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Word of the day, Cultivate

While listening to the phenomenal speakers @earlybird toastmasters Overland Park Kansas, the word of the day was, Cultivate! As I chose the word carefully it was not because I had planned on learning such a vast amount from its very existance, but rather out of need. The main title was Embracing Change. I felt like with harvest season upon our farmers and as sales reps run around to meet the fourth quarter’s quota it ‘fit’ the theme of the day.

However, it has become much more over the past twenty four hours. Think about it if you do not cultivate your plants, you will be empty handed, and have nothing at harvest time. Same pertains to businesses, relationships, families and friends. It is an essential to living a wonderful life, yet probably the most missed step in development.

Think about it! Have you or your company, grown by leaps and bounds because you didnt cultivate your environment? Maybe, but it won’t last long. If you do not cultivate your relationships/environment/yourself, you will quickly find yourself without. Without your lively hood and your dreams will swirl out of sight.

That was super sad! Now you can understand why the one word I chose for the day has become a game changer. The more I thought about the word, the more powerful it became!

Yes, you must plant the seed to be able to cultivate it. However, we wouldn’t be discussing this topic if you hadn’t planted the seed. Why? Because if you haven’t found the initiative to get up and plant the seed then you will have nothing in the end, NO MATTER WHAT!!!

Did you follow that? If not it is worth reading it again (I don’t want to type it twice, so go ahead and scroll back up and read it again).

Anywhoooo, here is your new and improved thought of the day, have fun cultivating your life! Don’t struggle with this! It’s time to enjoy going to your career or place of employment. It’s time to feel accomplished and appreciated. You do deserve it and the more you expect it the more you will receive it.

Cultivate with love this week above all else!

God Bless

LiveloveLLC

Writing Zone

When in writing zone no one else exist. Today has already been a terrific day and it isn’t even noon yet! I had to stop everything I was doing to write on my blog. The topics continue to race through my head for example…”Did you know following instructions can improve your life? or How to know if you are pleasing your partner? or even When I write, I become lost?”

Therefore, you can see why I am sitting down moments before I am suppose to meet some friends for lunch, opening my computer and typing until I can not type anymore. I simply can not help myself. I want to share with you my silly thoughts and hopefully brighten your day.

It is September 12, 2017 and I am suppose to be getting dressed, having lunch with friends, going to the gym and probably working on my new business, “Livelove LLC.” (I will let you in on the Grand Opening as soon as I have a firm date set, I am so excited for this adventure). Anyways, I am now typing away in the ‘writing zone.’ Where no one or anything else exist. There are no worries, fears, anger or anxiety. Just shear freedom. Freedom of thought, Freedom of Speech and Freedom to Breathe! If you show choose you can title your blog as Fiction! Fiction! Fiction! and puctuation, rhyme or reason, shoulds, coulds and woulds are obsolete. Oh I know the English Majors want to control a portion of that statement, Punctuation. (However, it’s true if you so choose, you can use whatever punctuation you want! Or none at all! However, if you have someone read, your writing and they only express what they read, you might want to reconsider)

Anywhoo…As I find myself becoming extremely abundant with new partnerships, sponsorships, friendships, happy relationships, I some times slip off to this sweet spot, my blog and type.

I was asked the other day, “How much would you charge for people to read your blog?”

I shivered at the thought (because they are priceless to me)! Remember, when I started writing, after my accident, I told everyone I am sharing this information for selfish reasons. Why you ask? Because I was given several extremly special messages, on how to create a life full of blissfull happiness, during one of the seemingly worst times of my life. However, my one requirement or agreement was that I would share it with others.

Therefore, I will always continue to share my inner thoughts on here. Some topics are funny others are not, but all will benefit us all.

Back to ‘Writing Zone’ today my thoughts drift off into money = ? Hmmm this is a deep thought and I am not sure where I am going with it, just yet. However, I am in the writing zone so it doesn’t really matter! I can let it flow. I am free, blissful and happy while in this private, yet by choice public, writing zone. I can write negatively about money, I can write how to get more of it? or How it can be both beneficial or detrimental. Or I can continue on how amazing my writing zone is!!!!!!

Did you just feel what I did in that last paragraph? I provided you with a limited amount of emotions to follow along as you read. Some of you, at this point, are frustrated with my bouncing from topic to topic. While others love it and follow in perfect harmony. However, it doesn’t matter which emotion/feeling you had, it was ‘real’ to you.

I know one thing for sure, whatever else I decide to write about, I will be in my ‘Happy Spot.’ My dear friend reminded me, “Once you find your sweet spot you will do anything to stay in it!”

The truth is she is one hundred percent correct. And if you are like me, you probably have several sweet spots or happy spots. When I am with Eric time stands still. It always has! I love being with other people in fact my favorite thing to do is travel around meeting new people. That is two examples of other ‘Happy Spots’ , I have in my life. Being with my children, all  of my family, working on my business the list continues on and on. The trick to this being negative or positve, happy or sad, is up to YOU!

You are the ‘sweet spot.’ You are perfect the way you are! Can you improve your life? Yes,. Can you become successful or find your ‘Sweet Spot’ after all that has happened? It is too late? No, no, no switch your focus right now and your happiness journey will begin.

Hmmmm… Have I gone way off track? Yes, I am bouncing around like a bouncy ball. However, don’t forget this is my blog and the should, could, woulds do not exist, by choice!

Therefore, lets return to the conversation of, YOU are the ‘Sweet Spot!’

Because it is your choice how you feel. Let me explain this in a different manner…Based on your paradigm, your choice of thoughts and how you handle YOUR Circle of Influence which guess who that is? YOU, is your happy/sweet/joyful/loving/best for YOU Spot! No you can not dispute it. The truth is its up to you and how you feel towards, about or through anything in life.

Probably the most annoying question I have been asked since my accident has been; How did you make it through that crazy of a break? Not that it made me mad or anything like that, but sometimes I do want to respond with something crazy like, “After surgery, I looked at those doctors and I said ‘I meant to do that guys, it was just a test from the Angels, to see if I was ready for the life I always wanted.”

Then I jumped up and ran out of the hospital, grabbed Eric on my way out, was healed and I saw the light!!!!

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Come on!!!! I have earned my Expert titles through the school of hard knocks. I didn’t see the signs that say slow down, you are not going in the right direction. Therefore, my healing process was not easy to endure, but beneficial for my life as well as yours. But what oher choice did I have? I had plenty of choices, I just chose to feel better, improve and live for today.

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Next time, you are faced with a negative or difficult situation. Stop, breathe and feel the right or correct decision, that brings you closer to your life long dreams, coming true. I was hard headed and had to take the long way around, but you don’t have to. Find your happy spot or spots and go to them more and more. The more you visit, the sooner they will become your reality.

Be Happy

Find Your Happy Zone

Writing Zone

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Movie Kind of Weekend

As I curl up to watch one of my all time favorite movies Bruce Almighty! It becomes clear it is a perfect analogy of you get what you ask for. Think about it there are only two rules 1. You can’t tell anyone you are God and trust me you don’t want that attention. 2. Can’t mess with Free Will And he responds with can I ask Why? God responds with, yes you can ask why, that’s the beauty of it!

The next few scenes are exact demonstrations of the law of attraction, everything he asked or anything anyone else asked for, they received. If they were not goal setting they could be aimlessly controlled. Jim Carrey in his character Bruce Almighty, shows us how simplistic life can be and joyous. But just like we can not truly control all the choices our children will make neither can God (was one of their messages). Therefore, our only choice is to set goals that make us happy and create the emotional attachment we desire. They even utilize funny, blaten symbolism to show how silly we are because we constantly have signs showing us the BEST path for us. Yet, we choose to say, “Oh no, I don’t need any help or I couldn’t deserve that good of a life or to be that happy.”

How many times can you remember making a choice you didn’t feel good about and it turned out to be a disaster? Or a decision that felt so right for you and even though some people questioned you, you knew like you knew. No matter what when you made that decision you knew it was right for you. Guess what? It turned out perfect or even better than you expected, didn’t it?

It’s because you made a decision on how you feel, it made you feel happy.

I have written it before and I will write it again and again and again….

Life is meant to live to feel good, be happy, enjoy, experience, fulfillment and much more. Set your goals and then enjoy the journey. The events along your road to success are fun and extraordinary.

Livelove

‘Be Happy’

What do Snow White and Cinderella have in common? 

As we study a new way to habitually live, it only seems appropriate to analyze some childhood memories. You see in today’s world our queens and princesses are more dominant or independent. However, the original princesses such as Snow White and Cinderella were considered damsels in distress, helpless and in need of a hero. I can remember when I would point out many negatives about the two characters and think how sexist the shows truly were. However, it never failed, if the girls were watching either of these shows, I would become mesmerized and stop whatever I was doing to complete the movie. (I even played the role of Snow White in a school play at one time.)

Today, I am asking you to take a different perspective on our damsel’s in distress! What if we simply accepted their stories based on the time frame they were written and first watched. Would we see their lives in a different light? Let’s see if these two princesses (later to become queen) can impact our lives and strategically place us on a path of least resistance.

Snow White…abandoned by her stepmother (the queen), sent out to be killed, life was spared because? She was super nice and beautiful. You see that Huntsman couldn’t do it! Even if he was going against orders of the Queen. Snow White emitted kindness, caring, understanding and positive vibrations. Now let us think…hmmm how would you or I feel if we were taken into the woods, only to realize it was our last walk from home, the beautiful castle and home are, no more. Although the man who was supposed to take our life, didn’t go thru with the deed, he did leave you or me in the dark and say run for your life! Never return or the queen will kill you! After writing all of that I realize how brave she really was! I would have probably fallen apart.

Cinderella…abused by her step-mother and sisters, expected to clean, cook and take care of her cruddy step family. Only to be locked away in her room when the prince came looking for her. Yet, she continued to stay positive! She would clean, feed the animals, sing and from the stories point of view, she was a blissful human being. Again put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel? Would you refuse to meet all the demands of these horrific people? Or would you leave never to return? I must admit I would have probably been killed on the spot for my smart mouth! However, Cinderella continued to find a good feeling and stayed in that vibration. She would sing, dance, whistle or speak to the animals.

In comparison, both stories have a great deal in common. However, the one common attribute for each princess is their positive attitude. They both saw a better life. Snow White ended up finding seven dwarfs who loved ‘whistling while they worked.’ They didn’t mind their jobs and were ecstatic as well as appreciative of Snow White’s talents. Cinderella found her way to the ball. (Which was an amazing opportunity for anyone in the land). Her prince didn’t only recognize her beauty, but he saw the positive, kind, fun loving Cinderella, for who she really is.

Do you think those are all coincidences? Do you think it was by chance they received what they wanted out of life? Why didn’t they continue in the same old rut and continue to be abused? After a great deal of analyzing these two stories, it is pretty simple to observe how these ladies found their path to least resistance. They had a vision and what their life was, at the time, was not their vision. However, neither princess ever gave up!!!!

I do realize we live in a world full of despair and depression. Is it the president’s fault? Is it your spouse’s? Oh, I understand it is your children’s fault? I also realize these are fairy tale characters we are discussing…does it really matter? No! It is a great comparison!

Begin today, to tell your fairytale. Even if you are a damsel in distress, flat broke, feeling like crap and wishing you could just receive a simple break, in life. The GREAT NEWS is YOU CAN!!!!!!!! What is your story? Yes, everyone has a negative story, but if you listen closely, they only receive a great outcome if they are looking for it. Tell the story you want. It is okay if it is sometimes a struggle, do it anyway. In my home, we entitle this, “Fake it till you make it!”

Isn’t it time to feel GREAT! Feel it, visualize it and receive. Ask for what you want and believe you deserve it. Then receive it!!! Just like these two princesses, yes they had to go thru some crap to receive the life they both desired. However, they continued to feel good and eventually both received a life of joy, wealth, happiness, partnership and much more. You can do this too! How? Change your story it is as simple as that!

Livelove,

Your Pinkologist! (That makes me laugh every time I write it because? It just does!)

 

Did you hear? Oh wow if not let me tell you about it…

How many times have you been sitting around with friends and family and hear the words did you hear about…? I have decided mine is daily. The stories are improving each day, but when I first began this journey it was almost too much. Why? Because it was either gossip, politics, or news! I thought, I am not sure I can do this, but I can and will. I am sure you are asking do what? I have been given an amazing glimpse of how life really is or can be for you to fulfill your wildest dreams/ journey. However, with this amazing new quest is a learning curve. Not in a bad way just an awareness way. For example: a new pair of underwear is always a bit confining in the beginning, The underwear might be uncomfortable the first few times you wear them, but after a few washings they eventually become your favorite pair. Same with this new way of living. It feels uncomfortable at first but the end result will be living the way you want and you will not want to ever go back or accept anything less than amazing! 

How do you divert the negative of the world? How do you stop the negative statements that may follow, “Hey, did you hear….?” 

You begin by listening. It’s not that you have to dispute everything that someone says or climb on your soap box and tell them everything they are doing wrong. (I know you are excited and you want to share it with the world, but hold on my friend). Stop and truly listen to their message to you. Then in your brain send positive thoughts and energy to them and the sad situation for a moment (if you pray then now is the time to implement those prayers for those people who are telling the story and who is the center of the story). 

First you are listening to remind yourself that you are of the living/ physical world and second to acknowledge what you are allowing to enter your brain each day. If it is gossip about someone else that is harmful, think and you can even say, “I am not interested in hearing about other people. I only want to hear about you and how awesome you are.”

This stops it in its tracks! You never have to be mean or condescending. Your friends will begin to understand and adjust. I realize all the millionaire gurus say in order to be successful in money you must change your friend group. If you want be a millionaire look at the people around you because birds of a feather flock together. However, this is not the case in my message. I mean truly I want to be a millionaire, I want to travel, live the wildest adventure ever. But if I were to be honest without the people I love and care about my life wouldnt be better. Therefore, I choose to keep my friends and create the life I desire with them. No they may not have my same desires and they may or may not be the richest in monetary standards, but I love them and they love me. So when you watch your next webinar about ‘how to be a millionaire or be…. fill in the blank, omit that you must change all the people who are around you (yes, it’s in many motivational lessons). 

All you need to do is add to!!!! Add to your circle of friends. Those who bring you the did you hear…? Question and have for many years, will adjust to your new life if they so choose. I promise it’s contagious and fun. 

If someone begins to tell you about the news, practice the same technique. Listen once then take a split second and feel the fear, sadness, or whatever emotion then say, to yourself and or the messenger,”I am so sorry for them or I am sorry that happened.”

Send the positive vibes, energy or prayer whichever you choose and change the subject. Then move on, tell them something hilarious you saw or heard. It’s okay to be happy!!! This doesn’t need to be an entire ritual where you light candles, begin to hum and go into solitude for a week to adjust. It’s quick, easy and pain free. Take the time to listen, divert and bring on the laughter. 

Remember if birds of a feather flock together it is only due to comfort zones and ego. Therefore, trust yourself. It’s kind of difficult to live a blissful life worrying about all the bad stuff around you. If something you hear really impacts you, seek out ways to help. Otherwise begin to eliminate the did you hear question from your life and live on.

Never forget you are loved! Sending you hugs, kisses, rainbows and lollipops. Enjoy!!!!!!!