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What does ‘feeling resistance’ mean?

Feeling resistance is when a situation, someone, or something makes you not FEEL very good. Maybe it is a toxic environment at work or home. Sometimes it is a silly comment or question and it rubs us the wrong way. Regardless of ‘what’ the resistance is, if you take time to allow it to serve you, then life will be much more fun. 

For example: I received a phone call about a situation back home in Kentucky. Actually a couple of situations have created resistance for me to explore. But this particular situation truly irritated my spirit! I spent an entire day coaching and continued to help others find their path. However, the call would not get out of my head! I would replay the scenario, comments made, and the situation like a day full of reruns on MeTV. 

Then I woke up this morning…feeling resistance, basically I was angry. Why did she ask me what she did? Why did I bring her family situation into myself? I am traveling, living the life I always wanted, in California and I have spent the past twenty-four hours feeling GRRRRRRRRR. Towards someone who I haven’t seen or heard of in years! 

Have you ever felt like this? Felt the resistance you didn’t ask for? I think we all have. My question is, WHY? Why does this happen and better yet how?

After my meditation I received the most beautiful message which answered my question…what does feeling resistance mean and why does it happen?

When resistance appears…pause and breathe deeply. Ask yourself, “How can this emotion assist me in recognizing the lesson?”

How can you be happy, joyful, appreciative, grateful, if someone is always rubbing you the wrong way or standing in front of you, throwing all the negative they have? Or bringing you into a situation that you didn’t ask for? 

Message: How can you feel blissful if you don’t feel resistance. How will you learn a lesson without resistance? If you constantly complain about something and then it is gone and you mourn, does that make sense? Resistance is a part of life. Not to dwell upon, but rather to learn from and either find a solution or to learn a lesson that does not need to be repeated. 

Reflect back to a time that this situation wouldn’t have affected you. Then ask yourself, “Why do I feel angry, sad, unhappy or resistant to this circumstance?”

Next, decide do you want to hang on to this emotion or have you learned the necessary lesson to let it go? 

For example: My expectations for the lady who contacted me where crazy. My anger stemmed from what we call ‘Mother Bear’ syndrome. Even though it had little to do with me or my family, my subconscious began to work overtime. Why did she say this or that? GRRRRR I felt like growling all day. Then I STOPPED! I meditated and requested clarity. (I also always include the Hawaiian Prayer to help me). 

After the message came to me…I realized this person was struggling with her own personal resistance. She trusted me to listen and understand. She needed a friendly voice to say, “It is going to be okay!” Although I did all of that, my question continued to be, “Why do I feel so irritated with this situation?”

My conclusion was I needed a little resistance to appreciate the here and now. To appreciate how things are always working out for me. To be reminded of how successful I already am and that one person’s opinion is just like a butthole, we all have one. 

However, she wasn’t even giving me her opinion, being hateful, or critical. I was the one who created the resistance. I was the one who allowed my brain to work overtime. 

Resistance does serve you. Sometimes it is a simple reminder that you are okay and other times it is for a lesson to be learned. Once that lesson is learned it is your job to move on and let it go. Remember, NO ONE can change the past, we can learn from it, but not change it.

If you are confronted with a feeling of resistance, take time to pause and provide it with enough attention, to ensure it doesn’t return for a little while. Allow your emotions to be indicators to determine what needs to be changed. 

Livelove LLC is in full swing. We are so excited about the Happy Coaching 101 and we have some ‘NEW’ adventures on their way. 

Facebook, email, instagram, tweet, snap, or message on here to find out how we can assist you in those moments of resistance. 

Life situations that you might need a coach for: Weight loss, depression, anger, irritation, mind-set, earning more money, successfully living to its fullest, parenting, divorce, school, and the list continues on. No need to struggle, we are here to help! 

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Are uou afraid of the dark?

When looking for light, bright, sunshine emotions…do you go into the darkness searching for light? Or do you stand in the darkness hoping someone will find you, with a light? Or are you the light that shines bright and attracts more and more lights?
I said all of that to say this…if you are desiring change…meaning more lightheartedness, happy, sunshine emotions (because what other change could you want?) Be the light you are searching for so that you will have more and more sunshine coming your way.
Remember, tring to fix the past is like trying to make your butt hole beautiful. Ewwww I don’t even want to try that…do you?

Our coaching services are in full swing. If you need extra help dealing with school, work, your children, family or any other annoyances life can throw your way, check us out.

As for our website…we are building a more user friendly one very soon, so for now…send us an email

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Your opening line can be, “Hey, I need your help…” or (be like me) “Help, I have fallen and I can’t get up!”

Within hours we can have you hooked up with the best suited coach for your situation.

Yes, I realized I couldn’t help everyone so at Livelove, we are hiring coaches to better fit your needs.

If you want a list…email us.

If you want more sunshine…email us.

If you want to find out how to be happy, no matter what or live with joy in your heart…email us.

Or maybe you want me to stop typing on this post okay…email us.

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Okay, Google it…

When people begin to become uncomfortable they tend to say I am unhappy or sad. Which is a needed emotion to appreciate the thrilling moments throughout life. The key is to decide how long do you want to stay unhappy or sad. In other words yes, you will experience times of sadness in your life, even once you begin to live in a happy and appreciative state, 99 percent of the time. However, those moments become minimal when you remember, “The best for me will always be!”

Are you still doubting the possibility of living happy 99 percent of the time?

Okay, Google it…Is it possible to be happy all the time? Or the majority of the time?

(The theme song of Jeopardy is playing in my head)

What did you find? Was the answer clear? Yes or No?

Yet, although you researched it, are you happy with whichever answer you chose? Based on what? Evidence? Personal Emotions? Historical Events?

The truth is it didn’t matter to Google your objective opinion, you ask a question and Google provided you with a beautiful array of choices to choose from. As well as added on a few ‘different’ perspectives, in case you didn’t find the answer which resonated with you.

Wow! Did you know life is the same way? You shout out, “I want to be happy” or “How can I be wealthy so then I can be happy?” Maybe, “I want love, peace, comfort.”

Go ahead, try again…Google it!

(Again, the theme song of Jeopardy is playing in my head)

It is true anything you are searching for or focusing on will appear in one form or another. Whether you search it, meditate on it, or just think about it. Think about your last search. What KEY WORDS did you use? Those are your key thoughts. If they are serving you well, then stick to it, you are on the right track. However, if those key words/thoughts are not continuously returning  your mind to a more pleasant place, it might be time to go back and perform another search.

If you were searching for something, on the internet, for work or any other reason and your first search was a flop, would you just give up and shut down the computer? Never to search again?

That may seem a bit dramatic. But let me ask you something…Is this what you do to your beautiful thoughts and ideas when they appear? Do you shut them down by reflecting to your past and ‘Proving’ to yourself this will never work? Yet, every time you hear about this topic your heart sings?

It is time to treat your life-like you do your Google Search. If you do not receive the desired results at first…change your key words and search until you reach your desired destination!

Okay Google…spell Success- T-E-E-N-A! (Put your name in place of mine. Doesn’t that feel TERRIFIC!)

If you would like to hear more about finding and keeping your own happiness in all of life’s situations email us… Livelove.teena@gmail.com or Google us (haha) Www.Livelovellc.org/home

Or maybe you need a little umph put back into your life. Then Happy Coaching from Livelove LLC is something to check into. It is always positive, present and future oriented and most of  all, personalized just for you!

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Carry On

 

 

 

 

 

When it doesn’t fit, do you continue to wear it?

When you go to the closet and pick up a pair of pants, that do not fit any longer, do you continue to wear them? If you do attempt to ‘make do’ does it become disastrous?

At one time, I worried about being too fat, not good enough and was terribly unsatisfied with the way my clothes fit. I decided to become dedicated to the cause. I worked out and felt terrific. I reached my goals and felt pretty good about myself.

However, I had this one pair of pants! They were my favorite pair. Black silky material, elastic waist, balloon pant legs which created an illusion, I was wearing a long evening gown, but they were functional. I would tell the kids they were my ‘Fancy Pants.’ I truly did love this pair of pants.

Therefore I continued to wear them. Who cared, if they were five sizes too big. No one else knew, just me. As I daydream back to the day I remember my honey bunny saying, “When are you going to get rid of those pants?! They are hanging off of you and if you aren’t careful they will fall down in front of your class!”

What did he know about fashion? I didn’t pay any attention to his nonsense. I arrived at work early and whistled as I walked into the front door. “Good Morning, Ms. Connie,” I cheerfully said as I scooted past her office, in my flowy pants.

The day went wonderful. All of my lessons were going as planned and life couldn’t be better. My planning time came and it was time for lunch. As I nonchalantly danced by the office I heard a deep, male voice call out my name, “Mrs. Drake?”

I jumped a bit and then I heard, “We need your help in the office.”

As much as I wanted to play sick and run back to my classroom, I didn’t. I never wanted to upset Ms. Connie, she is the best.

Turns out she had left due to a family emergency and I was the only ‘warm body’ who could fill in, at least until after my planning period. Which might I add, it was always a short planning time, until today! This day seemed like forty-five minutes was forty-five days.

Of course I quickly found myself sitting in ‘THE CHAIR’ the one where all the phone calls come in, the parents, grandparents, step parents, sick kids, medicated students, vomiting teachers, and last but not freaking least the INTERCOM SYSTEM! I may seem a bit dramatic, but the office manager, in my opinion, has the most difficult job of any in the school system.

The first parent arrived within five minutes of me sitting down. She said in a meek little voice and shaky hands, “Yes, my daughter is in 6th grade and she left her book bag at home. Soooo I wanted to bring it to her…”

I quickly interrupted in a flustered voice, “What? Who did you say? You are going to have to speak up and what class is she in?”

Oh for goodness sakes that one took me fifteen minutes. Including that ordeal, I had four teachers, one cafeteria assistant calling me and the outside calls, were rolling over to an email, faster than I could answer.

It was my last five minutes and a dad buzzes at the door. I let him in, he requested to pick up his son in 6th grade. Most organized human I had dealt with in the past forty minutes. He knew which class at the correct time and spoke up. Pleased with my survival skills through the past few events…I smile really big and I politely say, “Thank you for being so organized and I will call your son up at this time.” (I almost sounded like a robot).

I call the classroom, no he is not in there. Hmmm maybe this dad made a mistake. This continues on for a couple of times. I am now using the intercom and telephone when he yells out, “OH I am so sorry, I forgot he is in seventh grade, he is in math!”

He yelled so loud I fell back into the roller chair, that I had been attempting to spin back and forth in, to accomplish more, in a shorter amount of time. When I fell I zoomed backwards towards Ms. Connie’s desk and quickly spun around, placing my elbows on the desk and hands under my chin. “I am sorry, I didn’t quite catch that?”

He repeated it in a much calmer and embarrassed voice, “My son is in the seventh grade, I am so sorry…”

As he continued to apologize I had become a little smirky and to be blunt I was ticked off. I spun around to turn my back to this man, whom I was upset with. Placed both feet firmly on the ground…pushed my behind up using both hands and my body.

AND…as fast as I stood up, my pants came plummeting down. Yes, down to my knees! My bare behind was there for this man and whoever else wanted to see! I quickly plopped back down, as I gasped for air! Not only were they down, the bottom of my right pant leg was tightly wound around the wheel. I wasn’t going anywhere.

I remember I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry and the man, he turned around and walked out in the hall. Probably to laugh so hard he had to pee his pants! Mr. Genton heard me laughing hysterically, as I grabbed my stomach and bent over to attempt and free my pants leg! Of course he helped the father find his son and all he could say between his tears of hysterical laughing, was, “Why do you wear pants that are clearly to big?”

I hope you are now laughing too! This is absolutely a true story. I guess now most of you know why, when someone suggests me working in an office, I laugh and politely decline.

You see, not only were my pants too big, but I was attempting to fill even greater shoes.

Are you doing the same thing in life? Are you continuing to wear the old YOU, who doesn’t fit anymore? It isn’t about the size, it’s about the fit. Isn’t it time you find your own shoes to fill? And if you are hanging on to those old clothes, ask yourself, “Do I want to return to this person or am I okay with brand new and a better fit?”

If the world is continually rotating that means there is never a stagnant moment. Meaning CHANGE is inevitable.

Sometimes we hold ourselves to ‘way back then’ so long, we forget to experience the now and forever more. When you fit in your own skin, life feels pretty TERRIFIC!

God Loves YOU NO MATTER WHAT!

Livelove

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Carry on!

I am so excited about this great adventure. I would love for you to come along and see all the beautiful stops we are making along the way! If you need a little umf in your life e-mail me at Livelove.teena@gmail.com

A New Service for you: Angel Card Readings they are fun and always enlightening. Of course we continue to offer workshops and Happy Coaching.

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The most important part of our business is assisting you in finding your happiness!

Happy Coaching 101 (Day three)

I felt like Wednesday was the day to share this particular coaching session. Honestly, I could write a book on what this lady taught me. Her messages, her thoughts, sometimes silence and her perspective. You see, this special lady taught me how to understand my messages, to accept them and most definetly share them. I have been strictly instructed to only tell her circumstances and an extremely vague description at that.

This lady had suffered great loss in her life. She has buried a child and her husband. That is all you are allowed to know. The saddest part is I was not allowed to save the majority of her coaching messages. Only those that were extra special, such as this one. However, those were her wishes.

Message: First…create a map,  a map of your life include pebbles, big rocks, water, whatever terrain that best describes you and your life. Including pathways, roads, highways, speed limits, marriage, births, special events, whatever it may be that you can remember, about your life up until this point. It is your creation. You may share with me if you so desire or not, either way it is up to you.

Second…I am givng you an eraser. A gigantic eraser and your instructions are simple, ERASE ALL THE BAD! I mean erase every tear, painful moment, trial or tribulation, everytime you felt less than, worthless, fearful, hopeless, destroyed. Erase them all.

Her response was priceless! But guess what? You are going to have to wait to see, what her response was and my come back message, until tomorrow. Why? Because I want you to create the design of this woman, her age, feelings, appearance and create this ‘hero’ in your head. And maybe you can go ahead and begin to create your life map. Who knows, we might be on to something, psst, I think we are.

To Be Continued…

Livelove

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Carryon

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God Bless Everyone!

Hey, if you are just now reading this post, skip back through Monday and Tuesday’s post Happy Coaching 101- 1 & 2. These are samples of actual coaching messages some people have received.

Time ticks…

As the time ticks, I prepare to go on a date with my honey, yet as I walk past my computer I feel it almost hypnotizing me to sit and write. I argue for a moment. I explain that my writings aren’t helping anyone. A moment of doubt fills my brain until it happens, quickly I am interrupted by a message on messenger, a text or an email. What does it say? Usually, they begin with, THANK YOU. Today, it was a bit different but meant the same.

The sound of my phone vibrating is what startled me out of my self-doubting trance. I flip it over and these are the words that brought me right back to my blissful place, in front of my computer writing. “I don’t know how you do it. I don’t know what you want to do with your life, but thank you. I needed that.”

The funny thing is, I am not sure who they were. Which e-mail, posting, writing or coaching helped you? Wait! I have so many questions. What do you mean by ‘do with my life?’ Still nothing! No response, when I call the number it says it is not a Verizon working number.

However, their message was loud and clear. Sit down and write. Do some more of your inspirational writing. Enjoy whisking off into the wild blue yonder and filling your mind with beautiful scenes, laughter, and fun.

I hurried up to complete my makeup, got dressed, slipped on my shoes, took one last glance and quickly slipped off to my writing room. Yes, time continues to tick and life is moving quite quickly. However, I wish nothing less for you to have a ‘happy’ place. Where you can just ‘be’ whoever or whatever you want to be!

If your mind is filled with what ifs, the could, would and shoulds in life…I hope you change your vocabulary and live life to the fullest! When you begin to talk about, if you would have or if I would have…stop! No one can turn back time! Remember, it continues to tick whether you relish in the moment or dispose of it, it keeps on keeping on. Change your vocabulary to I will, I am, love, present, future, new beginnings, abundance, happiness, living today not yesterday and the list could go on and on.

This is what I pray! I have one message, Live today, Love every day and when the going gets rough instead of the rough gets going, Livelove & Carryon!

You are amazing! Thank you to my mysterious texter, even the happiest of happy and brightest of sunshine needs someone to help rid themselves of sad and cloudy/gray moments.

Written by: Momma Teena

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As the sun shines bright I ask myself…

Work, work, work! Here it is almost December 1st, 2017 and the sun’s vibrant heat beams down on me, as I work away. I love what I am doing, but somewhere in the back of my mind, I continue to search for excuses to gather Freddy the Pink Flamingo and ride on Pinky the Princess, over the hills and through the woods (not really, just on the nicely paved bike path that almost taunts me, everyday, because I can see just a glimpse of it from my balcony).

Pause, sigh, inhale and exhale! I think I will take a break and write outside. Maybe then I can see if the air is that warm or if the window portrait is deceiving.

Of course NOT! OHHH what to do?

Go ride or Work?

What do you think? I will let you know what I decided, later on.

Do what you love and love what you do! The only reason I am struggling with my decision today is because I love everything I do! Whether it is work, play or even making a decision. I feel my way to joy and happiness.

If you continually go to bed worrying about tomorrow or wake up dreading your day, it is time to reevaluate your life! Life is too short to be miserable. I realize earning an income is important, but one thing I have learned is the income will double, triple and quadruple, if you love what you do and ALWAYS, do what you love!!!

God Loves You NO MATTER WHAT!

Livelove

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Carryon

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