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I always thought ‘Being Happy’ meant…

As I reflect back over the years I recognize how being happy doesn’t mean to make everyone else happy. Nor does it mean you will love all people and/or situations. Actually it is the complete opposite.

For example: I was working out in the pool. It was extremely peaceful. Sever al couples were enjoying the cool, crisp water and peace. Then this guy comes over introduces himself and proceeds to talk, excessively. I kept shutting my eyes , breathing deep and sending him positive vibes, although I must admit my vibes were followed up with me saying, “Shutup! No one cares what your dad did for a living, what your dogs name was when you were a kid, or how all your patients were whiney and needy today!!”

Gotcha! Did you really think I said that? I didn’t say anything, out loud. I only thought it. I do not need to tell you how much this man talked, but I can use it as a lesson.

Using the tools to find your own happiness will be an advantage. However, do not mistake the fact that making other people happy is the same thing. In fact it is impossible.

Life is meant to be fun, but remember there will always be that stranger who might rub you the wrong way. Or you may be put in a situation you feel irritated with everyone involved. It is the quickest way for you to recognize what you Do Not want so you can redirect quickly and go back to having fun! That guy reminded me of how happy I am that Eric doesn’t talk too much or that I don’t have to live or work with that man. Don’t you see being happy with you doesn’t mean making everyone else happy, but it’s okay. Because what’s BEST for ME is BEST for YOU!

Instead of living a hurried, scurried, on fire all the time, making other people happy and attempting to be perfect all at the same time mentality; It is about coming together with actual peace, love and least resistance. Okay, I will admit that was a little deep! Please, bare with me.

Again, what is BEST for ME, Is BEST for YOU! When and only when you understand that statement will all your amazing happy feelings come to you like a tidal wave. I know that statement is difficult to understand, but it is absolutely, 100% the truth.

Once you allow everyone else to find their own feel good or happy feeling and you are operating your very existence in this manner, you will feel, have, do and be anything you want to be. Any experience YOU want! Trust that it is all going to be what’s best for you and allow it to be that way. The annoying people will still pop in from time to time. However, you will even find the good in them or the good in your encounter with them.

Life is meant to live by having fun. Don’t waste another day or moment trying to MAKE everyone else happy. Begin with you and the rest will fall into place.

God Loves You No Matter What!

Livelove: Changing the world with one happy tool after another!

(Hey all my readers, Livelove is launching very soon, psst a secret it is launching before the end of 2017, and we need a slogan. So if you can think of one let me know it might be the next famous slogan for our fabulous company)

Movie Kind of Weekend

As I curl up to watch one of my all time favorite movies Bruce Almighty! It becomes clear it is a perfect analogy of you get what you ask for. Think about it there are only two rules 1. You can’t tell anyone you are God and trust me you don’t want that attention. 2. Can’t mess with Free Will And he responds with can I ask Why? God responds with, yes you can ask why, that’s the beauty of it!

The next few scenes are exact demonstrations of the law of attraction, everything he asked or anything anyone else asked for, they received. If they were not goal setting they could be aimlessly controlled. Jim Carrey in his character Bruce Almighty, shows us how simplistic life can be and joyous. But just like we can not truly control all the choices our children will make neither can God (was one of their messages). Therefore, our only choice is to set goals that make us happy and create the emotional attachment we desire. They even utilize funny, blaten symbolism to show how silly we are because we constantly have signs showing us the BEST path for us. Yet, we choose to say, “Oh no, I don’t need any help or I couldn’t deserve that good of a life or to be that happy.”

How many times can you remember making a choice you didn’t feel good about and it turned out to be a disaster? Or a decision that felt so right for you and even though some people questioned you, you knew like you knew. No matter what when you made that decision you knew it was right for you. Guess what? It turned out perfect or even better than you expected, didn’t it?

It’s because you made a decision on how you feel, it made you feel happy.

I have written it before and I will write it again and again and again….

Life is meant to live to feel good, be happy, enjoy, experience, fulfillment and much more. Set your goals and then enjoy the journey. The events along your road to success are fun and extraordinary.

Livelove

‘Be Happy’

It’s okay no matter what…

I don’t care if you cheated on your diet, smoked a cig or fell off the wagon of your 12 step program. You are okay. No one is perfect and please stop thinking about what is in the past and begin to create your reality. 

Did you know your reality can only include the present or future. Meaning what is or will be is all you truly need to worry about. Even if you just took a bite of the yummy nothing bundt cake, two minutes ago and your concious mind is reminding you of how fat you are. Tell it to shut up. 

Paradigms are people, places and events from the past. They are our best way to create connections. No they are not all positive, some of our paradigms are negative. Almost like your brains defense mechanism to protect and serve you. For example: In the wonderful Disney movie Lion King the monkey or chimp (not sure the species) doctor hits Simba on top of his head, when he went to swing the staff and bang Simba’s head again, he moved. He learned from his mistake! 

Therefore, learn from your paradigm, but do not live by it. If you are struggling with something that creates feelings of anger, insecurity and despair my best advice to you is abort abort abort out of the situation. The meaning of life is to live the happiest you possible can. Expect to live in abundance of experiences, wealth, health and longevity. Enjoy. 

If you are constantly saying oh I can’t lose weight, or I can’t just feel happy or whatever your excuse is it is YOUR CHOICE. You get to decide to feel good, be happy and live in bliss. I tell people all the time this is my pink bubble of fun around me and if you make my pink bubble feel full of fun and laughter, I will grow stron ger and more beautiful. However, if you continue to criticize me (even when you are talking to or about yourself, just like if I were to say ugly things how I would really feel!) I will need to excuse myself from your gloom, doom, dark, disgusting bubble. Sorry, it’s your choice to live that way and my choice to live happy. 

Change your vibration. Enjoy, begin laughing at nothing almost similar to a fake, forced laugh. Before long, after everyone around you, begins to laugh, you will have the place rolling and anticipating in what your next move might be. 

Life is to be happy and have fun. 

Leave the past in the past! Learn from it and move forward.

Livelove

Why Grow Up?

Someone made the comment to me, “Teena will you ever grow up?” 

I remember thinking, hmmmm no I do not plan on it. Truly, I have already been there and done that. I can remember teaching with my friends and me telling them, I love kids because they haven’t accepted all the judgements, concerns, and hypocrisy of adulthood, yet.

When I say I have already done that, I have. You see as parents we are forced to ‘grow up’ or as I entitle it, conforming to society’s demands. However, I always searched for a way to spice life up a bit, by creating a fun yet safe environment to just be free.

While discussing parenting with some friends we all agreed, we should call and thank our parents for keeping us alive becausee we were fearless at one time. No barriers or connection to fear.

I am not saying you should become frivolous and not care about anything. However, if you take time to create a list of your daily activities and it consist of work, eating, cooking, cleaning and sleeping, IT IS TIME!!! Time for you to grow down a bit. Begin searching for something fun to do once a week. After you begin this journey you will search for more and more. It will become your quest. 

If you are a parent with children at home, my advice to you, is create a family fun time and an individual one as well. When my kids were little I would take a ‘Me’ day. (Probably Eric thinks I live in a me day, now lol). When we didn’t have money to go out, I created family fun days, For example: we had Wacky Wednesdays. 

Wacky Wednesdays or Terrific Tuesdays, Freaky Fridays, it doesn’t matter about the day or title. I knew we had to eat anyways. Therefore, I would make it fun!! Sometimes it was our attire: we all had to wear a hat, a tie, our clothes inside out, or maybe even pajamas. I would light candles, play music, allow the kids to help cook and set the ambiance. There were very few limitations (safety first). Sometimes it was a disaster, but I continually remember even the disasters were beautiful. 

We did everything from desert first, colored our food, and/or special music by the Drake kids. One of my favorite memories is – the evening we had saved to purchase some nice steaks, ice cream and toppings for the ice cream. We began with allowing the kids to create a ‘snow ball’ out of ice cream and roll them in the toppings, of their choice. They ate them first because life is too short to not eat dessert first!!! 

The next portion of the evening was our delicious steaks! However, (remember I only chose to grow up for those parenting moments necessary to assist my kids to stay alive and be accepted) I thought it would be fun to food color all of our food. Therefore, I colored the mashed potatoes blue and for some reason I colored the meat with GREEN. As the evening was wrapping up we were all sitting at the table, in the dark, with at least five candles. It was beautiful. Music playing in the background all the kids were excited and then…Darion needed some ketchup. I flipped on the light, Eric had eaten half of his steak and when I shined some light on his plate, he looked at his steak and immediatly yelled!!!! “Kids don’t eat the steak!!!! It is bad meat!! Teena throw this meat away.”

I turned and looked at my wonderful husband with a puzzled look. “What are you talking about?” 

At that point I realized what was happening and I began to laugh hysterically. The kids were sitting paralyzed, appearing to be in a trance, as well as holding their breath. They all three fixed their eyes on daddy to see if he was mad. Therefore, a ten second period of silence felt like an eternity. Next we all begin to let out a little giggle and one by one each of us began laughing until our cheeks hurt.

Regardless of anything negative happening the end result was all we needed. To laugh, giggle, and let go. 

It’s time for you to choose to enjoy!!! If you have five wonderful events fall into place which creates happiness for you, yet one not so happy slips into your realm, similar to our meat incident; focus on the other five! If you can laugh at your one negative situation and quickly switch it around, then do that. No matter what take time be grateful for the good moments and guess what? More and more good moments will occur.

There is a time and a place for everything!! I agree growing up isn’t so bad! As long as you promise to return to the bliss, honesty, and freedom of being a child occasionally, you will have a great life and happiness will fill your soul.

Livelove 

God loves you no matter what!!!! 

Remember to be happy even if it requires returning to a time when your life was much more simplictic. 

How do you know? 

One of the funniest questions I have asked people has been what makes you happy? Why? I have had the funniest answers from– you Teena,  make me happy.  Yet, others looked at me with a puzzled look and said I have no idea. Like they were waiting and anticipating to be told WRONG ANSWER YOU ARE WRONG! In reality, there is no wrong answer. Being asked that question isn’t truly a fair question. It’s actually a trick question. A question that begins at the concious mind and filters through to the subconscious, only to throw your mind into a blank stare.

In other words sometimes we can’t list what makes us happy, but when we are in the moment we can tell you one hundred or more things that make or create happiness for us. It’s a feeling AWE it’s a great feeling. 

Here we go, one of the first steps to feeling your way to happiness-

  1. Get a piece of paper 
  2. Draw a shape in the middle that you can write your name in, like a circle or square, it doesn’t matter what kind of shape.
  3. Write your name in the middle
  4. Next draw lines coming out from your name. 
  5. Write activities, music, thoughts, colors. 
  6. It can be as messy as you would like or as neat. This is ONLY YOURS you may share it or you may keep it to yourself.
  7. Now lay it down, pick it back up and read your name in the middle and create a sentence with one of your likes. Example: Teena LOVES Pink! Sometimes I will say I, Teena, love pink. 
  8. After you have said a wonderful positive statement that you love or makes you happy…close your eyes inhale, then exhale, see or visualize what you said and smile.
  9. Now you can understand what it means by feeling your way to happiness! 
  10. Repeat 7, 8, 9 throughout this Web you have created. Individually do each thing you wrote. Take time to feel the emotional attachment to each item you listed.

    You can do this daily, weekly, or when you need it. We will return to this activity several times. I may even repost it intermittently during our blogs. 

    This is a quick and easy way to begin setting and re-setting your vibration. It is also a simple way to begin gravitating towards adding the happy activities you love to do, towards you. Maybe you love to canoe and you complete the activity. Before long someone will mention, hey let’s go canoeing. 

    Take time to find what creates a happy feel good emotion for you and do more of that! I promise even through difficult times life is meant to be happy the majority of the time.

    Let’s Clear One Thing UP……..

    First, if you recently followed my blog or if you have always followed I want to say THANK YOU! If you are reading for the first time, this blog is a little catch up on who I am, where I am going and how grateful I am for where I have been.

    Recently, I began a journey and decided to share it with you by blogging, here on my blog. My journey has been magnificent with ups, downs and all arounds, thus far. I wake up each morning excited about what the universe has to offer today. I smile, run to the mirror say, GOOD MORNING BEAUTIFUL WHAT A WONDERFUL DAY IT IS TO ENJOY THIS JOURNEY. I AM READY AND EXCITED ABOUT MY JOURNEY TODAY!!!!!!!!

    Okay, to be honest, I don’t jump up and scream that every morning (but after reading it, I might try it because it feels really good) nor do I wake up in a perfect mood everyday. However, I do wake up every morning anticipating what is going to be Terrific in my day. I also will admit I have a few rituals of ‘Pump Me Up’ that I perform. Sometimes it is lay there until I catch the beautiful vision I want or I will talk to myself in the mirror for a brief moment. The most important part, you understand, is my journey is to live in a vibration of feeling happy the majority of the time. The most exciting part of this journey is I am sharing it with you!

    Here is what we needed to clear up! I did have a life changing experience that reminded me of who I am. I have felt some (in my opinion very little) despair over this experience. The truth is me shattering my leg, laying in a ditch, and seven months later still trying to heal changed my life, by reminding me of my life purpose. You see I have had very few catastrophes in my life. I have suffered the loss of loved ones, but always felt the love I had for them will always keep them alive. I am sure my mother and father would tell you otherwise, but according to me my life was perfect from day one! I mean my mother didn’t name me for a couple of days and when she did come up with a name it was- Teena (unique spelling) and Gay for the middle!! What? Yes, I am telling you the only thing my accident did for me, which I am super grateful for, was to remind me of my life purpose. I was born to spread, be and teach others to be happy. To find their bliss.

    That may sound crazy, but it’s true. I can’t tell you, of anytime in my life, that I havent found something good or positive out of a situation. Not one. Therefore, if I write about despair, depression, loss please note I am in no way shape or form comparing my measly little issues with some of your horrific situations. Lately, I have read some blogs that I feel so sorry for some people. That is why I felt like you needed to know I understand everyone has issues in their life. The best I can do is offer you new tools to assist you in enjoying your time here on earth; because they are my gifts I am sharing with you.

    I am grateful for my life. I have lived a life most could only dream of. I had a strong circle of love from my family from parents to aunts/uncles, grandparents, step-parents, friends the list and circle becomes larger all the time. I married my best friend, have four beautiful children, and much more. Who am I? I don’t know, but I do know what I love and what creates a feeling of overwhelming happiness. I also know my ‘job’ ‘mission’ ‘life purpose’ ‘whatever’ you want to call it…it is to ‘be happy’ and teach you how to ‘be happy.’ Remember, what makes me happy doesn’t necessarily make you happy, but you will know when you FEEL IT!

    God Bless You! God Loves You No Matter What!

    Color me Pink?

    Color me pink, what color best describes you? Underneath my signature on Gmail I have an entire list of titles. Included in those, probably my favorite is ‘Pinkologist.’ What? Why would you entitle yourself such a bizarre ologist? 

    This began a couple of years ago, when my wonderful step mom, began describing a man who was a happyologist! She continually repeated I have found your next career. At first I was skeptical, what did it entail? The questions piled up until I had to begin researching who, what, when and where can I study a happyologist? Amazingly enough, it is an awesome career. Companys hire happyologist for a multitude of reasons. These people have job titles which are combined with a broad spectrum of responsibilities. 

    After a great deal of research, I can say I study happiness on a day by day basis. Therefore, one of my titles can be-a happyologist. The only difference between the two is my title includes colors. 

    What is the difference? My new program incorporates color and happiness intertwined as one. For example: colors are a big part of the brain. Marketing companies have studied and refined which colors to utilize in the commercial campaigns, to ensure buyers are attracted to the product, based on its background or signature colors.

    Therefore, as a Pinkologist I began to study the relationship between people and their favorite colors. For me it’s PINK! anytime I purchase something pink it makes me happy. I smile when I see bright colors, but my smile takes over my entire face when Pink is involved! I have written down almost every compliment received on my pink. Pink sparkly nails, dresses, sandals, rain boots and much more. When I am feeling my best and adorned in a pink outfit, I feel terrific. Inevitaby those ‘feel good’ emotions spill over into my daily routines. A pep in my step, smile on my face and life is pinkalicious to me.

    However, don’t take my word for it! Try it yourself. This can be your first step on your journey to being blissfully happy! It is a simple task. 

    First, continue your day as normal. As colors enter you daily routine, take a minute to feel the emotional attachment to each color. Some you may not feel anything, others you may cringe, but when you see YOUR COLOR! Then you know. The color will provide you with a sense of awe. A pleasing almost natural feeling will come over you. As you continue this process you will feel the fascinating change in your brain and emotional state. 

    Colors will change me? Yes!!! If you have read my recent post, you will know my mission is to research, study, and gather information to pass on to you. About? Happiness!!! Living YOUR LIFE to the highest state of happiness, you have ever imagined. 

    If and when you attend one of our shows (coming to you in the Fall of 2017 and 2018) colors will be a portion of the demonstrations. 

    Begin today to find your color. You don’t have to become an ologist of your color (or you can). The only thing you need to do is find the color which brings a smile to your face. 

    Does it have to be one color? No, one of my dear friends loves different colors for different reasons. For example she loves to decorate with one scheme of colors and yet wears another. It’s not about being right or wrong it’s about seeing the beautiful array of colors and find one or a combination of colors, so when your brain absorbs the color it creates a warm- fuzzy feeling inside and puts a big smile on your face. 

    For me Pink creates those feel good emotions inside of me and in turn- projects it to my outside demeanor. 

    Take time to try it!!! Do not allow outside campaign ads or awareness groups to take your color. When I first began this adventure many people said,”Oh do you work for Susan G Komen with Breast Cancer Awareness.” 

    Don’t let those attachments ruin it for your color. Those ‘full of colors’ campaigns are for marketing purposes only, they serve a good purpose, but they do not own the colors. Therefore, when you are shopping, hiking, painting or working see the colors that privide a great emotional feeling inside of you. Next surround yourself with it. I want you to take time this week to find your feel good color or colors.

    God Bless and remember YOU ARE AMAZING AND YOUR COLOR ADORNS YOU WELL!!!!!