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More recent Thanksgiving Past…

As most of you know Eric and I went to Hawaii to see mom and dad as well as, celebrate our twenty fifth anniversary. What you may not know is it was their forty ninth Wedding Anniversary on November 2nd! It was awesome. Therefore, Eric and I, took them out to eat for a special dining experience, on the ocean to celebrate.

Betty and I got all dressed up in our aloha dresses, adorned our beautiful outfits with Jewlry, by none other than Beautiful Bling by Betty. We were the cats meow!

As we drove up to the restaurant the torches were lit and the dancing fire illuminated the walk way, to a ambiance for love and romance. Ocean breeze, family and friends. Both our heads were spinning. Stop! Selfie time. I took a group photo with my handy dandy selfie stick. I really think we were floating on a cloud of happy emotions, to the extreme that we began reminiscing about times past, that we were all together and how wonderful it was.

Now let me stop right here! Don’t take me the wrong way, we all had a wonderful, fabulous, delicious dinner that night on November 2nd, 2017. But read on and see if you can see why I blame the ‘ambiance’ of this romantic evening on the stupidity, Betty and myself were about to begin and continue.

As we told our friends, who were joining us, about the different family gathering memories, we had. Everyone could feel the flucuations of happiness then the wave of, just a smidge, of sadness. (Not because we were unhappy now, but sometimes it is sad when so many traditions have changed).

That’s when it happened. I had one martini and I don’t know which one of us spoke up first, but one of, Betty or I, said, “We should have an old fashion Thanksgiving dinner. Mmmm all that good food, Uncle Ben’s Wild Rice, gravy, broccoli casserole. That is it.! Let’s do it!”

We both so eagerly shook our heads in an accepting manner of how ‘good’ of girls and wives, as we truly are! Almost as if all of the grand things we have done for our families, came down to the most memorable times.

The guys attempted to talk us out of this grandious, hair brain scheme of ours. But no, no they weren’t talking us out of it! We were sure this would be a fun time and we were jumping in with both feet first!

As the days and nights went by, we were busy, busy. Hoola class, beach hoping and bike riding. Shopping and enjoying each other’s company. Until, Dum Diddy dum!!!! (Drum roll please) The day for Thanksgiving Dinner had arrived! Gosh has it already been two weeks? Naaaaa surely not!

The best way I can explain the affects of Hawaii is; every inch of your body is JELLO. Worries cross your mind, but flee as quick as they enter. If one thing I know, for sure, is going backwards to ‘The Good Ole Days’ isn’t as much fun as soaking up the sun in our ‘BEST’ days!

At least I felt like that. I was unsure if Betty felt like this so, I rolled out of bed and began to create a list. The entire time I was writing I would write a dish and then write beside it a label…difficult or simple. Which meant I was already back pedaling from all of this ‘traditional’ crud. Yes, it was fun, but it was a great deal of work, especially for Betty and I because we had always been the two who seemed to expect ourselves, to work alot, to please as many as possible.

Now don’t get me wrong, we have always enjoyed our families and have both taken pride in our efforts to open our homes and demonstrate loving hospitality. (Of course she is better at being more hospitable than me, but she is a better cook too, so who cares, I love and accept myself lol).

However, at this point I was pretty sure we were both over the ‘Old Fashion’ Thanksgiving dinner. When she saw my list she began to laugh and laugh. She was like this is alot of work isn’t it?

Many funny epiphanies came to me, during my process, of getting ready and I shared them with Ray and Eric. Both men quickly reminded me,”We tried to talk you both out of this! But nooooo you insisted!”

I stood there similar to a statue, listening to everyone’s chatter. How true were their claims? In all actuality , extremely true! Brutally, honestly, TRUE!

We had done this to ourselves!

Now let me wrap up the story part, before I bring it to full circle!

We had the best visit with mom and dad than ever before. We both truly enjoyed being in their presence and in paradise. Betty and I cooked a Thanksgiving meal ‘traditional’ Drake’s style!

Of course, I assisted, but my dishes fell under the simple or some even bought category. However, we pulled it off! It was the most mouth watering, delicious, fabulous, exquisite meal I have had in quite sometime.

I am grateful for the entire vacation and will cherish the sweet memories throughout our visit.

However, I learned some valuable lessons from the entire dinner ordeal. I feel it’s best to bullet them…

  • You don’t always have to relive a tradition to enjoy the memory.
  • When you are feeling stressed about something almost like a regret, talk to that person, be honest. You never know they may feel the same way.
  • Sometimes what we think makes other people happy, is not real, ask them if it is something they feel emotional about. For example: our husbands could have cared less, what we cooked, they were grateful we cooked at all.
  • When looking back at a memory and it feels all warm and fuzzy enjoy it, but ensure before you say you want to relive it, you remember the entire story.
  • For example: I love my children so much and I must say I enjoyed raising them, but to say I would want to relive it would be ludicrous.
  • Although we were resistant the day of, we readjusted and shopped one day and cooked the next. Allow yourself readjustment time. If it is a bad time in your life pause and allow yourself to rethink and readjust, how you feel. (No this wasn’t a bad time in our life. It was actually funny how great of a time it truly was, but this works if you are having a worse time, than we were).
  • Feel it? Feel just how you feel right now. If you don’t like this feeling, then ask yourself, how do I want to feel?
  • What will bring you closer to that?

Thank you for reading this posting.

I am truly grateful for you! Wish you the best.

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Carryon

Written by: Momma Teena

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As we gather more and more information, to provide you with a solid answer on what Livelove truly is and how you can benefit; I have to pause my thoughts/emotions/feelings! I know that sounds weird, but it’s true. The past two weeks actually, the more I meditate, I have to say the last 45 (Almost 46) years have been fabulous! However, since we are living in the now I will say the last two weeks have been out of this world!

You see Livelove was created many years ago and it has been building for many years. Therefore, to narrow it down to a website, that grabs your attention, can become quite difficult.

That is why this moment of knowing, feeling, caring what your opinion is, of our new/not really, company is daunting. It’s not bad nor good, it’s just like will my vision finally come to fruition? Will my message that was given to me by divine appointment and wraps my entire life’s experience into one title, be the right one? Will people understand me? Will I help the world learn how to be or find their own happiness in all situations?

Yet, many of my closest friends always say, “Yes, you can!”

Then I think Teena why do you care!!! You are happy, everything is going your way, let it go! You aren’t helping anyone anyways!

And the battle between strong belief in our new company and subconscious begins. It goes round and round. The what ifs take over, I place scenario after scenario in my mind. Right before I stop myself is when I realize I don’t want any of those negative feelings or thoughts. I am okay…you see I created a vision that was not real, added some negative thoughts from my paradigm, solidified it and ALMOST began to act it out or, in many people’s terms, brought it into my ‘reality.’

The truth is you have to see it in your mind to have it, both negative and/or positive.

Livelove… (I have to add LLC but the title without it is what our company is about, the extra three letters is becuase of silly legalities which I am not a fan of, but it is a must).

Livelove is what you want it to be! Yes, our business is legal, productive and can help anyone, business or organizations to find their happiness, YOUR WAY! You will be able to purchase a class, a motivational speaker, a few products and a program. However, Livelove is much more than a product or a service business!

It is a message! A message of LIFE! it is YOUR MESSAGE!!!!

It is a way for anyone to be happy for the rest of their days on earth! Don’t get me wrong I have down, distracting, contrasting (@Abraham-Hicks) days or moments.

For example:

Yesterday, I drove ten hours, beautiful day, nice ride, great people to talk to, music was fabulous! Butt, everything irritated me!!! I ‘normally’ feel uplifted on my rides. I write inspirational material, sing at the top of my lungs and dance like I am crazy!!!!

Not yesterday!!! I was mean and nasty. A lady tried to pass me in the right lane and I was like oh no you don’t, I don’t play those games, biotch!!!! It was like that off and on all day!

Then when I meditated this morning on my description of Livelove I realized…Do I have confidence in myself to boldly say You, can help change the world or at least those who want to ‘BE HAPPY’ for the rest of their days?

I mean really! Teena, you just cut off a probably, nice lady driving down the interstate! You talked to yourself, you prayed, you cried! Basically, you were a mess!! What makes you think anyone is going to listen or if you can help!!! (Like I said, I was in ‘what if’ mode, all day and negatively I might add). It’s the recognition and how I handled it, is what Livelove is all about.

Livelove is a gift! It’s a message and my vision is someday, it will carry on.

Therefore, as my business manager, media consultant and personal executive continue to be patient with me, as well as my family, all I ask of you is to do the same. I know it may seem silly to ask random readers, Business Executives (waiting eagerly to hire us), and others who are in need of ‘Happy Class’ or coaching please, send me positive vibes and much love and KNOW when this introductory is complete you will have access to a message that has been created to withstand time and will continue to evolve into the beautiful vision it was created from!

The end result will be a semi colon, not to steal that from suicide awareness, but rather to combine with it and do just that pause and carry on!

God Bless

Livelove

Livelove.teena@gmail.com

Did you hear? Oh wow if not let me tell you about it…

How many times have you been sitting around with friends and family and hear the words did you hear about…? I have decided mine is daily. The stories are improving each day, but when I first began this journey it was almost too much. Why? Because it was either gossip, politics, or news! I thought, I am not sure I can do this, but I can and will. I am sure you are asking do what? I have been given an amazing glimpse of how life really is or can be for you to fulfill your wildest dreams/ journey. However, with this amazing new quest is a learning curve. Not in a bad way just an awareness way. For example: a new pair of underwear is always a bit confining in the beginning, The underwear might be uncomfortable the first few times you wear them, but after a few washings they eventually become your favorite pair. Same with this new way of living. It feels uncomfortable at first but the end result will be living the way you want and you will not want to ever go back or accept anything less than amazing! 

How do you divert the negative of the world? How do you stop the negative statements that may follow, “Hey, did you hear….?” 

You begin by listening. It’s not that you have to dispute everything that someone says or climb on your soap box and tell them everything they are doing wrong. (I know you are excited and you want to share it with the world, but hold on my friend). Stop and truly listen to their message to you. Then in your brain send positive thoughts and energy to them and the sad situation for a moment (if you pray then now is the time to implement those prayers for those people who are telling the story and who is the center of the story). 

First you are listening to remind yourself that you are of the living/ physical world and second to acknowledge what you are allowing to enter your brain each day. If it is gossip about someone else that is harmful, think and you can even say, “I am not interested in hearing about other people. I only want to hear about you and how awesome you are.”

This stops it in its tracks! You never have to be mean or condescending. Your friends will begin to understand and adjust. I realize all the millionaire gurus say in order to be successful in money you must change your friend group. If you want be a millionaire look at the people around you because birds of a feather flock together. However, this is not the case in my message. I mean truly I want to be a millionaire, I want to travel, live the wildest adventure ever. But if I were to be honest without the people I love and care about my life wouldnt be better. Therefore, I choose to keep my friends and create the life I desire with them. No they may not have my same desires and they may or may not be the richest in monetary standards, but I love them and they love me. So when you watch your next webinar about ‘how to be a millionaire or be…. fill in the blank, omit that you must change all the people who are around you (yes, it’s in many motivational lessons). 

All you need to do is add to!!!! Add to your circle of friends. Those who bring you the did you hear…? Question and have for many years, will adjust to your new life if they so choose. I promise it’s contagious and fun. 

If someone begins to tell you about the news, practice the same technique. Listen once then take a split second and feel the fear, sadness, or whatever emotion then say, to yourself and or the messenger,”I am so sorry for them or I am sorry that happened.”

Send the positive vibes, energy or prayer whichever you choose and change the subject. Then move on, tell them something hilarious you saw or heard. It’s okay to be happy!!! This doesn’t need to be an entire ritual where you light candles, begin to hum and go into solitude for a week to adjust. It’s quick, easy and pain free. Take the time to listen, divert and bring on the laughter. 

Remember if birds of a feather flock together it is only due to comfort zones and ego. Therefore, trust yourself. It’s kind of difficult to live a blissful life worrying about all the bad stuff around you. If something you hear really impacts you, seek out ways to help. Otherwise begin to eliminate the did you hear question from your life and live on.

Never forget you are loved! Sending you hugs, kisses, rainbows and lollipops. Enjoy!!!!!!!

 

If you know of someone struggling….

Hello let me introduce myself my name is love, pink, joyful, laughter, fun, accepting, free-spirited, sensual, kind, caring, understanding, insightful, focused, millionaire, educator, magnificent, dynamic, sparkly, diamond lover, debater, healthy, swimmer, who loves others and wants them to come along and take this ‘HAPPY’ adventure with me! My name is Teena Drake, my game is living life as HAPPY as possible.

Wow! Brag much Teena? Nope I don’t have to brag this is how people have described me and the adjectives I have chosen to identify my life with. You see my entire life has been altered for the better of me, but the most exciting part is for the betterment of you too!

You might be puzzled, but allow me to take a couple of pieces of this puzzle and show you a glimpse of the possibilities. I am so excited right now I can barely type! I keep walking away saying don’t do this! It’s to scary to tell the world what you have learned! But if I keep it a secret well I can’t keep this feeling or life! Which puts me in a pickle! Therefore, I am busting out!!!! So if you are ready to see who you are and find that ‘HAPPY’ place you have been longing for follow me on this adventure…as I reveal a lifetime of learning, but let’s begin with what I have learned since December 8th, 2016. The event, the blessing, that had to happen for me to have received such a wonderful gift for the world – that can seem gloomy and sad. It’s a gift full of joy, happiness, adventure or just a hike in solitude the world is a beautiful place as long as you are happy!

First Assignment:  1, Write your name  2. Write all the adjectives or activities, that make up you (NOT OTHER PEOPLE) 3. Now ask by text or email so they can think about it, how some of your friends, family members, or acquaintances would describe you. (The third step came from Jack Cannefield’s writing). 4. Read all of them and delete any you do not like and own the ones you love. 5. Anything you would like to share about this first step to ‘Being’ ‘Happy’ tag me so I can read it and share! I look forward to reading about the amazing YOU!

When I began this process I was unsure how other people would describe me, but some of the things I said about myself were not nice. If you come up with a similar scenario and you are saying negative things about yourself, even if you won’t write it you are thinking it continuously, STOP! I know it’s not that easy trust me, but I promise I can help you. Mmmm I take that back I can’t help you, but I can provide you with the tools to help yourself.

I hope you have a beautiful weekend and remember God Loves You No Matter What!

Please! Please!Please, Share all of my post if you are struggling or know of someone else struggling with this game of ‘Life!’ Why? You ask? Because I have been given a gift that if, I want to keep, I must share it with as many people possible. Therefore, I am asking that you tell your friends and family to follow me on WordPress, Facebook-Teena Drake, Twitter-Livelove pinkologist@TeenaDrake, Instagram- live_love_pinkologist and you tube. When I begin to video this series I will let you know so you can subscribe to Livelove Pinkologist. (Or you can subscribe anyways). Thank you and God Bless Each of You and may you BE HAPPY!