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What are your intentions?

Have you ever considered what your intentions are?

Why do you feel compelled to compliment someone? Or insult?

Is it because you consider yourself a ‘nice’ person or maybe you consider yourself to be a butt? And that means you are living up to your potential.

Consider this…truthfully your intentions are to feel good. Even if you are full of insults, you always come back with either, “You know me…I am a jerk!” (Which actually means let me make myself feel better by excusing my crappy action and expecting everyone else to feel better about it.) Or, “You know I am only joking or attempting to help you!” (You don’t want my opinion of this statement).

Next time you have the opportunity to ‘state your opinion’ think…what are my intentions on making this statement.

Because I promise illuminating insults will in return not make you feel better. And someday, somewhere, someone will return the favor…Hmmmm, wonder how you will feel and if your intentions will change?

As I learn more each day my greatest lessons always come from those who provide me with the most resistance. I am grateful for those people, but also send out a message of caution.

Although you may have ‘good’ intentions, ensure they are lifting up the other person before you speak. Not because of the amount of harm you cause someone else, but rather the harm you bring upon yourself!

Written by: Teena Drake

As always we are here for you! Even though the na sayers, negative no ones, and whoever else loves living in misery thinks that they can stop us, let me assure you they only fuel the fire! At Livelove LLC, we only want the best for you. Because as long as you are happy the virus will continue to infect the world…Changing the world, one happy thought at a time!

Livelove

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Carry On

We can help you with one moment of time or several, but you must let us know what you need. God Bless!

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What does ‘feeling resistance’ mean?

Feeling resistance is when a situation, someone, or something makes you not FEEL very good. Maybe it is a toxic environment at work or home. Sometimes it is a silly comment or question and it rubs us the wrong way. Regardless of ‘what’ the resistance is, if you take time to allow it to serve you, then life will be much more fun. 

For example: I received a phone call about a situation back home in Kentucky. Actually a couple of situations have created resistance for me to explore. But this particular situation truly irritated my spirit! I spent an entire day coaching and continued to help others find their path. However, the call would not get out of my head! I would replay the scenario, comments made, and the situation like a day full of reruns on MeTV. 

Then I woke up this morning…feeling resistance, basically I was angry. Why did she ask me what she did? Why did I bring her family situation into myself? I am traveling, living the life I always wanted, in California and I have spent the past twenty-four hours feeling GRRRRRRRRR. Towards someone who I haven’t seen or heard of in years! 

Have you ever felt like this? Felt the resistance you didn’t ask for? I think we all have. My question is, WHY? Why does this happen and better yet how?

After my meditation I received the most beautiful message which answered my question…what does feeling resistance mean and why does it happen?

When resistance appears…pause and breathe deeply. Ask yourself, “How can this emotion assist me in recognizing the lesson?”

How can you be happy, joyful, appreciative, grateful, if someone is always rubbing you the wrong way or standing in front of you, throwing all the negative they have? Or bringing you into a situation that you didn’t ask for? 

Message: How can you feel blissful if you don’t feel resistance. How will you learn a lesson without resistance? If you constantly complain about something and then it is gone and you mourn, does that make sense? Resistance is a part of life. Not to dwell upon, but rather to learn from and either find a solution or to learn a lesson that does not need to be repeated. 

Reflect back to a time that this situation wouldn’t have affected you. Then ask yourself, “Why do I feel angry, sad, unhappy or resistant to this circumstance?”

Next, decide do you want to hang on to this emotion or have you learned the necessary lesson to let it go? 

For example: My expectations for the lady who contacted me where crazy. My anger stemmed from what we call ‘Mother Bear’ syndrome. Even though it had little to do with me or my family, my subconscious began to work overtime. Why did she say this or that? GRRRRR I felt like growling all day. Then I STOPPED! I meditated and requested clarity. (I also always include the Hawaiian Prayer to help me). 

After the message came to me…I realized this person was struggling with her own personal resistance. She trusted me to listen and understand. She needed a friendly voice to say, “It is going to be okay!” Although I did all of that, my question continued to be, “Why do I feel so irritated with this situation?”

My conclusion was I needed a little resistance to appreciate the here and now. To appreciate how things are always working out for me. To be reminded of how successful I already am and that one person’s opinion is just like a butthole, we all have one. 

However, she wasn’t even giving me her opinion, being hateful, or critical. I was the one who created the resistance. I was the one who allowed my brain to work overtime. 

Resistance does serve you. Sometimes it is a simple reminder that you are okay and other times it is for a lesson to be learned. Once that lesson is learned it is your job to move on and let it go. Remember, NO ONE can change the past, we can learn from it, but not change it.

If you are confronted with a feeling of resistance, take time to pause and provide it with enough attention, to ensure it doesn’t return for a little while. Allow your emotions to be indicators to determine what needs to be changed. 

Livelove LLC is in full swing. We are so excited about the Happy Coaching 101 and we have some ‘NEW’ adventures on their way. 

Facebook, email, instagram, tweet, snap, or message on here to find out how we can assist you in those moments of resistance. 

Life situations that you might need a coach for: Weight loss, depression, anger, irritation, mind-set, earning more money, successfully living to its fullest, parenting, divorce, school, and the list continues on. No need to struggle, we are here to help! 

Live Love

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Carry On

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How would you participate in the Olympics, if you had the choice?

As the meeting began at promptly seven in the morning, we quickly scurried to our seats and the ‘Toastmaster’ began our weekly meeting. I can’t tell you how elated I am, each time I attend a meeting. I know our Earlybird Toastmaster group thinks I am lying, at times, when I boldly announce how happy I am to have this wonderful experience with such a wonderful group of people and for a good cause. (Yes, I become all mushy and sentimental sometimes, because I am so darn grateful for this experience). However, they always find a way to uplift, educate and inspire me to keep on keeping on.

This week was no different. I was so ecstatic to be there I had goosebumps. Then they announced the topic or subject of the week! Omg, each and every cell was bouncing up and down when he said, “Olympics.”

I don’t remember anything else, but that word! I don’t know if it is about specific athletes, awards, or #trends on #twitter. I simply heard OLYMPICS! I thought oh yes! This is my topic! I can remember when the torch was to be running through our small town of Bedford Kentucky over twenty-two years ago!

It was a cold, dreary day and Darion was at least two years old, which she is now 25. I had all the details. When the athlete would be passing our driveway, approximate time of arrival at the Courthouse and the time of the torch lighting. I talked about it for weeks and weeks before the actual day! LOL I remember friends of mine laughing at me for my obsession surrounding this event. It was finally here!

I wrapped Darion up and we quickly walked to the end of our mile long driveway. The rain poured, it felt like God was pouring buckets of water on top of us! It didn’t matter, we stood firm and cheered as the drenched and cold athlete ran by. Tears streamed down my face as Darion looked up and asked, “What’s wrong mommy? Why are you sad?”

I chuckled, swooped her up to rush and catch the lighting of the torch. The inspiring event continues to hold a special place in my heart. However, after reading this heartfelt series of events you would probably create an image of a sports crazed person. Watching sports event after event, having great celebrations around the sports world to be able to cheer on my team. Truth is I could care less. I can take it or leave it, but the Olympics inspires me, creates emotions of exhilaration, I can, achievement and unity.

While multitasking by reflecting and enjoying my emotions, I am quickly brought back to reality, when the acquainting session had begun and I was off in la la land. “I am sorry, can you restate the question?”

“If you could participate in the Olympics what would you want your role to be?”

(I am not even sure if that was the question, but that is what I heard).

I stated my name and what I ‘do’ then said, “If I could be anything I would be a coach! And now that I think about it, that’s what I love to do anyways.”

What? What kind of answer was that? My Stinking Thinking (Zig Ziglar) was creeping in! Michael one of my fellow toastmasters, reminded me to stop Stinkin Thinkin and I immediately brought myself back to the meeting! He is correct. I am fine, I continued to ‘coach’ myself through each portion and stayed focused on the speeches.

Then it happened. One of those AHA moments, hit me! Sam (another fellow Toastmaster) said, “Teena, When you said that about being a coach, I laughed and told Michael, if Teena Drake told me I could do it, I would believe it and do it.”

I laughed it off, yet allowed his kind and motivational words to sink in.

Sam hit the bullseye! I always knew I was labeled a cheerleader. However, after a certain age the title cheerleader, isn’t how I would describe myself. Because it is isolated to one team or age group. However, over the years some of my greatest emotional accomplishments were during my times of coaching. And yes, I mean original types of sports coaching- Tee ball, flag football, middleschool volleyball, cheerleading, track…as well as talent, beauty, pageants and academics!

In the sports world, I struggled with insecurities. I never felt ‘good’ enough to uphold the title Coach. I don’t know if it was my lack of ability in those skill sets or my lack of knowledge. But I rarely placed my ‘coaching’ experience on a resume or LinkedIn, until now.

However, my teams were always successful. I have a great deal to celebrate over the multitude of wins and improvements in my athletes. But I didn’t have faith in my own ability.

Although my style of coaching is much different than the past, the main purpose/goal, is invariably the same. I love it! As coach… you are their cheerleader, small tiny voice in their heads that says, “Yes, you can!” Mentor, guide and most of all motivator.

Along with so many people who assist, motivate, hold me accountable and uplift my gifts, I must express my deepest gratitude to all of them and to my fellow Toastmaster friends.

You see, you do not know when your words could change someone’s life forever! If you see something terrific in someone tell them. They may need a little boost to fullfill their own dreams and ambitions. We are all in this together.

I am grateful to know I am on the right path.

Do you love this feeling as well? Haven’t found it yet? Still looking for a title that resignates with you? Look into our services we are building an empire of self development tools, wide variety of coaches, and keynote speakers.

What do you want to say when asked, “What do you do? Why?”

Livelove

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Carryon

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Inspiring minds want to know!

How does success feel? If you don’t know how it feels, how do you know if you want it?

I hear you! Everyday people explain to me their opinions of success measurement. For example, when I am married, earn X amount of dollars or have ten thousand followers, then I will be successful. Or any other stipulation, we all place in the category of success. My question is how does the ‘when’ feel?

“If you do not know before you have it, how will you know when you have achieved it?” asked me.

Read it again! The last statement says you must feel, how you will feel, once you have achieved any goal, before you have achieved it. Think about it…peek back into your past and think of an accomplishment, that throughout the journey, you had days of hopelessness and fears, beyond belief. However, you persevered sometimes out of neccessity and other times out of desire to improve. Yet once you reached the goal, you were quickly on to the next one.

Now fast forward to YOU, today. Are you standing or sitting up a little taller now? Is your head held high, go ahead pause to pat yourself on the back, after all you deserve it! You have jumped hurdles and finished the race, in one format or another. Even if it was not your best race, you finished it and went on to achieve even more. Thats why it is time to feature your accomplishments. Take the time to applaud yourself, at this very moment for the goals you have already achieved.

I don’t care who you are, your age, income, race, background or location does not set us apart from the truth…we have all been faced with adversity, while striving to accomplish a goal or desired outcome. Then once the goal is accomplished, we are glad to move on to the next delicious adventure. Do we think it will be perfect? Not at all, but we know deep down in our souls, we will accomplish the next one and the next one. Because it is who we are.

During one of my happy coaching sessions my friend wept on the other end of the phone and pleaded for me to tell her she was not crazy. “Crazy?” I questioned.

Through her tears and sniffles, attempting to regain her composure, she replies with, “Yes, I feel crazy at times. Because I am happy in the midst of madness. My ex-husband continuously reminds me of who I once was and I always cringe and think, I don’t want to be that person anymore. I was unhappy, lonely, and bored. Please tell me I am not crazy!”

After discussing back and forth what she was fearing, I repeated back to her, what she said. What happened next was like opening the gates of acceptance, for her. She realized how amazing her life was and she didn’t feel crazy anymore, but rather happy with her ‘successful’ outcome. After such a difficult time in her life, her vision of success was feeling threatened. Therefore, she was facing her adversity. She felt guilty for feeling happy and for knowing what happiness felt like. If you are like me, you must know the outcome of a story. “Yes, she is extremely happy and is taking time to feel how great success feels!”

How does your vision feel? Your dreams? Goals? If you don’t know then take time to pause…and feel. What do they smell, taste, touch, sound, and look like? Not specific, just feel them…are they sweet or a bit more spicy? Do you crave it even more when the sweet smell wafts across your nostrils? Are there articles raving about you? Or sweet lovers notes on your pillow at night?

Share with us either something you are struggling with now or something you accomplished. We would love to celebrate with you.

Inspiring minds want to know! If you email us your story at Livelove.teena@gmail.com you may be featured on Livelove’s website as a highlighted ‘Happy’ accoplishment to uplift others by assisting them in Living, Loving and Carrying on!

After all how do we all want to feel? Good, Happy, Better, or Inspired.

As I inhale slowly and exhale even slower…I send you feelings of love, hopefulness, clarity and sweet, sweet success. Until we meet again!

Livelove

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Carryon

For more information on Happy Coaching or what Livelove has to offer you go to our website at

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or email us: Livelove.teena@gmail.com

(I always request permission to share a happy coaching session with the public. I choose not to use names, to demonstrate how most of us can relate to each other’s situations, in one way or another. You could relate, couldn’t you?)

Sunday Funday…

Don’t look too deeply into this picture. It was a funny incident to make Sunday an even funnier day! What you are looking at is an exfoliating mask, by glamglow. It had never been opened and as I squeezed for the third time, out burst this gritty, green, clumpy, goo. I began laughing and laughing, not recognizing where the majority, had ended up.

As I smeared on the face mask and checked to ensure all was well covered, I glanced up and there they were…two tubular, greeish colored, squirts that looked similar to baby poop, formed in the funniest letters, P U. I immediatly began laughing and laughing. Eric came in wondering what the heck was going on.

Of course, when I showed him, he giggled, but also rubbed his head in wonder. LOLOLOLOLOL! I am still laughing.

Isn’t it funny how the simpiliest things can set the tone for your entire day? Of course it goes both ways, if you focus on the sad, depressing issues, in return the world is an unhappy place. However, if you take the first step and focus on the happy, funny issues, even if it is as simple as a mirror oops, you will begin to feel a little better. You will begin to see the world as a much brighter place. Regardless of everyone else’s opinion.

God Bless

Livelove

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Carryon

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Need your help!

Here it goes, Lights, Camera and Action! Livelove’s YouTube channel is about to go Crazy! I get so excited every time I think about it. However, I have a few issues, that I could honestly, use your help with. As a new on-line business, with a mission, that contains a great deal of LOVE, for YOU…I am struggling with a few decisions. Therefore, I wondered if you would like to be a part of the ‘decision’ making process. If so, continue to read and participate, if not we will catch you later (you might want to skip over reading the rest of this one). If you already know about Livelove and are interested in having an input, as our family (business) grows and brands themselves, then skip down to number five.

 

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  1. We have the business registered and services in place.
  2. Trademark for Freddy the Pink Flamingo, is all completed (those of you who helped choose him, Thank you).
  3.  Slogan is being registered as we speak.
  4. Services: One on one coaching, professional motivational workshops, for those companies who need extra help with company moral and team work. A new e-book and audible book with the Happy Curriculum embedded into the series, to allow you to learn and enjoy, at your own pace, is almost completed. Educational Seminar for school districts to educate the children, on choosing life/living, rather than suicide. Some exciting new items will be available shortly :).
  5. So what am I missing? Your input on all of this! To be exact…
    • Where would you like to attend a ‘How to’ ‘Be Happy’ seminar/workshop? Is there a preferable location for example? Would you sign up to attend a Livelove seminar in Kauai, Outer Banks North Carolina, Los Angeles? Texas? Or Kansas City? Or in another country? Maybe Italy? or Mexico? You tell me, list it in the comments on Facebook, WordPress, messenger or email us… Livelove.teena@gmail.com I want to know where you would like for our event planning specialist to begin focusing?
    • Last but not least…Do you like our newest member to Livelove LLC? The only problem is she is nameless, for now. Therefore, I did a mini photo shoot for you! She will be creating educational videos for our ‘kiddos’ who are watching Livelove!
    • This is your chance to give a thumbs up or down to _______________, our newest member. Again you can comment on WordPress, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, messenger, email us at http://www.Livelove.teena@gmail.com, or check into our website http://Www.Livelovellc.org/home and leave us a message.
    • Questions to answer:
      • What should her name be? I have Momma Teena, Pinky, Pinkalicious (this one scares me a bit, sounds a little umm, IDK), or my middle name is Gay after my aunt, I could use her name which means ‘happy’. Or, you provide suggestions.
      • Do you like the pink hair? For educational videos?
      • Glasses? or no glasses?
      • Type of outfit she should have made? (If you didn’t know Physical Fit Flower the Clown was me, but I had to move away from being a white face clown, too many horror films 😦 .
      • How long of videos do you prefer? Five minutes, fifteen or twenty-five…we realize when guest are on the show, they may be over twenty-five, but regularly? (Educational Videos, songs, how to’s, interesting journeys, and much more)
      • Do you think we should post once a day, week bi-weekly or monthly?
  6. Anything else you can think of or suggest for us to help you, let us know!

Livelove is super excited to share with you in 2018! Looking forward to meeting you in person! I will announce her name as soon as we know the final decision.

God Bless!

Livelove

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Carryon

 

Happy Coaching 101 (Day five)

Last day of my sneak peek of Happy Coaching 101. Don’t forget to catch up and read Monday’s post about this service. It will be time for you to tell me how you think this service would be best utilized. Yes, I need your help on deciding several items in January of 2018. Therefore, if you find yourself feeling the need to comment, provide advice or just want to voice your opinion, Livelove is giving you that opportunity!

Today’s posting is very dear to my heart. This middle age man has battled with drugs, is not allowed to see his family and has been on a multitude of  street and prescription drugs, longer than not. I provided this service for free, for him. I will honestly say, his messages are some of my favorites.

Message:

It’s time to come out and be the person you are to be! It’s time for you to shine like a brand new coin and give back to society, what you were meant to bring. Your kids need their daddy, the one who adores and cherishes them. A man! A man to be looked up to, who is honest and cares for himself as well as others. You are now to be grateful for your own family who has upheld you, bailed you out numersous times and cried themselves to sleep when you were locked up because they miss and love you.

I am jumping up and down in excitement to watch you grow and evolve to the man you know you already are! You are loved no matter what, unconditionally! Just remember you are also creating a pattern for your children to follow, where do you want them to go? Down your present road or a happier one? You choose.

God Bless

Livelove

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Carryon

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Email us is you are interested in beginning Happy Coaching 101 as personal messages.

Monday January 14th we will have only five spots open for that week, but will be adding more asap.

Written by: Momma Teena and her Happy Coaching Messages!