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Do you wake up happy?

How do you wake up every morning? Are you constantly sleeping through the alarm, yelling at your children to get ready? By the time you arrive at work, are you ready for a break? You might be sufferering from a simple issue Livelove likes to call, the what-if-itis.

You are probably not sleeping well, if all the what ifs or whatifitis is filling your mind. However, this is not conducive to a good nights sleep or a ‘happy’ morning. Not to mention the rest of your life.

The suffix itis is defined as a disease characterized by inflammation. Such as arthritis, tendinitis, bronchitis and of course whatifitis. (www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary) Affects of this disease or inflammation of creating whatif scenarios are swelling of the brain, which leads to inflammation of the heart, stomache and anything else you feel a bit of pain from, upon waking up.

If the above paragraphs resonate with you, we have some quick and easy tips to help. These tricks will assist you with sleeping peacefully and learn to wake up ‘happy’.

Let us begin with the evening before. Thirty minutes before you lay your head down,,,

  • Turn off or put away all electronics.
  • Write down anything you are worrying about. (children, ballgames, work, anything that is weighing heavy on youd mind)
  • Fold the paper in half, on the back write– Whatever will be, will be best for me.
  • Next leave all your worries on the kitchen table, written down. I promise they will still be there in the morning. However, after a goodnights sleep, they will not be as prominent, as they would be if you contemplated them all night.
  • As you lay down begin to list everything you are grateful for.
    • I love my bed
    • Grateful to be laying down in a home with controlled temperatures
    • Grateful for food
    • Grateful for my health
  • Make this fun…you can be grateful for silly items, sleep, your hair, ect…it doesn’t matter what you are grateful for, keep listing.
  • Last but definetly not least…As you lay your head to rest and close your eyes take a few minutes to congratulate and compliment yourself. (This step comes easier with time, you will eventually find reasons to pat yourself on the back, but at first it feels a little uncomfortable)

I have even congratulated myself for not losing my temper. Or for gritting my teeth and holding my toungue, when someone said something that ticked me off. Be light hearted, no matter what, YOU, have accomplished something terrific today! Even if it was getting out of bed and feeding your pets.

As for the waking up part, this procedure is much simplier when healing from whatifitis. Before you climbed out of bed, begin the same procedure of listing all the simple pleasures, you are grateful for. This doesn’t need to be as lengthy as your night time list.

While you are preparing for the day find a saying to uplift and create a happy emotion. This sets your day with a vibration of, YES I CAN.

Here are some I have utilized throughout my time of whatifitis, everyone suffers from this inflammation, at times in their lives. The most important part is it doesn’t last for weeks on end.

  • Whatever will be, is best for me.
  • I think I can, I think I can…I know I can, I know I can. (Yes, it is from the Little Engine that Could)
  • Mirror talks…You are amazing, You are worthy, You, my friend, are awesome!
  • My favorite saying is, “I feel terrific!” This is a quote I learned from Brian Tracy, personal development guru. When faced with adversity, even in the midst of it, I will say, “I feel Terrific!” It feels wonderful. Resets your entire demeanor.
  • Try it, right now…while reading this say, “I feel Terrific!” Do again and again, until you feel better. It works everytime.

Do you wake up happy? If you are waking up stressed and miserable, maybe it is time for you to shut down, unplug and have an attitude with gratitude! Life can be fun, expect the best and the rest will take care of itself.

God Bless! Do you wake up happy?




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How would you participate in the Olympics, if you had the choice?

As the meeting began at promptly seven in the morning, we quickly scurried to our seats and the ‘Toastmaster’ began our weekly meeting. I can’t tell you how elated I am, each time I attend a meeting. I know our Earlybird Toastmaster group thinks I am lying, at times, when I boldly announce how happy I am to have this wonderful experience with such a wonderful group of people and for a good cause. (Yes, I become all mushy and sentimental sometimes, because I am so darn grateful for this experience). However, they always find a way to uplift, educate and inspire me to keep on keeping on.

This week was no different. I was so ecstatic to be there I had goosebumps. Then they announced the topic or subject of the week! Omg, each and every cell was bouncing up and down when he said, “Olympics.”

I don’t remember anything else, but that word! I don’t know if it is about specific athletes, awards, or #trends on #twitter. I simply heard OLYMPICS! I thought oh yes! This is my topic! I can remember when the torch was to be running through our small town of Bedford Kentucky over twenty-two years ago!

It was a cold, dreary day and Darion was at least two years old, which she is now 25. I had all the details. When the athlete would be passing our driveway, approximate time of arrival at the Courthouse and the time of the torch lighting. I talked about it for weeks and weeks before the actual day! LOL I remember friends of mine laughing at me for my obsession surrounding this event. It was finally here!

I wrapped Darion up and we quickly walked to the end of our mile long driveway. The rain poured, it felt like God was pouring buckets of water on top of us! It didn’t matter, we stood firm and cheered as the drenched and cold athlete ran by. Tears streamed down my face as Darion looked up and asked, “What’s wrong mommy? Why are you sad?”

I chuckled, swooped her up to rush and catch the lighting of the torch. The inspiring event continues to hold a special place in my heart. However, after reading this heartfelt series of events you would probably create an image of a sports crazed person. Watching sports event after event, having great celebrations around the sports world to be able to cheer on my team. Truth is I could care less. I can take it or leave it, but the Olympics inspires me, creates emotions of exhilaration, I can, achievement and unity.

While multitasking by reflecting and enjoying my emotions, I am quickly brought back to reality, when the acquainting session had begun and I was off in la la land. “I am sorry, can you restate the question?”

“If you could participate in the Olympics what would you want your role to be?”

(I am not even sure if that was the question, but that is what I heard).

I stated my name and what I ‘do’ then said, “If I could be anything I would be a coach! And now that I think about it, that’s what I love to do anyways.”

What? What kind of answer was that? My Stinking Thinking (Zig Ziglar) was creeping in! Michael one of my fellow toastmasters, reminded me to stop Stinkin Thinkin and I immediately brought myself back to the meeting! He is correct. I am fine, I continued to ‘coach’ myself through each portion and stayed focused on the speeches.

Then it happened. One of those AHA moments, hit me! Sam (another fellow Toastmaster) said, “Teena, When you said that about being a coach, I laughed and told Michael, if Teena Drake told me I could do it, I would believe it and do it.”

I laughed it off, yet allowed his kind and motivational words to sink in.

Sam hit the bullseye! I always knew I was labeled a cheerleader. However, after a certain age the title cheerleader, isn’t how I would describe myself. Because it is isolated to one team or age group. However, over the years some of my greatest emotional accomplishments were during my times of coaching. And yes, I mean original types of sports coaching- Tee ball, flag football, middleschool volleyball, cheerleading, track…as well as talent, beauty, pageants and academics!

In the sports world, I struggled with insecurities. I never felt ‘good’ enough to uphold the title Coach. I don’t know if it was my lack of ability in those skill sets or my lack of knowledge. But I rarely placed my ‘coaching’ experience on a resume or LinkedIn, until now.

However, my teams were always successful. I have a great deal to celebrate over the multitude of wins and improvements in my athletes. But I didn’t have faith in my own ability.

Although my style of coaching is much different than the past, the main purpose/goal, is invariably the same. I love it! As coach… you are their cheerleader, small tiny voice in their heads that says, “Yes, you can!” Mentor, guide and most of all motivator.

Along with so many people who assist, motivate, hold me accountable and uplift my gifts, I must express my deepest gratitude to all of them and to my fellow Toastmaster friends.

You see, you do not know when your words could change someone’s life forever! If you see something terrific in someone tell them. They may need a little boost to fullfill their own dreams and ambitions. We are all in this together.

I am grateful to know I am on the right path.

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What do you want to say when asked, “What do you do? Why?”




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Inspiring minds want to know!

How does success feel? If you don’t know how it feels, how do you know if you want it?

I hear you! Everyday people explain to me their opinions of success measurement. For example, when I am married, earn X amount of dollars or have ten thousand followers, then I will be successful. Or any other stipulation, we all place in the category of success. My question is how does the ‘when’ feel?

“If you do not know before you have it, how will you know when you have achieved it?” asked me.

Read it again! The last statement says you must feel, how you will feel, once you have achieved any goal, before you have achieved it. Think about it…peek back into your past and think of an accomplishment, that throughout the journey, you had days of hopelessness and fears, beyond belief. However, you persevered sometimes out of neccessity and other times out of desire to improve. Yet once you reached the goal, you were quickly on to the next one.

Now fast forward to YOU, today. Are you standing or sitting up a little taller now? Is your head held high, go ahead pause to pat yourself on the back, after all you deserve it! You have jumped hurdles and finished the race, in one format or another. Even if it was not your best race, you finished it and went on to achieve even more. Thats why it is time to feature your accomplishments. Take the time to applaud yourself, at this very moment for the goals you have already achieved.

I don’t care who you are, your age, income, race, background or location does not set us apart from the truth…we have all been faced with adversity, while striving to accomplish a goal or desired outcome. Then once the goal is accomplished, we are glad to move on to the next delicious adventure. Do we think it will be perfect? Not at all, but we know deep down in our souls, we will accomplish the next one and the next one. Because it is who we are.

During one of my happy coaching sessions my friend wept on the other end of the phone and pleaded for me to tell her she was not crazy. “Crazy?” I questioned.

Through her tears and sniffles, attempting to regain her composure, she replies with, “Yes, I feel crazy at times. Because I am happy in the midst of madness. My ex-husband continuously reminds me of who I once was and I always cringe and think, I don’t want to be that person anymore. I was unhappy, lonely, and bored. Please tell me I am not crazy!”

After discussing back and forth what she was fearing, I repeated back to her, what she said. What happened next was like opening the gates of acceptance, for her. She realized how amazing her life was and she didn’t feel crazy anymore, but rather happy with her ‘successful’ outcome. After such a difficult time in her life, her vision of success was feeling threatened. Therefore, she was facing her adversity. She felt guilty for feeling happy and for knowing what happiness felt like. If you are like me, you must know the outcome of a story. “Yes, she is extremely happy and is taking time to feel how great success feels!”

How does your vision feel? Your dreams? Goals? If you don’t know then take time to pause…and feel. What do they smell, taste, touch, sound, and look like? Not specific, just feel them…are they sweet or a bit more spicy? Do you crave it even more when the sweet smell wafts across your nostrils? Are there articles raving about you? Or sweet lovers notes on your pillow at night?

Share with us either something you are struggling with now or something you accomplished. We would love to celebrate with you.

Inspiring minds want to know! If you email us your story at Livelove.teena@gmail.com you may be featured on Livelove’s website as a highlighted ‘Happy’ accoplishment to uplift others by assisting them in Living, Loving and Carrying on!

After all how do we all want to feel? Good, Happy, Better, or Inspired.

As I inhale slowly and exhale even slower…I send you feelings of love, hopefulness, clarity and sweet, sweet success. Until we meet again!




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‘How to’ Continued…

To be continued…The emotions of defeat, despair and fear creeped in at times. Even up until December 8th, 2016. The day I crushed my leg and sat in a meditative state for several months. At that point in my life, I had turned in my resignation at the school and was following my dream! I had a published a much needed, non-fiction book, about talking to your kids, about sex. Once again, I was beaming with happiness.

However, shortly after my adventure began, I was placed into park! What? Come on, I was almost there. I could touch my dream of being a, monetary rewarded writer or what we entitle it as, a paid author. But nope, not yet. My patience had worn quite thin.

As I meditated,  went to physical therapy, slept a great deal, I learned and learned from avenues unimaginable. Instead of being like, I had been in the past, who was running around chasing her dreams with furry and might; I filled notebook after notebook with thoughts or ideas. Sometimes I spent hours writing a fiction story filled, with drama and comedy all rolled up in one.

My exploration of me, was out of this world. I do not wish for anyone to experience my pain, but to experience the reflection and exploration, now that would be awesome!

If I had so many down times, then why do I feel ‘good’ enough to write a ‘How to’ article? Because it took all those ups, downs, lefts and rights, to bring me to this point. The point where we ask HOW? About everything. During an age when people have more faith and trust in “Okay Google…” than we do in ourselves.

You see, it took all of those micro-stories for me to explain ‘how to’ be a writer, explorer, artisit, happy, appreciative, grateful, expressive, full of love and living like never before.

The one most important key is…Are you ready?


Yes, that is my answer and I am sticking to it!

As I reflect back to my first request to write for our small town newspaper and the editor replied with, “What experience do you have?”

I bowed my head and said, “None!” (Don’t be like me and waste years because of one ignorant person, questioning your ability).

After many let downs, my next move, towards becoming a writer, was when a new editor came in, I began working with him. Not writing for him, but yet having students write for him. Until, one day, I asked, “Would you let me write for you?”

My strongest desire was to write! And second was to motivationally speak at events, on television, and don’t forget my biggest dream (still pursuing) to be a guest host on Jimmy Falon.

It was a dream come true to receive my first, monetary reward, for my writings! Opening up a whole new world, for me. It didn’t matter how great or small of an amount it was, I had reached and accomplished, one long term, goal and it felt terrific!

Be careful, playing the whiney, making excuses, person and repeating, “I have already tried eveything and it doesn’t work,” bit. No it won’t work. If you continue in this mind set, you will always be, exactly where you are now. I promise.

If you want it bad enough and continue to stay in the mind-set of growth and, “I KNOW I CAN!” It will most definetly happen.


Now do you see why my answer is, to BEGIN? Because although I had several let downs or bumps in the road, my results were as expected. I went to the starting line and took the first step. I have taken many slides backwards. I have fallen, been bruised, bumped and taken to the level of not seeing my way out, but I only stayed in the valley, for a little while.

Life is a frequency, not maybe or can be compared to, it is a frequency. (I do not want to bore you with the details of the electromagnetic spectrum and energy, yada, yada, yada (so please trust me). Life is a frequency. And you are in control of the intensity. Meaning if you are focusing and sending energy towards what you desire, then you probably feel pretty good, at this point. However, if you were like me and focusing on the lack of, you probably feel terrible.

I love being a writer! It is what I love to do and yes, I receive monetary rewards for my writings. Funny thing is, the reason for my certainty, is the entisity of my desire to complete this ‘How to’. The entire time I feel exhilarated. Supper is not started nor planned, phone is on silent and my Writing Palace is becoming dark, as the sun sets.

One of my best confirmations, that I was on the correct path for me, was when I was at my worst and money was not involved, I chose to write! And write, and write!

Find which ‘how to’ you would do without any reward and begin. I promise it will never feel like work and there will be times, when you feel a little bit guilty, because you are so darn happy, whisteling while you work. While everyone around you can only talk about their hectic lives and stress levels.

Yes, everyone must earn a living. I understand this. But why not reap the rewards by doing what you love? I loved teaching! I loved being a clown! I continue to love teaching! I love writing!

I know it sometimes feels impossible, to reach your dreams, but you can do it. I can remember when I didn’t think graduation from college was a possibility, but I did it. I had the desire to be known as a wonderful author, I am on my way! All because the first step was taken. It may not have been a smooth, easy road, but every bump, valley and hilltop have been fantastic! Looking back, I wouldn’t have missed it for the world.

Recap…How to be a writer? Do it! Begin at the starting line. Grab a notebook, pen or pencil and write your emotions, words, poems don’t worry about the combination of words. The rest of the story will be history, I promise. You will begin to be presented with new opportunities.

As for agents, managers, publishing, and blogging…follow your instincts. I will tell you, WordPress has been an amazing company, to have a blog and if you do not have a blog site, get one. It will change your writing life.

Don’t allow one comment to hender you or a rejection to stop you from continuing on. Instead of thinking you weren’t good enough for them, turn it around and think wow they weren’t right for me. Then move on. Maybe self-publishing is better for you, explore all of your options, but all of this is irrelevant, if you do not begin!

‘How to’ be anything else or have do or be anything…Doesn’t matter what…You must begin. Not one successful person, woke up one day and was magically, deliciously, abundant in love or money. However, they continued to pursue, push and play with their hopes and desires, until the frequency became so intense it happened. Their goals were completed, to allow new ones. Their vision came to fruition because they continued to clearly feel how terrific it felt! They learned from the journey, while jumping every hurdle with a smile. But still yet, none of this could have been reality for them, unless they took the first step and BEGAN!

God Bless




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You are amazing and I hope this post helps you to forget the exact path of How and rather to take the first step at begin. May all your dreams come true!



Happy Coaching 101 (Day three)

I felt like Wednesday was the day to share this particular coaching session. Honestly, I could write a book on what this lady taught me. Her messages, her thoughts, sometimes silence and her perspective. You see, this special lady taught me how to understand my messages, to accept them and most definetly share them. I have been strictly instructed to only tell her circumstances and an extremely vague description at that.

This lady had suffered great loss in her life. She has buried a child and her husband. That is all you are allowed to know. The saddest part is I was not allowed to save the majority of her coaching messages. Only those that were extra special, such as this one. However, those were her wishes.

Message: First…create a map,  a map of your life include pebbles, big rocks, water, whatever terrain that best describes you and your life. Including pathways, roads, highways, speed limits, marriage, births, special events, whatever it may be that you can remember, about your life up until this point. It is your creation. You may share with me if you so desire or not, either way it is up to you.

Second…I am givng you an eraser. A gigantic eraser and your instructions are simple, ERASE ALL THE BAD! I mean erase every tear, painful moment, trial or tribulation, everytime you felt less than, worthless, fearful, hopeless, destroyed. Erase them all.

Her response was priceless! But guess what? You are going to have to wait to see, what her response was and my come back message, until tomorrow. Why? Because I want you to create the design of this woman, her age, feelings, appearance and create this ‘hero’ in your head. And maybe you can go ahead and begin to create your life map. Who knows, we might be on to something, psst, I think we are.

To Be Continued…





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God Bless Everyone!

Hey, if you are just now reading this post, skip back through Monday and Tuesday’s post Happy Coaching 101- 1 & 2. These are samples of actual coaching messages some people have received.

What on Earth, is Happy Coaching?

This question comes up, almost daily. I guess the easiest way to explain it is to tell you what it is not! It is not the ‘normal’ coaching, as you would expect from a life or business coach. It does not fall under the genre of health. It is not time consuming and requires little to no effort on your part. What is it?

Happy Coaching is a simple, beneficial, time manageable, interesting and extremely different way to help YOU ‘Be Happy.’ Not my style or my perception of being happy. But rather your own. The entire program is NOT based on a single model, that you need to squeeze into it, similar to a pair of jeans you bought twenty years ago and need to give to Goodwill.

Why do I describe it as simple? Because it is. It is based on you, your goals, desires and outcomes. The best part is, you decide what you want or feel you need to ‘be more happy’ about. For example: You may have plenty of income, but, dag on, your relationships are crappy. Happy Coaching will help you with that. Or maybe you are a parent and you feel your middle school child is needing a little outside help, but you don’t think they need a counselor, psychologist or another type of more serious consultation. Happy Coaching can and will help you. Or maybe it is about MONEY, Can this coaching system help you with this? Yes.

Originally, no one under 18 would be allowed to receive this service. However, Livelove’s team decided that was silly. You might ask why we would or would not accept teenagers? It seemed to be too much liability. Guess what? That is ridiculous. This program does not delve into the icky past nor is it to replace a counselor, who is dealing with much more serious issues. Therefore, a new plan has been created. Since this is message based, all messages will be recorded, printed and filed. As well as the legal guardian will receive duplicates of everything sent! So… Yayayayaya we are now offering Happy Coaching to teenagers as well!

Please understand, I could hire a big marketing company to explain, how you are receiving a deal because it’s not two hundred and ninety nine dollars, but for today only it is one ninety-nine. But I truly don’t want to ever have to do all of that. I know there is a time a place for all of that. And I have studied simple sells techniques for years. I do realize it is an actual craft to market and sell a product. I just don’t want Livelove to be known as that. This company was built on Living life with as much love as you possibly can have! Not buy this, or your life will be incomplete! Nope, I don’t like those marketing strategies, for me.

Therefore, plain and simple…Happy Coaching has a low cost. It is simple and fun. It is also based upon, yes you guessed it, YOUR Needs and how much you can pay. You think I will stay in business long? You bet I will because I am following my heart, are you?

I will be posting five free messages Monday thru Friday Jan. 8th – 12th. It will be sample messages, I have already sent or there just might be some new ones for my readers :)! So stay tuned until next week to see if Happy Coaching is something for you in 2018!





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Trust Yourself…

I am sooo excited to write for you today! I have curled up in the corner of Momma Teena’s Writing Palace, it is super peaceful, quiet and inspiring (at least most of time it is inspiring, sometimes it is so amazing, I stay in a meditative state for a little longer than normal LOL).  Since the conception of Livelove, I have been Happy Coaching a wide variety of people and it has provided me with a multitude of unique perspectives.

One of the ‘messages’ that comes through on a regular basis is, “Trust Yourself!”

When asked, “Do you trust yourself?”

Many respond with a big, ‘N..O!’

To be quite honest this was disturbing to me. I questioned myself over and over again. “Teena, do you trust yourself?”

I truly thought I did! And for the majority of the time I am proud to say, “I trust myself.”

I may not always be perfect, but I know that if, I practice what I preach, trusting one self is a fantastic key factor to being happy- which includes plentiful of all you want.

Let me ask you…are you over weight? over stressed? too pooped to pop? Not feeling fullfilled on a daily basis?

If you were standing in front of me right now, (pause with anticipation) I would…SING to the top of my lungs, to you, “Let it Go! Let it Go! Let IT GOOOOOOOOO!”

You would probably, begin to see me open my mouth, take a huge inhale and just as I belted it out, YOU would RUN!

Therefore, be thankful, I choose to blog this portion, so you can be spared from my loud, off key, inspirational reindition of one my favorite Disney Songs.

However, it is true! Trusting yourself is a key factor to living the life you always wanted! You know–some of you have always battled weight, depression, anxiety, tierdness, financial status, relationships, disease, loss and the list could go on 7 on. Yes, I realize life can be a pain in the butt!

However, PLEASE trust me. Trusting yourself (you are trustworthy), is important.

Let me give you some fun and a quite funny experience to provide you with a clear perspective.

Over the past year, Eric and I had quite a few BIG CHANGES. One of them was he quit smoking (I never thought I would write that, but he did). We moved to a simplier lifestyle and well, to be hilariously honest, we became a bit sedentary. LOL. While in Hawaii we would giggle and tease each other about being a part of the rolly polly team. Yes, we had found ourselves in a bit of a predicament. Not bad, actually it is terrific! But we both like to be in decent shape and so we began to research some weightloss and workout programs. We have laughed and laughed at some of the scams we have come across. Eat this everyday, until it comes out of your nose and then you will do it!

Okay! It was time for us to begin to, ‘trust ourselves.’ We came up with a plan and are tweeking it to fit our needs. I have combined my many years of research, from Scarsdale Diet to Protein Power and now to trusting my brain. Not in punishement style, but rather in happy style.

When you are driving through and grabbing a snack do you ever stop and think, “Am I going to ENJOY this food? Is it going to be fantabulous going down?”

Whatever, it takes for you to TRUST YOURSELF. Not just about weight. Take time to pause in all situations and listen to your natural instinct. Does it feel terrific? Does it feel right, to you? If you have a question or concern, then do some more investigating. If not, then go for it!


You are trustworthy, therefore allow yourself to trust you!




Written by: Momma Teena

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