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If I DIED TODAY, What would you say?

If I died today what would you say? 

Would you be so Cliche as to ramble on about the would should and coulds?

Or would you remember all my mistakes and blunders?

If I died today what would you say?

Would you be so Romantic as to buy me flowers, kiss my head and only be saddened due to the lack of hugging, kissing and reminiscing?

Or would you remember all my outburst of laughter that rolls like the thunder?

As of yet, I have not died today! But if I am the other half of you, I ask, “If I died today, what would you say? I simply, WONDER…”

Please always know that YOU ARE LOVED! I don’t know who needed this today, but I have a great deal of ‘work’ related items to complete today and this WOULD NOT STOP, until I shared with you!

Therefore, to whomever you are, I send you great love. I send you my gift. My only pay, I request, is for you to embrace and pass it on!

Livelove

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Carry On

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A Bit Sentimental Today! 3 hrs. @ Gym…

You won’t believe what I did today! Since 7, yes seven in the morning I have been at the gym!! I know that sounds crazy, but I literally spent three hours there. AND…when I left I thought to myself, if I wasn’t so darn hungry, I would not be leaving.

Eric and I realize, we are typical Americans, who set crazy New Year’s Resolutions and yes, you guessed it, decided to join a Fitness Gym! However, I truly don’t think that was Eric’s ‘true’ thought about this ordeal. He says we need to get in shape, because he quit smoking this year and you know what that does to your body. (I know it is terrific when anyone quits smoking, but it isn’t the easiest when trying to maintain your younger figure LOL).

However, my belief is he wanted ME to get back into the gym. NO! Ladies do not get offened thinking he is insulting me, REMEMBER who the writer is! (If you don’t know me, here is a little clue, I am one of those…who has a fabulous husband and wonderful life and I am super grateful!) Anywhoo, I do believe Eric, secretly realized I couldn’t maintain a lifestyle of eating, watching television and/or attending a nightly pub for a few drinks day in and day out. Don’t get me wrong, I love being with him so much, that I will attempt to lead whatever his lifestyle may be, but I fear it was wearing on me.

He started talking about looking into a gym shortly after our trip to Hawaii. I blew it off and didn’t think much about it. During our stay on the farm I didn’t have one spare moment.  I was either running to Louisville to see Ashby, meeting with friends, hanging out with mom or Nick, meeting about Livelove  or working with Kentuckiana News. He even mentioned how happy and busy I was. Then we came out here, had a lovely evening with our friends the Tovey’s and Lebrannos. The next, first week of 2018, I was kind of sad. Not seriously depressed or anything, just a little sad. Wanted to stay in bed, didn’t even feel like writing! I just felt blah. He took me out to see some of our friends at the bar. That was fun, but I continued to feel like something was missing.

Friday morning, Eric wakes me up and says, “Hey, we are being a guest at Lifetime Sunday. Okay?”

I rolled over and rubbed my eyes, “Okay? You sure you want to do this?”

Of course he blew it off and was rambling something as he left like, “Of course, I have always wanted to walk into a gigantic gym and feel wonderful…blah, blah, blah.”

Even when Sunday came, I must admit I tried to back out of it! I was like naaa, we don’t have to do this. Although I was not saying it outloud, Eric heard me, somehow. I know he heard what I was thinking because he said, “Oh, no! You aren’t backing out, we are going and at least look at it.”

I reluctantly, agreed. At first, I felt like a nobody, walking into a gym and thinking, “Everyone is going to laugh at me or stare at me.”

I remembered my years as an aerobics and dance instructor. Anytime, I saw someone coming in new, I would quickly approach them to ensure they felt important. I never let a new person come into the gym without me introducing myself and making them feel welcome. Truthfully, many of the country clubs or fitness clubs I worked at, did not care about customer service. They almost had a snobbish feeling about them. That is probably why I was super sensitive towards the new people.

However, this trip was NICE! It was different for me to have Eric with me. I told him I couldn’t think of a time we had ever been in a gym together. He said, “That’s because I have never been in one. I worked out at football in our fitness room, but nothing like this.”

After I paused a minute, I realized he was correct. The reason I couldn’t remember was because he hadn’t come with me. I was amazed. I allowed him to do most of the talking, question asking. At the end he said, “Yes, we will join today.”

If you can imagine my face. I think my jaw dropped to the floor. I sat there and looked at this man, whom I have adored for many years, we have been best friends forever and I taught fitness classes, gosh, for at least fifteen years of our marriage, and I was speechless. As the customer service rep went out of his office, I continued to stare at him in almost a panic! LMAO. Then I said, in a sweet, calm, extremely quiet voice, “Are you sure?”

He went on to explain why he made his decision and how it was at a low price for the ‘New Year’s People’ like us. He also continually said, “Hey and there are no annual fees or contracts. So, if I get too busy, I can drop anytime I want.”

I began to lighten up. He was correct, we were in need of some health changes, to keep up with all the fun activities we want to do. We set up appointments and were on our way. It was fun! We began meal planning, as well as prepping, immediatly. He began working out last night. Yes, he whinned a little bit, but it was a cute whine. Truthfully, he liked it. I am not sure it is as far as he ‘loved’ it, but he seemed to be okay.

THEN TODAY HAPPENED! Oh my, let me tell you my friends, I am on wave nine! (Instead of clouds, I love waves, so I am on wave nine). After reading this portion of my post, you will see why I am pretty sure, WE joined the gym.

I arrived at 6:45 AM. Completed the assessment. Then thought, hey, I could go do some physical therapy, in the pool. As I approached the lap pool, I will admit, I felt a little bit uncomfortable. I kept my towle wrapped around me, sat on the edge, and slid my toes in the 88 degree lane, filled with water. The water felt so good. I began with a few, easy laps. Stretching my arms out as far in front of me as they would go, then thrusted my legs behind me to propel me a little further. I could almost feel each water molecule, spinning as my body displaced them, creating a wonderful feeling of freedom. No restraints, no worries about falling, my leg didn’t ache nor did I feel as though it needed protection.

An hour went by and I was almost ready to go when one of the sweetest ladies approached me and said, “Would you like to join us for water aerobics?”

She introduced herself and I replied with, “YES, yes I would like to join.”

Before, I knew it I had been at the gym for three hours. I felt and feel TERRIFIC! I met several people and we plan to meet up once again, tomorrow.

Now, you see why, I have my conspiracy? My honey, does want to improve his flexibility. He does have a multitude of goals, but I think he had other motives, as well. While I was writing this, he called and asked me all about today. I know I sounded like a little kid with my, and thens, or next. I described my entire morning with out taking a breath.

Why did I feel compelled to share this with you? It is actually for both you and me, this time. As our company evolves and we continue to look for more and more techniques to help you find your happiness, I feel that this new/old lifestyle will attract more greatness for us to share. As I learn I will continue to share with you.

The greatest thing I learned today. Surround yourself with people who want to improve, and the desire will become contagious! When greatness is all around you, you will want to be great too.

I am a bit sentimental today, but it is in a good way. I am grateful for my life, my husband, my children, mother, entire family, friends, my talents, gifts and more, than I could ever list, without boring you to tears.

You are already GREAT! Just allow yourself to be.

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Carryon

 

Are you just complaining or is it time to change ?

As I listen to couples belt out what he or she did. I often wonder if I could record their conversation, take him or her out to lunch and tell them to listen closely. Next, I would say, “This is a test! You are no longer allowed to return home. Instead, I have arranged for you to stay at the Going Nowhere, motel off of third and main. Your instructions are quite clear. You may continue to go to work, but you may not return to your home, where your significant other resides. You may not contact them, nor question what is going on.”

I would then provide them with the recording of the awful things they said to or about their spouse/loved one. It would be up to the two of them if they join again or part for good. However, I often ponder, as I listen to people complain, if they simply don’t have enough in their lives to say something nice or if they truly hate the one they pretend to love.

Don’t you wonder? Wonder about the people you choose to have in your life. Those that sometimes you so vicariously discard, mistreat or take advantage of, if they were not in your life, how would you feel? If at the moment of your harsh words, you were told, “Okay, you can’t find any good in them, then move on.”

How would you feel? I don’t know about you, but I choose not to have people in my life that can’t say, be or feel nice about me.

When my hubby walks through that door my eyes light up! My world stops and I immediately hug him around the neck. And Slap a big sloppy kiss on him!

This writing is not to scold you. But it is to remind you…think before you speak, act and allow FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real, Jack Cannefield),  to ruin something beautiful. Remember, what you say sends that vibration. Whether they know it or not. Also try not to forget, how you would feel if they were gone? How would you feel then?

Last little Love tip of the day: If you close your eyes and feel better without that person in your life, it is time to make some changes. Life is meant to be filled with LOVE! You can only be treated as good as you feel about you. If you are feeling less than, you are probably being critical, not very nice and mean. If you are receiving some hateful, unpleasant emotions from someone, look in the mirror and ensure it is not how you are feeling about yourself.

Written by: Momma Teena

Livelove

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Carryon

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Be Careful! What You Ask for or don’t you will get it either way…

20171113_1711251607508436.jpgThe funniest thing happened to me today! Totally unexpected! Before Eric left for work he was kind of sad and so was I! We had been together so much lately, we didn’t want to be separated for long periods of time and that long drive was not near as much fun, alone. As soon as the garage door shut, I opened my computer. As I searched for flights home, I became quickly discouraged. Three and four hundred dollars, ONE WAY!

I closed my computer and went on packing the car. I shrugged my shoulders and thought that was silly. As I began to pour my first cup of coffee, I said to myself, “I seriously would wait to go home, if I could ride with my honey, but my ticket would have to be between one hundred and twenty, no more than 150.”

As I began to rest a moment before leaving, I decided to open my computer and look up some black Friday sales. After being logged in about five minutes, a message showed up stating, “Kentucky to Kansas one fifty-five.”

I will admit, at first the twilight zone began to play, in my head. I thought about all the new marketing techniques, but then my attention was quickly diverted back to more information on this flight. As I read it, I text mom to ask her opinion, text Eric and danced around in front of the computer like a butterfly. Oh, what do I do? I felt a little bit anxious. I know I don’t need to spend the money. I read detail for detail again! Then it happened! I received yet another incentive taking it down below one hundred dollars! My excitement and freakiness were growing. I hadn’t heard from mom or Eric, tried to call Nick to ensure he wouldn’t be mad at me, no answer. Finally, I pushed that tiny little button to purchase. Then itinerary wouldn’t show until I selected the day. It was bizarre! It turns out everyone was fine with my decision. No one was upset and I was able to ride home with Eric.

However, this situation created a unique thought process. I continually study the law of attraction, the teachings of a wide variety of religions and how it all relates to each of us. This one event is among many. Ask and it shall be given. What about you? Haven’t you had an experience similar to this one?

The reason for the title? Because isn’t it true? Have you ever said, “I want? Or I fear? Or whatever you have said, you watched it come to fruition. Not necessarily about someone else, but you,

As I scribed story after story about my husband’s beautiful family, it was difficult to stay on task. Not because they were dull, but due to the fact everything they spoke came to fruition. “We are going to get married. We are moving out of this trailer, into a new home. We are moving to the country. We are moving to Hawaii!”

(Just to provide you with a small synopsis so you can follow along.)

But truly these two teenagers were destined for failure if they based their future on the past. They didn’t come from a great deal of money and they were young and dumb.

I can add to their list from above, ten times or more. They may have had some rough times, but both of them would refer back to, “How good they had it and how fabulous their lives are now.”

They spoke it and it evolved. I am not so powerful as to snap my fingers or say abracadabra, however, it is true- speak it and speak it enough and it will appear.

I know I seem to say it over and over again, I can’t help it, “Live life, ask for what you want, enjoy each other and Be Happy!!!!”

 

God Bless

 

Livelove

&

Carryon

 

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…

Several years ago a small ‘pocket book’ was published illuminating this topic ‘Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff!’ The author gave scenarios and demonstrated how silly it is to worry and fret over the silly annoyances in life. I have each one of these books, to remind me to take life with a grain of salt. To seek the adventure life has to offer! Take the challenge allow your inner being to sing thru you.

Once you have decided and began this journey of being in the moment and making decisions based on your inner feelings; you will always want to feel this way.

However, in life we all have moments of sadness, irritation, aggravation anger that we must deal with from time to time. Recently I have found that freezing it in my mind, walking away and them come back to discuss or determine a solution is best for me. You see, in the past I would resist, argue, return ugly insults, ect. Now, I choose to not even utilize the negative vocabulary. Oh yes it creeps in at times. However, for the most part I choose a better reaction or to not react at all. It depends on the situation. 
For example: I had a conversation with a friend and she was in a bad moode. Everything was wrong in her life. Her kid was a brat, didn’t have enough money, felt trapped. Listening to her talk was almost unbearable. I just kept thinking, stay calm, listen there is a reason for this conversation. After a little while and multiple attempts to change the conversation I feared I would say something to offend her. (Remember I lost my filter at the first break in my leg lol). Anyways, she was finally called away. I love this person and she needed to vent! I allowed her to do that for a small portion of time. The only problem is I was carrying this yuk, negative, irritated weight of emotion for her. I cried for her, the pain was real. 

What do I do? Hmmmm I decided to plug in my phone and leave it home. I went to the pool and immediatly put my entire body under water. As I came up after a few seconds, I realized I had taken my own advice. I froze the situation and went to my fun happy place, water!!! (Yes, water of any kind takes me to a calm loving state). As I began my physical therapy I would search my paradigm for a good feeling thought. A vision of the future or a memory from the past. It was similar to the characters of Inside Out, running around plugging in emotions. Finally, I found a few to distract my negative emotion. 

Later, that night I called my friend and said, “I love you and I want everything to be okay for you. If I can help in any way let me know.” 

At that moment I realized I should take my own advice!!! She was laughing and continued to tell me about her little boy and how cute he was being. Her husband had cooked supper and bought flowers. She basically was a changed woman from four hours earlier. I hung up the phone, looked at my husband and said, “Yes, I have more writting material.” 

Therefore, when I refer to Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, I mean don’t sweat other people’s small stuff either. My mom would tell me in the past…you call me and compla in or discuss your relationships  then you are off in an hour back to honeymoon phase. Isn’t that true? We all have that loved one who listens no matter what. Who loves us unconditionally who listens and cares so deeply that they will take on those emotions for us. My mommy does that for me. I try now to call or go see her after the fact and explain it’s all good. I don’t always remember, but most of the time I make the effort. 

Take time to enjoy. Remember the small stuff is not worth it. I would not have changed listening to my friend, she was having a legitimate melt down for a moment. However, next time I will send her the energy I did this time, I will see her feeling better, but I will not allow myself to sweat it or hang on to it!! 

I promise parents!!!! Most of the crazy, mixed up, emotions that follow parenting just means you need to keep following and reading my blogg. Because you can feel blissful even in the midst of chaos. Once you have incorporated a few simple techniques, you will be able to look back and say shew, we made it!!! And had fun while we were doing it!!!

No matter what ‘Be Happy’!!!!!!! If it makes you happy do more of it. Find time to laugh, enjoy. Yes, sometimes you will be presented with a not so good feeling situation. But do not sweat it!!! 

God Bless

Livelove!!!!!!

Fear? Worry? Anger and Resentment? 

I love you! Those three words can carry an emotional attachment that creates fear and worry depending on how you feel. Yes, I am continuing to discuss ways to feel your way to happiness.

What about finding the love of my life? I want to have love! I want to love and be loved! How can I have that? This may appear to be too simple. However, the few steps I am about to explain are simple and follow the same guidelines as the Universal Law Like Begets Like. 

Step one: stop wallowing with the pigs!!! Meaning we all know he or she hurt you and they are crazy and you are damaged and and and and!!! How many times have you told the story? Each time you tell the story it continues to create and recreate the negative emotion and feeling. All people have a toxic person float in and hopefully out of their lives. The difference is when you are living in the now and making decisions based on the emotional attachment of the outcome; you will choose the easiest, funnest, most peaceful route naturally. But, your so focused on what has been you continue to stay at that low frequency. Which is why I say stop wallowing with the pigs.

Step two: Take time to fall in love with you! I know most have heard you can only love someone as much as you love yourself. My daughter,Nancy, said, “It depends on how broken you are when entering the relationship. You must mend first before you can be in a healthy relationship!” 

Find what you love about you and focus on those items! The things you don’t like about yourself will begin to improve because you continue to focus on your strengths.

Step Three: Create the relationship you want in your mind. How does your partner treat you? See it, feel it visualize and believe it. I promise they will come into your life. If you will feel it. Also accept that you are worthy of love. You are loveable!!!! You deserve a kind, caring, loving partner because that is the KIND of partner you are.

Step Four: if you do not feel love for yourself re-evaluate take time to learn what you love about yourself and focus on that. Tell your concious mind to hush if it begins to throw negative what If’s at you. (Remember that is the job of the concious mind, it is to protect you by retrieving information from your paradigm. Therefore, understand you must continually tell it nooo this time is different because I am different. I am not that past lack of confidence sad disturbed hated life person anymore!! But I thank you for always trying to protect me) then proceed forward with your love for you and in a brief amount of time your partner will appear. They will compliment you and it will be exactly how you visualized it! 

Create your own reality!! Speak about the exciting events unfolding in your life. Choose to live and feel your way to happiness! 

God Bless You!! 

Livelove 

Thoughts on living…

Do you ever sit and ponder? What was, is, could have been, or could be? If only I had made this move or said that, then all would be just perfect! Or doubt your past decisions? Maybe if I would have…or could have…

Do you know what? Nothing I just typed is worth your time! Why you ask? Because the should, could, and would be’s are has beens. Meaning no matter what you do or say, you can’t bring them back. Oh if you choose you can continue to attract similar situations but truly: that should of time, you could have decided and if you did your life would have been perfect! Is not possible again! 

Bare with me I know that was a bit of a twister, but read carefully!!!! No matter how rich, powerful, mean, whatever you think you are you, nor anyone, else can bring back the past and change it. It is just the past. Therefore, it’s time for you to begin enjoying the present and the future. Say it out loud!!! I am so excited to be teaching the world new skills to ‘be’ whatever they want to be. People continuously thank me for providing them with a ‘second chance.’

I don’t care what you are happy about say it outloud. Say it in the mirror. You can be flat broke and I want you to go in the mirror, right now, and say, “Mmmm this food is delicious. (Smile real big) I am so glad to see you at my BBQ eating the food I provided.”

 Then chuckle and look ‘you’ straight in the eye and say, I had such a good year financially I wanted to share with all of you. Thank you for everything!” 

Make up your own scenario. Just make it up so you smile and maybe even laugh! 

Yes, learning from the past is important, but sometimes carrying that old load and sorting through which part to learn from can overtake the meaning of living! Enjoy the moment, plan & visualize your future no matter how near or far it may be to you! 

Remember God Loves You No Matter What! Live to be happy!