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Why do we question ourselves?

As I ventured out today the wind provided a natural wispy environment, not so harsh as to blow me over, but more like a dancing motion. Perpetuating the leaves to do something similar as the beautiful Tango. I suddenly came to a cross road, which way do I turn? Before deciding, I look forward. Straight ahead was a golf course. That’s when it hit me!

Why are there always golfers on the golf course mid day? Do you know why? Is it because all golfers are wealthy while everyone else is broke and working longer hours than them?

I wonder why? (As I appear to be creepily starring at the golfers with a pink bike, pink Flamingo on my back, a bright neon shirt and my sparkly sunglasses on, that if the sun hit it just right, would blind a golfer from doing what they do).

Anywhooo back to the question, why does there always seem to be golfers on the golf course? After close examination, it’s because golfers LOVE to golf. Just like anything else, you will work a job, create a career, or find another way to be happy and do what you love.

This topic came to fruition while I was battling with myself, about not working harder, but rather working smarter and having fun while I am doing it. You see the majority of people are hitting the hammer over and over again before they know what they are building!

If you hated to golf, would you plan to spend you only few hours of free time playing a round? Of course not. Nor would you begin building a house without a plan. Your life is the same way.

Begin today to notice the small things in which you felt happiest. And do more of that! As I work closely with Debbie and Rhian, I realize our new company is being put together by love and faith. Everytime I have said, out loud, a need for my company someone has appeared!!! I continually live in awe and expect the best for me in all situations.

God Bless

LiveloveLLC

Oh My Goodness! It keeps getting better and better!

Have you ever been working on something and as it continues to unfold it gets better and better? Me too!! I can barely contain myself. I feel excited, happy, understanding and amazed about my new program/campaign.

You see the ideas in my head are exploding with love for you! My business Livelove is coming to fruition in an accelerated manner. This new company will offer you unique gifts, hypnosis, Angel Card readings, how too videos, life coaching and much more. It is like a smorgasbord or buffet of the finest foods in life! Except it’s not food, but rather opportunities for you to find your own happiness.

Under the same umbrella of Livelove is my ‘Be Happy’ campaign. This portion excites me the most of all!!! Just writing about it creates a feeling of ecstatic!!! I am enjoying the journey of writing it and learning. I just can’t wait to share this information with you. It is going to be fun, fun, fun, fun ,fun!!!!!! You won’t want to miss us when we are in a city near you! Why? Because this is like nothing you have ever seen before. EVER!

Some will attend to learn about having a more fulfilling life, full of joy, bliss and fun. Yet, others will come to have the experience of FUN.

I am so excited to have been chosen to provide you with this message.

Until then enjoy. Live each day like it is your last. Laugh at controversy, laugh at life. Love all those who come into your life, we are all spiritually connected. My wish for you today is to ‘Be Happy!’

I will keep you posted on upcoming events and when the most amazing online store will be abailable to purchase. (Idk about most amazing, but the products are pretty neat!).

Livelove

Make New Memories.  

Happy Magnificent Monday!! Everyone, that works with me or has worked with me in the past, has a Monday image of me. What is that? I love, love, love, Mondays!!!! I am not sure why but I love them, always have. This Magnificent Monday is no different. I want to share a valuable lesson I learned recently and my goal is to help you create a magnificent day too!! 

Make new memories is the topic for today. Begin with a memory you already have. Hopefully, your brain is on auto pilot and you immediatly think of a great memory. However, it is up to you what memory you choose. This doesn’t take long to see, feel, and smell the past place does it? Awe…for me it’s magically delicious. Sometimes it’s a childhood memory, where I ride my bike so fast that my long, beautiful, brown hair flys in the wind, attempting to keep up with the rest of my body. I remember feeling no stress, no worries or fears. Other times its an adult memory where we have laughed so hard our cheeks hurt the next morning. Find a great memory and enjoy!!! 

Why did I entitle this make new memories because after that terrific experience take time to notice something. When sitting in a group carrying on a conversation stop and listen to what people are saying. In the past I did this with my students in a visualization setting. The funny part is I found if the students didn’t have a good memory or any memory of a particular message then the experiment didn’t work. 

For example: I love to travel and any kind of waterway is normally my destination. Therefore, when we were prepping for a new Science topic I would begin with a visualization, for them to see, feel, or touch in their mind, about the ocean or a mountain I have hiked, anything to help set the lesson into action. However, what I found is if they didn’t have a connection I had to create it for them. (This is why so many people argue or disagree with standardized testing because the system test all children the same.) However, if they do not have a memory or a paradigm to reflect on and make new connections or memories. then it becomes a guessing game. 

So next time you are talking with a group of friends listen to the conversation and yourself talking. Do you have a memory to connect with? If not make new ones. Begin today to plan the GREAT memories. I always say on Magnificent Monday, “Good morning world!!! This is the greatest day ever, help me make great memories today and be a blessing to others!”

Never forget God Loves You No Matter What!!! God Bless!!!!!

Believe in Energy!

I have been studying the law of Attraction for quite sometime and yet I am always amazed when I practice it. In case you have not studied this universal law I will explain it to the best of my ability!

The Law of Attraction says whatever you think about you bring about. Or in the Bible it says ask and ye shall receive. Another is energy flows where attention goes. There are many more like for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Last but not least what goes around comes around.

I realize those last two do not appear to be a definition for this law, but think about it people who practice using the law of attraction, always say it doesn’t matter if it is a negative thought/desire or a positive thought/desire it will send either/or back to you.

For example: My thoughts and fears while writing this will come to fruition if I so choose to focus on other people’s beliefs and thoughts. If I sat here and didn’t post this because I was afraid of negative feedback from religious groups or followers, who disagree with my beliefs. However, I do not choose to utilize this law in a negative way so I believe when you read this, you will have learned something or been so excited about the information you will comment, re-post, follow my blogg or send me all the best in my new career.

Anyways, recently we have had some struggles in our family. Nothing bad, but just kind of stressful. I would say my prayers for everyone and then stay a little longer, in prayer, to help relieve the stress.

Saturday morning Nick reminded me to only focus on the positive and/or the end result. We talked a bit and a light bulb came on! YOU are RIGHT!!!!! I am stressing out because all I keep focusing on is stressing out. Sounds kind of crazy, but that is true. You know how you think about something that could be or might happen, too much and you make your self sick? Thats exactly what the law of attraction does.

So I reflected back on my studies, read a few articles and jumped back on track! Now the first day was a struggle. I began with a grateful list, everything I was grateful for. Then I would catch myself worrying or stressing and I would read it. Then I became aware! Aware of my conversations, my thoughts or reactions to events. Slowly I began to see a lighter, bubblier, happy me! One by one events did an about face. Even when Nick needed me to drive to Bedford to jump his car after leaving the lights on, I didn’t feel negative or frustrated. I just went to Bedford, enjoyed the music, hugged him and went on my way.

Normally, I would share more examples with you guys, creating a picture of exactly what happened just to prove it was real or give you a sense of AWE, but not today. I am not giving you a conclusion. YOU ARE…Your closing will only happen if you believe in ENERGY!

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Follow up on my first chapter!

In my first chapter of Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby I explain the chain of events which lead to my desire to write this book. One disturbing or upsetting portion might be that the educational facility did not offer sex education any longer, due to parental request.

However, the truth is ‘sex education’ has been removed from most public education settings, across the nation because the thought process is teach abstinence only! If it were not for volunteer programs like ‘Pure Initiative’ the students today wouldn’t receive any of this information. As for the parental request their motive is because an educator teaching about Sex needs to be well prepared for this topic. I am extremely comfortable discussing Sex and it was still difficult because I had not be prepared. I spent a multitude of hours studying a wide variety of programs and asking parents questions to ensure I was ‘educating’ them and not over stepping my boundaries.

This is why my book is imperative for all parents to read. It is an easy read, informative and all based on real life situations. This is not a SEX EDUCATION BOOK, but rather a combination of stories, scenarios and situations. It is a book for parents to wake up and learn to discuss such an important topic with their children. I guess you would say it is a way to communicate!

Your Pinkologist,

Teena Drake

Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby!

Written by: Teena Drake

Chapter One

How it all Began!

          My first year of teaching eighth grade Science is the beginning of a great adventure, I had a wide variety of personalities and enjoyed each one. As the year progressed one of my classes became especially close and they wanted to each lunch in my classroom on Fridays (or anytime I would let them).  Week after week our lunch ‘class’ was growing by leaps and bounds. The students would beg their teachers to let them join and quickly we became one big happy family.

I was amazed at how open they were with me in there. They would talk about their relationships, weekend plans, past weekend activities, family situations, and the list continues. I wish I could have a picture of my face the day SEX entered our lunch conversation! Out of the blue a young lady says, “Hey, Mrs. Drake we are arguing about something can you come over here?”

I politely excused myself from the group I was sitting with and walked over, plopped down, and said, “Sure, what’s up?”

Without any reservation or concern she asked, “If you have sex and the guy cums in ya….you can jump up and down and the sperm will come out, right? It’s a scientific fact aint it?”

I am sure as you were reading this last paragraph you were either laughing or starring at the words/question with your mouth gapping open. I am also sure you are eager to see my reaction.

The silence at that point was almost like thick smog hanging over the room. The group of students starred at me with eager anticipation to see how I would respond. They were not embarrassed, concerned of my embarrassment, or worried about having this conversation! I remember the thoughts in my head racing around like a chicken with their head cut off. I knew I had to respond, but how and why? Why did I have to answer this question? Why would they even ask such a question? So I took a deep breath did not act shocked and said, “Where did you hear that?”

Two of the young ladies said, “See I told you that was not true!”

Still persisting another young lady said, “She didn’t say it wasn’t true, she just wanted to know where I heard it….it is at least possible aint it?”

I responded by saying, “No, it is not true and why are we having this conversation?”

Thinking that my response would give them a clue….I was unsure about this conversation. My first thought was they were just curious. Then I became intrigued with why the question would come about. Was there a possibility eighth graders were experimenting with sex? And if they were why didn’t they know the basics? The questions and thoughts were rambling in my mind.

Of course I thought they would drop this conversation and blow me off, like eighth graders do when they do not want to explain themselves. Much to my surprise, the first young lady looked at me in astonishment and quickly asked, “So, if a girl did this then why didn’t she get pregnant? If you are so sure this doesn’t work why wouldn’t she be prego right now?

At this point I was disturbed she would question my knowledge on the subject. I said, “I promise she may not become or became pregnant that time, but she better not continue this practice or she will be pregnant. The only job for sperm is to swim towards the egg! That is a fact!”

Still thinking in my mind….HA that will end this conversation she will just ponder on my response and maybe ask her loved ones at home.  I was WRONG!!!!!! The conversation became explosive. I thought please dear Lord how long could a twenty minute class last!

Thankfully, the bell was ringing and the last comment was, “Mrs. Drake this isn’t over. I need to know some more about those crazy facts. We will talk about this tomorrow.”

The buzz had begun. If one listened closely, you could almost hear the amazement in their voices about her question and my response. They wanted to know more and I appeared to be the target. I remember praying that night…Dear Lord, Help me with this conversation.

I avoided our conversation through lunch because it was Monday. I didn’t hear much about it therefore, I decided it was a quick lesson learned and their entire group had moved on to another topic.

Once again, I was wrong! The same young lady came into my class and announced, “Mrs. Drake I am a walker today and I have more questions for you, so we can have Science, but after that bus rider bell we are having some ‘Scientific Sex Ed’ I need to ask you some questions and I think you have the answers.”

I looked at her, stood there in awe of her bluntness, and peered out to see the rest of the class anticipating my response. I brushed it off and said, “We will see.”

As the class progressed I continually dreaded the thought of what her questions might be, do I need to discuss this with my principal? I was extremely uncertain of what I could say and which direction this conversation could take us.

As soon as the bell rang, here she came and two of her friends. I decided to sit down at one of the tables and listen. It was almost like story time on the carpet with a group of pre-school children. They had all come up with some questions and had put her up to asking them. These questions extended from how a woman becomes pregnant to oral sex. I answered the ‘Scientific Sex Ed.’ questions and if the questions became more moral based or religion based I would explain that is not Scientific therefore, I am not able to answer. They were okay with my response I gave them some places to research and find out for themselves and the day had ended. As soon as they cleared the building I almost sprinted to the office to discuss the situation with my principal. He enlightened the situation quite a bit. This was the first group of students who would not have Sex Education in their curriculum. Apparently the parents had requested it be removed, it was not a tested area, and it didn’t seem to be essential. He continued to explain I could continue to answer their questions as long as it was ‘Scientific’ and educational.

Of course I thought….they won’t talk to me about this anymore. I gave them facts vs. fiction, but they probably wanted to talk more in depth to see if they could embarrass me. (Have you caught on that it takes me a while to figure out this topic is NOT going to disappear?).

From that point forward it was like opening a can of worms. A majority of the students were discussing the conversation, some would ask what we talked about, other students would just listen to the conversations, but they were clued in. Thank goodness my next unit was genetics. This Scientific Sex Education fit snuggly into my curriculum.

Many times the conversations would continue at our special lunch times. I was amazed at how many students were sexually active and did not care that I knew about it. They would allow me to ask questions like does anyone talk to you about sex? Has anyone discussed with you protection from pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases? A majority of the time the response was NOOOOOOO! One student said, “I asked my mom about sex and she said sex is bad, sex is a bad word, and if you ever have sex I will be ashamed of you!” she continued, “I just decided not to ever bring that conversation up again!”

A young man explained his parents were explicit when they discussed sex with him and they ended the conversation with I don’t want to ever talk about this again so I hope you understood.

Now please understand these were well rounded, straight A students who had extremely good families. The ones with lower grades and living in different situations would explain, “I have learned on my own or my family told me all about it, but they also explained how if I did get a girl pregnant I would have to get a job and pay child support the rest of my life.”

I could write a book on their questions, comments, and thought process! Maybe that will be my next book, but these students were Sex Education illiterate.

They knew some of the actions, but as far as understanding their bodies and sexuality they did not. The family conversations had been limited and these young people were curious and searching for a cure for their curiosity.

Chapter Two

I was too late!

Who am I and why would you want to follow me?

Who am I? My name is Teena and I am the one in the picture standing next to my wonderful life partner Eric. As you may be able to tell my family is amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!! Unfortunately, my beautiful step-daughter is not in this picture, she is pursuing her Masters and could not get away for vacation.

My profession at this time is educating eighth graders in integrated Science. However, my lifelong dream is now coming into fruition. I am pursuing a career in writing. If you follow me and read my blog you will laugh, cry, giggle, learn, be intrigued and enjoy funny stories about life.

My current book is about Sex Education. Oh I forgot you will probably read a great deal about Sex. Sex education, Sex after forty, Sex after marriage, a great deal about SEX and relationships. I am not sure why, but it always comes up in conversation, when I am around. Maybe because it is one of my favorite topics. Not in a porn type either just a fact of life. LOL

I love people of all walks of life and love to travel. I do have ADHD therefore I struggle with sticking to one topic (that might be why I keep skipping around and it has taken me 8 years to complete my first book!).

You will also read about public education, students and their struggles, marriage, parenting and great places to travel or not so great!

I love water! I love swimming pools, spas, lakes, rivers, the ocean, and if I can not get to any of those I am happy with a hot bath. So expect to read about some fabulous vacations/holiday places! I will always try to post pictures of sights to see, great food, service and lodging.

My favorite color is PINK! Not bubble gum pink, but hot pink! I love it so much I have incorporated it into my new career path. As I present my book, I will have pink everything. I have even began studying the color pink and how it is best described as bubbly, happy, fun, joyful, free-spirited, laughter, irresistible, and much more. Hence the reason my kids have now began calling me Mommy the pinkologist!

The most important piece of information you should know is I love God and my message to the world is he loves you!!!!!!!!! NOOOOOO I am in no way shape or form a religious fanatic. I truly do believe God Loves and Accepts EVERYONE!!!!!!!

My intentions are to post everyday for the next 365 days. I truly hope I can fulfill this goal. This is my first blogging experience so it will not be perfect. Oh who am I kidding, I told you I have ADHD I will never be perfect. Sometimes I may skip around, but I promise if you will keep reading you will get a laugh at one time or another and learn something as well!

My motto is from Jack Canfield- “If it aint fun don’t do it!”

I hope you enjoy the next 364 days with me, if I miss a day (which could happen especially if I am traveling) I will catch it up! Come follow me on a great adventure. I can’t wait to empower you to have a fun-filled life and take time to enjoy!!!!!!

Your Pinkologist!

Teena Drake