Your children conform to your expectations! As I spend hour after hour working with children of all walks of life and across the globe, I have learned, probably the MOST IMPORTANT, parenting skill…that ALL PARENTS NEED TO KNOW!
Are you ready for this?
The words that come out of your mouth as a parent, form and transform YOUR CHILDREN!
I realize this seems obvious and simplistic, especially when discussing as complex of a role as, PARENTING!However, my research is complete and it is 100 percent true!
Scenario 1: I had not met this young man before. His father & my honey have worked together for many years, since the boy was 2 yrs. old.
But all I ever heard was how much he bragged on his baby boy. All throughout the years I would here how ‘good’ he was. How talented, amazing and terrific.
Never once did I hear or even imagine… he had any disabilities OR was abandoned by his mother…who actually told him once, “The drugs are better than being a mommy to you!” (This was told to me as an example of the positivity, one parent, can utilize and redirect their child’s life).
Thirteen years later, I had the privilege to meet Nikolas, for the first time. You, as the reader of this post, now know as much as I knew about Nik, until this past summer.
As the gangly, long hair (Peter Frampton style), sweet, soft spoken and might I add, DYNAMIC, young man approached the swimming pool deck he introduced himself.
At that moment my mom & I were ecstatic to meet him. We did the regular introductions and he began a conversation about swimming. Nothing out of the ordinary.
Then I mentioned (off handed) I am so excited to finally meet the awesome Nikolas, I have heard about for so long.
He replied with, “Thank you! Everywhere we go someone tells me how my dad brags on me. He is one amazing dad!”
He has lived in several states and told us of all the people he had met. And yes they all told him the same thing.
Let me ask you something? If someone were to repeat what or how you describe your kids…what would they say? How would they describe/repeat YOUR WORDS?
I knew this young man had some difficult challenges throughout his life, but I promise his dad had genuinely talked his son up soooo much that those possible ‘issues’ didn’t even appear.
I never even questioned his learning difficulties nor thought of them. I only included the two known hurdles that this young man had, to demonstrate how influential his dad’s description was…EVEN WHEN THEY WERE SEPERATED for work.
You see…we already know our downfalls, even as children. So why not illuminate the good in our children & ourselves? And watch the GOODNESS shine?
Parents! Perfection is impossible. Even in you!
Begin at this very moment to write all the GOOD about your child. Leave out the other and watch the GOODNESS GROW LIKE A BOUNTIFUL GARDEN!
This works with adult children as well! It almost seems as though by highlighting their terrific qualities the irritating ones disappear. Same with yourself!
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Written by: Teena Drake