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Don’t Quit…Change Your Vocabulary!

As I wrap up my first book for Livelove’s ‘Happy’ Curriculum, I have moments where I want to quit. The questions run through my head like a hamster trapped on an exercise wheel. Is this worth my time? What makes you think YOU can accomplish your goals? What are your objectives? Maybe I should quit and get a J-O-B. As you can tell it is mostly negative vocabulary.
During my twelve and fourteen hour days of writing, I am amazed at how I do not want to stop, Eric usually has to insist I close my computer down.

If I am super happy while writing then why do I question my ability? Last night the answer to this question and all the other ‘stinkin thinkin’ thoughts or questions came to me like a shooting star. I needed to change my vocabulary! (Zig Ziglar)

I am super excited to share this bit of information with you. This post will be different than most. Today we practice!

Instructions:

Begin to listen to what you say…
About yourself
Your dreams
Goals
Life
Health
Anytime you say something that is not positive or good, stop yourself and change ONE Vocabulary word you used…For example:
Quit—Break
Hardship–Hurdle
Struggles–Moments
Next, begin to create your ideal situation in your mind…
I am a terrific author.
I help a lot of people.
I feel amazing!

Dwell on things that create a feeling of AWE! I am okay. As you continue to divert the words that come out of your mouth and negative thoughts, you will begin to feel like a rose bud about to open her petals to create a beautiful flower.
Next, try this experiment:

Write down words that make you feel good, they do not have to be connected to your work or goals, simply write words. My list:
Pink
bubbles
love
hearts
water
writing
exploring
traveling
ocean breeze

Now read one word at a time, then close your eyes and FEEL the word. If you have a partner have them read the words aloud while you sit and feel each word.
When you have completed this activity the happy emotions will continue until YOU decide to add in resistance.

Don’t take my word for it, Try it!

It doesn’t always take an entire self-help book to reroute the trajectory of your life, sometimes you only need to change your vocabulary!

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Carryon

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I did it!!! I practiced what I preached!!!! 

I know how you feel!!! When you curl up to read my blog, sometimes the emotions are overwhelming!! Because our innate nature is to be happy!! Therefore, when we are attempting to find those ‘feel good’ emotions, yet we are continuing to tell the same old stories; we stop the feel good vibrations. The spectacular events that are right there, outside of our bubble, don’t disappear, but rather they stay suspended outside of you, until you are ready to accept and receive.

Here is my example. Picture this: I do Physical therapy and mental, spiritual, and emotional healing/therapy EVERYDAY, in the pool. However, last week I found myself alone, in the pool at our apartment. Yes, I should have been ecstatic!!! However, I cried and cried. (You see I love myself, but I love to be with people a great deal too). Anyways, do not focus on the sad! 

Living the life I lead today is amazing!!! Therefore, after last Thursday I decided to attend water aerobics at 930 this Thursday. I was so excited, I walked up and there were 5 women and two men over 65. Of course that didn’t bother me, but they were dying to know more!!! I could feel each of them watching me walk into the pool. One step then the next!! They all introduced themselves and ask questions. I felt extremely welcomed.

Ready? Here is the lesson or example…when they asked me about my life or why I was there, I said nothing about my leg. Ohhhh they wanted to know. (If they would have asked, I think I would have responded with, oh I was just privileged to have been given a second chance to live in a happy state, until my trip is over). I have no idea what I would have said, I can only tell you what happened. 

I described how wonderful my children, family, friends, river farm and of course my amazing husband are. I continued by telling them how grateful I was to have met each of them and politely excused myself. 

I could feel their eyes carefully watch as I crawled out of the swimming pool. I proudly walked off and smiled. As I approached the apartment, I began to laugh hysterically, to myself. I thought wow that was fun!!! 

Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t easy, at first. However, it has to be done. You see, everyone receives a great deal of attention if they have a story to tell, that others can sympathize or empathize with. But in return you will receive more of that energy. Start telling your good feeling story. It’s not lieing, it’s just changing focus. Becuase everyone has a good story and a bad story. 

Even the lowest you can get if you begin right now, wandering thru the place you are and saying I am grateful for and keep saying it over and over. If you are homeless even then, you can begin to change your life. Try it. Practice it! I am grateful for YOU! READING THIS MESSAGE!

How do you introduce yourself? Hello I am ______. They respond with oh what do you do? Instead of telling them where you work (which doesn’t define you) say I live life to be happy. Then ask would you like to come along this journey? If they choose yes then hurray if not oh well life is good anyways! 

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You are loved and worthy! 

Strippers? 

I titled this writing for a very specific reason. I have been studying marketing strategies for my new business and my discoveries have been astonishing. As I have said before, good advertising and marketing experts are fearless. I unfortunately did not receive this particular talent. I am bubbly and great at one on one sells, if and only if someone seeks me out. Which poses a dilemma for my company. Therefore, I have spent a multitude of hours searching, observing and studying people’s reactions to post, how many likes, comments ect.

I have watched politics on a federal, state and even a county level become illuminated on social media. I have observed how the news grabs our attention and place mostly fear into our paradigms. (They also replay the same old horrific stories over and over again.) However, this last topic really freaked me out, how much attention it received. Strippers Celebrate by Counting Their trashbags full of Money! 

Why did this freak me out? Honestly, it wasn’t the post, my Ashby posted, it was the OVER 300 OR MORE responses. I was tagged in it and finally watched it. I thought well they are happy and that’s a good thing. Then as I began to respond to my daughter in a funny way, (because if you know her she is not an advocate for taking off her clothes in front of men, to please them. She could do it, because she is beautiful, but one bikini contest and she was like nope nope nope not for me). 

What happened next is where I became freaked out. She had 100s of comments. Each time I attempted to type a comment it would say more comments are loading. I read maybe three or four. Those, in particular, ranged from a positive shout out to say hell yea you go ladies to a lengthy response of how bad this profession is or these women are ect…

Now I am not disputing anyone’s comment and nor did I read who posted what. However, I am wondering about the marketing strategy here. Wonderful people places and events are presented or posted each day yet strippers ‘Being Happy’ caught a wide variety of peoples attention, and not very many supportive ones. 

I do have a quick story to share with you to take up for my friends, who chose their career path that was unconventional. I was 18 years old working at a little restaurant in Po Folks. A group of ladies came in at least ten of them. They were laughing and chit chatting amongst each other. None of the other waitress wanted to wait on them, so I said I would take them. What happened next was FABULOUS! They stayed an hour past my shift, ate and were  simply a blast to wait on. Their entire bill was probably 120 dollars (Po FolKS was not known for their expensive meals just good home cooked food and sweet tea.) When they left we all hugged and they assured me they would be back and only ask for me! Guess what? When I went home that day, I realized the hour in a half was well worth the extra time. Above and beyond the other tips, those ladies tipped me 150 dollars! Guess what? They were strippers!!! Did I know that at first? No! I just treated them like anyone else. Were they beneath me? No just a group of women who were comfortable with themselves and they laughed more than any other customers I had ever had. 

I told you that story to end with this message!!! I don’t care what you choose to be when you grow up. However, be careful what you choose to read or respond to. Before you click on a post or read an article think how it is going to directly affect your thoughts and attention. The goal is to be happy, but if you only feel the need to read about negative or horrific stories, then that is what you will have to talk about. Before you know it you will be living in that judgmental, concerned with others, hateful, critical life. Is that a fun frequency? Not for me.

As for marketing I guess I will just need to keep sending out positive vibes. As for those people who  continue to desire a better life they will seek me out. 

Your real message here is…BE HAPPY WITH YOU! if you don’t like where you are at this point change it. Don’t pass judgement on others, just find your laughter and the rest will take care of itself.

God loves you no matter what!! Yes, even strippers!!! God Bless You and have a great day!!! 

 

Sunday thoughts…

If you have been reading my blog you will know I am on a magnificent journey and I want to share it with you…so come along and enjoy with me! 

As I laid in bed this morning I continually received a message to write about the down moments or the not so happy thoughts. Which I don’t like to do very much. However, it is a portion of life we all deal with just some more than others, so here it goes. 

4:00 A.M. eyes pop open brain is racing, get up go to the restroom and go back to bed. Sound familiar? Only to close your eyes tightly and beg to go back to sleep! That’s what happened to me this morning. I would toss and turn, cover up only to strip off the blankets slowly almost like a form of bedtime excercise. Finally, I laid as still as possible to keep from waking up my husband. BAM! then it began! 

What began? You ask? The flood! A flooding of thoughts, emotions, past scenarios, negative events, sadness, hopelessness, fear, anxiety, criticism the list could continue. As I write about it my chest feels heavy, my palms become sweaty, my neck hurts. I search my paradigm (past people, places, events that make up me) for a good connection, feeling or frequency. Anything to counteract this moment or feeling. Why did I have this moment? If things are so wonderful and my life is magnificent, why would I spend the most important time of my day feeling yuk? 

To be quite honest it is part of life!! I am sure at this moment you are saying, “Thanks Teena! I already knew life sucked why did you need to remind me?” 

Those moments are inevitable to life because it’s a frequency. What goes up must come down. Meaning everyone will have moments of struggle or what I like to call trough of the frequency. The one big difference is how long you stay in that state. Bare with me this ending is phenomenal! 

Let me give you an example: after a beautiful vacation you come back refreshed and ready to go. Then Monday morning comes and you don’t feel quite so inspired that is normal. If you love your career and life this low feeling or sadness will pass quickly it’s just you were so happy and relaxed for that amount of time the routine is difficult get back. However, in a few short minutes (if you are happy) those feelings quickly flee. 

Notice I continually said if you are happy, if you are on the right path. If you are not then those sad thoughts, feelings, frustrations, which will creep in for fleeting moments for everyone, will not be fleeting, but rather they will stay! 

I know you don’t want that and I don’t like those feelings so now it’s time to reset! How? Change it, in your mind. Now at first this isn’t easy, but once you make it a habit it becomes fun. 

Step one listen for a minute to the conscious mind. For example: this morning my mind would say what if they criticize your writings/teachings, what if they don’t like you, what if you are a flop, what about an unnamed person, who I spoke with last night, took offense to the message I gave her. By the time I began playing my game to erase these thoughts I could have cried. I was sad, worried, frustrated and feeling quite disgusting/ fearful. 

Now it’s time to come back! If your mind says what if? Say in your mind well what if and fill in the blank. Example: what if you never get on Jimmy Falon? My mind says: What if I do and I hug him, all the Roots Band, his announcer (can’t think of his name) and blow big kisses out to crowd!! 

Okay I know that was my come back, but it was fun and I know you could see it. I have a big smile on my face from just writing it. But you get the idea. I usually don’t even let those what If’s continue but today I did for a little longer to help you. The funny thing is my end result was amazing! 

Anything, negative your conscions mind tells you, stop it!!! Yes argue with it. Yes bad things have happened in your life, yes you have suffered, yes someone has said mean things to you, but do you enjoy that feeling or what I call is a replay, like watching a rerun over and over again, thinking that it’s being filmed the same way each time. Create the feeling of joy, argue until it becomes fun, don’t fight just reset! Idc what it is you want to have, do, or be!! You can have it! It’s not that I don’t live ‘real’ life I live just like everyone else, I feel those emotions in the valley, the only difference is my life is on such a high frequency that I choose to only be in the valley for short moments, to remember how awesome life really is! 

Take time today to stop the negative thoughts, experience them but then shut them down. Talk to yourself, create the image you desire! God Bless and never forget you are a gift! 

If you know of someone struggling….

Hello let me introduce myself my name is love, pink, joyful, laughter, fun, accepting, free-spirited, sensual, kind, caring, understanding, insightful, focused, millionaire, educator, magnificent, dynamic, sparkly, diamond lover, debater, healthy, swimmer, who loves others and wants them to come along and take this ‘HAPPY’ adventure with me! My name is Teena Drake, my game is living life as HAPPY as possible.

Wow! Brag much Teena? Nope I don’t have to brag this is how people have described me and the adjectives I have chosen to identify my life with. You see my entire life has been altered for the better of me, but the most exciting part is for the betterment of you too!

You might be puzzled, but allow me to take a couple of pieces of this puzzle and show you a glimpse of the possibilities. I am so excited right now I can barely type! I keep walking away saying don’t do this! It’s to scary to tell the world what you have learned! But if I keep it a secret well I can’t keep this feeling or life! Which puts me in a pickle! Therefore, I am busting out!!!! So if you are ready to see who you are and find that ‘HAPPY’ place you have been longing for follow me on this adventure…as I reveal a lifetime of learning, but let’s begin with what I have learned since December 8th, 2016. The event, the blessing, that had to happen for me to have received such a wonderful gift for the world – that can seem gloomy and sad. It’s a gift full of joy, happiness, adventure or just a hike in solitude the world is a beautiful place as long as you are happy!

First Assignment:  1, Write your name  2. Write all the adjectives or activities, that make up you (NOT OTHER PEOPLE) 3. Now ask by text or email so they can think about it, how some of your friends, family members, or acquaintances would describe you. (The third step came from Jack Cannefield’s writing). 4. Read all of them and delete any you do not like and own the ones you love. 5. Anything you would like to share about this first step to ‘Being’ ‘Happy’ tag me so I can read it and share! I look forward to reading about the amazing YOU!

When I began this process I was unsure how other people would describe me, but some of the things I said about myself were not nice. If you come up with a similar scenario and you are saying negative things about yourself, even if you won’t write it you are thinking it continuously, STOP! I know it’s not that easy trust me, but I promise I can help you. Mmmm I take that back I can’t help you, but I can provide you with the tools to help yourself.

I hope you have a beautiful weekend and remember God Loves You No Matter What!

Please! Please!Please, Share all of my post if you are struggling or know of someone else struggling with this game of ‘Life!’ Why? You ask? Because I have been given a gift that if, I want to keep, I must share it with as many people possible. Therefore, I am asking that you tell your friends and family to follow me on WordPress, Facebook-Teena Drake, Twitter-Livelove pinkologist@TeenaDrake, Instagram- live_love_pinkologist and you tube. When I begin to video this series I will let you know so you can subscribe to Livelove Pinkologist. (Or you can subscribe anyways). Thank you and God Bless Each of You and may you BE HAPPY!

Negative vs. Positive

Hashtag this or don’t hashtag that or what is a hashtag? In a video, social media, computer crazed, Youtube digital world you must keep up with the times to survive! I just posted three Youtube videos discussing vlogging anxiety. Many people question if this is real, but trust me it is! However, in today’s society it is essential you create videos of yourself. What? You might be saying,  “Teena, you are crazy! I am doing just fine and I don’t have a vlogg or any type of video of myself.”

Negative or positive! It is the truth!!!! I am a new author and motivational speaker. My vision is to help people live with happy, loving, kind, caring relationships. However, it is essential for my new career to have videos or vlogs of me speaking, educating, or discussing my book. You might say oh well that’s okay for you, but that doesn’t mean I need a video! NOT TRUE!!!!

I have researched new careers for a multitude of people through my life coaching program and guess what not one, not even some health care facilities said oh just send me your resume and I will call you! Yes, the first step to applying is a good resume, but a video of yourself provides you with a better opportunity, to be first on the list, for an interview.

When speaking with top companies who are hiring professionals they said and I quote, “We have someone that looks at the prospect employee’s social media, videos, blog, vlog, anything we can to observe how he/she will fit in and positively contribute to our company.”

What is vlogging anxiety? It is when you will do ANYTHING to keep from posting a video. Not that you do not have important information to share, but you fear what people will say or you are not good enough. I mean there are entire shows poking fun at videos or the people in the videos. Therefore, this anxiety is real. Many of my friends do not believe I have anxiety of videoing myself. However, I Do!!!!!! I will create a video, watch it, critique my country accent or my hair, weight, what I say how I act. It can be really bad sometimes. But the SHOW MUST GO ON!!!!!!!

After years of training, classes, teaching and now a published author; I have found this videoing yourself to be essential and a vital key to success. Therefore, I utilize my three easy steps everyday. My plan is to overcome my fears and deplete the effects of the anxiety. I can literally speak and motivate or what I call PUMP YOU UP, to an audience of thousands of people. I have taken teams to the next level just by being high energy and motivational. It is who I am!!!! I love to take you where you are and lift you to where you want to be. HOWEVER, tell me to do the same on a video and well truthfully I freeze.

Three steps are: 1. Look for a topic. It can be a trending topic or something you are extremely passionate about. Research and write a small script of what you want to be the strong point of your video. 2. Watch other vloggers. Now with Facebook doing videos as well this is easy to do. Watch them and record yourself, watch you. Now, understand you will find a million reasons you should not create a video. However, you must just do it! NO you should not wait to lose that twenty pounds or thirty. If you have a zit, cover it. You can not change your entire appearance some things are just a part of you. For example: I poke fun at myself every video, but then I realize that is me and its all I have. 3. Final step…Post, Post, Post Post. Yes, if you suffer from video anxiety this can be the worst step or at least the most difficult. However, it is probably the only way to be successful at vlogging or landing your dream job.

Listen, I am not telling you this is easy. I am letting you know that you can do it! If I can  you can! I follow these steps every time I post. In my last (yesterday 11-17-16) video I am fighting posting in the worst way. However, I knew if it didn’t get posted I would delete it and not continue helping others who suffer from the same problem. I truly do follow these steps each time. My goal is to post everyday. Sometimes it is easier if I create it walk away then post late at night. Just remember video blogging or vlogging anxiety is real! But you can and will either overcome or fight through it. I believe in you, so get out there and just do it! Take the plunge you have a story to tell.

Written by: Teena Drake

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