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When you wake up feeling sad…It is usually because you are focusing on yesterday, instead of what you CAN change…today

What the heck are you? Are you a writer? Speaker? Coach, Author, Educator, or Entertainer? What the heck are you? 

After my last speech at Toastmasters in KC, these and many more questions filled my brain. After someone asked the above questions and, “What are your plans, next?” 

I spent the last 24 hours with a sense of sadness as I allowed myself to reminisce through the past. Did I say something wrong? Maybe I am too much? What am I? Who am I?  What if I can’t make it? What if? Why? Maybe I am not good enough?

NEXT…I woke up this morning allowing the same questions to pound through my head like a bull in a china shop! WHAT AM I DOING? You see I was focusing on what had already been done. 

Finally, I found my manuscript from a coaching session of an elementary student! In the very beginning, I taught her how to find and use a ‘Happy Word’. Then I explained that as long as she was focusing on what she CAN CHANGE and not the past, everything would be fine. For example: She had failed a spelling test and was extremely upset with herself for not studying. I redirected her attention to the fact that the only thing she can change is the next spelling test. Unless of course the teacher would let her re-take the last exam. 

Day after day we would discuss why she was sad or angry. Each time it was something she had already done and couldn’t take back. 

Do you do this? I do! If I allow myself to become engrossed in the past. I become sick to my stomach, don’t eat, and wallow in self pitty. But the truth is you or myself, cannot redo yesterday, we can only improve today. 

My answer to all the questions are YES! I am a writer, speaker, coach, published author, educator, entertainer and…much more.

Just like you, I must feel down on occasion to enjoy the up moments. 

If you are feeling sad, depressed, frustrated or angry today…allow your brain to feel the emotions long enough to remind you, this is NOT THE WAY YOU WANT TO FEEL! 

Now, take your smile back. Find your many titles and wear them with pride. I know it isn’t always easy to let go of the past. Or to forgive those who irritated you. However, I promise if you will hold on…one more minute…find a happy thought and reset your vibration. 

Some ideas on how to quickly reset:

  1. Find your happy word
  2. Play uplifting music
  3. Do the twist in your living room
  4. Jump up and down
  5. Cry, but only for a little while
  6. Ask one friend to remind you of something you have done GOOD! 
  7. Write your life resume
  8. Excercise
  9. Kiss your lover like it could be your last
  10. Or just say happy words until you reset your vibration

Last time I checked no one is perfect. I know I am not, but our imperfections mold us and allow our talents to be illuminated! 

Sometimes giving up feels like it would be easier. But I promise even that phase or process of giving up hurts worse than a reset. So I beg of you if you are reading this post…right now…please know:

YOU ARE WONDERFUL JUST THE WAY YOU ARE! YOU HAVE GIFTS TO SHARE WITH THE WORLD! YOU ARE WORTHY OF BEING LOVED! YOU ARE WORTHY OF BEING HAPPY. FEEL HOW AWESOME YOU ALREADY ARE AND KEEP ON ADDING TITLES TO YOUR LIFE WITH PRIDE. 

Happy Coaching- Livelove.teena@gmail.com

Livelove

&

Carry On

Written by: Teena Drake

 

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Don’t I wish, I could give up!!

As my beautiful, peaceful paradise vacation winds down to a aloha, I begin to plan and prepare for the next steps I must take. Mom, asked me yesterday,”Teena don’t you think we should advertise for December 8th?”

(Just because I act like this Hawaiian Monk Seal sometimes, I am just resting to soak up the sun and build strength, Mom and Debbie lol)

As I listened to her ask questions, I paused to feel her emotional attachment. I could hear her worried undertone. Moms know the sound! The sound of worry or fear your child is going to be disappointed or hurt. That sound of not disappointment, but rather a sense of urgency.

Therefore, let me rest your mind at ease (mom) and everyone else who is worried. December 8th is kind of like a pre-celebration! Yes it is a real Livelove celebration. Anyone who attends will receive gifts and be a member/a part of the evovlment of Livelove.org. you will receive emails from time to time requesting your opinion or choice for the company.

Plus, its for you! You will have fun and have a multitude of opportunities to learn something new about living ‘happy.’ However, I don’t care if 10, 20 or 70 show up December 8th. Of course I would LOVE to have the place packed, but not for me, for you.

Why did you write this, Teena? Because my family (who cares so dearly about me), business partners (who continue to try to promote me and I may be easy to work with, but a bit frustrating at times, as well), and for those who really want to come, but aren’t sure quite why, need to know something…

Shew…yes, I sometimes contemplate giving up, walking away and never looking back. No my depressed friends, I am not depressed, so you don’t have to read on for words of wisdom, today.

YES, I consider giving up on my ‘mission.’ But I can not!!!

Nooooo! If December 8th doesn’t go as well as planned, I am not giving up. To be honest, I can’t and as I write I realize I wouldn’t want to!

You might ask why I can’t? Of course my hands are not tied or I am not forced, but I love my life now! I love my inner peace, happiness, joy and continual growth. And…I truly believe that during my accident I was given a message for all to hear. Similar to a preacher, but I would not want that responsibility. You see, I feel that if I don’t share it I will not be allowed to keep this feel good life. Maybe I would forget, maybe I would go backwards. I don’t care I just know I want to continue on, enjoying my life.

Therefore, I am not giving up, quitting or any of the above. Some days might be better than others and I might choose a NAP over a stressful situation, but moving forward I will continue to do.

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Be happy, enjoy, and…

Livelove & Carryon!