in on the good in all situations. Listen to what you speak, does it illuminate the ‘bad’? Does it provide goodness to anyone? Does it create a happy feeling in your soul? If your last two answers were no, please take this message and utilize it.

Not trying to sound preachy or even demanding, I simply want you to understand how much you really do make a difference. You choose is your impact or legacy involving a positive and happy change in your life as well as those around you? If yes, then hooray, keep up the good vibrations. If not, then if not now? When? You choose!

If you are struggling with anything right now, I want you to know I just sent you a great amount of ‘Happy energy’ , it may feel a bit strange at first, but take the feeling and enjoy! That energy was attached yo this reading, just for you. Feel the cool breeze, feel the refreshing thoughts of feeling terrific. Smile really big and now accept your gift!

The song Ooooooo child things are gonna get easier… continues to play in my head as I read, edit and reread this post. It’s true hang on just a little longer it’s going to get better!!!

God Bless!

Livelove

To my friend in a valley…

You are okay!

Yes! You are okay!

Look up, look up, LOOK UP!

My friend who is looking down…

Look up! Feel the warmth beaming in

The valley is for healing & nurturing

While here, look around & heal

Enjoy your nurturing friends

Bask in the sun like a sleepy cat

Heal, repair and rest

Be grateful for the valley & all it is

Now it is time to LOOK UP!

Your new journey is coming up

Now is your time to plan, heal gather

For the funfilled, scary (at times), road

The road – back up on the crest

Leave your worries in the valley

The nurterers will dispose of them

As you stand up to begin the journey

Inhale & exhale & smile

For it will be fun & as long as

You are following your bliss

Your next valley will not be so deep!

(Notice what punctuation sign is missing?)

All of us will do what we want to do…

When I first heard that statement it was from one of my precious students. Her life, in my eyes, was terrible! She had been in and out of Foster homes, only to end up with family, who were fighting over her and her brother.

I can hear our conversation as clear as if it happened, five minutes ago. We spent several afternoons talking, Sometimes I think she skipped going on field trips because if I wasn’t going she knew we would paint or do some kind a fun lab, where she could research on the computer. Most of the time she would end up coming back to my desk and tell me stories of her horrific past. But never in a devastion manner. It was always the good in almost every situations.

The day she stopped and said, “Mrs. Drake, everyone does what they want to do, they know the possible outcomes and choose what’s best for them.

This was a wrap up from her telling me why she was taken from one of the Foster homes.

As I sat down, tears fell from eyes like a river overflowing, out of her banks. I remember reflecting back through some of her stories.

For example, I asked her, “Why she didn’t tell someone?”

Her response was sharp and she giggled through it which made it a bit comical, she said, “Mrs. Drake when you get a whoopin everytime you opened your mouth, wouldn’t you learn to keep your mouth shut?”

Once again, “We all do what we want to do!”

Good or bad, she was correct. To avoid a whoopin or to avoid a conflict we will always do what we want to do, BUTT! What about in everyday life? Does that statement still apply?

Of course it does! We go to the same old job and hate life creating misery all around us, yet we all do what we want to do! For our good or not so good, we do choose. If you began on a path a long time ago and it abruptly came to an end what would you do you would choose…choose what?

Idk but it will be your choice! And either way if you choose to always see the positive and best, like my friend, your life will continue to improve each day.

If you are in a valley right now, look up. Don’t look down in shame, look up the worst is behind you! You did what you wanted to do! Now you are here and if you will Look Up, you will come out of the valley with great force!

Too powerful of a message to continue…God Bless

LiveloveLLC

Word of the day, Cultivate

While listening to the phenomenal speakers @earlybird toastmasters Overland Park Kansas, the word of the day was, Cultivate! As I chose the word carefully it was not because I had planned on learning such a vast amount from its very existance, but rather out of need. The main title was Embracing Change. I felt like with harvest season upon our farmers and as sales reps run around to meet the fourth quarter’s quota it ‘fit’ the theme of the day.

However, it has become much more over the past twenty four hours. Think about it if you do not cultivate your plants, you will be empty handed, and have nothing at harvest time. Same pertains to businesses, relationships, families and friends. It is an essential to living a wonderful life, yet probably the most missed step in development.

Think about it! Have you or your company, grown by leaps and bounds because you didnt cultivate your environment? Maybe, but it won’t last long. If you do not cultivate your relationships/environment/yourself, you will quickly find yourself without. Without your lively hood and your dreams will swirl out of sight.

That was super sad! Now you can understand why the one word I chose for the day has become a game changer. The more I thought about the word, the more powerful it became!

Yes, you must plant the seed to be able to cultivate it. However, we wouldn’t be discussing this topic if you hadn’t planted the seed. Why? Because if you haven’t found the initiative to get up and plant the seed then you will have nothing in the end, NO MATTER WHAT!!!

Did you follow that? If not it is worth reading it again (I don’t want to type it twice, so go ahead and scroll back up and read it again).

Anywhoooo, here is your new and improved thought of the day, have fun cultivating your life! Don’t struggle with this! It’s time to enjoy going to your career or place of employment. It’s time to feel accomplished and appreciated. You do deserve it and the more you expect it the more you will receive it.

Cultivate with love this week above all else!

God Bless

LiveloveLLC

Wow! What day is it? September 6, 2017…

As I plan my day and decide which is the most important task I look back over my website, that’s when it hit me! What? I haven’t blogged since August something? According to the last post it was August 28th! Oh my!!!! Can I explain my loss of time?

Dogs to vet, kid loses keys to car (all of them), kid goes to college, moved into dorm, moved out of dorm in 8 days (by himself), daughter comes in we enjoy wine festival, dogs back to vet, child has a wreck (totals her car, but thankfully is okay), other children whom have went off to college came to visit, cleaned out one closet/two rooms, continue to sell books, take classes, record coffee talk, became an ordained marriage minister, register as well as define, my new amazing company-Livelove hmmmm….I wonder why I continue to think negatively about my progress. Maybe after writing this I will feel better!

Please, please do not take any of that as complaining because I am not! Instead that list and this moment creates a feeling for me that is so amazing, it’s undescribable! Why? Because I have honestly become an evolving, feeling, understanding, attracting abundance in all avenues of my life human being. Meaning I am enjoying my journey and all that is best for me is here and continues to flow.

Has every day and each moment been butterflies and frolicking in the sunshine? Nope! However, has it been ‘fun’ the majority of the time? Yep!! Yes!! Si!! (I am unsure how many possible ways there are to say yes, but if I could I would type them all!!!) I have had days full of blissful moments, one right after another, yet some days have been filled with ups and downs almost like I was jumping rope, the fluctuations were that rapid.

However, as I sit and write to you, today, I realize how much fun I have had since August 28th. Of course I then continue on a reminiscing spree, but only fun or funny events. The next thing you know I am blogging and sharing with you the answer to our questions about life.

I feel like a broken record, however it’s true! I have spent my entire life searching for the ‘right’ things to do or say to help someone else have a richer, fuller, fun filled life. Some years we entitled these techniques as goal setting. Visualization, soul cleansing, religion, counseling, co-dependency and so on. I would study leadership material, listen to motivational speeches, read books to help me and of course my intentions were to help me help others.

Yet now I ask myself and you, is there anything wrong with that? If you said, “Yes.” You are 100 percent correct! However, if you said, “No.” You are 100 percent correct, as well!

You see I only did the research, helped others, chose my multiple career paths, wrote my book (Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby by Teena Drake), created a company, Livelove, and began sharing with you all these wonderful techniques because that’s what felt TERRIFIC TO ME!!!! Shew…that was a mouth full.

It’s true!!! Did I and continue to inspire, educate, love, live and enrich the lives of those who chose to read my material? Yes, of course I did! And I plan to grow and share with you until we are all living in sweet harmony, to the best of our ability!

Why do I choose this path? Because it feels good, terrific, happy, fun, loving and free to me! And EVERYONE, even politicians (Actually especially politicians, U.S. leaders and world leaders need to attend my upcoming ‘Happy Class’), your domestic engineers, preachers, teachers, entraprueners, millionaires, but most important and especially YOU can live a life full of those happy moments or feeling good choices.

Does fear creep in? Do I become scared and hopeless (no not much lol)? The answer to both of these questions are yes!!! However, let those emotions go! If you want to change your life, if not then embrace those emotions and decide why they are super prominent.

It doesn’t matter which route you take, the meaning to life is to ‘Be Happy.’ To enjoy the glorious gifts you were so delicately born with.

Go with those interupting, narrow trails that take you the long way around. It is okay because trust me when I say, “Achieving the tasks or goals throughout life was amazing, thrilling, exhilarating, phenomenal and truly undescribable. However, the journey has been times a million more fun than the end result. The seemingly minute downfalls, curve balls and pit stops along the way are the ones I cherish the most.

Yes, the journey of raising my children, vacations, financial triumphs, financial disaater, careers beginning, evolving, losing, loving, laughter, tears and happiness has filled in the details of each memory. Because it’s not the details of the memory you have, but rather the details of the feelings, emotions ect.

Find it, if you want, the ‘feeling good’ emotion and enjoy it.

If you responded with, “How? I don’t feel like it today or Teena, you don’t understand?”

That’s fine, you are probably right. Notice, I said, “If you want to.”

That’s because no matter what happiness is YOUR CHOICE!

If you choose (and you are having a down day), lay in the bed or go to the bathroom and begin saying, “I LOVE _________! I LOVE To _________.”

Yes, sometimes it can be a little negative just don’t dwell on that it’s more of a way to let it go. For example: Lady at work is being super mean to you and has been for days, you are over it. Excuse yourself and say I love to go to the bathroom so I can’t hear her. (Gritting your teeth).

No really just focus on you and what makes you feel good not the other person, that provides their meaness with more energy. Remember your circle of influence is ONLY YOU! (@Stephencovey @leaderinme).

Okay, I have written enough! If you received nothing else know this…HAVE FUN!

Livelove

Yes, this is your test…

Sometimes life requires us to read signals. It is essential in developing relationships as well as recreating them. Listen to their body language, hear their sighs, I will say it again and again…Life is meant to be lived happy and your spirit will adjust and readjust to find your happy path or rainbow. Whatever it is that ‘makes’ you happy will appear and reappear almost like a hot fudge sundae or a camel ice cream.

I always think of this metaphor, I think that is what you will call it, but whatever it is, you let me know.

They say,

A grandmother’s love is an almighty powerful love like none other. If someone was harming your grandchild you would go through great lengths, climb the highest mountains and swim the widest rivers to protect them.

Now think of your spirit, it searches for joy, feeling good, laughter and ‘happiness.’ When the journey isn’t pleasing to you depression, anxiety and sadness comes along to guide you back to a feeling good journey.

It really is the secret to life. It is to feel good and have fun. Be happy and Livelove.

Sad, sad, sad…

Just like the lyrics of John Denver,”Some days are diamonds and some days are stone, sometimes the hard times won’t leave me alone.” 

Have you ever had moments of sadness that sometimes are difficult to shake. Some people may suffer with depression. Yet others may become sad or have anxiety due to an illness or a loss of a loved one. I understand how you feel. However, once you have discovered how to live a habitual life of happiness, joy and YOUR BLISS, those feelings will not linger. I promise those, what I like to refer to as valleys or troughs, can and will become short lived, if you want them to. 

You see according Napoleon Hill, Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy, and countless others they all refer to changing your mind first!!! Then the outcome you desire will begin to change, creating what’s in your mind. I questioned many of these techniques for years. However, each time I receive a message to write about, I attract a short lived situation to FEEL those emotions. (Almost like a test run for you). 

Before I continue on, I want you to know, I had not experienced depression until my accident. However, I am a better person and much more understanding because of it. So am I admitting to being the person who would say, “You have food in your belly, a roof over your head and a life full of adventure and luxuries. Why or how could you be depressed?” 

Almost creating a scene for those who were suffering, to feel worse about themselves. Yes, unfortunately I was the person who said those misunderstood statements and thoughts. I admit it! Now, my eyes have been opened, my heart softened and my spirit is open and accepting. 

I admitted to those feelings or emotions to help you understand, I get it! The only difference for me is I truly choose and desire to live a happy, free spirited, blissful life. The greatest hurdle I have now is to continually reset, when I am not feeling those ‘feel good emotions.’

Yesterday, was one of those moments. I woke up in pain, felt exhausted and wanted to cry about everytjing. As the day progressed I searched for a feel good moment or wave to jump on. I complimented many people, attended a Just for Her Event, attempted to do my PT, nothing seemed to work. It was my day to feel down to remember…ummmmm nooo this is not what I choose. Then I did it! I jumped waves/frequency to a better or higher feeling. 

How? I said, “Shutup!!!!!!!!!”

Yes, I told my memory holding, silly acting, paradigm-stored in my subconscious and relaying messages to my concious mind; who continually made me question everything to–SHUT-UP!!!! SHUT-UP!!!! SHUT-UP. 

Yes, I began with a negative, but sometimes it’s needed to reset. Afterwards I laid down for just a short time, meditated, and began the evening in a much better ‘feeling’ state. I can not say it was as simple as turning on a faucet and turning it off, but I can tell you once you have lived in the now! Feeling the emotion of joy, happiness, and bliss you will change courses, reset, scream shutup to negative thoughts or emotions to ensure you experience the ‘feel good’ emotion more and more, leaving the sad moments behind. 

My advice to you is find a saying, picture, piece of art, or some other inanimated object to grab and feel the emotion as you look or hold it. I have a silly picture of my kids printed. I will look at that or search my inspirational quotes folder to redirect my focus and reset my emotional vibration. 

Other techniques I have used to reset or raise your vibration are take a short nap, meditate, listen to Abraham-Hicks, yoga, take Folic Acid and Vitamin D. I am sure there are a large variety of remedies and I am not suggesting you practice any of these, but you can ask your doctor if you choose. 

God Bless and never forget you are special and wonderful!