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As I sit and weep…

As I sit and weep like a mother holding her sweet infant for the first time, I realize it is not because I am sad! In fact my tears that have melted the makeup off of my face, are out of pure happiness, joy, bliss and amazement!

Today, was my first photo shoot since BK! (Before Kids). It wasn’t fancy or for a glamorous modeling gig. However, I knew it had to be done.

I had tried to take some selfies, that was a disaster! So I did it.

You may still be wondering why I am crying. It surely was not because I had to have a photo shoot for my business/webpage.

Noo not at all! I am just grateful to be alive. I love this life and today as we scanned through the pictures, I laughed outloud! The photographer said, “You look beautiful! When you talk about your company, you glow! Then you smile and it becomes contagious.”

My thoughts were,”OMG I have so many things I could point out about this picture and they are not oh wow how amazing you look!”

Next, I came home began working on some loose ends, to ensure we are on target to begin advertising. Then I plopped down to take a glimpse of my photos. (You probably already know, but everything is electronic now. I wonder when pictures are going to become so digital/HD, they show when someone is letting off a big ole flatulent!)

What happened next was astonishing, to say the least. I opened up the first special she did, with Livelove underneath of me and I began to cry. First one tear, then another until it was a stream pouring down my face.

Why? You ask. To be honest…because I am ALIVE! I am alive I can feel pain, emotions, tears pouring down my face. Yes, I continue to struggle with criticizing myself, but I think that is an on going practice to improve our self image. It takes skill and stubbornness to argue with yourself. It also takes baby steps to achieve a complete understanding of just how special our lives are! I am in awe of life and living. I feel grateful for all the beautiful people that have been flowing into my life. Teaching, supporting, comforting and loving me. Who are you or what are you grateful for, right now? Feel how incredible it feels to remember those people, places or events that you feel grateful for! Doesn’t the very thought of it bring you relief and a sense of aweeeee?

Live for today, tomorrow may never come. As my grandma always said, “That is a dumb statement because tomorrow never comes, it’s always today.”

Once again if you are in a valley, right now. Hold on, breathe easy, look up the best is yet to come. This moment will pass, choose for the next moment to get a little better, easier to handle, easier to believe in living again.

Livelove

&

Carryon

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Peek a Boo…I see you

Have you ever had a clear vision of what you want? Maybe you want to be a millionaire, or debt free, or maybe neither, but something even bigger, than monetary value! However, everytime you stay super focused on your vision, peek a Boo I see you, out pops your paradigm?

This happens to everyone. The best thing is, you can recognize it as ‘fake forecasting,’ once you realize where it is coming from.

I entitle it, forecasting because that’s what it is, a forecast or prediction of the future. The negative feedback is just past events creeping up.

For example: If you wanted to be a millionaire and you came from a background that was no where near a wealthy financial background, the first emotion attached to millionaire goal is probably…’How are you going to do that?”

“You can’t do that and if you could well you should be grateful with what you have and shouldn’t want more!”

My all time favorite statement (not really, but I can laugh at it now), “You know there are people that have less than you, you are so blessed!”

SHUTUP! Is what I say! Sorry, not trying to offend anyone! But someone has to say it!!!! What is life about if you are not striving for the next great adventure? Whether it be monetary, spiritual, emotional, physical or mental.

We tell our students in education, learn all you can, education is power always be of a mindset to learn and evolve. Yet, the mixed signal comes into play when anyone dreams big! Whether it be their own past events creeping into a nonrelated existing event. Or it is the people they are surrounded by.

Instead of staying to long in the vision or goal. Set time aside to relish in it. Feel the emotions you desire to feel, the exhilaration of how awesome your vision/goal truly is! THEN…when one, peek a Boo I see you, negative thought enters, STOP, SAY (nicely) Shutup and move about your day in a terrific mood!

In step by step form:

1. Feel good

2. Visualize/feel what you desire or want before you have it.

3. Subconscious or other outside forces will raise their heads only to say, “Peek a Boo, I see You. Only to place doubt in your head.

4. DO NOT argue with it, or justify why you want what you want!

5. Slide left! Or move on to another thought or conversation to avoid any struggle. (After all you control you, they truly don’t have a say. As for your subconscious saying negative things, remember it is always trying to protect you from hurt that you have felt in the past. However, we don’t live in the past anymore).

6. Next enjoy the events of now. Find the happy spot that is in the present. Expect the best is always coming to you.

7. It’s not your job to know how it’s your job to know what!

You are amazing! The next time the peek a Boo emotions show up simply reply with, “I see you too, and now you are going back to where you belong…in the past.”

Remind yourself, YOU ARE CAPABLE!!!!

Livelove

&

Carryon

Shew! I made it…

I wanted so badly to go for a bike ride today, before old man winter sets in for his long winters nap. I put on my coat, shoes and of course I packed Freddy the Flamingo. I peeked out of the patio door to ensure it was  perfect weather, like the weather man described. So beautiful!

I went down the steps and twisted the lock to open the door into the garage. Twist, pause. Twist again, pause…nothing! It appeared I was locked in. (Yes, there was the other door to go outside, but for some reason I began to allow my mind to go CRAZY!) I thought what if this is Gods way of telling me to NOT go for a bike ride! I sat on the steps feeling and listening to my emotions. Do I really want to go for a bike ride? What if this is a sign? What if I received a sign on December the 8th and I didn’t listen? Oh the questions were racing through my head! I should have known it was a lesson for me to learn, so I can share with you, but of course I didn’t.

I text Eric and told him about the door not opening. Then I asked if maybe I should take it as a sign. However, he didn’t respond. I came back upstairs…this is silly, I thought. I went back downstairs and twisted, locked, relocked and repeat until it finally opened! Next, I met my neighbor. We introduced ourselves, chit chatted a few minutes and he looked at me and said, “Are you sure you should ride that bike today?”

What? YES! I should ride this bike today! I am going for a ride! I hoped on and pedaled off. However, I will not lie to you and tell you I was feeling free, having fun and riding on. Nope! I kept thinking of those signs, what if? What if, I had another accident? What if I never returned? Just crazy questions raced through my head. I continued to pedal faster and faster! It almost seemed I was trying to out run my crazy, silly imagination. Is it true? Are we warned before an accident? I have no idea! But I can report those warnings were not real, today. Rather a connection to my paradigm.

If you had experienced the same accident, you might feel the same way. Anyways, I made it back. It was a beautiful ride, the leaves danced along the path and the breeze was crisp enough to keep me from becoming to hot. When I arrived at home, I was so excited I MADE IT SAFE AND SOUND!

Shew! My legs felt like jello and my bladder was full. As I ran up the stairs I felt like a child who had accomplished something wonderful and couldn’t wait to tell mom. As I reached for my phone, it didn’t take long to figure out, it was gone!!! I ran to my computer and messaged mom, Darion and Ashby in hopes one would check their Facebook.

As soon as I heard Eric come in, I told him what was going on. We retraced my steps and he knew immediately what had happened. We got a good laugh out of him looking at me, listening to my events leading up to the aha! moment of it was placed in the cell phone case on his bike. You see, I was riding his bike. (He is trying to convince me to buy another bike with gears and I am not convinced).

It was a funny lesson for me. What did I learn? I learned that we all react differently to scenarios or events that occur, in our lives. Why? Based on our paradigms or past experiences. If we can ever see why we feel the way we feel, negative emotions may not become obsolete, but they can be minimized. Take the time to know what your mindset is, why it is what it is and tweak it to make you feel better. It is not always and actually it is unlikely, you will have a repeat of exact circumstances, to be conducive to the same results, in your lifetime.

For example: I can assure you I will not repeat stepping off a curb without looking down first. My brain recalls the incident and says, “Hey silly look before you step!”

Another example: My friend said, “I don’t want to be greedy, ever.”

I responded with, “You are fine today! The reason you worry about being greedy is because in your past you remember not having enough. However, when you recognize that was then and you do not struggle with those same issues. Therefore, you can leave you greediness behind now, because you are okay!”

Next time you think you are receiving a message, ensure the emotions are not a defense mechanism from a past event. How? It takes a little push, from you. Many people call it perseverance, but I would rather call it taking one step at a time. It is okay to have a little fear, just try not to dwell on it. Feel the emotional attachment, recognize why you have it and only you can decide whether you want to keep that feeling or rather let it go! For me I let it go and it feels terrific.

God Bless

Livelove

&

Carryon

 

Be???? 

Why does the word Be continually show up? As for me it’s constant because I have always been doing aomething. Working towards a goal or focusing on the perfect steps to get to where I want to be. 

However, recently I have tried to just ‘Be.’ Sometimes it is awkward and I feel guilty or lazy. Then yet my paradigm kicks in and reminds my mind; how many times I have failed or how many times I have been hurt or how many times someone else did something to make ME not happy! 

Really? Read that entire paragraph again! Words like guilt, not, hurt, sad (not happy) do not feel good, but just like you I feel them everyday. Now, my everyday is more like 5 fleeting moments. It’s almost like a quick, but painful PINCH under my arm, where the skin is super sensitive. OUCH! Ashby and I always said it was a bite from the love bug. (However, if that pain is a love bug it can move on because it hurts.)

Anyways, moments of soaking, sifting and reminiscing  deep into your paradigm or past connections, isn’t the best path to propel your life into an amazing realm. Instead, practice the state of BE. 

Be happy, kind, loving, peaceful whichever fits you today choose it and be it. If you do not feel like adding to it then go ahead and take a day to just ‘Be.’

Leave the worries of the world or I should say the worries of your paradigm in the trash. Not all of your paradigms, just those ones that do not bring you joy. Bob Proctor entitled it a paradigm shift. Therefore, when you decided what state you choose today, only focus on feeling good, enjoying the journey and let it be!