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A Love Story, that began OVER 50 YEARS AGO!

It was an innocent drive to see the beautiful country side! Just the two of them sitting side by side, smiling from ear to ear. Finally, they were together! And ALONE!

Mile after mile of beautiful Fall leaves, adorning the roadsides. A few splashes of water would pitter pat on the windshield, as the tires rolled through the already fallen leaves.

Ray was taking his sweetie to My Old Kentucky home for a day trip. Betty had never been and was happy to be with her BF!

As they drove mile after mile in Grandpa Drake’s car…SOMEHOW the conversation took a turn!

“Why don’t we get married?” Ray asked.

“MARRIED?” Betty surprisingly questioned.

Within moments, they were planning a WEDDING?

(I imagine the conversation went pretty quickly. Because it was the later part of October & they were married on November 2nd).

“When?”

“How about November 2nd?”

“Let’s do it!”

They returned home to announce their Big Engagement!

AND…

IT WAS ON! The Wedding of the Century!

Today, this beautiful couple, I am proud to call my mother & father n law, Ray & Betty Drake are celebrating fifty years of ‘being happily married’.

Their story is one you will never forget. I began writing it a year ago this week and have only finished the first few chapters. But when it is complete, I promise you won’t want to miss it!

However, as for today, November 2nd, 2018…take time to shout them out!

Their lives have been filled with family, friends, love, dancing, and laughter, like none other.

They spend their days of retirement in Kuai HI enjoying the sunshine, tradewinds, biking, hiking, ocean views & Sunsets, which illuminate the sky.

I am proud to be their daughter n law. Thank you Betty & Ray Drake for being a wonderful example to us all.

Sending you love & joy to fill your special day. When you made that choice to say, “I Do!” Fifty years ago!

We Love You!

Happy Anniversary! Fifty Years WOW!

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To be Gay, Or not to be Gay…that is the question?

1976, the teacher begins his first roll call of the year, my full name is announced…Teena Gay Kelley. “Here,” I reply with the proudest of voice I had.
1978, same scenario, my full name is announced…Teena Gay Kelley. A few snickers from other children, a drop of my teacher’s face and a , “here,” I reply with the lowest of whisper in hopes no one would know who said it.
1980, same scenarios except this time, I hear a teacher talking to another teacher, “Can you believe her mother named her that? Poor child.”
1983, same scenarios except…I decided to make a joke of it. “Here it goes everyone, I am the new girl in school and inevitably, one of these teachers will call out my middle name…get ready for it…yep…(pause as if I knew exactly what was about to happen)”
“Teena Gay Drake.” Young, first year teacher of middle school, who could pass for being ‘considered’ to be a Gay Man or one whom everyone in the world, knew his sexual preference. (Which to be honest this still freaks me out that we label people based on their sexuality/preference/private stuff. IDK but does anyone else want to be labeled by how you like to feel pleasure? Okay…I don’t want to make anyone mad so this part will be omitted, maybe).
His faced turned blood-red as the snide remarks and poking fun at me had begun. He peered over his glasses in the most apologetic way. Between fake laughs, I glanced back at him as to say, “I knew it was coming…It is okay.”
I continued this phase of my life throughout my teaching career. I began with my introduction, “Hello! My name is Mrs. Teena Gay Drake, but you may call me Mrs. Drake.”
I would always reinforce how no one wants to be called names. Therefore, your slur usage of the word ‘Gay’ will not be permitted in my classroom, due to the fact of it being my middle name and all. I would allow the students to giggle if they so please, but the precedent was clearly set, this was an equal, kind, loving, nonjudgement classroom and it would stay that way.
As I reflect back to several of my students, I can remember feeling their pain as they would be made fun of because he or she was different. The boys who were considered to be feminine would come to me and say, “Mrs. Drake they say I am Gay? Why? What does that even mean?”
Many of the girls would embrace the label and act similar to myself. They would chime in to poking fun at themselves.
Yes, believe it or not it was only a few years ago that middle schoolers didn’t understand ‘why’ they were labeled. And, yes, many understand what the title means now, but they are unsure of why the heck people, especially adults, are so persistent and hateful about it!
Let’s be honest…if you have a 6th grader you are not sitting around pondering whether he or she is desiring to have sex with anyone, let alone the same-sex.
So the next time you are quick to judge, take time to pause and think…do I really care whether someone is Gay or not? Regardless of the definition.

If they are ‘Gay’ defined as happy or ‘Gay’ defined by sexual preference… Do you really want to know their sexual preference? How does this even directly affect you?
Do you know I was told not to write this because I might offend someone? If I am offending someone then good! I am tired of poking fun at my name because someone said it stands for a label! I am tired of hiding my beliefs because someone else might disagree.
Because resistance or a huge vibration will create change and change is inevitable. Gay by definition is happy & joyful. Gay has become by definition a choice of sexuality. Who provided the world with this label? You…whether you find the term offensive or celebratory you have defined it.
So my answer is clear…”To be Gay, or not to be Gay? I choose Gay! I am taking back my title, my mother gave me the day I smiled laying in my crib, when by the ‘textbook rules’ wasn’t possible.

I was named after my Great Aunt Gay. I was named to be happy and share love.
IDC what other people’s sexual preference is…but I do hope it brings you joy. (But I am still unconcerned, of your choice, as others might want to follow my lead, on this subject).

As we wrap up the month of June which is entitled ‘Pride Month’ whether you are apart of it or not, please remember…it truly does stand for…Celebrating being proud to be Happy, to be free, and to remember “Love will always win!”
YOU ARE LOVED! You are worthy to feel good. You are FREE to be GAY with me!
Instead of tearing people down and allowing misconceptions to blur your vision of the true meaning of the rainbow, attempt to allow love and the illumination of the vibrant colors melting one into the other, to AMAZE YOU!
You will quickly realize how fun and Gay life can be!
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Open to thoughts, comments and happy remarks. Snide remarks are accepted as well, if you feel the need. Although I am not very tough and I will probably cry I will respectfully read all of them and respond if so need be. LOL. No seriously, I do cry sometimes.
God Bless EACH OF YOU! Thank you for reading my thoughts. My greatest wish is for you to find your happy trail. That you will live- like today is your last, love- with every cell in your body, and when the road gets rough you will hold on tight and CARRY ON!
Written by: Teena Drake

Okay, Google it…

When people begin to become uncomfortable they tend to say I am unhappy or sad. Which is a needed emotion to appreciate the thrilling moments throughout life. The key is to decide how long do you want to stay unhappy or sad. In other words yes, you will experience times of sadness in your life, even once you begin to live in a happy and appreciative state, 99 percent of the time. However, those moments become minimal when you remember, “The best for me will always be!”

Are you still doubting the possibility of living happy 99 percent of the time?

Okay, Google it…Is it possible to be happy all the time? Or the majority of the time?

(The theme song of Jeopardy is playing in my head)

What did you find? Was the answer clear? Yes or No?

Yet, although you researched it, are you happy with whichever answer you chose? Based on what? Evidence? Personal Emotions? Historical Events?

The truth is it didn’t matter to Google your objective opinion, you ask a question and Google provided you with a beautiful array of choices to choose from. As well as added on a few ‘different’ perspectives, in case you didn’t find the answer which resonated with you.

Wow! Did you know life is the same way? You shout out, “I want to be happy” or “How can I be wealthy so then I can be happy?” Maybe, “I want love, peace, comfort.”

Go ahead, try again…Google it!

(Again, the theme song of Jeopardy is playing in my head)

It is true anything you are searching for or focusing on will appear in one form or another. Whether you search it, meditate on it, or just think about it. Think about your last search. What KEY WORDS did you use? Those are your key thoughts. If they are serving you well, then stick to it, you are on the right track. However, if those key words/thoughts are not continuously returning  your mind to a more pleasant place, it might be time to go back and perform another search.

If you were searching for something, on the internet, for work or any other reason and your first search was a flop, would you just give up and shut down the computer? Never to search again?

That may seem a bit dramatic. But let me ask you something…Is this what you do to your beautiful thoughts and ideas when they appear? Do you shut them down by reflecting to your past and ‘Proving’ to yourself this will never work? Yet, every time you hear about this topic your heart sings?

It is time to treat your life-like you do your Google Search. If you do not receive the desired results at first…change your key words and search until you reach your desired destination!

Okay Google…spell Success- T-E-E-N-A! (Put your name in place of mine. Doesn’t that feel TERRIFIC!)

If you would like to hear more about finding and keeping your own happiness in all of life’s situations email us… Livelove.teena@gmail.com or Google us (haha) Www.Livelovellc.org/home

Or maybe you need a little umph put back into your life. Then Happy Coaching from Livelove LLC is something to check into. It is always positive, present and future oriented and most of  all, personalized just for you!

Livelove

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Carry On

 

 

 

 

 

Delete It!

Do you ever look at e-mails, social media, cell phones or anything else exposing your name and think…What if I deleted EVERYTHING! I never think of that either!

As I chuckle to myself about that last statement, I wonder if this is what our children think. Not deleting everything, but about life. For example, “Mommy, Have you ever felt like life was overwhelming? Have you ever felt like ‘giving up’?”

As the child, who is struggling with what may seem silly to an adult, ponders asking this question to their mommy or daddy.  I can only imagine what they think an adult would respond with. For example, “Of COURSE, I feel like giving up. Have you not seen all the crud going on? Ball practice, work, birthdays. But what do you have to worry about? You are being cared for.”

PARENTS! I am not saying you are doing anything wrong. I promise life is overwhelming at times and young parents today, have a great deal of pressure. Which is why I am writing this post.

If you have times of glaring at your connections to the world and you feel overwhelmed, then your child is probably feeling the same way.

Therefore, I am suggesting take time and DELETE IT! I know it sounds crazy, but when you are feeling overwhelmed with LIFE, make up a game with your family and have a delete it night.

Example:

  1. Explain to your children or partner, we are going to have a delete it night.
  2. Have everyone
    1. write their issues
    2. speak it
    3. sing it   Example: Child- I made an F, my friend was mean to me, Work was awful today. Everyone is allowed to share what they are feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, or depressed about.
  3. Take time to listen to everyone’s sharing of their feelings.
  4. BUT! After each complaint EVERYONE says, “Delete It!”
  5. Or you can sing “DELETE IT!”

The point is to reverse the trajectory of your thoughts on what is and has been. Because you can’t change the past…no matter what!

Deleting it allows:

  1. Acceptance that everyone has down times and feels like giving up.
  2. A switch in vibrations.
  3. Allows everyone to see how life carrys on even when it feels cruddy at this moment…IT will get better!

As always…God Bless and KNOW you are LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY!

Livelove

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Carry On

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Life is meant to be experienced.

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When it doesn’t fit, do you continue to wear it?

When you go to the closet and pick up a pair of pants, that do not fit any longer, do you continue to wear them? If you do attempt to ‘make do’ does it become disastrous?

At one time, I worried about being too fat, not good enough and was terribly unsatisfied with the way my clothes fit. I decided to become dedicated to the cause. I worked out and felt terrific. I reached my goals and felt pretty good about myself.

However, I had this one pair of pants! They were my favorite pair. Black silky material, elastic waist, balloon pant legs which created an illusion, I was wearing a long evening gown, but they were functional. I would tell the kids they were my ‘Fancy Pants.’ I truly did love this pair of pants.

Therefore I continued to wear them. Who cared, if they were five sizes too big. No one else knew, just me. As I daydream back to the day I remember my honey bunny saying, “When are you going to get rid of those pants?! They are hanging off of you and if you aren’t careful they will fall down in front of your class!”

What did he know about fashion? I didn’t pay any attention to his nonsense. I arrived at work early and whistled as I walked into the front door. “Good Morning, Ms. Connie,” I cheerfully said as I scooted past her office, in my flowy pants.

The day went wonderful. All of my lessons were going as planned and life couldn’t be better. My planning time came and it was time for lunch. As I nonchalantly danced by the office I heard a deep, male voice call out my name, “Mrs. Drake?”

I jumped a bit and then I heard, “We need your help in the office.”

As much as I wanted to play sick and run back to my classroom, I didn’t. I never wanted to upset Ms. Connie, she is the best.

Turns out she had left due to a family emergency and I was the only ‘warm body’ who could fill in, at least until after my planning period. Which might I add, it was always a short planning time, until today! This day seemed like forty-five minutes was forty-five days.

Of course I quickly found myself sitting in ‘THE CHAIR’ the one where all the phone calls come in, the parents, grandparents, step parents, sick kids, medicated students, vomiting teachers, and last but not freaking least the INTERCOM SYSTEM! I may seem a bit dramatic, but the office manager, in my opinion, has the most difficult job of any in the school system.

The first parent arrived within five minutes of me sitting down. She said in a meek little voice and shaky hands, “Yes, my daughter is in 6th grade and she left her book bag at home. Soooo I wanted to bring it to her…”

I quickly interrupted in a flustered voice, “What? Who did you say? You are going to have to speak up and what class is she in?”

Oh for goodness sakes that one took me fifteen minutes. Including that ordeal, I had four teachers, one cafeteria assistant calling me and the outside calls, were rolling over to an email, faster than I could answer.

It was my last five minutes and a dad buzzes at the door. I let him in, he requested to pick up his son in 6th grade. Most organized human I had dealt with in the past forty minutes. He knew which class at the correct time and spoke up. Pleased with my survival skills through the past few events…I smile really big and I politely say, “Thank you for being so organized and I will call your son up at this time.” (I almost sounded like a robot).

I call the classroom, no he is not in there. Hmmm maybe this dad made a mistake. This continues on for a couple of times. I am now using the intercom and telephone when he yells out, “OH I am so sorry, I forgot he is in seventh grade, he is in math!”

He yelled so loud I fell back into the roller chair, that I had been attempting to spin back and forth in, to accomplish more, in a shorter amount of time. When I fell I zoomed backwards towards Ms. Connie’s desk and quickly spun around, placing my elbows on the desk and hands under my chin. “I am sorry, I didn’t quite catch that?”

He repeated it in a much calmer and embarrassed voice, “My son is in the seventh grade, I am so sorry…”

As he continued to apologize I had become a little smirky and to be blunt I was ticked off. I spun around to turn my back to this man, whom I was upset with. Placed both feet firmly on the ground…pushed my behind up using both hands and my body.

AND…as fast as I stood up, my pants came plummeting down. Yes, down to my knees! My bare behind was there for this man and whoever else wanted to see! I quickly plopped back down, as I gasped for air! Not only were they down, the bottom of my right pant leg was tightly wound around the wheel. I wasn’t going anywhere.

I remember I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry and the man, he turned around and walked out in the hall. Probably to laugh so hard he had to pee his pants! Mr. Genton heard me laughing hysterically, as I grabbed my stomach and bent over to attempt and free my pants leg! Of course he helped the father find his son and all he could say between his tears of hysterical laughing, was, “Why do you wear pants that are clearly to big?”

I hope you are now laughing too! This is absolutely a true story. I guess now most of you know why, when someone suggests me working in an office, I laugh and politely decline.

You see, not only were my pants too big, but I was attempting to fill even greater shoes.

Are you doing the same thing in life? Are you continuing to wear the old YOU, who doesn’t fit anymore? It isn’t about the size, it’s about the fit. Isn’t it time you find your own shoes to fill? And if you are hanging on to those old clothes, ask yourself, “Do I want to return to this person or am I okay with brand new and a better fit?”

If the world is continually rotating that means there is never a stagnant moment. Meaning CHANGE is inevitable.

Sometimes we hold ourselves to ‘way back then’ so long, we forget to experience the now and forever more. When you fit in your own skin, life feels pretty TERRIFIC!

God Loves YOU NO MATTER WHAT!

Livelove

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Carry on!

I am so excited about this great adventure. I would love for you to come along and see all the beautiful stops we are making along the way! If you need a little umf in your life e-mail me at Livelove.teena@gmail.com

A New Service for you: Angel Card Readings they are fun and always enlightening. Of course we continue to offer workshops and Happy Coaching.

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Don’t Quit…Change Your Vocabulary!

As I wrap up my first book for Livelove’s ‘Happy’ Curriculum, I have moments where I want to quit. The questions run through my head like a hamster trapped on an exercise wheel. Is this worth my time? What makes you think YOU can accomplish your goals? What are your objectives? Maybe I should quit and get a J-O-B. As you can tell it is mostly negative vocabulary.
During my twelve and fourteen hour days of writing, I am amazed at how I do not want to stop, Eric usually has to insist I close my computer down.

If I am super happy while writing then why do I question my ability? Last night the answer to this question and all the other ‘stinkin thinkin’ thoughts or questions came to me like a shooting star. I needed to change my vocabulary! (Zig Ziglar)

I am super excited to share this bit of information with you. This post will be different than most. Today we practice!

Instructions:

Begin to listen to what you say…
About yourself
Your dreams
Goals
Life
Health
Anytime you say something that is not positive or good, stop yourself and change ONE Vocabulary word you used…For example:
Quit—Break
Hardship–Hurdle
Struggles–Moments
Next, begin to create your ideal situation in your mind…
I am a terrific author.
I help a lot of people.
I feel amazing!

Dwell on things that create a feeling of AWE! I am okay. As you continue to divert the words that come out of your mouth and negative thoughts, you will begin to feel like a rose bud about to open her petals to create a beautiful flower.
Next, try this experiment:

Write down words that make you feel good, they do not have to be connected to your work or goals, simply write words. My list:
Pink
bubbles
love
hearts
water
writing
exploring
traveling
ocean breeze

Now read one word at a time, then close your eyes and FEEL the word. If you have a partner have them read the words aloud while you sit and feel each word.
When you have completed this activity the happy emotions will continue until YOU decide to add in resistance.

Don’t take my word for it, Try it!

It doesn’t always take an entire self-help book to reroute the trajectory of your life, sometimes you only need to change your vocabulary!

Livelove

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Carryon

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‘How to’ Continued…

To be continued…The emotions of defeat, despair and fear creeped in at times. Even up until December 8th, 2016. The day I crushed my leg and sat in a meditative state for several months. At that point in my life, I had turned in my resignation at the school and was following my dream! I had a published a much needed, non-fiction book, about talking to your kids, about sex. Once again, I was beaming with happiness.

However, shortly after my adventure began, I was placed into park! What? Come on, I was almost there. I could touch my dream of being a, monetary rewarded writer or what we entitle it as, a paid author. But nope, not yet. My patience had worn quite thin.

As I meditated,  went to physical therapy, slept a great deal, I learned and learned from avenues unimaginable. Instead of being like, I had been in the past, who was running around chasing her dreams with furry and might; I filled notebook after notebook with thoughts or ideas. Sometimes I spent hours writing a fiction story filled, with drama and comedy all rolled up in one.

My exploration of me, was out of this world. I do not wish for anyone to experience my pain, but to experience the reflection and exploration, now that would be awesome!

If I had so many down times, then why do I feel ‘good’ enough to write a ‘How to’ article? Because it took all those ups, downs, lefts and rights, to bring me to this point. The point where we ask HOW? About everything. During an age when people have more faith and trust in “Okay Google…” than we do in ourselves.

You see, it took all of those micro-stories for me to explain ‘how to’ be a writer, explorer, artisit, happy, appreciative, grateful, expressive, full of love and living like never before.

The one most important key is…Are you ready?

Begin.

Yes, that is my answer and I am sticking to it!

As I reflect back to my first request to write for our small town newspaper and the editor replied with, “What experience do you have?”

I bowed my head and said, “None!” (Don’t be like me and waste years because of one ignorant person, questioning your ability).

After many let downs, my next move, towards becoming a writer, was when a new editor came in, I began working with him. Not writing for him, but yet having students write for him. Until, one day, I asked, “Would you let me write for you?”

My strongest desire was to write! And second was to motivationally speak at events, on television, and don’t forget my biggest dream (still pursuing) to be a guest host on Jimmy Falon.

It was a dream come true to receive my first, monetary reward, for my writings! Opening up a whole new world, for me. It didn’t matter how great or small of an amount it was, I had reached and accomplished, one long term, goal and it felt terrific!

Be careful, playing the whiney, making excuses, person and repeating, “I have already tried eveything and it doesn’t work,” bit. No it won’t work. If you continue in this mind set, you will always be, exactly where you are now. I promise.

If you want it bad enough and continue to stay in the mind-set of growth and, “I KNOW I CAN!” It will most definetly happen.

 

Now do you see why my answer is, to BEGIN? Because although I had several let downs or bumps in the road, my results were as expected. I went to the starting line and took the first step. I have taken many slides backwards. I have fallen, been bruised, bumped and taken to the level of not seeing my way out, but I only stayed in the valley, for a little while.

Life is a frequency, not maybe or can be compared to, it is a frequency. (I do not want to bore you with the details of the electromagnetic spectrum and energy, yada, yada, yada (so please trust me). Life is a frequency. And you are in control of the intensity. Meaning if you are focusing and sending energy towards what you desire, then you probably feel pretty good, at this point. However, if you were like me and focusing on the lack of, you probably feel terrible.

I love being a writer! It is what I love to do and yes, I receive monetary rewards for my writings. Funny thing is, the reason for my certainty, is the entisity of my desire to complete this ‘How to’. The entire time I feel exhilarated. Supper is not started nor planned, phone is on silent and my Writing Palace is becoming dark, as the sun sets.

One of my best confirmations, that I was on the correct path for me, was when I was at my worst and money was not involved, I chose to write! And write, and write!

Find which ‘how to’ you would do without any reward and begin. I promise it will never feel like work and there will be times, when you feel a little bit guilty, because you are so darn happy, whisteling while you work. While everyone around you can only talk about their hectic lives and stress levels.

Yes, everyone must earn a living. I understand this. But why not reap the rewards by doing what you love? I loved teaching! I loved being a clown! I continue to love teaching! I love writing!

I know it sometimes feels impossible, to reach your dreams, but you can do it. I can remember when I didn’t think graduation from college was a possibility, but I did it. I had the desire to be known as a wonderful author, I am on my way! All because the first step was taken. It may not have been a smooth, easy road, but every bump, valley and hilltop have been fantastic! Looking back, I wouldn’t have missed it for the world.

Recap…How to be a writer? Do it! Begin at the starting line. Grab a notebook, pen or pencil and write your emotions, words, poems don’t worry about the combination of words. The rest of the story will be history, I promise. You will begin to be presented with new opportunities.

As for agents, managers, publishing, and blogging…follow your instincts. I will tell you, WordPress has been an amazing company, to have a blog and if you do not have a blog site, get one. It will change your writing life.

Don’t allow one comment to hender you or a rejection to stop you from continuing on. Instead of thinking you weren’t good enough for them, turn it around and think wow they weren’t right for me. Then move on. Maybe self-publishing is better for you, explore all of your options, but all of this is irrelevant, if you do not begin!

‘How to’ be anything else or have do or be anything…Doesn’t matter what…You must begin. Not one successful person, woke up one day and was magically, deliciously, abundant in love or money. However, they continued to pursue, push and play with their hopes and desires, until the frequency became so intense it happened. Their goals were completed, to allow new ones. Their vision came to fruition because they continued to clearly feel how terrific it felt! They learned from the journey, while jumping every hurdle with a smile. But still yet, none of this could have been reality for them, unless they took the first step and BEGAN!

God Bless

Livelove

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Carryon

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You are amazing and I hope this post helps you to forget the exact path of How and rather to take the first step at begin. May all your dreams come true!