I can’t believe it! Twenty five years ago Eric Drake, mommy and I, at four in the morning were driving to Kings Daughters Hospital in Madison Indiana. It was a cool, crisp, October morning and I can remember thinking and praying, “Lord, help me thru this and Please Please let me be a good mommy! It was 1992, I was six days shy of my twenty first birthday, Eric was 22 and working his butt off to make ends meet. I remember thinking this pregnancy can’t be over! (I loved being pregnant). It was similar to a journey down a path with another spirit, yet you can’t see them. She was always with me. Responded to my every move, she helped choose what we ate each day, she continued to push me to take care of myself. When she began to force her way out, it almost felt like she was ripping my insides out with her, but she was ready to see this earthly life. She was ready to create her own experiences, live, love and enjoy her life. The afternoon before our trip, to the hospital was beautiful, although I was really aggitated. Mommy called and I demanded she come meet me at the house. I whined so much Eric took me for a ride, on the back roads. Tim Perkinson, Ricky White and Jarod Stark were at the house, when we returned. Oh mommy as well. One look at me and she knew! Mom watched me cook supper, work around the house (which didn’t need to be cleaned), and breathe heavy, occasionally. It didn’t take long for her to look at Eric and say, “We are having a baby tonight, you need to rest up!” Eric turned white as a ghost and almost immediatly went to bed. Poop (Tim’s nickname) stayed with mom and I, to watch the rest of Fried Green Tomatoes. Oh and we can’t forget, we ate marshmallow cream and peanut butter. I was now having contractions 10 to 15 minutes apart. (We all acted like it was no big deal) The next part was hilarious! I don’t know why, but I decided I would drive Tim home. Why, either of them let me drive I will never know. Probably, I was super stubborn and demanded to drive. (Hmmm that sounds about right). It wasn’t that far! I remember the sky was almost black, with a few cirrus clouds, glowing with the reflection of the gigantic full moon! As we slowly creeped up the hill, where the headlights beamed, straight ahead, I had one of the worst contractions, I had ever experienced. About that time I slammed the gas pedal down, forcing my car to almost ramp the hill, heading down to his house. Mom and Poop screamed, then immediately stopped themselves only to hold their breath, in hopes of survival of the small, but tedious road trip. I almost came to a stop, when yep, it hit again and a repeat event happened! When Poop jumped out of the car he was terrified, his face was almost transparent, and all he could say was, “Goodluck, I will see you tomorrow.” The next four hours were touch and go! Until I began hitting the wall and rocking back and forth. Mom went to get Eric and we were off to the hospital! The next morning we had a beautiful baby girl! She was our surprise gift! Our family and friends came to support us. And our lives changed forever! It was an amazing day. You know, as I reflect and visualize for the future, I always want to share with you. LIFE is… What you make it! Eric Drake and I has no idea what we were doing October 2nd 1992! We had very little money, little life experience and yet all we knew is we loved this little human/spirit/baby girl more than words could express. She had colic for her first six weeks of life. I can remember we would trade off sleeping one hour at a time. We had our electric shut off once and our water a couple of times! However, Listen up!!! We made it! Twenty-five years later all those struggles are now funny memories! If you are struggling, right now…Please remember take everything in twos. I know most people will tell you, “One step at a time!” I do agree, but for me it has always been twos. If you can take one step why not two! If you can make it thru two seconds, two minutes, two hours, two days, two weeks!!! You can make it! I know you have sad times and struggles, but you got this!!! I have looked back over my twenty five years with this beautiful young lady and all four of our children and realized the difficult times become diluted and almost more cherished, because they always illuminate a growth period of awesomeness! A time where we all came together, depended on each other and were grateful for the good times!
While listening to the phenomenal speakers @earlybird toastmasters Overland Park Kansas, the word of the day was, Cultivate! As I chose the word carefully it was not because I had planned on learning such a vast amount from its very existance, but rather out of need. The main title was Embracing Change. I felt like with harvest season upon our farmers and as sales reps run around to meet the fourth quarter’s quota it ‘fit’ the theme of the day.
However, it has become much more over the past twenty four hours. Think about it if you do not cultivate your plants, you will be empty handed, and have nothing at harvest time. Same pertains to businesses, relationships, families and friends. It is an essential to living a wonderful life, yet probably the most missed step in development.
Think about it! Have you or your company, grown by leaps and bounds because you didnt cultivate your environment? Maybe, but it won’t last long. If you do not cultivate your relationships/environment/yourself, you will quickly find yourself without. Without your lively hood and your dreams will swirl out of sight.
That was super sad! Now you can understand why the one word I chose for the day has become a game changer. The more I thought about the word, the more powerful it became!
Yes, you must plant the seed to be able to cultivate it. However, we wouldn’t be discussing this topic if you hadn’t planted the seed. Why? Because if you haven’t found the initiative to get up and plant the seed then you will have nothing in the end, NO MATTER WHAT!!!
Did you follow that? If not it is worth reading it again (I don’t want to type it twice, so go ahead and scroll back up and read it again).
Anywhoooo, here is your new and improved thought of the day, have fun cultivating your life! Don’t struggle with this! It’s time to enjoy going to your career or place of employment. It’s time to feel accomplished and appreciated. You do deserve it and the more you expect it the more you will receive it.
Cultivate with love this week above all else!
Consistency is my new word for this week! You may think this is a lecture, but nope, you are wrong. This is about a dear friend of mine, who teaches me something, life changing and valuable each day.
This man has been friends with Eric ever since he moved to Trimble County, back in middle school. We have been friends for many years!
Why would I choose to write about him? Because he is amazing, terrific, fabulous and has a heart of gold! However, one trait our friend Eric Simons has, that I am in awe of, is his continuous consistency! I love it!
Let me explain! No matter where I am or what day it is, I receive a beautiful, yet simple text message, EVERYDAY! I LOVE IT! It says, Good Morning, with a sunshine. It’s never a group text and normally doesn’t say much more. However, it makes my day everyday.
I mean think about it. Everyday, this friend of yours has no expectations, doesn’t expect any response, yet reminds you it is a ‘Good Morning.’
Most may have this, but the other party expects a response or a good morning back. Not Eric! Occasionally I will respond just to remind him how much I appreciate him.
It’s nice to have consistency in a life filled with chaos and confusion. Maybe we can entitle it the ES-trend. Maybe you will follow his pattern and find someone or several people to send, individually, a ‘Good Morning.’
Maybe none of that will happen. However, I am grateful for my ES daily message. It brightens my day, EVERYDAY. I didn’t ask him to do this, he is just that special of a person and we can all learn by his small, but powerful gesture, “It’s not the big, boisterous actions you have in public, rather the small, intricate actions you do, consistently that makes the greatest impact!”
Lovers…have you told your significant other how damn sexy he or she is today? Or have you sent them Good Morning with a cute heart or kiss face? (Don’t expect anything back the ripple effect will eventually come to you).
Listen, Eric Simon’s consistency is the perfect example of making a difference, one small gesture at a time. Find your positive impact for someone else and stay consistent, you are improving the lives around you by leaps and bounds.
All of my new writings, vlogs and blogs are from an inspiration I received from a life changing event. However, I will admit I have to ask myself those WHYS????? when one of my babies are sick or feel broken. You know the why’s I am talking about. Why do good parents or any parents have to lose a child either in illness or tragic accident. Why can’t very good ‘parental’ candidates give birth to five, six and sometimes seven children? Yet, two people who love each other with all their hearts and are financially stable can not get pregnant? And my answer is…
I don’t know. All I do know is when my child is sick those questions rerurn. Then I have to stop, pray and meditate. Do I always receive my answers? 99.9% of the time I do, immediatly! That small fraction of time I have to wait a small amount of longer. That’s why I am sharing this message with all of you today. So the next time I write or say something that you wish were true becuase you don’t believe me, when I say your life is meant to live feeling good and having fun. Ready? Here it goes… (I am really nervous and almost sick to my stomach)…
Mourning I understand. However, living in a mourning state or a questioning state of why me? Why mine? Grrrrrr I hate this life ect…is similar to wishing you didn’t have that encounter, child, parent, grandparent, animal ALL PHYSICAL LOSS OF A LOVED ONE HURTS!
However, to not continue to live to be happy while you are here on earth is like saying I wish I didn’t have this experience because the good times did not out weigh the pain I I I I feel, (Yes a strong accent is on I) from losing you.
As I was writing this my good friend called and I took a short break. As I explained what I was about to write about she said, “Teena the best explanation will come out of your message. (Paused) Just remember to include if I die tomorrow and I am happy today then it’s been a good life.”
Please do not criticize or feel agitated with my message. I am going to warn you against reading it in my excerpt. But also right here…Do not read any further if you do not want to hear/read this message. Because I promise it is pure.
To my dear friends who have suffered great hurt, I am sorry, with all of my heart. The strong love we have for one another is absolutely incedible. I know I am a wife, mother, sister, in law, daughter, niece, grand daughter. I have suffered loss and I have questioned the why’s!!! I have felt pain physical, emotional, and all the rest as well. However, that is not my desire or my good feeling vibration. I choose not to allow those precious encounters throughout my life to become a burden, due to my own pain. Instead I choose to live based on the positive, funny, wonderful impression, learning experience, joy and pure ‘happiness’ they have brought to my life. And how dull my very existence would be without having those people/animals in my life.
My grandfather created the love I have for travel. Him and my grandma rode my BMW motorcycle to at least 40 states, if not more. My grandmother taught me songs to always warm my heart, how to can vegetables, so my family would never grow hungry, and how to follow my intuition or as she called it your gut feeling. Of course my most recent loss Matthew Reed took me by a shock. Although I and many others still mourn him today, I always return to his zest for life, his genuine kindness and his funny disposition always comes shining thru. Him finding a solution for every problem like the slide is too dry so to keep from burning your butt pee on it first!! I burst into laughter everytime I write that or look at their picture!
This message isn’t to hurt you, but to free you. And to free them. They love you!!!! But they want you to feel good and be happy!
Fast forward your life no matter what age you are right now. You are now 113! (13 is my favorite number). You ride around with your sparkly golf cart, around the whipper snappers who are 85 and above and you are enjoying life. And you hit a stump fly off your golf cart, hit your head and die. If you have very many desendents left, especially young ones, and they mourned over you year after year, instead of discussing all the funny times you had or great gifts you brought them while they were growing up. Instead it was almost like they wished you never existed because your death is all they can remember. Would you want that? Does that give you a good feeling?
I feel like such a broken record and trust me times like now, I understand the sadness and hurt all of us have endured. However, I must keep telling you over and over feel good right now. Feel inspired today and if you don’t feel inspired then stop and smell the roses or take time to meditate. Catch the feeling good frequency.
God loves you no matter what!!!
As I reflect back over the years I recognize how being happy doesn’t mean to make everyone else happy. Nor does it mean you will love all people and/or situations. Actually it is the complete opposite.
For example: I was working out in the pool. It was extremely peaceful. Sever al couples were enjoying the cool, crisp water and peace. Then this guy comes over introduces himself and proceeds to talk, excessively. I kept shutting my eyes , breathing deep and sending him positive vibes, although I must admit my vibes were followed up with me saying, “Shutup! No one cares what your dad did for a living, what your dogs name was when you were a kid, or how all your patients were whiney and needy today!!”
Gotcha! Did you really think I said that? I didn’t say anything, out loud. I only thought it. I do not need to tell you how much this man talked, but I can use it as a lesson.
Using the tools to find your own happiness will be an advantage. However, do not mistake the fact that making other people happy is the same thing. In fact it is impossible.
Life is meant to be fun, but remember there will always be that stranger who might rub you the wrong way. Or you may be put in a situation you feel irritated with everyone involved. It is the quickest way for you to recognize what you Do Not want so you can redirect quickly and go back to having fun! That guy reminded me of how happy I am that Eric doesn’t talk too much or that I don’t have to live or work with that man. Don’t you see being happy with you doesn’t mean making everyone else happy, but it’s okay. Because what’s BEST for ME is BEST for YOU!
Instead of living a hurried, scurried, on fire all the time, making other people happy and attempting to be perfect all at the same time mentality; It is about coming together with actual peace, love and least resistance. Okay, I will admit that was a little deep! Please, bare with me.
Again, what is BEST for ME, Is BEST for YOU! When and only when you understand that statement will all your amazing happy feelings come to you like a tidal wave. I know that statement is difficult to understand, but it is absolutely, 100% the truth.
Once you allow everyone else to find their own feel good or happy feeling and you are operating your very existence in this manner, you will feel, have, do and be anything you want to be. Any experience YOU want! Trust that it is all going to be what’s best for you and allow it to be that way. The annoying people will still pop in from time to time. However, you will even find the good in them or the good in your encounter with them.
Life is meant to live by having fun. Don’t waste another day or moment trying to MAKE everyone else happy. Begin with you and the rest will fall into place.
God Loves You No Matter What!
Livelove: Changing the world with one happy tool after another!
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As I curl up to watch one of my all time favorite movies Bruce Almighty! It becomes clear it is a perfect analogy of you get what you ask for. Think about it there are only two rules 1. You can’t tell anyone you are God and trust me you don’t want that attention. 2. Can’t mess with Free Will And he responds with can I ask Why? God responds with, yes you can ask why, that’s the beauty of it!
The next few scenes are exact demonstrations of the law of attraction, everything he asked or anything anyone else asked for, they received. If they were not goal setting they could be aimlessly controlled. Jim Carrey in his character Bruce Almighty, shows us how simplistic life can be and joyous. But just like we can not truly control all the choices our children will make neither can God (was one of their messages). Therefore, our only choice is to set goals that make us happy and create the emotional attachment we desire. They even utilize funny, blaten symbolism to show how silly we are because we constantly have signs showing us the BEST path for us. Yet, we choose to say, “Oh no, I don’t need any help or I couldn’t deserve that good of a life or to be that happy.”
How many times can you remember making a choice you didn’t feel good about and it turned out to be a disaster? Or a decision that felt so right for you and even though some people questioned you, you knew like you knew. No matter what when you made that decision you knew it was right for you. Guess what? It turned out perfect or even better than you expected, didn’t it?
It’s because you made a decision on how you feel, it made you feel happy.
I have written it before and I will write it again and again and again….
Life is meant to live to feel good, be happy, enjoy, experience, fulfillment and much more. Set your goals and then enjoy the journey. The events along your road to success are fun and extraordinary.
I don’t care if you cheated on your diet, smoked a cig or fell off the wagon of your 12 step program. You are okay. No one is perfect and please stop thinking about what is in the past and begin to create your reality.
Did you know your reality can only include the present or future. Meaning what is or will be is all you truly need to worry about. Even if you just took a bite of the yummy nothing bundt cake, two minutes ago and your concious mind is reminding you of how fat you are. Tell it to shut up.
Paradigms are people, places and events from the past. They are our best way to create connections. No they are not all positive, some of our paradigms are negative. Almost like your brains defense mechanism to protect and serve you. For example: In the wonderful Disney movie Lion King the monkey or chimp (not sure the species) doctor hits Simba on top of his head, when he went to swing the staff and bang Simba’s head again, he moved. He learned from his mistake!
Therefore, learn from your paradigm, but do not live by it. If you are struggling with something that creates feelings of anger, insecurity and despair my best advice to you is abort abort abort out of the situation. The meaning of life is to live the happiest you possible can. Expect to live in abundance of experiences, wealth, health and longevity. Enjoy.
If you are constantly saying oh I can’t lose weight, or I can’t just feel happy or whatever your excuse is it is YOUR CHOICE. You get to decide to feel good, be happy and live in bliss. I tell people all the time this is my pink bubble of fun around me and if you make my pink bubble feel full of fun and laughter, I will grow stron ger and more beautiful. However, if you continue to criticize me (even when you are talking to or about yourself, just like if I were to say ugly things how I would really feel!) I will need to excuse myself from your gloom, doom, dark, disgusting bubble. Sorry, it’s your choice to live that way and my choice to live happy.
Change your vibration. Enjoy, begin laughing at nothing almost similar to a fake, forced laugh. Before long, after everyone around you, begins to laugh, you will have the place rolling and anticipating in what your next move might be.
Life is to be happy and have fun.
Leave the past in the past! Learn from it and move forward.