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Are you a HLBF or a WLBF?

With a world full of accronyms & labels we can create an entirely new language. And it is FUN!

After analyzing these ‘accronyms’ I decided to have a little fun. So I sent my husband a ‘Sweet Nothings’ text. It was short and to the point. “My darling, beautiful, fabulous, wonderful husband… I Love you. And I thank you for being my everything. Sticking with me through thick and thin. I guess that makes you my HLBF.”

It was about two hours later when I receive a text like this, “WTF are you talking about? Who or what is a HLBF? IDK what that is, but I love you too & hope you have a good day.”

I am now roflmao.”What is a HLBF?” He asked.

I quickly ceased texting and giggled. He text me again, “Hello? Are you okay?”

No response!

Once, I responded he sent a simple, “LMAO!’

At this point I have found great humor in making these up. Almost as awesome as when I learned how to CREATE GIFs!

Live Love & Carry On

My first GIF!

HLBF stands for Husband, Lover, Best, Friend. Replace the H with a W and you have a new acronym to share. Or drop the front label & it becomes LBF.

W.O.W. with out words!

Psssssst…guess what? You do not have to create an acronym or label to be/ receive love. However, it does create a great deal of fun.

MOST IMPORTANTLY…find all their ‘labels’ or ‘titles’ and highlight the ones you 💖 most.

For example, you are AWTF!

After all it’s more fun to find all the good in others. Rather than discussing how bad, mad, & sad they are. Why not erase those emotions and instead, illuminate those you are in Amazement, Wonderment, Excitment… AWE of!

It’s the simple Acronyms in life that could reboot our relationships, as well as ourselves.

Tell your loved one how awesome they are or amazing.

You are amazing!

Thank you for sharing & caring by reading and sharing with others.

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Carry On!

Written by: Teena Drake

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Parents tell me how awesome your child is…

Your children conform to your expectations! As I spend hour after hour working with children of all walks of life and across the globe, I have learned, probably the MOST IMPORTANT, parenting skill…that ALL PARENTS NEED TO KNOW!

Are you ready for this?

The words that come out of your mouth as a parent, form and transform YOUR CHILDREN!

I realize this seems obvious and simplistic, especially when discussing as complex of a role as, PARENTING!However, my research is complete and it is 100 percent true!

For example:

Scenario 1: I had not met this young man before. His father & my honey have worked together for many years, since the boy was 2 yrs. old.

But all I ever heard was how much he bragged on his baby boy. All throughout the years I would here how ‘good’ he was. How talented, amazing and terrific.

Never once did I hear or even imagine… he had any disabilities OR was abandoned by his mother…who actually told him once, “The drugs are better than being a mommy to you!” (This was told to me as an example of the positivity, one parent, can utilize and redirect their child’s life).

Thirteen years later, I had the privilege to meet Nikolas, for the first time. You, as the reader of this post, now know as much as I knew about Nik, until this past summer.

As the gangly, long hair (Peter Frampton style), sweet, soft spoken and might I add, DYNAMIC, young man approached the swimming pool deck he introduced himself.

At that moment my mom & I were ecstatic to meet him. We did the regular introductions and he began a conversation about swimming. Nothing out of the ordinary.

Then I mentioned (off handed) I am so excited to finally meet the awesome Nikolas, I have heard about for so long.

He replied with, “Thank you! Everywhere we go someone tells me how my dad brags on me. He is one amazing dad!”

He has lived in several states and told us of all the people he had met. And yes they all told him the same thing.

Let me ask you something? If someone were to repeat what or how you describe your kids…what would they say? How would they describe/repeat YOUR WORDS?

I knew this young man had some difficult challenges throughout his life, but I promise his dad had genuinely talked his son up soooo much that those possible ‘issues’ didn’t even appear.

I never even questioned his learning difficulties nor thought of them. I only included the two known hurdles that this young man had, to demonstrate how influential his dad’s description was…EVEN WHEN THEY WERE SEPERATED for work.

You see…we already know our downfalls, even as children. So why not illuminate the good in our children & ourselves? And watch the GOODNESS shine?

Parents! Perfection is impossible. Even in you!

Begin at this very moment to write all the GOOD about your child. Leave out the other and watch the GOODNESS GROW LIKE A BOUNTIFUL GARDEN!

This works with adult children as well! It almost seems as though by highlighting their terrific qualities the irritating ones disappear. Same with yourself!

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Everyone has down times, our mission is to ensure you know that no matter what…This Too Shall Pass & We urge you to…

Livelove

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Carry On

Written by: Teena Drake

Cat Litter & Relationships

How can cat litter and relationships be compared? If you are having trouble in your relationship, at this time, you do not want to miss this message.

Is your partner driving you crazy? Do you wonder why you even try? One thing is for certain if you are struggling…You are living in the Cat Litter Box with generic litter. You know the kind that does not cover up any of the smell and generic toilet paper is more absorbent than this bunch of rocks, you attempted to save a dollar bill on. (Pause…Take a big whiff, inhale, and smell the nasty litter you are using that is ineffective).

Living in the cat litter box with your partner is disgusting. It means that you take a poo, half way cover it up, allow them to do the same, and your smelly dance is never-ending. 

For example: If you are struggling in your relationship say out loud ‘why’ you feel the way you do.

Did you hear your fears from the past come out? Do you realize most of what you said is no different from cat poo in the box? It happens, it will stay there until it is cleaned up, and it smells to high heaven, until it is bagged and disposed of.

Most arguments involve words like: should, could, would, wish, why did you, what if (which is asked due to their or your paradigm= past), how could you and the past continues to take over the future. 

“You are living in the past or holding your significant other to yesterday. Yet expecting them to not return the favor.”

That’s just like standing in a cat litter box taking a poop, your partner doing the same, although it is covered, you keep digging it up, and smelling the disgusting aroma. 

When in reality once the poop is there the choices are inevitable 1. Enjoy the aroma. Or 2. Clean it out by bagging it, tying the top to seal it and disposing of the evidence.

Does this mean it never happened? Come on we all know sh*t happens. But do we want to continue to dig it back up? Is a better question. 

Are you and your partner living in the cat litter together? Worse yet, have you decided to be cheap and using the kind that never gets rid of the smell? 

Recognize what you are doing, decide what or how the significant other could fix your emotions (not that they can, this is only to recognize why you are feeling so irritable with them), and make a good decision for you both.

It is not about the solution, it is about getting out of the disgusting cat liter box!

My greatest hope is you get a little laugh and a lot of relief. You are awesome and worthy of feeling good! 

Sending you LOTS of LOVE!

God loves you.

Living in the past can always be compared to poo. The past happens, but do you want to continue to live then? When you can decide today to feel and smell better? 

Livelove.teena@gmail.com a message for you if you need it. 

Thank you for reading.

As always:

Livelove

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Carry On!

Written by: Teena Drake

If I DIED TODAY, What would you say?

If I died today what would you say? 

Would you be so Cliche as to ramble on about the would should and coulds?

Or would you remember all my mistakes and blunders?

If I died today what would you say?

Would you be so Romantic as to buy me flowers, kiss my head and only be saddened due to the lack of hugging, kissing and reminiscing?

Or would you remember all my outburst of laughter that rolls like the thunder?

As of yet, I have not died today! But if I am the other half of you, I ask, “If I died today, what would you say? I simply, WONDER…”

Please always know that YOU ARE LOVED! I don’t know who needed this today, but I have a great deal of ‘work’ related items to complete today and this WOULD NOT STOP, until I shared with you!

Therefore, to whomever you are, I send you great love. I send you my gift. My only pay, I request, is for you to embrace and pass it on!

Livelove

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Carry On

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A Bit Sentimental Today! 3 hrs. @ Gym…

You won’t believe what I did today! Since 7, yes seven in the morning I have been at the gym!! I know that sounds crazy, but I literally spent three hours there. AND…when I left I thought to myself, if I wasn’t so darn hungry, I would not be leaving.

Eric and I realize, we are typical Americans, who set crazy New Year’s Resolutions and yes, you guessed it, decided to join a Fitness Gym! However, I truly don’t think that was Eric’s ‘true’ thought about this ordeal. He says we need to get in shape, because he quit smoking this year and you know what that does to your body. (I know it is terrific when anyone quits smoking, but it isn’t the easiest when trying to maintain your younger figure LOL).

However, my belief is he wanted ME to get back into the gym. NO! Ladies do not get offened thinking he is insulting me, REMEMBER who the writer is! (If you don’t know me, here is a little clue, I am one of those…who has a fabulous husband and wonderful life and I am super grateful!) Anywhoo, I do believe Eric, secretly realized I couldn’t maintain a lifestyle of eating, watching television and/or attending a nightly pub for a few drinks day in and day out. Don’t get me wrong, I love being with him so much, that I will attempt to lead whatever his lifestyle may be, but I fear it was wearing on me.

He started talking about looking into a gym shortly after our trip to Hawaii. I blew it off and didn’t think much about it. During our stay on the farm I didn’t have one spare moment.  I was either running to Louisville to see Ashby, meeting with friends, hanging out with mom or Nick, meeting about Livelove  or working with Kentuckiana News. He even mentioned how happy and busy I was. Then we came out here, had a lovely evening with our friends the Tovey’s and Lebrannos. The next, first week of 2018, I was kind of sad. Not seriously depressed or anything, just a little sad. Wanted to stay in bed, didn’t even feel like writing! I just felt blah. He took me out to see some of our friends at the bar. That was fun, but I continued to feel like something was missing.

Friday morning, Eric wakes me up and says, “Hey, we are being a guest at Lifetime Sunday. Okay?”

I rolled over and rubbed my eyes, “Okay? You sure you want to do this?”

Of course he blew it off and was rambling something as he left like, “Of course, I have always wanted to walk into a gigantic gym and feel wonderful…blah, blah, blah.”

Even when Sunday came, I must admit I tried to back out of it! I was like naaa, we don’t have to do this. Although I was not saying it outloud, Eric heard me, somehow. I know he heard what I was thinking because he said, “Oh, no! You aren’t backing out, we are going and at least look at it.”

I reluctantly, agreed. At first, I felt like a nobody, walking into a gym and thinking, “Everyone is going to laugh at me or stare at me.”

I remembered my years as an aerobics and dance instructor. Anytime, I saw someone coming in new, I would quickly approach them to ensure they felt important. I never let a new person come into the gym without me introducing myself and making them feel welcome. Truthfully, many of the country clubs or fitness clubs I worked at, did not care about customer service. They almost had a snobbish feeling about them. That is probably why I was super sensitive towards the new people.

However, this trip was NICE! It was different for me to have Eric with me. I told him I couldn’t think of a time we had ever been in a gym together. He said, “That’s because I have never been in one. I worked out at football in our fitness room, but nothing like this.”

After I paused a minute, I realized he was correct. The reason I couldn’t remember was because he hadn’t come with me. I was amazed. I allowed him to do most of the talking, question asking. At the end he said, “Yes, we will join today.”

If you can imagine my face. I think my jaw dropped to the floor. I sat there and looked at this man, whom I have adored for many years, we have been best friends forever and I taught fitness classes, gosh, for at least fifteen years of our marriage, and I was speechless. As the customer service rep went out of his office, I continued to stare at him in almost a panic! LMAO. Then I said, in a sweet, calm, extremely quiet voice, “Are you sure?”

He went on to explain why he made his decision and how it was at a low price for the ‘New Year’s People’ like us. He also continually said, “Hey and there are no annual fees or contracts. So, if I get too busy, I can drop anytime I want.”

I began to lighten up. He was correct, we were in need of some health changes, to keep up with all the fun activities we want to do. We set up appointments and were on our way. It was fun! We began meal planning, as well as prepping, immediatly. He began working out last night. Yes, he whinned a little bit, but it was a cute whine. Truthfully, he liked it. I am not sure it is as far as he ‘loved’ it, but he seemed to be okay.

THEN TODAY HAPPENED! Oh my, let me tell you my friends, I am on wave nine! (Instead of clouds, I love waves, so I am on wave nine). After reading this portion of my post, you will see why I am pretty sure, WE joined the gym.

I arrived at 6:45 AM. Completed the assessment. Then thought, hey, I could go do some physical therapy, in the pool. As I approached the lap pool, I will admit, I felt a little bit uncomfortable. I kept my towle wrapped around me, sat on the edge, and slid my toes in the 88 degree lane, filled with water. The water felt so good. I began with a few, easy laps. Stretching my arms out as far in front of me as they would go, then thrusted my legs behind me to propel me a little further. I could almost feel each water molecule, spinning as my body displaced them, creating a wonderful feeling of freedom. No restraints, no worries about falling, my leg didn’t ache nor did I feel as though it needed protection.

An hour went by and I was almost ready to go when one of the sweetest ladies approached me and said, “Would you like to join us for water aerobics?”

She introduced herself and I replied with, “YES, yes I would like to join.”

Before, I knew it I had been at the gym for three hours. I felt and feel TERRIFIC! I met several people and we plan to meet up once again, tomorrow.

Now, you see why, I have my conspiracy? My honey, does want to improve his flexibility. He does have a multitude of goals, but I think he had other motives, as well. While I was writing this, he called and asked me all about today. I know I sounded like a little kid with my, and thens, or next. I described my entire morning with out taking a breath.

Why did I feel compelled to share this with you? It is actually for both you and me, this time. As our company evolves and we continue to look for more and more techniques to help you find your happiness, I feel that this new/old lifestyle will attract more greatness for us to share. As I learn I will continue to share with you.

The greatest thing I learned today. Surround yourself with people who want to improve, and the desire will become contagious! When greatness is all around you, you will want to be great too.

I am a bit sentimental today, but it is in a good way. I am grateful for my life, my husband, my children, mother, entire family, friends, my talents, gifts and more, than I could ever list, without boring you to tears.

You are already GREAT! Just allow yourself to be.

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Carryon

 

Are you just complaining or is it time to change ?

As I listen to couples belt out what he or she did. I often wonder if I could record their conversation, take him or her out to lunch and tell them to listen closely. Next, I would say, “This is a test! You are no longer allowed to return home. Instead, I have arranged for you to stay at the Going Nowhere, motel off of third and main. Your instructions are quite clear. You may continue to go to work, but you may not return to your home, where your significant other resides. You may not contact them, nor question what is going on.”

I would then provide them with the recording of the awful things they said to or about their spouse/loved one. It would be up to the two of them if they join again or part for good. However, I often ponder, as I listen to people complain, if they simply don’t have enough in their lives to say something nice or if they truly hate the one they pretend to love.

Don’t you wonder? Wonder about the people you choose to have in your life. Those that sometimes you so vicariously discard, mistreat or take advantage of, if they were not in your life, how would you feel? If at the moment of your harsh words, you were told, “Okay, you can’t find any good in them, then move on.”

How would you feel? I don’t know about you, but I choose not to have people in my life that can’t say, be or feel nice about me.

When my hubby walks through that door my eyes light up! My world stops and I immediately hug him around the neck. And Slap a big sloppy kiss on him!

This writing is not to scold you. But it is to remind you…think before you speak, act and allow FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real, Jack Cannefield),  to ruin something beautiful. Remember, what you say sends that vibration. Whether they know it or not. Also try not to forget, how you would feel if they were gone? How would you feel then?

Last little Love tip of the day: If you close your eyes and feel better without that person in your life, it is time to make some changes. Life is meant to be filled with LOVE! You can only be treated as good as you feel about you. If you are feeling less than, you are probably being critical, not very nice and mean. If you are receiving some hateful, unpleasant emotions from someone, look in the mirror and ensure it is not how you are feeling about yourself.

Written by: Momma Teena

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Carryon

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Be Careful! What You Ask for or don’t you will get it either way…

20171113_1711251607508436.jpgThe funniest thing happened to me today! Totally unexpected! Before Eric left for work he was kind of sad and so was I! We had been together so much lately, we didn’t want to be separated for long periods of time and that long drive was not near as much fun, alone. As soon as the garage door shut, I opened my computer. As I searched for flights home, I became quickly discouraged. Three and four hundred dollars, ONE WAY!

I closed my computer and went on packing the car. I shrugged my shoulders and thought that was silly. As I began to pour my first cup of coffee, I said to myself, “I seriously would wait to go home, if I could ride with my honey, but my ticket would have to be between one hundred and twenty, no more than 150.”

As I began to rest a moment before leaving, I decided to open my computer and look up some black Friday sales. After being logged in about five minutes, a message showed up stating, “Kentucky to Kansas one fifty-five.”

I will admit, at first the twilight zone began to play, in my head. I thought about all the new marketing techniques, but then my attention was quickly diverted back to more information on this flight. As I read it, I text mom to ask her opinion, text Eric and danced around in front of the computer like a butterfly. Oh, what do I do? I felt a little bit anxious. I know I don’t need to spend the money. I read detail for detail again! Then it happened! I received yet another incentive taking it down below one hundred dollars! My excitement and freakiness were growing. I hadn’t heard from mom or Eric, tried to call Nick to ensure he wouldn’t be mad at me, no answer. Finally, I pushed that tiny little button to purchase. Then itinerary wouldn’t show until I selected the day. It was bizarre! It turns out everyone was fine with my decision. No one was upset and I was able to ride home with Eric.

However, this situation created a unique thought process. I continually study the law of attraction, the teachings of a wide variety of religions and how it all relates to each of us. This one event is among many. Ask and it shall be given. What about you? Haven’t you had an experience similar to this one?

The reason for the title? Because isn’t it true? Have you ever said, “I want? Or I fear? Or whatever you have said, you watched it come to fruition. Not necessarily about someone else, but you,

As I scribed story after story about my husband’s beautiful family, it was difficult to stay on task. Not because they were dull, but due to the fact everything they spoke came to fruition. “We are going to get married. We are moving out of this trailer, into a new home. We are moving to the country. We are moving to Hawaii!”

(Just to provide you with a small synopsis so you can follow along.)

But truly these two teenagers were destined for failure if they based their future on the past. They didn’t come from a great deal of money and they were young and dumb.

I can add to their list from above, ten times or more. They may have had some rough times, but both of them would refer back to, “How good they had it and how fabulous their lives are now.”

They spoke it and it evolved. I am not so powerful as to snap my fingers or say abracadabra, however, it is true- speak it and speak it enough and it will appear.

I know I seem to say it over and over again, I can’t help it, “Live life, ask for what you want, enjoy each other and Be Happy!!!!”

 

God Bless

 

Livelove

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Carryon