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Change is inevitable; Self Doubt is a reminder

As we all know change occurs second by second, whether you control the change or simply allow it, now that ‘changes’ EVERYTHING! However, what about self-doubt? What part of self-doubt can assist us in dealing with or controlling the change in our lives?

Could it be that self-doubt is a reminder that you can control how the, inevitable changes, occur in your life.

If we know changes are going to happen, we know everything in our lives, is not going to stick to the plan, why not utilize those ‘not so good’ self doubting, moments to empower you?

How? Simple, recognize that self- doubt is that friend that forces you to think about the worse case scenario. No, I am not an advocate for ‘what ifs’ however, what if, this doubt serves a vital purpose in accomplishing great things or taking the simpler, more paved road and enjoying the ride.

Either or the opportunity to recognize this moment of wallowing in what has been or could be, can be (if you choose) a great asset to your ‘happiness’ tool box.

Next time you experience that moment of OMG! What am I doing? How will I find my path? I can’t do this, I am not good enough! Moments, choose a time to let it go.

For example: You are stepping out on a limb, the limb feels wobbly and you are contemplating what can, will or might happen. You would weigh all the outcomes/options and either set a limit of how far you can go or keep walking and see what happens. Either or you will have change. You will have an outcome. You also chose all of those outcomes!

Set a time frame to poop or get off the pot. If you want to control or learn to enjoy all changes, when self-doubt appears, allow it for a set time or space.

Next, be grateful for the opportunity to weigh all options and MOVE ON. Allow the short-lived negative emotion to propel you into the wonderful, terrific, fabulous life you have always wanted.

I am so excited for us! As I am allowing my life to be utilized as a messenger. A messenger for you and I to live for the best in and of you & me.

I know life has hit you upside the head several times! I know when just arriving in the valley, you struggle with seeing a way to begin climbing to the top, again.

This change has been since the day you were born. When you took that first breath you began adjusting with the changes in environment, how you ate and how you slept.

You have what it takes to live the life you have always wanted. It’s up to you, how long you allow the changes to hit you, like a ton of bricks. Or how you utilize self-doubt. Either or you will have change, you will experience down & out times and only you can decide how to allow self doubt to assist you or hender you.

Livelove

&

Carryon

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The real mammogram, part two…

Somebody, asked, “Which part of the last story was fiction?”

I giggled a little until I was almost rudely laughing in my friends face! (Good thing she knows me). Anyways, as I attempted to get it straightened out, I replied with, “You know me! I will never admit how silly I am, especially about going to the doctor.”

She looked at me with a half glare and a half stare. However, she figured out I was only admitting SOME of it was true! 😂😂😂

This next story I may have written about, before, but I do hope to help any other big chickens, like me, get their mammogram!

After my crazy escapades throughout the day, I did actually miss my first mammogram! When I arrived, I apologized over and over again. (Thinking, she would be rude and snippy because I messed up the schedule).

The sweet lady, probably around thirty, said, “Calm down! We have mix up in schedules all the time.”

“Now give me a minute, I will look at the schedule and see what we can do.”

I thought, “Wow! She is simply precious!”

As I waited, shifting my foot from one side to the other, looking around and day dreaming of another day I could take off work, to of course, finally get this over with! I think maybe December or… January would be better after the holidays!

My thoughts were rapidly interrupted when, Margaret (whom I thought was a sweetheart) said, “Just have a seat, we have an opening in like fifteen minutes!”

WHAT? Now wait a cotton pickin minute! I wanted to shake my head noooo in a random motion and take off sprinting for the door! I think I can make it if I take proper position, get set, ready, GO! Okay no, I didn’t sprint out, instead I took a seat.

When she called my name, I can remember thinking, you got this, no worries.

The nurse took my vitals and she said, “Calm down Mrs. Drake. You are making your blood pressure be elevated.”

“Okay…I am really trying.”

Then I stepped on the scale and thought I would make a joke, I snickered and said, “I think I need to have somebody break my elbow, so I can’t get the fork to my mouth.” (Laughing and laughing at my own joke).

“Naa, it wouldn’t work they would hook straws together and feed you milk shakes!”

Oh boy, she is good! She never missed a beat, said it and kept on walking. Before she left me in the ‘other’ waiting room, she did giggle and remark with, “That was funny though, keep the utensils from your mouth!” Shakes her head and walks away.

In the beginning it was one large breasted lady sitting with me. She was kind of a mixture between Rosanne and/or the blonde medium, on tv. (But not as dolled up as the medium).

She began, “Hello, it’s your day eh? Mine too! They sometimes get you in and out, but other times you must wait.”

I smiled and didn’t say anything, I couldn’t have anyways!

She continued,”Don’t you hate these things? My husband told me he would take me out for dinner after this because he knows how bad I hate them. Don’t you hate them?” (She sucks in a huge breath of air to ensure she would have enough to finish her rambling).

“I mean and really they could get a better technician, she always has cold hands and a crappy personality. She is not personable. Why do they hire old bitter-bitties to do such a delicate job? I mean it hurts when she smashes these into that machine! Then she says get closer, stand up straight, suck it in, let it out, don’t move. All the while she is pulling and turning my boobs.”

Shew, she took a breath, but only to end with, “Don’t you agree?”

Don’t tell her Teena, just nod your head and let it go! It’s all I could think. However, I am really honest and of course I said, “I don’t know, I have never had one.” (With a quiver in my voice).

“What!!! Oh let me see, let me see.”

She turns me towards her, as if she was going to give me an exam. Looks at my breast and says, “You should be fine, I have alot of boob, so it hurts me more.”

As she was reliving all of her past mammograms and how horrific they were, a small framed, yet tall, lanky woman had slipped in the waiting room and strategically sat down, closest to the door. She quietly, almost as if she were talking to herself, chimed in, “I hate these things, my boobs are so fragile, it hurts and her hands are so cold,” (As if she frequented the mammograms so much, she knew the technician, like they had coffee together every week).

This clucking chatter continued to grow by leaps and bounds. As the loud, boisterous lady continued to attempt to ease my mind, new ladies appeared one by one. All had a new horror story. Some where about others and yet some were almost coming to life, as they relived each detail, of the dreaded, torturing mammogram!

If you have never had one, READ ON! It gets better, I promise!

As each name was called to enter behind ‘The Door’ I decided to change the scene, for me!

I mean (not trying to offend anyone), but I love my breasts. And I will do anything to keep them, even if it is essential, to endure a little pain.

As I slowly approached the gigantic door, I remember, physically lifting the girls up a bit, as to reassure them, “We got this!”

The small, late fifties, technician repeated my name, our eyes met and she began, in a robotical way, to explain what was about to happen and her expectations of me. I listened intently, looking for a joke to slide in and break the ice. There, right there Teena… “Now, Mrs. Drake there might be some discomfort, please just bare with me…”

I abruptly interrupted, “Mmmm I might like it…” (Pause, hold up, rewind, I quickly stopped my silly joke).

“Did you say pain?” (stammering around as if to explain I wasn’t meaning the pain, I would like, ummmmm, I was just trying to joke…)

Okay, it’s time for me to panic. I tried to explain my silly words and attempted to nicely tell her, what all I had been told about her. Of course it came out all wrong and I was for sure, I offended her. Until she had my right girl in her cold, bony hand then added the other one…awkwardly I jumped and shivered, a bit, as she gently placed it where it needed to be. As she began to release and LOWER the smasher hammer (I do not know what it is called), a quick pause, briefly happened and as the fear appeared on my face, we both BURST INTO LAUGHTER!!!!

“I mean do you ever think about telling people what you really think?” I asked as my laughter continued through each word.

“All the time! I mean it’s not like I am going to punch you and I try to be careful, but I only have so much, I can do.”

I chimed in as to assist her in her case, “Exactly, it could be worse.”

Not only did we become friends, I survived my first mammogram without a bruise and both girls intact!

Just remember everything is all based on perspective. How you perceive the world around you is, how you perceive yourself. Follow your path with a joyful heart!

God Loves You, No Matter What!

Livelove

&

Carryon

The message is clear, life is too short to live in fear. Enjoy the now.

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(Hope to see you December 8th!)

Shutup, I am tired of hearing it!

Do you ever get tired of hearing that small nasty voice in your head? You know the one that reminds you of all your past situations or your paradigm?

If you wake up with thoughts that are not uplifting, exciting, good for you and emcouraging, GO BACK TO BED AND FIND THEM.

Similar to this Seal, who is sun bathing. It appears he is dead, but instead he is taking a break without a care in the world!

I realize life is busy and you are probably in a rush however, if you will take the first few minutes of everyday to tell yourself nice and inspiring words you will be surprised how amazing life can and will be.

In other words if you hear nasty statements about you from you say, “SHUTUP! I AM TIRED OF HEARING IT!!!!”

Throw up a red light and STOP!

If going back to bed is not an option then stop rushing around and spewing hateful words out of your mouth about everyone, everything and especially yourself! Look in the mirror and say, “Damn you are good looking and I love you!”

(Listen up, I know saying stuff to yourself may feel awkward at first, but just think, the more you practice the better you will be at it).

Stop! Stop, doubting the power of your words. They do hurt you and although your subconscious is only trying to protect you from past events, coming back and repeating the pain, let it GOOOOOO!!!

Did you know, until we conquer time travel, you nor anyone else can repeat an exact event or correct anything in the past? However, you can enjoy the now, enjoy yourself, love yourself and share the love you found in you, with others.

We can create a brighter world together! We can enjoy the now! Begin with you, tell your subconscious to shutup and begin right now, by saying one nice thing to yourself! You deserve it!

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God Bless

Livelove & Carryon

Bring it on…

As the questions of: How am I going to pull all this together? Will people want to come to our workshops? How? What? When? Why am I super nervous? I keep responding with, “Bring it on!!!!!”

You know the right path or the least resistance path (Abraham-Hicks) is the one you are on when you feel it! You feel the fear, but it doesn’t overwhelm you. You feel the terrifying what ifs? However, they disappear quickly. Do I continue to step back a couple of steps, tilt my head, view the steps and think OMG, maybe I am wrong? OF COURSE!

Yesterday, I told one of my executives, who I wouldn’t make it with out, maybe I should go back to a J.O.B. As I wallowed in my silly fears. (Jack Cannefield- False, Evidence, Appearing, Real).

Then it happens! I will schedule several steps to accomplish, bringing us one step closer to providing the world happy thoughts, happy life, happy feelings. (Now that is a great deal of happy). Once, I begin my process each morning, someone essential to our growth will call, email or I meet someone while I am out! This doesn’t happen every now and then, it happens each time. It is amazing how that happens.

As I read and study some portions of my favorite authors, the messages are clear. Brian Tracy explains if you don’t set a goal you wont achieve it. Jack Cannefield discusses leaving blame out of the equation and look forward. Zig Ziglar talks about being careful to not get cooked in the squat, like his mother’s biscuits. Dale Carnegie focuses on how to be the best in the business, I love all of his teachings, but I prefer to say, your best not the best (with the switch of wording we can focus on our own growth, which will leave anyone else’s growth out of the equation).  What about one of my favorites, Wallace D. Waddles his book- The Science of Getting Rich. Waddles discusses the thinking stuff, if and when you think it and visualize it, things form from thoughts. Just to name a few of my favorites.

Life is amazing! When you begin to take care of you, everyone and everything else will fall into place. Will you have doubt and fear? YES, but only you can decide what fear and doubt you choose to keep! ONLY YOU! Isn’t that crazy it all boils down to you? In this fact, me.

I say, “FEAR and DOUBT step aside. I have a message to share. It is a lifetime of studying, gathering and depicting what you need to hear. Therefore, BRING IT ON!!!!!!!! I am excited for the new adventures and although I have fleeting moments of doubt they disappear almost as soon as they appear!”

You are wonderful. Decide today to feel your way throughout the day! If you want to take a nap, find a way to take a nap. Look for the good feeling path and although the more resistant path will appear, choose the one that is more fun! They will both take you to your end result, one just hurts a great deal more.

God Bless

I can’t wait to see you at one of our ‘Happy Workshops’ We are going to have So much FUN, FUN, FUN!!!!!!!!

Livelove

&

Carryon

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Word of the day, Cultivate

While listening to the phenomenal speakers @earlybird toastmasters Overland Park Kansas, the word of the day was, Cultivate! As I chose the word carefully it was not because I had planned on learning such a vast amount from its very existance, but rather out of need. The main title was Embracing Change. I felt like with harvest season upon our farmers and as sales reps run around to meet the fourth quarter’s quota it ‘fit’ the theme of the day.

However, it has become much more over the past twenty four hours. Think about it if you do not cultivate your plants, you will be empty handed, and have nothing at harvest time. Same pertains to businesses, relationships, families and friends. It is an essential to living a wonderful life, yet probably the most missed step in development.

Think about it! Have you or your company, grown by leaps and bounds because you didnt cultivate your environment? Maybe, but it won’t last long. If you do not cultivate your relationships/environment/yourself, you will quickly find yourself without. Without your lively hood and your dreams will swirl out of sight.

That was super sad! Now you can understand why the one word I chose for the day has become a game changer. The more I thought about the word, the more powerful it became!

Yes, you must plant the seed to be able to cultivate it. However, we wouldn’t be discussing this topic if you hadn’t planted the seed. Why? Because if you haven’t found the initiative to get up and plant the seed then you will have nothing in the end, NO MATTER WHAT!!!

Did you follow that? If not it is worth reading it again (I don’t want to type it twice, so go ahead and scroll back up and read it again).

Anywhoooo, here is your new and improved thought of the day, have fun cultivating your life! Don’t struggle with this! It’s time to enjoy going to your career or place of employment. It’s time to feel accomplished and appreciated. You do deserve it and the more you expect it the more you will receive it.

Cultivate with love this week above all else!

God Bless

LiveloveLLC

One two buckle my shoe…

Three four shut the door, five six pick up sticks…you know the rest of the nursery rhyme. I know it sounds silly, but all my mind has let me do, for several days, is repeat nursery rhymes over and over. Jack be Nimble, Mary had a Little Lamb and so on. Why?

One reason, is my baby boy is off to college and I continually reflect back to the simple times of nursery rhymes. Each time I feel a little sad I think of another one, say it, then become a little relieved with a smile and a giggle. The cycle repeats itself each time we dig through an old box or give away some old action figures.

I am excited about the next adventures in our lives. I am estatic while watching Nicholas grow into a beautiful young man, who is following his heart. He has a plan and is sticking to it.

When I become teary eyed he wraps his big arms around me and says, Mom, I love you and it’s gonna be okay!”

I KNOW, I KNOW! I wouldn’t want to have children who weren’t thriving and following their bliss! I know I can’t fix up the house enough to entice them to stay with me and nor would I want that. However, at this moment at 6 AM, I feel like gathering them all up and saying,”Okay, change of plans! Today, we are all going to curl up on the couch and read Dr. Suess. Or hey let’s go to McDonald’s play land!”

Back to the nursery rhymes…Little Miss Muffett, Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall…yes, I know it’s a bit creepy. All I can say it is my brains way of coping with the ‘adulting.’ When I become fearful of the changes, I search for something from their childhood that is simple.

Aren’t these emotions normal? As I read my sister-n-law’s blog “When the kids grow up” or @Jennifer Reynolds Drake on Facebook, I feel comforted and realize, I am not alone. Her last paragraph (which I will share her post after I complete this writing) sums it up best: “And now we can settle in the fact that we’ve raised our kids to the best of our ability, we’ve entrusted them into His hands, and that the biggest growth comes from change.”

I realize change is inevitable. I am evolving to a level I have only dreamed of, in the past. Why now? Because for the past twenty six years I have been in my bliss being a mommy. And YES, Jenny, you are correct they still need me and will continue to call, I know that, but it is a little scary.

As for today, I am continuing to reflect on the funny memories and looking ahead to the next chapter. Most importantly I am enjoying each moment in the present! All we have is Right now! Take time to find your moment or nursery rhyme to bring you to a moment of sweetness and enjoy where you are right now.

One-two buckle my shoe, three-four shut the door, five- six pick up sticks, seven- eight lay them straight, Nine-ten let’s do it again, PLEASE!

God Bless!

Livelove

That’s okay punch me again and again I can take it! 

Sound familiar? How many of us say have you ever noticed when it rains it pours? This is very true it appears that deaths come in threes, I don’t know if it is multiples of 3, but you get the idea. Sometimes it feels like one financial tragedy leads to another or another or even another. 

Wait a minute! I guess insufficient funds means insufficient funds across the board. Therefore, it would be a dominoe effect. Meaning yes the more you focus on negative or ‘unhappy’ thoughts the more negative and ‘unhappy’ thoughts will appear. The GREAT NEWS IS…THIS UNIVERSAL LAW GOES BOTH WAYS! 

What? You mean I can begin to think a happy thought and it will go away? Yes, it can be that easy. However, I must admit if you go back and read my past few blogs you will see the ups and downs. Let me explain. I am on this great journey that began with a tragedy…Although I always knew my mission and passion I wasn’t fortunate enough to bring it all together until now 45 years later. However, I am grateful I am where I am now and want to share this journey with you. Okay if you were lost you are up to speed now, you may read on.

Anyways, after my lovely message of freezing negative events in your brain, walk away, bla bla bla. Yes if you read it, you understand. Anyways it is all very true and utilizing that technique is important and easy after you learn how!!! So after I wrote about ways to divert negative energy from punching you when you are down ,is to think happy thoughts and come back to it, I didn’t imagine I would have to test it. However, I did! I guess I should say I was privileged enough to try this technique. However, at the time I didn’t see it coming and shew I learned my lesson fast enough to move on. 

Okay so I am traveling down interstate 70, sunroof open, stero blasting 80s music on satellite radio, blue skys, I had blogged and was feeling on top of the world. Then I get a phone call from a disgruntled daughter who I am happy to hear from, but she proceeds to complain and says something that made me mad. I mean I was really mad in like ten seconds flat. Psycho mom stuff! 

I said, “Okay honey (gritting my teeth while forcing a smile like she could see me) I think we should hang up now. Mommy is driving and doesn’t want to have something bad happen, so I am gonna disconnect this phone call now.”

At that moment I began to think now I understand why people think when they are down life keeps punching them down even further. 

Don’t get me wrong my emotions were real and I had legitimate reasons for being mad, I also explained all of my expectations and how I felt and why I reacted that way and she was all about herself and why was she like that? SHEWY! That was a great deal of typing when all you need to know is recognize…I was more concerned about me, myself, and I than I was about my baby girl. I will admit it. Don’t mistaken me I always put the kids first, but after reading the above writing I was still struggling with letting go of control, which benefits or appeases me! Anyone, who knows me, knows I love and adore my children. This was the dumbest argument we had ever had in our entire lives. That’s how I knew it was a quick trip to a negative environment to look for the correct tool to use when a situation like this arises. 

We hung up and my phone went from 20 percent to zero percent in like five minutes flat. My charger won’t charge and I am getting ready to be riding solo for a few hours. I froze my anger as if it was a still frame from an old film, in my brain. Then I began to brag out loud about my daughter to the air and traffic, I probably appeared to be a lunatic. By the time I could use my phone I had teared up thinking about how amazing of a baby she was and all that she has accomplished in life, in just a short time. 

Many people will agree, it appears life kicks you down when your at your lowest. ( Or something like that). But it goes both ways. I had talked myself into letting go of this argument based on false expectations that no one knew about, except me. I truly just let it go and yes I felt a bit argumentative. However, after I listened to myself and I got over being mad ; I began recalling all of her adorable, funny, looks, sayings or even her long three hour self  written and orchastrared songs.  No the situation didn’t vanish immediatly but as soon as I recognized it for what it is, it vanished. 

That was my opportunity to test the tools and techniques. The argument didn’t become damaging to either of us, when it was over it was over. I even took time to thank her and explain what was going on. We kissed hugged and made up. 

So yes you will have moments that life will knock you down. Work, family, kids, outside events…your job is to find the quickest and simplest way to divert the energy 😋!  Find a happy image or thought to quickly change scenes in your mind. At first this will be a struggle but keep at it, keep practicing because your end result is phenomenal! 

God Bless and remember to Have Fun!!!!