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What if your paradigm was wiped clean???

Good Morning!! This is my favorite day of the week!! Yes, believe it or not Monday mornings are my favorites, actually the entire day is!!! Isn’t that funny? I wish I could explain, one thing is for sure…it’s my FAVORITE DAY! As I was plugging in to my morning a Teena moment came to me! What if your paradigm or past was obsolete? Suddenly, out of no where…no one knew you and you had no recollection of anyone? What would you do differently?

Let me tell you about a little boy who challenged me everyday, yet said to me one day, “Do you know why I love you Mrs. Drake? Because you always accept me as a new me, the next morning.”

What???!!!! I think he must be talking about another teacher. Because everyday I prayed he would be a new him in the morning. And you can’t imagine how many days I thought, “I love you, but I don’t know if I can make it another day!”

I don’t care who you are, we all have people in our lives like this. Whether it be a student in your classroom or a Co worker, it doesn’t matter who they are it’s who or what you know about them.

After this thought about, your past being erased, I thought of that little boy, who believed in me because he felt like I believed in him! And I did!!!

This thought took me on a fun journey of emotions. Because I now know why that little boy said that!

I had him in 3rd grade and five years later I had him in 8th grade. Before 3rd grade began, I was handed 18 files to read and learn about my students. Their strengths, weaknesses and behavior issues. I read one!!!! (Which coincidentally he transferred out and I never had him). I closed the first folder and quietly walked to the office with all files in arms. I remember the look on our secretaries face (who I adore) when I said, “Can I have a copy of their medical files only? And any IEP’s?”

You know she wanted to say, “Are you stupid? You are holding them.”

However, I think the color still fading from my face and the weakness in my knees, explained it all!”

When I explained how I couldn’t educate effectively if I knew all the other opinions and data from their past. She was speechless. But it never did work with me!!!! My feelings were a great deal can change in one summer. There are so many factors that play into a person/students learning abilities, maturity, behavior ect… Yes this carries on with good or bad signals.

For example: That little boy was a day by day case, EVERYDAY. However, the first three weeks of school, I never knew this child had any trouble at all. He read at a 5th or higher grade level, he was loving, kind and amazing. (And still is to this day).

Then one day he didn’t come to school, then another. When he did return it was like a switch had turned on. His peers were constantly irritated with him, he would poke them, write on their papers…I mean I was in a state of grrrr!

What did I do? Funny thing is I didn’t realize it then, but now I see I did what came natural. I went with what I knew. I had built my own perspective of this child. Therefore, his paradigm to me was an intelligent, sweet, funny and kind child. I knew nothing about his past teachers opinions, his home life or his, let’s call it persistent personality, to ensure his life was as he wanted it. His paradigm was wiped clean as for me. That is why we had the discussion, EVERYDAY, “Tomorrow is a new day! You, my intelligent, well behaved, studious young man will begin again and tomorrow will be even better!”

Yes, we had that same conversation hundreds or maybe even thousands of times from 3rd grade, then 6th through 8th!

Did I change him? Nooo I do know I loved him, as a student. I do believe I helped him see a better him. And if you knew his real life paradigm, you like me, would be tempted to provide him with excuses. However, how would that help him? Or me or anyone else who might struggle with his quirky, nontraditional ways.

Ask yourself, “If my paradigm was wiped clean right now (and I was healthy bla bla bla), what would I want my new one to be?”

It is not to scare you, but just think…if you didn’t worry about the past, if no one had something to hold against you from 30 years ago (yes, people still claim to know someone even if they haven’t spoken to them in 30 years, that’s crazy to me). Not that you live your life based on other people’s opinions, just a fun little thought.

Next time you begin to become irritated with someone or something stop and ensure this is a reaction towards this particular incident and not a reaction based on the past. When you begin to live for or to feel good, life is paradise with a twist.

The twist being those small, quiet irritating moments to remind you of how you want your memories/paradigm, to be in one day, a month, a year or even years.

The pages are unwritten and you my friend are holding the pen!

God Bless

Livelove

&

Carryon

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Wow! What day is it? September 6, 2017…

As I plan my day and decide which is the most important task I look back over my website, that’s when it hit me! What? I haven’t blogged since August something? According to the last post it was August 28th! Oh my!!!! Can I explain my loss of time?

Dogs to vet, kid loses keys to car (all of them), kid goes to college, moved into dorm, moved out of dorm in 8 days (by himself), daughter comes in we enjoy wine festival, dogs back to vet, child has a wreck (totals her car, but thankfully is okay), other children whom have went off to college came to visit, cleaned out one closet/two rooms, continue to sell books, take classes, record coffee talk, became an ordained marriage minister, register as well as define, my new amazing company-Livelove hmmmm….I wonder why I continue to think negatively about my progress. Maybe after writing this I will feel better!

Please, please do not take any of that as complaining because I am not! Instead that list and this moment creates a feeling for me that is so amazing, it’s undescribable! Why? Because I have honestly become an evolving, feeling, understanding, attracting abundance in all avenues of my life human being. Meaning I am enjoying my journey and all that is best for me is here and continues to flow.

Has every day and each moment been butterflies and frolicking in the sunshine? Nope! However, has it been ‘fun’ the majority of the time? Yep!! Yes!! Si!! (I am unsure how many possible ways there are to say yes, but if I could I would type them all!!!) I have had days full of blissful moments, one right after another, yet some days have been filled with ups and downs almost like I was jumping rope, the fluctuations were that rapid.

However, as I sit and write to you, today, I realize how much fun I have had since August 28th. Of course I then continue on a reminiscing spree, but only fun or funny events. The next thing you know I am blogging and sharing with you the answer to our questions about life.

I feel like a broken record, however it’s true! I have spent my entire life searching for the ‘right’ things to do or say to help someone else have a richer, fuller, fun filled life. Some years we entitled these techniques as goal setting. Visualization, soul cleansing, religion, counseling, co-dependency and so on. I would study leadership material, listen to motivational speeches, read books to help me and of course my intentions were to help me help others.

Yet now I ask myself and you, is there anything wrong with that? If you said, “Yes.” You are 100 percent correct! However, if you said, “No.” You are 100 percent correct, as well!

You see I only did the research, helped others, chose my multiple career paths, wrote my book (Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby by Teena Drake), created a company, Livelove, and began sharing with you all these wonderful techniques because that’s what felt TERRIFIC TO ME!!!! Shew…that was a mouth full.

It’s true!!! Did I and continue to inspire, educate, love, live and enrich the lives of those who chose to read my material? Yes, of course I did! And I plan to grow and share with you until we are all living in sweet harmony, to the best of our ability!

Why do I choose this path? Because it feels good, terrific, happy, fun, loving and free to me! And EVERYONE, even politicians (Actually especially politicians, U.S. leaders and world leaders need to attend my upcoming ‘Happy Class’), your domestic engineers, preachers, teachers, entraprueners, millionaires, but most important and especially YOU can live a life full of those happy moments or feeling good choices.

Does fear creep in? Do I become scared and hopeless (no not much lol)? The answer to both of these questions are yes!!! However, let those emotions go! If you want to change your life, if not then embrace those emotions and decide why they are super prominent.

It doesn’t matter which route you take, the meaning to life is to ‘Be Happy.’ To enjoy the glorious gifts you were so delicately born with.

Go with those interupting, narrow trails that take you the long way around. It is okay because trust me when I say, “Achieving the tasks or goals throughout life was amazing, thrilling, exhilarating, phenomenal and truly undescribable. However, the journey has been times a million more fun than the end result. The seemingly minute downfalls, curve balls and pit stops along the way are the ones I cherish the most.

Yes, the journey of raising my children, vacations, financial triumphs, financial disaater, careers beginning, evolving, losing, loving, laughter, tears and happiness has filled in the details of each memory. Because it’s not the details of the memory you have, but rather the details of the feelings, emotions ect.

Find it, if you want, the ‘feeling good’ emotion and enjoy it.

If you responded with, “How? I don’t feel like it today or Teena, you don’t understand?”

That’s fine, you are probably right. Notice, I said, “If you want to.”

That’s because no matter what happiness is YOUR CHOICE!

If you choose (and you are having a down day), lay in the bed or go to the bathroom and begin saying, “I LOVE _________! I LOVE To _________.”

Yes, sometimes it can be a little negative just don’t dwell on that it’s more of a way to let it go. For example: Lady at work is being super mean to you and has been for days, you are over it. Excuse yourself and say I love to go to the bathroom so I can’t hear her. (Gritting your teeth).

No really just focus on you and what makes you feel good not the other person, that provides their meaness with more energy. Remember your circle of influence is ONLY YOU! (@Stephencovey @leaderinme).

Okay, I have written enough! If you received nothing else know this…HAVE FUN!

Livelove

When the world has you busy, but you continue to find time to write…

Lately my life has been extremely busyI can’t remember the last day I didn’t have anything to do. I have been traveling, building my business, enjoying whoever I am with at that moment or simply enjoying a new adventure, like a BBQ run!

However, It does feel like I have been a little too busy. I might need to take a break for a day. I don’t mean hold up on writing just maybe everything else. Even if I do not post everyday I always find time to write!!! It is my passion. I love all my God given gifts, I have been given, but writing is my all time favorite. It provides me with freedom to feel each emotion and all possible solutions or outcomes.

When I am writing the world seems to stand atill. Almost as if I am frozen in time. I hear the outside sounds however, when I am writing they become extraordinary background music. Motor running in the distance to the North East. Birds tweeting with a different pitch on each chord, crickets chirping an old S-10 speeds down the road accelerating almost like he hopes to arrive at his home before it breaks down and a talking Tom cat named Tommy prances the perimeter of my front yard meowing every step. Yes I have distractions, but I am content if the words are flowing.

Know what makes your world stand still and do more of that! If it is walking, take time to walk everyday. If you love live performances, find more to attend. Enjoy your life by doing more that fills your heart with happiness.

God Loves You$

Livelove

If you stir poop with a stick does it smell worse?

The answer to my question is pretty obvious. Yes, a pile of resting cow manure, if stirred even the slightest, can smell up an entire area! Why does it matter? It really doesn’t however, it is good to know.

Life is similar to this. I realize sometimes, open discussion is the only way to heal. However, to stand and stir the pile to say you enjoy the aroma is ludicrous. When in a healing mode, get in patch the wound to allow it to heal on its own, then get out! Try not to stay in the smelly area and continue to stir and dig deeper, the outcome will not smell like roses, I promise.

When you are living in the midst of a pile of manure, you do not want to stay there do you? Also, haven’t we established that learning from the past is all you can do? You can not alter or change what has already been done, can you?

If you agreed with the above questions then put your stick down, right now! Change your conversations to exciting upcoming events, planning new adventures and creating a happier paradigm. Let the healing continue in the background.

To wrap it up! The more you stir poop the worse it smells. Let the decomposers do their job and you go ahead and create a better smelling future.

Be???? 

Why does the word Be continually show up? As for me it’s constant because I have always been doing aomething. Working towards a goal or focusing on the perfect steps to get to where I want to be. 

However, recently I have tried to just ‘Be.’ Sometimes it is awkward and I feel guilty or lazy. Then yet my paradigm kicks in and reminds my mind; how many times I have failed or how many times I have been hurt or how many times someone else did something to make ME not happy! 

Really? Read that entire paragraph again! Words like guilt, not, hurt, sad (not happy) do not feel good, but just like you I feel them everyday. Now, my everyday is more like 5 fleeting moments. It’s almost like a quick, but painful PINCH under my arm, where the skin is super sensitive. OUCH! Ashby and I always said it was a bite from the love bug. (However, if that pain is a love bug it can move on because it hurts.)

Anyways, moments of soaking, sifting and reminiscing  deep into your paradigm or past connections, isn’t the best path to propel your life into an amazing realm. Instead, practice the state of BE. 

Be happy, kind, loving, peaceful whichever fits you today choose it and be it. If you do not feel like adding to it then go ahead and take a day to just ‘Be.’

Leave the worries of the world or I should say the worries of your paradigm in the trash. Not all of your paradigms, just those ones that do not bring you joy. Bob Proctor entitled it a paradigm shift. Therefore, when you decided what state you choose today, only focus on feeling good, enjoying the journey and let it be!