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As I sit and weep…

As I sit and weep like a mother holding her sweet infant for the first time, I realize it is not because I am sad! In fact my tears that have melted the makeup off of my face, are out of pure happiness, joy, bliss and amazement!

Today, was my first photo shoot since BK! (Before Kids). It wasn’t fancy or for a glamorous modeling gig. However, I knew it had to be done.

I had tried to take some selfies, that was a disaster! So I did it.

You may still be wondering why I am crying. It surely was not because I had to have a photo shoot for my business/webpage.

Noo not at all! I am just grateful to be alive. I love this life and today as we scanned through the pictures, I laughed outloud! The photographer said, “You look beautiful! When you talk about your company, you glow! Then you smile and it becomes contagious.”

My thoughts were,”OMG I have so many things I could point out about this picture and they are not oh wow how amazing you look!”

Next, I came home began working on some loose ends, to ensure we are on target to begin advertising. Then I plopped down to take a glimpse of my photos. (You probably already know, but everything is electronic now. I wonder when pictures are going to become so digital/HD, they show when someone is letting off a big ole flatulent!)

What happened next was astonishing, to say the least. I opened up the first special she did, with Livelove underneath of me and I began to cry. First one tear, then another until it was a stream pouring down my face.

Why? You ask. To be honest…because I am ALIVE! I am alive I can feel pain, emotions, tears pouring down my face. Yes, I continue to struggle with criticizing myself, but I think that is an on going practice to improve our self image. It takes skill and stubbornness to argue with yourself. It also takes baby steps to achieve a complete understanding of just how special our lives are! I am in awe of life and living. I feel grateful for all the beautiful people that have been flowing into my life. Teaching, supporting, comforting and loving me. Who are you or what are you grateful for, right now? Feel how incredible it feels to remember those people, places or events that you feel grateful for! Doesn’t the very thought of it bring you relief and a sense of aweeeee?

Live for today, tomorrow may never come. As my grandma always said, “That is a dumb statement because tomorrow never comes, it’s always today.”

Once again if you are in a valley, right now. Hold on, breathe easy, look up the best is yet to come. This moment will pass, choose for the next moment to get a little better, easier to handle, easier to believe in living again.

Livelove

&

Carryon

Shew! I made it…

I wanted so badly to go for a bike ride today, before old man winter sets in for his long winters nap. I put on my coat, shoes and of course I packed Freddy the Flamingo. I peeked out of the patio door to ensure it was  perfect weather, like the weather man described. So beautiful!

I went down the steps and twisted the lock to open the door into the garage. Twist, pause. Twist again, pause…nothing! It appeared I was locked in. (Yes, there was the other door to go outside, but for some reason I began to allow my mind to go CRAZY!) I thought what if this is Gods way of telling me to NOT go for a bike ride! I sat on the steps feeling and listening to my emotions. Do I really want to go for a bike ride? What if this is a sign? What if I received a sign on December the 8th and I didn’t listen? Oh the questions were racing through my head! I should have known it was a lesson for me to learn, so I can share with you, but of course I didn’t.

I text Eric and told him about the door not opening. Then I asked if maybe I should take it as a sign. However, he didn’t respond. I came back upstairs…this is silly, I thought. I went back downstairs and twisted, locked, relocked and repeat until it finally opened! Next, I met my neighbor. We introduced ourselves, chit chatted a few minutes and he looked at me and said, “Are you sure you should ride that bike today?”

What? YES! I should ride this bike today! I am going for a ride! I hoped on and pedaled off. However, I will not lie to you and tell you I was feeling free, having fun and riding on. Nope! I kept thinking of those signs, what if? What if, I had another accident? What if I never returned? Just crazy questions raced through my head. I continued to pedal faster and faster! It almost seemed I was trying to out run my crazy, silly imagination. Is it true? Are we warned before an accident? I have no idea! But I can report those warnings were not real, today. Rather a connection to my paradigm.

If you had experienced the same accident, you might feel the same way. Anyways, I made it back. It was a beautiful ride, the leaves danced along the path and the breeze was crisp enough to keep me from becoming to hot. When I arrived at home, I was so excited I MADE IT SAFE AND SOUND!

Shew! My legs felt like jello and my bladder was full. As I ran up the stairs I felt like a child who had accomplished something wonderful and couldn’t wait to tell mom. As I reached for my phone, it didn’t take long to figure out, it was gone!!! I ran to my computer and messaged mom, Darion and Ashby in hopes one would check their Facebook.

As soon as I heard Eric come in, I told him what was going on. We retraced my steps and he knew immediately what had happened. We got a good laugh out of him looking at me, listening to my events leading up to the aha! moment of it was placed in the cell phone case on his bike. You see, I was riding his bike. (He is trying to convince me to buy another bike with gears and I am not convinced).

It was a funny lesson for me. What did I learn? I learned that we all react differently to scenarios or events that occur, in our lives. Why? Based on our paradigms or past experiences. If we can ever see why we feel the way we feel, negative emotions may not become obsolete, but they can be minimized. Take the time to know what your mindset is, why it is what it is and tweak it to make you feel better. It is not always and actually it is unlikely, you will have a repeat of exact circumstances, to be conducive to the same results, in your lifetime.

For example: I can assure you I will not repeat stepping off a curb without looking down first. My brain recalls the incident and says, “Hey silly look before you step!”

Another example: My friend said, “I don’t want to be greedy, ever.”

I responded with, “You are fine today! The reason you worry about being greedy is because in your past you remember not having enough. However, when you recognize that was then and you do not struggle with those same issues. Therefore, you can leave you greediness behind now, because you are okay!”

Next time you think you are receiving a message, ensure the emotions are not a defense mechanism from a past event. How? It takes a little push, from you. Many people call it perseverance, but I would rather call it taking one step at a time. It is okay to have a little fear, just try not to dwell on it. Feel the emotional attachment, recognize why you have it and only you can decide whether you want to keep that feeling or rather let it go! For me I let it go and it feels terrific.

God Bless

Livelove

&

Carryon

 

Make New Memories.  

Happy Magnificent Monday!! Everyone, that works with me or has worked with me in the past, has a Monday image of me. What is that? I love, love, love, Mondays!!!! I am not sure why but I love them, always have. This Magnificent Monday is no different. I want to share a valuable lesson I learned recently and my goal is to help you create a magnificent day too!! 

Make new memories is the topic for today. Begin with a memory you already have. Hopefully, your brain is on auto pilot and you immediatly think of a great memory. However, it is up to you what memory you choose. This doesn’t take long to see, feel, and smell the past place does it? Awe…for me it’s magically delicious. Sometimes it’s a childhood memory, where I ride my bike so fast that my long, beautiful, brown hair flys in the wind, attempting to keep up with the rest of my body. I remember feeling no stress, no worries or fears. Other times its an adult memory where we have laughed so hard our cheeks hurt the next morning. Find a great memory and enjoy!!! 

Why did I entitle this make new memories because after that terrific experience take time to notice something. When sitting in a group carrying on a conversation stop and listen to what people are saying. In the past I did this with my students in a visualization setting. The funny part is I found if the students didn’t have a good memory or any memory of a particular message then the experiment didn’t work. 

For example: I love to travel and any kind of waterway is normally my destination. Therefore, when we were prepping for a new Science topic I would begin with a visualization, for them to see, feel, or touch in their mind, about the ocean or a mountain I have hiked, anything to help set the lesson into action. However, what I found is if they didn’t have a connection I had to create it for them. (This is why so many people argue or disagree with standardized testing because the system test all children the same.) However, if they do not have a memory or a paradigm to reflect on and make new connections or memories. then it becomes a guessing game. 

So next time you are talking with a group of friends listen to the conversation and yourself talking. Do you have a memory to connect with? If not make new ones. Begin today to plan the GREAT memories. I always say on Magnificent Monday, “Good morning world!!! This is the greatest day ever, help me make great memories today and be a blessing to others!”

Never forget God Loves You No Matter What!!! God Bless!!!!!