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When you wake up feeling sad…It is usually because you are focusing on yesterday, instead of what you CAN change…today

What the heck are you? Are you a writer? Speaker? Coach, Author, Educator, or Entertainer? What the heck are you? 

After my last speech at Toastmasters in KC, these and many more questions filled my brain. After someone asked the above questions and, “What are your plans, next?” 

I spent the last 24 hours with a sense of sadness as I allowed myself to reminisce through the past. Did I say something wrong? Maybe I am too much? What am I? Who am I?  What if I can’t make it? What if? Why? Maybe I am not good enough?

NEXT…I woke up this morning allowing the same questions to pound through my head like a bull in a china shop! WHAT AM I DOING? You see I was focusing on what had already been done. 

Finally, I found my manuscript from a coaching session of an elementary student! In the very beginning, I taught her how to find and use a ‘Happy Word’. Then I explained that as long as she was focusing on what she CAN CHANGE and not the past, everything would be fine. For example: She had failed a spelling test and was extremely upset with herself for not studying. I redirected her attention to the fact that the only thing she can change is the next spelling test. Unless of course the teacher would let her re-take the last exam. 

Day after day we would discuss why she was sad or angry. Each time it was something she had already done and couldn’t take back. 

Do you do this? I do! If I allow myself to become engrossed in the past. I become sick to my stomach, don’t eat, and wallow in self pitty. But the truth is you or myself, cannot redo yesterday, we can only improve today. 

My answer to all the questions are YES! I am a writer, speaker, coach, published author, educator, entertainer and…much more.

Just like you, I must feel down on occasion to enjoy the up moments. 

If you are feeling sad, depressed, frustrated or angry today…allow your brain to feel the emotions long enough to remind you, this is NOT THE WAY YOU WANT TO FEEL! 

Now, take your smile back. Find your many titles and wear them with pride. I know it isn’t always easy to let go of the past. Or to forgive those who irritated you. However, I promise if you will hold on…one more minute…find a happy thought and reset your vibration. 

Some ideas on how to quickly reset:

  1. Find your happy word
  2. Play uplifting music
  3. Do the twist in your living room
  4. Jump up and down
  5. Cry, but only for a little while
  6. Ask one friend to remind you of something you have done GOOD! 
  7. Write your life resume
  8. Excercise
  9. Kiss your lover like it could be your last
  10. Or just say happy words until you reset your vibration

Last time I checked no one is perfect. I know I am not, but our imperfections mold us and allow our talents to be illuminated! 

Sometimes giving up feels like it would be easier. But I promise even that phase or process of giving up hurts worse than a reset. So I beg of you if you are reading this post…right now…please know:

YOU ARE WONDERFUL JUST THE WAY YOU ARE! YOU HAVE GIFTS TO SHARE WITH THE WORLD! YOU ARE WORTHY OF BEING LOVED! YOU ARE WORTHY OF BEING HAPPY. FEEL HOW AWESOME YOU ALREADY ARE AND KEEP ON ADDING TITLES TO YOUR LIFE WITH PRIDE. 

Happy Coaching- Livelove.teena@gmail.com

Livelove

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Carry On

Written by: Teena Drake

 

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Momma said, “There will be days like this!”

Have you ever began your morning with full intentions of waking up and enjoying each moment of the day? Woke up bright eyed and bushy tailed? Only to walk out the door, slam your ankle in the screen door, have multiple phone calls with someone needing something from you, your special dinner is a disaster and you realize the bills are piling up? 

Of course you have! Everyone could make a list of what IS happening at that moment. If you are reading this right now you can probably create a long list of daily events or circumstances that irritate you. 

The truth is your momma or a loved one told you there would be days like this. However, you can reset, not necessarily redo. I know I would not want to redo those days or moments. Therefore, a reset is important. 

How? Most of the time it is simple. At the moment the irritating thoughts or events begin to say, “I am grateful for….” 

Keep saying and listing all the items, people, places and experiences (outloud) in which you are grateful for. 

Yesterday, I had one of those days. Where it seemed like each time I tried, someone or something would irritate the crap out of me. I would have mini blow ups of emotion. At one point in the day I was expressing my opinion and the next I was crying. I continually attempted to reset. It didn’t ‘appear’ to be working. My mind would run from thought to thought trying to recover my feel good, happy, understanding enthusiastic state. I began to fear everything I had been writing or studying was not real. 

Then it happened! You know when it happens you just know like you know!?

I know that seems silly to type, but it is true. Once you have experienced it you simply know! 

In between my mini melt downs of emotios (which were random) I would talk outloud throughout the house. “I am grateful for my farm, the sunshine, my health, my happiness,” sometimes yelling each statement.

My vibration would get a little better. I pushed and pushed the reset button multiple times. “I am grateful for…”

After a few hours and multiple irritating events it finally broke thru! Around 4 o’clock I had one of my adopted kiddos bring her dog to meet me. I was super excited to meet him. We chatted (yes the dog and I were instant friends), played with his ball, showed off a bit and then he decided to walk in my kitchen and hike his leg, only to mark his territory, of course. When I looked down it appeared to be a river of urine. Next he went to another spot, where he chose to proceed with what he only feels natural to do. As Jordan was running around trying to help me clean up pee it happened. That thing that I do, when my vibrational reset finally kicks in. I began laughing, I hugged my new friend and relaxed. 

You see, yesterday was a day of celebration and it was a struggle to enjoy the happy vibration. I began with 630 AM wake up call, went to grocery (had several events occur), came home to attempt to cook my dad’s 60th birthday dinner. His favorites: Lasagna, garlic toast, coconut cream pie and wine.

It appeared to be falling apart. I kept forgetting what I needed for the meal, Ashby and her friend were here (which made me feel torn because I wanted to hang with them), Nick needed college stuff, you understand! 

That’s when it happened. Directly before Dad and Susan showed up I felt my vibrations reset. I felt more light hearted, I was grateful, and it turned into an evening I will cherish forever! 

Reset as many times as needed. Sometimes it takes a little bit of persistance, but you are worth it. If you are feeling down or see the world as gloom and doom, begin right now! Say it outloud…I am grateful for…say it again…I am grateful for…and again and again. Until the vibration shifts. It will, it has to, it is the law. 

Please if this blog helps you share it, tell people about it. My happiest desire is to help you and others to find YOUR HAPPINESS. Not what I think would make you happy. Rather, what creates that ‘feel good’ emotion for YOU. 

This picture is of my daddy with his birthday pie! His smile warms my heart and was the greatest contributing factor for my reset! I love you and I am grateful for you.
Feel Good Today! 

God Loves You No Matter What; Love is there for you.

Livelove

Sunday thoughts…

If you have been reading my blog you will know I am on a magnificent journey and I want to share it with you…so come along and enjoy with me! 

As I laid in bed this morning I continually received a message to write about the down moments or the not so happy thoughts. Which I don’t like to do very much. However, it is a portion of life we all deal with just some more than others, so here it goes. 

4:00 A.M. eyes pop open brain is racing, get up go to the restroom and go back to bed. Sound familiar? Only to close your eyes tightly and beg to go back to sleep! That’s what happened to me this morning. I would toss and turn, cover up only to strip off the blankets slowly almost like a form of bedtime excercise. Finally, I laid as still as possible to keep from waking up my husband. BAM! then it began! 

What began? You ask? The flood! A flooding of thoughts, emotions, past scenarios, negative events, sadness, hopelessness, fear, anxiety, criticism the list could continue. As I write about it my chest feels heavy, my palms become sweaty, my neck hurts. I search my paradigm (past people, places, events that make up me) for a good connection, feeling or frequency. Anything to counteract this moment or feeling. Why did I have this moment? If things are so wonderful and my life is magnificent, why would I spend the most important time of my day feeling yuk? 

To be quite honest it is part of life!! I am sure at this moment you are saying, “Thanks Teena! I already knew life sucked why did you need to remind me?” 

Those moments are inevitable to life because it’s a frequency. What goes up must come down. Meaning everyone will have moments of struggle or what I like to call trough of the frequency. The one big difference is how long you stay in that state. Bare with me this ending is phenomenal! 

Let me give you an example: after a beautiful vacation you come back refreshed and ready to go. Then Monday morning comes and you don’t feel quite so inspired that is normal. If you love your career and life this low feeling or sadness will pass quickly it’s just you were so happy and relaxed for that amount of time the routine is difficult get back. However, in a few short minutes (if you are happy) those feelings quickly flee. 

Notice I continually said if you are happy, if you are on the right path. If you are not then those sad thoughts, feelings, frustrations, which will creep in for fleeting moments for everyone, will not be fleeting, but rather they will stay! 

I know you don’t want that and I don’t like those feelings so now it’s time to reset! How? Change it, in your mind. Now at first this isn’t easy, but once you make it a habit it becomes fun. 

Step one listen for a minute to the conscious mind. For example: this morning my mind would say what if they criticize your writings/teachings, what if they don’t like you, what if you are a flop, what about an unnamed person, who I spoke with last night, took offense to the message I gave her. By the time I began playing my game to erase these thoughts I could have cried. I was sad, worried, frustrated and feeling quite disgusting/ fearful. 

Now it’s time to come back! If your mind says what if? Say in your mind well what if and fill in the blank. Example: what if you never get on Jimmy Falon? My mind says: What if I do and I hug him, all the Roots Band, his announcer (can’t think of his name) and blow big kisses out to crowd!! 

Okay I know that was my come back, but it was fun and I know you could see it. I have a big smile on my face from just writing it. But you get the idea. I usually don’t even let those what If’s continue but today I did for a little longer to help you. The funny thing is my end result was amazing! 

Anything, negative your conscions mind tells you, stop it!!! Yes argue with it. Yes bad things have happened in your life, yes you have suffered, yes someone has said mean things to you, but do you enjoy that feeling or what I call is a replay, like watching a rerun over and over again, thinking that it’s being filmed the same way each time. Create the feeling of joy, argue until it becomes fun, don’t fight just reset! Idc what it is you want to have, do, or be!! You can have it! It’s not that I don’t live ‘real’ life I live just like everyone else, I feel those emotions in the valley, the only difference is my life is on such a high frequency that I choose to only be in the valley for short moments, to remember how awesome life really is! 

Take time today to stop the negative thoughts, experience them but then shut them down. Talk to yourself, create the image you desire! God Bless and never forget you are a gift!