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There is no greater or less than, when it comes to you…

As ‘life’ seems to happen around us, many people like to compare stories or talk about the issues. However, there is no comparisons between your story and theirs.

Of course we are all connected and as humans, we can all FEEL empathy or sympathy depending on our similar incidents.

But…everyone has moments of being depressed, sad, hurt, lost and disappointed. I can remember the day, my son explained that pointing out all the reasons someone should be grateful, isn’t always the best feeling emotion for someone suffering. I questioned why or why not, it always seemed to work for me. Highlighting all the reasons I should be grateful, how blessed I am and so on.

Nick explained how sometimes those comments are more detrimental to the person.

That was several years ago and to be completely honest, I didn’t truly understand.

Now, I do!

You see we ALL have moments where life feels overwhelming, too much and disappointing. Those who their stories, are well known and inspire others, but also you and me.

As I wrote and rewrote my speech for the area contest @Earlybirdstoastmasterskc, the days seemed to be zooming by. Closer and closer, my excitement was building and the anticipation of all the exciting opportunities, this club has to offer, was assisting me in working up the best message, I had ever written! Ohhh, if you could only feel my radiating excitement.

Yet, day by day in LA we had to jump one hurdle and then twenty five more or maybe a hundred more! (Okay I am being a bit over dramatic, as Ashby says).

But it is true. I could whine and cry about every little speed bump thrown in front of us, but where would we be then? Instead let me share what I have learned.

This week I had to let go of my first speech competition. It was to be on Monday February 5th. There were no guarantees I would move on to the next level, because our club has intense competition, but I wanted to attempt it, in the worst kind of way!

I had prepared and practiced the entire road trip from Kansas to LA.

As the hurdles popped up, some one at a time, others it seemed like fifty at a time, I began to realize my excitement was about to he turned into disappointment! With all the issues about having Princeton, I quickly realized my trip would be delayed, forcing me to step down from the competition.

Now this may seem silly to anyone else, but I cried and cried! I was disappointed, sad, overwhelmed and a little bit selfish. Most of all I was torn! This was my baby girl and very dear to me granddog. But I also wanted to attempt this competition!

Then my lessons began!!! Everytime I would express my disappointing emotions someone would share on Facebook or tell me about a horrific event. For example in the past month we have lost loved ones to accidents, cancer, flu and suicides. I would cry for them or add to my prayer list.

Yes, my silly little issues seemed trivial after all of that. I have so much to be grateful for, I know that.

Then I realized Nick was correct. Pointing out or minimizing our own disappointments, by comparison, is not fair, to you.

My epiphany was EVERYONE, experiences their own depression and disappointments. And YOURS is just as important as the next one. Because we are all on our own journey and life happens whether we are striving to improve or not.

And MAYBE, JUST MAYBE…this is a key to helping others choose to feel all the emotions, yet not give up.

The key is to allow yourself to feel the negative emotion. Express your feelings of disappointment. (Allow this moment). Do not worry about feeling trivial compared to other people’s issues. I am Not saying dwell on it and/or illuminate the situation, but rather, ALLOW yourself to have a moment of tears.

It is okay!!! There is no greater and less than, when it comes to you and how you feel. Maybe if we begin to allow kids and adults to say, “I feel like giving up.”

We will have less severely depressed or suicides. When I was having a moment of ‘selfish disappointments’ it felt good to allow the sadness, for a moment. It forced me to find solutions, it allowed me to be human, and it reminded me how quickly ANYONE can give up.

It is time we begin to allow our younger generations to know we have all been there. We have all had struggles and let it out. All of it! Say it if you feel it. It’s okay.

No matter how trivial it may be to others. Your disappointments, moments of sadness or maybe your losses are not comparable to others! You are allowed to say it because believe it or not… EVERYONE experiences negative emotions.

My greatest hope is…this post will help one person to choose life. If you are not feeling so well about something, say it! And quit worrying about comparing apples, arangatans, and kale spinach. This is YOUR EXPERIENCE! No one elses!

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Carryon

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Guilty? Never!!!

Have you ever felt guilty for something feeling so right? After analyzing the emotion of guilt, I realized many may feel the way I do. When my husband comes home and I am in shorts, t-shirt, messy bun and never attempted to put my makeup on for the day, I have feelings of guilt (self imposed), but I feel a bit guilty. I always attempt to explain my accomplishments from the day, but the feeling tends to persist. Therefore, I took time to meditate and my answers were clear. Hope you enjoy today’s thoughts or message, it has been an amazing realization!!!

Have you ever wondered what our lives would be like if Thomas Edison, Abe Lincoln, Henry Ford, Galileo, Albert Einstein, had followed the rules? Or basically been of the norm? In other words they and many others followed their own path. Thank Goodness!!! Anyone who has accomplished great things, to improve life for future generations, has followed their own path. They have not worked 8 to 5, but rather based on inspiration. Time was a component, but only for their benefit. 

Just think if one of the greats decided, what am I doing? Maybe I should go get a J.O.B. like everyone else! Or why am I questioning this common way of thinking? I should take everything society has to tell me and accept it!! Wouldn’t that be a catastrophe?  What if they felt guilty for standing out or working on a path others did not understand? However, we know now they didn’t bow to the harsh demands and judgement of society and we are thankful today!!! 

Believe it or not when you are on the right path, for you, when you are creating it doesn’t feel like work. There will be times you will stop and question yourself. However, when those not so feel good emotions creep up think what if? What if I stopped this creative process and followed in everyone else’s footsteps? What if great people, who left a legacy for us all to reap what they sewed, had decided they shouldnt be so happy. What if they stopped in midstream and said, “I feel too wonderful to continue. I shouldn’t feel this great about my work! I feel GUILTY for following my own path!”

Doesn’t that sound ludicrous? However, it happens on a minute to minute basis. If you are creating and on a different path than everyone else around you, guilt creeps in and it becomes simple to stop and jump into the stream of ‘main.’ 

If you relate to this message…PLEASE DO NOT ALLOW GUILT TO DENY THE REST OF US YOUR WONDERFUL TALENTS AND LEGACY. 

Let it go! Continue to follow your path of least resistance. Find your bliss that never feels like work and focus on how you can implement your happiness into every situation. 

You have a great deal to create, share and pass on!!!! Just leave the emotion guilt out in the rain and welcome in freedom, kindness, love, and creativity. Who knows your legacy could change the world to a better place! 

God Bless! 

God Loves Everyone! 

     Only read this if you believe that statement!!! Just skip over it, read something that makes you happy!! 

    If it is so controversial why would you write it? Because some where someone is hurting because of harsh judgement. Here it goes…

  God says, “I Love Everyone! Why wouldn’t I? I created you I made you in the image of me! Do not listen to the media, other people, religious bi-laws (which are man made), do not listen to the politician or boss whom you feel has power over you! That is simply not true. First they don’t have power over you that is why I gave you the freedom of choice. Nooo they are not correct when you hear ‘Exactly, God gave you the freedom to choose so you should choose our belief filled with judgement, lies, fear and guilt!’ 

     “That’s just not true! I still love you even when you stand alone. I love you even when you have given me a different name based on your choice of religion. Yes, I love all!! Idc if you are homosexual, heterosexual, transsexual, corrupt politician, mean, spiteful, financially wealthy or poverty stricken, Muslim, Christian or even atheist and you choose not to lean on me or believe in my existence. I Love You Unconditionally!”